The secrets of Kabbalah behind the month of Tamuz - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] [Applause] so a few days ago we celebrated thees of the month of deuz and as we do every month we learn a little bit about the character traits and the power and a little bit more of a deeper meaning of the actual month and uh this month is called tamuz and it's a very very unique month first of all we know it says in the Zohar that there are three months in the year that the is very vulnerable meaning that there's not much of a protection so to say going on and these three months are tamuz a and Tet if you remember init we mentioned that too and next month after tamuz comes these are the three months that the the protection so to say is a little bit concealed the is more hidden in these three months now what does it really mean it means that we are more exposed to Danger so to say it's almost like when something is not covered then it's more exposed you go into the Sun and you don't put sunscreen you're more exposed to the dangers of the sun same thing here in these three months then the so to say the feminine aspect of the Divine is hidden and we have much less protection which you can see by history that in the month of tamuz and we also always have all sorts of disasters so we want to look at the positive side and not the negative side because this if is a very extreme negative then must be also a very extreme positive that's usually how it works so one can look at these months as a very negative time but one can also look at these months what's on the positive side can be achieved the same way that we had disasters in this month for example the 17 of tamuz twice the walls of Y were were destroyed in a the destruction of the temple twice the 17th of Theus that we're going to be celebrating this year this month is not we celebrate I mean celebrating is I I think sounds something positive but uh we're commemorating we commemorating the breaking of the walls of yush but even if you go before that the 17th of tamuz is when the golden calf sin happened so if you go even more further back so if you want to look at the negative part of it is yes they they worshiped the idol and they had the sin of the golden calf that up until until today we're suffering from it but if you want to look at the positive side of it minutes before the sin of the golden calf was exposed mosu came down to to the from the mountain with the tablets so you can always look at something very negative and say Yes 17th of tamuz is a very bad day because that's when the golden calf happened and we up until today we're suffering yeah but on the 17th of tamuz also the tablets came down and up until today these tablets are in the Holy Arc even the broken part tablets are also placed in the Holy Ark and these tablets really are the source of our life because when mosu came down this is the the live letter of hasem this is engraved by Hashem so one thing that we want to talk about is today is the concept of how you look at things because if you remember every month there's a certain character trait a a sense to the month and the sense of this month is the sense of seeing the sense of sight and in the sense there are two aspects if you remember in one of our classes I don't even remember when exactly it was we talked about why we have two eyes when we have many organs we have one and some of the organs and body parts we have two and we mentioned that the reason why we have two eyes CU one eye is looking out and one eye is looking in same here in the sense of the month of tamuz the sense of seeing there's always going to be seeing in a very external way and then seeing in an internal way so before we get to that just a little bit about the month first of all the sign of the month is Cancer is San and we're going to get to that because we have a a very deep meaning I mean when we when Hashem decided which H sign will present the month there's a hidden meaning behind it now another thing that makes the month very unique and special is if you remember every month I mention which star is controlling the month but most of the month 10 months of the year are controlled by the by it's one star controlling two months because we go by it's not a star it's a planet I'm sorry I'm saying star in in Hebrew we call it the star kav in English the right way is to say is a planet and not a star all the months are controlled by a planet but all the planets control two months the only two months that are controlled by one planet is tamuz which is controlled by the moon and a that is controlled by the Sun so these are the two months that they have one planet meaning that it has double power that's why I said that if you want to look at the negative side there's a lot of negative in the month of tamuz but on the positive side we have double power that when somebody wants to achieve something on tamuz this is a very powerful month it's actually a very powerful month to achieve something it's not necessarily the right month to do certain things like traveling or take on yourself big decisions signing contracts and so forth but in regards to the spiritual work one can do it's a very powerful that can be achieved now the sign of the month is San is cancer which is a month that the element of it is water and the water the source of water comes from the SPH of Bina which comes in in an abundance but also the negative part of it is it's a very sensitive and very emotional month and too much of water can be very destructive and the element of water it's represents the growth of too much pleasures and when a person has a very strong Parts in them from the element of water that person will be very into physical Pleasures usually how it works is that we are all built from these four elements but we're always going to have one element that is dominating one element that is least uh do Le power in it and then two elements that are equal so a person that has a lot of fire in him then the person will have a problem with anger problems with with hate jealousy all these negative character traits on the positive side a lot of excitement which the excitement can be something positive but people who have a dominating element of water their their entire being is going to be evolved around around Pleasures you see sometimes people they veryy into their physical Pleasures they go twice a week to wine tasting and they like dining and they like constantly getting these little pleasures which is sometimes it's okay but in a lot of cases it's not okay so this month the sign has the element of water so it's the dangerous part of it that one can fall into a lot of Temptations into too much pleasure now in the book of formation in seph it's talking about that the the the planet the planet of the moon was created in the letter T and the the sign itself the sign of San of the cancer was created with the letter which and T very similar in how we write them the only difference between the T and the that the T has a little chup chick on the bottom on the left that pulls it out a little bit to take it a little bit out of its H course but they both represent something equal that they have three walls but the opening is on the bottom and not on the sides like other letters like a cff or a bit that the opening is from the side here the opening is from the bottom meaning that it's shalom it's it's a has a strong potential for things to fall down into the domain of un unholiness that's why in these months was the ability of falling into destruction and to despair like tshav and the 17th of of of tamuz and so forth now there's a lot to talk about this month I mainly want to talk today about the sense of seeing and there are two types of vision coming from our sense of seeing an external Vision external which is called is that I see things on they external which is a very low level of looking at things and then there's a internal Vision that I look beyond the external part in to something that is already hidden now this is a strict Prohibition in the Torah that we mention it twice a day and if you're lucky then you mention it three times a day in we say you should not go after your heart and we can't look go after our our eyes meaning that we see something right away we want we want it we desire it it says about the eyes that not means that I once something that doesn't really belong to me in a more deeper level is that I judge something that has nothing to do with me that I look at something that I shouldn't look at now there are you can take it to the literal level and you're not allowed to look at and certain things something that is not modest but if I want to take it to a more deeper level most people Unfortunately they have a very bad character trait that is called jealousy that you look at something that belongs to somebody else and you start having these feelings of why don't I have that why they have it and not me how come they they he she is able to do it and not me and it develops a lot of jealousy so talk about judging give an example of judging judging is that you can look at somebody and they behave in a certain way and you judge and say look how they're behaving disgusting but you don't really know what's going on maybe the person is going through a very bad periods and and then they you caught them on the last moment and they just said something and you one can judge them very very wrong and our sages say don't judge a person before you find yourself in their position it's very easy to judge a person so the vision is one of the most sensitive senses that we have in our in our in our system it's called the and this in this month the this sense is very very empowered very interestingly also the tribe of the month is the tribe of ruen which the ruen himself comes from the concept of seeing in his name Ben see there's a son there's a boy so where we are very judgmental creatures and we judge everything according to what we see and 90% of what we see is not the truth and we derive information based on our vision and most of the emphasis in our Behavior goes on the external part and not the internal part and all of this is the negative part of the vision and therefore the prohibition not to look at something is not NE necessarily not to look at something that is inappropriate or or immodest rather is how am I looking at it and what is it doing how is it affecting me of course when I look at something that is improper or not modest it does affect me it affects me very negative but this is in a very external way we want to more concentrate on the on the in Eternal parts of the vision now unfortunately we seen a lot with looking at the wrong place the tun the fixing of it is actually looking at things in a positive way but in a very internal way a lot of people they have a problem in a failing in looking at what's called forbidden sites you're not allowed to look at these things and it does damage us believe it or not I mean I know usually men are more aware of not looking at something in inappropriate but also a woman should be very careful in looking at inappropriate things and things that are immodest and and improper because what it does is it affects the internal part of our being when I'm looking at something that is not good for example we have an extra cautious that when a woman is pregnant she should not look at in appropriate things and even at things that are not Kosher not to go to a zoo and look at uncer animals not not to look at things that are are not pure we also have something that we that we do that even kids till a certain age for example with our babies we don't buy them stuffed animals that are not Kosher and the the you know covers or the blankets or the clothes we we don't buy with teddy bears on it and lizards and turtles and all these things that are not Kosher it might sound something very very minor but believe it not whatever your eyes see they register and they right away transfer the data into your Nish that's why you see that many of the sadim they don't look at things they they either they always have their heads down they they they look down they don't look directly at things because when I see something it can damage damage my my my spiritual part of my sight and unfortunately when I fail in that then it it does a certain damage and I have to to do a tun the tun for that is to start knowing how to move my my staring into something more inner than something more external and there's a very big difference between it looking at something and staring at it and I can look at something but I don't really see what's in front of me I see the image but I'm not looking into it I'm not dissecting it now here it's already compared to two two two things that the external vision goes on the body and the internal vision goes on the soul one needs to get used to the internal vision and not the external vision and when one thing that we fa a lot is judging things we look at something and right away we judge it and it doesn't have to be judging a person sometimes it's judging a situation I get caught in a certain situation and I analyze the situation based on what I see and I judge the situation and sometimes it can be something very good for a quick example if you remember on Sunday I told you how on the way to the airport last Thursday I I had a car accident and I missed my flight so I guess you didn't hear the story so on the way to the airport last Thursday uh a car almost hit me and I moved the my car strong very sharp to the left so he's not going to hit hit me and my wheels hit the curves the curve and both tires exploded so I found myself stuck on the highway for 3 hours and missing my flight of course so on the surface I could look at the situation I took pictures I took pictures of everything because I needed it for the insurance that they're not going to Shalom you know say I did something wrong not only that in order for me to make sure that the airline is not taking money from me I wanted to take pictures of showing listen I had an accident I called the the airline right away because I already checked in and technically I'm already checked in so I had to call them and tell them I had a car accident so they at least they didn't charge me so I took pictures so when you look at the pictures you can judge the situation wow a car accident being on the highway for 3 hours missing the flight sweating getting my clothes all dirty you can look at it and Jud in a very negative way but you can also look at it and judge it and say wow hasem is so kind maybe he stopped stopped me from going into a big car accident or Shalom something even bigger you know how many problems in London you know literally in the days when I was there there were riots and and and violence in Jewish neighborhoods so you never know how hasem sometimes does sometimes hasem stops you from preventing you to getting somewhere and more than that yesterday I went again to the doctor to work on my back and I told him what happened so he says why do you think you were got stuck on the highway for two hours so I told him I must have had to do some type of a tun in this place in the world must be the that in this place in the world a Jew had to stop and read some and I was eating I said I was had I had a lot a very long time to do it B I said must have been that in this place in the world had to be cleaning a little bit and hasem says you'll be the one who's going to sit there I ate I said blessings so if we don't know how what Hashem does sometimes sometimes something looks very negative but inside is hitting a very precious gem and the way how I look at things I can bring me to judge something in a very negative way therefore our sages say always always judge everything to to something positive because nothing that Hashem does is negative even you know I'll give you an example with my my brother and sister in-law that their son became sick and it seemed on the surface something very negative but when they went to the doctor my sister-in-law is a physician assistant and the doctor uh was talking to her and he hired her and she got a very good job so a very very good job so one might say oh look at the disaster the child was sick the child was okay had a little bit of a whatever it was but the sickness brought you to the doctor to get a good job so you can look at everything negative and you can look at everything positive so the point is that we have to look at things without staring this is the the point is that we constantly have things in front of us and almost anything that I would look at will affect me and in most cases it will affect me me negative if I'm going to look at my bank account it's going to affect me negative it's going to put me in in not in a good mood if I'm going to look almost in anything that it's in my life it's going to affect me in a negative way because I'm looking at a very external way and a very external part if I look at my mail it's it's pretty negative when I open the mail there bills and all sorts of other things that I don't want to hear so that's when I focus on the external part if I focus on the internal part in most cases it's not going to affect me in a negative way now we learn something very interesting that when they received the Torah in Mount Si it said that they saw the sounds and they heard the vision which is a very weird thing to understand what mean they saw the sound because they saw everything in a very internal way they didn't see the the external part they saw the the the internal part of of the sound and this is the month where the vision the power of the vision is empowered now in the month of tamuz there's like I said we we're commemorating the 17th day of tamuz which is a very negative thing twice the walls of yush were broken go a thousand years before that not exactly a thousand but about a thousand years before that that's the day when the golden calf the sin of the golden calf happened like I said in the beginning you can look at it as something very negative a sin idol worship a punishment that up until today we're suffering but minutes before that happened mosu came down from the mountain with the tablets and you can I said in the beginning we celebrate not for not for it's not by chance that I said celebrating because very soon when mashia is going to come all these days are going to be a holiday the 10 ofet these days are going to become a holiday going to become a celebration the reason why we cele why I said celebrating because before the disaster that happened something positive happened so I can now take the day of the 17 of tamuz and mourn and commemorate the destruction of the walls and I can say you know what I choose to celebrate the fact that Moshe rinu came down from the mountain with a tablets and he brought down to the world godliness into this world he brought life into the world because the Torah is is about giving life the golden calf brought death to the world but the Torah that came before that brings life into the world I chose to celebrate the fact that mosu came down with the tablets and not to commemorate the destruction that's very very h limited very soon we're going to get back to the Holy Temple and there's not we're not going to need to celebrate the destruction anymore so I can choose to look at something very in a very external way and bring me into to to sadness and I can look at something very positive and look at what's inside what's hidden in it and look at the positive part of it now the connection I said that the the the the tribe of the man is the tribe of ruen and there's always a connection first of all the tribe the power of ruen is the power of sight which we can see it in his name rubben but we're also going to we're going to read it very soon when the tribes went into Israel there are two tribes that they did not want to go and settle in Israel and these are the tribes of Ren and the tribe of God on the way to Israel they went around the area of Syria and they're like ooh that's a pretty nice land here L of beautiful mountains and it's very luscious and water and they came to mosenu and said listen we don't want to go into Israel we want to stay here and in a very superficial way they said it's good for our cattle it's good for our flocks they had a lot of cattle which caused a little bit of a fight because all the rest of the tribes are like wait a minute we're going into war you don't want to go into war with us even mosenu didn't like the fact that they didn't want to go into the land so they said no no no no we're not we're backing out of the war we will leave our wives and kids behind and we'll join the war we're going to fight but we want to stay back and the the negative part of this decision is that before even going into the land of Israel they saw that land and said that's a good land for us and mosha says how do do you know you didn't even see what's on the other side maybe there's something better on the other side the decision was that that's the land that they got later on David conquered part of this land that's why biblically that land is part of Isel that even for the rules of what's called masot and truma and all the rest of the rules that have that come with with the Agriculture and the land this part where David conquered are are obligated in m so and and and many other things but the the the sin so to say because in a very refined way it is a type of a sin they judged the land before they even saw the other part they said no this is good for us and this is something that we fail with all the time is that we see something it excites us on the external part and we judge oh that's what I want but how do you know that's really what you want maybe it's not good for you maybe there's something even better for you why why you very quick to judge now a very interesting connection is that the sign of the month is Cancer I don't know if that's how you call it in English but in Hebrew you call it San so San is a very negative thing it's a it's a disease that's unfortunately many people have to battle very interestingly AB ainu already knew about this disease AB ainu was a very big mbal he knew about everything and he knew about this disease this disease is not a new disease this disease is basically that the cells are multiplying in a very negative way and they kill other cells when they take over if you looking at the physical part of the disease then that's what it does that infected cells they kill healthy cells and they they multiply and they grow if you're looking at the spiritual part of this disease is that's what we do in a spiritual level is we infect positive things in our life with negative things from our life that shouldn't affect them so I can take something negative in my life something happen throughout the day and instead of isolating it and keeping it where it is it starts affecting my day I will get bad news in the morning instead of isolating this news and keeping it where it belongs it starts affecting my mood it starts affecting my relationship it starts affecting my studies my work everything why cuz in the morning I got bad news so I'm now upset the whole day so I'm not in a mood I'm I'm I'm grouchy so I go to work I start screaming at my co-workers I start screaming at my wife I start screaming at my kids on the street I'll start blowing the horn why cuz somebody gave me some bad news in the morning that I should have isolated and put it aside okay that's what it is why am I letting it affect me now I can't sleep I can't eat sometimes somebody does something to you a whole week you don't sleep why are you letting that thing affect your sleep that should be isolated and said okay I I'll deal with this negative thing but why should it affect me and 99% people the something negative in their life affects them this is the exact manifestation of the spiritual disease of cancer that I'm taking healthy cells and I'm allowing bad cells to infect them so in this word cancer San we can learn something very very interesting a movie in Hebrew is called seret which it's a very similar to the word San just without the noon and S it is a movie in our generation there's a common term that especially in Israel of the people that they live in some fantasy in Hebrew they say he lives in a movie and most people they live in a movie they live in some fantasy they don't live with their feet on the ground they when it comes to business they already counting the millions before they even have the the corporation and when it comes to many things most people are living in some fantasy land and they're not realistic and they're not grounded but more than that the living in the in in this in in this term living in a movie living in the this is a very common term here in Israel is when a person is very disconnected from the reality that he sees things in a very external way and not in a in in the real way this happens a lot when people go on dates they don't look at the character traits of the other person how if the person is good-hearted if what's their Vision how they see the world they're looking how the how the face looks how the car looks the physical how much money is in the bank account which is a very external way of visioning something now if you're taking the the the word San and you cut it in half usually mean when you cut something in half it means you want to anol it you want to cut it you take the word San and you cut it in half you get two words s s means to remove and tan is in Aramaic it's a body and also in Aramaic is something that is like a chaos something chaotic the word Tan in Hebrew if you if you want to to to pull a word out of this root is Tina and Tina is to hold Grudge to have anger to hold something so in this month I have the potential of chaos and I have the potential of a very negative thing of a disease like a San and let something bubble and growing and creating something very chaotic which will originate in how I see something I can see something in a very negative way and we know what it's going to do it's going to start bubbling and empowering the negative aspect in it but I can completely rip it into half completely you know I don't know if you noticed many times when people go to a grave of a sadik they write a letter it's called a pan pan is an acronym of P nees you see it it's pretty common people go to many grave sites they write a letter and in some grave sites it's very common that you rip the letter and you take the pieces of the letter and you throw it into the grave and one time uh when I saw this action I was like what's I understand the letter but why you rip it why do you rip the letter just throw it in and the explanation to that is when I rip something then I destroy the existence of it if I get now a a letter that I don't like I will rip it or if I want to destroy my credit card number or something I will rip it into many many pieces in the spiritual level when I go to a grave of vadik and I rip my letter is basically saying now this problem that I wrote doesn't belong to me anymore now it belong here now it belongs to you I give over the problem now to the sadic to deal with it I don't know how to deal with it same way of a person I have a disagreement with somebody I can't work out the disagreement then I will take the disagreement to a judge I don't know how to come to to a verdict here so I'm giving the problem now to the judge now the judge is looking at it is interrogating me interrogating the other person and decides what to do because I can't do that so same thing here in the spiritual level when I go to a sadik that's why it is a custom that we write a letter to the sadic and then rip it because by the action of ripping I'm giving now I'm transferring now the problem to somebody else so in my life when I want to get rid of something I would rip it I don't just throw it down to the garbage here the same same idea the potential of the month is a a chaotic month it's a month that has a great potential for problems that's why our sages say don't travel don't get into contracts don't get into agreements don't do big things because if you're not directing the energy to the right place it will end up as a disaster the positive part of it that it's such a powerful Mar that if you know how to direct the energy into the positive side it's a MCH that you can achieve triple than when you were able to achieve any other MCH it actually is a very potential very powerful month a I got double power from the planet that is controlling the month which is the moon this is two like I told you there are two months that are controlled by one planet and and they're not splitting the power with another month so this is a very very powerful month most people look at it as a negative month but the the main thing that I want to carry out in this month that I want you to leave with this in this class is it's all how you're looking at something you can look at at a cup and the famous quote you can look at the empty part of the cup and you can look at the full part of the cup it's all how I look at something and I can look at something in a negative way and look at something in a very positive way and this is the sense of r that if I start looking at everything in a positive way in this month then everything that I'll do in this month will be successful and be powerful if I look at this month at a very negative month and everything that'll do in this month will be negative but the power to take from that because I can tap into this Source this sense the power of the month that I S to say charge my senses for the rest of the year every month if I tap into the energy it's almost like charging my batteries before I go on a trip I charge my battery I know I'm going to now the phone the battery phone is going to last me the whole trip the battery of the camera or whatever it is so every month I'm charging one aspect one compartment in my spiritual battery and in the month of Tam is is the battery that I'm charging is the ability to look at something and to to remove the negative and to see the positive most people they see the negative right away the negative is what's empowered it's the positive that is concealed and Hashem says listen everything that I'm going to give you is going to be covered with a negative wrap Hashem doesn't give a a nice wrappings it gives beautiful presents but hasem is horrible in wrapping them he has a he has a reason for that it's this the other side of Holiness that will wrap the prison real real nice with glitter sparklings and all sorts of ribbons and you're like wow but inside is empty this works on kidss you know kids you know why kids all their toys and their lollipops and it's all wrapped real nice and the kids you go into like the $1 store everything breaks after a minute but it's it's it's it's all junk but it's wrapped nice and the kids go in and they're like wow they just see the colors so the marketing part here is very very powerful because it's covered with with colors but it's junk it breaks after a minute go into a a candy store all the candies are colorful and sparkly but it's junk it's inside is just sugar and food coloring and chemicals going to a health food store it's all brown it's all brown and gray and like there's no colors and like that it doesn't look so exciting but because it's AIT because it's truth and the truth is not covered with a lie what I want to take from this month is to understand that this world is covered with a lie the zor calls this world Alik the world of deception the world of lie that everything is covered with a lie now it's in my power to look at something now how am I looking at it am I looking at it in a very external way or am I looking in a very internal way in a very sensitive way if I'm going to look at it in a very external way I'm going to judge it completely wrong most likely I'm going to fail in my judgment most likely it will affect me in a negative way if I look at something and I judge it very positively then I will be able to derive the truth out of it which in most cases it will benefit me to a much positive way and it all boils down in how I see things I can see the good in every person I can see the good in every situation and the result will be that I will be carrying this positive energy with me constantly when I judge something the wrong way what I do is I impa the negativity in it now the teachings of explains based on the teachings of the B why is it so bad to say why is it such a bad Sin I'm actually saying the truth you should give me credit for not lying the B explains that when I say yes I am saying the truth but I'm empowering that power in that person so if I say on a person he's such a thief then I'm giving power to the attribute to the to the concept of that person being a thief I'm empowering it in him if I say that person is a liar then I take this character trait of lying in him and I'm pumping it I'm making it stronger that's why it's good to take it to the complete opposite and to you you have a child you call your child that he is such a sadik you're such a good person you to to empower it now on the same level this is with my words it's in the same exact things with my eyesight I can look at something and judge it completely negative what I do is I'm taking this negative energy and I'm placing it on the people that I'm judging I'm empowering this negativity in this person by judging the person by saying look at that person how they treats his wife so disgusting look at that person how cheap he is that person came to ask for charity and he went like that by me judging the person in such a negative way I'm actually taking this this wrap of negativity and putting it on that person so by even looking at something in a negative way a it's hurting me because I take this negativity into me but I'm also taking this power and putting it on somebody else that's why the right way is to constantly judge a person favorably and you will see that 99% of the time when you judge some somebody negatively you'll find out that you wrong because the person didn't mean to or it didn't seem like it or whatever it is so we want to take from this month not to look at the negative part of the month many people are like no this month is very negative don't do this don't do that I'm leaving again on a tour in a week and in two weeks and a half and it falls in the 3 weeks in the beginning I was like you know what I don't want to travel on the 3 weeks but I was like you know what no there's nothing negative here it's a powerful month it's a it's a month that if I would look at it it as a negative month then it will be negative but if I look at it as a powerful month of making changes and taking things to a completely positive side I can actually achieve much better in this month now the decision to go on the trip is not because I want to make things negative because that's the only time that I can fly but this is a perfect example of saying yes I can look at it NE as something negative and say no I can look it as positive is I can look at it as a very negative Way NE negative day that the walls of Y were destroyed but I can say no before that mosu came down from the mountain with the tablet it's a very positive day I actually want to turn the sadness into SIM into happiness I can take any situation and derive the positive out of it and see no this is positive so the point that I want to make emphasize in this month is the power of seeing and it's in my ability in my power power how am I looking at something and I have the power of changing the reality I can look at something and be very negative you know when I was stuck on the highway last week and the person that was helping me throughout the trip I called him because he had you know access to phone numbers and everything and and he was telling me you sound so calm and I was like why why why would I be anything but calm what is it going to help me if I'm starting to freak out on the on the highway and he was like wow I mean I would lose it I would be losing it in a foreign country on a highway Rush Hour nobody's stopping and I was like no I can look at it as a very negative thing and what will be I will start getting uptight I will start getting nervous I will start being afraid and and and and what good would it be I can look at it no Hashem put me here he stops me there's a reason for that and I can look at it in a completely positive thing and and it's very easy to look at something in a negative way anything that happens to in your life right away you can wrap it with something very negative but that's by looking at it in a very external way of looking at something you can dissect something and look at just one two three steps more deeper and say must be something positive here because nothing bad comes from hasem there's no such a thing there's no such a thing that hm does something negative a few years ago one of my kids one of my boys he when he was a little boy he was 2 years old he was very not clumsy but I don't know the word for it but he clumsy okay he continues to fall and yeah his legs were a little bit crooked so he didn't walk so well and one time he fell down the stairs and I'm sitting and I'm just seeing the scene falling and and and it was a common thing he always used to fall and at some point used to get to me like stop falling already like like all the time you're falling anyways he fell down the stairs so I run to him and he's crying and I'm holding him and the first thing that I do I I start touching let's see if this everything is in is there and I started touching his head to see ifom something happened and as I'm touching his head I feel a little bump in the back of the head right over here and he had a tick stuck in his head a tick probably played in the garden and a tick went onto him and this is very dangerous you know the ticks in New York they have lime disease on the entire Eastern Seaboard the ticks are dangerous there because unfortunately the American government they did some experiment to some type of a uh medication or an anti- drug and it's spread out and the entire Eastern Seaboard they have this lime disease the lime disease is not coming from Animals by the way it's coming from a bad experiment that the American government did and the Animals just carry it but I don't know don't know all the details but that's not the point the point is that the the ticks in New York are dangerous we have a friend that we know she has lyme disease and she has she can't cure it so anyways long story short we find a tick in his head and I would never find it even if you shampu the head because it was really really in the back over here long story short we were able to see that there a we took him to the doctor the doctor took it took it out burnt the area AB today look at ysep he has a a bold part in the back look look at his head our ysf long story short I was like look at that it seemed like something very negative if he wouldn't fall and I would not touch his head that tick would be there for days or weeks andom look how something bad could could have developed it was probably couple hours he came back from the kindergarten and and the tick was on him isn't that big you yeah yeah it was a it was uh probably 4 mm 4 5 mm I mean ticks can go to become very big it was like a little pimple that if I would not do that if I he if he would not fall I will never do that you would shampoo the head and and he was 2 years old he had long hair so you don't really feel it literally Hashem pushed him down the stairs so I can feel the tick in front of me so it just comes to show you that sometimes yeah it was a very negative thing seeing a 2-year-old falling down the stairs if my wife would see that she would faint on the spot but you see how hasem is so kind so pushes you sometimes instead of you saying wait a minute let me see if I have a tick if I have something negative something I right away I whine why' you push me why you why are you doing something so negative there's no such a thing as a negative thing Hashem does just orchestras things in a way that he wants you to open your eyes and you open your eyes spiritually and this is what we want to concentrate on this month is the power of how am I judging everything that hasm puts in front of me the right way not judging it completely wrong and needless to say that one should take into consideration that my life I have to be realistic I can't live in this movie that most people really live in a movie that's that's that's that things are going to happen just because they're going to happen one needs to see things and this is totally connected to the vision because I have to see how a situation is evolving and to know to judge you the right way and how to apply the right decisions to make sure that this thing Evol evolves into a positive way so we should have a very positive month with a very positive outcome it's a very powerful month it's a month to really make a de a strong decision and to pursue it it's a month that's anything that I will put my mind in a very positive way can be achieved of course anything but it's all in the vision because even you saying you can look at somebody that Shalom is sick and be like oh my gosh it's a tragedy and I need to find a different doctor and where am I going to get raise money for this and you can look at something where look at it in a positive way and sometimes just the thought and the intention and saying no he will be healed that person has nothing's wrong it will be healed everything will be good this is also judging the situation when I was flat on my back for 5 days I told you I had 50 advisers every adviser told me something else put your feet up put your feet down raise your hands like this lie like that don't do this don't do that put cold water hot water warm water luk warm water don't need I had a lot of advisors and all the advisers were telling me the same thing don't go to London this is a sign from Hashem not to cancel your trip and I was like no that is deriving something very negative from the situation why should I that should not be this what should stop me so if I would sit in bed the whole week and be like Oh I'm in bed and I can't move and I'm in pain and I can't I can't even study I can't even enjoy the rest everybody told me no hem wants you to rest I said if Hashem wanted me to rest he would send me to Tahiti and sit on a a on a deure in the beach not flat on my back with pain that's not a vacation so I I didn't buy the the the version of hasem wants you to rest has wanted me to rest he would add three hours to the day I would have more 3 hours to sleep so Hashem that wasn't his intention Hashem wanted me to appreciate the fact that I My Body Works that I can think for 5 days and say wow I'm not appreciative enough and I know thank Hashem often for the fact that my hands can move and I can move so the point is that it's all about how you look at things my not that I'm different or special the entire five days that I was flat on my back I looked at it it was positive okay there's nothing bad come out from here and that's the the that's the attitude everybody has to have is looking at things in a very internal way in a deep way not in the external part of it looking at in in everything is in in an internal part in a very sensitive and spiritual way and if I acquire that and if I'm able to apply that then my life is going to look completely different how I'm going to see things are going to be completely completely different I'm not going to be upset at people I'm not going to be angry at situations I'm not going to see the negative and everything I'm going to see the positive and when I see the positive I empower the positive so I actually change the situation completely if I empower the negative then of course it's going to be negative and then I go into this movie this is this whole concept I'm living in a movie oh he W says look at the negative look at the positive you will empower the positive so this is the month where I can actually Empower it this is the month that I can actually utilize it and not only that to carry carry it with me to the till for the rest of the year and that's why our sages say these days very soon Mas come are going to transform from morning days into celebration May the days of mour will become a celebration so why should I wait till mashiah comes he might not come today shalom shalom maybe he might not even come tomorrow I don't know what's stalling him maybe maybe must be a good reason but the point is why should I wait for for mashia to come for everything to be positive I can already think already now everything's positive and you know if I think negative because I'm still an exile I'm going to still continue being an exile so B we should have a beautiful beautiful month beautiful successful prosperous month with a lot of success and to know that anything NE negative can be transformed into positive and this is a very asici time to transform negative things into the positive cuz I do have that power and I have the power from the from the Moon the the moon signifies what's called H rebirth renew it the moon renews itself constantly so every situation I can look at it how it's diminishing and becoming darker and I can look at the positive part how it's growing and growing becoming bigger that's the the vision that I have to have this month that's what I have to consider on this month be it will turn to days of happiness and beem we should see mashia very very soon have a beautiful beautiful beautiful [Music] month [Music]