The Soul of Israel: When Children Hear We Love Them Through Someone Else

[Music] Shalom Aleichem everyone good morning good afternoon good evening wherever you are and whatever you're up to right now you're listening to the soul of Israel this is Ashley Mel Katz and we're on the land of israel common landed his own network and I'm joined once again with I feel like my Isis soul brother I'm it's not doing any justice it's with someone who I'm just thankful in my life have I Jam Regan Bell so good to be here great being together we're broadcasting right now live also on the Facebook feed which is very very fun and good I think it'll yeah I mean if you want to really learn from Excel me you got to see who we're talking to me you know to me it also come into this show every week now right after learning together from the PSS the Rebbe it's like just so hi it's so very very special times Brooklyn we got a we got a great group of guys here that our great group group of women as well as families that want to live with consciousness you know it's been well over 2,000 years since the Jews have just lived a normal life in the land of Israel you know we're in between now the 50th year of celebrating you Rochelle I'm reunification but more importantly we're now entering into the 70th year of Israel's independence in 70 years according to Helen is like a man's life meaning this will be the first time that someone could have been born in the existence of the State of Israel and died in the existence of the State of Israel had a full life never knowing rather was to be a minority a full human life like we haven't lived a normal duis community in the Land of Israel in thousands of years and now we're like rebuilding in the mountains of Utah what it is to build a conscious community it's like unbelievable right here in the mountains of Judah a Judea and incredible so this but what I wanted to talk about briefly today discuss with you with all our listeners and viewers if something that I is very much close to my heart because from the shul from the synagogue where we're broadcasting we have I started a few months ago a parenting class and to me it's been the most personal class of someone who's privileged to be of ABBA for precious girls and into you into so many of our friends that are right now really you know in what we say the parsha we're in the blender we're always constantly trying very hard to be to be connecting to becoming better parents and the classes are not just like it's not just methods of becoming a better parent it's understanding what God had in mind when he created the concept of parenting and looking at it through that these classes are as well available we recap them after Shabbos and it's on my soundcloud page which I'm more than happy to anyone for anyone to come and join us learn there but what I want to do with today's segment through the parish Africa through the portion of the week is look at something else very much with parenting we every year when it comes to this very bizarre and wacky Persia called Parshat Ballack I'm reminded of a Torah that our teacher by David Zeller used to always say every year and he used to quote the Tolna Rebbe the Rebbe of tone of the maggot of Tona becomes most acidic dynasty of Chernobyl and the tone already said you know a posture that has like talking donkeys people trying to curse Israel Amish are living being part of the parsha to the end end end it's such a weird weird function the two main characters of the parsha are bollock and billah and together those two names barack and bilham spell out the words bill bull amok which means deep confusion deep confusion I mean nothing's really changed I like things are really clear now but when you read a party like this it kind of makes you feel a bit better about the absolute insanity that exists right now in the world but really this parsha is very very bizarre oddly enough one of the most bizarre things about this parsha is that even if you would have removed this Torah portion out of the Torah god forbid but let's say you would and you would just continue with the next story which is the story of Pym cliffs there'd be no problem with this outline the story line about nothing would have changed chronology everything you can't say about any other party on the Torah this parsha you remove it it's fine smooth sailing you keep on going there's no there are no issues which makes the question even more bizarre then why is it so important if it really doesn't make any difference to make you know what what is the inion here it could have easily been completely deleted pushed off to another area whatever it is very very bizarre and this got me thinking a lot last year and I'm continuing to start this year and I hope and pray and I think that with the right cabanas in mind we could learn something so tremendously valuable important and essential for all our relationships and life but specifically between that between the core relationship between parents and children well guys like our age where rates you know families in the middle evident where a parent and we're still a child versus it's such a not sure who we're parents being who were a child to sometimes it gets confusing but this cut this you know the relationship between parents and children is something that it never ends ever you're always viewed as a parent or as a child so having said all that there's something very very beautiful I want to share an I forgotten whose name I heard it but it's probably in a name of a few people they should forgive me but it's just a bunch of thoughts coming out of the heart pouring pouring right out of the heart you know as much as I tell my children that I love them when they hear about it from someone else it does something to them for example like I get on my daughter I love you the most loving the most and then if someone plays for her a recording of a concert I did in Toronto I think that's actually what happened last time and she heard that I was talking about her not crazy about her it it touched her profoundly and much more deeper way it seems than me looking at her in the face thing you know I love you and I love you because somehow when I hear about it from a third party that it happens it somehow does something to I can't really explain it but it does something to so what are we here that in our passion and remember when did I miss well learn about what happened in partial bollock when did they hear about this story I don't know let's say the first time they had to learn the Torah which was they were learning the Torah and then they get to this posture like oh we weren't here for this one what happened here well there's a puzzle in the passion Hashem tells bilam lota utha amazake Baruch Oh sorry you can't Chris these people because they're blessed God is telling someone else about us and we're hearing about it through him it's also so important to hear about it from him after living through schlock the sin of the Marah grow in the sin of this and the mistake happened and it just seems like a Shem is so disappointed with us and he just has in an intimate conversation between us and him obviously we're trying to grow so he's talking about all the places we need to grow and how we need to fix ourselves and all of a sudden we get to see like the outside view of what I shouldn't really thinks of us correct and he's like I want you of this planet we love I love this people these people are a blessed people and like when it's not in the intimate conversation of like well listen son you know you had to go to your room now you got to fix this you got to be nicer to your mother but like when I'm actually just speaking what I really think about them from an objective outside then they get to see accents particle really loves Jewish people is there anything about it correct yeah we were really stuck in a place of he's probably not so happy with us right for very good reasons over and over again throughout this whole book of a minbar and it's almost like pleasure but like is this like breath and say okay let's remove ourselves from the picture and eventually we're going to hear about this story and when we hear that God is telling someone else I love these people so much you just can't touch them if oh we could make it through any desert for 40 years four thousand years actually we made it for 2,000 years in a desert yeah because somehow we kind of were reading Parshat bollock when at least made sense and hearing that despite everything you still love Nicholas Bhonsle now one of the exercises we did in the parenting class and with we asked very tough questions and questions that are very uncomfortable and questions that push us to really be real with what we think it what's really going on at home and one of the things that we asked ourselves in the question in the classes if you were bold enough to be as real as possible and we what do you think your child would say when we'd ask them the following question what do your parents think of you what do you think your parents think of you and we always want to say oh they know I love them so much they know how much I'm crazy about them but it's not always the case when we go into the child that still exists within us or going through the 12 year old Jeremy with 12 year old or whatever it is remember what age it is and say well what did you think then what do you think your parents think about you and because we're all so wrapped up constantly in this world of chemo from having to educate and always pointing out the good and the bad and saying going the right way versus staying away from the wrong way the that get what gets lost is oh I'd love you to death I'm crazy about you I just have to keep on showing you what to do and what not to do and that's what's happening to us in the desert it's much like a father and there's children that keep on messing up and we keep on getting patched botched Andy this means a little smack a little smack but then there's moments that it's almost like as much as ballot can be removed from the Torah and there'd be no problem with continuing the story can you imagine surviving without hearing God telling someone else do you know that you can't touch these people not only is Bala important to be read it's almost impossible for us it would have been impossible for us to continue the show to continue the program to continue holding out in the desert if we didn't hear those words oh my god that's what he really thinks about me well that's not just about them it's about us today too Jamie I'm sure you'd agree with me how me felt really really needs to hear from my Shem right now not only directly because directly doesn't work that much we need to hear kind of via you know via another nation a shameless showing and telling them you don't really think you can mess with honey so you you know that they're my baby yeah it's you know right now ish I Fletcher is in Warsaw and they're now passing a resolution in the United Nations saying that heroine is not a Jewish site it's a Muslim site meaning Abraham Isaac and Jacob Sara they're not Jews it's like the founding matriarch and patriarch of our people right and so from outside the nation's are now trying to create stumbling blocks for us and it's exactly in this week's parsha I'm Amish think that like what each eye is doing is so connected on a national level to what's happening to the Jewish people and I think that Hashem is like working out between the lines behind the scenes and you know there's a lesson when the Jews came into Yuriko and we yoshu had already taken leadership and there's a parallel between the crossing of the Dead Sea and then there's the crossing of the Jordan River and they sent Marah gleamin and Yahshua send spies and there's like all of these parallels but the Dead Sea that the Red Sea that everyone saw was like such a miracle we sing it every morning now in art if Allah the parting of the Jordan they didn't see it happened in Adam kilometers north of them and so all of a sudden was just like just the the river became dry and they didn't actually see the manifest miracle and so too so often like they're things that are happening like behind the scenes in other countries on the other side of the world in this week's portion is saying I want you to know like I said before Texas also from the car accidents also from sickness in our own personalized but things that we don't even know are happening on the other side of the planet Hashem is there with us also and I think that that's a unconditional love that a parent has to show his child that no matter where you are if you see it if you don't see it with the teachers when you're there when you're not there that a parent always has to kind of let their child know there's an unconditional - here I have your back in front of you I have your back behind you I have your back well you don't even know that I have your back and I think to create that bond I got Asheboro who needed to say that does as well that he has our back no matter if we see it or if we don't see it right and then I think also like we should also take into mind as parents is that there's never the wrong up is never a a justified missed opportunity of telling someone else how precious your children are to you because you never know if your child will hear that from someone else it's not about going out of your way oh my god you don't know how much just a matter of when you when you're being real and someone asks you what's life like and what are you up to right now at that moment that's in law - mamas profess your love or the privilege you feel because the amazing gift of having children would just feel like that's exactly what this place is all about such mass confusion on the world and yet when I hear those words from that God said that about me the confusion has nothing over me it can't touch me nothing can touch me in that moment so I give you a bra huh and I give myself a bra and I give all our viewers about the moving you that are watching the view that will watch those of you that are listening the headquarters of all of this coming out of all mass confusion is only here it's only here in Eretz Israel it's all happening over here to feel those words lota o at the arm of a keyboard Rahul you cannot curse those people because they are blessed the place to feel that the blessing is Mohnish utmost real it's the network you're turned into right now the Land of Israel the Land of Israel Eric Israel aerosol Sabbath you should be on the land which devours its inhabitants in the most beautiful way you get become consumed with the feeling of being blessed consumed by the feeling of God telling the whole world you just can't touch these people keep by rule planet sometimes it's hard to feel it it's not so simple oh it's not just hard to do it it's time Gila maahes leaking by it's a tree of life the Torah is a tree of life for those who grasp it why did it say for those who grasp it because if we just let the currents of this world they will pull us into so many different reasons we have to hold on we have to hold on tight to that tree of life because it's such an amazing parsha because when he wants to leave hashem says ok you know i want to i'm going to wait and see but Derek's Adam will say they left Maliki Motel the way that you want to go how I will allow you to go that way and if you were not holding on and we're not thinking and we're not aware and we're not conscious man weeks can go by mums just may go by and we may never say to our children that we love them but every time they make a mistake we'll fix them right away but the fact that there has to be way more times that we say positive things to our shows as to way outweigh the negative pouches that we give them the negative fixings that we have to like correct them obviously we're there coach were their teacher we're their mentor so if they're doing something wrong we have to correct them but we always have to have that balance to know that if we're not holding on to the Tree of Life we're not giving our children life with like words of water and not words of fire and we're not like constantly empowering them and we're only just kind of letting the currents like kids do something wrong so I'm just so REM I'm just flowing they do is there I got to fix them and we're not really consciously choosing how to parent then I will be swept away with the currents of life owners if I want to give one more breath huh at the homes we're raising with this kind of famous will enable us with full confidence be up to that challenge of asking our children what do you think your children think what do you think your children how do they view you meaning what do they think you think about them and with full confidence not haughtiness say oh but my children they know that they're untouchable keep our local that they know that that they they they're they're raised in a world of learning about God not only believing that their parents think that about them but that we raised them with the God realization as well with the Hashem consciousness that in a shaman is low he beat oven byakova Laura I'll be frail another post like an oppression then when God looks at us that my and our children yeah there's always little things that need to be worked on I can't tell you anything wrong because these are my precious children that are untouched and that's something that it's very hard for us to really feel with all the patches we've been getting over the years but enough at that time and now it's time to really take part of bollock and realize how essential it is for the chronology and for our children's lives as well you could go a day with your children not finding out how much you love them just makes their journey harder wouldn't you take every opportunity every single opportunity you can for your children to know that they love you that's precious public and that's our journey in the desert and there's lots of shame that's what we're giving over to our children please please please keep in touch with those friends Jeremy Atlanta vigil calm slow maudlin David wrote calm the feedback keeps on coming in always fill their hearts with joy and gnosis and pride to know that people are with us and that we're not doing the stuff that you know it sometimes it could be lonely again the microphone because you never know who's really with you so whatever it is it's like you know little reminder of you know you guys aren't alone it definitely gives us cough so that was our self therapy for this you know putting it out there right now no we just also with all of the challenges that I Michelle goes through there were so many just like Korra and the despised and then there's no oven like I see no fault in these people of Israel they're just perfect they're doing their very best they're growing they're getting stronger and to know that I kind of sparkle react all of us have challenges and all the skills that we failed him and we fail ourselves but Curtis Park who loves us knows exactly who we are he made us and when he sees down at Israel even with all of the challenges he's mama's here to give a strength he's here to power she's here to empower our families and that our strength is in him and I'm an isin him alright shallow folks uh-oh [Music] hi this is Eve Harrow host of rejuvenation on the land of israel network you can hear a new show from me every Sunday and every day of the week shows from another one of my very talented stellar show host reach me Eve at the Land of Israel calm and keep listening everybody we love your feedback the Land of Israel coming at you every day every week that's the Land of Israel network on the Land of Israel calm [Music]