The Soul of Israel: How to Want What You Want

[Music] hey everyone Shalom Aleichem this is Katz and you're listening to the soul of Israel on the Land of Israel common land of Israel calm Network good morning rabbi re Abramowitz alone another morning of learning together yes tickle GaN Eden indeed not getting old and it's every once in a while you have a little shear that you give that it's like exactly to me exactly what I'm going through right now today was one of the today I could see it in your eyes I'm not so happy about it but I hope that it doesn't you know it's a heavy one I'll just we'll just share briefly with our with our listeners we're in the three weeks we're in the three weeks of mourning over something that we're trying so hard to feel stay connected least connected in strong tune and that is the destruction of the temple and the closest we have as to the reasons behind the destruction of the temple is that there was a concept called synonym baseless hatred so all we're trying to do during the three weeks is to nip that in the bud as much as possible meaning how do I approach in my own personal private life and in my communal life working on this media on this characteristic trait of judging people favorably it's not simple it's not easy so I shared with every learner this morning about a holy Facebook thread which is rare holy Facebook thread I just had this urge to get people to share for myself really to learn how how do you do it yeah what's your method so how do how does it work for you how do you work on judging favorably so I that's what I put out on the on the thread what are your methods for down the cuffs foot you got a lot of replies oh I haven't even gone through half of them I have to spend elite literally pry like an hour and a half to go through them many people replied and shared what they felt worked for them how to judge people favorably so many people gave in many people have given in their their thoughts and there was beautiful things coming down but I don't leave it at that I asked each person that responded in a reply are you able to write up a little prayer based on your understanding what you just gave over and that's when it got lit and it's still getting very interesting that uh when we meet ourselves in terms of expressing an opinion it's pretty easy but expressing a prayer it makes it much more difficult however when you and the prayer would be let's say I wrote something which I did about something that I use yeah I didn't even see I haven't gone through things I wrote it on whatsapp okay yeah I have to go so a trick that I use and then you stay write a prayer for that so my prayer is please Hashem let me internalize XYZ prayer that advice that I just suggest it could be but what happens to the person when they do that is that they realize different things start popping up as well while they're in that act we've tried this before a number of occasions of of internalizing our learning making them into prayers and you see that even though you know something in an information level when it goes to a prayer level something happens to the knowledge then it descends from intellectual into the heart and then you meet what's called home at that live wisdom of the heart which is how we really want to be operating and that becomes formulated more or less through praying over it so so far I've collected tons of people's personal prayers over there thought I don't want to collect their thoughts we have enough books on thoughts but I wanted to collect a book you know make a little compilation of of prayers over it so actually I'm just extending this dollar listeners please not just you don't have to share with us what works for you that even you could but expect an email back if you do share what works for you in terms of judging people favorably and the email back is okay can do you mind compiling a short prayer based on what your concept of judging composing composing so I'm really putting that out there right now so please this is the time to do it it's the three weeks this is when things really really you know get a little not a little get a very heavy especially here in the Holy Land you have a sense it you feel it it's feel it it's really uncanny you know there's a guy want to share there's a guy in shul one of our dear ever about a week ago two weeks ago he started getting looking very anxious and nervous so I said him brother what what's going on problems Italy want to talk about anything I thought maybe he was going through stuff with his wife with his kids he said no no I'm just I'm I'm anticipating what's probably gonna happen to me in about a week when the 17th of Tammuz begins the three weeks begin and then I go through he says I'm so he's a very refined SOI so then I go through this whole pressure of am i doing enough to make did I do enough this year to make sure Tish above wouldn't come back it's just heavy it's a lot a lot in the road so and I think often in my life I've looked and said well the three weeks as times where bad things happen to us to sort of external things that happen surprises ambushed us but what I've been feeling this time is like a lot of it is just internal right you know the it's like the defenses are down or the assault is more intense internal level absolutely so in that in that spirit I wanted to share a deep deep thought that I learned yesterday from Richland Wakaba that I've been at it actually camp in my diving this morning and boy boy boy boy did it it's so hard it said we say in the Avenue teehee the red Sun tamid about that Israeli Meza right before we say with the Hosanna but these words how many times have you said those words to healer at some time me that is probably a hundred thousand right because if you say it three times a day and we're in our 38th year of life yeah we've said it plenty of times wilt a healer at Sun tell me that you said that I am you should always want our avodah you should always want to hear me cry it should be something about you that that should be a red Sun before you so be nachman of breslev teaches something very very passionately deep do you know why most things that we want in life don't end up happening for us because we don't really want what we want and we don't really believe in what we believe we do it half-heartedly if I really wanted what I wanted and I loved what I loved and I believed in what I believed in that state of living removes me from any shackles of this world but we don't really really want what we want when we start to want what we want and to the utmost then I have moments of Michelle in my life so open your hearts friends this is gonna be a little bit more deeper segment than we usually have and it might be very difficult to digest and swallow but but we'll get there and Shabbos we save a honkey Lena hashem elokenu bit I have over at son you know what day of the week I actually know what I want and I love what I love on Shabbos why because on Shabbos vahana sheelane within a solid the inheritance the regime's gives me on Shabbos is Ahava and red Sun that I actually want what I want and I loved what I loved all year long do I really want the beit hamikdash to be rebuilt I do but do I want what I want that's a painful truth to put in out in in in in our hearts I'm not talking about the Jews that don't live in the Holy Land I'm talking about us as well do I want what I want for real I want it but do I want what I want I want to learn Torah but do I want to want to learn Torah this is why Rebbe Nachman speaks about the concept that they iike of everything the most important thing of everything is dependent on a ones red Sun a person's own definition of well going back to the beginning of our segment do I want to judge people favorably because it's the right thing to do or boy do I want it like I on the same level that I don't want someone to come and tear apart my fingers I definitely don't want someone to come and tear apart my fingers on the same level of a rut son do I really want to learn Torah where am I still wanting it because it's probably the right thing to do and the right thing to want when I become one with my will I have a machinist moment we're in the middle of the three weeks the basin mikdash is destroyed on the same day that our sages teaches that mushiya is born Bashar has born and tisch above whatever that means but on a level that I could drag that down to mean something to me it means that when is Messiah born when I realized that that which is most precious to me is absolutely destroyed then I start to want what I want then I start to love what I really love our prayers are please God let me not have to lose that which I really want in order to really want it is that yeah I'm counting on you to take the Sigma I'm just trying to this world level trying to think of it in very simple terms probably universal terms a lot of people like I want to get in tell me if this is too stupid what happens I don't mean stupid but I just feel like I'm put could be missing your point but I want to get in good shape I want to get in good physical condition right I'm not doing it I don't know what is keeping it what is keeping me well the resistance right the resistance the distractions of life laziness whatever it is that's preventing me so it's not that I don't want it because I do want to get in good shape but do I want it more than the resistance allows for isn't that right and obviously you know these self testifying answer is no well that's your opinion you look to me like you're in shape but that's that's really well getting in better shape because the farm is helping me I'm sure no we're yeah the elixirs of life I'm sure right but the answer to your question is like if a person wants to stop smoking so if they want to want to stop smoking they'll stop smoking if they want to stop smoking they usually don't stop smoking when you it seems like the wanting to want is one step removed it's lower than actually wanting these know what you mean the contrary when I want to want something then what I end up wanting ends up happening on the contrary when I just want something so it's half-heartedly it's there one of the things we had on the based on English was a very beautiful concept called Herod Herod son I think we spoke about this a few years ago on a show but it might be someone one viewer one listener that doesn't remember this teaching so if I then I want to repeat this a very deep thing Webner this is awesome urbanathlon the breslav he says that when a person walked into the bait I make that she would experience what's called a errata red Sun which means the Enlightenment of will which means it was clear to me what I really wanted in my life and it was clear to me what God really wanted of me that took place in a house where the Shana resided I knew what I wanted for myself I knew what I wanted from God and I knew what God wanted from me there was an illumination of of the red Sun of will that is something that we don't have anymore living in a state of exile means I'm not quite sure what I want for myself I don't even know what I really want from God and I sure don't know what God really wants from me that's what we're talking about when we mean that we're in a state of exile that the ruts son what we want from each other is not refined it's not clarified it's not closed not clear even between friendships even in relationships like we're marrying this net but I don't really know what what what I want from you or what you want from me how many times people said I don't know what you want from me yeah that's cause there's no based on meekness the existence of the basin mikdash was that you knew what you knew what you wanted from each other so we see when a person knows this is what they really really want they go for it well and they let nothing stand in their way and we're crying over live in the during the three weeks over living in a world where it's not so clear to us that we're living in a world that it's not so clear to us what we we could sense that we don't even really know what we want that's that that is the Ave loot of bein amid serene that's the morning of this between the narrowness is what we call bainham it's early in between the 17th of Tammuz and the 9th of ave is that yeah and the big picture we know judaism israel temple and everything but master the rose what do you want from me you don't say those words in the base of militias around but you know why because you you know what you want and you want what you want and you go for what you want and many people today to be someone that's goal-oriented and that follows through is rare rare amish so i i bless us during these three weeks of mourning to allow ourselves to cry over this don't go to this place of on although google is here already we just don't see it no no it's not here yet it's very confusing times a huge step was made towards the Gullah but jews still have to live in very frightening conditions in many places in our own home that's not a redemptive state of mind or attempted state of living but that's just one level we're talking about on the inside of the inside way too many people don't feel at home in their own home of their soul they feel misplaced how does the first person find feeling placed when they're one with their at son when they know what they want to do in this world when they know what God wants of them and they go for it so I'll give you a brothel our diamond please give me a Brocklebank that's something that's worth crying over that's what something with screaming over just allowing ourselves full-on to feel that pain of what it means to live in a state of live in a world where I don't even I don't really want what I want like I do it I've made decisions on him very a lot of decisions I've made but I don't even know if I really want the decisions that I've done already punished that's exile that's Gus that's Gus so at the risk of sounding very depressive and depressing I will say like this we have nothing oppressive maybe not gonna stop pupil says that when a person allows himself to feel the pain over that which his soul is suffering at that moment there's a miracle there's a door that opens for him when you just open up your heart and embrace the pain all you got to do is open that door and you'll discover what's in there it's a lot of goodies in there a lot of great things beautiful light is in there but you got to be vulnerable enough to feel the pain and go through that door so friends where it's time to just become better friends we could walk through doors together holding each other's hands we might have different doors but at least I can lead you two years and you can lead me to mine and hopefully like that will begin to want what we want and love what we love and believe thank you you've really helped me open those doors more than anyone I can really think of in my life today and I'm sure I'm speaking for our listeners out there also so thank you for that really you see the sweetest few are love you so much [Music] and we believe in the state of video of the leaving the army and we hope they won't continue to make mistake but it doesn't stop our believe you have a tremendous privilege part of izl coming back with though this week on rejuvenation I speak with Tammy's over shine whose family was thrown out of their home in etc him in that terrible summer of 2005 where did they go are they still connected to Israeli society by Hashem we celebrate Yamaha removed and my children serve in the army very proudly join me for a personal look at Gush Katif in 2005 only on rejuvenation on the land of his