Understanding Trauma Bonding: Recognizing Abusive Dynamics

or being sexually abused as a child over many years, your brain craves [snorts] that as normal. >> So, you keep on going back to that. >> Exactly. >> Now, part of the trauma bonding is that the mixed messages that they get from the abuser, which is sometimes they're caring and they're loving, and all of a sudden they violate you, and then you feel like violated, and they come back and they care again. >> Yeah. >> It's like >> Yeah, I think that's abusive relationships in general. >> Yeah. >> Um like the love bombing, you know, saying like >> Yeah. >> Uh oh, I'm so sorry. I'll never do it again, or I really care about you, or I I didn't mean to hurt you. Um or even making them feel guilty, like, you know, I need this, you know. >> And sometimes there's the the the the push and pull. These manipulators, the way they do it is that um they pull back from you.