The Secret to a Successful Marriage - Rabbi Eliezer Zeytouneh

one of the most legendary marriages in Jewish history one that we all have to emulate is that between Avraham Avinu and said I may know but there's a very important question wasn't what happens there's raw famine in Egypt what happens Aram and Sarah come down to Egypt to get food and the pursue Christ Vikash a decrease of almonds i'ma right around Marino's coming Tibbits line ha vomits are vomits arise joy tell sera he Nanaia dotty quiche I a favorite I now know that your wonderful beautiful woman and the rabbi's ask one second about my vino what do you mean now I know that you're a beautiful woman it doesn't make sense I don't understand they were married for years by then what's going on so listen to the words of the finish line the British guy comes in he says there are two types of beauty the first type of beautiful person as one was naturally beauty you don't have to do anything you have to adorn them they don't have to be ornate don't have to be decorated there's a natural beauty that they possess like rabbi say Tony the second one is one who has to make up they put on makeup that's also beauty but it's not natural beauty around my vino after traveling turns around to sit on says now I know that your beauty is a natural beauty it's not one that's only because you're adorned and made up because your natural and naturally you're beautiful now my questions one second you want to tell me about my vino never saw said I may know without makeup and the answer is it's possible that he never saw said I may know not made up because said I mean who who realize something that many times do we don't and that is that marriage is not about taking many times we get complacent you know when we're dating we're going out so we're very giving we give flowers we give chocolate we give compliments we open the door for the other person we're very altruistic we're very generous yet when we get married and we step on the glass many times that giving state dissipates many times that altruism disappears and that's a big problem that people have in marriages they go from being givers when they're dating to being takers what can you give me why are you not doing for me but that wasn't said I mean who said I mean from the minute to achieve that I Rama V knew always made sure she was made up decorated ornate why because she realized the marriage is not about being comfortable and complacent it's about giving and I've Rama IV who also realized that marriage is not about being complacent and it's about giving and that's why whenever he knows that where it's going on he pitched her tent first because when you give you come to love what's the greatest love between two people the greatest love is a love between a mother and a child that the mother not a father but a mother to a child why is that the greatest love because the mother takes care of that child because she gives to that child because she officer that child she's generous with her chachi feeds the charge he calls the child and if what she loves the child you want to know how to foster good relationships how do I foster good relationships with my parents I don't ask what kind my parents give me I ask what can I get my parents you want to foster good relations between siblings I don't say what can my brother give me I said what can I get my brother what I can't give my child what can I get my wife all them that's it you bunny that's what it says right Oh long as you believe that's the foundation of the world if I'm able to build my world through cressid what am I waiting for let's go out and from now change our perspective let's start being givers altruistic generous and if we're able to do that tempers are dashing we're going to be able to build our homes our marriages religion our parents our children our partners our brothers let's go and provide those blessed and by doing so we'll see just how high al has its bells [Music] you [Applause]