The Path To A Good Heart - Jewish HaShkafa (78)

we're back here continuing our series of the   jewish ashkafa based on the series  uh the the sephill by the khazonesh we've uh gone through line by line over  the last uh nearly 80 shilling of hashem   trying to understand the uh the mind of the tzadik   trying to understand the mind of the ham and how  we could apply it in our life uh tonight's you   will be for refwash lima for rabbanite levana  batsara ravifram bin shulamit of anitsa but and also for the atlanta for mal shabbat julie  isla bhatt marshall samuel bin marshall cephas   bin marsha alexander marshall lewis ben and  all of am israel and all the righteous noah   hides that continue to watch our shulim  continue to learn with us by hashem   and continue to contribute in any way that they  possibly can so tonight hashem we're going to   continue the extraordinary series is a lot to  talk about but i wanted to clarify a few things   that apparently it seems like i didn't do a good  job last week at the event uh for any of you that   uh attended the event i already know how you feel  about hashem a lot of people had a very good time   and a lot of inspiration uh extraordinary  hizuk in emunah i know that i got a lot of   new uh and really got a very good clarification  of what we need to have what tools we need to have   in order to deal with the day-to-day uh issues uh  that uh you know attack us every day that are in   our road in our path every single day whether it's  money issues marriage issues children issues or or   anything else when a person has the right amount  of immuno they could literally conquer the world   but when a person doesn't have a muna they  literally can't even survive going to work   so of course we needed the words of the  sages and bok hashem we got them last week   and our next event is going to be  on the 27th now during the event   we announced a few major announcements  uh one of them is the extraordinary sium   oral torah that we have uh the event  that we're gonna have in eretz israel   uh it's going to be in the um during the month  of august uh we still haven't uh um finalized on   a date we have a couple of dates on the uh you  know as possibilities we're just verifying that   that he showed zion uh is uh can meet these  specific dates but uh it looks like it may   be the 9th of august but again don't hold me to  it it's not yet uh confirmed we'll have that uh   resolution very very soon um aside from that we  also announced the release of our new series of   usbs it's eight different usbs uh the tikkuna  blit number two it's again it's uh to clarify   it's not a uh new movie but rather a new usb that  has many more things than the original uh usb   had uh there is uh close to a hundred lectures  uh over 100 likes 130 lectures on there plus   uh uh over a hundred or so uh movies i  think it's something like uh 230 or 240   uh different uh um ways to learn about the issues  of tikkuna blit the jewish way of understanding   morality uh also has jewish intimacy in there  which is very good for couples new couples old   couples so this usb ball hashem is definitely  going to do a lot of good and we also have   the other series is uh the stump the rabbi over  100 lectures uh the uh era of mashiach (moshiach)   my personal favorite series aside from the vote i  think the era of mashiach by wasserman literally   made more people uh you know understand what where  we stand in the world today and what to expect   in these times of the era of mashiach than  anything else we also have the uh amazing   questions about god uh the igeret agamban and  the avot so we have bokoshev eight different usbs   and uh they're all out now now for anyone that  wants to simply buy the usbs themselves just one   copy for themselves you can now go on our website  beslattashem.org and order yourself uh all eight   of them uh as a package we're not selling  them individually yet because really we're   trying to get these out there to as many people as  possible now anyone that wants to contribute and   actually sponsor uh the usbs we made it a special  plan especially after you see the price difference   between selling them individually versus selling  them as a for sponsorship uh we're subsidizing a   big part of the cost and anyone that contributes  a thousand dollars towards the usbs uh is uh going   to also get a raffle ticket to potentially  win a flight to eretz israel whether you   are someone that showed up at the event last  week or you're someone anywhere else in the world   uh so long obviously as you have your own visa  situation we're not gonna fix your visa but uh   anyone that has the ability to travel tenants  israel uh can get a raffle ticket it's not a   guaranteed ticket it's a raffle ticket which we're  going to have the winner of that raffle uh on uh   the 27th of july announced at the event the next  event here in florida several days before we go to   uh to israel so uh anyone that contributes to the  uh uh sponsorship goes uh can go to tikunablit dot   live tikuna blit is t as in tikkun i k k u n as  in uh uh nancy uh uh h-a-b-r-i-t dot live l-i-v-e   not dot com live dot live you go over there and  you'll see there's a button over there sponsor   uh usbs and you press there and you click if you  want to sponsor a thousand dollars worth or more   uh for each uh thousand dollars you'll get  a raffle ticket now you're also going to get   the actual usbs themselves if you want if you  don't want the usbs and you want us to give   them out and for sure we have plenty of people  that want to give out the usbs but simply can't   afford a thousand dollars if you do want to  get the usbs then it gives you the details   over there that you'll get for every thousand  dollars you'll get 50 of the tikkuna bleat uh um   uh usbs and you're also going to get 50 of one of  the other usbs so you'll get 100 usbs in essence   you're paying only 10 dollars per usb uh which  is a fraction of the cost of what it actually   uh uh cost to uh you know and what it's being  sold for but the point is you'll have a hundred   usbs you'll be able to give out in your community  at the judaica centers in the synagogues the uh   just in your streets to if you know different  jewish people uh wherever you are uh you'll   be able to give out these usbs i personally  believe this is the best tool in the market today   uh to help people do chewbacca especially the  combination of the tikkuna blit and something else   because it has an extraordinary amount of torah  literally hundreds and hundreds of hours of tehran   each usb that you could both listen to as well  as watch so you have over 100 movies on every uh   uh every one of the usbs over 100 short films  and long films you have the uh about half a   dozen feature films that are two hours or so  each plus a bunch of short films that we make   and publicize each week so you'll have over  a hundred films there go to tikunablit.live   and you'll be able to sponsor as well  as receive the actual usbs themselves   uh so in essence you're getting something  for your money one way or the other   uh not just a raffle ticket uh now if you end up  winning the raffle ticket then hashem you also   won that too uh well uh depending on how many  people enter will obviously make adjustments   along the way but uh nonetheless this is something  that's available to everybody not just the people   that attended the event it seems like a few people  misunderstood and they said they wish they would   have come to the event because they would have  actually sponsored one of the you know at least   a thousand dollars worth of usbs uh because they  uh either way they want to get uh the usbs not   just the raffle ticket so if you want to uh the  usbs you can go to tikkunablit.live and sponsor   the usbs now as far as shipping is concerned it  all the you know the cost is not in the thousand   dollars it depends where you are if you are in the  states and the shipping cost is relatively minimal   it's not very much uh but if you are overseas  meaning you're in canada you're in australia   you're somewhere else then obviously the cost is  a little bit more so we'll have we'll let you know   once we know that cost if you want the usbs and  we'll uh add that to the to the tab uh as far   as what needs to be paid for but nonetheless  this is a uh a huge opportunity for anybody   that wants to do cube in their uh community  uh it's it's one of those things where uh   hashem it uh it looks good and it's uh it's even  better than it looks hashem so anyone that wants   to sponsor the usbs as well as get themselves a  raffle ticket uh please go to tikkunableet.live   so this is something that uh perhaps a few  people misunderstood so i wanted to clarify   it that anyone can sponsor the usbs and anyone  could actually win the raffle uh the each time   somebody wins the raffle each time somebody buys  the ticket they'll be uh receiving an email within   a few days of their raffle number uh you know even  a picture of it perhaps and uh they'll uh get a um   get a picture of their raffle and they'll be able  to check their number versus the winning number   that will be announced on july 27th so uh either  way one of the things i always wanted to tell you   guys is that i don't uh ask people to pay me for  lectures i don't ask people to give me any money   personally or anything like that i ask people to  simply listen to our shilling do the best they can   to serve akadosh bauhu and one of the ways we  want to serve akados baku is to help others   to help others do chuba to help others get closer  to our kados beluhu and the best ways that we know   is simply what we're doing so by giving people a  usb you're in essence giving somebody a uh a way   a way to get back to academ and it's uh because  the teachings themselves speak for themselves it's   not me it has nothing to do with me if you spoke  the same words you'd have the same exact results   and book hashem every day we get new uh new emails  from people and messages from people and how   the lecturers have changed their life just the  other day i had somebody uh send me a message   telling me that after he watched one of the  uh short films that we had about marijuana   he uh quit smoking marijuana and he says for  the first time in 10 years for the first time   in 10 years he's not high and he feels like his  brain is healing and he feels amazing and it's   something that he never even thought was remotely  even a possibility but apparently that short   film that tim hashem made literally inspired  somebody that was high for 10 years at least   straight with no exceptions every single day just  like you breathe and eat every day he was smoking   marijuana every day but after hearing what he  heard in that short film it changed his life so   much so that uh he quit once and for all hashem  he says he's thinking clearly now and hashem will   put that uh message that he sent me uh on the  screen so you guys can see these amazing things   other people have told me that they've changed  their entire wardrobe but you know women   both hashem are modest women are taking off their  wigs and putting on a kisuyosh a uh you know a   mitzbachat a scarf or a hat other people have uh  literally taken learning seriously i had one guy   sent me a message telling me he was off the  derrick when i met him he was completely uh   you know was a yeshiva baku didn't really  care for uh for what he was doing anymore   and bokeh a little over a year later he's uh  aspiring to become one of the adult with the   amount of dedication that he has to learning tawa  so bo hashem each one of these usbs has those   teachings has those teachings to help people do  juva and there's an enormous amount of people out   there that are learning from them and both hashem  even if you look at our channels they've grown   we are uh well over 50 or 60 000 subscribers  across our youtube channels if you calculate   both the english channel which i think alone  is like 34 000 or so plus you have the spanish   channel the portuguese channel the hebrew channel  french german russian everything is growing and uh   you see that people out there are looking for this  but the reason why we still made these usbs is   because not everybody's gonna find you on youtube  and you have to do whatever you can to uh to get   to people sometimes people need something physical  something tangible in order to press play in order   to do something in order to make it real in order  to bring that torah to actual life sometimes they   need to attend an event so for all of those  people that sponsored that lecturer last week   you have no idea how many people you inspired  not just by the people that attended and anyone   out there that they know that they're going to  take home some of the usbs and the books and all   the other free stuff that we gave them uh home  to inspire other people but also the thousands   and thousands of other people that have watched it  already over the last few days and thousands more   countless more that will continue to watch that  particular lecture you know in the coming years   so when you're giving somebody this usb it's a  lot more than you giving him it's daca it's a lot   more than you giving him a ride it's a lot more  than you giving him anything because simply put   this is even more than a single lecture because  if you give somebody a you bring somebody to a   lecture they may be inspired but they may not know  the way uh back home i had somebody today just   send me a message listen i attended the lecture  last week i loved it i want to do more he didn't   realize apparently that all the stuff that was  there that's all top of the line quality was   for free so he didn't take anything so he just you  know he went there he got inspired and i went home   i didn't meet him face to face but hashem he had  my number and he sent it to me and he said i want   do chewbaca what do i do now so now i have  to i told him i'll give him a a gift and   i'll send him a free key roof package with a  lot of this stuff in there with books with uh   all types of uh material that's going to help him  do chuba because now that he had the lecture that   lecture by itself will inspire a person for a few  days but that's it you have to you have continuous   teachings these usbs are that continuous teachings  so when you're getting yourself a thousand five   thousand ten thousand hundred thousand whatever  amount of usbs you're getting for your community   for people that you know for people that you don't  know you're in essence giving them the tool to do   complete shiva because once a person listens to  a complete usb whichever one it is whether it's or whatever it is each and every single one  of those usbs has produced an enormous amount   of ballet hashem an enormous amount of ballet  one of the usbs that we produced was stumped to   rabbi stump the rabbi was a extraordinary series  that we started because one of my tummy dots she   decided that she wants to uh sacrifice hard time  our effort our money to uh to bring young guys   and girls from the community from florida together  to get them to uh to learn torah and book hashem   that series has become the most popular series  that we've had and we still have to this day   and even more than that just out of that group of  people that came at least a half a dozen or more   kids have become yeshiva bahuim that are going  to color they're going to yeshiva till this day   like literally complete transformation complete  transformation they came in mecha eating pig going   out with goyo going out with doing anything and  everything possible drug addicts from that series   alone those just those few lectures alone they  transformed their life and every single one of   these usbs has ballet with their names on it in  there and you can actually help your community   with them so again this is a fantastic opportunity  to get people to do chuba with something that's   creative something that is uh actually you  know for sure it works and it's not speculation   you know a lot of times there are new things that  come out there that's a new tool that said that   may or may not work but you don't really know  these are things that actually do work because   we've seen them work and basal hashem they'll  work wherever you are like i said if you're able   to give them out which i think is going to be very  easy you simply just stand you go to synagogue you   just give people one of the one of the usbs what  is it oh it's cool oh it's just that's it you   don't have to say it's rabbi roofing it's right  but they have to say anything just give it to   them the looks are going to do the job once they  see this product it's such a cool looking product   they're going to be interested oh thank you very  much and you could easily give out literally   hundreds of these every single day uh that's  uh who says open your mouth and i'll fill it   with as much tawa as you want you could literally  go to synagogue and give him out you go to a uh   a jewish center you go to a jewish supermarket  anything you have wherever you have a bunch   of jewish people you could literally give out  hundreds and hundreds of these because it's simply   easy easy to give these out and each and every  single one of those people that you just take your   hand with the usb in it and you give it to them  you're buying yourself another ticket to a llama   you're buying yourself another ticket to a london  because it's not just a single event it is a   series of lectures that can transform a life and  again if they want to watch they have something to   watch a lot of things to watch they want to just  hear they have a bunch of things to hear either   way you can help people do chuva so both hashem we  have them out we have them ready anyone that wants   to sponsor them go to tikkunhabrit.live and you'll  be able to sponsor over there now as far as buying   them individually if you simply just want them for  yourself you go to the bezel-sham website and you   can buy the whole package as uh as it is so with  that being said hopefully i did a better job uh uh   explaining it this time than i did uh last week  uh and um we'll uh we'll continue now with the   uh with the series itself we have a continuation  from last week's chapter three where the khazonesh   clarified a strategy for us to not only work on  our midot and perfect ourselves as human beings   but also giving us the the exact way of how to get  there where many times we were taught and we we   we just simply understood it rationally that if  a person has a bad character trait whether it is   anger or arrogance or stinginess or whatever it is  that you simply have to deal with that particular   issue the kazonish clarified it and broke it down  in a much simpler way much more successful way   and he told us that simply put if you want to  fix your anger you want to fix your pride you   want to fix your lust you want to fix whatever  it is that's a big thing that's bothering you   generally speaking it's not a good idea to just  go after the big the big thing but rather go after   it as a as a something that it uh breaks into  meaning that break up each bad character trait   into pieces of what is uh you know let's say for  example if someone's angry when do you get angry   oh i get angry when i talk to my uh spouse  okay what else do you get angry i get angry   when people send me uh you know half a message and  they expect me to understand everything okay where   else do you get angry i get angry when people are  lazy okay where else do you get angry i get angry   when uh people are late to uh opportunities uh  that i gave them okay and so on and so forth   now a person that is a uh is is going to break  that down is now going to see wait a minute i get   angry with all of these different things perhaps i  can't fix all of them but this one i can fix this   little one i can fix and he starts fixing that  little one that little branch the little branch of   that big ugly tree he can fix that little branch  says the kazonich when you break up the medute   into parts it's much easier to fix the parts and  when you fix that part you end up improving the   entire foundation unlike what we were taught and  what we thought that you know in essence you have   to face that big thing instead you're able to fix  the little one the little branch and fixing that   little branch is going to actually improve the the  really big one the core once you're able to fix   that core you now have new tools that are going to  be able to give you strength to fix other branches   and bez let hashem little by little get to a point  where you fix the entire thing and then after that   you go into fixing other character traits so this  was an extraordinary douche i know it was for me   for a few people that have commented on  the shoe it certainly was for them because   now it becomes not only uh possible to fix the  character traits not only does it become realistic   to pick the trait but it actually becomes  reasonable reasonable in a sense that okay i   know that i have to fix this bad trait that i have  but i don't know how because everything makes me   angry everything makes me this okay fine don't fix  everything fix that little one that you know you   can fix once you know that you can fix that little  one you now go ahead and attack that little one   once you fixed that little one you'll all of  a sudden see that you now have new strengths   new confidence new abilities to fix  others and it starts healing the core   and that's one of the most beautiful things  in the world that i know that i saw myself   when you know when we started uh doing  chuva we started working on different things   and one of the things that i know i knew for  myself i had to work on as far as happiness where   do you how do you get happy where do you where do  you get happy do you buy to the store do you uh do   you do this do you do that and through the torah  you start seeing that happiness is not something   that you acquire from things happiness is a state  of being and little by little as you work on it   before you know it you're walking around with  a smile before you you know it you have a smile   that's not necessarily always shown on your face  but certainly is on your heart so this is one of   the things that the torah can actually give a  person and it's so rewarding that it literally   enables the person to want to do more many things  when you do them especially when they're difficult   you feel a sense of achievement but  at the same token a sense of relief   you did it you finished it ah i'm finished now  i can take a break but when you actually correct   your character traits when you actually acquire a  good character trait you're not only going to get   that sense of of happiness and success that uh  that you've actually achieved something but you   now have newfound strength to do more you're not  looking for that uh for the relief that okay i'm   never gonna do anything more again but rather  you now have newfound strength to do even more   that's one of the beautiful things that you  have with uh with the torah itself so now   we go to section four in chapter four where the  continues this thought and he says the following so section 4 is a very long section so  we're not going to do the whole thing   we're just going to do a section within  a section and uh says the following   it's possible that this meaning everything we just  spoke about is related to the dispute brought in in chapter nine mishnah in chapter two mishnah  nine or if you have a new sock like i have   it's in chapter 2 mishna 13 it was broken up  slightly differently anyone that watched our   series or listened to our series of pirkavo it  knows what i'm talking about there's different   new sahim of how the mishnayot were broken  up either way it's the same exact thing   and he says that in this mishna it's in the name of and he asks his five disciples to go  out and find a straight way straight   path for a man should follow what is this  what is this straight path in essence what is asking his students is to go find  me a path for a person to follow   in order to achieve a life with purpose a  purposeful life and his students respond says a good eye abhi yoshua  says a good friend good friend the ability to see consequences says a good heart are preferable to me than your words  everything you said is included in what he said   so everyone agrees that a good heart is the good  trait says the kazonish which includes all the   good traits that unite and become one complete  whole but the discussion is about the active   means by which one can acquire a good heart  and telling a person to go out and acquire a   good heart doesn't teach him anything about the  means to achieve the desired goal so here up to   here is what we're going to cover today based  on hashem so first we have to understand what   is actually being said here what is being said who  is saying it why are they saying it and so on so   in order for a person to achieve their goal their  as far as achieving life's purpose we've already   established that to achieve life's purpose  has nothing to do with how much money you have   has nothing to do with the possessions you have   but rather with what kind of name you leave for  yourself what kind of name you leave yourself is   never having to do with the money you have or you  don't have but rather with your actions just like   says top shem shementov i bet it's better  to have a good name than good oil because   although a person may have good oil meaning a  lot of money he may be the slime of the earth   he may be a person that when he dies everybody  celebrates on the other hand when a person has   a good name that's a that's something that  they earned throughout their life they can't   just simply earn a good name because of one  single action they can't earn a good name   just because of one uh uh show of gratitude or one  show of uh of generosity good name is something   that a person earns throughout their entire life  and really when a person leaves this world that's   when they're truly gonna find out how good their  name really was because while the person is alive   people may kiss up to them people may call them  taddy people may call call them a lot of things   but in reality it could very well be because of  the hidden agendas that people have or what they   want from this person like this one person came up  to uh somebody that i know and uh started saying   uh you know all types of uh compliments and in  reality it was well known that this person was   just saying all those compliments because he was  five minutes away from asking for money that uh he   believed that this person has so of course it's  uh nice to hear nice things unless they're fake   so a person that is going to hear nice things  from people especially if they're in a position   of power shouldn't be so sure of themselves  that those people actually mean what they're   saying you know sometimes they have some agenda  sometimes they have some type of uh interest to   say those things on the other hand when a person  passes away no one is worried that this person   is going to fire them no one is worried if this  person is going to get angry at them you know he   passed away he's not in this world anymore and  that's when you know what the community truly   thinks about you what the world really thinks  about you what your wife your husband what your   kids what everybody really thinks about you that's  when you truly know whether you have a good name   or not and the only way that uh a person is going  to be satisfied with the uh with with what happens   at that point is if they worked on earning  that good name now the uh the sages in perce   showed us their their uh uh their wisdom  and telling us exactly who what when and how   on everything having to do with behavior with how  you uh you know how you behave how you're supposed   to behave in this world according to the torah  not having to do with telling you whether to uh uh   uh where a big keeper or a small keeper or whether  you should keep shabbat or don't keep shabbat   that's all a given but rather simply behavior  traits and rabbani which we have to thank for   you know day after day for the entire  oral torah sits on his shoulders   had five disciples five exceptional  disciples that he uh mentions infiltrate   how each one of them stood out each one of them  stood out where he says in the uh number 12   that if all of the sages of israel were in one  pan of a balanced scale and rabia the azerbaijanos   was on the other he would outweigh them all abasha  said in rabbani name if all of the sages of israel   with even rabial ezra and hokkien's were among  them were on one pen of the balance scale and   were on the other he would outweigh them all  so here we see that not only did he give us   uh the names of these uh a couple of his sages but  he also told us how great they were in comparison   to the rest of the sages of islam at that time and  uh forevermore now he also gives us in the before   that each one of the these uh tell me deem what uh  what was their main thing that he praised them for   so abhi ali ezra bin hokinos is like a cemented  cistern that loses not a drop meaning whatever you   teach rabil is that's it you could take that to  the bank this is a side note for anyone that has   read the gemara and uh learned about the mahloket  uh the very big machoket between rabiles ezra   hokkienos who was the rabbi of rabbi akiva and  rabban gamliel who was the naciado who was the uh   the prince of the generation he was the gdollardo  that uh was the head of the generation head   of the sun dream and it was a very big machoket  between the two a very sad story that uh involves   all types of mystical things that happened and  debating a serena and rabia liesel binoculars was   on one side and rabban gamliel and the rest of the  sages were on the other side in regards to a tanoo   oven and and so on and kabile is binocular said if  i'm right then the tree this giant tree that was   next to them is going to be cut in half and as he  finished the sentence the tree was cut in half in   charmaine hashem miraculously made this uh tree  cut in half says uh thank you very much but we   don't learn al hot from trees that get cut rabia  elizabeth says if i'm right about what i'm saying   then you see this river the river is going to  reverse meaning the water is going to start   going uphill instead of downhill meaning the laws  of nature will change just to prove that i'm right   and that's exactly what happened the river all of  a sudden reversed just show you the extraordinary   torah that these people had that literally  akadosh bahu would change nature just for the   they're sick rabban gamble says thank you very  much but no we don't learn our torah from rivers   then he said if i'm right then a bat call a  heavenly voice will come out and say i'm right you   need anything else from that it's like mount sinai  and that's exactly what happened all of a sudden   a uh a voice comes from heaven saying  whose voice why are you bothering my son don't you know that is like him  and say thank you very much but   we don't learn torah from heavenly voices  we have rules that we got at mount sinai   from moshe rabbenu of how to instant out to  uh apply these rules to uh to actually pascal   we don't learn from a heavenly voice there's no  rule that says that we have to listen to heavenly   voices in order to ask even though rationally  speaking it sounds like of course you have to   listen to it but that's not the rule the rule  says we have to prosecute based on the rules   now and one of those things is not uh has nothing  to do with a heavenly voice the point being is   is that after they saw that ben  alkynos is not changing their mind   they put him on nidui put him on his so there's  not going to be two torahs now one of the why don't you change your mind just agree  with him what's what you it's worth it for   you to be on me doing he says you don't  understand i can't why can't you what is   that it has nothing to do with arrogance this  is this is the biggest talmud on planet earth   you can't even doubt uh him for a second  you can't think for a moment that he has   any arrogance whatsoever so the question is why  don't you change your mind okay i understand you   know you're right and you think that they're wrong  and so on but still it's is it worth all of this   to be on me doing you can't be uh part of the  community anymore they tell me dean can't go to   you anymore all these different things that  are gonna happen he says i can't why for me   i learned this from my rabbi i learned this  from my rabbi what does it mean i love everyone   i learned a lot of things from my rabbi so what  does that mean it's not the same for me learning   it from my rabbi it's like my rabbi is right now  you're asking about that what the question is   i see my rabbi ben zakai right now next to  me telling me that's talaka you want me to   go against my rabbi right now meaning it's not  about oh i learned this in a book i heard this   somewhere i heard in the shoe and maybe i should  do this no no every time you ask me a question i   see my rabbi right now he's telling me he's  right next to me and that what am i going to   go against my rabbi suffer was a reality and  that's what rabban yo-kanan ben zakai says   that rabile is of an okinawas he is like a cistern  everything you put in them that's what it's going   to be it's never going to change it's never  going to change something unbelievable you're   never going to lose a drop rabius praiseworthy  is she who bore him he was such a big sadique   you already have to praise his mother that how  she merited to have such a big sadique as a son   rabio uh the queen is scrupulously pious person  he's a big sadiq he's a very very pious person   makes sure that not only does he do what  he's supposed to do but above and beyond he is fierce fear sin he has an extraordinarily  high level of fear of the heaven a is like a spring flowing stronger and stronger   which we find out in the following in the  next mishna he is the biggest among them   he is a spring that keeps going stronger and  stronger this person simply has no limitation   to how great he's going to be coming to  while all of them are great all of them he's something that's uh not human he's  something that is a uh above and beyond so comes   one of the dog in the previous generation and  he asks wait a minute why is it necessary for   the mishnah to tell us which one of them is the  greatest i mean they're all great they're all   the tamidim of rabban yukon zakai why do we need  to know which one of them is the greatest i mean   the wouldn't one of them say oh listen he's the  greatest welcome you don't say i'm the greatest   maybe insulting some it's up to somebody maybe  it'll make them feel bad why do i need to know   which one is the greatest either way it's not like  they're all here so what do i need to know says something that yes something that you need to  know today something you need to know today   what do we learn from this he says in judaism  it's not just who is a big rabbi who is a tomik   that's not enough it's not enough why because  when there is an issue that affects the public   you can't just say listen i asked  my rabbi if i'm allowed to bring   a missionary to the shul and he said it's  okay and sink and think that is sufficient what you are deciding to do is not just going to  affect your community but because of your stature   because of your recognition and your popularity  you are making a decision for claude isaiah   by you deciding to bring a missionary to a shul  you are now in essence putting a check stamp an   okay stamp that everybody's allowed to bring a  missionary to a show because if you're allowed   to bring a missionary to a show why shouldn't  everybody bring to a missionary which means that   you can't just put all of that responsibility  on your rabbi even if your rabbi is a big rabbi   even if your rabbi is dolla doll you can't put  him on a shoulder why because we all know that   there are rabbis big rabbis big tommy dekha  kameem a good dollar doll but then there is   the biggest dollar though the one that everyone  knows is the biggest and the best there's simply   no competition yes your rabbi is like a  doll your rabbis is great but everyone knows   that he's not the biggest there's someone bigger  than him perhaps a few for something that is   going to affect the community at large for someone  that's going to affect the nation you can't just   rely on your rabbi or even your rabbi's rabbi you  have to literally go to the biggest rabbi in the   world and see what he says and that is why the  mishnah tells us they're all big rabbis they're   all big sadiq they're all exceptional the whole  named my name is there's a big one among them too   there's the biggest one among them too you need to  know who it is this is a very very important thing   because many times people get all bent out of  shape when they hear something in a shoe perhaps   my shoe and then they go to their local rabbi  and the local rabbi disagrees he says ah no man i said um since i have my rabbi he said no and i  want to double check because you know i want to   have you got your mind so i asked my rabbi  to ask his rabbi and my rabbi anna's rabbi   said i don't have to do what you said fine  question is is your rabbi and your rabbi's rabbi   bigger than the dollar doll no  so who are you going to listen to   oh but don't i have to listen to  my rabbi not when it comes to that   if it's a standard black or white issue that has  to do with with that that's uh that's acceptable   everywhere no problem but when it has to do  with something that's a significant thing   something such as wigs with abu dhabi something  such as wasting seed something that has to do with   issues of karet these are big things these are  not things you could simply rely on on your   local rabbi or even his rabbi unless his rabbi is  literally the biggest rabbi in in the world today   and this is one of the things that people fail  to understand they fail to understand they simply   think listen as long as i'm listening to my rabbi  i'm okay no it doesn't work like that habibi it   doesn't work like that sometimes there's somebody  bigger than your rabbi and usually there is and   that's what you have to listen to if that other  big rabbi said something that's what you have   to listen to so this is also one of the things  that a lot of people got confused during the   whole coronavirus craziness a lot of people would  just listen to whoever had more youtube videos   this is not the way of tawa so it's very very  important for a person to have an understanding   of this particular mishna and why why the ham  took words out of the the uh in this mishna and   made sure to know that we need to know who's  the biggest now we move forward we see that tells us that there is a path that a person should  follow in order to achieve a purposeful life now this path is not an easy one  and each one of the hakamim say   their own uh you know they have a  uh something to uh to say about it says good eye if you have a good eye you can  have a good life you can have a purposeful   life how could a good eye give you a purpose  for life very simple most of people's problems   that are not real problems in  their mind they're real problems   they stem from their eyes there's a reason why  every single day a jew is obligated to say the   shema slayed and after that the section about  which we learned in last week's parashat who says don't follow your heart don't don't follow  your uh what you see what your eyes see   why because your eyes are going to lead you  to look where they shouldn't look instead of   looking at what you are supposed to look at your  stuff your responsibilities your merchandise your   bank account your wife your husband your kids  your stuff you're looking at everybody else's   so all of a sudden you're not happy with  your marriage because you looked at your   fellow's wife she is younger she  is thinner thicker blonde blue   whatever it is and your wife is not your wife  is not now until you saw your friend's wife   you were happy with your life she cooked for  you she cleaned for you she says i love you   she tolerates you she forgives you but all  of a sudden you looked at your fellow's wife   and you saw that she's half the size and you're  all of a sudden you're like ah i don't know if   i make the right choice what do you mean you don't  know if you made the right choice what do you mean   you know if you made the right choice how why  because your eyes are somewhere else so when a   person looks elsewhere already it creates problems  not real problems they're problems in their mind   another thing is a person that doesn't have a  good eye is simply a miserable person because   they can never allow themselves to be happy for  other people because they're always looking at   what other people have and what ends up happening  is that those looks create thoughts those thoughts   create realities they're fake but  they're realities in their mind   and those realities create certain actions example  a person thinks that they can't grow in their life   why i'm just not good enough why aren't you good  enough listen i'm not good enough because look   at him he has already a big house he's got a few  cars just one of his cars is more expensive than   my entire uh uh my entire house he's got uh wife  and kids he's got a fifty thousand dollar watch   he's got all the what does that have to do with  your your life choices no listen why does he   have all that because he's already been in the  business for 25 years i'm only in the business   for five years so i have to wait another 20 years  to maybe maybe i'll be successful but in reality   he's probably the last of his generation  and the business is not the same anymore   the business is not the same anymore so you can't  make money uh if you come to the business now   only if you came 25 years ago like him this is  what i used to hear literally on a weekly basis   from people that used to work for me on wall  street where they always said listen you know   the people of the previous generation they were  able to make a lot of money that's because back   then the commissions were higher back then  the market was uh more uh concentrated you   were able to do certain things back then there  was this back then there was that and all of   these excuses i'm like yeah but i made money i did  okay yeah but you're the last of the generation   you're this you're that you're the exception  in reality this is all fake it's all nonsense   it's all nonsense in every business there's a  way to fail there's a way to succeed in every   uh a thing in the world there's a way to fail  there's a way to succeed there's no such thing as   as a uh the last of the generation and if if  what you're saying is true why are you here   today but unfortunately what ends up happening is  that they see the success that somebody else has   and they want it now they don't want  to do what it takes to get there   they want it right now and since they know they  can't acquire it right now they might as well   say ah just settle with the fact that i'm never  going to be there so i might as well not even try   and in essence their eyes and their jealousy led  them to already determine be determined to fail   this is a horrible mindset that kills a lot  of people's lives but nonetheless it's very   very common very common other times a person  can say listen you come to uh your house and   instead of saying hello being focused on who the  host is who the or the guest is focused on who   uh uh the host is focused on who the guest is  they concentrate on measuring each other up   they come to your house they start looking at your  window shades oh window [ __ ] wow it's got window   shades these are big windows it's probably five  six eight thousand dollars a window and he looks   at the walls oh wow look at those pictures each  one of those pictures at least a thousand maybe   fifteen how many pictures yes one two three four  wow this guy like twenty thousand dollars on his   walls and then he looks the kitchen oh wow that's  a sub-zero refrigerator that's i think i saw it   at that store and i cried that i couldn't afford  it i was like what twenty-five thousand dollars   and then they start measuring up your stuff before  you know it like trying to get the guy's attention   hey you with me you're here and they're still  measuring up your stuff how many bedrooms oh   can you show me your house can you show me a  walk through why you're a real realtor you're   gonna sell my house you're gonna buy my house  what do you need to do look at the house for   this is what people do they measure each other up  it's a pathetic way of life but nonetheless this   is one of the things that people do as a norm as  simply a norm first time to go to somebody's house   they want to get a walk through want to see  the stuff especially as the uh uh income goes   higher and the houses get bigger they are the  guests that they have are those types of people   they simply come in to measure each other up  or they come to an office they want to see the   office how many offices what kind of chandeliers  are in the office what kind of phone system is in   the office how many employees are in the office  what kind of floor does the floor the office have   is it carpet or is it uh you know marble is it  this is it that people simply allow themselves   to look at other people's stuff in order to arrive  at certain conclusions and more times than not   those conclusions are not only wrong but they  cause damage not necessarily just to the person   that's showing it to them but to themselves  now needless to say there's also evil eye   people look at your stuff and they start counting  your money this is one of the things that i've   suffered from my whole life for whatever reason  or another i've had this this tikkun in my life   that my whole life literally since i was a little  kid for whatever reason or another the world was   always interested in what i do with my money how  much money i have in my pocket how much money i've   spent here how much money i have there no idea why  but for whatever reason literally i've had people   ask me how much did you pay for that uh chandelier  what do you care you want to go buy it when the   celtium and take it off the ceiling and give it to  you why do you care how much my chandelier costs   and then when you tell them like nah come on  i know you you're being uh you're being humble   you're being humble my cause must cost more  than that all types of stupid things people are   constantly concentrating on how much money is in  my pocket it's the most bizarre thing in the world   i never really truly understood it until i read  this mishna this mishna is simply telling you   have a good eye most people don't have a good eye  why they want more for themselves and their belief   is because they've spent all of their  life looking at other people's stuff   they've literally gone shopping in other people's  houses and other people's companies and other   people's malls and other their window shopping  everywhere and they're in essence they've decided   what belongs to them without buying and anyone  that has what belongs to them makes them upset   why does he have and i don't oh he has a new car  thief why is he a thief because he has a new car   yeah how does he have a new car he works for ups  how does he have so much money he gets a new car   i don't know maybe i don't know he has saved his  money i don't know maybe somebody uh maybe i don't   know uh yes second job he also has a new house you  heard about the second house he's building where   does he get that kind of money working for ups  how's that money working with ups i know people   work for ups they barely have enough money  to uh to eat this guy's buying a second house   i must be stealing the packages and they literally  make up all types of things in their mind because   of their evil eye this is not only bad because  you're literally you bring an evil eye on other   people but it's also bad on the person himself  it's it inhibits the person himself from growing   because they're too focused on other people's  stuff this is an atrocious thing it's literally   a having cancer that's stage four and no cure  in sight unless the person does chuba and the   person doesn't even know he has this he simply  or she simply has developed such a bad habit   to measure people up that they do it naturally  without thinking twice this you'll see many times   when you meet new people you meet new people what  do they do do they tell you uh how are you how you   doing and uh they start asking you what are you  learning today where you know what what's your   ambitions in life no what do you do for a living  where do you work where do you live do you own   the house or you uh rent why do you care if i  own my rent are you a realtor are you looking   to sell a house that you want me to buy are you  looking to rent your house you want me to rent   do i look homeless to you that i need your house  to buy or to rent why do you care where i work are   you looking for a job is this is that why are you  looking for somebody i'm i'm a doctor are you sick   i'm a lawyer are you somebody suing you i'm a cop  are you a criminal why do you care what i do why   do you care where i live did i invite you to my  house and this is one of the things people do   naturally normally without thinking twice about it  why because they have literally been programmed by   the yetzera and society to measure up everything  to go window shopping psychological shopping   everywhere they can do on the internet is not  enough in the stores in the streets is not enough   they do it with people simply everyone they uh  they meet they start measuring up it's like a   resume what do you do ah doctor what kind of  doctor ah dentist that's not really a doctor   okay i'll put i'll put doctor i'll put md i'll put  md yeah because the doctor that i was looking for   and you know for the shidduch he's like a  spinal surgeon you know starting salary 800   000 you're a dentist what are you making hundred  thousand okay sam said uh where do you live oh   toad hill must come for rich family okay check  also maybe we'll put the doctor back not the md   all right uh what uh where what what's what else  what kind of car do you drive oh that's your car   you bought the car you lease oh lease he's not uh  he doesn't believe in finance i need to talk to   this guy where where do you bank where do you  this what you say like they ask you all these   why why do you need to know all this stuff  this would die is an indication not only of   the low level of society but also if we are  it if we are the ones that ask people these   questions if not even if we ask those questions  if we simply think about them if we think about   what does he do and what does she do how long  are they married and how many kids do they have   where do you vacation and what you eat for lunch  on a tuesday all of these things you have to   understand these are not natural thoughts these  are not healthy thoughts and these are certainly   not thoughts that are going to bring you to a  better place because what they all ultimately   create is an evil eye an evil eye that hurts  the person as well as the as as yourself so   one of the things that rabbi eliezer bin hokuno  says you want to go on a good path good eye   have a good eye what's a good eye good eye is  you're happy for other people no matter what level   of success they have you're happy you hear that  one of your former classmates that was barely able   to pass a single test just started a company and  it took off and he made millions say hashem good   for him you hear somebody that you know that  literally was uglier than a goat you hear they   got married and have three cute little kids babu  hashem very good even if you're single even if you   can't find even a uh yourself in a mirror still  be happy for other people be happy that other   people are successful why have a good eye rabbi  alia devin one of the great sages in the last   generation there was a literally a uh a plague  that was killing babies left and right shemishma   babies were dying left and right  they had a community meeting and said okay he gave them some hizuka he says okay  it's time for all of us to take something on what is everybody going to take on one guy says i  won't speak la naga another guy says i will give   mort's dhaka another person says i'll uh be more  observant with my shabbat and so on and so forth   abby levine said to them all of those kabbalah   all those things that you said they're all  good but they're not going to stop the plague   you guys want to stop the plague you want to stop  seeing babies die all of you sign on a paper i'm   going to give you that's going to allow each  one of your neighbors that wants to expand their   apartment allow them permission because everybody  is growing their family is growing everyone wants   to expand their apartment but without approval  of the neighbors no one can do anything and what   happened in this community no one is happy for  anybody so no one's signing off all of a sudden   him getting an extension to his house is going to  distract your view as if you're ever in a balcony   him wanted to expand his house is going to somehow  create too much noise that's unfathomable for you   even though you're not home all day and nobody  wants to allow if you guys all sign to allow   your neighbors to expand their houses  you're finally going to show some abating   the plague is going to stop people couldn't  believe it that is going to help fine   seems easier than stopping seems easier to be  more observant of shabbat and guess what it   worked it worked they signed off something  that you wouldn't see without being a gone   without being a giant you would never see  such a thing as even being a plausible idea   that would affect shamai but that's what it was  the hatred that they had for each other wasn't   external where they cursed each other and  no hello hello good morning good morning   shabbat shalom shabbat shalom but as soon as the  paper came i can do me a favor where we're gonna   you know the house is a little bit too small for  us both hashem the family is growing we need to   expand the house a little bit we need to build  but we need permission from all the neighbors   to expand the house so can you do me a favor  be a good neighbor and just sign off over here   we're not asking for any money we're not asking  you for anything other than the signature allow   me to expand the house say give it to the city oh  expanding the house huh yeah it's gonna be noisy   and also my view no no but i'm on the other side  of the building oh no no zarquez is still noisy no   you can't even hear us yeah but you know it's  uh what happens evil eye jealous of somebody   else expanding and you're not expanding that  type of hatred created a plague in the world   that type of hatred brought a  plague to the world so a person   that is focused on other people's stuff is a very  very sick person literally if you think about it   even more extensively than what i'm saying you'll  realize that i'm not exaggerating when i'm calling   it stage four cancer it's literally a disease  that can make a person not only bring evil to   the world around them but to himself to  herself she refuses to get married why   because she believes one of her friends she do  and who she ended up marrying is the best one and   no one else is good enough oh yeah she found  somebody he was rich he was good looking he was in   a good family this guy he's just a good family but  he's not rich and uh he's you know he's not uh the   the king of beauty okay but he's a good guy he has  good ideology why do you need all this other stuff   no no i want somebody like him that's an evil  eye that's an evil eye that's not only causing   bad to this other person shalom but also to  the person themselves so rabbi yes says have a   be happy for other people be happy for other  people's success be happy for other people's good   don't be one of these people that literally  can't move forward unless you are the only   one that's the center of attention that you're  the only one that has everything when you see   somebody has more than you you should be happy  when you see somebody succeed you should be   happy and i've said this once twice and maybe a  thousand times the lowest form of conversation   is when people talk about other people's money  it's literally the lowest form of conversation   it shows that the people have not even a brain  in their head it literally shows they have maybe   cockroaches in their brain cockroaches with  wallets it's it's the most bizarre conversation   that's extremely common today they talk about  the contracts of athletes talk about the uh the   business deals that so and so made and he signed  this all you heard they're buying this company for   40 billion dollars what's it to you what's it to  you that they're buying for 40 billion what are   you kidding did you make money out of it no are  you gonna make money out of it no what do you care   why do you care you've just spent the last 10  seconds discussing this that's 10 seconds you're   never going to get back again why do you care that  they're doing it what does it do for you if you're   an investment banker and you're trying to learn  if you're a investment banker or some type of   lawyer or something a broker or somebody that's  in the field that has to do with your profession   that's one thing but to simply just small talk  about other people's money other people's deals   it's literally the lowest form of conversation  it shows you of cockroaches in your head   if that much because it doesn't yield any wisdom  whatsoever any good whatsoever and all it does   show is that you're a jealous person if you  weren't spending your time being jealous evil eye   you'd actually have more time to make money  you'd have more time to be a better person you   have more time to learn you have more time  to do a lot of good things and this is why says that's why it's such a big deal he could have  picked anything in the world he picked eintuba   next rabbi yoshua says good friend somebody  has a good friend that's a path to success   in life that's a path to a purposeful life  but we're not talking about a good friend   that goes out nightclubbing with you or uh goes  out to vacations with you what's a good friend in   the opinion of it a good friend is somebody  that will offer you constructive criticism   someone that will rebuke you someone that  will tell you the truth now of course   people that have been watching my shoeim  some of them have developed a knack   for liking to rebuke everybody but that does  not make them a good friend to the world   because it all depends on how you're  rebuking and what your intentions are   if you're doing that rebuke because you care and  you love the person and you want to help them yes   that makes you a good friend but if you're doing  it because you want to show that you're right   and they're wrong and you're smart and they're  stupid you're holy in your mind and they're not   you're not only not a good friend you're a  destructive friend even more so sometimes you have   people that like to rebuke they want  to rebuke they know what they're saying   but they tell their friend they tell their  fellow they tell their brother sister mother   father whoever it is something and  all of a sudden a fight breaks out   a fight breaks out and that fight is a  very important fight why would the fight   be important fight because that fight is going to  tell you how strong that relationship really is   if that relationship is really strong  they'll overcome their differences   and everything is going to end up being  okay but if that fight breaks the barriers   crosses all the lines then that shows how weak  that relationship really is that everything   that they thought they had until now was really  fake one of the things that i've uh learned more   and more how important it is over the years is  the relationship between a student and a rabbi   many times people tell you oh my rabbi is such and  such my rabbi is such and such he's a goon he's   a giant he's a sadique he's this he's that great  you may think all of those things about your rabbi   the truth is you're only going to know how good  your relationship is with your rabbi based on   how you handle rebuke from that rabbi because  if that rabbi is it sadiq and great and   smart and amazing and all those wonderful  things but he never offered you a rebuke   most likely he's not even your rabbi  most likely he's not even your rabbi   because every rabbi if he's your rabbi  will offer you some form of rebuke   we'll rebuke you we'll tell you that you're doing  something wrong everybody has their ways of how to   do it but nonetheless he will rebuke you in some  way now he may be a good rabbi but you may be a   terrible student why because the second he rebuked  you the second that he told you you're wrong you   simply couldn't handle it no no but rabbi but  this but that but this but that but i don't   think you're right but i don't think you're  understanding but maybe this but maybe that   oh so you don't like to get the rebuke and  you don't want to listen to the rebuke and   you're arguing about the rebuke oh okay so  he's not your rabbi he's not your rabbi do   you know when you when you know that someone's  your rabbi i'll give you guys a little secret no one has ever told me what to do in  life more or less i pretty much followed   the decent path in my life i didn't really  need many people to tell me what to do but   anytime somebody would tell me what to do  and they simply decided to push themselves   in a position of power unless that power was  warranted it didn't really work out so well   now when i was playing football in high school  you have a coach coach tells you run you run   coach tells you uh uh do push-ups you do  push-ups why he's in the position of power   but he's in the presence of power because you  put him there you want to be part of the team   you have to listen to this coach it's part  of the requirements you work for a certain   company the business this the manager tells you  clean up do a stock do this do that you want to   be a part of that company you put that person in a  position of power that he will tell you what to do   but there are times there are people that simply  they're not in that position of power you didn't   put them there they're simply related to you  they're friends of yours they're neighbors of   yours they're whoever colleagues whoever it is  and they push themselves into the position of   power they decided they want to tell you what  to do and that didn't work out so well why   because if they're not if i didn't put them in  a position of power that means that they're not   in the position of hell so if somebody offered me  their uh uh advice you know many times more times   than not their advice went from one ear out the  other and um i was just simply upset about the   fact that i wasted the uh the few minutes that  i had to listen to whatever they were saying   and generally speaking more times than not  people's advice wasn't as good as the one   that i already had for myself people had you know  typically when they give advice they give advice   based on themselves based on their abilities  based on their desires based on what they would do   if they were you but they're not you so more times  than not i didn't care for people's advice and i   didn't care for people's authority and even times  that there were people that were in a position of   authority if that authority wasn't uh one that i  was welcoming and accepting then i would have to   make a decision of either you accept what they're  saying or leave i wouldn't generally generally   speak i wouldn't argue with them i would simply  leave now authority altogether was not something   that i looked for i didn't want to be an authority  and i didn't want anyone else to be an authority   but that changed when i started my own company all  of a sudden i made myself into the authority and   all of a sudden i was the one that everyone had to  listen to and all of a sudden i realized that it's   very very important for people to follow  this guideline this advice this rule   because it has to do with the entire ship it has  to do with the entire company and anytime somebody   broke off it would hurt everyone so  it became very very important to be   not only the authority but one that thought about  all of the different things that other people   don't think of and many times when i would  have different people that would work for me   argue with me simply wouldn't turn out so well  why because simply i would tell you either i'm   right and you're wrong or i'm the boss and that's  just the end of it now that went on for many years   and for many years i was either the one that they  would kiss up to because i was the big customer   or i was the boss and generally speaking i  didn't have to deal with much authority for   a big part of my life because i was the guy but  that all changed again when when i met robert ryan   when i met robert prime i knew i met someone  that is smarter than me more holy than me and   somebody that knows a whole lot more things that  i don't even know the beginning or the end of   but still i didn't know what a rabbi is i didn't  know what having a rabbi is i simply knew that   this is somebody that i could learn a lot from  as i learned i realized that whatever he's saying   he has something to back it up whatever he's  saying he's thought about it 50 million times   before he said it he's not saying things to sound  good he's not saying things just out of his cuff   and just you know just to uh to make it uh to  make it uh appealing to me he has sources that   are backing what he's saying and little by little  i realized that what a rabbi is is in essence   what you're making him into and i realized that  it's for my interest to listen to what he says   now in the beginning it was relatively easy  because what he was saying was brand new to   me and it didn't necessarily require me to do  that much other than learn as things changed   and developed he started telling me things  that i had to do in order to change my life   i didn't always like it but i realized that i  have to do it if he's the rabbi i have to listen   as we developed even further  the advice got more difficult   the advice got more personal the advice got  more sensitive and it became very difficult   but the same decision had to be made if he's  the rabbi you just sit there like a good little   boy with all of your experience and all of your  knowledge and all of your this and all of your   that and you throw that all in the garbage and  you say yes and you simply do it and yeah there   were times that i would try to argue my point  and yeah there were times i would try to explain but it didn't make a difference you have to  decide if you're going to make him your rabbi   you simply have to agree not argue  not debate not try to prove your point   yes rabbi this is one of the things  that i believe has been one of the   greatest if not the greatest key to our  success in getting closer to academics   because we have somebody that can tell us not only  the truth but the truth as it pertains to us the   sensitive parts the difficult parts the parts that  are unfortunately not always the most convenient   and we know that what he's saying  is right even if it's going to take   me hours weeks and sometimes months  to see that what he's saying is right   we listen before we know it's right before we  agree before we even think that it's there's   anything there's anything having to do with this  thing with our life that it's that it's remotely   correct we simply say okay and that's been  one of the greatest things that we've added   to our life because now we know whatever  we're doing i have something to rely on   i have something to rely on and this reboot  is one of the things that i know that most   people simply are not able to do not because  they're incapable but rather because they're not   willing because their ego does not allow  them to say yes rabbi rather their ego   says maybe the rabbi didn't understand what i  meant maybe the rabbi didn't think about this   maybe the rabbi just doesn't understand  what really happened i have to say it again   and they simply refuse to listen and there lies  the truth you can say he's your rabbi and he's a   gone and he's a good doll and he's a genius and  he's a this and all of that is worth absolutely   zero nothing unless you're willing to say yes  rabbi to everything and you're going to say wait   so what what is he idolizing him absolutely not  you only idolize the kadus who's the only thing   but since you don't know what akados bahu's  will is and he does you say yes rabbi oh maybe   he doesn't if you think he doesn't as the khazoni  says then he's not your rabbi and you are a kuffel you're doubting people that  have toiled and toiled in torah   a million and a half times more than  you're even capable of withstanding   if you think that he doesn't know and you know  then how could he be a rabbi didn't you just   say a minute ago that he's a genius didn't you  say a minute ago that he's a godot didn't you   say that he's a minute ago that his rabbi is a  big rabbi and blah blah blah and he wrote this   and he did this so how could he not understand  how can you know more than him oh because i'm   in the business and he's not in the business so  what what do you think everything is not enough delve into it and delve into it because  everything is in it the minute you know   that you will listen blindly to everything your  rabbi says and you do listen to everything he   says blindly that's when you perhaps have a rabbi  until then he's an aspiring rabbi perhaps he's   maybe will have the job one day and this is one of  the things about that i see many times throughout   the years where people can say a lot of wonderful  things and they think that you're the greatest   and they contribute and they help and they  do everything and anything until one day you   say something either directly to them or about  them or about somebody that's similar to them   or even not about them that they don't even  know it's not about them but they simply decide   i don't agree with this rabbi yeah but he wasn't  he your rabbi for the last five ten twenty years   yeah but i didn't think that he was gonna be  for the vaccine i didn't know he was gonna   be against the vaccine i didn't know that  he's going to be for this or against this   also all of that goes in the garbage because of  that one thing no all of that was in the garbage   and that one thing just simply brought  it out that one thing just brought it out   brought out the truth he was never your rabbi you  just told people he was you know like people like   they tell people they take pictures in front of  some fancy car or some fancy house making it seem   as if it's their car but then five minutes later  when the guy with the camera leaves they also   leave because not their house it's not their car  same thing you had a picture with the rabbi you   pretend like he's your rabbi but in reality he  had nothing to do with you he was just somebody   that you listened to and you enjoyed  listening to but in reality now you're alive   when a person understands what i just said perhaps  they could be on their path to getting a rabbi   perhaps they're already on it but if  a person thinks that their opinion   is in any way shape or form going to be something  that will uh uh that could supersede whatever   their rabbi tells them to do that means that they  haven't made they haven't acquired a rabbi yet   so here we see that a person that wants to  acquire a good friend needless to say a rabbi   has to already look for different things not  the things that people look at in the streets   they look for who's gonna be my friend the one  that wants to go out to the same places i go to   vacation to the same place i go to or i want to  go to someone that's this like no no you want a   good friend find somebody that is going to tell  you the truth and you will accept it from them   until you have somebody that will tell  you the truth and you'll accept it   you don't have any friends you have acquaintances  colleagues strangers that you know their names   that's all you have a friend is somebody that  will tell you the truth and you listen to a rabbi   is someone that will tell you the truth and you  will listen to no questions asked this about i can   count in my hand and even less how many people  i know that actually do that why simply put   most people are best friends with their ego are  students of their ego rather than their rabbi   rather than their chavuta rather than their  colleagues rather than anybody else everything   has a line oh yeah no i listened to him until he  said this oh yeah i'd go to him until he went this   and that's there's a line once there's a line that  that shows you the strength of that relationship   that's that line is where that's that signifies  where the strength of that relationship is   same thing with marriage same thing with  parenthood same thing with everything else you   could have somebody says yeah i'm a very patient  person yeah sure everybody's patient no no i'm   a really patient person sure everybody's patient  that's what other pharmacists everybody's patient   what do you mean everybody's patient but i'm  really patient how could everybody be patient   everybody's patient you're patient everybody's  patient now does anything ever break your patients   do you ever get annoyed well yeah you know listen  i'm annoyed if uh i go to uh the motor vehicles i   go to uh some office and they make me wait online  even though i made an appointment they make me   wait online past 15 minutes past half hour passed  an hour then yeah i'd probably lose my patience   oh okay so you're patient like everybody else  everybody's patient but everybody has their lines everybody has their lines so your patience is 15  minutes his patience is a half hour his patience   is when people uh uh don't cut him off on the  highway his patience is when they don't tell him   what to do her patience is when somebody tells  her uh only compliments uh if there's anything   other than compliment she's not patient anymore  and so on and so forth so everybody's patient but   in reality if you define patience for what it's  supposed to be very few will you find now a person   that is real with themselves will take the  things that we're saying and say wait a   minute where do i stand with every one of  these things so far do i have a good eye   do i have a good friend am i a  good friend and there lies the next rabbit says a good neighbor a good neighbor  someone that you could see and learn something   from someone that can contribute to  the community rabbenu says it's easier   to be the good neighbor than to have  a good neighbor the teachings of is not for you to look for good neighbors but  rather to tell you that you should try to be   that good neighbor the one that contributes  the one that helps the one that cares anyone who sees his friend make a sin and  doesn't rebuke him it's as if he murdered him   when you see your neighbor ensure you see your  neighbor in the community you see your neighbor   literally your neighbor going against the torah  and you don't do much about it it's like you're   murdering him because perhaps a qadosaba who sent  him next to you or you next to him just for you to   be that good neighbor not just so you can invite  him to have chulant with you on saturday morning   now so can you could have play dates your kids  and his kids so you guys can get to talk while   they break the house no to be a good neighbor  to care enough about each other's well-being   but not just the things that people think about  not to go visit each other's houses you can count   who has more chandeliers and who has nicer window  treatment but rather someone that cares next rabishimon says someone that sees that considers the  outcome of his deeds sees the consequences was one that i told you before he  was one that was known for his iraq and because of his neck and and and  cleaving to the teachings of you   he says you want to have a good path before you do  anything think about what will happen as a result   think about what will happen as a result you want  to go to the store why because you need to buy   some milk simple decision grab the  keys get in the car go to the store   a half hour later you're home doesn't seem  like a decision that requires so much thought perhaps it does is there a better way to get that  milk is there something else you can do with that   half hour is there someone else that can do it  is there a danger in getting milk all of those   things are things a person needs to consider  before they get even a simple carton of milk   if you know that that half hour that you'll spend  going to get milk will be from your torah time   instead of learning torah for an hour or two hours  you'll now learn four and a half hour or less   perhaps somebody else can get it  someone that's not learning torah   and it's worth it to pay him extra just  like the gomi vilna said to his wife   it's worth it to pay somebody extra just to go  and get you the groceries rather than you going   he already knew about delivering groceries already  200 years ago and the value of that convenience   not because you're lazy but rather because  your time is worth a lot more than just money   that time is torah time and even more  so is there a danger and going to get   that milk let's say for example no one can  go and get it for you you have to go get it   you either don't have somebody or you  can't afford somebody on the simply   the service is not available you still have  to consider should i go get milk now or later   why now or later very simple if it's now and you  know now is in the middle afternoon or it's say   whatever some prime time hour that everyone is at  that store that you know there's gonna be a lot   more immodesty there simple you say okay i'm gonna  go when there is less people either early in the   morning or late at night or whatever it is why to  avoid to avoid things that i don't need in my life   avoid the apparent danger if you  don't think about those things then perhaps you should listen to rabishimon  benettanel and acquire this this attribute   of seeing what will be born you just met somebody  new you have things in common you want to befriend   this person before you decide to what will  transpire from this is the first thought you   have to have okay being friends with them that  means that if i'm gonna be friends with them   i'm gonna have to contribute time out of my life  to this friendship because you can't be friends   with somebody unless you spend time with them you  talk to them on the phone you meet with them you   eat with them you this with them you dealt with  them do i have that time well everybody has 24   hours but the 24 hours that i have right now what  are they spent on if the time that you're spending now is already booked on other  really really important things   you have to decide whether  this person can fit or not   whether the time spent with them is superior  to the time you're spending on other things   what will you get out of this relationship will  be you become more righteous will become wiser   always just simply to have fun what did you come  to the world for to have fun or did you have   did you come to the world to serve a catholic  and become a better person become a better   husband a better wife a better this a better  that what did you become why do you have this   relationship many times people don't think about  these things why simply they go with the flow they go with the flow and they end up falling  time and time again and then they wonder why so the b shimon is telling you have to see what  would be born many times we've spoken about   the lack of consideration that people have on  the consequences of their actions when they go   against hashem when they violate shabbat when  they're promiscuous with either themselves or   with other people when they're simply immoral  when they're going against the uh society   when they're stealing when they're uh simply  bad people to themselves or to others or to both   in accordance with the torah and i simply don't  see the consequence and many times we've discussed   the consequences where a person that steals has  to know that even if they observe the entire torah   unless they return what they stole they will have  to be reincarnated and come back to this life   in order to return what they stole now as i've  told you in the story by the baal shem tov and   there are countless others that are similar to  it a person that stole doesn't necessarily always   come back as another person sometimes he'll have  to come back as an animal to serve that person   sometimes he'll have to come back as something  else to serve that person that he stole from   it's not just oh i stole 50 from so and so and  i'll just come back another life and i'll give him   50 bucks and go back to heaven no no it doesn't  work that way sometimes the person will come   back as a horse that only earns a half a penny  a day and has to work the uh the next 100 years   in order to return to 50 a person that steals is   simply not taking into account anything that  hashem said better yet a person that's immoral   with themselves or with others promiscuous  certainly is not thinking about the consequences   where hamid said that a person that wastes  seed even if it's with himself is as if he   committed murder and this is what the rambam pas  kinsaka wasting seed is the equivalent of murder   everybody understands that a murderer  does not go to heaven but better yet 500 years ago one of the greatest  in the last half a millennium   says that there are seven chambers to genome  the first six are horrible one worse than   the other each one has different fires of  different colors and different magnitude   but each one has a sentence that ends at some  point it could be a year could be 100 years could   be more could be less but there's the seventh  level and whoever goes in there does not come out   meaning eternal punishment just like the  ramban nahmanadi says just like the rambam says and just like says other places  it's just just like it is   among all of israel knowing that there  is a section in genome that is eternal   needless to say all of the others are terrible  and could be very very long and genome is not   the only form of punishment there's also kafka  that could last for a thousand or more years   the arrizal says that there is a sentences in  kafka that can last a hundred years and a thousand   years and there's even kibbutz that could last  for hundreds of years meaning the suffering in the   grave before they ever go to kafka or again itself  could be literally hundreds and hundreds of years and a person that wastes seed a  person that desecrates hashem's name   a person that violates shabbat on purpose these  types of people are simply putting themselves   themselves into the seventh level of genome  meaning that their punishment will never end   now when you say this to people that are not  in the world of truth they said nah it's not   possible it's too much it's too this it's to that  genome is only one year the first question you   have to ask them if genome is only one year  then how did this week's parashat parashat   say that korach and his followers  are in genome until this year   until now right this second they're in  genome says that one of the was traveling   and saw an arab a doozy said to him you want  to see something you want to see korach sure   he brings him to a place in the desert he says  go listen to this there's a hole in the ground   comes closer he hears something says put put  something in there they put some cotton on a uh   on a on a string he dips it into the hole  pulls it back it comes up with lava on it   so they realize this is not a there's a serious  place over here he says wait wait momentarily   gets closer to it and he hears moshe's emit his  torah is emit and we are liars ham says that's he's the truth and the torah is the  truth and we are lies that's what says   this happened every day the arab says no  only once a month because oh yeah yeah that every month i'll say it and you'll hear it  he says all the times is old all day every day   for already over 3 33 years but only when his  boiling like a like a shish kebab gets to a point   that's closer that turns closer to the hole can  you hear it because when he's on the bottom you   can't hear it but when he gets when the when the  turn goes in a certain fashion where it's closer   to the hole you can hear his voice but every day  he says it so what is korach the only one and all   of his buddies the only ones again known for more  than a year and even more so last week's pelosa who says they made a sin everybody agrees they made a  mistake a big mistake they died a strange death   after seeing lashon on a piece of land hashem  took their tongue and their tongue connected to   their umbilical cord and everybody saw them die  the most unusual disastrous death in the world   and then the rest of israel says like the number of days that you spied out  the land 40 days a day for a year a day   for a year you will bear your sins 40 years  and you will recognize the removal from me   says oculus what does it mean a date for  a year a day for a year you will know you   uh you'll recognize the removal for  me what does that all mean you send   one second it took you to sin  he said about the land you said   right one second it took you there wasn't  like a a series of ted talks that took   eight hours no simple one second you said  what you said but you went there for 40 days   they're back 40 days for every one of those days  that was in essence the action itself took 40 days   to uh to to get to where it was for each one  of those days you'll be punished for a year   a year or more you'll be in a desert why because  from this evil you will recognize how i judge meaning that akhadoshva whose  timing is not like our timing   if saying one time in their life  the whole nation that believed it   all nation i believed it got punished for  40 years what about a lifetime of lush what about a lifetime of promiscuity what about  a lifetime of shabbat what about a lifetime   of gava of pride what about a lifetime of anger  what about a lifetime of hashem you also think   that's going to be a year how can what they're  the only ones that got the big punishment you are   the big sadique that's going to get everything says rabishimo before you do anything think  about what we want out of it think about   what the consequences are think about  what the consequences are going to be   before you do it don't get yourself into that  mess it's not worth it the price you're paying   for going to that place the price you're  paying for stealing that thing the price   you're paying for touching that thing for price  you pay for eating that thing the price you pay   for thinking that thing the price you pay for  going against the kadosh baku is simply to dear   it's not worth it and the only way  you're going to not violate hashem's name   and his torah is by thinking about  the consequences before you do them but then rabbi lazal good art that's better than all of them why is it  better than all of them not that they're all wrong   but rather it includes all of what they said  that's why this is the one i chose not because   you guys are are wrong not because anything  that was said by rabia diesel or rabbi shimon was wrong not because the brc was wrong no  everybody was right but what rabbi lazar bernard   says that left of a good heart it includes  all of them meaning that without a good heart   there is no way that you will ever have a good eye without having a good heart  you will never have a good eye   because you're not going to be happy to see  somebody else succeed you saw him get a new   house you're not happy for him why because you  have an evil heart and the evil heart is what   leads to is because the evil eye leads to  the bad heart the bad heart is the total so if you have a good heart that  means that you have to have a good eye you have to have a good there's no way to have  a good heart without having a good eye now you   can have a good eye and still have an evil heart  why because you may have a good eye but it has its   limitations when is that limitation when it comes  to your friends you don't want to be a good friend   you want to be a best friend you know what's the  difference between a good friend and a best friend   a good friend as we said is someone that will  rebuke you and tell you the truth in order to help   you because they love you a best friend is gonna  go with you on vacation to the places that you're   forbidden to go to he's gonna tell you it's okay  he'll never find out he's gonna tell you listen   don't worry about it she's back home  that's a best friend best friend in crimes best friend are you my bff yeah we're being  gay not together you don't need best friends   good friend good friend why not good  friends because if you're fortunate   enough to find one you'll realize  how how unlikely you are to find many the reality is a person can have a good eye but he  doesn't want to be a good friend he doesn't want   to tell his friends to stop doing the bad stuff  because he doesn't want to ruin the relationship   or he simply doesn't want to be  that good neighbor he has a good eye   when his friends are developing he has a good  eye when his friends are building he has a good   eye when his friends are getting married but if  it's his neighbor and his neighbor is building his   neighbor is buying his neighbor is growing he has  nothing with his neighbor he doesn't even like his   neighbor in fact his neighbor is a different  community that's when the line is drawn and   he doesn't uh he doesn't want to be a good  neighbor he's a good friend to his friends   he has a good eye to his community but it's  somebody from a different community no no no no so obviously he still has an evil eye even heart or he can simply be a good eye good friend   good neighbor so long as  whatever is going on is obvious but anytime that it's not so obvious somebody  tells them listen you want to make a quick 25 30   on your money oh sure where do i sign up he  doesn't ask the questions if is it legal is   it ethical is it a logically permissible he's just  thinking about he wants more money he has x amount   he wants 25 more that's a person that doesn't  ask the questions because he doesn't care enough   about the consequences so he can still have  a rotten heart even if he is the other things left of you have a good heart  that means you have everything   that means you have literally everything  when a person has a good heart that means   that their heart their good heart is going to  simply lead them in the right path at all times   that they're only going to look at things that are  permissible but even more so when they see that   others are succeeding they're going to be as happy  about their success as they are about their own one of the great stories i heard about  gabriel ali levine from aberfriend   it's the one time he had chest pains  he decided to go outside for a walk   and his talmid saw him  really happy all of a sudden what happened because oh no i had some chest  pains and i came out here and i feel much   better tell me says something happy goes  yeah yeah i just noticed that my neighbor   is uh building a second floor for himself  they make me so happy chest pains a gun meaning that he was so happy  that somebody else is succeeding   somebody else is growing somebody else has good  that it literally had a physical impact on him when was the last time you were positively  impacted physically as a result of somebody   else's success and if you haven't perhaps  it's time to change the ways that we have   in order to maybe get to at least somewhere  close to what these great sages got to now rubio chanan says that all of these others are under the umbrella of  a good heart it comes the kazonish and says   everyone agrees that a good heart is a good trait  which includes all the good traits that unite   and become one complete whole but the discussion  is about the active means by which one can acquire   a good heart and telling a person to go out and  acquire a good heart doesn't teach him anything   about the means to achieve the desired  goal he's saying yes the goal is to have   a good heart but to go and tell somebody go  get a good heart doesn't teach him anything why   because you can't just be born with a good  heart you have to acquire it and that's what   makes the other sages correct in their ways  where they weren't telling you the end goal   they were telling you the path the bill  ben azaria was telling you the goal   the goal is to have a good heart but he hasn't  been okinos the blc uh all of the other sages   were telling you ahead yes we all agree good heart  but we weren't talking about that we're talking   about how to get there how to get you want to have  a good heart develop a good eye you want to have a   good heart be a good friend you want to develop a  good heart be a good neighbor you want to develop   a good heart evaluate your choices based on  consequences if a kadosh bow who judged us   for 40 years in a desert based on believing a  single sentence what will he judge us based on   a week-long of bad words based on a lifetime full  of desecrating of his name what will he judge us so a person that wants to get this  good heart will evaluate those choices   and thereby will not do a lot  of the things that they're doing so we see from here that again the basics  of the torah of reward and punishment remain the basics that connect to the entire  spiritual nervous system that isn't allah when a person wants to get  to a certain end destination   if they simply focus on the destination  they've already failed before they begun   many times people want to  have what somebody else has   and more times than not they will never achieve  it they want to complete the shots they want to   become a millionaire they want to get married  they want to have kids they want to get this car   they want to get this house but the minute they  find out what you have to do in order to do those   things in order to get those things they lose  steam quickly and they go in a different direction   because to them all they  cared for was the destination what the khazonish is teaching  us in the name of rabbani it's not the destination that's key but  rather the journey to it the path to it   you have to evaluate your choices of every single  step more so than you evaluate the destination   because if you follow a certain steps  the destination is already assured   if you followed a different set of steps then  a different destination is already assured   in page 62 a story of akiva  famous story everyone knows was a amma alex did not know anything  and in fact hated religious people   but worked for a rich man named kalba sagua  kalba sabua had a beautiful young daughter   named rachel 18 year old cute kid that was  as righteous as can possibly be and she saw   that one of the workers of her father that was  cleaning the horses was this jew named akiva   and he had good character traits he's very  gentle very giving very generous patient   she says if he has natural inclinations   it's natural midoda's so good if he learns  tawaii he become a dumb godol very special person and her 18 year old self went to akiva  and says to him i'm willing to marry you   if you promise me that you're going to go learn  torah for the rest of your life akiva that had   was 40 years old didn't even know alef was already  a uh widowed he has uh he had a son some say more   she's an 18 year old daughter of the of his boss  want to marry him sure i'll go learn to love now when she wanted to marry him and she  decided she's going to do it and he decided yes   that all sounded good to everyone except kardashev  who told her that if you go ahead and marry him   i'm disowning you you will get nothing for me you're kicked out of the house she  went forward with the plan she married   akiva and send them off to yeshiva for 24  years sure there are other details to the   story but i've told in other lectures since  the point is something else after 24 years   the b akiva is the biggest rabbi of the  generation he comes back home with 24   000 students just imagine the scene  24 000 giants twenty four thousand with aki rabbi akiva at the  head because that's the allah   you never walk in front of  your rabbi he's always ahead   so that means that everybody's walking 24  000 students either by his side or behind him and he's walking already in his late 60s and the scene of seeing his wife   for the first time is legendary  in itself where he tells everybody that my torah and all of your  torah all the 24 thousands of   all of our torah is our torah because  if it wasn't for heart to send me into   the yeshiva none of you would exist i wouldn't  exist nothing would exist all of that torah the scene was extraordinary everyone knew about it  tens of thousands of people welcoming the dullado   this poor woman already knows that  our husband is the dollar doll and now she sees him everything comes to life kalba sabu our father who hasn't seen  her in 24 years only heard some stories   about her from time to time about how  she's struggling with poverty where the kumara says that she got to such level of poverty  that she had to cut off her hair and sell it   in order to have food to eat they literally didn't have beds that would  sleep on straw even before gabi akiba came back   they were poor by the time  he came home even poorer to make them happy one time who sent elia as a beggar knocking on their door  begging them for straw because they just had a   baby to make them feel better about the fact that  their straw may not seem like a lot but it's still   more than other people teaching the teachings of  who is rich someone that's happy with his share   but now kalba sabua kalbas heard about this  great rabbi and he doesn't know that it's   his own son-in-law and he asks  for a meeting with his great rabbi and he meets him and he says to him  i wonder if you can help me years ago   i made a vow that my daughter will be disowned  as a result of the choice she made and who she   married this this this ignoramus but so many  years have passed and i want to help her i   feel bad i hear that she's really poor is  there any way that you can nullify my vow who knows who his father-in-law is and knows  that his father-in-law doesn't know who he is   says to him why did you uh disown her because she  married a ignoramus didn't know torah what if that   person learned some ishnayot and started learning  and perhaps even became a big rabbi like me   would you have disowned her because no shalom  rabbi i forgot even if you would have just known   how to pray i wouldn't have disowned it the guy  didn't know how to pray he didn't know i left bed   he would make mistakes even saying his name he  didn't know anything that's why i disowned her   abi akiva says i am your son-in-law and your  vow is nullified so come to ballet foot and   say wait a minute we have a cloud we have a  rule and a torah a vow cannot be nullified if   the reason it's being nullified is for something  new meaning at the time that he made the vow   he made the vow because she's marrying somebody  that said ignoramus doesn't know anything in the   torah and you're saying you're cancelling that  vow because you became and he wouldn't have uh   nullified it had you become a hagam but you  can't do that if because that's something new   how could rabbi akiba nullify this vowel and  then the barletos would answer the question   he said no no this is what happened you see  rabia kiva was already assured to have success   when he agreed to marry rahel he agreed  to marry her under the term that she will   be home and he's going to go learn torah for  the rest of his life he's going to learn torah   and our torah promises us that anyone that commits  to learning torah and takes action is assured   to become an adam gadol is a sure to become a  big important person which means that the change was not new the change was even before the  marriage was a condition of the marriage   which means that at the time that kalba savor  made the vow the change was already made   akiva made the made the vow himself to go and  learn torah and eventually in essence become rabia   kiva that's why he was able to nullify the vow  we see it from here but that if a person commits   to living their path living their life in such  a path where they want to have this left over   this good heart and they agree to whatever it  entails that means they have to have already a   determination i want to have this good heart and  i'm going to do whatever i can to have this good   heart that means that when the test of good eye  comes i'm gonna pass it i see someone succeeding   knows a lot more than me i'm gonna be  happy about it someone has more than me   happy about it when there's a neighbor i'm  going to be a good neighbor i'm going to help   that neighbor and contribute to the community  help them learn torah help them do meech votes   donate donate my time donate my money donate  whatever i could to contribute when it's   comes to friends i'm not looking for friends  that are going to go on vacation with me   i'm looking for somebody that's going to  tell me the truth when i need to hear it   and someone that i can tell the truth to  also because it has to be a two-way street   i'm gonna decide who the rabbi is gonna be not  based on who's most famous and who's least famous   but rather who's most honest  that i'm willing to accept it   so when that test of a good i a good neighbor  a good friend comes i'm already deciding ahead   of time i'm ready i'm willing to accept  that test i'm willing to pass that test   and the one thing that's going to help me with  all of those is that i'm also going to evaluate   every circumstance and what is the outcome of that  i'm gonna do if i pass this test of good i what's   the outcome if i fail this test of good i what's  the outcome if i pass this test of good neighbor   what's the outcome if i fail this test of good  neighbor what's the outcome if i pass this test   of good friend what's the outcome if i fail this  test of good friend what's the outcome if i simply   don't consider anything what's the outcome and if  i do consider everything what's the outcome surely   a person that is determined to follow that good  path will be assured to have a good destination   but if he only focuses on the destination and  not the path he's assured failure like many   others out there that are constantly focused  on what they want rather than how to get it because tells us here that  it's easy to say to somebody   to have a good heart but that will not  be teaching him everything or anything   for that matter rather a person needs to have  the means of how to achieve their desired goal when you see that there are big teachers  out there that are good teachers good rabbis one of the things that you need to know is   who is their rabbi because if that's the  student it speaks volumes of the rabbi speaks volumes one of the things i saw  recently is that there is a very well-known   rabbi by name of rav david trenk  allah a book came out recently   published by art scroll i haven't read it yet  and i quite frankly never heard of the rabbi   i've seen some of the books i think we have  the the children's book but i don't know much   about his life and it was a film released by  rabbi yoel gold and speaks volumes about this   enormous sadiq tank but the one thing that  stood out to me more than anything else i mean he was a very impressive person did a  lot of good things for the community uplifted   his students uplifted his community was  great teacher dedicated to the torah   made sure that his students learned learned  torah dedicated no matter where they came from endured a lot of suffering with a smile but the thing that stood out the most to  me is that the person that made that video   was one of the students rabbi  yola gold is one of the students and is not embarrassed to say that that  yeshiva that uh rabbi tranq had was a   yeshiva in essence for troubled kids kids  that couldn't get accepted anywhere else and yet those kids attended that yeshiva  and heard from the rabbi that they are great   that they are wonderful that they are  smart even if they didn't believe they were   he already saw what would come out of all of  those boys if they simply followed the good path   but not just good words and empty promises rather  he studied with each and every single one of them   torah so much so that even years later  decades later he would remember exactly   which he learned with them to the point where  each one of those students remembered that   by heart and the part of the story that stood  out to me was that when rabbi yolgod said his perhaps the most difficult track date nightmare   rabbi yo gold that was at that point initially  considered perhaps one of those troubled kids became a rabbi that knows that by heart   and also a very well-known rabbi that makes a  lot of wonderful videos that give people his if that's the student imagine the rabbi  to the time years ago over 20 years ago   that a rabbi stepped into a yeshiva as  a guest teacher to uplift the students and he asked each one of the kids what's your name and when he got to one of the boys that was  new it was just his first or second day there   what's your name the boy said  efrain says okay rabbi you're frying and the boy smiled i said no  no i'm just a friend not rabbi   he says just like the torah judges the ben soren  based on the outcome of his actions he's already   judged as a wicked son wayward son based on  what he's doing now terrorizing his parents he's a wayward son that's what the torah calls him   if you're here learning torah you're rabbi  from and as a little boy he thought that's nice   nice compliment nice way to uplift the kids  but over 20 years later he's rabbi franklin   who has written well over 40 books hashem  just got the uh smikha for dayanut mazaltov   and boko hashem is the head of the organization  that reaches every corner of the world you never know where that good word will  lead you to but you do know that that good i   that good neighbor that good  friend ultimately that good heart is where you want to be because that  path will surely be a purposeful life   each and every single one of us can narrow  into focus on different bad character traits   break down those bad character traits narrow  even closer on one of those bad character traits and this week take a step further see where that  bad character traits that you're not working on   they're now fixing see which one of these  paths which one of these doors does it open   does removing that bad character trait help  you have a bat i hope you have a better eye   help you become a better neighbor help you become  a better friend help you evaluate the consequences does it help you become a better person with a  good heart and interestingly enough you'll see   that it always does bizarre this too will  be not only a teaching that will encourage   us to continue learning more and more tala  but will be encouraging enough to entice us   to take action whatever action we took we do  even further and if we didn't take action yet   this should be the final push to make us take the  first step towards the path for a purposeful life   thank you for learning with me who bless  each and every single one of you they call me you're able to get to the best places that you  allow yourself to because we'll help you get there amen vermin salomon everybody very happy to announce  a major event coming up in elite flight   this event is going to be unlike any  other we've done as an organization   last year we had a group of young guys that  completed the entire lovely and the mishnayot   in a single year this year we're going  to have the entire foundation of the oral in a single night we'll have  the completion of the shasba vli years and years of toil lots of effort it's  coming to fruition and uh in a single night   all of it will be completed to sanctify kados  boku's name this is going to be a night where   many many teddy will be joining us at this event  there'll be hundreds and hundreds of people   at the event israel uh including the show nation  of course our own very dear i will find i myself   will also be joining coming to israel for the  first time in many years to join this monumental   event this monumental kid hashem in order to  sanctify qaddash bohu's name to show him how   much we love his torah how dedicated we are to his  torah and to be able to believe hashem give his we're looking forward for uh this event we're  also looking forward to seeing some of you that   are going to be joining us there are going to be  some sponsorship opportunities for anyone that   wants to uh be able to be a part of it and of  course there'll be a uh opportunity for any of   you that want to join us uh one way or the other  uh last but not least there will also be a raffle   that we'll be uh announcing very soon for anyone  that wants to join the raffle and also be able   to do cube at the same time the winner of the  raffle will win a flight ticket to eretz israel   and be able to join us at the event so uh please   look out for more news looking forward to  seeing you at this event and embezzled vanessa so so you