The secrets of Kabbalah behind the month of Av - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] so we're in the month of of which seemingly is a negative month when you tell people about the month of a it has a negative connotation the destruction and many bad things have happened in the month of a but really when you're looking at the month it's only the beginning of the month that is supposedly negative but the rest of the month is actually positive and there are two dates in the year that our sages say that we never had such great days and one of them is Yim and the other one is the 15th day of a to that these are the two days of atonment two days that are very very powerful in our calendar besides the fact that our sages and some of the prophets said that these days will transform to become days of celebration in the near future when mashiah is going to come tab is going to be a day of Celebration and all the fasts that we commemorate the destruction or bad things that happen will turn to to a positive day so really the month of seems to be negative but if you're looking in a very deep way it's actually a very positive man now why the first month of the half is a the negative part and the second month of the half the second half of the month is positive so we know that every month is controlled by a certain Planet the month of a is controlled by the planet by the sun and the month of tamuz last month we learned that the month is controlled by the moon all the other months are controlled by they're sharing a planet the month of tamuz and the month of a they're only controlled by one planet which is tamuz is the moon and a is the sun they don't share a month all the other months they share a planet and the reason why the first part of the month is very very so to say on the exterior is very negative is because it's controlled by the sun now the sun in one way can be very healing the word Sun comes from the word in Hebrew sheemish but the word sheemish comes from the word Lees to serve now the sun also has another name in Hebrew it's called K comes from the attribute of of heat that's already the negative part the Sun that can actually damage and to burn but the month but but the beginning part of the month it's the Sun that is in control and since it's very very powerful then anything that is powerful if you're taking it to the negative side is going to be very destructive if you take for example a a car compared to a bike then a bike Shalom there's an accident it's not so bad in a car it's already a serious damage Dage and if you compare a truck to a car then a truck is much more powerful the more powerful it is yes on the positive side it will benefit you much more but on the negative side the more powerful it is then if shalom it's used in a negative way then it will be much more severe so the sun is very very powerful if it's used in a very negative way it can damage severely but on on the other hand if the Sun is used in the right way our source of energy is the Sun and very soon when mashiah is going to come the source of energy will only be the sun we're not going to have oil and H we're not going to we're not going to create energy from oil coil we're going to create energy either hydraulic energy or or from the Sun solar energy now we're kind of damaging the Earth with digging into the Earth and taking out all the oil and the coils and and coal and all sorts of natural resource from the from the earth and be ruining it in the very near future mashia is going to come our energy will be done mainly solar energy and also now they're starting to develop it is is is a energy from a uh Power from from hydraulic from uh using uh very powerful streams of of rivers they're not doing it now in the United States with u with the Niagara Falls and many other rivers that they use the hydraulic power to create energy but the sun is the source of energy the main source of energy since the sun is so powerful then then also in the negative way it manifests into the world that the first part of the month seems to be very very destructive and very negative but really we're going to talk about today how the essence of it is a very positive thing the other reason why the first part of the month is a is a severe and negative month is because the sign of the month is a li a lion a Leo and the Leo also first of all the Leo represents severity G and the Leo is the sign of Fire when they had the sacrifices on the Altar and the fire came down from the sky to consume it it was in a shape of a lion amazingly we're going to talk in the class after that when it comes to the month of a the prophecy ofel of Ezekiel is talking about the Chariot and in The Chariot is describing also in part of it the the chair that uh that Hashem is sitting on the throne and Each corner has a different face one face is a lion the other face other corner is a eagle other face is a bull and the fourth one is the face of a human but the line is on the front right which is actually representing kindness so the essence of the severity of the lion is a is is a kindness isid but really the line when it manifests into the to the world comes from the side of of severity and that also is represented by the fire so we see that the beginning of the month seems very very negative but after that the month becomes more positive in the book of formation seph it's explaining that the letter that is used to create the month is the letter T which is actually a very POS positive letter and the letter that is used to create the the sun is the letter CF which is also a very positive letter the two combinations of these two very positive letters in the the represent and comes from the of and the letter t comes from the of the Y is the foundation through that Foundation all the energy all the abundance that come through all the SP they have to funnel into this six of the mid that is called the foundation which through this we get the entire substance into this world to the so both of them are very positive letters either way it doesn't matter the if you put the T first or the CF first they're very positive letters now the t comes from the word to good and really the entire essence of the month is good it's a very good month it seems like a very negative month but this is one thing we're going to talk about today and also in the class later how on the external part everything seems very negative but really when you look at something you can see the good in everything and that's the essence of this month is that there is a lot of good in this month now the middle of the month is a very supicious day which is the 15th day of a it's called Tu it's our Jewish Valentine's it's calleda the holiday of love where our sages say that in the olden days the women they used to the single women of course they used to switch dresses and they would go out to the fields dressed all nice and the men would come and and see them and would be a very good date for a for for going out and this is called the the the date of love the the the holiday of love I'm sorry and the reason why it's such a powerful day that our sages in the says there were not not greater days for the Jews for the 15th day of and Yim the the day of atonment the reason why such a special day is because the first part of the month is controlled by the sun and the second second part of the month is controlled by the moon but the the place where they meet the sun is at its H most powerful time and the moon it's in the most powerful state so when they meet together it's two opposites and when two opposites meet together that's the most supicious time for for the unity that's why it's also set to be the date the day of love the the holiday of Love cuz the husband and wife it's two opposites I have a student now that I'm helping him guiding him through his period of dating his future life and he's constantly asking what should I look in my wife in this girl I mean seems like everything is good she's attractive she's smart she's polite and I keep telling you you have to look in what's the opposite of you and if you see very strongly what's the opposite of you in her then you know this is a very good match if it's too parallel that's that's not good has to be a Unity when two opposites come together and they create a Unity that's the ultimate sign of unity and love so and again the TU the nth the 15th of it's called Tu because the the way how we write 15 in the numerical value in the letters we don't write the the the Shalom we don't do that rather you know the first day of the month is alif then bet is the second day when we come to 14 we write udid but when it's 15 we don't write UD and K because we know we don't want to signify the two letters together same thing with the 16 we don't write UD and VAV we write T and so even how you read the dates is two is T and then V which is the beginning of the word to so the entire month is around this word to to is good in Hebrew now there's a that says we find in many verses that Hashem is good but there's a certain verse that it says Hashem to Hashem is good and he only does good with everybody Shem doesn't do anything bad a lot of people say I have a bad situation right now hasem is punishing me or why is AEM being so mean to me as AEM is mean not too long ago somebody Unfortunately they suffered a death and she was very upset and she kept saying Hashem is punishing me and I was I didn't want to say it because it wasn't the appropriate time she was just mourning now her husband but I wanted to say all your life you didn't never believed in hasem you know servant you don't keep the ru the Tor mitv and suddenly when you suffer a loss suddenly hasem is mean so hasem exists in your life what why didn't he exist in your life in the last 40 years only when now unfortunately when you suffer a loss then suddenly hasem is mean now Shalom they suffered another problem so she said again Hashem is punishing me I said oh again you believe in him so you believe in him when things are bad when things are everything is smooth and he's giving you your sustance and your kids and your health and an apartment and a job then he doesn't exist butom when something bad happens suddenly hasem is punishing me and hem is mean so unfortunately many people attribute the negative things to Hashem and the positive things then Hashem is not there I mentioned on Friday uh I don't know if some of you get the messages that I send on Friday but I mention a a story and I'll repeat it for the ones who didn't hear it is that there was once a very rich man that climbed on a tower and when he reached to the roof as he goes out to the roof the door slams behind him and he gets stuck on the roof and he's starting to push the door and the door is locked and he's stuck now on the roof so he goes to the edge and he looks down he starts screaming help help he's so high up nobody's hearing him he doesn't know what to do he's screaming help I'm stuck on the roof help after an hour of screaming he lost his voice already he say okay how am I going to get people's attention he puts his hands in his pockets and there's a bunch of u a bunch of coins so he takes a coin and he throws it down you know the coin falls on the floor nothing he ran out of coins he puts his hand in his pocket and all he finds is bills he pulls out the the the pile of the bills and he's like okay I'm going to throw the small bill so he takes the dollar out and throws it down and the dollar now goes with the wind and up falls in the ground and a person walks and hey look a dollar picks up the dollar H and he walks off the guy's like hello hello hello he throws another dollar and the dollar flies down and falls on the ground another person passes looks down down look a dollar and he keeps on going and he's screaming hello so he ran out a dollar bill so he started throwing the $5 bills the $10 bills the $20 bills then he could left only with the $100 bills but you know he was stuck there then I guess it's going to cost me money so he throws a $100 bill and the dollar bill slowly slowly falls down and falls on the ground and a person comes and wow look $100 puts it in his pocket and keeps on walking and he's like my gosh and he's screaming help and he throws all his $100 bills and everybody takes the bill puts it in their pocket and goes Nobody BD us to look up he ran out of bill so what now is left so he took a little rock there was a rock on the floor he took the Rock and he threw it from from the from the roof and the rock hit somebody on the head then they looked up what are you doing you out of your mind you throwing rocks on me and so the the story comes to tell us that when everything is good in our life when we find $100 bills on the floor we don't look up thinking that somebody from above through it we just oh look I found $100 I found a job I found the house I found a wife I everything oh look I found but when something bad happens and hasem throws a stone from the sky and suddenly it hits me then I look up and starts complaining why are you throwing things on me from above so when things are good we don't attribute it to Hashem and that hem is all the good that happens to me comes from hem something bad happens oh that's when I suddenly look up and I start complaining so really everything that Hashem does for us is good is good for everybody for everything everything that he does is good and everything that he does is coming with a lot of Mercy we just don't see the good in everything we tend to to see something in a very external way but really Hashem is good and everything is good and this is represented with this letter T I told you we have two letters we have the T and we have the the CF but the t is representing the word to and to is good and the first time that we find the word to in the Torah is when hasem saw the light and he took the light this Godly light and he concealed it this is not the light from the sun this is the light that was created on the first day of creation the sun was created on the fourth day but this light that was created on the first day this is a very special light it's called Oran the concealed light that hasem took it aside and hid it and he's going to bring it again out to the world in a very near future and he's going to be giving it to theim but really the first time that we saw the letter the word to in the Torah is when hasem looked at the light and saw that the light is good now the the word good and the let always will come together we see something amazing that in the Ten Commandments it's separated into two tablets in the first part of the tablets there's not going to you're not going to find the letter T in all the Commandments in the five Commandments of the first tablets go through it you'll find all the letters but the letter T because hasem says T is the to is good I know the tablets will break therefore I cannot put the letter t in it because if not they will not break so the first set the first five of The Commandments the first tablet doesn't have the letter t in it and you can go and look in parat and read the Ten Commandments you'll see in the first five there's no letter T but in the second tablets there is the letter T in one place where which says that it should be good for you that's when we find the letter T in the ten commandments so the letter T is a very concealed concealing letter even in the shape of the T we make it like a circle that goes inside itself something that represents what's inside meaning that whatever is concealed whatever is I should say the other way around whatever is good will always be concealed what we see good is not necessarily the ultimate good it's just a cover that looks good but ultimately everything in its Essence is very very positive and very very good it's just concealed and you know it says in the Z that everything that we look upon every look that we look has an external part and has an internal part the internal part is not revealed is always concealed that's why we judge Thing by its cover you can look at something from the outside and would look very very good but the inside is very very very cheap that's something that's in our generation very common on the outside everything looks very good and then you use it for a day or two and it breaks till you find out that it's made in China and you know okay this is on the outside is is very very nice but the inside is is cheap it's junk unfortunately everything in this world has something you can look at the exterior part of it and you can look at the interior most people they just look look at the exterior we don't look at the in interior and the zor explains that there are two types of good in the world the good that is very revealed and the good that is not revealed you can look at something like a fruit and the fruit would look very blushious and very tasty and beautiful color this is a very revealed good but then you can take a zucchini or a a lettuce a a a a leaf of spinach it doesn't look so good but the inside the essence of it is very nutritious and very very good this is just one example with with with the the good that is revealed and the good that is not revealed but the zor explains that the letter T represents the good that is not revealed and in essence everything everything is the goodness of Hashem now we are commemorating in the first part of the the destruction of the temple which we attributed to something very very negative but really the reason why the temple was destroyed besides the sins that that the the the Jews were doing but it was mainly destroyed from one main thing is that we didn't serve hem with happiness as one way of serving AEM that I just doing it like a robot and there's another way of doing it that I'm serving AEM with a lot of sim even Sim is happiness even when things are bad I'm still obligated in serving hem and serving hem with happiness if I serve AEM and I do everything everything in the book I follow but I do it with a sad face and with a heavy heart one might say everything that you do is worthless because you're not doing it happy and sometimes life is hard and unfortunately we all experience hard days and hard times but we're we we we still have to be happy so even though we have to commemorate the destruction of the temple and we're supposed to be sad but I'm still supposed to serve AEM Sim happiness and this is really why the the reason of the destruction came because we didn't serve hem in in in the state of happiness happiness now how do I really reach to the ultimate happiness happiness comes from belief from amuna if I don't have amuna I don't have belief and I don't trust AEM I will never be happy I might be happy for a moment cuz I ate a good meal or I drive a nice car and I bought myself a new shirt but this is not real happiness the real happiness cannot be bought with anything physical this is the mistake of many people they say I'll go on a vacation I'll buy a new car I'll buy new clothes this will bring me happiness yeah will bring you a very uh short happiness a very limited happiness but the real happiness comes from inside and the ultimate happiness comes only when I have belief in Hashem and when something bad happens then I have belief that it came from Hashem it will not throw me off I will still be happy and again doesn't mean I have to be dancing in the streets when I hear bad news but the inside I'm happy I believe that it's coming from the Kos and this happiness comes only from so when something is bad if I want to fix or to to balance myself is working on my on my belief then it will balance it not by trying to to to to comfort myself with all sorts of Pleasures now it says in our our sages they say if you remember when the month of comes we have to increase happiness of comes we have to diminish the happiness now we have to diminish we don't have to diminish the happiness meaning that no parties no music no Smiles on my face rather we have to diminish the things that are not good and positive by happiness so I I always will have things that are not good negative things one person has a weakness with stealing another person has a weakness with a another person has a weakness with they looking to the wrong places every Pro person has some type of a weakness in their they're very judgmental they're very jealous they're very angry whatever it is I have to diminish these unwanted actions how do I do it with s with happiness the only way to battle anything that is negative is only with happiness that's why I always recommend you like certain music then listen to that music half an hour a day just to to Hype you up you you you find something very amusing and funny watch 5 minutes 10 minutes of something funny just that you can crack up for 5 minutes a day doesn't matter what it is even if it's something very silly and even it's something that you would think that it's a waste of time highly recommended to to I'm saying the word crack up but to laugh real real not like to see something that puts you in stitches for 10 minutes doesn't matter what it is even if it's something very very ridiculous or something that is you know that one might say listen this is what this is what makes you laugh yeah that's what makes me laugh I need to laugh a good five minutes that I can't breathe and then I move on and it's extremely healthy to to to have that I I there certain music that gets me very happy and excited so once a day I will play 10 minutes 15 minutes I know it's my you know might not look the most suitable thing but you know I play 10 minutes 15 minutes a day some music that get gets me very happy and very excited because yourish has to be happy your soul has to be happy and you inject this happiness with certain things that make you very excited it's even though it's very external but this arouses also the internal happiness and the reason why our sages say that we have to decrease happiness in a is not decreasing the happiness it's just decreasing and starting to push off the negative things how do I do that with happiness so Sim is one of the most important things that we need to to apply now we always talk about that there every month has a certain sense the sense of the month of a is the sense of hearing What's called the sense of hearing amazingly usually the and the tribe of the month are very parallel the tribe of the month is Shimon which Shimon comes from the word in Hebrew sh to listen to hear so the sense of the month is hearing and the tribe of the month is Shimon now there's a very big difference between hearing and listening hearing I can hear a lot of noises all day long I can sit in the class now and I I can hear the speaker but the there's a very big difference when I hear something then I listen I can hear my wife nagging and complaining and quing how how I behave but I'm not really listening not in my case I try to listen to my wife andem she doesn't complain but I'm saying a husband can listen to his wife and just hear his wife and vice versa but there's a very big difference between hearing somebody and listening to him and there's a there's a a way to say it in Hebrew in Hebrew it sounds much better but in Hebrew that the the direct translation will be you can listen to The Voice or listen ER in the voice no see in English it doesn't sound good in Hebrew you would say I can hear the voice or to hear to listen to him so in Hebrew it sounds much much better but the translation is that I can listen to The Voice I can hear the voice but it doesn't mean I'm listening to the voice so I can be in a lecture and listen I can hear the voice of the speaker or not listening to him uh I can now preach to my child or try to educate my child can go like this he listens to my voice but he's not listening to me so there's a very big difference between the external part of the voice and the internal part of the voice which that's again it signifies the the external and the internal like the T that is the revealed good and the not revealed good so there's the external voice what I can just hear and there's the voice that I'm actually listening to now the the teachings of a cabala explains that I have the sense of hearing that it comes from the physical part but there's also the spiritual part the sense that belongs to my soul that the soul is listening this is called the the sh of the the hearing that comes from my neish from my soul and what does it really mean that I'm able to listen to something that doesn't have a voice this is type of a meditation that it's very easy to listen to concentrate now on a voice we can all be quiet now and and we can concentrate on what am I hearing I'm hearing the air condition are hearing the water noise I can hear some noise from outside so I can meditate and what I'm what I'm really hearing but there also what the soul hears and that doesn't come with a sound that will be the presence of Hashem and one needs to know how to to meditate to a point to listen to the presence of hasem and this is not a a voice that will come in actual sound but the Soul also has uh the ability to listen when I share my near-death experience a lot of people ask me how does the soul look how does the sound how did the sound sound like now I always explain it that I heard this and I Heard a Voice and I heard there wasn't any voice there wasn't any sound it was very equal to a dream in a dream there's no voices in dreams if you notice there's no languages in dreams and there's no voices there's no sounds in dreams you can listen to music in a dream but there's no voice at all there's no sound but you hear something that is way beyond beyond the level of actual sound and this is a very deep level of listening to and listening is not only used with your ear now there is a mish that says who's a smart person the one that can learn from every person and it's a very deep teaching because a if you're looking in a very external way a smart person is able to listen to every person and accept what they have to say have to listen to them most people are so arrogant and so their ego is so out of control that they just transmit they just project they don't accept and they can sit in front of a very wise person and they're not going to listen to what that person has to say because they're just in a motion of transmitting not in a motion of hearing hearing is a motion of of receiving you can make you make a noise with your mouth you're transmitting with your mouth but you can only receive with your ear so this mishna when it comes to say who's a wise person the one that can learn from every human being what does that mean it hasn't the ability to listen to somebody else to sift what that person has to say and believe it or not every person has something smart to say every person I can learn from from somebody David King David says from every person that came to educate me I have became smarter why CU I'm able to listen to somebody let me hear what that person has to say you know because I might be good in these things but each and every one of you is better than me in something so I can learn from each individual something if I'm only going to be able to listen most people they don't want to listen to other people they go they hold by their opinion what they what's good and then are willing to learn from another person that's why a wise person is able to listen to every person because every person has some type of a truth and it doesn't matter right now the gender doesn't matter the race doesn't matter the religion a lot of people say no I don't want to go listen to that speaker he's not Jewish yeah but he might be extremely talented and wise in the what he's teaching of course the the that speaker will not teach you about the Torah but he can teach you about something something else that you need to know it can be Health it can be how to make money it can be how to to to do a certain trade so every person has some type of truth that you can listen to I mean most people I would say that there's a ratio of what's coming out of their mouth that is truth and what is not you have to be able to listen and to hear what is the truth of every person and what can I learn from that and if I can't learn something then I push it aside and if I can learn because that person is speaking truth why should I not listen to that person now cabala teaches us we know that we have something that is called a foreskin that we have to do a circumcision because that foreskin is covering something and the the forkin is stopping me from accepting something the teachings of cabala explain that there are three spiritual forkins that that they come on my soul not on my body the first one is the forkin of my heart that stops my heart from becoming soft merciful accepting forgiving and so forth then I have my forkin that goes on my lips that I'm am very hard with you know what comes out of my mouth people unfortunately you know somebody cuts them in the street right away flies out it's a very not nice word and you bump your leg into the to the leg of the table right away a not nice word comes out and this is on the negative part but my the forkin on my lips doesn't allow me to to speak truth doesn't allow me to to praise somebody doesn't allow me to to talk nice about somebody and build them up then I have the forkin of my ears that will cover my ear from listening to what I need to hear one person will come and tell me listen you are an amazing person but you have a problem here I will hear the amazing person but not you have a problem problem here and in many many cases I will have this is called selective selective hearing I will hear what is good for me to hear but what is not good for me to hear I don't want to hear so I need to know how to remove this foreskin from my heart from my lips and from my ears because my ears are very powerful tool that allows me to receive the wisdom of the people around me and to receive this Godly revelation I can see it with my eyes but my ears are very very special now listening means that I'm looking for the truth and unfortunately there's a lot of deception in the world there's a lot of lies in the world but every person has some some type of a truth in what they say a person might have 90% lies but 10% that what they say is truth and the power of listening is to me to be able to focus on every person and hear something and I try everywhere that I go and I travel a lot and I try from every encounter what is Hashem showing me here I'm I'm I'm I'm I must learn something if Hashem brought me to this place hasem is showing me something and you know the other day I came back from the last trip I got off the train and I stopped a taxi I was very tired I pulled the chair back and I wanted to rest and the taxi driver started talking to me and in my mind I was like leave me alone I'm tired I didn't sleep for 4 days so and he starts talking and I didn't really feel like talking to him and he said okay he's talking let me listen happened to be that he was from one of the Arab Villages somewhere here in the north was had a very heavy Arab accent and which right away you know the first reaction why you even you don't need to hear him what can he tell you you but I was like okay if the is telling me what can he tell you must be that he has to tell me something first of all after a short conversation I looked at him and I told him you know I think you're Jewish and he's like no I'm Muslim I'm from this H Village I told him no I think you're I think you're Jewish you should look into your lineage because maybe your grandmother's Jewish maybe you don't even know but I told him believe it or not a lot of people that believe that they're Muslims they're not they're Jewish so I suggest you look into your lineage that the way you look the way you talk what you're talking told him you you sound like you have a Jewish Nish but either way what he was saying was so amazing and literally you never know how Hashem chooses the one to give you a message if you're arrogant if you uh uh you let your ego control you you're letting that fores skin cover your ear you might miss a lot of valuable information that hasm decides to give you through the person that looks the most not common to come and give you this information and that's why both are sages in the mishna says who's the wise person the one who can learn from everybody can I can learn from everybody one good quality more than that David King David says like I said SC I can learn from everybody and this is the concept of listening now I mentioned that the tribe of the man is the tribe of Shimon which again comes from the word in Hebrew lmoa when Leah said Hashem heard my prayers so he she called her son Shimon there's a very dominating Sage that we love and admire and his name is rabi Shimon barai and not by chance his name is Shimon because his entire motion is the concept of is to listen now Rish shimai he was known to speak very soft not like me when I speak loud I speak loud because because I need people to hear me Rish Shimon would SP very soft if you wanted to hear what he had to say you had to be like what what is he saying so I found in the art of speaking when I go to certain lectures if I see I'm losing my crowd I lower my voice and then suddenly he's like what what was what is he saying I miss something so rimon used to speak very soft a because he spoke only Secrets he wanted that when you when you tell a secret what do you do you whisper whis you know the other day I told something to my daughter was a lot of people and she tells me you you are the worst in telling secrets you even when you whisper you talk loud so and the funniest thing is sometimes you talk to somebody and they talk something bad about somebody he can be in a small in a closed room and somebody they L The Voice why you lowering the voice he's not even here so when we want to tell a secret suddenly our voice lowers down shimai used to speak very very soft and the amazing thing is if you learn the talud then there's a a certain sling that you use all the time it's called tashma come and listen if you have the habit of learning the talud you know that that there's even a band that they call himself tashma tashma is come and listen and when the tal wants to give over or or a verdict it will say tashma listen come and listen if you have the habit of learning Zim doesn't say t he saysi come and look doesn't say come and listen the point is that Rish shimai is the the the source of Secrets and when it comes to to listening to a secret then you have to open your ears so to say says no you have to open your eyes it's not about opening your ears that's why he would talk soft is about when you some want to see something that is not revealed you're opening your eyes and opening your eyes because you need to see something that is Way Beyond what your eyes can really see that's why I told you that the teachings of cabala explains that there there is the listening of your soul you don't use your ear you meditate you focus and you focus on something that your ear cannot hear but you your soul can pick up on same thing in here that the whole teachings of shim is not to listen to what I have to say is to observe is to look inside and to see between the layers how am I seeing the concealed lever level and that's why Rish shimai wanted to see the secret not to hear the secret that's why everything is concealed inside the letters now the whole point of of the Zohar which is the the the foundation of the secret is the light of the secret and not the The Voice not the sound that's why in meditation there's no sound because you have to focus on something that is not that you can't see it what do we want to take from that is that we have to listen to the things that are obvious and we have to look at the things that are concealed the entire month seems very very negative but it comes to teach me the sense of the month is hearing the power of the month that comes from the tribe is listening sorry I said the sense is hearing but the sense is is the point of listening I have to be able to look at something and not to look at the external rather to look at the internal a lot of people they're searching constantly for messages from above they they want to hear the you know the the message between the lines now on one of my lectures out standing outside of the hall a very big lecture I don't know there was like four or 500 people the rabbi is introducing me and I'm standing in the back and this lady comes up to me and she tells me you know cabala I told her no I mean I learned but I she was like you know kabalam and I was like okay no so she was like what do you see I told her I see a lady that is preventing now me from going on the stage when the rabbi just called me and I see she's like no no no what do you see I said I see 400 people in the crowd waiting for me to come on the stage what do you mean what do I see she was like am I ever going to get married I told her this is what you're asking me you you you you're looking for the you know for the spooky stuff you're thinking if I know kabala I'm going to be able to see if you're getting married and what kind of nonsense is that then we had one lecture it was a very big lecture and it's a group that invites me often and the the group is the core of the lecture but we open the doors and many people come so I told her before we H schedule the lecture what should we what should I talk about and she says like when you talk about these you know mystical things and I was like okay what do you want to hear and she told me last time when you taught us about the mystical reasons behind we all started saying k and this is a group of religious women born religious and even though I don't like giving names to groups they call themselves modern Orthodox so they told they told me we're they're all in the 40s and the 50s they're like we never ever said now that we know the mystical explanation behind it it makes us want to do it so I said okay let's learn about the mystical me reasons about praying maybe the mystical reasons about the morning prayers I don't even know where I came up with that thought I was like you know what how about we learn about the secrets of the hand lines and the structure of the face oo then I got all the thumbs up and the stars and all these these positive mojos so we end up doing a lecture about the you know a little bit of explanations behind the lines in our hands what do they mean what I can learn from that about different you know reincarnation and then of course the structure of the face how the eyes are shaped the eyebrows are shaped the nose the bones so it was a very popular ER uh lecture now since it was hosted in somebody's house and the house I think could only hold 100 120 people so we had to RSVP not everybody can come if not we would have a th people the funniest part was that all the emails that we got the next day 500 emails and my and and am I going to read people's hands hands no there's not going to be any hand reading there we got another 500 emails can I schedule an appointment for a hand reading no we're not going to be reading hands here and then of course we this was the most popular lecture we had to close it down at some point cuz we got to the max but everyone everybody wanted to hear the you know the mystical the the secrets which is interesting but that's not the the point the point is not to try to bring down from above secrets that's what a lot of people now like they think that if they learn cabala they'll be able to talk to the world above and see things the reality is that nobody in our generation really learns kabala all the places that tell you that they teach you cabala it's not cabala it's maybe the introduction of the introduction of the introduction of the summary of the introduction that they just cover up a little bit of details of cabala there's only one place that really people learn cabala and this is in a yes it's called go there you'll see that everyone there is at least 80 years old and they're opening they're holding books that I can guarantee to you that you're going to learn read one sentence you're not going to understand one word of what it says and these are the real M that they learn cabala and trust me I have a whole bookshelf with all the fancy books of cabala and I don't understand one word what it says there so we really don't learn cabala we learn a little bit of the mysticism a little bit you know like a little baby you put a little spoon into their mouth just to taste something but unfortunately in our generation everybody wants the shortcuts give me the interesting things so I know how to instead of exactly instead of bringing things down from the world above rather reveal the depth of this world so the attitude in our generation is give me the shortcuts give me the fancy stuff people are religious for 2 days and they're already learning zoha and the point is there's nothing wrong wrong with learning the mysticism of the Tora there's nothing wrong with that I'm for it but it's not about trying to bring messages from above and you know people come and tell me I'm dating this girl that's her name can you tell me if it fits and that's not the point people constantly are looking for these shortcuts what we're missing here is instead of looking for above and trying to dig something from above is to look to the dep of this world and really everything in this is this in is in this world but it's not revealed and the power of this month is to is is that the concealment is so strong that it just looks very negative one can say you know the destruction of the temple is very negative yeah you're right it is negative but it's you know how positive it is because we had to have two temples to be destroyed we had to go through it we had to go through the Exile if you're looking it in a very general way in a very Universal way we had to go through this destruction we had to go through the through the through the suffering so the point is that to be able to see to take the power of this man is to able to be able to see the depth in things not to judge Thing by their cover not to judge things by the external part rather is to look into the things that are beyond what we can see and Beyond what we can hear sometimes somebody comes and tells you something right away you guard I mean I should say your ego but your guard jumps up whoa no I don't want to hear this right now because that person is telling me something that is wrong in me the problem is that that person is basically revealing to me something that I will never see myself I will stand in front of the mirror I will never know that I'm doing something that is not okay so in if I look at it in a very external way that person is a mean person is's coming to rebuke me he's coming to put me down but I can stop for a second and say wait a minute that person is actually revealing something to me that I need to hear you know if you remember a few months ago there's one video that one of my hairs from the PA was sticking out like out like gargam and and the whole class I have an antenna and then we put the video online and my kids see the video and they're like ah look at you you you have a hair sticking out and I'm looking the video already got like 5,000 views and I have an antenna sticking out and I'm like why why could everybody nobody tell me all all it takes is emotion and somebody got very upset and somebody that comes here not too often but she was like she emailed me why couldn't anyone of the ladies tell you to tuck your hair it looks ridiculous so I said you know what you know how many people probably had a good laugh because of that so I had to make a couple thousand people laugh so my hair you know came a little angel and he put it out and now couple thousand people looked and cracked up and then moved on so so I told her no need to get upset obviously that was supposed to happen my my kids got a good laugh and I'm sure a few other thousand people were laughing and that's in and we move on but the reality is not that I'm encouraging myself to look funny I I I I I I don't need to make people laugh with hair sticking out but if I would never see the video or nobody in the crowd will tell me that I would just be walking with a sticking hair and sometimes it happens that I get food stuck in the beard you know not too long ago now in the last trip I was in a big lecture there was two lectures uh first lecture short break another lecture leure then they had a a lunch break and then another lecture so in the lunch break they prepared for me a big uh plate and then the lady says here why don't you sit down and eat I told her no no I'll eat later and later on my assistant there was with me told me why aren't you sitting now now it's a good time to eat I told her you really think I'm going to sit down in front of 500 women and eat it's not a nice sight to eat when you have a beard my mouth has to open very wide half of it falls on the beard here here you get a crumb here something that's not a nice sight so I eat privately when nobody sees so and sometimes you know there's something stuck in the beard now people are like so if I wouldn't have somebody going like that I will never know something is stuck here and imagine how ridiculous I would look so the reality is that people come to tell me sometimes not how ridiculous I look is where I can refine myself and unfortunately my ego all right away will jump out why is that person is now coming to rebuke me but rather I need to look at something not in the very superficial and external way I have to look at everything in a very deep way mainly when it comes to good and bad because unfortunately we all experience bad things that's the reality lost of loved ones lost of money all sorts of things we we go through bad things but Hashem is good for everything everything is good nothing that comes bad from sham and this is the month that one can summarize and say this is the month of all the problems of am Israel of the Jews two temples were destroyed this the the go 3,000 years back it's when the theim the spies came back and they talked is if you look at our history this month is like a cursed month the month comes to to teach me that I have to look at things in a deeper level to listen to something that not necessarily is heard by my ear to look at something that is much more deeper than the surface to be able to see the good in everything to be able to see the good in every person every person will come there's going to be something good in that person that cannot be okay there are people that are 100% 100% bad but I'm talking about the normal people that we that we deal with and this month has a certain very special power of listening and if I'm able to I don't have to listen to something necessarily with with a with a audio you know in Hebrew to listen is called hak hak doesn't mean that I'm using my ear I can look at something and use the same motion of looking and observing it doesn't have to be with a sound so what I want to take from this month even though half of it already is almost passed but I still want to take from that the concept of able to listen to be able to to to hear clear to be able to hear between the words people come and tell me things sometimes a child comes and tells you something and he's in between the words is the message and it's not necessarily going to come out straight out a lot of people they don't know how to express themselves the right way they will Express themselves and in the sentence 20% is what they want to tell you but 80% is just a cover up the point I want to take from that is that Hashem only does good things every situation that a person is in is AEM wants you to learn something from that he wants you to be observant and to look what is the good lesson in there and the secret is our sages say that this these days of the days of a will turn will transform into the most positive days is when I'm able to see the good in everything that's how I'm able to empower the good in everything in creation ation when I'm concentrating and focusing on the negative then the negative is going to be the dominating part but if I able to to extract and to take the positive out of something and to focus on that positive now the positive will be dominating and then the positive will be the one that's active and Shining so this is the motion of the month is to be able to look at something and to just to see the positive if I'm able to look at everything in creation and see God in it then I'll see God in everything and I'm going to be very connected to God but if I'm able to look at everything in creation and and I completely don't see anything Godly in there then I will never be connected to God and I'll not see not going to see anything spiritual in it we should have a beautiful month and like our sages and our prophets say that these days are going to turn into days of Happiness we should be able to see the positive in everything and to be able to derive just happy moments from even the sad moments and everything so to say sad or negative or Sage you say when hasem closes the door right away he opens another door if you are focusing on the fact that one door closed then you're going going to see the negative but if you're focusing on the next door that is about to open then you're able to see the positive and everything we should from here on have just a positive month with good things that's it today we can already listen to music eat meat dance we can do now we can start partying somebody sent me a beautiful sticker now on tshav and it had a picture of this very juicy juicy steak and I was like that's what you're sending me on the fast a juicy steak and it had underneath a slogan and it says we commemorate the destruction by not eating meat when really the destruction happened because we ate each other like we eat meat in Hebrew it sounds much better that we eat each other so it was very smart and very witty yeah we should only see the good in every person and not be judgmental and not dig look at the at the surface rather de deep down inside and to be able to see how Hashem is good for everything everything that Hashem does is good and BM when we only going to focus on the good we're only going to see the good till the ultimate good in our life which is the coming of mhia M we should see it very Speedy in our days and with our own eyes have a beautiful beautiful month [Music]