The Rebellious Son: Parshat Ki Teitzei - Rabbi Dovid Kaplan on The Weekly Torah Portion

we're on page 1046 yesterday we uh we were speaking about the first bizarre or difficult to understand mitah in this para and now we get to what is possibly the most difficult to understand mits in the Torah one it's one of them and it needs an explanation we have to get through we have to figure out how this works okay so we said the guy has two wives and he hates one of the wives and that's the one that he uh took from the battle and then and the end the bottom of is when a man has a son a rebellious son the word Sor means Sor mean he Strays Mo has a double meaning Mo could mean Mo could mean uh he Rebels and mo also means he instructs we'll see what that we'll see what that what that what that means does not literally mean he doesn't obey the voice of his father or his mother and they punish him they bring him to basen and he doesn't obey them and they bring him to B him twice once they warn him once they whip him and then he does it again we'll see what it was that he did the parents take him and they bring him to the elders our son is rebellious and he's he's straying and rebellious he doesn't obey us he's a glutton and a drunkard well we call a teenager so what's they Stone him to death remove the evil from your all the Jewish people shall see this and they shall fear what is going on here so the gor describes the is 13 years old and it's the first three months of physical maturity after after 13 years old if during that period he consumes a certain amount of meat and wine which he took from his father's property and it's only cooked par part part partway like built-on it's only cooked partway it's fair almost it's barely edible and he drinks a quantity of wine under those circumstances in the certain age it's right at the onset of physical maturity within that time frame and then if he's done it repeatedly three times then the parents bring up the Bas and they Stone him to death I mean that would certainly trim the high school population and uh if if we applied it nowadays you know I everybody thinking hey that sounds like my roommate in college you know so he's a he's a glutton and a drunkard what's going on here so the gamor says before anything why why are we executing people for over eating teenagers who raid the refrigerator I mean you know that's that's where they live you know they live in the kitchen and everybody wonders what do teenagers do between lunch and supper you know when they're eating lunch and supper lunch and supper just means they're taking a break from other eating that's all that's all then they're sitting down they they just mean they're just taking they're sitting down to eat that's all I mean what okay so what's going on here so the gamorra says there never was and never will be a Bor aora the circumstances that are necessary that it's got to be a certain age in a certain quantity a certain cook to a certain level taken from a certain place with parents who have to be neither of the parents have neither of the parents could could be had ampute and the parents have to have the same physical they have to be matching each other physically and they have to have the same voice tone the circumstances are so remote that you're never going to end up with a borura so why did the Torah write it that's what the gorah says the gorah says there never was and never will be a borura so why the Torah write it so the gorah answers in Sanhedrin study it and you'll be rewarded now at the plain meaning it sounds like well like every word of Torah is a Mitzvah and here we get like almost a freebie Hey listen let's study this which doesn't apply but it's certainly interesting subject matter so let's study this and we get reward for learning Torah that's what it sounds like but that's not the uh that's certainly a a possible interpretation but that's not the real that's not what what what's really going on here study it and study it and be rewarded means the Torah is telling you a obviously conveying A Life Lesson here what happened to this guy what's going on here so now let's go back and see the words so I told you that the word could mean Rebel it could also mean instruct this is the kid who this is the kid who's instead of taking instruction from his parents he instructs his parents like all teenagers they know better the teenagers all know better they there's a famous line there's a very famous line that I think it was Mark Twain he said when I was 14 my father knew nothing and when I turned 24 I was amazed at how wise he became in 10 years right somebody once said the older I get the smarter my father becomes do you ever hear that expression it's very true all of a sudden you start understanding you get a little old oh that's what Dad was thought when you're a teenager no one knows anything except your your your your friends who are teenagers who are as wise as you other drug addicts like yourself only they only they are are are other drunkards and Glutton like your s only they're smart your parents what do they know a couple of decent people who are hardworking and pay taxes what do they possibly know that that your friend who who gets your friend who's barely alive because he's because because anything under 80 miles an hour never makes it in his car like know but he's he's a guy that you want to listen to so number one he's a insur umora he instructs and one of the things that Wayward kids do is they instruct other kids they instruct F they're negative influence on other people say now pay attention carefully T says study this and you'll be rewarded that means like this what does it mean he didn't hear his father and didn't obey his father and mother's voice he didn't listen he didn't hear his father and mother's voice so there one of the ideas here is that parents have to be on the same page if the kid didn't hear when the gamor says his parents have to have the same voice I mean a woman who sounds like a man it's a problem you don't want to marry a woman who sounds like a man you know want certainly don't want to a man who sounds like a woman is also a problem do you know that the gari actually asks why women have a why women have a melodious type of way you ever see when women talk they don't even talk they kind of sing to each other men are just got Yo like that so the gor says well where do men come from Men come from the earth the earth is a very deep if you bang on the earth there's a very deep where do women come from they come from a bone ding right a bone a gamor says that you think it's a kinism it's gorra says that and therefore women have a have a have a have a pitch to their voice K Isa woman's voice is actually consider you can't listen to women singing and a woman has it because of each one where they come men come for the Earth women come for the bones and a Bone's got a it's got a it's got a ping to it so they now parents have to be on the same page obviously not going to have literally the same voice tone but parents have to see eye to eye what's the Torah telling you if a kid is bought brought raised in a home this kid what did he do he went and he stole from his father and he Glutton ised and the g says you know why he's executed the G says Nido we judge him based on a future projection what's a future projection well if this guy is already gluttony if he's a drunker and a glutton right at the onset of physical maturity that means in in right in the foundation of his life he's on this track so we know what's going to happen he's going to become addicted and eventually he's going to need his fix and eventually he's going to murder somebody therefore you know what let him die innocent y let him die innocent and not die guilty take him out of commission right now but we don't literally do it we don't literally do it because the gar says it never was and never will be there never was and never will be a borura yet the Torah is telling you look at the kid if you see a kid is on this path you could be sure that down the line there's going to be trouble and we don't to see you know in our world it's not that difficult to understand most crime a lot of crime a high percentage of crime in our world is is is because of people who are addicted people are stealing because they need drug money so we s to people precedes everything don't know all about addictions and this guy's going to get addicted to meat and wine his behavior is going to be such that he'll stand at a Crossroads he'll try to rob people and eventually he'll murder somebody it's interesting what's the punishment for Murder By the way punishment for murder is beheading punishment for murder is beheading so why does he get the worst former why does he get stoning because he might murder somebody on chabas chabas is skila that's the worst punishment so but at the end of the day it's a projection what's the Torah telling you when does he get this only if the parents sound Al like if neither one is an amput mean there was no trauma in his life if there's trauma so we could always attribute it to that if he grew up under perfect circumstances which is also why there's never going to be a Bor more because there are no perfect circumstances there are no perfect circumstances but assuming a kid is raised with a perfect relationship between his parents and perfect social circumstances and he does something like that listen take him out of commission a kid who's doing it because there's some Trauma Life that could be helped we could work on it well counsel therapy a lot of therapy nowadays everything therapy and counseling and that sort of thing nowadays it could be taken care of if everything is perfect and the kid is the kid is a he's out of control there's only one form of Rehabilitation execute him that's the best way to rehabilitate him let him die innocent and not die guilty says the gor but there never was and never will be there never was and never will be so what's the Torah telling you he doesn't hear the sound of the voice of his mother and his father his parents are not on the same page no wonder there's a problem here parents can't they they don't communicate properly husband and wife don't communicate husband and wife you have to communicate respectfully do you know that do you know that when you're married I guarantee you I guarantee you and you can ask anybody who's married for any great length of time like about 10 minutes I guarantee you and your spouse will have disagreements I guarantee you it can't be that two human beings coming from different backgrounds are going to agree on everything but the fact that you have a disagreement doesn't mean you have to turn on Pleasant it doesn't mean you have to raise your voice it doesn't mean you have to become p take use personal insults you disagree okay so I disagree who says I have to have it my way who says I have to have it my way see disagree this documented when his wife was nifter do you know that there's a there's a tradition when one spouse dies the other spouse approaches the body at the funeral and apologizes it's a tradition there some zman when his wife was nifter he approached the the body and he said listen he said we've married over 60 years you know as well as I do that in 60 years of marriage there was never a unpleasant word exchanged between us and I really have nothing to apologize for but there's a tradition and therefore allies he said this in front of about 10,000 people can you imagine so somebody said to one of his children to one of and he has his sons are big big said how could it be your parents were married over 60 years and never had a disagreement so he said my parents had many disagreements my parents had hundreds of disagreements but just have a disagreement doesn't mean have to turn un Pleasant you talk about it you talk about it I say this you say this okay we'll do it your way what's the problem it's very simple it's very simple for me to say it's simple not as simple as it sounds but then why should you have why you get unpleasant that's so so he didn't he didn't hear the parents talking nicely to each other number one number two what sound should you hear from your father in a Torah home what should you be hearing from your father should be hearing your father studying Torah what should you be hearing from your mother hear your mother saying to Hill him Ando he never heard his parents ding never heard his mother ding never heard his father learning but what do you want from the kid what do you expect the kid expect him to learn Torah if his father doesn't show Torah is a value kid has to see that his parents think shab is that Torah is a value so a person understands a person understands the kid feels listen my parents didn't do this they talked good game but they didn't really live it you know how many times it's happened I know I there there how many times it happens they had a kid comes guy comes to the rabbi he says Rabbi you know guy not not religious comes to RAB Rabbi can you talk to my son Steve every Rabbi knows what that means you know what that means when he says to the rabbi can you talk to Steve what do you think it means means Steve's engaged to a shika that's what it means could you talk to Steve that's what it means so Rabbi because Steve comes in and the Raab says Steve I heard you say you know what they you know what the defense is he says you know my parents never did any my parents never sacrificed anything for Judaism they didn't keep shabis they didn't give out they didn't do anything for Jud now I got to go and sacrifice the girl for Judaism what kind of hypocrisy is that what are parents supposed to say to that yeah but I knew a kid situation this was really oh this was a this was a real pie in the face there was this guy came from the Orthodox community and eventually he went off and he joined the conservative movement he sent his kids to conservative School sent them to the conservative sh the conserv everything was conservative and then eventually his son came back from college Stevie Steve was engaged to Maria and the parents weren't happy he said don't worry she's going to convert so his father says him just do me one favor when she converts ever convert Orthodox said what the heck you you raised us conservative you sent us to conservative we doed in a conservative all conservative is not good enough when it comes to me it's not good enough my girl is not good enough all everything for you is always good enough so what what what kind of you know kid Nails you what what what kind of business so your father's telling you I want you to be from I want you to study to don't talk in sh never see that where the father says it's G sh D then he turns to his friend I got a real good tip I got some bonds that you're not going to believe I sold short you know on you know any so the kid sees that's that's what the father does kid sees exactly what the father is so that's say you didn't hear your ver you was so what do they do they take this Ben out and he's a so what do they have to do they have to go and they Stone him to death so again the gumar says it never happened it never will happen so why does the Torah talk about it study what the Torah is telling you about raising children study what the Torah is telling you about about improving yourself even even more look at the the last look at the last p on 10:48 P four lines from the top they should Stone him till he dies you should remove the evil from your midst all the Jewish people will hear and they will see so one of the cidic Masters he says you know what the P's telling you over you want to affect other people you want to have a positive effect on other people take a look at how the reads get the bad the evil out of your own midst then you know what will follow then all the Jewish people will see if I work on myself and that's by the way how you're raising children raising children is working on yourself not worries people say to what's a good what's a good book for raising children the best book for raising children is the MIM study that study a mus book study the said work on yourself kids see what the parents are that's a rule we've spoken about this in the past and what you are I told you this little girl little girl comes over she grabs an apple 5-year-old girl so the father says I you didn't make a braa he says I did make a broa he says I didn't hear you make a br he says no I'm big now I could make it softly like adults do and when kids are make a make a kid makes a make what about adults so the kid says hey good I can't wait to be an adult then I get to mumble also even Raman who I mentioned earlier Shaman his wife who never had a nasty word exchange between them so they weren't sitting at a table so Shaman ate something he drank a cup of tea so he said to his wife he finished he said his wife oh did I make a Bor in the F house he didn't remember if so his wife said well you mumbled something was that the bar the fos even the gdolim even the gdm how do you like that so that's the first thing the Torah is telling you okay now go further cuz this is full of this full of Mitzvah over here but I want to get the specific ones over here T is going to talk about hanging people about burial talks about returning lost objects and then on page 1050 and unfortunately unfortunately this is this is extremely applicable today and I say unfortunately you'll see why in a second L ala a man a woman must not literally how does he translate it men male Garb shall not be on a woman a woman is not supposed to wear wear male clothing a man should not wear women's clothing oh could you imagine such a thing unfortunately we don't have to imagine it's an abomination why is it prohibited for a woman to wear man's clothing why is a man so rash she says because it's generally for purposes of immorality so a man wears a woman's clothing so he could he could uh what do you call he could infiltrate the girl's dormatory nobody will know that it's him a woman wears man's clothing so then she can infiltrate the male dormatory and if it's what do you call it the the uh the the the the uh there's an effect by the way cabalistic you don't even put it on your children you don't put girls clothing on boy little boys you don't put boys girls and it could actually bring out certain tendencies in them so for example nowadays where women dress like men so women seem to be more aggressive than they used to be used to be women women women behave like men and you have men who behave like women and so the Torah says that you're not allowed to do they're not now the extension of this is anything that is unique to a woman a man's not allowed to do and anything's unique to a man a woman is not allowed to do or we so for example for example a man is not allowed to shave any parts of his body other than his beard other than his face and obviously the hair but he can't shave his legs he can't shave his armpits he can't shave his what do you call it and they that that that's anything that a that a woman would do a man is not allowed to it's considered unique to a woman not only that they're post say men are not to look in mirrors because nowadays a little more lenient because it's considered so even for men you look into a mirror to make sure that there's nothing gooey on you or there's nothing you know you don't look there's nothing inappropriate but to go and prein yourself in front of a mirror for a man to stand there in front of a mirror and think W you know Hashem did a pretty good job here you know that sort of thing is unique women shamelessly have a piece of equipment it's like hexagonal that's got mirrors on it and they shamelessly call it a vanity kit and think about that I am vain I am focusing on myself if they have these you ever see these vanity kits they could look at them El from angles that that I think that the United States military doesn't have that kind of equipment and and a woman has a woman has and and if you ever want to stop a woman in every ever watch go go like like in a hotel lobby it is almost a physical impossibility for a woman to walk past a fulllength mirror without stopping that woman could be she could be in a hurry to save somebody's life somebody's drowning in the river and if there's a mirror there too and go what do you call and and and what it's when I when I really needed my daughters when I need them to I needed them to do something I'd take a note I would put it on the mirror in the hallway cuz I know my daughters are going to be there they're going to be by there they may not be in the kitchen they may not be in my room they're going to be by that mirror for sure they're for sure by the going be there for a woman that's so in the old days where you didn't have mirrors were not accessible you know people used to get with me you look at your reflection in the in the water they take a piece of glass and try to stain a piece of glass so it was it was a piece of equipment very unique to mirrors men have today there's actually different opinions among the post game in their filling bag there are men who carry a mirror to make sure that your filling is straight or not too low and so on and so forth you're not that's not to be that's not a time to be checking to make sure your hair is well combed it's socially acceptable nowadays for man to look in the mirror to make sure you're presentable that's okay they to make sure your tie is straight that you're here that's presentable but to go and do something unique to a woman is forbidden that's why a man is not allowed to carry a purse if it's something unique to a woman if there's a let's say there's a an umbrella a pink umbrella with little hearts on it which is clearly a woman's umbrella that's that a black umbrella is is not it could go either way there are certain things that are not necessary oh a woman's not a woman is not allowed to carry a weapon because a weapon is unique to men a woman is not allow to it's one of the problems among many others it's a relatively minor problem but it is a problem for girls to be in the Army this is one of the problems there are much bigger problems but one of what's that is that true for self protection like C women aren't supposed to carry weapons for for civil if you living in a place where there is you needed for self- protection then then then then P supersedes everything you know like your wife or daughter needs you to carry something for her like you can car you could carry you could carry something you can't wear it I could carry my wife's umbrella I could fold up her umbrella and carry it but I can't I can't use her umbrella there are certain things that that are neutral certain things are neutral but for example what do you call it for for for a woman to carry a weapon is a problem for a woman to carry woman a weapon is something that's unique to men yeah so what happens when it no longer becomes unique to a woman example like wearing pants where it's so then then you have a different issue it depends what kind of pants and it depends what kind there is there is a certain amount of social determination you look at all the pictures of the time of the Bas men wear robes like the Arabs you see they wear these these robes it's a robe unique to a man what do you call in Scotland they were Kilts now I you know a kilt is completely different than a skirt because a kilt is a very big piece of material that that that wraps around and it was actually worn by a certain division in the Scottish Army one of the fiercest divisions in the Scottish Army and if you've ever seen The Kilt part of the design of The Kilt is they have a uh a dagger that goes into the socks that's like what you where it meant somewh me a tie clip they were a dagger that's that's part of the that's part of the design now that's unique to men I actually had a funny situation here in or we had a guy here from Scotland who was getting married so you know from wedding you know men are on one side of the M women are on the other side of the m so this guy was from Scotland so I get to the wedding hall and as I walked in I noticed a bunch of skirts so I fig I'm on the wrong side of the M I started going to the other side I saw skirts on the other side what happened these his relatives and friends from Scotland came in they were wearing Kilts you know we look at it like you know but for them that's you know in Scotland that's that's that's concerned to walk around in Israel in a kilt on the streets of Israel be problematic you know I I think if you walk down the streets of May sharum with a kilt I mean you might you might get killed you know you know I I I would I don't you know this was inside the wedding hall I don't I don't know but all that's what the Tor is say and the ultimate purpose of this and this is something that we see in our world today we see what kind of where people people not only wear clothing they change themselves or at least try to change themselves that with with think this is what the Torah calls that an Abomination Torah says an abomination Again by the way there's an interesting medish when the Jewish people were fighting in uh what do you call when when when uh yel killed cisra remember cisra ran into her into her tent and what did she do she took the says he ran from the Battlefront because the Jewish people had won the war the battle he was running and escaping and yet El said come into the tent over here and so she got him she she got him what do you call she got him tired she gave him wine and she put him to sleep and then she took the tent Peg and she used the tent Peg and spiked them through the temple she killed him with the tent Peg what's the obvious question the guy's asleep take a hatchet take a sword chop his head off why are you using a tent Peg you know what the M says she didn't want to use the she want to use a sword because a sword is a man's is a man's uh what you call it's a man's weapon and she want to take a sword cuz it's it's forbidden for a woman to use a sword so she took a ten peg again if a woman would be in a situation where uh let's say you're living in a in a dangerous neighborhood she has to carry a gun with her that sort of thing that she'd be allowed to do because but anything that's unique from one to the other that you're not allowed to do okay clear any questions on there okay let's take a look at the next also one of the more one of the bizarre one of the bizarre uh uh mitzah in the Tor when I say bizar I mean bizarre from a human perspective we don't understand it when you come across a bird's nest which means it has to excuse me it has to be in public domain not in private domain there's a bird nest in a tree or on the earth they're little chicklets or eggs the mother is hovering over the chicklets or the eggs do not take the mother with the babies there's a Mitzvah what is the MIT off the mother then you take the children it'll be good for you and you live long now here you have what's called an easy Mitzvah what's the torah's definition of an easy Mitzvah anybody know cheap that's right that's an easy Mitzvah where do else do we find an example of an easy Mitzvah anybody know Suka building a Suka is called an easy Mitzvah really ever triy to build a Suka I never found it easy you know why the Torah calls it easy because most people if you build a Suka where did you get wood you got wood from hefer you went out to the forest you took some wood you went out you you chopped some wood down so it didn't cost you anything for that's what's called an easy mitzah that's what's called an easy mitah we're Jewish we have no trouble understanding that that's what it's called an easy Mah if it's cheap it's it's called easy not exertion okay this is an easy Mitzvah not only it's easy Mitzvah you benefit what's going to happen in those days gentlemen you didn't send away the mother bird and find a tray of a dozen eggs stamped XL you know extra large or number threes it didn't work that they didn't eggs didn't the chickens didn't conveniently lay eggs in a carton for you right where did you get eggs from you took egg from wherever you found them yeah pasteurized homogenized whatever it is that they're supposed to do to the eggs I forgot what what is it pasteurization that sort of thing forget about that you got some free eggs says the Torah I got better than that I got the mother and the bird I got just grab the whole thing and bring it home nice nice little bit an egg and a little bit of chicken for a little bit of what do you call a little bit of pigeon for supper we're good to go says the Torah no send away to mother bird send away to mother bird why what's going on here so the basic is it's it's a by the way do you know that there's an opinion that you have to do you do the MIT even if you don't want the eggs you send away the mother bird pick up the eggs and make a Kenyon and put them back there's an opinion that you do it even if you don't want them simply because it's or says it's a mitzah why cabalistic it activates all sorts of it activates a a mercy on the Jewish people very various capitalistic reasons but at the end of the day it's a Zas a the Torah says do it and you're not even allow owed to say in a prayer Hashem your mercy reaches the gor says somebody who says Hashem your mercy is even on on on birds have mercy on the Jewish people we're going to plead to God your mercy reaches the bird so please have mercy on us no we don't say that because hm's decrees are not because of Mercy hasm decrees are because hm decreed it so why do you do it ex said the way to mother bird take the eggs there is such an opinion I once did it by the way I we were living here in Mala I was 135 and one day we had a uh we noed there was we had a balcony we were renting we had a balcony and on the balcony we had like for some reason there was I think one of the sule boards was leaning up on the balcony and right under the sule board also there was a nest and we said his mother kept coming back there two eggs eventually they hatch a couple of chicklets over there so I asked her of because there's a problem it's on my property so he said make the property hefer cuz it has to be the Torah says you have to find it in a hefer area so you make the property hefer and then what I have to do is Shee away the motherb birds and pick up the Chicklets so I called one of the guys from or I had one of the friends come up and and protect me with a broom I wanted him standing there for protection in case this man eating pigeon would attack me I was never I was never very bold of heart and so I I was nervous and I I just picked up these little chicklets and put them back down I was more scared than the Chicklets I picked them up and I put them down and eventually they got they got older and eventually they flew away so it's questionable whether I fulfilled the Mitzvah because I have to make it hefker and I was renting it and then say mind but he said do it just in case you might be fulfilling the Mitzvah there is an opinion and I certainly wasn't going to take those chicklets where we weren't in eating eating those chicklets so that's the that there is an opinion now there are explanations here why is it that you can't take the mother with the children what's why not so I thought two beautiful there two beautiful explanations explanation number one and this is interesting because it follows the Bor rora if you take the mother and the Chicklets what are you really doing you're stopping anyone else from benefiting it's all about me you're grabbing up the whole thing the eggs and the mother and everything else take the eggs send off the mother let her nest again and let her M more eggs for other people think about other people not living alone in the world think about other people let her why do you have to take everything from for yourself that's the first thing the Torah is telling us Torah is telling us it's not just about me you live with other people don't take up the don't take the whole thing take a number one number two did you ever try to catch a bird you ever try to catch a pigeon what are your chances of catching a pigeon go on the street catch a pige can you catch a pigeon try it you ever catch a pigeon anybody any of you pigeon Hunters here any of you ever catch a pigeon sick one a sick one right a sick pigeon got him you know bang got that sick pigeon again right you can't you catch them but what are you check there's only one reason you can even catch this mother you know why cuz the mother is sacrificing for her children Torah says don't take advantage of a mother that's sacrificing it's a mother sacrificing for his children don't go taking advantage of somebody else's self-sacrifice you're you're really Brave and tough when there will willing to sacrifice the mother is sacrificing for her babies T says don't take don't take advantage of the mother don't take a beautiful idea mother what's the mother doing what does every mother do mother does nothing like a mother the mother sacrifices for her children more than anybody else Torah says here's the mother bird sacrificing don't go don't go and take take advantage of this bird while the bird number one and number two try to think about other people leave leave for other people I heard a beautiful story with nle there Yesa the Mir Yesa so I've been asked this every you know rashash is coming up in our rashash you have the chauffeur so people ask all the time what should I be thinking about while the chauffeur is being blown ever cross your mind what should I be thinking the chauffeur is blown didn't even cross your mind what do you think about wow what a nice sound you know there are different there are different ideas the the sacrifice of Y and the sofa recalls the giving of the to Red Hari where there's a chauffeur what should I think about when you're hearing the chauffeur you must have wondered this sometimes cuz you know know you're hearing a 100 sounds 100 times what am I I want to do chuva I want to this I want that what should I think about so B once came through think the says what should I think about during the chauffe for blowing so I'm not to think about other people love that answer think about other people that's a good idea that Yiddish kite which I've always told you Yiddish kite is not only vertical it's horizontal also people think of religion in terms of of me and God and it goes upwards it also goes sideways Al there are other people living on our planet that's what the Torah is teaching you over here to's teaching you you know what yeah it's accessible it's available just because it's available doesn't mean you have to grab it you could leave something for other people just because it's accessible so what that's what the tourist teach you with the motherb bird okay one more take a look at PUD very interesting twist don't plow with an axe and a donkey simultaneously you see where it is p Olive now if you look at the PK before this look what the P before this says P test don't so your Vineyard is a forbidden mixture because it will cause that the seeds that you plant become forbidden so you're not allowed to cross seed you're not allowed to cross cross seed with your in a Vineyard now what what's called uh what's it called H hybrid hybriding and then it says don't plow with an ax and a donkey together and then it says don't wear shat a forbidden mixture of wool and linen so the Torah gives us three examples of forbidden mixtures where else do you find forbidden mixtures in the Torah there's another two places I could think of where where else can't you mix wool linen it mentions here wool linen it mentions what's that milk milk and meat can't mix milk meat what else can't you mix can't mix you can't crust breed animals here the Torah says you can't do work with two animals you can't have an ax and a donkey it means any two types of animals you can't pull can't can't can't have to work together here the Torah says can't have an ax and Donkey pull your plow why not first let's let's focus on this before you get the other why can't you have an ax and Donkey pull your plow the plain meaning is the plain idea is that an ax and a donkey are not equal strength so if they're both pulling the plow either either the ax is going to have to overcompensate because the donkey is weaker or the donkey is going to have to exert himself more than normal to keep up with the ax but either way there's a there's a form of s here there's a form of of animals of animal suffering living creature suffering one of the commentary says is because an axe is a kosher animal and a donkey is not an axe choose its cud so you got the axe and the donkey who are pulling this plow and the next thing you know at 11:00 when it's time for the 11:00 snack so there's the ax is like and the donkey is like where'd you get that from bro where'd you get the food I I brought it up for my stomach I got four of them you know so the donkey will hear the ax eating and that's a form of it's a form of what do you call it okay that applies if it's too non Coos but you're not allowed to cross animals and cross do work because the basic reason is that it's going to be uneven levels of exertion but listen to what's really going on in the Torah this is fascinating this is fascinating you get up in the morning what's the first thing you do you get dressed you have a reminder when you get dressed don't mix then you go to breakfast what don't mix don't mix your clothing no you're getting dressed don't mix no wool and linen you go to breakfast don't mix no meat and milk no bacon with your coffee no meat and milk you go out to plow your Fields your agriculture don't mix you go out to your what do you call it to your livestock no cross breeding you go out to what do you call it to to to uh what was the last one uh yeah your your your your your uh uh uh what's it called your your your crops no cross no hybriding what is the Torah teaching you in your clothing your food your livestock your crops everywhere a Jew looks there's a reminder don't mix and that's ultimately the reminder to us that when it comes to the other nations don't mix and it doesn't just mean don't intermar it means don't mix with their values they've got nothing for us we have what we have over here leave it that we don't mix with them in any way and everywhere you look in a Jew looks your food your clothing your your work job everywhere you look the the Tores are telling you don't mix thank you very much couldn't couldn't couldn't come at a better time all right we'll continue