The Marriage Seminar: Infatuation Has A Shelf Life - Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier

[Music] I don't know the exact number but a very high statistic of about 6 months after the wedding either he or she sometimes both wake up one morning and say the words oh my goodness oh my gosh oh no I made the biggest mistake in my life I married the wrong one and it's not that they married the wrong one the infatuation wore off and then they discover that the person that they're married to is not perfect it's okay got a lot of milers he's also got some shortcoming she's wonderful but she has you know sort of things and I believe this is the first really dumb mistake that very smart couples make they mistake infatuation for love infatuation has a shelf life infatuation is the looks into the kala's eyes and he's gone it's automatic it's instant it doesn't take work but it has a very limited shelf life 6 months a year but that's it then it's gone it's kind of like the sulfur on a kitchen match you're supposed to strike it so it Flames up but then the wood has to catch the job of the couple is then to work on the bond of love the bond of respect the real connection between husband and wife and many many couples make a fatal error early on in their marriage they wake up one morning the infatuation is gone and they assume that this is it and and what they fail to realize is this is it it's time to get to work this is a short clip from the marriage seminar the marriage seminar is a five-part torab based guide to a successful marriage it is available at www.the.com or on the Schmo app