The Real Reason People Get Addicted (It's Not What You Think)

People who drink or drug for fun, they do it for fun. And when it stops being fun, meaning when there are too many consequences, they stop. People who take the drink or the drug in order to function like a normal person, like in order to go to work, in order to attend the family uh party, in order to socialize with other people, in order to whatever, in order to watch a baseball game, people who have to drink or drug in order to do the normal things that normal people do all the time, that's the addiction. In other words, it's the underlying discomfort with reality itself, which the distraction or the numbing of the drink of or the drug removes long enough so that I can sort of pretend to be one of you, pretend to be a normal person, right? Which is why, by the way, when you take away the drink or the drug from the real addict or alcoholic, they don't get better, they get worse because you're taking away their only co coping mechanism. you're taking away their only tool for living. So they don't get better, they get worse. Which then begs the question like, is there any solution? And the solution is yes. It's by giving them a way to rid themselves of the discomfort of the existential angst. And then you have to be ready to hear the deep spiritual explanation of where that existential angst is coming from. And then you have to be ready to get spiritual. That nagging feeling of terminal uniqueness sometimes we call it or lonely in a crowded room or always wanting to be a part of and instead feeling apart from that at bottom is the ego's pain of being an entity separate from the oneness from the all. And until that is resolved of course the person is going to be in a constant state of discomfort. And it's not discomfort that's based on a situation or conditions that change. It's not like, oh, I'm uncomfortable because of a particular, you know, because a particular source of stress in my life. I mean, the source of extra stress in your life could be an exacerbating or aggravating factor. But this is no existence itself is painful. Existence itself being an entity separate from the oneness is itself an untenable proposition.