The rabbi that catches shoplifters - Mendy Hershkop

Hey guys, welcome. I don't know any person in any volunteer security patrol or leader ahead who's also a manala. Are you the only one in the world? >> I'm just gone. I'm not the man. But >> the mashk no again. Not a mash is a bad word. Kids have products >> and and I don't give a h on them. So no m >> easy deals gives hex on on on eBay on Amazon or whatever. Yeah. I I I am the assistant principal in Makina division of >> I just want to let you know that in the non-abad world is the most beautiful thing in the inter no because the mashn in a in a yeshiva like sabatka or panovich or lakewood is equivalent to our mashia so he's giving the mus he's not just marking attendance he's the spiritual gu the spiritual guidance counselor so to speak the mashia of the yeshiva and he's the one that's the symbol of muser of what they're looking up to whatever They have the sed of mus whatever it is in those particular yeshivas. So for example in Lakewood Rabbi Solomon right m Solomon is very yeah because he recently passed away he was the masgam he was the masg there but it's it's not what what inad is what the masg is and I don't want to be associated not knocking any mas but I think I I I'm the rabbi is and I have my role within the yeshiva and I I try to be an asset and help that's basically >> most of these sham security volunteer usually attract mostly blue collar guys, right? Like electricians, contractors. What are most of your volunteers? They're not rabbis, lawyers, or doctors. Correct. >> They're not rabbis, lawyers, or doctors >> or accountants. >> Accountants. A few. We have Yes, we we accountants. We've we've >> like a blue collar volunteer patrol like is more >> a lot of business owners. You have people that own their own business and they >> blue collar style, right? >> But they're business owners. >> Yeah. But nothing wrong. And nothing wrong. Let's be >> shopkeepers. blueco collar people. >> Yeah. But not not a lot of doctors. No >> zero doctors. >> Zero doctors. >> Zero lawyers. Right. So in general I see at least in Crown Heights the the security I don't want to get political. The volunteer security people usually blue collar hat guys are more even there are some doctors in there's lawyers more. >> First of all I would imagine would have doctors, nurses, nurse practitioners, PAs because that's their specialty is health. So if they're going to volunteer some of their time they should. I'm not being racist. Help people that are >> it's a certain personality. >> There is a certain personality to to be a shaman volunteer. Absolutely. You have to have and but there's many I mean today today our scope is so much uh more beyond you know physical crime. So there's actually a lot of guys that are let's say accountants. We have a few are going to be accountants shortly. Um you know we have we had people that were therapists and stuff like that. today it's needed because or crisis interventionist and stuff like that because we're dealing with a tremendous amount of mental health calls from within the community and without and out of the community. So it's uh >> so you're the only rabbi sham guy in the world probably. >> No in uh in bar park rabbi like Rashiva. So in bar park sham I'm telling you I'm answering the question in bar park sham room. You know the nicholas burger you know. >> I was in woodburn yesterday >> in woodburn yesterday and you and he's the the famous woodburn show. So he's B26 in B park sham. Wow. Really? Yes. >> He still probably takes a call here and there but there was a time in the 91 riots. He was here every night. >> He's everything. the Nicholsburg. >> Yeah, >> he was in the He was in the Woodburn Shaw yesterday. Not at a month ago. Yesterday I was there for Shak. He was walking around with a broom and a shovel like a stick shovel and he was cleaning up. I thought it was like balms stuff. >> Let me tell you something. He's a Yid that has a tremendous amount of avis for every single person. Really, really balish, which is very rare and unique. >> He came over, he came over to me yesterday and he knows I'm a labure. He says, "Clappy." I'm going to repeat his words exactly. is yesterday 24 hours ago. He says, "I just want to tell you something." He says, "When I was going to open up a shaw, I went by the labavba." He's a big fan of Labavich. And his son also, and he does the night shift, his son now is the junior. He does the day shifts. He tells me, I asked the if I should open up a sh and the words were these exact words. It's a very good thing. And the gave him $3. So, it's amazing what's going on over there in Woodburn 24 hours a day. He tells me clappy this is the biggest house. There's thousands of yan passing by here a day. They they also started a kyo there. >> I saw a truck delivery on Friday. They were delivering hundreds of more chairs. They have cookies and soup and there >> it's a major situation in the summer it's it's booming but even year round it's open I believe >> and he's closes during the year. >> Now you remind me of him in many ways cuz you said I did and I didn't know he was a shroom volunteer and you're one and you're you're a co you're not just a sher you're a coordinator. You're the CEO top guy. I saw they made a showroom campaign like a year or two ago and I saw you were getting not just like the most amount of money was coming into your page like over 200 grand but like you were getting people like mental comes to all my calls or menal help me mental health or mental was my kids man whatever for many many years everybody wanted to be part of the action >> so we actually run a campaign and I'm not here to talk about it but because you know we charge for we yeah we run a campaign every >> of of our yearly league campaign. So, Alvi, it's 200. I never reached 200k from the campaign, but it was a decent number. So, it was a very high number. >> If I can top last year's numbers, I would be very very happy. >> It's more the diversity of compliments. He was my mechanic. He fixed my car. He came to help my mental health. >> We're going to we're going to we're going to get >> he's my teacher, Lam Man Yodu, my >> We're going to we're going to talk about all the things that he does, but I just want to say something very interesting about Rabbi Hershk. I was I I played a small part in where he is today. Small part. You agree or disagree? I'm a big a big honor. I knew when he was working in construction, what was the company called? Permont. >> Promont. Your brother-in-law Yasi Cubstein is an amazing a great person. The whole proman company. Shirley Learner is a personal friend and like a family and Yasi Copstein is amazing. Marty Weisra the uh the the boss is an amazing person and a big Tom Kam also. Um so they were all super nice to me and I honestly I was like the the third I I don't know if I really belonged but they uh they they supported me. That's so I used to I always knew that you were a huge mic marggo. So I used to bring him all the time to my show to give him and he would never say no. He was like one week I called him. He's like it's years and years. I never said no. He's like but I'm making my kids bas mitzvah I think tonight and it's for Shabas it's in two days whatever. He's like I I said I said forget it. He calls me back a half an hour later. He says I never said no to giving a shir I'm coming. Please don't call him and take advantage of it. So I want to tell you something. >> So wait, wait, wait, wait. So what happened was I asked you once to give a shir um on night. I asked you to give a shiruous night. Another person I asked to give a shir that night was the CEO. There were fryments from the Ji. He's he came early. He heard your shir and he he slaps me on the back. He says, "WHO IS THIS GUY MARGOLIUS? Tell me he's rashifa somewhere that he works in construction." He says, "Ashad. Ash." I said to Befraim, "You're on the Vad of Aera. You're hiring him." A couple of months later, some other people from the board called me as well. I don't know if they all want me to name drop. Couple of months later, I called you up. You're like, "Don't get me involved. I don't ask anybody for jobs. I'm happy in construction." Couple of months later, you called me up. You're like, "Izzy, I just wanted to let you know I'm in the office signing a contract. I'm going to be working for Altera." I'm very proud of Altera. I'm very involved in the MYIDs. I helped them with a lot of things now. and that the the demise is growing by leaps and bounds. But what's fantastic about you is that a guy that's knows Tito well Barash you're a tremendous big mager but you wear about 10 hats and I always ask you how do you get everything done and he could teach our young business people watching our show. So scan shashiva viva big division teenagers a lot 150 >> 120 to 140 depending on if we have five or six classes >> okay number one two you give classes very popular with the young getting married classes and I always tell people >> for I don't know all we'll get to that in a moment classes now classes are time you know takes a lot of lessons and you know you meet with them and then you learn with them then they call you for all the sha problems they get a a free cell phone number to shay One of the heads of Shrim busy organization. >> The head. >> I think there's a board of heads. >> Not the head. >> Okay. Wait. Wait. Chas. You're on. >> I'm part of it. I'm not you. You play a big role in Omanu organization which we're going to talk about today. >> Ma chair, right? >> Yeah. When a rebby calls out, he's the mager also in the division. You know, principal Scott Manal when there's a Rebi calls out, they also give no. Okay. >> And like 20 other things that you're involved in, I know for a fact. So you're you're very very busy. Tell us young business also or no >> not anymore. >> I used to be. >> We'll get to that in a moment. Tell us how do you >> Should we put out the job? You're good. Okay. >> How do you use your time wisely? You have 10 jobs >> responsibilities. >> So, there is something called something that I don't know much about and I actually struggle with it, believe it or not, that to the outside world. that looks like, oh, you're doing so much and and whatever, but it it's it is very difficult to balance everything and to give everything its a lot of time. Um, there is a story that the Reb says over in a FBI. Um, and I might be getting the details wrong, but the idea is true and it's recorded that the freed was dealing with a very consequential meeting that he was going to have in Russia and it was it had to do with the clal. had major major consequences or implications and he he um like 20 minutes before he had to go he was completely engrossed in writing a mimer or writing a letter in response to somebody generally when we're about to fly somewhere even if our if our cab is for 10:00 at 9:45 we're pacing you're checking your suitcases you're nervous and I the fba was in a completely calm and relaxed and completely in the zone of what he was doing and the reb walked in he was engaged then the rebb came in and he and he said like to to such an extent such focus and the freed told him about and he told him a story about the rajbah who was one of the greatest rashim right and the rajbas the rajba was a was a rav a dian dyus during the day he was a rashiva gave a share every day he was also a pisik worldrenowned pisik today we still have a nice amount of volumes of the raza and he was also a medical doctor he saw patients and every single day he found the time to take a 105 minute walk or whatever with his talmid and he would answer questions And how was he able to do all of those things to have? So man is something that I struggle with tremendously. I will say that uh is is having an aas sky is having a a good wife um that's a balabusta that can really you know set the tone and set the pace and the house is put together and the kids are put together and that allows a lot of the other things to fall into place like Rabbi Kea said about his own wife when he came back 24,000 24,000 students later 24 years later and uh and you know there was a massive kabalas panim they were singing him yum you know like sometimes you like to make latanas for me and uh it's okay and Uh and you know this old woman Rabika wasn't young and she she starts approaching and you know there's always that one canoy go away and Rabba said no no no shalu everything I I accomplished was motivated by her and therefore everything you accomplished which was motivated by me shaloo is really hers so you know this is not a one-man band this is obviously there's a strong woman a strong wife that's behind all of this that allows for all of this to happen um just to say something once we're on the topic of rabika that I I I heard a fascinating Vart once from Rabbi Yfk Jacobson who I think is probably the best uh magir in the world. No, no, no, not even close. And I'll tell you something about that. >> Um Rabbi Ka >> people probably don't know who you're talking about. We're talking about why y I have I learned a lot from him so I have a little >> Yeah. We look at the demographics of who's watching our show. Hard hard hard red numbers like the Verizon chart. hard red numbers in Muny, Pomona, and then in Lakewood, Tom's River, all these counties over there. Matt, I don't even know the names, but very red. >> Ocean County. >> When you say that, they probably think they don't know who it is. I'm >> in the I'm in the space, and we'll talk about the the courses for Lammanuel Madun in a minute, but uh Rabika uh his wife told him to go learn and initially went to go learn for 12 years. 12 years finish and he starts coming home. And as he's about to step into his house, he hears an old man heckling his wife. And he tells her, you know, you're your h you're basically a Lebed alman. Your your husband left you. He's not coming back. Like it's a neb, you know, move on. And uh and he hears her saying, you know, that if it was up to me, he would stay. He would learn for another 12 years. He makes a U-turn. He goes back to yeshiva. You couldn't stay home for Shabas. Stay for the weekend. Have dinner with your wife. Okay, take a walk, something. You don't want to see your wife and and what would be wrong? Would his dedication be any less if he stayed the night or if he stayed for Shabas and then he went back for another 12 years? Eli Rabika wanted to do that. Rabika wanted to see his wife. He came home. He wanted to be with his family. But that's what he wanted when he inherently heard Aliba. That's what what what was it that she wanted? She wanted him to go learn. She didn't know he was hearing this. It was her real um desire that he goes back to learn. So he put himself away complete ble selflessness. He put himself away to do what she wants. >> Who says this verse? >> I heard this I heard this from Rabbi Jacobson. I don't know where he where he or maybe he came up with it on his own or he saw it somewhere but I don't remember where he where he said it's from. But the bottom line is this is real dedication. This is real selflessness. When it comes to marriage you know sometimes or even partnerships everyone's it's bad. What do I get from it? what's in it for me? If you want the secret to success, it's not what's in it for you. It's what can I give to someone else. It's what can I what can I do for for you know, ask not what your country can do for you, but you you can do for your country. It's the same thing here. >> JFK who's >> Yeah. JFK. >> So, that's the uh that's the idea from Rabbi Ka. >> Yeah. So, >> you're also a you teach. Can you tell us about Lamont? >> Absolutely. So, >> because it's a very interesting concept. The whole idea of adult education that you pay for it is was like huh it was strange. Please tell us my father is a Musak. Isn't that >> I told you today on the way back from the gym the reason why I'm super excited to talk about Lmanu adult education of learning Tyra on a very serious high caliber is because we're right now in the nine days. Today's but the first day of the nine days. the nine days talks a lot about um decreasing in sim but we know that there are simas that are mut in the nine days like learning always speaks about spoke about that that learning terra makes people very happy so there's no better time for us to discuss learning Torah which is a joy and a happiness that we're allowed to do in the nine days and I encourage you to do in the nine days than talking about limitra and lmanu is an organization that provides the highest caliber level of Jewish learning and continued education on so many levels and tracks and I believe that one of your jobs is working for Lammanus. That's why we wanted to talk about Lam Manuel Madu today. >> Yes, absolutely. Lman Madoo is as both of you just said it's a tremendous platform. It's of of the very highest caliber learning and specifically in the in the realm of somebody wants to enter the realm of for example the the mo the most robust program they have would be the program like she just mentioned his father was is a is a >> to make just to be clear people might not understand is the learning curriculum that for thousands of years Jewish people that men that want to become rabbis raanim you take a classes on so The labavat actually said that everybody that gets married should gets mikah. That's why most labavaturs they take a year of their life. They dedicate it like I dedicated a full 12 months 11 and a half months to go to a yeshiva that's balized in yera. >> So we should call you rabbi clappy. >> Please don't ever do that. It's not a joke but we I am certified our very famous raban that signed off in my etc. So manu is one of their curriculum. >> Uncle is a rabbi. Hold on. Is it true uncle is a rabbi? >> I believe so. >> Through lman. I heard that uncle Moshi spent five years signing up for curriculums in Omanu. Besides Rabonos, he also did a lot of different tracks that they offer in in terrorist scholarship. So he's a big Rabbi. Hold on. Rabbi Moshi and Rabi just want to set the record straight. >> So we'll start with the with the program. Um it's a tremendous program. They have a they they they developed they have it in English as well. They have summary booklets. They have visualization booklets. So they're really really giving you a nice packet. Everything is professional. Everything is is is already set up. There's seven or eight years of excellence to to Lmanil Madu. This is not a startup. This is already you know uh in its in its uh high point. It's doing very very well. The greatest aspect one of the greatest aspects of Lmanu is the the caliber of the people giving this year. So take for example SMA you have Rabbi Yasi Barber. Tremendous tremendous so many good things. And I want to tell you I I bumped into I knew Rabbi Barber as as a Bakar. I was in Marsan, he was in the smika program, he was always nice enough to to to smoo with us. generally there's a you know the the older guys don't read but the he was approachable but when I when I was a ra here on on empire boulevard so uh every once in a while we make these shirim right you know and before pes we they wanted to do a shir about pes so I was looking for somebody so I saw rabbi barber I asked him to give a shir and it was he just gave all oft and what exactly is going on what are the what you have to do what you don't have to do and it was so clear it was so simplified. Everyone in the sh was just amazed. It was it was there's he has he he's able to take very complicated things and say them in the most simplest of ways. There are um there are two guys two two from London not labavich that are madurim. They work in in and they give him and tit they already have they wanted to do khazara so they signed up to them to the course. So these people are very advanced learners and they they came back with rave reviews. They're saying that that that that that he he you know some complicated inyanis or a complicated shakaz how he simplifies it and he and he and he makes it easy is is unbelievable and they were mar they were marveling at it his mile is that he doesn't just cater to advanced learning he can he can cater to a beginner learner as well that means if you have a balab that for whatever reason wants to be every day to learn some people don't have to learn a whole day most people are they have to learn which means a a little bit in the morning, a little bit in the evening. But this is a perfect way to um to uh to to have that there's two a week and Rabi Barber in about 20 years of experience has taught the entire variety of of people that are very advanced to people that are just beginning, people that are somewhere in the middle. We're getting but uh so that's that's one amazing thing and that that would be the biggest uh you know Lamont Manil Madu's curriculum and their their syllabus and everything is amazing but what sets them even more apart is the Majir I think Rab Barbara is at the top of that top of the list. So, one of my 50,000 viewers is watch one of our 50,000 viewers right now in a week from now is watching in two days from now is watching this is watching this podcast and the guy is a bus driver that does that works for I don't know a tour company and he is 34 years old living in Pomona. He's listening to you and he's saying wow I could become a RV. What what are what will his schedule look like? It's a year program. >> It's over 12 months. >> Okay. Yes, it's over 12 months and it's obviously during PES and sukus you're not going to have it's two sharim a week for an hour and a half if you obviously let's let's uh let's be positive someone has a wedding someone has a bar mitzvah for a sibling for a for a for a child for a nephew you can't or a niece you can't be there every year gets uploaded onto your portal the next day so you can always see it you have access to the magir to answer all your questions not during the classes are live they're not just recorded rabi barber every year gives a new class that means even though he multiple years of giving classes. His smika course this year is going to be real live classes. >> You're getting real class oneonone option like oneonone. >> Is there a post oneonone option? You could communicate with the rabbis. >> You could communicate with the rabbis. Yeah, I get qu we have a WhatsApp group for all the people in the in the course. So they get ask questions live and then uh and after class sometimes is a bit of a tighter. >> So Jive for from people. >> Yeah. >> Might be a trademark. But no, but it's it's it's it's really it's an excellent program. Also, Rabbi Barber has a smika for Bakim program. Today, you know, when we were when we were Bakim, you know, there was programs. Today, that seems to have dwindled for one reason or another. Lydu has a so you have in yeshivas, you have people that are in community. There is a daily shar Monday through Thursday, I believe, or may or maybe even Sunday in the afternoon. Um uh it's it's I think it's one hour a day competing and it's it's a nine month program because Bakram have summer and this so they go they learn more they and it's a daily share so uh you're able to finish uh before 12 months in and basically before the summer and if you stay with it and you have Rab Barber as well you're getting the same quality you're getting the same high level you know a grade and >> so again the bus driver the 35-year-old bus driver in Pomona who who who wants to get involved in learning or the billionaire CEO >> or the retired 65 75 year old that wants to your father got from and you said there was a graduation ceremony >> you got from Shapiro >> I got from Shapiro >> not that we're in the same level I'm sure your scores are much higher >> do you do you compete with your >> no what Rabbi Shapiro forgot if he forgot I don't know if he did I probably still don't know so there's there's levels here. I I I you know I stay in my lane. Robbie Shapiro is the real deal. >> So the he was he was an amazing mager as well and uh and his are also amazing. >> Isn't he the RV now of the Marstown community? He was appointed Maradasra. >> Yes, he is. >> I want to wish Rabbi Shapiro tremendous in his Rabanos and in all his amazing amazing um >> he's also the man of the of the yeshiva and I know he's a close friend of Frank. So, I wish him. >> He was one of my references on on my my brother-in-lawless's cousin, so he was one of the unofficial references. >> And he obviously said something good about you. >> I don't know. Apparently, >> we should probably have him on the show one of these days. >> You should be a huge asset. >> Okay, >> Randy, you're in Ma. >> Hold on. Let me just get to did enough. We have this program for for balabat of all ages of all you know no matter what their their job title is and where they're holding then we have for bakr but then there's other courses that you have for example with rab barber and there's hill kashabas on a pisic level advanced it's a two-year program with rab kasimov I'm getting that adult people business people of busy schedules want to get want to be called rabbi right >> or do an advanced course Hill Shabas classes classes lipker. You have smiring. You have the best class and teachers. You have everybody >> and you're you're going to dedicate months or years of your life and you're going to be on a schedule and it's going to be a few times a week and you're going to get tested and you're going to get a certificate and it's affordable. It's going to change your life and you're going to bring value >> but it's structured and and it's there's a communal feeling to it and there's over a 90% graduation rate. >> Very impressive. That's >> it's cool that adults could get adult education, too. You ever go on LinkedIn guys, people who after five years in their job in 10 years, they they go back to college for a certificate education? Yeah, continued education. >> Ravi, you're a principal in a eighth grade. >> I am the assistant principal, right? >> No, this is Can you give us some parents tips about raising their uh pre-teen or teen? What's eighth grade? >> 13, 14. So, it's pre teenage. >> Teens. Teens. Can you give us our parents someh some lessons how to raise our teenagers? My kids the oldest boy is 11 so I'm not there yet but I should probably be armed and ready. >> Yeah, it comes back to balance of obviously you should start with and as a parent we we are allowed to discipline our kids. I know in in in 2026 people are very afraid of that word and no you are allowed to and maybe when we were kids it was too much of that. So it it should be laced. Think of it as a sandwich on the bottom on the top. And when needed, it's it's finding the right dose of discipline and and the right amount and how to do it. You know, in this week's parenu has a 37day 37, right? That's what it says in the 30 and he and he and he begins to tell the yidden the various journeys and the various things they've done wrong. But he says it but Derek Rams he doesn't outright tell it to them. He doesn't outright admonishes them admonish them. He does it in a very sensitive way in a very and this is something that I struggle with a lot even with my own. Sometimes you get you didn't sleep a lot and you're you're stressed out and there's a lot going on and your your child you know is annoying. You did something annoying or or you know is just acting up and it it it's but we have to remember that these are our children and sometimes we go out there and we'll do everything for everybody else. Right. How many times I know both of you do a lot of uh ty for for yidden and different things. Mishi networks with a lot of people. Just before the show he was networking trying to find a guy to buy from another guy to to help another yid with parasa. Just right in front of my face. I watched it happen. You network all the time. You said it before with me and all. I I I know you. So, but we stop, drop, and run for everyone, right? Or almost everyone at a at a moment's notice. But we have to remember that our families come first. And uh I think with the kay is the holiest person in and it's in the holiest person the holiest place in the in the holiest time it says and then first he he does kapara for himself to be a good representative of of atonement for himself to represent the then got to take care of your family got to you got to be present at home and this is something that I'm I'm speaking to myself I I'm I'm critiquing myself you have to present as much as possible and then you'll be a more effective advocate or activist or or person or whatever on behalf of of the clout and yeah this you know it's it's guidance I I wish I had more. It's just raising kids today is probably the hardest generation to raise kids. The exposure you know the internet is has a lot of good things. The amount of like take for example amman or kabad.org or the podcast there's there's so much good happening um you know as as a there's so many good things out there but with everything that the abisher made in in in he made in the opposite right we have this in many places and you know today if a kid falls into the wrong place or even adults fall into the wrong place but certainly if it's kids it affects them you know in their journey as a bakr and their journey if they get married and uh and things only come out later And uh we just have to show our kids as as much love and attention as we can. Not be afraid to discipline when we need to, but even then not to have knee-jerk reactions. This is something that sometimes I fail at, but if you see something you don't like, don't just react and blow up. Don't don't be a volcano. >> Breathe. Sometimes it's better to say something tomorrow sometimes. And everybody's relaxed. You got that phone call from Yeshiva. The kid just came home. He's already he's already uh reeling. He's already afraid. Oh, what is my father going to tell me? What is my mother going to tell me? Maybe sit down with him, offer him some lunch, let him be for a little bit and tomorrow morning is a better day to have this discussion or tomorrow night. >> I heard that I heard that a thousand times or read it in or hear it in the hear the reading it and it took me till 40 years old now almost 40 to hear you say it and it's so powerful. I went for lunch a couple days ago. I went for lunch with a very powerful person. >> Where did you go? Where was it? >> Would you let him mention? >> Oh, I was in Citrus Cafe. Citrus Cafe and Wood. >> Make sure not to say any names. >> What? >> Just don't say any names. Whoever sp Oh, no, no. Citrus Cafe is one of my sponsors. The person I went with and I was asking this powerful guy. In case you know who it is, don't say anything. I was asking this powerful guy in business and incl. I asked him for like give me advice and different things >> and I said, "Do you have any regrets?" And I usually ask that to people. He wasn't on the podcast. He said, "I wish I would have spent more time with my children when they were growing up." He's like, "I would get back from the office late." And he said, "I wish I would have spent more time with my kids." But it's very powerful. We were always like whatever's busy, whatever's on the plate that day and then people forget about their own I'm talking about myself. You forget about your own family putting out fires all day. But Mandy, our show attracts a lot of entrepreneurs. A lot of entrepreneurs get kicked out of yeshiva. Um, for whatever reason, there's some direct correlation. Maybe they don't like listening to rules and they think out of the box and then they can think out of the box in the world. >> They end up hiring all the kids that did well in. >> Right. Right. is higher the B's and the B's the A that >> man at what point do you kick someone out of yeshiva >> so I'm not the you know you got to speak to the big hitters in for to get but in my opinion you do whatever you can to keep a kid in yeshiva no unless it's at a point where this one kid perhaps is just destroying an entire class >> he's giving drugs to the whole yes >> for sure yeah you can't that's just unsafe but uh but you know it has to be where's the break point >> it has to be a very extreme situation otherwise even if a kid is not doing the best in yeshiva the fact that he's in yeshiva when you're in a boiler room you're going to be warm you know what I'm saying um and and and for a kid you know first of all a lot of kids also when they're in ma they didn't learn a word and all a sudden zal something goes off and they start learning and uh or they have an appreciation to terra because a lot of these you had some of them on your podcast I I've watched right and um a lot of these guys are not angry at their at their former teachers or their or some are but some of them are end up being supporters of that very school that sent them out and and they they they also >> they got them early start in business. >> I I just want to say that anything you hear from somebody on our show, not necessarily do we vouch that I'll give you an example. A very successful young entrepreneur came on the show and he said he was kicked out of a certain yeshiva by a certain mager but he didn't say the guy's name that mager stopped me in the streets. He's like I just want to let you know him. It's not what he's saying. He wasn't kicked out. No, what I'm saying is I don't want anybody to even think they have to correct what I'm saying, but I think he's saying in general it is true. Guys that get kicked out of yeshivas a lot of the times think out of the box and they do business out of the box and they become extremely successful. Doesn't mean that the yeshiva didn't have full right to throw the kid out of yeshiva if they're corrupting the whole yeshiva. >> So but but that those are should be extreme cases like if we have multiple kids in a grade getting sent out every year from yeshiva there's a problem here, right? It should be far and few in between. It shouldn't be something that that happens a lot. It should I don't know what the what the numbers and the metrics are but the goal is to keep everyone in yeshiva the the struggle that that I have is is to to the kids should be interested in learning kids should have a in right you see you know it it's not easy to sit and learn gamarra different language you have to decipher it you have to analyze it you have to break it down and a question that I get a lot is what's it going to do for me in 20 years why should I do this now what's it going to do for me how how is this going to make me this how is it going to you know And how do you answer? >> It's it's a it's it it usually doesn't get answered in one question. So first of all, there's two there's there's two components. Number one, we learn Tyra because just like the famous story in the Gumar in two places, Rabika has a story with he was teaching Tyra under Roman persecution. The Romans didn't allow you to teach Tyra. They would they would punish you severely, perhaps even capital punishment. So this guy Papus Benhuda sees Rabika teaching Tyra publicly and he says, "Aren't you afraid of the Romans? Don't you know what they're going to do if they're going to catch you?" So he says, "I'll give you a muscle." The fox comes to the riverbank, famous, and he sees the fish swimming to and fro, and they're nervous. So the fox says to the fish, "Why are you so nervous?" He said, "Cuz the fishermen are going to come. They're going to drop their nets and they're going to catch us, and then we don't want to be caught. We want to evade." So u so um he says to them, "Jump out to hang out with me and I'll take care of you. You won't have the problem with the fisherman." So they say to him, "You're the you're supposed to be the the smart one. You're a fool. In our natural habitat, we have to worry about our our existence. If we go out of our natural habitat, how much more so we have no life. So is part and parcel of a life. Just like we have to be healthy, right? The Rambam says it in you have to take care of yourself and you should. And I see on your statuses, you're both working out a little bit and and eating well. And >> speaking of of Mandy, you've down how many pounds? >> 50. But no, no, down is is one thing. Keeping it here is is is We we no a lot of hard work. >> Why not? >> Because I didn't need to. I I I I made a goal and I stuck to it and I worked hard and and I'm still working hard. And >> I do run >> where >> I run on the track next to my house, Rutland and Brooklyn like 6:00 in the morning. So it's >> shorts and t-shirts. >> No, and a t-shirt jacket. Not a hat and jacket, but but pants. Yeah. >> Rush shoes today with t-shirts. >> Listen, I uh I'm not the same Russo we grew up with. >> Is it a real deal? And uh and I uh you know I do >> although my rash did not run. They did not lose 50 lbs. >> They probably smoked like chimneys. >> Your rashas also were big. I actually knew how to learn. >> Not like this one but uh but but yeah. So so it's uh you know it's a little bit of a fake rash does fake things. You know what I'm saying? It's but no taking care of ourselves. You know >> you promote health or just >> I I I would like to I I when kids move it's it's just healthy. You know, when we were kids, I mean, we we loved playing basketball. >> Hold on a second. Hold on a second. I'm just going to set the record straight. Who's better at basketball? Me or you? >> So, Mishy wants me to say that he's better at basketball. So, I'm going to say my Frank is better than me at basketball. >> We were arch. >> Yeah, we were rivals. Definitely rivals. We We had to pick the teams every every uh every game. So, it was my team or my team. But it was intense. >> Who you Okay, I'm simple guy. Who Who usually won? >> Mishi won a lot of the times >> more than you. I I don't didn't take score but Mishi Mish my was Mishi was a big guy. Mishi was a he was is but Mishi was hard to deal with you know >> big you should see him on the scale. >> Also also with Mishi to be >> also also it's with Mishi it's not just a physical game of basketball. Mishi is really good at getting into your head. So he would talk to me like that and then you know when you try a little harder when you get out of your element and you're really trying to score then you end up bouncing the ball off your foot or whatever you end up making a mistake. So Mishi was not just a physical game. It was a mental game. And that's where he abs he won like 90% of the time. >> He's still mentally playing with people. He stops them. They don't know if they're being recorded. They don't know which channel they're going on. >> Hold on. I never It's on that top. First of all, I'm mentally You see, I'm still mentally uh attack verbally influencing people. But my camera is always out. I never hide. I don't have metal glasses. My camera's always in the street. >> He He doesn't If they walk by you in the street, they're on. But it wasn't just like we played everything. We played football, punch bowl. Remember punch bowl? You had to be the first 10 after Minion or else he didn't get into the game. It was intense. >> Yes, >> it was intense back in the day. >> But it was it was fun. We were rivals but friends. >> Yeah, I I we Yeah, 100%. >> Mendy knows me since I'm like seven years old. >> Six, seven years old. >> Have I changed since or >> what? No, today you you became a marketing guru. You you know people want to market their product, they should talk to my Frank and Clappy. >> Maybe my personality is the same or different since I'm seven. >> It's I don't know. maybe slightly different, but you know, you're >> what way? >> Listen, Ma, you're never afraid to push the envelope. He always said what other people wouldn't say, whether I liked it or not, but uh he he'll say what other people won't say. And and uh and you but you do use it for good things. Like here, just before I walked in here, he saw Can I Can I say >> You can say whatever you want. >> I'm As I walk into the podcast, there's a delivery um of of sheetrock and on on a on a big flatbed truck with a with a lift and everything. So like, hey, wait, sheetrock. Oh, I know a guy for sheetrock. I know the contractor. He put them both on the phone and now he made a contact. What ends up happening from that contact? I don't know. But most people won't have the breakkite to go ahead to to to make that to just on a dime. You know, even for me to do such thing, I would have to think 10 times, should I call the guy? Should I not call the guy? And if and I start, you know, your palms get sweaty. Am I going to do it? He just just does it. And sometimes it could annoy you, but sometimes it ends up being very beneficial. >> No thinking, he just does it. I was talking to I was talking to another He's not the first hair scrub on the show. You know that. >> Second one. >> Who's the first? >> The great Saul Hershub from wheels to you got a plug in now. >> He just gave you a a segue right in there. >> But I should we segue into I'm going to get to that in a moment. I'm going to get to one moment. I spoke. It's funny. I meet a lot of germ lately. You know, you hang around. You make some deals. I spoke to another huge giver in the last few days and he told me I asked him how much is masle and how much is. He said it's 99% mazle and 1%. and he wishes he could give away that 1% essential oil and leave all >> mas 100%. >> So I find that I'm hanging around everybody for a couple years and I've made tremendous amounts of money and had a lot of and what I realize is is that we all have natural fears to pick up the phone and call people and jump in a deal because we're scared of rejection. Most people are scared of rejection though and she is like just do it like no just straight into the deal straight into being on attack mode and you will find a lot of success >> and you will find success. Exactly. And that's that's a skill that it take. People go to to courses. >> I'm serious. People take courses on how to how to make sales and how to pick up the phone and and you're going to get a lot of nos. But you said something about embrace the no. >> By the way, I you tried to trick me up in that in that thing and I heard it and I I don't change one iota. Go for the no because the more people that will say no, you'll get to the yeses quicker. What is it? >> Which means that smart people are >> not not just because someone has a high IQ doesn't mean that he's going to have money in the bank. You know what I'm saying? And uh and you need masle. >> Speaking of our sponsors, >> speaking of our sponsors, if you don't mind, Dr. Shiva passing me a pure aloe. Pure Aloe is one of my beautiful, beautiful sponsors. >> Can you put some in a cup so I can taste it? >> Oh, sure. >> Not going to regret this. >> Do we mix it with the banan club? >> We'll get to that in a moment. >> We'll get to that in a moment. Can I get some uh pure aloe? >> It's really really good. >> The amazing thing about pure aloe to find pure aloe. It's made in Asia to find pure aloe. Pure >> the real deal stuff. The pure aloe delicious ready to drink aloe vera in a bottle with they have to send to China to oversee the factories that nothing is compromised with the ingredients. It's very refreshing, very very low in calories. >> Some are zero calories, >> almost no sugar. >> Some of them have zero calories. >> Some of them they have now. It's back in stock. The zerocalorie oneakama talks about aloe as a as a healing element for certain things. >> Really? What? It's probably in the pace. I I in the pace, but I will have to I I'll find it for you. >> Get back this. >> Yes. >> Uh pure before the show. It's always delicious. >> Great people, great guy. I've never seen one. He's the founder. He's >> eight or nine flavors. They're all delicious, refreshing. Usually it's freezing cold when I drink it. Here, it's warm and it's still delicious. Available in all your from Hamisha groceries around the world. If they don't have pure aloe, you go over to the manager and you say, "Allah, pure allo. Pure aloe. Bring it to the shelf." >> Clappy today walked into a bakery. >> I took 30 40 of them and I put them into a better shelving space. >> They're on a bottom shelf in a closed closed glass Coca-Cola uh fridge. He took them and put them right in the front center in an open fridge. Bal someone in the the beverage space. Open fridges kill in sales. If you ever have a beverage or any item, get it in the open fridge. It's like impulsively loaded. I loaded the entire open fridge and all the bakery with any friction. Boom. >> That's an interesting point. >> However, I went to another restaurant. You have open fridge and I said they went back to Chloe. I said, "Why do you Oh, it's summer. It's electricity bill." Blah blah blah blah blah blah. >> I think you make more money. >> We want the open fridge. >> Open fridges. >> We want that open fridge open. >> Any friction, you're not buying. Moving along. Clappy to our Bakan. >> Bakan >> who's coming on the show. coming on the show in the next few weeks. >> The bakan is first of all it has a good has a good heir. Not all alcohol has a hir. People will say it doesn't need I'm not a RV. You're the RV over here. You're the rashiva. But bakan has a heir. It's made out of the purest parts of the licorice, the leaves, the soil, the trees. They take all the nutrients in there and they make it into the bakan. It's >> Ricardo. >> Ricardo is the owner. It's distributed by Royal, which is the biggest kosher distributor in the world. And they only stand behind the finest and greatest things. So when you want to make when you want to make a you only make a on and it mixes well with pura, right? >> A it's so good. So good. Last week I started mixing it with different drinks. It mixes so well. We could say on the show together many more to manu. >> We can't wait to have Ricardo to say his whole life story. But if you want to give a gift, you're going to a sim and you want to give a presentation gift, you just give them a box of bakan multiple flavors. >> They sell it in the local wine stores. >> We're getting we're getting at it everywhere. >> It's in local stores. It's available on Uber Eats. Just put >> Uber B A. Yes. >> B A C. Bakan. >> If you think Clappy has high energy, you should just meet the owner of Bakan. He's >> We met the whole family. His wife, his children, they're all personalities. Great people. I I fully stand behind the Bakan brand. Moving along. CH Butcher newest flavor. >> CH Butcher, which we eat the We eat in the restaurant and we buy all By the way, I was going up to the country last Shabas. My wife said, "Don't you dare get into the car to come up state before you stop by CH Butcher in Albany." I went there. I got the Chell and Bones. I got the ribe eyes. I got the hot dogs. My father said, "Get me six, seven packs of hot dogs." He's like, "I only want those Labavich hot dogs." My father, the cipher, he's like, "I want the Labavich hot dogs." He's like, "I couldn't find them upstate. I loaded up with the hot dogs, with the deli platters, everything. It was so amazing. >> So, it's nine days we can't try it. >> In nine days, we're we're not out to see them now, but he said so much terrible running. We could probably eat. >> He's quoting Dian doesn't do meat. I >> I don't know what we do or don't do. But when you buy meat products, truffle flavor, the small batch today, air dried beef slices, black truffle. I love truffle. My wife puts truffle now into a lot of >> It's good on the protein for those that are trying to slim down and run and everything like that. It's a perfect >> zero sugar. Zero sugar, low in fat, three grams of fat. Um, >> on the other side, it gives you the protein there. >> 16 grams of protein per serving. And there's two servings in here. So, you get I went to terra, but I can still tell you 32 gram of protein from this one little bag. >> So, you're hungry, stay away from the carbs. Just eat a bag of ch Butcher uh meat and you'll be good to go. A very refreshing snack. And you drink it with alo. You eat it together with aloe. Two shiakles, one ber of fudes and you got a healthy meal going. >> I really like the packaging. I asked him who's your designer. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. I really like the packaging. >> Designing is very important. Now, how do you get to all these stores? Going to the country, going to CH Butcher, picking up with the >> stick with the winning team, the winning the winning shine room team of the Herskov family. And where do you get your cars from? >> Saul Hershk. >> Saul Hershkov. From wheels to lease. Let me tell you something. When you do a business for 40 years. >> Yeah. >> 40 years. He started in 87 or 88. We're going into 2027. >> He's doing 40. When you do 40 years or something, you got good at it. >> And your customers love you and their grandchildren. >> That's all. >> Maybe. >> He said he goes to all the he knows. >> Are you making enough simas? >> No. So my father probably doesn't know. My uncle mayor and older ones he knows. Well, man, do you have just cloggle if you want to get big checks, you have to invite the rich relatives like Saul, >> right? Climbing. That works. >> 100%. >> Forget everyone else invite. Invite the rich ones. >> Yeah. >> Guy the guy called me up yesterday. Guy called me up yesterday. The truth. I'll show you the call. >> Was a good artist to paint on walls. >> Yeah. He did it for a living. Yeah. Euro art and everything. A guy calls me up yesterday. He says, "I watch your show. I'm an avid listener. I had no idea who he was. His call ID did not have a name." He says, "I have two car questions." He says, "One, we got a Tesla Model Y and the mileage and the resale or whatever, and then he we have a regular gas car and we're not sure if we should buy it out or whatever." I said, "Listen, so listen." I said, "I am the last guy in the world that could answer any questions about cars." I said, "But you go speak to Saul Hershk." >> Didn't you work in a leasing for six months? >> I don't I don't know nothing. I said, "You speak to Saul Hershkup or Izzy Herman from Wheels to Lease." I said, "They will answer every question." the lman due clarity, confidence. I said, "You'll walk out. >> They'll hold your hand. You'll make the decision that you'll be proud of." And I told you the best story was the guy in Connecticut. He was 20,000 miles over his lease. He was already figuring out how many tens of thousands of dollars he'd have to pay for everything. He said Saul figured out how to get him out. How much did it cost him? >> How much? >> Zero. So some haircops put their seal in garum and some good cars and good looks. >> I forgot. >> Now you definitely >> forgot all that drama with the >> they'll figure it out for you. Anyways, so >> so about 40 years there's there's interesting it says Ben Labina, right? And it comes from a from a puzzle that the label does. >> Oh man, you have family members on in Lucing in both sides. So which one do you pick? >> On what? >> On the side and >> I just I just bought a car. Are you? >> No. Wheels to lease will sell you a car. I went I bought a 12 passenger van. Wheels. By the way, I don't want to confuse people. Wheels to lease. When you call wheels, I think they also sell >> they sell new. They sell used. They buy back cars. They lease cars. I just want to make sure that wheels to lease will cover you from every zite. No confusing. >> Has a compliment. He has two family members with with car companies. So obviously he picked wheels to lease. >> So sh stick with the stick with you stick with her company. >> So the uh about 40 years. So it says that it takes 40 years for someone to really um understand the so I think Rashi holds that 40 years means you don't have to learn by that rebu there's a cognitive switch in a good way your your brain develops a little bit and you're already in that in that conversation. Typher says no you could be you could be 50 years old or 60 if you didn't do 40 years by that reb you didn't learn his terror for 40 years you don't have a da dab but here you said 40 years are doing it for 40 years according to both opinions you're hold one second emergency emergency woo woo woo 911 >> until now we were discussing general products meat drinks alcohol cars what about the every single day of your life the everyday purchases the knives the sharpeners the pencils the school supplies, the toaster oven, the cabinets, everyday items that you're buying. >> PZ deals. >> PZ deals. Because if you don't go on PZ deals, you're getting ripped off, which is against the rabbitical source for all our advertisements. If you don't buy it on PC deals, you're paying too much. One, >> PC deals has a an Apple app, an Android app, a desktop, and you can also get the notification list where there's good deals every day. They'll send you in those categories. Just stick to PZ deals. >> And I just did my first interview with him. Did you see the interview? >> Yeah, that cute little interview. >> Yes, I think 10 minutes first time interview. And uh check it out on my X everyday channel to see the founder, the secretive founder of PC. >> Now he's not so secretive anymore. Apparently, you guys are getting like millions of hits. Warm personality. You have videos that have over a million views. >> A million's for the children. I have I have videos for >> your marriage video. >> I have 7 million views already. No, we have a video that has 19 million views. >> 19 25 27 views. >> Views is not a problem. That's not one of our uh nanis, right? >> We have we have views for the Jews. I just wanted to say one, we're talking about going back to a little bit. One of my biggest regrets of of of going through the system and again I had years in yeshiva where I learned well years that I could have done a little bit better or a little bit more and I didn't but uh you only get smarter later on in life is hilabas. Hashabas is something that we deal with every single week. It's part and parcel of >> like two days Friday and chabas. >> Yeah. I'm saying it's something that everyone has to know and very few people actually know. And if only and maybe there's so many people listening to this podcast, maybe someone takes this on. If only there was a JLI type or a lmanu type, but for yeshivas for 3 years of misa most 90 even somebody drops out of yeshiva that usually happens in zal ma almost everybody makes it through. Imagine there was a a colorful nice clean neat um nicely well done program for kashab is 39 malas 13 maka a year olives bir gimmel and explaining to you the crux of each mala so you understand what the malika is before you and then how to apply each malika to realtime situations with real prizes with real incentives and get real girim to invest in it after three and things you learn at that age 14 15 16 your brain's a sponge You would we would all know Kashabis you know >> imagine all the massus in the whole world would unify with this program this program >> he was right does have the alterb the popular >> it could be not just for the for the labavich it could be beyond that you could have alterbish and every little and every >> maybe maybe shiner would sponsor it >> so so hold on a second so hold on so now right at the end of says he brings you keepab they you're forgiven for all of your aus. Right. The says the alterb says hold on a second. Hold on. I'm getting there. Reb says, I'm not dodging. The says that it has to be and um and it has to be done the right way. And this is something that we're all missing in I mean 95% of us, you know, most of us were given and just learn. But we did did we really invest the time? Did we really try hard? And uh and this is something that uh you recommend that we recommend that that is done. And for those of you that are past Yeshiva, just going to do 30 more seconds. Rabbi Barber Lmanu has a hilashab program which is going to do precisely that. You do a full year and you're going to have a much better understanding of what you could and can't do on >> and you'll get a certificate that you took the test and you really know the very nice. What are something you could wish you could tell some of the parents but you can't tell because you'll get fired or they'll punch you in the face? No, I'm not worried. I mean, if I I've got >> But you're a sh guy. They're not afraid to punch you a call for backup. And >> I I would never I would I >> wish you could tell them, but you don't want to say >> what what I is learn with your kids more. I I do tell it to some, you know. I I had >> We We need some more edgy stuff. What do you >> I'll tell you. >> I wish you could tell parents, but you don't. Or you tell them everything. >> I don't tell them. I mean, first of all, you could everything could be said. It's just how you say it and how you package it. >> It's in the delivery. It's in the delivery 100%. But my first year I was uh the assistant principal in Alra and I have another aspect to that story. If you just want to see the you know you like oil stories and the reba and all of that. Please share. Please share. You did your part. >> We do not oil here. Remember oil and everything. >> We got everyone covered. All our sponsors. Kabak's happy. Exactly. >> And Kahus is happy. >> Everyone's happy. Exactly. That's what I was. >> By the way, Kahus, my father called me up. He was super excited. Kahas is starting a new project of putting out all the Reb's letters in English >> together with Sikas in English. It's a collab. >> It's going to be gorgeous. And the Mendelain tells me it might be like 40 to 60 volumes, thick big volumes. >> It's it's crazy what's going on in the world of publishing. It's it's it's mindboggling. >> We'll get to the Rabbis Ty in a minute, but but uh we were saying >> you're about to say something about the uh >> Well, I asked you what do you wish you could tell parents? So, so my first year in Big Story, a big story. >> My first year in Alterus, I don't have anything that like I don't like to stick it to people. I'm not confrontational at least 90% of the time, you know, I'm not a I don't like being confrontational. So, I there's nothing that I really want to stick it to somebody. But, uh, so my first year there, I have a parent comes down to my uh, you know, the first PTA, so it's not too much into the year. And he comes down and he's literally standing on top of my desk. He marched. He didn't even knock on the door. And he's he's a nice person. He was just in a in a mood in a moment and you know sometimes that happens to people right EDP people say it's emotionally disturbed person and I say it's not just emotionally disturbed it's everyday person can have a very normal person that just maybe experienced a loss just lost $2 million in a deal I don't know and now he's angry can you judge him I I I never I I don't have that money to lose I can't judge him so this guy is he's a good person nothing wrong with him he's actually very successful but he had a moment standing on top my desk he's screaming and yelling a teacher is problem and this is a problem and my kid's not on grade level and my kids's not this and that. And first I was like so defensive, you know, like it's like imagine like the jabs and they're they're coming and they're coming. And then finally I said to myself, "No, no, no." I said, "First of all, if you want to be a mench, you're going to sit down and you're going to talk to me like a mench cuz this is not going to work. You're not going to just yell at me and stand on top of me." And so he he took a seat. I said, "No, you have you're saying your son's not on grade level?" He says, "Yeah, a fifth grade level." So I said, "So where were you in fifth grade, sixth grade, and seventh grade? You I'm we're only here in eighth grade. This Reb is not a magician. He's not a wizard. Like ping, two months in, now your son's in learning Gamarashi and swimming in the world of Typhus. It's not going to happen. Takes years and time and work and effort and even for people that know how to learn. They need help with Typhus. Sometimes it's it's difficult. So, I said, "Instead of pointing the fingers and blaming everybody else, try to be constructive. Let's let's work together and figure this out. It's not over yet." She says, "So, what do you need me to do?" I said, "When was the last time you learned with your son?" He said, "Never." I said, 'Oh, so you never learned with your son. So what? And your son, Barash, I told them how it is. Barash, you're very successful. You're very rich and uh and your son sees what your passions are business, but he doesn't see that you care anything. Does do you go to Shirim? No. I said, so here's your homework. If you really want this to work, you're going to learn every single week. The garra that your son is learning in class and today you have Rab Ali Stfansky, you have Rab, you have that, you haveundy also mentions Troy Bernstein. Bor I said Robbie Borstein >> because my father was a suborn every single day. >> Yeah. And then you have the rabbi from the u I forgot his name also very good >> elephant elephant and you have you have a million and a half sharim of all more eon less eon simple shot today you can find a gamarashir that talks to you have art scroll you have ma you have there's so many different mediums to learn it it's very easy to learn there's not I said so you're going to learn the gamarra >> there's even an 8minute d >> and not only that you're going to learn the gamarra and on either when I was a kid I had to do this for and and I'm And I'm happy about that. Today Friday uh on on Friday night or on Shabas, you can choose. Your son is going to sit next to you and show and you're going to do Khazar with him cuz he learned it. You learned it. Now now he he knows he has to be accountable and you're going to be passionate about it. And do are you a man of means? He said yes. Can you hire your son a tutor to learn with him the last hour of the day, 40 minutes? He said, "Yeah, we did that. The father started learning. By the time the kid finished the year, he was near the top of the class. He went to a good mifa. Learn with your children. I don't do it enough either. I don't do it. And and honestly, your your your eighth grader or your seventh grader or your ninth grader is probably going to roll their eyes. Go. Stop it. I want to go talk to my friends. But if you're going to be passionate about it, they will come around and and and in and in 10 or 20 years, they're going to relish this. They're going to look back. I look back at those days where my father sat with me and learned with me most between Shabas and and and I look back at it's such a special thing. And and I and I and thankfully he did that and I tried to do it with my son. Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't, but it should be done more often and that's something that every parent needs to do. >> Remind you a troubled kid is usually the parents fault or the school's fault. >> Nah, he's really cornering me here. No. No. So, uh, >> cuz you just imply it was the parents. >> So, I I would say that there's no there's there's no bad kids. There's kids that are having a a difficult time or having a bad day. Um, and there's a lot of circumstances to it. Yes. A lot of times the school didn't I mean the school has to has to put out fires that pre-exist. This is absolutely true. You know, if you're having a kid that for whatever reason is dealing with things that even adults should not be dealing with and here you have a kid who's 12 or 13 years old. >> Um, there's a severe sha and bias issue at home and and sometimes kids get caught in the middle of it and and everyone's trying to do the benefit for the but the the kids really being pushed around and and and the kid doesn't have the capacity. Even adults don't have the capacity. You're dealing with mental health. It could be severe mental health problems. You could you could deal with abuse. There's different, you know, addictions. Kids today, even 12, 13 or a little older, sometimes are drinking things that they shouldn't be drinking or many times are watching things that they should not be watching. None of us should be or listening to things. So, these are these are really uh really a problem. If you have a kid that somehow has a device open access or he sneaks one or some come some some kids have and it takes the parents a year or half a year to find it and today they can buy it in many different ways and the kids I'm not going to give them ideas to those that don't know but many of them can give you you and I ideas and uh and they hide it and the kid staying up hiding in his room till 1:00 2:00 in the morning watching I don't know what how you going to expect him to then so then you know everything everything um deteriorates from a >> rebi a rebi a rebi and yeshiva told my father like 50 years ago So this is before anybody had uh laptops, smartphones, tablets, any of these devices. He told my father that he looks at every single kid in his class between like 18 and 25 or 30 kids in a class and he could see on their eye movements every single one of them that has a TV in their home or doesn't have a TV in their home and which kids watch movies and don't watch movies. And he explains how they concentrate, how they focus, etc. And then he tells my father, he says, "No matter how many classes I go to, you know these like institutes in those days didn't exist, but no matter how many classes I go to, no matter how many extra educational, no matter how many prizes," he says, "I want to tell you something. I cannot compete with billiondoll movies being made in Hollywood." >> No. First of all, first of all, it's also terrible for your brain. Your brain needs to be exercised. It's like any other muscle that if you don't exercise it, it's not it's going to it's going to stop working functioning properly. Your brain needs to be exercised. It need especially a young brain, you know, as it's developing in its development stages. It needs to be. So when these kids are sitting in front of a screen, their brain is basically motionless. It's all there. It's all popping. It's all glitchy and constantly moving. You know, somebody I was teaching a recently and he was telling me that he he was not not happy about it. He was saying unfortunately he was with a few guys and they were watching a movie and uh he's telling me that these kids are on their phone while they're watching the movie and they're they're like uh you know watching something else because even that's hard. It's too they can't Yeah. They can't focus. How sad is that? I spoke to a marketing executive doing billions of dollars with a B billions of dollars in marketing decisions with Fortune 500 companies. But did I ever tell this to you? >> No. They said that when they discussed these hundred million dollar deals, statistics show that the majority of people that watch TV in their homes, whether it in their dining room, living room, bedroom, while they're watching TV, the majority of the time, they're dividing their eye time between their hand device and their TV device. So, when companies make a decision on advertising, they're telling the executives, right? But when the TV show goes to advertisement, >> you're going somewhere else. you're going now and you're staring at your phone to to >> He was telling me even during the actual show they're they're going all other which >> on that note someone told us they're watching the NBA finals the Knicks it's not >> I have it on a voice note >> not that you know you would know what the Knicks are Mandy >> yeah I I'm you don't have to I don't have to hide in the cloak of holiness I'm not very holy I'm just like everybody else in fact I'm worse than everybody else because I I have this position where I'm supposed to be very holy and I'm not. So it's But uh I know exactly what the when we were in seventh and eighth grade. Whatever you wanted to know front to back, back to front. Can you get anything by us? >> The '90s. >> Yeah, guys. >> Hold on, guys. What >> the guy have? He's from Texas. I I could play you play your voice notes. He said that the the biggest NBA game, whatever. The Nets with the Who are they playing? >> Knicks. >> The Nick didn't with the San Antonio Spurs. >> Yes. >> He said that he had a 65 inch TV and his little iPhone. He started the podcast on the SC on the iPhone and the the finals on the on the TV and within a few minutes the the the the Knicks went on to the little iPhone and the Clappy Frank show was on the 65. >> Oh wow. >> But he tells me >> he's not a guy that writes to me very often. >> Nice feedback. But but you see that this idea of and where does this lack of focus is coming from because this is the the the screen game so to speak and and and the digital it's developing more and more and more and again you're doing amazing things. Look what Jem's doing right with you hadkin on this program and it was you know they're doing tremendous things. The living tire after every shabas you showed in show many do as well. It's so nice. It's so amazing and uh you know maybe I should start doing that at home as well with my kids but it's five bucks a month. Yeah, it's it's it's tremendous. But again, we're the kids are putting their brains to sleep and and then all of a sudden when they have to start learning something and even if it's math or something, oh, it's too hard for me. I can't I this, I that. There's no such thing as you can't. You could, you just don't want to. Or you you don't want to be uh >> part of your classes. Do you do shay stuff? >> Yeah, there is. There is. Um >> is that part of your class? >> We talk about I I like to title it. You know it says in this we say it every morning in >> give us could you give us some of your secret lessons you classes >> that's there's no secret sauce source you treat you know the garam I believe says that a person has to love his wife as much as he loves himself you have to respect her more than you respect yourself right comes the Rambam the Rambam takes this quote of Gar and he switches it he says so the garra says love her as much as you love yourself respect her more the Rambam says no you got to respect her more than you respect yourself and love her as much shiz why Did the Rambam flip the quote in the garra and we know that there's hundreds of hundreds written on Rambam and every ra even the every the brisk the greatest you know you have the everyone's madak and every word in Rambam and a gear a change a version that changes a word in Rambam could make a pilp or take out a ple right so to say that the Rambam just misqued something >> you said yeah yeah like you wear raom all No m she learned. >> No, no, I just like the way he said Yeah. Yeah. It was like he already knows the whole >> I want him to more concise. >> Anyways, anyway, he wanted me to move on. >> No, I want you to >> No, no. So, the bottom line is that So, why did the Rambam switch it? So, I I saw I saw in in Rabbi Tski All Rabbi Dr. Tski or Ram Turski has a book called First Year of Marriage. It's pretty decent book and and in it he he he says that the Raam >> Who wrote more books Dalin or Tski? >> I I don't know. They both have shelves full of books. >> Yeah. No, Rabbit Torski was a very legit, you know, RV and and doctor and he was he was respected in in that field as well. >> So he he has he he answers his follow. He says, "You just got married. >> Do you really love your wife as much as you love yourself?" And nobody has to answer that question out loud. What does love even mean? Some, you know, I love my wife a lot more today than I did when we got married. There's it's much deeper. It's much more real. There's there's all we have we have 17 years of life together. we have children. It's something that that grows and and and continues to develop and evolve. It doesn't right we say nice and every single morning. Why in the present? So the Bach brings down that has to be like new the giving of the was like a marriage right so marriage also you have to find new meaning in it every single day. But back to the Rambam was troubled how is it going to be you just got married and you love her this as much as you love yourself. So he says no if it's if you start with mutual respect and you build bonds over time every year every every month every year and you you you create there's this mutual respect and you keep on building on it and the bond gets stronger and stronger each couple in their own in their own way in their own path will get to the point of and really it is all about being mench being a mench you know at the end of the day yeah when you're kala you know for the most part for most people everything is nice and dandy and everything is so beautiful and and uh and and rosy. But you know, life will have challenges. You are coming from two different families. You are two different people. Uh people have skeletons in their closets and and some things only rear their their their not so nice side later on in life and people do have traumas and whatever and you have to be able to adapt and you have to be able to deal and obviously communication is is is is key, but being a mench no matter what. even if things are tough and and difficult, treat your wife with respect, you know, and and and and and obviously can come out with buying things for her and whatever. But there's a lot of people that have sha bias issues and they buy their wives very fancy jewelry and very fancy this and whatever that and I'm not saying you shouldn't buy your wife jewelry. You should it's brought down in as well that before y should buy your wife either jewelry or or piece of uh clothing >> from jewelry jewelers. I happen to know ley he happens to be a great guy. He learns a lot. He knows a lot. He learns. >> You know what he learns? You know what he learns when like 1 to three in the morning. >> And he's extremely funny. On the other hand, >> he's extremely funny. If you ever spend time with him, this guy should he should have gone into the world of comedy and not he happens to be a good jeweler, but he comedy is his calling. >> Talking about >> I want to tell you, can I say one more thing about him? He's probably not going to be very happy, but whatever. You know, >> I'm going to be apologize. I'll apologize later. >> I'm going to be Shabas in inner circle. >> I was last year. I'm going to be spending Shabas like sitting next to him in SH so be careful. >> So last last year I spent one Shabas in inner circle. So I'm sitting in the back over there. There was a swing under the porch with my my little kids and Ley walks by. I said yeah. We start smooing. We pull up a chair. We sat for 2 three hours and you want you want to know what the conversation was? He was telling me and Typhus and this Gumaras. I I was like just like on the receiving end. This guy knows a lot how to learn. He really knows like Gamarus and and he sits and learns. You see the proof is in the pudding. He was able to he was he was so knowledgeable and and he speaks well. He's very eloquent. He's very just a good guy >> and he's a great boss. >> Cuz my niece my niece worked there for a year now. She took a sbatical for a few weeks. She said she's going back there. Um what did I want to tell you? >> You mentioned before that kids who have parents have shonen bias problems. You could tell it in school. Could you please elaborate? People think >> getting divorced people I just want to make this point. people think getting divorced they perhaps sometimes they're a little too selfish to realize the effects of their divorce. Please elaborate you saying when you said people their parents are going through you were you were asking you know different things that can affect a child's behavior. So that's just one of those things. Now every you can't judge nobody could be judged until you're in their shoes. So, I'm not here to uh to make anyone feel bad or anything like that, but at the end of the day, when when there are two adults that are playing that that are having a tugof-war, and again, I'm not judging. I I I'm not in their shoes. >> There are if there are children in that mix, they're they're going to get they're going to get scarred by it. And as much as you know it's my I have to win or you have to win or he has to win or she has to win you know if they both only realized that if this ends amicably their children are going to be much more healthy and they're going to end up respecting them both in the long run it would you know but but unfortunately the tea of a of a of a quarrel or a dispute or a fight is that it's either my way or the highway that there's no in between. I have to win. I must win. I it has to and and and and and then we convince ourselves that it's being done for the benefit of everybody involved when it's not true >> because hold on as an educator you could see when there's families >> as an educator you you could see going through a tough time you know and by the way some you know >> no I just think sometimes people >> they're having difficult bias and they just go straight to the divorce lawyer they don't realize the side effects or the big effects they have on their kids and they run around that's it that's all the point I was trying to >> because you're an expert because you're an expert on show and bias. >> I'm not an expert on show >> you deal with you're teaching people classes and I were sitting at the great Shai Stern's house Thursday having lunch and sh says something very interesting. He said that people and he's married for 40 years Paul whatever it is he said that a lot of people say like the main thing in show and bias is never go to bed being angry at your spouse. It's like a f my father used to always say it. You never go to sleep whatever. I said shy and he says and I tell people you should go to sleep being angry at your spouse. He says because you know what sometimes you both you know you're both heated up you're both angry about something you wake up in the you have to sleep on it you have to feel like you know your side you wake up in the morning you start fresh and then it just resolves itself. He says people are at the height of their anger towards something that their spouse did or didn't do and now they're like okay we're moving forward at night. No go to sleep wake up different in the morning. >> What's your feelings about that? So it really works for the for the particular couple. I've heard many people and I'm one of the people that will disagree with uh with Mr. Stern and I respect by the wayshi >> you know how many hours a day he learns >> I saw the sparum on the table. I was like I was like only I can get an office like that. >> Oh my status picture I put it was in a study. He has like the sparum going on the ceiling but not just on the ceiling. He actually >> was the lunch on caliber with the sparum. >> I don't know. I know the lunch the steaks and the lamb shop. the wine. I'm going to get his son a big I got. His son might get into big trouble. She told his son, "You have any wine?" He says, "I don't know which wines are good." So he said, "Take any bottle." He pulls out a bottle of wine. I start laughing while he turned around to answer a call. His son works for him. He called whatever. I Googled this. A $200 bottle. You're not to have if not they deserve. Why not? Yeah. Thank you. Anyways, so I've me from everybody's got to do what works for them. for me and my wife. Yes, we we don't go to sleep with the negativity in the bedroom. And it's not like, you know, you're going to sleep grumpy. It takes a few hours, but you got to you sit, you talk, and and you and you work through it and uh and and it's as if it didn't happen. You know what I'm saying? And and I don't like to to go to sleep with that feeling and that cloud in in in the bedroom. But I do know a lot of people that have told me, I have this conversation with people, and for some people, like what Rab Shai said, to wake up fresh and this it works for them. So, it really either way works. It's just what works for you in your marriage. I don't think it has to be one way or the other. >> As aim, you want to hear something about humility. One second. >> Wait, wait. You're going to tell me what he's going to forget. >> No, I just want on the topic teacher. Do your guys call you a year or two years later asking things? 6 months later, 3 months later. >> So, a lot of guys call >> and what are the biggest questions I ask you? >> So, most of them most of them call me for a question. Um, and sometimes I do get called for for Sha bias issues as well. I will say that uh biggest one of the biggest there's some good there's a lot of good teachers out there and especially now with the lammanu made teacher training program and the entire sabias and all that there's a lot of uh I actually teach there's a lot of new teachers out there that are doing very well >> not as good as you >> no no some why not everyone you have to find the >> you have to find and by the way I put himself I only do I it's true someone asked me someone asked me you're teaching the class course right I did the Um Robbie Simpson did the sha bias part from Cincinnati and Rabbi Lipker who's the you know top of the top him and Rob Schmling these are the top guys from German they did they he did the the the more intimate intimacy parts so the guy tells me you're teaching the part the first segment of the course it was like 12 classes aren't you like you're it's going against your compet you're you're you're creating competition and I told him I don't look at it that way first of all prasa comes from the aster and um and uh and and I there's a Gar the Garra says if it's if it's if it's set aside for you if it's designated for I will never be able to touch it now of course I can get in your way people can make you problems they could try to snatch a deal but that means like writes it means it was never supposed to be yours and if someone harmed you the will get even but but you have to look at it that this was never supposed to be yours in the first place if it's supposed to be mine it's going to be mine 100 teachers later 500 later. >> What's the most common uh scholas question you get after people get married? >> They're usually not great questions. Um, you know, I mean, I don't know if it's I can't zero it down to one. Most of the time they're not calling me for they're calling me for for like, you know, what do I do about that? Who should I talk to about this? Or, you know, sometimes unfortunately have an infertility thing. So, I just guide them to the right people. Um, but uh, you know, >> back to humility. You had a humility. >> Yeah. So there's the the Gamar and Araan says >> he's speaking of humility. He's >> he said Ara now he got back into >> Ara says >> what >> humility of humility >> the garam and aravan and Dr. Gimmel talks about >> became so controversial in crown heights. I have a feeling that there's some people that take their gar and they hide it. >> So I'll tell you what no >> you have you have it says that for three years B and B had an AR had a dispute. One team said is like us. The other one said is like us and Bascal comes out and says they're both words of hem but is like and uh and the question is why were they were sharper they were you know they was they were higher level of learning says because they were more humble because was more humble they would quote before the came to ask them because of that humility they were that the hala should follow their opinion. >> A man, you grew up in a smaller family, right? >> I grew up in a family of two, just me and my sister. H >> how do you see that the >> And my wife is one of 13, >> right? So that's my question. What's the contrast, the difference? >> So for me, >> how do you see the differences? How it played out? >> Oh, it's very very different. It's extremely different. Like like my house growing up at 8:00 p.m. is a museum, right? It's quiet. Like no, no one's disturbing you from your sleep. Like there's no one making noise. And and and you know, >> I remember I stayed in your house as a kid once. I remember so quiet. >> Absolutely. He probably didn't know what to do with himself. You know what I'm saying? It's like uh but uh but but I I also watch >> So what do people not understand of growing up in a small family? Because most from people bar these days are big families. What do people not know or different that sticks out in your head that you realize was only when you got older? >> No. So all of my uncles Hashem had had a lot of kids. So I was not like never seeing a big family. Every time I went to my cousin's house, uh the one on Crown Street at 10, the one on Empire Boulevard at 1011, the one on Eastern Parkway was 6 or what happened there, there were plenty of cousins and just in in immediate local Crown Heights. So the exposure to to large family, it wasn't my immediate family, but it was my it was my very close family, you know, first cousin level. So it wasn't like it was a culture shock, but uh I try to be a little social. So I I fit right into my wife's family. I think maybe my my mother-in-law might have other thought they know but but I I think >> you are less social if you grew up in a small family >> not necessarily. So what are the main differences >> that you see? >> Again I >> or you don't see >> I don't for me not so much you know I I didn't I didn't I don't think it really I was always with like in class we were always social either getting along or not but there was it was it was a social construct of some type. >> My brother we hung out we we we we always I mean your mother's uh has a degree in psychology and all of that so it obviously means a lot more than what I'm saying but yeah go. My brother claims that people who grow up in big families um have very they're less needy and they have less expectations because they're not used to getting so much attention. >> That makes sense. So I will tell you I had I as a kid and my parents were very middle class. I had everything I needed. It was never like and it wasn't spoiled. We had my you know my mother my parents are Israeli. My mother's a good oldfashioned Israeli mom. She loves her kids and she went all out for her kids. But there were rules. There was no games. You know bedtime was bedtime. from supper time was supper time and but but we also got more than we needed like if I wanted a toy and that yeah there was no like you know when you have 10 kids that that that that's possibly could be an answer to what you're saying >> and attention what about attention >> yeah there's never a lack of attention exactly >> you already have two kids >> but your father father traveled a lot >> my father traveled a lot yeah my father is still is a sh so >> he still travels >> he still yeah I mean a little bit >> far >> no but uh but uh as a kid he traveled a lot he worked in empire >> did You did you get involved in helping you're involved in so many nonforprofits and doing so much volunteer work with Shim and Chame when did you start getting involved in all these extracurricular stuff? >> So a year after we got married that's when I really uh started getting involved but again I always saw my mother involved in these type of things. I always saw my father was the type of guy when I was a kid and I've seen this a few times father's handy and I'm not. My wife is more handy than I am, but uh I I've seen my father multiple times say you get stuck on the side of the road that stop over, pop his tire, take care of it like my you know >> pop his tire >> or pop in >> pop it out and pop the other one in. No. Yeah. Like or you know >> I know the hair you know they like or you know the guy like he'll go help a guy with gas to the lo bring him. So like this is stuff like I I remember vividly a few times there were people in the neighborhood that this is prevar and which is a phenomenal it's a mitzvah it's not just referred to as a it's a right it's a tre I high thing of and um I I mean I've seen my mother at le I could remember at least at least 10 times in my life where there were people from Israel whatever that couldn't afford and my mother pard went to different people's houses in crown heights and called them and and and secured a few thousand to help them get married. So these are things that I've seen uh you know of um of of acts of was always something that was pretty much in the DNA. So once I got uh we got married and >> it's definitely it's definitely in the blood that people know that they could call you for a favor and I I have to say this is the first time ever saying it in a public setting. >> I had a crazy people think Shy like chasing people that are stealing Amazon packages. I had a crazy story this winter. I don't know if I don't know if anybody knows that in this winter 2026 was a crazy winter. Major major snowstorms. We had one snowstorm, three feet of snow like to go into a car wasn't even thought of. I have a special we have a special needs child. He was in a Shabaton bar park. It happened over Shabas and they need we needed to pick him up. Now you can't helicopter. You can't call the police. You can't call the fire department. You can't get a car on the road. And I called you up basically saying you're my lifeline. I have nobody else to call. I said I called him >> the great Rabbi. >> Could you call me back in an hour? I don't know what he did in that hour. He said, "I'm going to come pick you up." He's like, "I want you to come." He picked himself. >> He picked me up with a shim truck, a SUV. Not only was there 3 ft of snow, it was still snowing when he came. >> Could barely see out the windshield. >> We drove there slow. We were the only car in the road. No cops, no fire department, no ambulances. >> We did that podcast with >> drove. Yeah, that was also another crazy show. Another one. >> Drove to Bar Park, picked him up, they were shocked, drove him back. No fanfare, no telling about it. So, you're obviously when people think of and a huge huge favor, you're on people's minds, which I feel bad. >> I just want to say that last we did another show and man called screaming yelling at me. I thought it' never come. I would never imagine >> he he'd be sitting here in the >> because he takes people's he takes people's cover serious. We say something across the line, he'll tell you something. But uh but uh >> so I'm happy that Rabbi Mendy came back. I know him since I'm 7 years old. And >> yeah, 7 years old. >> I felt so bad. He's yelling. I forgot what it was. Nothing too. >> No. No. >> But I'm happy. >> It's a sensitive. >> It was a message. It was it was a text. >> The sensitive person. If you say something that cross, you're going to I did overreact a little bit. I'm not and I told my she that and I told you that >> just an honor having >> but but it was first of all I was watching to know right the fact that I was watch so you know but it's like I I told you I heard two guys you know we're talking about the Clap and Frank podcast to another guy like oh you listen to that like like as if he's better and then all of a sudden like 20 minutes later somebody else would mention something and the guy has what to say and he knows who said what. I'm like no no no my friend you don't get to call people out when you're watching it yourself. You know what I'm saying? It's not a bad thing. It's okay. You have you have good guests. You have uh you have >> and we have a weekly commentator Rabbi Men's brother-in-law Yankee tells her now it was a feature weekly Rashi and Tyus on the show. >> Well, we'll see what he has to say after this one. Now he's biased. No, >> I was away last. >> But you know what? He says it how it is. And and and there's not a lot of people that are watching. >> Someone called me this week. He said, "I like Yankee. I don't watch the show. I just watch Yankee commentary." >> It's cheating. It's cheating. You go straight to the commentating without watching the part. was to give you the part to to to give you the rest of the story. Paul Harvey used to have a segment on on on uh on WABC. This is Paul Harvey and now you know the rest of the story, right? He would start off when we were kids. He would start off with a random story, get you thinking one way and then throw a curveball and then this is and now you know the rest of the story and this is Paul Harvey. He was very a very good storyteller. This like not not any it was something with substance. It wasn't like it wasn't holy. But so I was working for Promont and Promont was extremely nice. >> I want to talk about how you switched from >> business into going this. I was working for Promont and Promont was extremely nice to me. >> What do you do in the construction company? >> I was a site manager slash maybe project manager, but uh I I I took what do you do? >> So practically. >> So practically, >> do you lay the bricks? >> No. Okay. >> I I I'm on the job site >> or what? What the hell? >> Yeah. If if I'm walking in in if I'm on the perimeter, I don't have to be, but if I'm walking within the construction walls, you have to wear a helmet. >> Yeah, there's laws and there's you can get fined and then this and that. So, you wear a helmet. Now, it's my job to make sure that the job site is up and running, which means all the permits are in order and if they're not to make sure that, you know, you have DOT permits to block off certain sections of the street that can expire cuz we need to bring trucks. We need to park them, right? Um or I have to make sure that we're in OSHA compliance. I have to make sure we're in DOB compliance. I have to make sure that the work I can't have a guy dangling off on the third floor and if his harness is not tied in, the whole job site's going to get shut down. I don't want that injury either, right? I have to make sure that if it's 90° outside that the guys are taking so I give, you know, I give them a safety talk in the morning about dehydration and if you what to look out for and different things like that. >> Ever give guys pure aloe to be hydrated? >> Well, we didn't have pure aloe then, but uh but maybe we should make a push for pure aloe in construction sites. But I want to tell you one time it really paid like it was it was one of these hot days and I I I don't I I told them I gave them a whole talk about uh about um heat stroke and heat heat related illnesses and and they have packets that to prepare you and and what to look out for and um and uh and and I obviously we made a few water stations and I told them that every hour I want you not to work for 10 minutes you know just besides for your water break here and there just take it easy in the shade because I'd rather get 50 good minutes of the hour and look I'm I'm about to go to lunch, you know, it's around 1:00. They come tell me this there's a problem downstairs. I go down the ladder and I see a guy, he's pushed he's not doesn't look good at all and whatever. So, I call 911 and some of these guys are panicking cuz they think 911 is ICE. It's not. It's not. It's uh and go explain to them that uh that um that uh that the that the police department here doesn't really enforce any of this. It's really And I tell him, listen, he's on the job site. human life is more important than all these other considerations where they they had to lower a ladder cuz the you know they they the fire department came they got them out Barashem I I caught it in the early stages and we gave them uh not cold water you're not supposed to give cold water because it takes your body time to regulate it you're supposed to give regular warm water in in such a scenario and you know but even a guy like that comes back to the job site right I only I he needs to get me a letter from his doctor or from an urgent kid that from a doctor that he can cut me fit to What are you saying with this? Where you going with this? >> I'm going with I'm saying it's my responsibility. What happened? What? You own the job. You own the construction company, right? The guy comes to work the next day and now he he collapses again. Why'd you let him on the job site? Yeah. So I I actually take that and I save it. I send it to the office. We have a file. We have uh you know and and all the safety stuff. >> No more. You made sure everything a lot of times you know with all today we have technology. Promont actually has a company called SmartCon where they save uh contractors a lot of money. A lot of times you you do a you know your architect and your draws up a set of plans and your structural engineer draws up a set of plans and they're supposed to match but not always do they match and all of a sudden you start building and you realize is it you know so >> when you went out with your wife were you planning did you discuss you're going to become a rabbi or did you say you're going to work on a construction? I honestly thought my wife I I think that my wife thought we're going on but uh >> you told Is that what you let her on? >> I I I she claims I did but I don't think so. Maybe I liked her that much. I I didn't but I think we're I I could say we were on shas and cryites >> a thousand%. >> I I you know in more than one way. >> So did you look for you went I I I I >> you cuddled. >> No, I actually >> No, no, no. >> So let's the con that finish the construction. the construction. Basically, my my job is to make sure it gets built right that it gets built correctly. Any any RFIs, any requests for information from to deal with the architect and this to make sure that the workers are doing their job, that they're safe and done. >> All right. after after we got married, I went to Kylo and I actually learned a little bit because, you know, who am I fooling, right? I mean, so I learned a little bit and uh I have a good friend and uh he was teaching part-time in Dark Aim, great school, and um he he was going away for two weeks, so he told me, "Do you mind taking me over? I really wasn't interested in doing it, but he's a really good friend of mine, like a really good friend. So I I said, you know, for you, I'm going to do it. If if you can't find anyone else, I'm in." So I went and I gave these I took them over for two weeks. And uh it happens to be that they had an somehow some other teacher there was a vacancy mid year he had to leave something I don't know if he was >> you worked with my mother right >> your mother yeah absolutely I used to speak to her all the time so I uh I then they came over to me like oh we need someone to take over you know the third or fourth grade to just to the end of the year because he left I'm like so like no we you gave a pretty decent class and we're happy with you so could you please stay so I'm figuring if I go to Kylo or this I'm still teaching Tyra and and they really need it I mean they they so I stayed and one year became two years became a few years couple years down the line it just became a little bit uh you know difficult with the prana so the family grew so I went um I actually went to a I was working before proont and you see how everything is just goatus and then we'll see from proont to this this is this we we'll do it all in one so I was working for a company called three bows it's a it's a woman's woman and girls clothing company where u she it was she would make the she would design >> a present Yes. Often. Yeah. Um >> she closed down the company. It's a cash advance store now. >> It's right It's right next to where the the next to the bash. >> Yeah. So anyways, she she she had a couple staple items that she made that was very good. It was a good seller. And there were other like woman uh people other from women that wanted to get into the from you know space of making clothing or whatever. And they would go through her and they would give her the design and she would produce it for them and whatever. So, I was in charge of, you know, payroll for whatever was needed. I dealt with the the shipping a little bit. I dealt with China to make sure that things you can go by boat. You can go by ear depending on when you need it. Also, there's a lot of money on the streets. Not everybody pays during that 30s, 60s, and 90s. People don't pay. So, I I I uh knew I I I actually collected a lot of money without without uh you know, without having to throw down. No, I was very uh you know, and uh >> Manny Manny says if you speak nicely to people and you >> Yeah, I got I got very good. So, so the and and then one day it dawns upon me. I'm there and again it was very good. I realized that everything I'm doing could be done automated like the shipping this they said like why are you paying me a salary? Why are you paying me a salary when >> So you find yourself? >> So I I had a meeting with her and I told her like I she's like yeah but we're family and I said I'm not upset. I'm just like I'm thinking I I know the f I know that I know the deal here because I'm very much involved in everything and I you don't need to hire me. You can do >> fire yourself on all tire also. Is that >> maybe this show? I don't know. Hopefully the show doesn't >> listen all attire didn't give me a pink slip yet. But you know, you can't you can't you can't Nobody's invincible, right? Everybody could get humbled. >> What they say? What do they say? The cemeteries are full of irreplaceable >> people. Exactly. I hope never to get to one or at least anytime soon. But the bottom line is that uh so she's like what are you going to do? I I told her pran comes from the shirt. Give me two weeks. Give me two weeks. I'm going to start looking around and if I find something I just want to save you all of this money. It just doesn't make sense. This is after dark. >> After dark I was I literally three bows was on Empire between Kingston and Brooklyn just to give you right. I my apartment where we lived was on Empire and Balfur. It's literally 300 ft walk. That's all it is. So I walk to work. I you know >> you cross the street. >> I I'm I just walk out the door. I don't even think I got to the street yet. I get a call from Israer who's one of the head guys at Promont like the the number two guy I think now >> he's Warner Dwell's brother >> brother yeah and his parents >> really really smart guy great guy family you know >> very nice people >> I got a call from you is tells me proont is is growing we're going we have a lot of we have a lot of job sites coming and I need more people I need someone ASAP I'm I thought of you you want to start I was like yeah how'd you know I I said I'm kind of looking for a job they did within 60 seconds. I said I I I yeah offer. She's like uh can we start next week? >> Absolutely. You was down with him. Can we start next week? >> I said we can absolutely start next week. So I went back in. I didn't even So how do I know you learn? So I lived at seven Balfur for >> for many years and they also did. So they moved on to the same floor as us. Now the apartment across from me, we had Rabbi Ki rap who was a good friend of mine. >> Good friend of mine as well. Speaking of Raandy worked with people across the aisle. So you should know that he was and one thing you could say quietly he had a tremendous amount of connections in Alal and in the airport and he helped a tremendous amount of people in a very quiet and understanding just like Yasi. Yasi is Yasi is doing phenomenal work. Yasi is doing great work and Yasi is actually expanding it from JFK to Boston to California to Miami. Yasi is doing phenomenal work. He's really and he kind of lifted up Yasi is very good. Yasi is a good guy. But with we'll get to Yeah, we'll get to rap. Absolutely. Yasi is great. >> I I'll get to to Yasi in a minute and and his father. But um >> so the the the there was a a woman that lived across directly across the door for me. And um she was an African-American woman, very big, very nice lady, and we would see her from time to time. And uh the learners just moved in. I maybe saw him once or twice. Don't really know who he is. All of a sudden, one night we hear bam, bam, bam. And after the third or fourth time, something is weird. Something just doesn't make sense. So I I open up the door and I see a straw learner's back to to my door and he's winding up kicking the front door as hard as he can. Obviously, I always I knew of him. He's normal guy. I'm like, "So, what are you doing?" He's like, "There's smoke coming out of her apartment. Oh my gosh. This is dangerous." So like I right away told all the ladies to take the kids downstairs. I called 911 immediately and we're starting kick we're kicking the door as hard as we can. She finally came to the door. disoriented. She had food on the stove and she she fell asleep and uh because of the kicking she eventually got to the door. The fire department came. They put everything out. They didn't get out of control. No other saved her life. Israel saved her life. And he's also a paramedic. So, you know, he was able to uh to tent her. EMS came and and took her to the hospital or whatever. So, that was my that that was our first shalom. And uh it's it's it's >> he sold the way you pound the door. He's like, "You can be that construction." >> No. So, uh, but it's been like we've like they're they're without being related to us, they're like just like family. Like his kids can walk into my house whenever my kids. It's like our wives are very good friends. It's like it's amazing. >> Showroom. How many you do a week? >> Let's emergency room. Let me just do the final. Give me a second. I'll make it quick. >> Let's keep the action high. >> Give me Give me a second. So, the bottom line is that's how So, he calls me. You want a job? I said, "Sure." So, that's how I started working for Promont. Promont was amazing. Uh I learned a lot. Yasi Kovstein is a sadik of I came with zero knowledge. So in the beginning every little thing oh there's an inspector watch. He would always tell me mendy just calm down be yourself you'll be fine. And he taught me everything. Whatever I a little bit my proud brother-in-law love him like a brother. You know what it says in le >> and five once said a good eye a good le and he said the le is the greatest one because in the le you have all the other good things. Yasi copin is what I would say is a le. He's a great great guy. get along with and his wife. >> How could you not get along with Yas? If you don't get along with Yasi Cups, there's something wrong with you. >> His wife Nomi is his Azerite biggest sadas ever. I shouldn't say biggest. She's probably like 80 pounds. >> And and if you ever been to her house for Shabas, >> greatest people ever spread that they put out this food le. >> Yeah. Anyways, so >> can we talk about show already? >> Hold on. So one day I'm sitting in my office. It was a It was a week before 9 days before Yeshiva starts. This is going to be my sixth year. So, six years ago and um I'm I'm I go out on the job site. I'm on the second or third floor. We're pouring two 300 yards of concrete. It's a busy day on a construction site. Cars are coming and going and I get a call from Rabbi Isra Wilhham who's my boss today. He's the man of the of the yeshiva. And he tells me, um, what do you think about coming to work for Halara to be as an assistant principal in 8th grade? I'm like, you got to be kidding me, right? I said, can you just call me on video call? And uh so he calls me on video call. I'm in a hard hat, a polo shirt, and I have boots on and there's concrete all over the place. I'm like, Rabbi Wam, you see this like me to Yeshiva in 9 days. I mean, how does how do we even bridge this world? Like, where? So, I said, where does where is this coming from? So, he says my his father Rabbi was my neighbor and was a big >> Yeah. And uh and I was a halfdecent student in MFA. Uh and uh so I had a cash with him and I would go to Shirim and he would answer my questions. So I I always I got along with him and he he tells me, "Oh, I was talking to my father like I really need someone cuz 8th grade moved from 667 Eastern Parkway to 417 Troy." So now that we're moving into a new building, they need an assistant principal. So my father recommended you. So I said, "Okay, that's great." >> You know, it's a different everything helps. You know, you get a push from here. >> You got the first initial. Okay. >> I don't know. >> Bobby, he's blaming. >> I'm telling you the story exactly how it happened. Okay. So the bottom line is the bottom line is the bottom line is I uh I uh I called my wife. >> I'm like guess what just happened? >> Where do you think Zusha got the idea from >> the VN called up and said you better find him a job. We need this guy this mic. And by the way Shuazelic Brookke was on the phone with Shulikbrook who's I think the head of the board and we all had three-way calls. So >> who got I have phone evidence. I have phone evidence. >> EVERYTHING COULD BE TRUE. >> SHUAZIC BACK ME UP OVER HERE. ANYWAYS, so I get uh I get uh I'd call my wife. My wife, she tells me, you know, at the end of the day, you were suited to teach. You were suited to be in this world. This is this is you know, not that you're not suited for this, but this is your strong point. It's not a terrible idea. So I call the ra of my rai rapboard who's a big big and he should be on this podcast one day% and um just a a special a special and um and he's like oh for sure you have to do this you have to do he's not even a doubt he didn't >> by the way right when he gets on your case so you have to now to make it to make things a little bit more interesting I'm still thinking about it the next day or two I get a call from a friend of mine who's in the construction space he says my company's growing. I need I need another uh senior manager. I know you have experience. I want you to come to work with me and I'm offering you a starting salary of this which is 30% more than I'm making today. >> Okay? 25 30% more than I'm currently making. Hold on. So I tell him I tell him, "You really had to call me now. Now that all of this is coming down on me, you know, I'll tell you this. You couldn't call me a month ago or in a month." So I call up. I don't know what to do. and and we just moved into our house and we the renovations and I still owe money from it. You know, you have to pay up 30% is significant. So, Major tells me to go go to my wife and kids were upstate then. So, I went to the oil. I had all the time and I I learned and I I was in no rush and I went and I was for the first time in my life. I wrote to the Reb that I need I need guidance. I need real guidance. I need to know what to do now and and I'm stuck and I know my heart my brain's telling me one thing. My heart's telling me another thing. and everybody else is telling me something else. So, I'm gonna I'm gonna walk out of the aisle. I'm gonna open up after I wash my hands. The first Iris Kaidish I find and that's going to be my message. I'm asking I need but I I'm asking for clarity. It's a little pushy. And I walk out. I wash my hands. I open up the sky. I have a picture of it somewhere in my phone. The first letter on the page written to a person by the name of Rebuvia. The Reb writes over there, "Thank you for telling me that you're getting back involved in that's how it starts first line." And he says, "And we know that the says it's shamebought or maybe that when you do, and if that's by physical, how much more so by this should bench you and that's it." That's a that's a home run answer. There's there's no doubt. I called up my wife. I sent her the letter. I translated it. I said, "Decision made, right? There's nothing." So, I called up my uh my friend who offered me the 30% raise. He's he's a lab. He's like, "Job is off the table after such a letter. I'm not even I'm not even That's it." >> I never knew the story. >> This is the That's the other part I was telling you about. And then I called up Rabm. I said, "I'm in." I actually walked into the building like 2 days before Yeshiva started. I had I got my office the day before. >> You have the helmet or you >> No, I still have the helmet, by the way. But uh but yes, >> you might need a helmet with dealing with eighth graders more than you need. They I want to say I want to say that what goes on in our building is is unique. No, it's unique that that the the ninth graders, the 10th graders, people from from 3 4 years ago, they come visit Raban, they visit Rabi Brisket, they'll visit me, they'll visit some of their old teachers. We have a tremendous amount of kids that are still in MEFA or beyond MEFA that will come back and say hello when they walk by the building and whether they're coming to me or to Rab to Rab Brisket to their or to their teacher or sometimes to all of us. So there there you know there is >> So what do you prefer the construction site or Troy Avenue? >> And what's the biggest difference being working in a private company versus a me? So the the the the stress of a construction site of dealing with the the do and dealing with you know >> but every day you're paying interest right on these loans is a huge pressure to get the get the job. Yes. Yes. You have that as well. So you have they have that pressure and you have the pressure from the city especially that my last project was in you know right across the street from the Barkley Center. So in Yepyville it's not easy to build and they're very into calling and making complaints and even though when there's nothing you know Barashem we kept the job site open with Hashem's help you know 90 something% there was one audit but for the most part we were okay. So there there's that stress, but with and and I don't have that stress anymore. So that I'm happy is off my head. But at the end of the day, when you build something and you make a mistake, it's bad. It's a change order. It's a it's my job to make sure it gets right. And here and there, I I didn't get it right. And the wall was built out a little bit. So you got to bring, let's say, like Blue Diamond cutting, concrete cutting, which is by a good friend of mine, David Katz, a local person, a tremendous he had tremendous obviously show, one of the best people I know. And uh so Blue Diamond Concrete Cutter, shout out if I'm allowed to do that. And so I would have to call someone. I called Blue Diamond then. He since bought it and and they had to shave off, you know, it's a couple thousand dollars and they have to shave off the excess brick and they do it in a way that it doesn't cause vibrations and it doesn't Right. Um so those are fixable when now in my job now if I tell a kid something or if I say the wrong thing or if I do the wrong thing, it could leave a scar for life. So the ill effects are 20, 30, 40, 50 years. And we don't always get You know it says it says it says right says and and what you say to somebody can lift them up. >> I'm a new parent. I'm sending my kid to terra next year and he's starting off in this makina division. >> I'm very confident. Yeah. I already signed the contract. They ready the tuition. That's why you speak so nicely lately. I noticed. >> No, but I'm just saying I'm just saying I'm very confident now. >> Now you're more confident. >> You know how you so the pressure of not saying the wrong thing and and unfortunately I'm not perfect at that. it's still a work in progress. Um is is the biggest, you know, to to make sure that you don't make anything worse, only better. Um the main thing is that the reason why they keep on coming back is because it's personal. What I find is the biggest tip. A lot of kids share things with me. Oh, oh, you know, my brother's not feeling well. My I came late cuz my I had to babysit. So, you know, a week later or a couple days later, hey, how's your brother feeling? Or just remember even insignificant things they told you. Oh, you know, I went to I went with my family to Florida. Oh, how was your trip? Did you enjoy it? And then they they see that you ma they matter. Oh, what do you mean? Rabbi Hersk remembers what I'm saying like regular thing. And that's what that's it's not anything significant. I mean it is but it's not anything I'm not doing anything. Wow. I'm not doing just paying attention noticing and know sometimes like well got his ticket out of jail. >> He met two people that were probably not famous for their obvious. They were working for par right in a prison system. He had every reason in the world to be miserable. He was his father's favorite son. He was ripped away. He's never getting out of here. There's no human rights in that side of the country today in in in in those Middle Eastern countries, certainly back then, but he notices that two people are having a rough day. And he says, "And just the ability to notice, to pay attention, and when they do tell you something, just follow up with them." You know that and how do you how do you know this? A kid asked her, "How do you know this? What do you mean? You told it to me a few days ago, and when you tell me things, I pay attention." >> They're shocked because nobody else gave me. But all of a sudden, all of a sudden, now you build a connection and and and sometimes you have to discipline and and you know, a kid tells me, "Oh, I hate you." He felt comfortable. I said, "I'm fine with that." I said, "Because you can only hate me if you loved me." I said, "Hate means you have passion. You have emotions. Now it's misdirected." Rabbi Hersh gave you. I called your father. I told I said, "But but all I have to tell you is this will evaporate and you're going to come back to how it was before. And you have to know that it wasn't personal. >> You're giving away a lot of free tips. People charge a lot of money for this stuff." Uh, it's not it's >> Mandy. Show him. >> Yes. >> Anyone accept it? Anyone can sign up? What's the vetting process? You have to be blue collar guy. >> No, we have to be ripped. You got to go to the gym. Like, tell what's the qualifications? >> I common sense is your biggest asset. Uh, being smart. Um, knowing, you know, you have to know how to deescalate. Barashem, the deescalation is getting better and better. Um, we most of our calls end up you you never end up hearing about them. Uh, because the situation was deescalated. We, you know, I'd like to have people that are not not teenagers. They should be at least 21 years of age. >> Well, very practically, if a guy's 900 lb, it's going to be very hard to chase somebody stealing Amazon packages. >> Correct. >> So, so again, it's not only about, you know, package thieves is is a very small percentage of what we're doing. >> You guys caught my Amazon package thieves twice. >> Amanda, she was she she was actually recent she was actually recently arrested again by the detectctor. I buy from all the time. So I'm just kidding. >> No, the other time was a guy. Amanda was the lady that the guy you you also caught the guy. And the great thing about Sherman was it Cousins from East New York. Beny Cousins he >> cousins no games. >> Beny Cousin is a is a is a brown belt in Krav Maga. He knows a little jiu-jitsu in Muay Thai as well. He's going to be a black belt soon. He's he actually runs a Krav Maga school in Crown Heights. Him and Yussell Freiedman are called a traditional Kravaga. actually go to this school as well and I'm a student there uh a couple times a week. So uh Beny >> but not only he caught the guy the second time he made sure that the DA prosecuted him and I went down to the DA's office and we testified and was was hood. >> So Beny Beny actually is very good at deescalating. He speaks extremely well. He he he can sell. He's a good salesman and also if things get a little out of control, which they usually don't, Benie is the right guy for the job. Beny has he has all the he's very he has all all the all the tools you you would want. >> What's your most common call to shim >> lately? The most common call is for people acting erratic in the street. We have a lot of people that are emotionally disturbed, non-Jews and Jews and a tremendous amount. We get we get at least four or five calls a day for these type of things. So um and we have to settle them, deescalate them and and usually we get out ahead of it. So you don't even hear about the issues that happen. But >> what's the current relationship between the police department and sham? >> The police department and sham has a very good and >> it's competitive. Is it respect competitive? You're helping them >> respect. So so >> again understand that sham as a whole as every neighborhood runs itself but we have a shyus with one another. We we help each other out. We give mutual aid to one another. Now understand that when you have a uh a police captain that now becomes the commanding officer of the 71st precinct but he came from Flapbush, he has very good experiences with Flatbush, right? So I recently met with a with a a higher ranking guy and I never met him before. He never he was never in cry. So I started talking to him and he's like, "Oh, I'm already sold on the shaman concept. I was in Flabbush and Bob Moscowitz, the executive director of Flab, he you know, I love the guy." So it's it's an easy in for so or someone was in Crown Heights and now he goes to Queens and now he's a CEO in Queens or commanding officer in Queens. Oh, the Crown Heights guys, they were phenomenal. So Queens, you know, so that that's very very helpful. But yeah, we help them out tremendously. Um, Barashem, >> are they looking to arrest people or it's bad for their numbers? Could you talk on that? >> No, they'll take the arrest if they can. Yeah, because it closes out the crime. It means that they're being effective. >> But I thought, isn't like showing less arrest better or that's not true? It >> less incidents is better, but if there's an incident, you want to close it. Absolutely. Now, what we've excelled in in the last couple years, uh we've invested hundreds and hundreds of thousands of dollars um in in installing cameras and different uh things to protect our neighborhood to protect our community. Um I'll just give you uh you know, Kinister Schlus, there was an older crossing Empire Boulevard. She was struck by a vehicle in the front of the vehicle, so there's no way that he didn't see her. And the guy drives off. We get a sham call. A woman hit by a car. Of course, is there as well. And uh the first unit that arrives is told by the caller it was a uh it was a darker color vehicle and it went uh you know so right away someone logged on to the cameras we have in that area and we're able to see that it was a white car it was a Ford we have the plates we have everything we put it into the system and whatever sure enough that car showed up in 25 minutes in borrow park we were able to get borrow park sh with the tail of the car we we got in touch with the 71 and the 67 66 precinct over there that guy was arrested 35 minutes later from incident brought to the 71 because a hit and run with injuries. Now, it wasn't terrorism or anything like that. I'm not going to create panic here, but that's a serious crime. An elderly woman getting knocked down like that and you, you know, an accident is an accident. You pull over and you wait. The guy clearly sees that what he did and he drove off. That's not, you know, the other day a felony now. >> Yeah. A car was stolen. >> Um, and this is something that I actually want to talk about. Um, too too often I'm seeing this recently. uh a a woman very very a phenomenal mora here in Crown Heights and her husband's a great guy. It's a mistake that that too many people make. Left the car running for a minute and she went no kids in the car. She went to go pick up her daughter. >> It's illegal. What's it called? It's called loitering when you have a car with the motor on and nobody. >> So sheal literally 30 seconds >> and this group of guys they're uh they're you know a guy jumps out of a car, grabs the car and we still haven't found that car. >> Oh, they stole the car. >> They stole the car. Now we get a call. We respond right away. We start looking for the car. We couldn't find the car. And uh and the car was immediately left Crown Heights, so we couldn't follow it on camera anymore. And but we the guys who were our our camera techs noticed that this is not just one guy. >> There is another car that's dropping these guys off. So it's a ring that that are associated. So that car and the plates and everything, we we we placed an alert on it. An hour later, it shows back up into Crown Heights. two other guys, the two the two other guys that were involved. We tail it, called the detective that was dealing with this. Where is it? We led him straight to the car. Two of those guys got arrested for for taking part. So, we didn't get the actual car, but you know what? That car has not been in Crown Heights since then. They lost their car for that. They had to get it back. And so, you know, we're working smarter and not harder. >> Can you call the police? >> So, I just want to say one thing. The other day I was walking on Troy Avenue and I have videos on my group from different units. People are leaving their cars unlocked and running. Engines running, keys, even for a minute. Don't do that. Just close your car. I know it's the summer. I know it's hot. I know you want to leave the air conditioner on. >> If it's not bolted down, they're going to take it. Even if it is bolted down, they might take it anyways. Do not leave your car running. >> It's not a real podcast in 2026 in the firm community. If we don't ask you your opinion on electrical scooters, >> so I'm actually working on something now. >> Okay. And if and and and before you you definitely took lead >> on going after the electric scooters, but for for uh for uh >> headache pure and I think the problem can't balance electric scooters. I will tell you that before you went on your on the tirade about the electric scooter, I we were messaging about this and I was sending you videos. I mean we had correspondents. >> Do you know what you know what made me go crazy? >> I have more videos >> son was grocery. I have more videos on my phone of of >> of injuries last summer. Last summer, there was a kid that was almost as perah on the on the way to the hospital and for the first 24 hours things were extremely tense and Barashem he made a full recovery. So there's no story to tell and obviously we're not going to release that video. But it's not good. It's not you know the electric scooter is a very dangerous toy. Now, of course, if a person's going to wear a helmet and if they're going to follow all the traffic rules and if and if and if but look the everybody cuts corners and they they zoom in between cars. I almost hit a few people, you know, I'm driving down Albony Avenue thankfully at 10 miles an hour and a guy just ra how to avoid Amazon theft patterns. Anything you can do or nothing you can do about it. >> Yeah. So, first of all, be a good neighbor, right? I know that my next door neighbor or the guy across the street from me is in upstate for the weekend and he got a package. I take a picture of it. I send it to him. I'm like, "Hey, by the way, it's going to be sitting right right on the inside of my front door." You know what I'm saying? It's not a big deal. Like, and a lot. So, you could do that. Number one. Number two, if you know you're going to be upstate for a week or two stopped with the Amazon, don't don't you know, send it to where you are upstate or send it to a place where you know my block all day. Everybody in my block that goes upstate, they forgot when they go on Amazon, they forget to put their new address. So, by mistake, it's going to Crown Heights. Then they put on the block, I already got a bunch of packages. Can somebody run and get the packages? >> So, you see something, say something. If you see packages outside somebody's house, take it in. >> And I do have a neighbor, a great He's a great guy. Every once in a while I was like, "Oh, you know, I'm expecting a big thing. It was supposed to come yesterday, but we left and I come and I take it in." >> Third tip, >> they usually stay all day or night or no, >> there's no line. It doesn't end. It doesn't >> crack needs money. They're just going to They're mostly crackheads. >> And and a lot of them are are older, you know, there's a lot there's a couple telltale signs. You see, you know, a guy with a with a big bag. If you see his bottles, his bottles. But see a guy with a big bag pushing another cart. And you know, you know, and then some of them are recidivist thieves. Like they know my name already. I know their name. I know where they live. You know, that's him. Like he wal, you know, this hasn't happened in a long time. There was like once upon a time there was a guy, his name was >> was Nelson. He used to break Nelson. He used to break into cars. Shaman probably caught him 50 or 60 times. It's crazy. So one of the members then told me was walking on Nor Avenue and a guy walks by him. He's like, "Hey, hey, what's up?" And he looks up. It's Nelson. He's like, "Whoa." You know, it's it's nice. >> Yeah. >> So, what happened to Nelson by then? >> Nelson I I guess he he realized that this might not be the best part of town for him or maybe he went somewhere else. >> What happened? They let him right out. What's >> So, >> what's the what's the rules about that? >> So, yeah, they don't >> Amazon packages and cards. What's the What's the >> an Amazon package guy is going to probably sit for anywhere between 12 and 24 hours. Got >> you. >> Probably. Now, in the past, we've had we've had guys We once had a guy. Am I allowed to say a name of a per or this can get me in trouble? >> No, whatever. Just say your first name. >> Was Derek. >> Okay. And uh and uh and uh he he was actually living at 1429 Carroll Street at the time. And this guy was I mean, he was really being greedy. We're talking about 40, 50, 60 packages a day. Okay, this was next level. This is not like one or two, >> you know? And uh and he was buying. He also he knew the neighborhood. He knew every alleyway. He knew how to sneak in from behind buildings to the front. It was very hard to catch. He was like a leopard. He was elusive. And uh we got him a few times and I I finally I was going out. I I it's it's getting out of control. So I I one time was able to build the case against him. >> You know, I was able to catch him for 25 things at one time. >> Basically, that's grandson. >> Instead of getting him for every little thing like we did in the past, >> we allowed him to go on a little bit of a spree, but documented each thing with cameras and this and that and whatever. And then when we got an arrest, we arrested him for all 25 at one time. He got arrested for 25 different incidents in one. Now some of them were over $1,000. So that became a felony. Now even a liberal judge so much. He gave him he gave him after a plea deal two years in jail. So the the community got restbite and then he moved out. He got a he got he got some program wherever he was on out of Crown Heights. So that that has been done before. But that, you know, how much time it takes and and surveillance and and and we didn't have the camera systems we have today and uh and we didn't, you know, it it it took hours. It's not just me. It's a team of people that are dedicating time and and putting together, you know, and then you have when you when you're helping people, you're going to learn that sometimes you have to beg them to allow them to help you. >> Right. When you called me up and told me if I don't go testify, she'll be out tomorrow. >> You were a pleasure to deal with. >> And we and I had to take off work. So you went to take off work. >> So you went Exactly. And I want to tell you like we had a guy uh recently actually. We got a call at about 11:30 at night. Um and this is a guy that had history, hate hate crime history. He's he's uh he's uh of Spanish descent, but in jail he he he became like Muslim and uh very popular. >> Yeah. And he became he's full of hate and he's he's not a good guy. Big strong burly guy. He started up with the Yan Shabas. We got him. Then Mati Shabas he punched a kid in front of 770. So a couple just a few months ago, this is already a year since the previous incident. He surfaces on Union in Albany, Aid was driving. He fires a stone on the floor. Barami didn't hit his car, but he called. So we're canvasing for him, and we notice him. He's on Eastern Parkway Kingston to Albany on the service lane on the 770 side, and he's about to pick up a brick and throw it at a at a at a bucker. Happens to be that Beny Cousin was was responding to that call. So he sees it. He stops his car. He jumps out and he says to the guy, "What are you So the guy drops the thing and he pulls out something sharp which is always a scary thing as Beny's like I don't know if you want to do this you might end up paying a heavy price and and the boys are coming you know the there's a big response situation happens to be that there was a a captain from the transit district TD there's the department of transit they handle all the subways he was driving by as it wasn't a knife but it was a sharp like metal object and he sees this and he sees Beny like a couple like 30 40 ft away and it's tense. He stops, he drops the guy in cuffs. In the meantime, we were able to produce, we had witnesses, we had hate. We were able to produce everything and and he was um and he was put away. So, you know, our guys had to go to, you know, the next day you have meetings. We had to go testify or else this guy walks and and and that's something that some sometimes the guys do that goes beyond the volunteering. People don't even realize that. People don't even realize that the guy went on a call at 12:00 at night. You guys who overnight overnight run drive around. >> So there are guys who patrol. Some guys patrol more than others but it's not like all night every night. No >> shabas. You still >> so yeah we have a shabas patrol. >> You still do that? >> Yeah >> overnight. >> Uh not the whole night but like probably six hours >> and it's >> from from the beginning of Shabas. >> Could you wave it down to open your lights? Like >> so Amir Lak is already a complicated thing. >> That's why you're the best. Speak to speak to your orthodox rabbi how much you offer or no? >> I'd rather not. I'd rather him for more like he if you need help. We we have gotten him flagged down like, "Oh, this guy was spitting at me or whatever and and he'll deal with it." But but uh but uh generally like I'd rather them not go into people's house unless it's an e like you have a patient you need to put on a generator. >> What about hotel? Did they ever call you guys for backup? >> Absolutely. >> Absolutely. Just this past Friday night there was uh a call of emotionally disturb EDP nature and uh they needed some help and they called. We have a seamless relationship with them. Very very good. And uh we know our lane. We don't, you know, they're medical, they handle it, but if they need our help or we need their help, yeah, it's very similar. >> Anti-semitism, that happen in Cranites and do they call you call the police? >> Um, people call us and the police and sometimes just us and sometimes just the police. Um, but they definitely there, you know, anti-semitism is picked up, I mean, by everybody statistics everywhere. >> You sure seeing it? >> I was actually very surprised. I thought that, you know, maybe the the maybe we're the worst is yet to come. But so far with Mamani, we're not it's not been worse than it was a year ago. >> Has the police been as good as before pre and postmi? >> Same thing. >> Same. No different. >> Same thing for us. It could be that we have a >> she's tough. She she's she's, you know, she she ruffles a lot of feathers. She's not easy on cops, but uh I I for the community that might work. She she's she makes him work. >> Something tells me that the police are going to be very very good under Mamani because they probably can't stand they probably can't stand him and they want the city to be safe. No, >> a guy like Mamani is very charismatic and as much as we don't like him, he's very smart and he speaks extremely well and he's very very smooth. So no, he's not it doesn't do him well that if the city goes to a dump in in a day that's very not that's not good. If he can keep the status quo, let's see what the last two years of Amani looks like. That's what I fear and that's what Alan Durwood said. It's not my theory. I I I think what he said he's not worried about the first two years of Mani. He's worried about the year three and year four. You know, let's see what his true colors are then. You know, now he you know, if he's going to come in and and the police department folds and this folds and that folds, everybody's going to come for him, right? uh he he has to show some type of status quo and and and and and slowly and gradually kind if things start to change and he pulls the rug right under our noses that that's where the problem is. >> I always I always noticed that when it's freezing cold outside there's very little crime and the summers could always be a major issue for Sh. >> Is that true or false? >> When it's free in the winter we we actually have a lot of high priority calls in the winter. Why? Because it gets dark early. when it gets dark early and and and this is something that you guys have a voice. There's a lot of dark streets in Crown Heights that the trees need to be trimmed. Montgomery Kingston to Albany, your parents block is extremely dark at night. And >> Sam Stern, come get involved with the trees. >> You know, President and Albany area. You got to do so. The darker streets are are usually prone to more crime. >> Yeah. You know, I don't want And when it's very dark, even if there are cameras, they don't see very well, you know. You know, >> so the trees are causing crime. I >> I didn't say that. the the tall trees, the branches, >> and they they blocked the lights from the that that exist. >> My father was against the tree program and they started putting trees every two feet in Crown Heights. I asked my father why he said he told the guy, I'm not going to mention, you know, you hear because this little cute tree with the oxygen is going to be into my house. >> No, it goes into the sewer flying off. No, but also it goes into the sewer line and then you got to bring an excavating excavating company for $10,000 to get to the sewers. I I want to I have I have two good friends that >> Bansancy Cousins >> By Cousins and Sam Sam Gillig two good Yidden that protect Yidden and have uh so they have a success tour and I've actually done I had a couple days off once and they needed help so I actually ran with them. Why? Cuz they're super entertaining and they're great people so it's great to be around them. I just get free entertaining and I'm a little sad. Hang out with these two guys and you'll be good. Anyways they have um post construction. This can save people money. A lot of people, they build a beautiful home, nice renovated, beautiful home. And when you have construction, you're going to have debris in your whether it's grout or whether it's some cement or whe you know, sometimes the construction workers don't care. They'll put a a bottle a 20 oz bottle or two in the in your 4-in pipe. And now your 4-in pipe is not and a couple of baby wipes. >> A 20 a bottle a plastic bottle. >> A plastic bottle. Yeah. Why would they do that? >> Because they don't care. The guy's an electrician. He just dumps it right in there. Okay. And and then what ends up happening is you move into this beautiful house and and now you you know the flushable wipes, they're not flushable. They should not be put in a toilet. All of a sudden you're you're at work, your wife's panicking cuz you just moved in two days. All your everything is coming up from the basement. Yeah. Every time you finish construction or renovation on a property, whether it's a building or a house, you must do a postconstruction sewer cleaning. Let them flush your sewer out to the city. this and you have clear and you'll have only nas and then once a year a year plus you could do maintenance >> mend if people want to move it to the more cheaper areas of crown height east flappers brownsville is it more crime there or not >> barakam it's very quiet um I live on winup and troy on on the on the crown height side of the hospital and u our calls that we get in the east 40s in the east 50s and the east 90s a lot of times they're like missing children which are emergencies or my baby got locked in a car or a house emergency or a package thief here and there, but the our more likely crime is going to be um anywhere between Eastern Parkway and and and let's say Midwood or even Rutland in New York. I think I have New York to I think I have the answer cuz these are middle inome people that have private homes. We have a lot of people buildings out there. >> Buildings are older and all my neighbors, all my African-American neighbors all have are retired or or going to work. They have prof they work for the city. They're engineers. They're this, they're that. They have real jobs. So the buildings are crime >> buildings buildings cause a lot of there there's there's there's a lot of there's some buildings in Crown Heights that that generate that that is quite like we're not here to give you addresses. >> Yeah, addresses bro. >> No problem. Wait, let me say let me say it. The building that's giving you the most aggravation is on Kingston between Leffort and Empire. >> Not necessarily, but it's on the list. >> It's high on the list. >> 474 Brooklyn Avenue. >> Okay. >> That's Sterling in Brooklyn. There's some mega and skity. >> No. Okay. Montgomery and Skenctity. Both of those buildings are not good. 899 and 921 Montgomery. Um then you have 1622 President Street which is uh which is again finger guys. >> Program buildings? >> A lot of them. >> They're all program buildings >> probably. I I don't know that for a fact. I'm assuming >> same landlords or different landlords. >> The buildings that I just mentioned is the same landlord. >> All the same. Okay. Do the landlords know about Did you reach out to them? >> A lot of people did. I'm sure they know. >> Okay. >> I What are they supposed to do? Beat beat up their tenants? What are they supposed to do? >> I mean, look, you have you have >> they go over to him and say, "Look, I don't want to get into this space, but you have uh the Fischer family and the Sperland family are bringing in are figuring it out. And there's a lot of hidden renting their apartments, right? And they're going out of their way uh to make they rent to everybody, of course, but they're going out of their way to make it accessible to our community. And there's there's other landlords that are not as as as doing it as good as they are. And and it's a sh it's a shame. They're gonna change. >> It should change. It needs to change. You know, they >> focus on the positive. >> You have to. Yes. Absolutely. >> Told us you have to speak. Show them that you care. >> You have to f And by the way, just because that landlord I don't think is doing is, you know, for whatever he has, it doesn't make anyone that's involved there not a good person. And they they could be people there that have merits and they're nice and they're kind and they may give a lot of zuck. All of that could be true, but they could still be criticized. My point is it What percent of the crimes are coming from these addresses? 50 >> at least. >> 50% >> in my opinion. Yeah. >> I mean, you have facts. >> My opinion counts for something in this topic. >> That never keeps popping out. >> Um, what are So, you're saying crimes happen mostly near buildings and usually >> No, crime. >> Hold on. Crime also is it come from local or usually random people from outside the community moving? >> So, both there's a lot of a lot of the package thieves are coming from from the from the local buildings, right? So there was this guy again from 474 Brooklyn Avenue. He's a sticky finger guy. We actually put him away for a year. You know why they're stealing? They're stealing. >> But he's not just stealing. Like this guy's a burglar as well. He's not just stealing. >> Let me do the anti-semitism. You know why they're stealing? Because of the deed theft. >> Yeah. Well, that's also terrible. Whoever does that, there's no unfortunately there have been a couple of of yen involved in such a thing. It's a terrible first of of epic proportion. And you know, I love how they make it all the you know, it's not everyone's problem. It's a handful of people when you have a commun you have a million Jews in New York City, right? What what's a percentage of three or four people? Nothing. But it is a terrible thing. >> Hold on a second. We covered We covered your background. We covered education. You said you're involved in Shame. That's like people that die and they don't have family members to pay for a for what do you do with >> um Shal used to be run by my cousin Aaron which my she knows well. Um I think >> your cousin who's your cousin. >> Liy. Yeah, the mechanic he ran it for all the years. >> Kingston Kingston New York repair. >> I told Well, you changed Kingston for Kingston. He went to Kingston Kingston. So he he uh he ran it for a long time and uh he basically did n almost everything that needed to be done. Um Khaz primarily is you know there's a few so the the person that runs his name is Mandy Rosenberg. He's a big sadic Rabbi Mandy Rosenberg. He also dispatched for Crown Heights, Williamsburg Bar Park and uh Flappa Sharm for probably over 20 years from 7 am to 5:00 pm Monday through Thursday. >> A local Crown Heights guy. >> No, he's in Williamsburg. Um they have they have a few cemeteries. So if somebody needs a kuras for a few hundred >> they'll do the whole burial. He has upstate New York two or three cemeteries. So two of them almost full. So they mamish like for they'll do whatever they can. >> So when people do these fundraising need a crew to show the community will get it for a few hundred. Yes or no? If you go to Kaz. >> Yeah. Okay. Just want to confirm or a few thousand. >> No. But if you could afford to give them 2,000, they'll take it. But if a guy doesn't have and he and he hasn't even >> fundraiser for Crucial, we have you're feeling skeptical around someone making a lot of money on the deal. >> It sounds like we're uncovering a big scam. >> Hold on. >> These charity platforms are going to be angry. >> And uh and they do. >> They have big lawyers. >> They're not sponsors. They have >> big lawyers on staff. >> Like last year, unfortunately, >> call anyone out. Last year, unfortunately, in the summer, there was a kid that was hit by a car and he unfortunately didn't make it. And the the it's messy and it needs to be cleaned and it has to be buried with him. So, they they we do the cleanups. We physically sit down on the floor and clean that up. >> You don't raise money for that. >> I don't raise money for that, but people do raise money for that. I'm also involved with Msaskam and Crown Heights. It's a bit also does disaster recovery. >> Mask does the chairs and the tables, the portable air conditioners. He passed away and they also admire he's also very big Yankee also had a lot of connections and helped a lot of people um so in Crown Heights when Yankee needed help you would talk to either Manakim Freeman who's also a big sadic and a >> printer the printing guy such a special guy I look for excuses to go into >> or or myself and and Miss Haskin also has another beautiful program called project you did which uh I asked >> broken families >> no it's families that that had a parent pass away and they do trips like that. >> So I asked Yeah. So I asked Yankee Meyer why did he do it? So let me explain what project he did is every Kaneka Purim. So Kaneka they deliver gift to every kid with like plus 50 or 100 bucks and dollars from different you know for >> I'd get those I get those dollars and and with the with the for and a gift for every kid and purim full-on pur meal done by a local catering. So, Crown Heights, they'll do it by either Benny Turk or or or Fagen or whatever. Um, but they wanted to have BCHK. So, they everybody can and that's five, six boxes of food per depending if she has 10 people over for PUM or 20, they'll they'll cater it on the house. Um, a bouquet of flowers and a cheesecake, Kalamoya trips on the house, right? So, I asked Yankee Meer why did he do it? And he told me that when disaster strikes, there's always volunteers and there's always people, but everybody remembers Tshiva maximum till after Schlles forgotten. He says, "I wanted the families to know that we remember them and we never forget." So, multiple times a year, he does these beautiful Ask him does that. Beautiful. >> What age could people let their kids walk in the street that night? >> Would you recommend? >> I mean, it depends on your kid. It depends on where they're walking to, but uh you know, what do you recommend? >> I would think around 10 years old it could. And again, what's at night? 8 7:00 at night is is is different than 11:00 at night. But, uh you you have to make sure that your kids are comfortable. They know their streets. Like this happens a lot when we have kids from out of town and even though they're staying let's say on Crown and Kingston but but they or they're staying on you know they're at Crown and Kingston and they're staying on Crown and Norin but real they go to Udica and now they're going out of Crown Heights and we we find them you know gazillion. >> We're running out of time. I just wanted to say it is a tremendous tremendous honor to have such an ish on the showd is not true means I'm part one day hopefully maybe the things that you're doing for the biggest usher in the world wishes he could have this I want to continue to wish you tremendous amounts of with your >> and that your guarding of the community it should only be to protect us for happy things and uh we should continue to hear good news. 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And obviously, you need to If somebody's married, their wives have to be on, you know, it's what do you guys fundra for? What what's you have equipment? Yes, cars. So, you have we have four beautiful vehicles. >> Hardcore. People want to know what you >> in the last the last car. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But then the organization also has four cars with insurance guys. So that that I mean it really depends on how much we invest. But in technology the investment has been to the tune of a few hundred,000 the last couple years >> in cameras >> in not only cameras but primarily cameras. And the more we have, the more we realize that we can we could always use more. The bigger the network is, the more and and and that allows us to be proactive cuz not someone's not always watching, but a lot of times we we see, hey, there's a guy walking down Kingston Avenue and he's acting a little erratic. We don't even wait for the call. We're there. We already, you know, show a presence, deescalate it, move on. >> How I'm just I just when someone's stealing something, they have plates are usually fake plates or or how do you track it?