The Psychological Test of Rebecca

the yeshiva.net [Music] the 24th chapter of sephiberatious genesis chapter 24 tells the story of how avramavinu sent his servant to find a wife for his son yitzhak who the servant is is interesting because the text doesn't identify the servant not once throughout the story which lasts for close to seventy sixty-seven it's the longest one of the longest portions in the torah we don't have the name of the servant but the commentators identify him as eliezer so when the story is usually told we say avraham sent eliezer to find a wife for her son but the actual verse of the text the text never identifies him as eliezer and when he has to introduce himself he introduces himself characteristically with three words by saying evad avraham i am a servant of avraham he goes to the city of kharan he travels from the land of kanan later to become the land of eritseral the land of the jewish people and he goes to kharan kharan is actually a name of a city that still exists southern turkey has a city called haran h-a-r-a-n and according to most it's exactly the same city of ancient kharam because nearby they did excavations of what seems to be ancient kharan so this is at the southern point of turkey it's on the border of syria and iraq so the servant of avram travels all the way to kharan that's where avraham's family remained while he and sorrow moved on to the land of kanan but kharun was the place where his family once upon a time moved many years ago and when the servant eliezer arrives at the town's well he proposes the famous test what's the test a woman a young woman who comes to draw water from the well and offer some of her water to the traveler and in addition we'll give water also to his camels so this the servant says i will know that this is the woman chosen by hashem from my master's son for avram of inusan for yitzhak now before we go further further was this test permitted we know that in jewish law there's a prohibition in humish and safe at vitamin deuteronomy called against making omens it's seen as a form of magic or superstition paganism the classic example that the commentators give would be a deer ran in front of me today and therefore it's a bad omen i'm not leaving the house today i picked up my piece of bread to eat it fell out of my hand it's a bad omen i'm not leaving the house today the question they ask is was this omen was this test not dangerously close to pagan practice some sign some omen i make and that's how i decide if it's a good uh if it's a good match for uh for yitzhak so interestingly some of the commentators believe it was the wrong thing to do eliezer aired he was not supposed to do that but many of the commentators differ this is a very famous discussion on the commentators in the gemara and tractate cool in page it's a very interesting and complex discussion among halachic authorities two of the great authorities iran rabbenu nissim and the maharal of prague in his commentator commentary they explained that eliezer's conduct was completely legitimate because what he was looking for was not an omen he was not making some superstitious omen if this happens this is the girl yitzhak should marry rather he was actually trying to identify the character of this young woman the test was not one of superstition it was one of logic it would be like somebody saying it's cloudy today it's probably going to rain i should take an umbrella or i'm not going to walk out of the house because i don't want to get wet that's not nichosh that's not a superstitious omen connected with magic it's basically logic if it's raining outside you may not want to get wet you may want to put on a coat you may want to take an umbrella or the best idea is you may want to stay home so according to most of these commentators eliezer's test was what we might call today a psychological test it was to determine the personality type of the girl he was searching for and therefore a girl who would offer him water and his camel's water this girl would pass the personality test of the type of young woman eliezer was looking for as a proper soul mate as a proper spouse for his master's son for isaac for yitzhak in other words it would be obvious that she's kind she's generous she's giving the question you have to ask yourself is if that's the case is that really enough can a single test like this be sufficient grounds on which to base such a faithful decision as to the choice of marriage a marriage partner for yitzhak is this really enough to establish marital harmony i mean there are many kind people out there and there are many many kind women out there but it doesn't mean that all of them suit yitzhak i mean think of your own child you want a very kind woman for your wonderful son but just hearing that somebody is kind there's a lot of kind girls is that really enough that one single question and with that eliezer can determine this is the proper soulmate for yitzhak and we have to recall something else he was on a mission to choose a woman who wouldn't only marry yitzhak and they would just go live somewhere happily ever after as an individual couple but she would be the woman who like sarah before her would be the trailblazer together with her husband of a new nation they would carve out a new path like avraham and sarah before them a new path in the jungle of history she and her husband yitzhak would need to continue what they call the abrahamic revolution or the monotheistic revolution which avraham avinu began embracing a life of moral dedication to humanity and to the creator of the world to hashem does this simple test of giving water to a stranger and to the camel of a stranger determined that this girl is qualified to play such a powerful vital and indispensable role in history as a second matriarch of the jewish people but the truth is as one delves into the story one discovers that eliezer's character test was not as simple as it seems it was extremely intricate and profoundly subtle and this is another classic example when you read a story superficially it just looks like a very simple story i'm looking for a girl who's nice what they call today a ballast cassette and she has good meadows and she'll give me water and that's it then she gives him water and he's off he knows this is the right shadow and that's that's the story but if you go in a little bit to the details and you study it with a little more depth you see that there are more profound layers to the story and therefore eliezer's calculations were far more subtle than one would imagine initially superficially on a what one would imagine with a superficial reading of the story martial make yourself comfortable parenthetically and we spoke about this once but i just want to address it a little bit from a different angle some of the commentators explain that eliezer himself was ambivalent about this mission because avraham avinu sends him to a city called kharan the place where he comes from his native he wasn't born there he came from urquhasn but later on they moved the whole family moved to kharan that included his parents and his siblings so his family was there and the extended family and go find a woman but how is he supposed to find a woman in horror you know so i was remember once in australia and somebody came over to me and said you're from new york i said yeah you probably know my cousin i said absolutely no question that i know your cousin right from the three and a half million jews in new york i certainly know i certainly know your cousin go to kharan and find a wife what where when am i supposed to stand in the street and say you so eliezer had no choice he went to the well because the well was the place where everybody came to like the well was the you know that was the gathering place because everybody needed water there's no sinks in the house and you come to the well everybody needs water for for bathing for washing for cleaning and of course for drinking for quenching your thirst of the people and of the livestock of the animals so he goes to the what am i going to do at the well what am i going to see i mean you could see different characters you could see how different people interact so eliezer makes this sign for himself i'm actually going to search for a particular type of girl this was his way of trying to fulfill the mission which his master avramavinu entrusted him with but there was an ambivalence there and where is the ambivalence noted it's noted in a very interesting way and place and that is i mentioned to you maybe a few times that there is a musical note in humish that is very rare it only exists four times it's called the shall shellus it exists once in vayira light procrastinated once this week once in vayeshav joseph refused patiphar's wife and once later in sav when maishrabe novayishchat he slaughters the final animal at the end of the seven days of inauguration of the mishkan when he's going to give over the mantle to his brother aaron one of the shall shelleson is in highest sauron the word vayomar when eliezer is standing at the well he speaks to god and he says please help me find the right soulmate for yitzhak and he presents the plan the sign of the girl who's going to offer water to him and to his camels on that via mars which is very strange musical mode for the word the word vioimer you have frequently in hamash and he said but here it's not just he said and he said and was one of the great commentators rabbi yosef ibn who knows that the shallows is basically the note of ambivalence it even looks like a zigzag i shall look at it like you go this way then you go this way it's uncertainty you know in hebrew there's no word for ambivalence there's no word in hebrew for ambivalence anybody knows hebrew here no word the closest you'll get is malachimal of parakeet zion elio navi tells the jews or as we say in english how long are you going to sit on the fence there's no word for ambivalence but there is a musical note for ambivalence there is a song for ambivalence it's called the shall shellus you can hear uh it's the scratch cd or when some of us grew up the scratched record and this song is trying to continue but it can't it's stuck i'm stuck i'm ambivalent i'm not sure i'm sitting on the fence um okay no [Laughter] literally three times but why was eliezer ambivalent what was he ambivalent about what what what is the issue the issue may be this is what some want to say the issue may be he was worried that he's doing the wrong thing he is practicing a practice that is inconsistent with what would be a halal in judaism in the future called nichosh living by superstitions living by magic living by omens this is what this is what he was afraid of was this nichosh ibn kaspi himself says he was ambivalent about something else can one simple test determine who the right girl is can that happen yitzhak is not coming to visit her she's going to be brought to you can this one test determine that this is the right one that's a very serious question like what am i doing let's say she gives me water that's enough the medrish quoted in rashi offers a third possible source of ambivalence which you may know eliezer had his own daughter and he was really hoping that his daughter would marry yitzhak and therefore he was ambivalent about the entire mission there was a part of him that really didn't want it to succeed because he wanted his daughter to marry itzhak but avraham felt that would not be the right match for yitzhak what do we see from all of this that there is a challenge here how to define the right girl for yitzhak and can this one single test of kindness assuming as the iran and the maharal say it's not an omen it's not magic it's not superstition it's simply a very logical way of determining the qualities the middle is the disposition the characteristics of this young woman will this really suffice to determine that she is the proper soul mate for uh for yitzhak so i want to now go back to the story and read it with more subtlety read it more intricately and see what we can glean from this and some of the ideas many of the ideas i will be conveying are based on the commentary of the malbim and also a great essay by hama leibowitz on parshas khayasara how is the story described in the khomesh as i said it's genesis chapter twenty four beratious period of dalet prosecute the servant his name is never mentioned as i said the servant takes ten camels from the camels of his master now as i tell the story i want you i want to ask of you to tune in to something specific you see we have to understand that unlike classical novels lahavdil the terrier does not bother to describe details and nuances of daily life very rare that you're going to have these types of nuances in other novels this is the key of writing a capturing novel you will focus on these types of details and nuances it it draws the reader in it helps you feel it helps make you feel that you're part of the story you're experiencing the story it's not just detached facts what makes a good what a great writer brings the story to life just like a great artist brings the art the picture to life but la havilla you don't have that very rarely are you going to have details of daily life it emits descriptions of the surroundings the climate the physical appearances the furniture the utensils and the other amenities of daily living give a striking example we know nothing about what avraham avinu yaakov avinu maisharabenu looked like we have and we have absolutely we have no hint you can imagine in your mind based on pictures that they drew on some coloring book but we have no real authority in the text what did adam look like what did have looked like the torah would all will only give details of a story under one condition if it's directly relevant to the theme for example it says that avraham told sorry you're beautiful it speaks about yosef's handsomeness it speaks about afshalom's long hair but those details of shalom's long hair or joseph's striking beauty and handsome is relevant to the theme of the story because a major part of joseph's story will revolve his beauty and afghan will ultimately gets caught in his here so that's why when there is a detail you have to ask yourself this is not just for entertainment reasons because most of the details are gone what is it really teaching you one of the stories in which we find a notable exception of this rule is the story of eliezer's journey to go find a soulmate for yitzhak it is so perplexing that as i said it's the longest portion in the whole hummus 67 verses some of the most vital of jewish life are in one verse not to work on shabbos which is a staple of jewish life for thousands of years you have very few verses but the story of exactly how this man went to search for a girl not even the marriage the marriage is one verse how he went to search for a girl 67 suck him why because suddenly the torah leaves it breaks all of its rules it defies all of its structures and wants to describe to us what might seem as details and nuances of daily life that are certainly interesting for the read but would seem perplexing in terms of the genre and the nature of how the torah the tanakh was written so i'm now going to read the story and i want you to notice this interesting point about this particular story so it starts over the servant takes ten camels from the camels of his master all of the all of the possessions culture of all of the goodness the abundance of his master with him and he travels to a place called aram naharayam to a city called nochr and what happens now he makes the camels kneel outside of the city besides the well of water when in the evening during the time when all the girls will come out to draw the water so the the camels come they're all kneeling near the well where is the well the well is outside of the town it's not inside it's outside and that's when all the girls are coming to get the water that's when he speaks to hashem and he says please do kindness with my master avramavinu i'm standing here at the water fountain the daughters of the people living in the city are coming out to draw water if there's going to be a young woman whom i will say to her lower your pitcher and let me drink from your water and she offers me she says yes and even your camels i will give water to please let me know that this is the right girl for yitzhak before he even finishes the conversation rifka who was the son of suel who is i'm sorry rifka who is the daughter of suel who is the son of milka the wife of nacher who's a brother of rama vino is approaching the well her picture is on her shoulder and then the terror interrupts the story and says i want you to know about this girl hanara toiva smara she's beautiful she has a beautiful appearance ish lawyer dawg no man had been intimate with her vaterina she went down into the well into the fountain into the spring but tamale hada she filled her picture vatal and she ascended from the well she comes back up the servant of avram runs towards her and he says please let me sip a little water from your picture vatoimeshi says say adani drink my lord drink my master vata hastenally with swiftness of a turret she lowers her picture on her hand what does it mean she lowers it on her hand because we learned before she went with the pitcher on her shoulder that's how she went to the well apparently when she filled the picture she certainly put it on her shoulder because it's heavy and it's much easier to carry it on the shoulder so she's not holding it she's carrying it on her shoulder now he asks her for water so what does she do va turret all yoda she lowers the pitcher into her hand watashi you and she gives him to drink she finishes giving him to drink he is completely his thirst is completely quenched now she says i'm also going to draw water for your camels until they will finish drinking what happens now vata a second time she's doing the swift vata arcada she empties the pitcher into the trough the trough was the what is it called the sister in the pit the cavity where animals drink from so she filled up a pitcher of water she let a lazer drink from it as she lowered it from her shoulder there's still water in the picture i mean he drank a lot but he didn't drink the whole picture so what does she do she empties the picture into the trough turrets she runs back to the well to draw more water vati malev and she draws enough water to irrigate to hydrate to quench the thirst of all of his camels and this man the servant is mister he's astonished he's astounded he's overwhelmed he's flabbergasted he's mesmerized standing there silently trying to figure out indeed that god really make me succeed as all the camels as the camels finish drinking finish drinking what happens the man takes a golden nose ring weighing a half a shekel he takes two bracelets for her hands weighing each one ten gold shackle and he gives it to this young woman who was rifka and the continuation of the story is of course she invites him to stay in their home with all of the people that came and all of the camels she says she has food for the animals and food for the people and of course they'll have drinks as well and he stays there overnight the next day he negotiates the the match with suel with her father initially her mother and i mean with so well and her his soul son her brother lovan i stand corrected and ultimately rifka agrees and they go back home we're yitzchak caesar and they marry each other and yitzhak and rifka become husband and wife that's the continuation of the story if you listen well to these verses and you can study it afterwards inside and you'll see how dramatic and intense this exception is there are so many details here that don't even seem so consequential just remember this is all how he found a wife for your tuck this is all about his journey the marriage is in one verse doesn't even discuss what the marriage looked like they became they were married but all of the journey all everything involved in the journey is very very nuanced a few examples of these details that are very rare rarely described in hummus number one the terror notifies us that avraham's servant traveled by camel who cares how he traveled we have to know he traveled by camel okay but not only that we're told that he took ten camels with him on the journey is that really relevant he took ten camels with him on the journey the totem mentions twice that the well was not right near the trough from where the camels drank it was close enough it was in walking distance but it wasn't right near the eye that's why it says vatarats rifko was running from the trough to the well from the well back to the trove they're near each other you don't run from one to the other so that means there is distance between the well where you're getting the water from and the trough where the camels are drinking from terror makes sure to mention that rifka drew water from the well and that the well was something that required was in a place that required you to go down what paradigm in other words to get water from the well you didn't just bend down you had to descend and then ascend that's what the turtle mentions if that's not enough the toyota states three times three times that all of the camels of avraham's servants of ahram's servant drank to their full satisfaction it doesn't say it once it says it three times when rifka meets him she says i'm gonna give your camels ad in killulishtoys until they're finished drinking i'll give your camels no until they're finished drinking then it says vatishav indeed she drew water for all the camels to drink to their full satisfaction and the third time when the camels finished drinking now you might say well all this is just part of the story like yeah well you went down and she ran and there were camels and there were 10 camels that's how you write a story that's not how you write a story in hamas you could read through the stories unless the details are essential to the theme of the story and when we put all these details together we get a full picture i'm going to ask you to join me for a moment at this scene a vram servant eliezer is standing at a well outside of the town it's a time when you can't open the sink in your kitchen and get water people walked every single day to the town's well to obtain water you can still see this scene in cities and towns of underdeveloped countries i remember a few years ago i was in belarus and i was in ukraine certain parts of it and you could still see not the bigger cities but little hick towns der falach and you could still see the scene of people literally coming to the well with their chickens around them drawing water so eliezer is waiting for the young women to arrive to draw water from the well they're going to bring back the water to their homes of course for drinking the people have to drink children have to drink the adults the animals have to drink they need a bath they need a wash and whatever else they need water for young rifka arrives she goes down into the well she fills a picture she comes up she puts it on her shoulder and she begins the trek back home with this picture of water we know that this is night time the ace erev it's dawn it's before night it's night time because that's when they would come get the water they would have water for the night and have water for the next day until they would come back again the next evening to get the water eliezer approaches her and says can i sip some water from your picture okay now i'm just imagining that i'm the guy i'm the person forgive me for a moment whoopsie oh see that okay we don't believe in almonds but it's interesting so talk about the water yes [Laughter] why not use the props it's just a little simpler these days okay so i have this picture you have this picture or this little girl according to rashi she was three according to the his kuni she was 14 but she's a young a young young woman any way you spin the story it says she's a nara she's a young lady and so if you were carrying this picture your little daughter was carrying this picture i was coming this picture and he comes and says can i have can i have a little water i'm thirsty what would i tell this fellow i might have said to him here there's a well and it's mama's it's a wonderful well right it's like it's not like you can get in this well much more water actually than you're gonna get from me there's a well everybody comes to take water borough hashem we have a wonderful well it's a living spring it's producing water constantly it's flowing constantly you got to go down there's actually a nice ramp if you didn't see credit to whichever family and or nice steps you can go down and get the water or maybe i would tell him you know i already have this picture on my shoulder and you know presumably it wasn't a tiny little uh it wasn't a tiny little bottle she's taking it home she's taking it home it means she's bringing water for her family and we know she has a family and they have animals also so we can presume that it's a pretty large picture maybe even a gigantic picture so she can irrigate the entire family the animals and whatever is needed for the next day it's also filled with water so i can assume it's pretty heavy it's not so easy to take it down and you know i'm already on my way home i have an idea there's other girls coming they didn't fill their picture yet right maybe you ask one of them will just be much easier for them their picture is empty you can do it or or if i'm in a much better mood i could say my dear friend no problem my pleasure pajamas take down the pitcher from my shoulder and offer yourself a drink here take it down all this would make sense what did rifka actually do so the toyota says when he asks for a drink she says to him drink my master and she hastened and lowered her pitcher to her hand and she gave him to drink she lowers the pitcher she gives him to drink if that's not enough the story then continues she finished giving him to drink and she said i will also draw for your camels until they will have finished drinking kilu lishtoys kilo means till they're done till they're finished she is so nice she's so kind she wants to irrigate his camels too but at least now what would i do okay the guy asked me for a drink i lower the pitcher here's a drink he has a bunch of camel i say you know what here you have a bunch of camels i want them also to have a drink here my dear friend take my picture go down to the well fetch water fill up the trough which in hamish is called the shikas the container from where the animals eat or drink it's called a shikas a trough and give your camels to drink as much as you would like and they would like now let's remember eliezer didn't come alone eliezer came with other men because rifka told them i have place for you in the house and also for all of your men how many men did he come with doesn't say clearly but it says he came with ten camels so perhaps it was ten men or nine men driving on the other use uh riding on the other camels together with eliezer or however that we don't have a clear number some commentators discuss different numbers but there were men with him plus there were 10 camels so she could have said you know you got nine guys here right between the nine of you you could take the picture fill up the water fill it up with water put it in the trough and have everybody all the camels enjoy drinking enjoy the water instead she says i will also draw for your camels until they finish drinking and to quote the words of rifka in the original she says gamlig of for your camels i will also draw ada in killulishtoys until they are done drinking what happens next what happens next is she hastens she empties the pitcher into the trough she runs again to the well to draw water and she draws water from the well placing it in the trough for all the camels this means after she gave the servant to drink there was still water in the pitcher that's why it says she rushed and she emptied it into the trough so she runs over to the trough she empties the remainder of the water in the picture that eliezer did not drink but that would not suffice for ten camels that's a little water left in the picture so she runs back to the well to refill the picture emptying it into the trough for the camels then she has to return to the well to fill the pitcher again and go back to the trough to fill it for the camels and as a terrorist says she's running from here to there because there is a distance until she draws for all the camels vatisha of the cholgmalov and here there's no way of understanding the story if we don't know the biology of camels rear to the camel exceptional among all other mammals i think literally all other mammals god has given the camel a very strange hump you're all familiar with the camel's hump it's a there's a reason those bulges that huge hump of the camel is filled with fat it's a place where the camel stores fat it's literally like a uh a spear tank of gasoline in your car's trunk if you're prone to end up on the highway without gas for whatever reason and you have in your trunk a spear tank of gasoline when food and water for the camel becomes scarce the camel extracts energy from the mound of fat from the hump the longer a camel goes without eating or drinking the more visibly deflated the hump becomes the hump will become lower and lower and lower until it will be gone because the camel is extracting all of its nutrients and energy it needs from the hump if you give the animal the camel adequate water and food the hump will uh plump up it will inflate like literally in a matter of days how long can a camel go without water before its hump starts to slump how long can this happen for it's an amazing thing a camel we humans for example can last only three to five days without any water at all during winters in the sahara desert camels have been known to survive six or seven months without drinking now remember they're not hibernating like the beer in the den hibernating fagan sevinter where the whole mechanism of the body changes these are camels that are functioning they're alert they're a wig they're trekking in the desert for six seven months without food without water that's the miracle of the camel's hump next time you see a camel with a hump please appreciate appreciate the unique characteristics that hashem created for every animal every mammal and every fish and every reptile and every bird exactly what it needs in order to be able to fulfill its mission and purpose on earth now you know the thirsty vacationer who takes full advantage of the complementary breakfast buffet at the hotel the backpacker who comes across some shabbos meal and he or she will make sure to take full advantage because you don't know when the next meal is going to come camels behave exactly the same way they know exactly who they are we don't always know who we are but most animals know who they are and they make most of the liquid reward whenever they reach an oasis or a region where there's water and therefore they rehydrate faster than any other mammal in the world they have the ability to gulp down 30 gallons of water in 13 minutes 30 gallons of water 113 liters of water in 13 minutes if don't try this at home because the consequences could be hallel hazardous a wise camel knows that the next pit stop is going to be a long dry walk away so the camel takes advantage 30 gallons of water in 13 minutes and it will take more and more and more because it may want to stack up for weeks and sometimes for months therefore it's only when we know this that we can really appreciate what rifki did here this was not just kindness rifka was not just a nice girl a person of kindness and a good nature disposition and character this was if i can say so kindness on steroids it was an extraordinary and astounding display of generosity and benevolence because there were 10 camels and 10 camels were given to drink but not just given to drink now you know why the turtle will repeat three times that rifka says i will draw for your camels until they finished drinking people read those words and okay till they finish drinking no no that's key till they finish drinking is the key she refilled the trough till all the ten camels finished drinking to their full capacity to the full capacity of a camel drinking till they filled up their bodies for water preparing for their long journey back from turkey back from kharan back to the land of canaan this means that rivka kept on running from the trough to the well going down into the well filling your picture coming back running to the trough coming up running to the trough filling it returning back to the well refilling the picture running back to the trough refilling it until each one of the camels completed its full capacity of drinking transcending the capacity of any other mammal living on the planet and she did this all by her self now we know why the terrorist says that eliezer took 10 camels with him this is not a it's just a detail to entertain you there were 10 camels on the road this is this is it this is vital it's indispensable we know why it says three times that she filled up the trough with enough water till the camels can complete drinking it's clear whether toyota points out there was a distance between the well and the trough and she's running from one to the other in order to fill the water in the trough now i asked you how many times did derivka run back and forth how many times did rifka run back and forth considering that she had one picture she had to irrigate 10 camels to their full capacity she may have to run to the well in the trough back and forth i would estimate between 20 and 60 times i can't say this for sure because i don't know how large the picture was etc but i think that's a fair assumption until all the camels got their full share of water so we can now appreciate as this is happening the terror uses the word ish the man is astonished he's silent he's overwhelmed he's mesmerized he wasn't impressed he wasn't intrigued he didn't like what he saw he was blown away he was overwhelmed who observed such a level of kindness such an undiluted absolute generous form of giving so the third says when the camels finish drinking he took a golden nose ring weighing half a shekel he took two bracelets and he gave them to her when the camels finished drinking why does the turtle connect these two points it's as though he's waiting for the last camel to finish drinking and then he's going to give her a bracelet like that's the introduction because that's the key when the camels finish drinking eliezer gave her the jewelry he understands he met not only a nice girl he met a girl of a different order he met a unique soul he met something special and it's not over when he asks her if she has place in her home for him to stay she responds she has room for him and she has plenty of straw and food for all of the camels once again she's not done with the camels and all the people now i ask you why why did why did rivka not ask eliezer or the nine guys with him nine guys take the picture fill it with water i'm giving you my picture and give you camels to drink why why wouldn't he have why wouldn't she ask so the album suggests that when she came to him and she asked when he came to her and he asked her if he could sip from her picture some water she assumed that his arms or hands were wounded and he could not use them so he couldn't go down to the well because he was by the well so he knew there was a well there everybody was going to take the water why wouldn't you just go it's like it's like you have a cup of water and there's a sink right here or there's a bottle of water like why would i come to you and ask you for the water there's a lot of water here so the album says she's just instinctively assumed that he's wounded he's crippled he's ill something happened he can't use his hands or arms and therefore he can't go down and draw water by himself so he's asking her if maybe it's hard for him to go down maybe something happened to his legs or his feet but he had he doesn't have the capacity that album says to get the water for himself so she's asked he's asking her if he can drink from her water this the album says is why she assumed that he didn't help her take down the picture like if i'm asking you for water on the pitch i would at least help you take down the picture and help you assist me but he didn't do that why wouldn't he help her take down the picture from her shoulder to drink so the album says obviously if his hands or arms were wounded or there was a disability or there was some challenge or something just happened to him he got hurt so he didn't have the capacity to do it so she said to herself if he can't even get water for himself it will be impossible for him to draw water for 10 camels who need a drink a lot and they get pretty thirsty that's why she says to him right after i will also draw water for your camels until they're finished drinking same thing same idea maybe she assumed eliezer and his escorts were too exhausted from a long voyage perhaps they looked weak perhaps they look like ill perhaps they looked hungry perhaps they looked drained perhaps she felt that the reason they're not offering it is because they can't there's some difficulty there's some inability there's some challenge and if it's a challenge for them certainly their camels will not be able to be irrigated and this therefore she offers her own services which she does until the end it's at this moment it's at this exact moment that avraham's servant saw all he needed to see he didn't have to see much more we asked in the beginning is this not an omen and we said no it's a psychological test it's a personality test it's a character test how can such a test somebody being nice decide that she's the soul mate of yitzhak but he saw here a heart so full of grace and love and affection and kindness and generosity and giving and open-handedness and most importantly big-heartedness he saw such a titanic heart when was the last time eliezer thought that i see such kindness when is the last time that i see such uninhibited generosity and he knew last time i saw it was by my master i saw it by avraham avinu and the previous portion of rahm not only invites three guests to his home but vaiorots he's running to them rifka is running from the well to the trough from the trough to the well that word vajarats happened before his master 100 years old 99 years old right after circumcision three days later is running towards these guests and then he runs to the ox and he hastens again the same words afram avinu uses he tells sora mari let's do this swiftly with swiftness the same words running and swiftness this was kindness of a different caliber not just kindness but kindness of a completely different nature there are many people who are kind there are many people who do kindness but they're often very calculated it's almost like with our checklist how much do i do in order to get my share in alam haba how much do i do in order to go in in the resume as a ballast cassette how much do i do so i could be called a person who's das haster and dosmidestivas for how long do i do it under which circumstances do i do it to what point do i do it how do i know i'm not being used and manipulated and taken advantage from how do i know somebody is not exploiting my soft kind heart because they are selfish and narcissistic if rifka would have consulted somebody before she did this that person may have told her you have an issue with boundaries rifka you need to create boundaries you are being used by manipulative people do not allow yourself to be used like this and if this is how you are at three years old what are you going to look like when you're 19 years old for heaven's sake you're a nice beautiful girl but you lack self-esteem and i want you to come for a year and i'm going to help you build up your self-esteem you need to learn how to say no no no if not people will use you all the time well for one i thank god that rivka did not consult anybody because none of us would have been here today if would have consulted the person you see rifka had a very good self-esteem she had no issues with self-esteem rifkin knew exactly who she was she knew her abilities rifka was no pushover in our mind when you see such behavior like okay everybody could just use her rifka was the exact opposite she was an extremely wholesome person inside but rifka was the quintessential yiddish mama destined to become the mother of claus israel the matriarch of the jewish people for eternity and what's the foundation of the jewish people what's the core foundation of the jewish people pure unadulterated unlimited kindness that's the core of yiddishkait it's the core of the jewish people rifka felt that her greatest gift in life is to help curse another person without expectations without calculations without meditations remember in viera hashem says why did i choose so he says why did i choose avram because i knew he will direct his children and his household to keep the way of hashem to do tsudaka and mishpat that's why i chose avraham because he will teach his children and his home to to do charity and justice if this is why avram was chosen so all the portions are now connected god says you know he adopted that means i know him but she says it means i love him why do i love avraham because he teaches his children charity and justice if this is why avrom was so cherished and chosen and loved we can understand why when eliezer saw this quality in rifka he knew this is the suitable match for avraham avinu's ear this is the suitable spouse soul mate for yitzhak such a type of person whose entire essence is love will be the right one now some people may call rifka gullible naive innocent and therefore exploited but now when you read the stories with intellectual honesty you ask one question does rifka come across as a naive woman as a gullible woman what happens a little later she has two children yaakov yitzhak loves asaf yitzhak wants to give the great blessings of the covenant to whom to asap and what does rifka do at that moment rifky at that moment is extremely proactive extremely aggressive to some degree certainly the proactive is the right word and by hook and by crook she goes out of her way and does quite extreme things dressing up yaakov and asap's clothes just to make sure that jakob not asap gets the blessings to put it in single simple english she was as savvy as they come you couldn't duper you couldn't deceive her you couldn't manipulate her so that's why associating this story with naivete is misreading the story it's intellectually dishonest it's not getting the point on the contrary for her this was called a life of refinement nobility grace holiness one soul sharing with another soul without one million calculations if it's worth it and how it impacts me you see when you're really wholesome you don't need to make these calculations are there users in the world yes present company excluded of course there are users in the world but it's their problem not hers she won't allow her dignity and her sense of love be tarnished by the fact there are some people in the world who will use you when i'm wounded inside when i actually don't know who i am then i always have to make a million calculations because i'm so wounded i may be traumatized so before i give you a cup of water it's like is she using me go go i'm figuring i'm thinking and by that time you can already you're already back in there to serel but rifka was a very wholesome person she was extremely confident she was not wounded inside that's why when she has to be extremely proactive and make sure asap doesn't get the blessings she doesn't become this she's not a pushover as you would say i mean it's probably the wrong term to use but she's not somebody you can exploit or manipulate but rifki is such a wholesome person and for her the ability just to give some to somebody to show love to show kindness to embrace to give water physically or spiritually or emotionally or psychologically that's what life is about if that's what life is about she doesn't have to calculate are they really wounded let me get a certificate from the doctor and see if they're really harmed why don't they get down this guy is such a lazy low life i've heard what my brother says about men i guess there's a point over there like who are these people and what are they doing but rifka is so wholesome at her core she's so pure at her core she she celebrates it it's like amitaya it's wonderful how do you know if you're doing something out of insecurity or not and here i should make a qualification there are people who always say yes because they they need approval they need validation or because they have tremendous fear to say no or because they're people's pleasers or because they have been made to feel so guilty if they say the word no and therefore they always say yes even even if it's harmful even if it compromises boundaries that should be maintained even if it may damage their own relationship with their spouse or their children or their family but don't confuse the two at all and how do you know if it's this or how do you know if it's that rifka did not come home after this go the next day to a therapist and say you know i'm such a loser i'm such a loser rifka didn't feel afterwards drained exploited you know sometimes you do something and afterwards you come home and you feel like a shemata it says in swarm of musser sometimes this ambivalence of what i'm doing is right or not you're not always sure but you will always see how you feel afterwards how you feel afterwards when you did something that's positive that's productive that's holy there's a certain inner wholesomeness it's very subtle but you know it was the right thing and if not there's an opposite feeling feeling they used to say by hasidim that every act in the world includes two types of verbal expressions an oi and an ah the question is the order that's always the question when i'm about to do a sin and availa something that's not good for me whether it's pursuing a bad habit or an addiction or saying a lie or doing something immoral or whatever it is there's always ah there's something there's something juicy in it for me there's something exciting that's why i'm following this addiction whether it's binging or anything else but an hour later it's oh uh why was i so stupid the opposite sometimes i have to do something right and proper so sometimes there's an oi like i'm not in the mood i'm lazy it's hard but later there's going to be an ah there's an inner an inner sense of wholesomeness when a person is doing things in a way that they have no boundaries there's no sense of self i'm only saying yes not because i'm saying yes because i'm frightened to say no then i'm not really saying yes that's not called kindness i'm just running away from my own demons i can't even be here for you because all i'm trying to do is justify myself and validate myself and i'm going to come home feeling like a rag feeling depleted with rifkit was the exact opposite she came home fulfilled in fact this is what gave her her husband this is why she became the matriarch of the jewish people verification this was not something abusive and manipulative it was the greatest thing in the world why should i calculate something that gives me life and gives other people life i could be here for somebody i can help somebody in need i could give love i can bring light and love into the world this is what i was created for this is my raise in the etra this is my greatest and deepest and profoundest pleasure a relative of the person once shared with me a story that happened pesach 1945 the skullen rebbe of blessed memory the old school arab the one who passed away in 1982. his name was rebellieser portugal and he was a hasidic master who came from a small town in northeastern romania called skulen or sculleny towards the end of the second world war march of 1945 he and other holocaust survivors found themselves in a town that was governed by the communist government by the russian government called chernovitz in bukovina because the russian the russian army liberated the kavin in april 1944 and then completed the expulsion of the nazis from most of eastern europe by january 45 and that's when the russians entered budapest hungary pesach that year the scholar portugal found himself in this russian governed town chernovitz pesach began that year the 29th of march and some charitable organizations developed and they provided some basic food stuff to the displaced persons as the war was coming to an end but the scolena rebel was dying he was yearning to obtain wheat that he could of course grind into flour and bake with all the qualifications and the stringencies and the hidurim of matsushmura now the economic situation was dire but he managed to obtain a limited amount of wheat and bake a limited amount of matzos so he let out a notice that any jew who wants from pesach he can give one matzah and any rabbi or rav or rebbe who's going to do a public say there a larger seder he'll give them three matas he calculated that would be somewhat enough a individual matzah to an individual and three months is for a larger say thereby being run by you know a schuler rover that bears a shiva whatever one week before pesach rip my shahader comes to visit this calendar but my shahada was the son of the sarrid vision of cerebra whose name was reborn so the moisture the son of rebar of the service comes to this says ah your father i'm sure the senate vision said eva will lead a public say there he says yeah so he gives him three matzahs ribosha is waiting he says how can i help you he says my father the vision of zerebra asked are the ken bin if he can get six monsters so the scalene ever says listen i would love to give you father 160 matzos but you know the situation i have a very limited amount of matzos if i give to your father somebody else won't get it's three months rabbi shah just stood there and said i understand about the tata the cereal divisions he says again my father the villagers have asked for another three mothers calendar again apologizes profusely but talking about a scratch cd this fellow would not let go he just repeated the munch like a mantra my father the setted visions there ever asked for another three monsters and the scalene rebbe reluctantly caved in and he gave him another three matas he was reluctant but he felt he can't refuse the request of the senate vision cerebra and life moved on its erev pesach a few hours before the seder there's a knock on the door the skeleton opens the door who's there the son of the celebrity syrup is oh my god he says how can i help you ramoshahaga says you have any matches left he already took from him sick you have any matches left the skeletor says no why he says do you have any monsters left for you so he said i had three matas left for me but this morning somebody came and begged for matzus and somebody else came and i couldn't say no to them why am i better than them so i gave away my last matzos so if my shahada takes out three matzahs he says my father assumed that you're going to give away your last matzos so he took three extra matzahs to be able to give you some monsters here are your three matas for pesach and it's you know what what do you what do you call this there's a life this is called a life of grace a life of kindness i remember a few years ago i was i think i was at a barista somewhere and i happened to be sitting there as secretary of the laboratory by label growner i think it was at a bris so we were still schmoozing at the meal so he told me that once it was uh it was erev pesach and he got a call somebody told them that there's a an apartment he lives in an apartment building in brooklyn and there's a neighbor there they have a neighbor and usually heir of pesach you could smell you know what's going on in everybody's house and the schmaltz and everything that people are you you could smell it's a kitchen is lebron frederick and this neighbor sees he's not smelling anything so he walked into the apartment just to take a look and he knows they're poor and he sees mamas that there's nothing there it's empty so he and he himself didn't have anything there was like one of these section aids apartment building so he called i guess he was a friend of rabbi groener he told him so mcgregor says i went into the river and i said somebody called and what i'm planning to do is i'll just call a few younger lights that have a couple of dollars and i'll ask them to bring over and we'll uh we'll deliver it so he tells me he says before before i finish speaking even the rabbit was learning or something it was right before pacer he opened his drawer and he didn't even look he was reading something he just took out with his hand cash it was like hundreds hundreds and he threw it on the table he says by the time you finish with your meetings and calling people which enzyme pesach just deliver immediately the money and uh and uh and let them have pesach so he told me he took it it was quite a lot of money and uh they never didn't look what it was he called in a baker from yeshiva and he gave him an address with an envelope and he said just run and deliver it faster take a taxi deliver it fast and he delivered it and like two hours later the other guy called and was ready before he says now i smell now i smell things in the house all of this illustrates the same idea and that is there's two types of kindness in the world there's a kindness that is still beautiful it's very calculated and it's always you know quit per core i did something for her now she has to do something for me i did something yesterday you do something tomorrow which is okay it's better than the other way but well yeah what eliezers saw at this moment was that which would become the core the core of the jewish people and the core of the jewish people would be that inner recognition and conviction that the greatest gift in life is the ability to give love the ability to share the ability to uplift hearts to ignite souls to kindle sparks the ability to give people from yourself from your wisdom from your money from your food from your water from your resources from your talent from your wisdom from your emotion from yourself that ability just to be able to give and not give with expectations and not give with fears and not give with concerns was really what eliezer had to know in order to realize that rifka is the person and it's interesting what's the first thing he does right afterwards he gives her the nose ring and it says what was its weight its weight was as rashi says the mate what's the connection and then he gives her two bracelets connected the two luchas the two tablets what's the connection what what is this he's giving jewelry to the kaala here we immediately see the connection what's the matter was a donation that the jews gave every year the besamikdish for the carbonus but it was interesting if you wanted to give more than a mahdi sarcol you weren't allowed if you wanted to give a whole shekel it wasn't accepted you had to give a half a shekel even if you were wealthy and it's fascinating because in the basaming dish we were always encouraged to give whole things not half things not fragmented you want to bring an offering it has to be tamim wholesome here it has to be half you want to give a whole dollar no only 50 percent why why would that be the case the answer of course is the same reason why eliezer gave rifka right away the martha's a shekel because really the terror is telling us you're not giving half you're giving a whole shackle but how can you give a whole shekel only with somebody else because you and i are one when i joined with another jew we give together a math shekel i gave one shekel and the other person gave one shekel because how do i define the i if i define my eye only in terms of me myself and i then i only gave a half but when we understand that my eye is so interconnected with other eyes so if i give a whole shackle i actually didn't give a whole shekel i'm actually i gave myself a whole shekel but essentially it's only half why is it only half because i'm incomplete when we come together and we give a whole shekel i give half you give half you gave a whole so toyota's not asking you to give a half the turret is giving you asking you to give a whole but how do you give a whole you give a whole when you realize who you are i am half when i realize i am half i can give a whole one because i connect with the other jew he or she gives half i give half and then i give one but when i think i'm whole and therefore i'm giving a whole shekel actually i'm only half why am i half because half of me is missing so eliezer gets to give this terrific as the first gift this would be the first jewish marriage because avraham and sarah married still before they were officially jewish but yitzhak rift would be the first jewish marriage what would be the nature of the first jewish marriage the nature of the first jewish marriage the first gift would be azekher for the mahdi shah what makes a marriage thrive what makes a marriage thrive is if every day i'm thinking oh so my wife did the laundry okay so i owe her something oh my husband did this so i owe him something it's quit per quote so you did three checklists i did other checklists if that's what type of marriage exists will become like everything is calculated and premembered pre-merit premeditated do you deserve it this time no he doesn't deserve it she doesn't deserve it it's an impoverished relationship what eliezer took what eliezer felt so powerfully about rifki is he saw a type of person she was this is going to be a type of couple they'll be able to operate on the level of mahdi shackle the means if i consider myself complete in and of myself i'm actually not me i'm a broken person because i'm only half and the more walls i make around myself the more broken i am because i'm actually detaching myself from my wholeness but when i can open my heart and when i can share and i can operate in a level of consciousness of just pure absolute unadulterated kindness and love and generosity when i know that i am half and together we create something whole something extraordinary that's where humanity thrives that's where marriages thrive that's where people thrive that's how a nation thrives that's how our home thrives i once read that they had the special olympics for children with special needs they have special olympics and there was a child who was autistic and they had like a marathon they were running and he started to run and he tripped on his own feet and he fell and he hurt his head and the other boys or girls who were running saw this so they turned around and they walked back and one of the girls who was also autistic took this boy and kissed him on his head and they all walked together to the end line and uh apparently they received some standing ovation somebody sent me the stories the story has to be authenticated sometimes people develop these stories but the point is a very profound one in life we often think you know if i if if you it's like a zero-sum game for me to win you lose and for you to win i lose but that's only in a more limited way of living in a deeper way of living it's the other way around for me to win you have to win and for you to win i also have to win and when people can graduate from the primitive level of i win or you win it's one of the two either you're first or i'm first then there's no marxist then there's no marriage they're living in a different place of consciousness for marriage to be a real marriage there has to be that ability of openness where i could redefine myself as an ambassador of love as an ambassador of light as an ambassador of generosity as an ambassador of hope as always we have to make qualifications sometimes a person is in a difficult situation where somebody is using them or abusing them or exploiting them or manipulating them and you need to have very proper and healthy boundaries i do want to make that qualification all of us know that it exists and you have to get real guidance and help how to be able to deal with somebody who's not ready to take that journey with you but eliezer wasn't worried about yitzhak now when he saw it in rifka he knew that he's not taking advantage of this woman on the contrary he went over and he gave her the becca legal girls the master and the two luchas knowing that this type of person will be able to become the matriarch that will build the jewish foundation for eternity have a wonderful week he came the same day right the same day bossy well if you didn't drink well you're saying they took water probably before well if you don't drink fruit right you're saying if there was criticism why was anybody thirsty maybe quintessa derek helps in terms of the time but not in terms of the biological needs i don't know i don't know how it works exactly number one number two could be eliezer wasn't thirsty he wanted that he wanted a c he asked her could be he wasn't thirsty we know why he didn't go down to the well because he wanted to test rifka i'm talking from rivka's perspective could be he wasn't thirsty at all but the camels i don't know but she said i want all the camels to finish drinking you're saying maybe the camels weren't that thirsty that's possible but you understand the point she didn't know about the criticism direction she didn't know about all the hajbanas she just saw a stranger asking her for water what would be your response go go take she doesn't know that he's trying to test her because he's looking for a shoulder for youtube one question on this that always bothered me how did the ten men stand there and watch a little girl the whole class i'm sitting there thinking about it okay but we need to but here in this case your husband is a very he's a huge match but but i mean what is going on here limited health and let me give her a right this doesn't make sense but that's all right it always bothered me my guess would be that they weren't there they were probably lying down on the side that's my guess but that would i don't think eliezer told them what he's doing i don't think they were all part of the plot i thought they were standing there and watching they went on a very long journey maybe they were extremely tired just like he was they probably went to sleep right that's my guess they pitched a tent and they went to sleep men go to sleep clarity right now that would be my guess that would be my guess that makes it i don't think nine men were watching us but it's still happening you have to speak to the men more right there's also by the way there's another beautiful vart from the base of levy had gone bios of diver levy celavec which is the father of reprimand sylvain briske he was the love of sloadskate off of brisk before that was yeshiva and valarjan so he has a very interesting shot in the story it's quoted i think in my honor torah you see he says when eliezer comes to rifke and asks her i want to sip water from your picture so basically rifka takes her picture and gives italian to drink so he's drinking directly from rifka's pail of water now any intelligent girl wouldn't bring home a pail of water that a stranger drank directly from who knows what diseases the stranger might be carrying who knows what germs there are even though they didn't know about germs at the time but you know it's uh it was an uncomfortable thing so what would the girl do she would pour out the remainder of the water and then refill the pitcher refill the bucket with a fresh with fresh water and that she would bring home to her family but if the stranger was to see this he would be embarrassed you know that his water is is not unworthy and she has to pour it out so to avoid the potential embarrassment an intelligent and kind young woman would instead offer the camels a drink thereby after the man finishes drinking she'll get rid of the rest of the water by pouring it into the trough without overtly throwing it away so the girl who would do this would certainly pass eliazer's tests of character and intelligence because there's a sensitivity here there's a wisdom instead of just pouring it out she says you know what i want to give water also to your camels she takes the rest of the water she pours it into the trough and then the cattle's drink that water and she could just go and refill her picture with new fresh water and she takes that home to the family but what happens is rivka surpasses all of his expectations this itself would have been a very balabatish wholesome nice and sensitive thing to do what happens is after the camels drink from the trough she offers to draw more and more and more fresh water for them this demonstrated she wasn't just disguising um the disposal of potentially harmful water she wasn't just saving him from embarrassment she was genuinely helpful and kind and in fact initially she offers him that she's going to draw water for the camel so it's not just a way of covering up the fact that she wants to pour out the water that he drank she doesn't want to take it home but rather she really wants to help she really wants to help this fellow this is what the basal lady adds the basal av adds so that's the idea yeah well look you have the opposite you know in yiddish we have an expression somebody called a shiverment you know just a difficult person you know everything is difficult everything is a fight everything is an issue rifka is the exact opposite on the other extreme and that's the idea it's just it's like a schmuck to help somebody if you have an opportunity to help somebody you do it you do it with your whole heart you do it with your whole soul you do it with every fiber of your your being i can help somebody i can i can be there for somebody physically emotionally spiritually i want to do it the bashamtv once said a soul comes down to the world lives 70 80 years to do one favor to another jew whether physically a physical favor material favor and especially especially spiritually but but what but but the idea of boundaries is still important because the point is that's the point i was making in the class this can't come from self-hate if it's coming from self-hate because i'm insecure or self-loathing or self-denigration it's just going to haunt me i'm going to be frustrated i'm going to be resentful i'm going to be exhausted i'm going to be depleted and that's the difference when you're doing it out of wholesomeness then you feel positive even if you're tired you went the extra mile but there's a positive feeling there is a wholesome feeling and when you're doing it from wholesomeness you don't violate boundaries that you don't have to violate and you don't do things that will ultimately be detrimental for you or your loved ones you're in the store and somebody uh says could you give me a lift but your daughter has an appointment by the doctor and it's an important important appointment right you don't valid you have to there's an order there's a hierarchy you're responsible to take care of your children you've got to take care of yourself you find what they cover your spouse brothers sisters parents there's an order in hulkhas and he'll just how we help people right man there's a system that the terror discusses there's a there's family there's relatives this community there's your village there's your town and so on and so forth so it's extremely important to understand this sometimes people are martyrs they're there to save the whole world but they're not there for their own children because they're they're they're looking to run away from something rifka is not that person it's the exact opposite also it's not done by coercion you don't feel forced it's not like i can't say no it's done with a choice and therefore it's done with enthusiasm it's done it's done with passion that's what i think it was emotional it was a charged moment it was a charged moment you're welcome thank you for coming it was a charged moment i'm good i'm just i just want to just hear something about how it was presidents from it was uh i watched it i listened to you i tried to see everything i wanted to be flying on the wall but i couldn't be but yeah it was a special moment it was a kid of shame yes yes you know yesterday the vice president mike pence announced that america is uh reversing the old way here they used to say that establishing uh jewish communities in the territories is a defiance of international law the vice president reversed it yesterday incredible it's not anymore against the law exactly it's unbelievable it's possible it's unbelievable i mean i'm not sure but maybe i mean is it true who made them sad that you should say well there's apostle if you say with hashem's name or not and uh so there's an argument between some say without hashem's name some say no broke at all and some say with hashem's name and i thought it was a pro i've so i followed that i think it's the majority of the poiskon and especially as the president of the united states like the leader of the free world i thought it's an extra uh was it was in consultation with i wanted to make sure it's proper and appropriate too i consulted some person before to make sure i'm saying there's an argument some say with hashem some say not so but i think the majority says yeah i remember when queen of england came to the capitol yeah yeah yeah the question is because a president-elect is a democratic collections it's four years or at most eight years so it's not really a melech number one number two the close of a king number three um yeah but but but others say that because he has the ability the authority to commute a federal death sentence and he can declare war press that red button i guess yes so therefore many punishments say that it's appropriate to stay with us i'm maine with the other person the full video went up now you could see the whole video it wasn't supposed to be no yeah that's why it's all different so i was very proud that's my rap line if you want to see the full thing you could see it we'll give you a picture yeah though.net you could see somebody sent me the whole thing so i asked him to post it he spoke about trump but i have to say today thank you thank you so much thank you thank you thank you for coming and it's good because you validate it for all those jews who don't know what they're doing that they're that was the point i know but i trust me i got a lot of criticism i got a lot of backlash going to meet him introducing him praising him blessing him no big secrets from the white house i'm saying some people were very upset because there's a reason why the mature character was outside protesting two measly people never those two guys who had even people who told me they said you know there's liberal jews who listen to you they learn terror from you and now you're going to lose them you're going to cut them off so why do you do that why would you uh why would you want to uh force them to to sever chords with you because they get does it mean anything you say it could happen but but but i said i said i don't understand even if all the accusations were correct for thousands of years jews went to leaders to try to have positive influence very she didn't know what was he's the guy who made genocide but she went to him and moshe didn't go to para and the leo didn't go to achave that's even the worst of the worst they went to why because there's the office of the king there's the office of presidency whether you like it or not a murderer that's even if you believe the worst of the word i wrote to somebody but i said especially i have a person there deserves a few thank yous yeah canceling an iran deal doesn't get a thank you and then an embassy embassy golden heights now that he said the settlements are not yesterday mike pence said say i saw them i said let's say let's say there's so many flaws and setbacks i don't worship anybody we don't worship people we know his flaws but doesn't deserve a thank you for doing such good things for the jewish people for israel come on i told him the first time in a war between israel and gaza that the u.s doesn't say both sides should show restraint every war both sides should show restraints the first time it wasn't the same eu also the eu did not either same thing because of america but that's what it is listen jews are very very um opinionated for sure but they're very um one guy wrote to me this creates anti-semitism and it shows everybody that we're self-centered we're narcissistic we only think about ourselves one drew said to me why you should come out fighting against him because he doesn't treat black people right but you don't care about black people you only care about white people their help he's helping he's helping the black i'm saying people have opinions what's that ones who actually went in 65 to actually protest with all those blacks and all those abraham joshua this class is brought to you by the yeshiva.net please help us continue the classes make even a small contribution at www.theyoshiva.net donate