The secrets of Kabbalah behind the month of Tishrei - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] you [Music] you [Music] when the month of Tishrei and as we do every month a quick summary about the month what can be achieved or we need to focus on what is a certain energy that's going on in the month of Tishrei of any month that we can relate with the energy and like I said before that we go to a supermarket and we buy products then every day every week every month has a certain energy and if I know how to tap into that energy then I derive this energy and it benefits me to do what I'm supposed to do and the month of Tishrei is a very very special month going by the biblical calendar it's not the first month a lot of people mistaken and thinking that he sure is the first month of the year yesterday biblically is the seventh month of the year Nissan is the first month but the Shea is confused with the first month of the year because the power that Tishrei has is the power of beginning the first day of Tishri is called Aleph every first day of the month is olive and if we say the word Aleph bitte Schoen the first day of the month of Tishrei has the same letters of the word Bereshit alef-bet Israel again is the identical letters of Bereshit no means in the beginning like we opening the Torah Bazaar the shame in two weeks we starting to read the Torah Bereshit bara elokim - invertebrates in the beginning a sham created the world so the whole month of Tishrei is signifying that the world is going back to its source we are resetting so to say the world or in our terminology in the more modern terminology I'm rebooting the system now erasing everything and I'm starting from the beginning let me relish it starting from the beginning the the the the process of a rebirth and everything is starting from the beginning so from the day first day of village of Tishrei I'm so to say resetting the entire system ever and the option of rebooting the system clearing everything there leaving all the problems and starting fresh now this process is coming in three stages and the three stages are are explained in the teachings of Kabbalah is three different three powers a circle and a power is you can call it a power or a certain energy energy can flow in different directions and the process of the rebirth is based on these three powers teaching the teachings of Kabbalah explains that we always have three lines kaverman cover small and Covanta the right side the left side in the middle side the process that we have to go through in this rebirth what the month of distress is offering is we have to go through this process of these three lines of cover I mean cover small recover enter and cover I mean the right side that represents the the attribute of cressid of kindness and this is the the power to give the left side cover small represents what's called Dean judgments guwa and this is the power to receiving and not only the power of receiving but also the power of restriction of the stopping and then of course we have kava emza that this corresponds to the difference is to balancing between both sides now the teachings of this law explains based on a pursue converse from she Reshiram the song of songs written by Miller and he explains that based on this verse we kind of understand the process of these three powers these three of emotions and the verse from Sheila shilling it says yamino da her clever she said sorry it's mulatto hotly oh she they may notice a bikini his left is under my hand talking about the left arm the amino and his right hand is gonna hug me then diverse continued continues by saying is Shekinah Michiko Pio and so forth and this verse is basically teaching us of these three motions first it starts with small or the heart level she's small or is his left hand referring to the to the side the left side cover small tacitly well she is under my head like when I lie down and somebody lies on me and and they put the head on me so they put their head on on my hand so if I'm lying down like this my kids like coming on Shabbat to my bed and they'd lying next to me they say let's cuddle so I have one daughter that likes coming this side she's under my left hand and if I want to hug her then I will turn and look hug her with my right hand so she's under my left hand but my right hand is hugging her and so the verse is mulatto hotly washy his left hand is under my head but you may note that obtaining his right hand is going to hug me the left hand is referring to cover small that I need to do at ecole a rectification for the entire side of this left side which is the cava Dean as the guava is the restriction and this time this tikkun this rectification is done in the 10th 10 days of Chuba ramos Hashanah which is a leftish right till Yom Kippur which is the tenth day of this raid that's how the month starts with the process of these 10 days that the 10 days I have to start doing the tikkun rectification talk of a small for the side the left side and we mentioned before that every day I'm fixing ones fill out the 10 days they correspond the tents Fiats which the rosh hashanah corresponds to market then the second day of Oceania will be Assad and then it will start climbing till the last day of the ten days which is young people and young people is the fill of cadet this is beside the shame in the next class we're going to talk how the whole a power of the atonement on young people it's such a powerful day that the the Torah says live on i.t Tahu in front of me you're going to be cleansed when it says - I means above what can be above a shame nothing can be above a shame that just comes to hint us that the day is such a high level that the it's like as if a shipment like a father is picking up a child to his level Hashem is raising us elevating us to such a high level that we're literally in front of a shame - I were literally face-to-face with Hashem that's the power of the day but the secret of the power of the day comes from what's called in national Kabbalah Katie Riley on the high level of Katie cause Katie has many different levels in it there's a it so new Turkish kettle external part of the cattle communicated a internal part was spoke before about Colette career doesn't affect the Premio teakettle and the the the the inner part of the crown so the first 10 days of Tishrei they correspond to the transfer wat and then every day i have to do a certainty cool and this is rectifying what's called cava small and every day I have to to meditate on what am i correcting more than what's the tea Kundun I'm doing cover small as I have to correct a the what's called a Sun like a bell the part that I'm constantly I want to take something for myself which we'll talk about it a little bit more in the next class about the concept of what's really the tycoon on young people and a lot of the kill cool what I damage is the fact that I'm taking too much from this world the teachings of the Torah tells me don't take anything from this world the more I take from this world the more I pleasure from this world the more I'm damaging in this world so the main takuna young people with DAF car is breaking this what's unlikable this satsang this desire for what is in it for me instead of doing it with shame shame I'm to doing it for the sake of a shame so the day of Yom Kippur is the ultimate Acuna facility' Cattell that's why the only thing that can start healing correct is young people because if a person has special on did any type of the sin that falls under the category of correct the person must wait to young people to start the process of the of the fixing of the Colet because let's say a person who throughout the year did something then he did chuva till yom kippur nothing's happening it's everything is left on hold and if the person was decided on Yom Kippur that Hashem says okay we'll forgive that person then starts the process that's why usually people would expect after Tishrei for things to work out usually after Tishrei starts all the problems send me the bills come and the headaches and ha special arm all the rest why that's a very good sign it means ashamed aside it is forgiving you and now it's going into action if the Shui passes and you get the the check from the water you won the lottery and all the rest of the things everything works out it's not such a good sign rather when things go a little bit wrong usually you'll notice that after Tishrei things come down suddenly starts the headache that's a very good sign means that Hashem did forgive you and now starts the process of the swim of the hardship but in the first 10 days of this ray this is the process of the tikkun of the rectification of cava small everything that I damage it comes from Dean from Gua that's when I correct it the next process is the of Kavya mean of the right side of Cresson these are the five days between young people till the first day of Sukkot I have exactly five days between on Kiev and Sukkot now we know that we have five Kadima can negate kamesh water five if the counter is five so these five days is the tikkun of the recovery I mean and then of course comes the seven days of Sukkot the seven days of Sukkot which is the final rectification of the cava EMSA and the seven days of Sukkot suka comes from the word you know the sequester so health means to cover this is when a shame sauce or to say covers us the first 10 days smaller heart level she that my head is under the left arm of the kailash bajo then on the next five days the minitek up kami the five days between emotion a yom kippur and Sukkot Hashem is hugging me and the last day of Sukkot this is the highlight of the three weeks this is the holidays called hoshanah Rabbah we stay up all night we learn Torah and in the morning we do efforts around the Bema and then we do one tradition then we take the leaves of the our votes we take five of them and we smack them on the floor this is where everybody gets older the anger out they start smacking the vote on the floor there's many different cabbalistic explanations but the results planes that the leaf of the Arve it's shaped like like lips if you take turn it this way of course and the last day after we went through this process 21 days is that's the continuation of the verse first we say were switched mulatto hard level Shiva me not a cup candy this is a version Sheila Sheila you can find it there and then it says the shekinah man she caught peel the ishikane e-mini Checotah shaky knees kissing that's when Hashem is kissing us that is al explains that the leaves of the other votes they resemble lips after the three weeks of the change that's when Hashem is kissing us on national ABBA and blessing us with a good year that's when right after that we do some challah we received the Torah again because without doing this process I can't receive the Torah and receive the Torah I mean we received it three thousand four hundred years ago but that I have a portion in it that I actually have a connection to the Torah so the the main power of the month of Tishrei is to determine my connection to the Torah how much of a connection I will have to the Torah the entire year and there's other shame in a second we're going to continue in the INRI to explain it more but the process this Taccone of the 21 days it's one big holiday it's not different holidays it has different names or Shoshanna Yom Kippur Sukkot Oshana Vava simcha Tova but it's one holiday it's one process that cannot be separated and I have to go through this process and when I go through this process of a rectification if I do it the right way yes my sins will be forgiven but that's not what I need to concentrate on I need to concentrate on what will be my what will be my connection to the twelve throughout the entire year am I gonna want to go and pray am I gonna want to observe the meat's votes am I gonna have a big little small yet so what's going to be my connection to the Torah and that's the month that determines the this connection now when we continue we know that we said we learned that every month a certain planet that controls the month the planet of Vitesse raised Naga which Naga means light I like coin the month of Tishrei the month of lights holy short you know people go to Oman thousands of people go to Oman 56 to 70,000 people and what do they say they come back with I come back with odds and they don't even know what it means but they come back with it oh I mean always alight but that the truth is it is true the month is shining so much lights these spiritual lights that I can receive some of this light so no guys the planets that controls the month excuse me no God no guys the is there in English I think you call it Venus no not too sure are you called Nagas in English I think the planet Naga Venus right I think Naga is Venus when we don't code by its American name by initiative we call it Naga Kohath Naga Naga is light and and the the letter book of formations affiliates Allah explains that every planet is is created with a letter the letter of Naga is the letter of pay mature in itself is a very interesting letter and then we have the sign of the month which is Libra Muslim again from the book of formation the letter that creates the sign Islam and Lomb it is also a very unique letter it's one of the letters that goes above the line which goes outside of this world and we also always learned that there's a certain sense in the mud and the sense of the month of Tishrei is the sense of touching shush shush shush shush now the touching is a very interesting sense because when somebody touches you touching can be the most soothing and nice feeling that one can experience but can be the most annoying thing if somebody touches you in the wrong way over there wrong energy it can be the most disgusting and knowing feeling that one can experience so the sense of touching is very unique it has two opposites one can be the complete positive the touching can be a very pleasurable and soothing and warm feeling and like a child that the child gets hurt when the way they run to the parent to to hug them and the cloud we see that a physical touch in the positive side is is one of the best feelings one can experience in this world you know you go to a massage what a feeling so so the physical touch can be very very positive but on the other hand the massage the touching can be extremely extremely negative now the again the hoosh the sense of touching is it represents two different extremes first of all the touching how do you feel the touching the massage you feel it with your body the body is a cover to the nefesh to the soul we said before that the soul needs garments but we have spiritual garments we also have a physical garment our body is a garment to the soul the soul calls the body a look at the Robin on her Luca it means a coat my body is a coat now when I'm wearing this jacket the jacket has my my shape if I now take the jacket off and I throw it down it's a piece of cloth and it's all crumbled and it doesn't have any life in it the body is coat of the neshamah then the shaman leaves out the body will fall down and will disintegrate and will rot it's nothing the body is nothing at the same time the body is the tool that allows the soul to express itself the soul cannot express itself the soul is kind of paralyzed in the body if now there won't be a body the soul cannot do anything maybe a solve a very great high-level soul can move something in this world a regular soul can do anything in this role without a body so some angels are very high-level angels they can move things in the world they can move things around same thing with certain souls of to the kingdom they can move things around but our so very simple so it's an amazing soul it's a spiritual being that we can't even imagine it's abilities but put a naked soul in this world that can do nothing it needs a body so the body in one way is covering the soul on the other hand it's also the tool that the your soul can use if my soul wants to express itself it needs the body and the soul can express itself through the body through its movement through its speech through its action so this is where the touch the massage can be expressed in a very positive way customer Shalom can be also expressed in a very negative way I can hug somebody with my hands and a hospital I can beat somebody with my hands and not only that I'm sensitive to touch some people they get very easy said well you just you just touch them they they already get repelled by the by the touch so concentrating on the on the sense of massage in the month of Tishrei is there's always a connection between the sense of the man and the tribe of the month every month is represented of one of the tribes the tribe of the month of Tishrei is the tribe of a fine now going back to the book of formations affiliates Allah which is the original the first book of Kabbalah that was it's attributed to a jalapeno but it was compiled by Adam Le John and it says there a very interesting verse and it says n tova la mala me o neg van Rael LaMotta me which the translation is there's nothing better there's nothing a good above there's nothing higher than pleasure than Ordnung and there's nothing lower than nega nega is a I think you say it in English layin that's how you say it in English layin a nega nega is like when something is on the on the skin hey I think you pronounce it lesion nothing you write it lesion and I think you pray you say you also pronounce it lesion so Negus a lesion yes le le le si o a lesion so I thought you pronounce it lien but that's so there's nothing higher than pleasure and there's nothing lower than lesion now Oneg and has the exact same letters I Noonan gimel now when it's Oneg on ik is pleasure I mean at the end of the day we all we all want pleasure we are creatures that are running after pleasure when I eat I want the food to be tasty because it's pleasurable when I sleep I want the bed to be comfortable when I when I wear nice clothes it's all about pleasure this is something we're going to talk about in the next class what young people the power of Yong Kapoor is to break this clipper of this constantly pressuring and joint pleasures in this world but we are creatures that are after pleasure and this is built-in into our nature not something that that we can blame ourselves rather it's built into us the the constantly need for pleasure so when it comes in the form of pleasure which is in Ebru Oneg then what is the on ik do it's connecting to opposites this is the the basic action what something pleasure that it does is connecting to opposites but when you switch the order of the letters to Nega so I think mega is also an affliction is another right way of saying it but will use will will stay with lesion mega it comes to creates a separation and it's like a Makita a wall that separates between two things this is mega that's why for example when they I mean now we don't have leprosy in our generation the leprosy would be a lesion on the body and it would separate we'll make a separation I mean I shouldn't say then are they are a generation with his notes a lot there's no leprosy we don't have it outside we have it inside we didn't get rid of leprosy so when a person sins was shown a lot but then in the olden days when we had better make - and even before that and then they right away had Sarat the leprosy in our days we don't experience it rather our sages still teach us that we don't have it external but we have leprosy inside so that's even worse but the nega comes to separates so we have the same letters in a different order one order is Oneg is pleasure I mean we want to pleasure in this world not only that one of our things that we're waiting for in Olam haba is lit an egg a lava as to pleasure a Shem and when we celebrating Shabbat what do we do we laid an egg onyx Shabbos we have two little allahabad cavatelli shabbat onek we call Shabbat the Prophet says and he should call Shabbat pleasure the question is what is the pleasure the physical pleasure of the spiritual pleasure this we're going to talk in the next class because young people has to do with the separation between the physical pleasure in the spiritual pleasure but taking these letters letters of Oneg I knew hmmm if I have it in one form its pleasure the other order its Nega now when it's in the order of Oneg I noon gimel this is called in the teachings of Kabbalah Eden AHA GaN Eden is something sweet of course also gun Adam the Garden of Eden then I have now and how is the river and garden if you remember that in the book of Bereshit it's talking about there are four rivers that they're going out of the garden and which garden the garden of eden GaN Eden so in the teachings of Kabbalah these are three so those three foundations that we have which is Eden nah-ha and gun gun is a garden Eden is something sweet and Nahal is a river when it's coming in the order of onek I'm noon giemon first I have a the awning this is also something that is very refined what's called a Dean a denote and also add note which is the sweetness then I have a river which represents an abundance what's called Scheffer and then I have gun gun is the is the gondola as a garden but garden represents the the other person that I'm in touch with because we we are what were evolved Xin our life is relationships if a relationship is a good relationship then it's pleasure there's nothing better than having a good relationship a very special warm and deep relationship with a with a parent with a friend but if Cosmodrome the relationship is a little bit off it's the biggest suffering ever you see that between a husband and wife you seen between a parent and a child and of course even with the friends and acquaintances if the relationship is good its pleasure if it's not it's the biggest disaster ever that's why we see it shouldn't be like that you see that in most families not good relationships between the people there to find the family that the dynamics in the family is very calm and everybody's talking to each other and it's nice and that's a that's a vets that's a very big achievement most families the dynamics something you know the circulation of energy between the families off and their relationships are completely maybe that person who will be good with this one but not with that one and all day long these stories like a whole drama in the family so the the gun is the relationship the touch so to say between me and my fellow person is called Surat somebody that is not me so when it comes in the right order of I mean lungi mail Oneg pleasure it means at first I have the pleasure and the pleasure is of course coming from the spiritual world not the physical not the chocolates in the and the arugula that's not the pleasure I'm talking about talking about the spiritual pleasure then if it comes in the right order then I experience what's called an aha and known this is an abundance and then of course the gun the relationships are all smooth and good if ha special Amit comes in the other way which is Nega he malign that first come than how first an abundance of watts of disagreements and then the sweetness it's at the end when the sweetness is taken and put at the end then the order is completely different this is the nega the lesion the when it's the opposite of pleasure that's why we're in separate Silla the book of formation says n la mala me o neg there's nothing greater than or neg and there's nothing lower than mega is when something is not working out the right way there's nothing worse than that I mean many things in our life we can they're bad and but we can kind of handle it when there's problems in communication or relationship this is the worst thing that when the husband and wife they can't get along with each other when I can't get along with my kid with my partner whatever it is there's nothing worse than that the person can you can drive you crazy all day long but when there's a good relationship that's the best thing that one can experience now going back to the sense the sense is called me shush shush a Mishu Mishu she's is the touching the the the power the sense of touching the every word in the Hebrew language has a root now we have a three-letter root and we also have a two-letter roots the two-letter root of the world of massage is much touching may mention now the the way the biblical term for marital relations is called - mish this is the how the our sages used the word of touching is - mish and also the the word of marital relations is called - mish the marital relation is called - mishima tada the touching when in in the in the bedroom but you see that it has the same two lettered roots the mem in the shin the bee shoosh now I told you that the the tribe of the month is a fine f-fine has in it the word that is called priya when we're going to read bazaar the shame in two weeks the book of Bereshit the first thing that a diamond have our are ordered to do is Volvo who is to be fruitful and if I'm has the word in it what's called priya to be fruitful to be to be very to be multiplying now the the ultimate the ultimat or not I should say the ultimate the the net elite the main thing that in in the touch between a husband and wife in in a relationship is to create unity and the husband and wife are together they reach the ultimate level of unity they can bring they can birth life into the world this is the the root of unity when this unity then I bring life to the worlds so I can see it in marital relations between a husband and wife when there's unity and they bring life to the world but in my life when this unity what will be birthed in the world life and that's the pressure the stanag so the the power the sense of touching with the connection to the month to the tribe are fine comes to teach me something very very very deep that in the month of Tishrei I have a I told you before the ability to lay the foundation of my connection to the Torah but not only that you know we always ask on Rosh Hashanah for shame to bless me with pernessa with sustance with happiness with health and slum by then we ask all these things ultimately what are we asking we're asking to be happy if I have money and I have to come by it and I have a a wife and kids and basically in one words I'm asking to be happy that's what I'm asking so the month of Tishrei has the ability for me to reach to the depth of my soul to pull out this onic this happiness how do I do that when I lay the letters in the right order instead of Hospital having an Omega lesion as too late in the right order to have Oneg how do I do that by placing the iron in the beginning the Eddin has to be in the beginning and they gimel the gun the relationship comes at the end if I if I order it the right way then what will happen is when it comes to our relationship the relationship is going to be smooth there's going to be a good communication between me and other people then the relationships will be smoother so when it comes to applying it hey I have to do mighty cone in the first three weeks in Tishrei so I can reach to the level that I have a very clear and very deep connection to the Torah that my entire life is based on my connection to the Torah because the Torah it says umberto Akihiro Hino the two eyes my life if I have a good connection to the Torah then my my my soul is breathing correctly soon as spiritually of course so AI want to lie down the foundation that the entire - I have a very the entire year I have a very good connection with the Torah that my entire life is based on the Torah this is the tan oak this is the onik the only pleasure that my soul gets is from Torah if I learn Torah if I observe the Torah I respect the Torah if I follow the rules of the Torah that's when my soul gets pleasure if a person is 100 percent connected to Torah they're always happy they're always content they're always relaxed or fulfilled when you start moving away from the Torah and you can be an observant individual but you start moving away from the table that's when you inside you've experienced this emptiness the sadness and of course you blame it on everything around you but the reality is that the real happiness comes from the soul it's not coming if you have a lot of zeroes in your bank accounts if you have a brand new car or a beautiful home that's what's not going to cause you to be happy it's gonna cause you to be comfortable and in some cases actually gonna cause your headache but the real happiness comes from that in my soul how do I make my so happy is building a connection with the Torah when I build a very healthy connection from the top with the Torah that the month of Tishrei lays the foundation then I'm basically taking the Aisne of the word Ordnung and I'm placing the Iying in the first in the in the first position and this is the the ein of owning what will be the result from that will be the norm than have the abundance Scheffer abundance of happiness abundance of health abundance of wealth abundance of everything which what would that affect that would affect the God the giver of their own egg and that's my communication with the world around me if I have a very healthy communication with everybody around me I don't have anger I don't have frustration I don't have sadness I don't have all these things what causes all these emotions I mean I can't blame it on anything right now but everything around me if I wake up in the morning I'm very happy with my wife and we have a good relationship and in the morning is a good night good morning you want a cup of coffee you want to eat something today is completely different than when I wake up in the morning after an argument or in an argument it ruins the entire day that's why you know a lot of parents unfortunately they're going through stress or whatever situation and they they throw older anger and stress on the kids and if you already must do that which I'm not recommending to do it at all take all your stress and anger at the wall but if you already must do that don't do it in the morning because you're ruining the day the entire day if a person a parent wakes up in the morning and they have a problem with an issue with anger or they had a fight with their spouse hold it for the first hour let the kid go to school because don't ruin his day you rule you start the day with an argument with something negative your entire day is carrying that energy so two things that we want to take out of the month of Tishrei a is the foundation of my connection to the Torah B which is not less important is the foundation of my connection to everybody around me to my wife to my kids to my co-workers to my boss so my students doesn't matter who it is everybody around it is called zoo lotto something that is not me and this is the month that I can create a very smooth connection between everybody around me that's why we see that the power the sense of the month is the massage because in one way it can keep like I told you before the body can cover and conceal which that is a negative thing and also the the body can let the soul express itself so the power of massage and going again with the the concept taking it from the the month the the the the tribe of the month of a fine of being multiple multiplying and fruitful this is creating something new creating a a new reality new life and you see that the the when then somebody wants to show affection and the most of the time the affection will be with a physical touch of course you can show affection with the present but as affection how do you show affection to the kids you hug them you kiss them you pick them up you give them a high-five whatever it is so taking it all together we have two very valuable tools that I need to concentrate on the amount of this ray to be able to lay a very solid foundation to carry me out throughout the year and one has to do with the other and if I build a very solid connection with the Torah and I also built a very solid foundation to have a good communication with everybody around me that's what allowing me to have a disowning displeasure and that's what we want and having a disciplined then AHA the river and having good relationships with everybody because a good relationship brings prosperity bad relationship it kills you have a bad relationship in business it will kill the business you have a good relationship between countries between families between people all it does is its births positive positive positive things and a good life so we want to concentrate on that that our year will be blessed with a very great connection a deep connection to the Torah then I'm going to have an unbelievable love for the Torah an unbelievable love for them it's what yet somehow we're always gonna have then we're not getting rid of him but I can still have an unbelievable love to the Kohanim its thoughts and to develop that is a very very special thing I see a lot of people that they follow the Torah they do everything but there's no love they don't love the Torah they don't love them it's for they don't love the Shabbat so I mean I can tell on myself the first six seven years of my observant life I didn't love Shabbat I actually hated Shabbat I didn't like Shabbat at all it was another day that I can't do anything I didn't like I actually didn't like it I didn't get the point of Shabbat well question one day like as if the makita the wall was removed suddenly I got it I fell in love with Shabbos to a point that I can't wait for Shabbat to come and when Shabbat already afternoon comes I'm already starting to get a little bit upset because there's only 3-4 hours left so we want to develop an unbelievable connection a deep connection and a love to the Torah because that allows me to follow the Torah and to observe the Torah in a completely different level but since we are still connected into this world and a Shem created it in such a way that we are stuck in relationships we're going to read in two weeks the book of billing sheet it says that a Shem created a llama be shown and right after that locked opera done we are clever though it's not good for man to be by himself if you would reverse now the situation and you would consult with anomaly Shawn he might come to the conclusion saying it is good to be by myself some people say I wish it was only me but a Shem says no lot over Adam you're clever though not because he's going to be bored the translation is not it's not good for a man to be by himself a man a woman a human being a human so it's not doesn't mean that it's not good for him to be by himself because he's going to be sad the board no it's not good for him to be themselves because he's not going to be able to refine himself I can only work with myself and refine myself and I have somebody that is reflecting reflecting me and somebody that it's called a zoo lot gelato somebody's that is not me I will never be able to refine myself if I don't stand in front of another person because if I'm rude the person in front of me is gonna tell me I'm sorry you're rude and then it means I have to work on myself and if I have a problem with anger or patience or judgmental the person in front of me is gonna reflect that on me so I'd be able to say oh you know I have a problem with judging people wrong I have to work on myself that's the root the essence why sham says it's not good for men to be by himself why because he's never going to grow and if I put a mirror in front of him that's not gonna work the man needs to see that when I insult somebody when i insult my kid the kid will be upset and he will run to the room and cry and if I didn't get that something's wrong with me I need to see oh my gosh my words were hurtful and now another person is sad because of me and I need to make a change I need to control my mouth I need to control my my words I need to be sensitive with my words and the next day instead of insulting the child of the person I will complement them you did great you are amazing you this you're that so Shem puts people in front of me it's called a relationship so I can refine myself when the relationship is good there's nothing better than that when the relationship is bad this is the nega this is the lesion that you can't stand it this is the worst torture in this world is to be stuck in a bad relationship that I can't stand it and some people deal with these relationships for 20 30 40 years with a child with a partner with a spouse yes III I call it torture I don't want to say punishment but it's it's the the worst thing one can experience after hospital my sickness so comes the month of Tishrei and teaches me that I have all the powers and all the tools to lay down the foundation that a my connection to the Torah will be healthy which in itself will cause me unbelievable happiness and more than that my relationships hashem there's no mistake that i was married to who a married two and my parents who are my parents are my siblings and it's not that it's not that a shame ran out of people and he's like okay i'll put you in this family everything is precisely calculated and if i have not good relationship with a parent or child or there's a reason for that there's a it's a shame telling me in other words that's what i need you to work on and that's what I need you to correct now it doesn't mean that one is going to necessarily be able to do it in this world but at least they have the awareness and they're trying and they're doing an effort so because sometimes it's a one-way street you can try and try and try and the other side is not willing to do anything and nothing is gonna come out of that but at least you need to know where and where to put your energy and work on what you need to work on so if you want to look at it just one last thing if you want to look at it in a very personal level now I'm talking about the relationship between me and person but there's also the relationship between me and myself you'll remain myself and if I want to look at in a very personal deep way then I can refine the touch so to say the connection between me and my soul because the real me is my soul but I also have a body and I have thoughts and I have desires and I have all sorts of ideas and whatever it is and I need to have a good communication with my soul if I don't have a good communication with my soul I will be lost in this world because my soul is my GPS my guide because the soul is attached to a Shem so it sees everything it knows everything if I don't build a relationship with my soul then I will be completely out of touch and this is creating a bridge of contact between me and my soul that can be done only when I pray when I pray when I do my meditation my hit Buddha dudes my hit upon a note whatever type of meditation that I find to be more applicable a prayer connected to me but either way I have to also take this month to create a good connection with my soul that my soul will be aligned with my body the end of the day if my body is not aligned well with my soul there's gonna be a lot of problems it can be consummated on physical problems emotional problems spiritual problem is because the soul in the body and they have to be aligned with each other so regardless to that as a side note that one needs to build a healthy relationship with my soul that of course can only be done through Torah and mitzvot and prayer when I pray praying is also a form of meditation as I align my body and my soul so my body will start following what the soul needs because the soul doesn't need the food and a lot of food it's a little bit of food it doesn't need too much sleep it doesn't need too much physical pleasures it so actually doesn't like that the soul needs more spiritual pleasures the soul gets much more benefit from one hour sitting and learning Torah than watching one hour a movie maybe the body enjoys the movie the soul doesn't enjoy the movie and so enjoys this one hour of Torah so I have to align my soul and my body together and again the month of Tishrei since is that when I research the system what's when I start all over and again it's not the beginning of the year it's just left it's actually the middle of the year it's exactly six months after the Sun our sages teaches that the world was may be created in Tishrei but the neshamah of the world was created in the sun and the month of Nisan in the sixth month between Nissan and tshe is the preparation for the physical world to start evolving and now I have another half a year after this ray till a dhow to put it into action to put everything that I prepared for into action-masala shame we should we should really take advantage of this month to get attached and to be connected to the Torah in the most deepest way that I can and there's not a shame if I do my my my work the right way then by default the Shem is gonna bless me but I'm gonna be able to feel this blessing I'm gonna be able to open this channel of abundance that comes Eden is pleasure and also heaven gonna then is called I mean the Garden of Eden is the gun of Eden it's the garden in it then and then is a very high level and teachings of Kabbalah explains that Eden is a very high level of the sweetness of meticles and I want to be able to pull from that GaN Eden this river like the in the in the book of bellusci that it's talking about from the the gun from the garden the four rivers came out that the rivers they represent this abundance and this is the time when I can reach a very high level in this level of Eden to pull out this abundance and that's where we bless each other and we asking for a shame to have a blessed year of happiness and success and health and have raksha my God fearing and love to shame and everything in this world the positive should be in as other shame we should take advantage of the months the right way and if we do that then we will definitely feel the pleasure and abundance coming from the kadosh ball and we should try our best and to go even beyond our limits that our shame o blesses with the ultimate pleasure to seeing the Ghanaian in this world and we see that very soon and machine is going to come and we see how the godly revelation can we also be in this world as other share measure to be blessed with a very special special happy healthy here [Music] you [Music] you [Music]