The sweetness of a new year with Rabbi Shloime Ehrlich

What would you say something how to approach it? >> Let's talk about I think that English I think also it's first language mention a certain perspective of guilt. I see the way they spend it. I try to teach them if perspective often as adults redone pictures. Yeah, >> you know we have to redo a human being. So we have to redo Fore so perspective only adults can handle him a client is black or white. >> So gray area. Yeah. >> The older we have, we we become >> right. This is do not do it, you know. Wow. So the gray area is the gray area. >> So let's talk about such a beautiful counselor by the way. very very I never even thought about it that way when it comes to an adult like I often tell you know I say you know my very well you used to say and I don't even go into what he said but it was just the concept like for like there were certain things you okay you're going out of the ordinary because you're an adult and you know what to do with the decision is and I think it's so powerful what you said certain adults child >> mostly black and white they don't they can't use their judgment certain beliefs anything young perspective as as a young teenager as a little child >> right >> and added on to this uh But when you get older, you only have to work in like do what's right because it's right. Do >> you have to tell do what it's right because if not you're going to get punished. >> Yeah. >> But we get older commentary. And I realized punishment. >> It doesn't say anything about punishment, punishment, consequences. Wow. Drunk drunk in the wrong, right? >> If you drink in the wrong time, you're going to end up in >> But what I learned more and more is that the is of consequence consequence. Exactly. >> So, so the beginning celebrated celebrate. Yeah. [Music] We love his loves renewal. inspiration. So the beginning yeah it's like I don't want to bring along it's like into perspective I lost the word. >> Yeah. So that's not doing it again. I'm going to I'm going to this time I'm going to do more. That's the whole idea. It's not about that much about >> mind. It's more about before you start the new year. >> Yeah. H you reflect kick sick. He's like let's what am I doing? >> It's such a beautiful time. >> Yeah. No, I'm thinking to myself, I was looking back at my own Google photos and I saw the place where I was a year ago. Like you said, it's such a beautiful time to see where I was. Like my company was in half. My the my relationships were were a mess. The my health everything. Yeah. Personal growth. I was in such a different place. So, yeah, it's so beautiful to be able to look back. Correct. And I feel like you want to throw away a gift. >> Yeah. >> Now, let's look into the >> Okay. Yeah. Mhm. Tomahawk stakes. Yeah. Right. We'll talk about >> that's dedicated. [Music] Wow. of the family. Let alone Yeah. But there was still a sweetness in. Yeah, >> it was such a beautiful time. Right. But when you say it, I I think to myself, but they also finish 4:00. By the time you get home, it's 4:30. You don't have a day. >> It sounds like two youngers connected. But I want to say this Yeah. >> No, I'm saying it makes sense. I'm not I'm not Yeah, it makes sense that the whole day and you don't even have time to focus of the past and on future don't [Music] Yeah. Dry lines. Yeah. seconds. Mhm. It's the newcomers in the freezer in the fridge. Right. >> You have to think what you're doing with the generation. Mhm. I'm not saying but I had I had a trauma. >> Wow. >> I had trauma again and to give them over analysis. You're you're you're doing a lot of damage. >> Wow. >> Yes. But the ultimate ultimate goal for >> is to celebrate So we celebrate celebrate the beautiful do flowers with orchids with bees with beautiful music with pleasures and colors and with the say thank you Hashem >> for giving and we divine design, right? >> I love it. >> Yeah. He wants me to to grow in. He wants me to enjoy the the belt. taste spices. >> Oh wow. Interesting spices. >> Did you enjoy it? >> Wow. >> So that's what we need to reflect like opportunity just you start realizing that is the most awesome amazing >> I love that um daily affirmations is my first thing that I say is I'm happy and grateful now that I wake up daily living life to my full potential >> and that's really how I want live every day >> and add one word. Thank you for that. >> Yeah, I add a lot of words. I'm saying this is one of the like when I do my morning walk. >> Mhm. like the 1500s, 1520s. Yeah. Universally accepted. But I think to these words most of the days as much as I can. And then I add other words always. >> Yeah. Funny because I literally do the same. >> Yeah, you do the same. >> I have a before I go to bed, I I thank for small things. Basically, I learned this in psychology. You want to put your brain to find the little things. So, thank you for the green light and thank you for the and just basically teaching my brain to find little things. And then in the morning when basically when the stress hormone testosterone is very high I try to find the bigger things to thank. Thank you as healthy. Thank you that I have a business that I have a life relationship whatever. Um the the last question in regards to is from a coaching perspective. We we spoke about the spiritual perspective but from a coaching perspective how should he measure his year? nish and then how should she should he go about he or she about New Year's resolutions and okay so actually how do I actually change my life because a lot of people they're truly stuck they don't even know where to start but they want to take upon themselves a bunch of good things where do they start >> okay I I I want to start with one introduction to the answer. >> Okay. >> Yeah. >> Checks and balances. How is my day? Right. Mhm. Right. Different people. >> Yeah. Wow. >> Wow. >> I don't think people need to make New Year's resolutions of rash. Do it on the go calendar. >> Yeah. >> Okay. January 1st, you make New Year's resolution. Guys, guys join our gym. Rash is not made for that. Rashuna is a time when we think back. Thank you, Hashem. Hm. opportunity opportunity opportunity. Thank you for the How about reflecting on that, >> right? >> How about reflecting on that? That's going to be your biggest drive for the next year. I think >> that nothing drives you more than working and being proud of yourself. I don't want whoever said it as highest levels the happiness that I had every time I had a mitzvah. I think on that we all need to do on >> that we need to reflect on being humble in the wrong place right >> and say yes for them celebrate it instead you could that's yeah yeah is motivating you through positive motivating you through loving yourself and thanking and appreciating and thanking Hashem for giving you the opportunity. I believe that if all of us would do achieve on this of being humble in the wrong place, we're going to have a much higher spiritual and and a physical year next year and we have this in business. >> I can't believe I accomplished so much like you said before. Isn't that going to give you more drive to do more next year? >> 100%. I'm proud to say that I keep a gratitude journal, the highlights of my day. And sometimes I think to myself moment, thank you. I really feel that way. I took it upon myself a year ago and I made the promise to God. I said, you give me a good life, I'll journal about it. Like legit, I think that God if I think if he has one, by the way, that Yeah. Is that true? to because he's good. He wants he wants to do good. >> Wants to do good. >> The only thing he was so to speak missing is giving. He can be the best person. >> Only tested what? >> So if you don't accept that giving, if you don't recognize it, >> oh that Hashem is giving you >> then you're then you're out of his line of if God's giving if you're accepting then you're doing his duty. That's how I see appreciating your surrendering >> and you understand it's coming from him and you understand it's coming from love and you understand and and we all make mistakes and >> and that's yeah >> you're the king. >> Yeah. So beautiful. So I think that accepting and and being able to acknowledge the good will put everybody in a better mood >> and we accept ourselves for for doing the mistakes. >> Yeah. He created the mistakes in us. He created us to be Mistakes mistakes.