The Key To Happiness

foreign so the point is is that everybody is excited you have a lot going on on another end people get anxiety people sometimes get depressed people get a uh overwhelmed with things so what gives you know where how come there's a meat slide hand here but so many people are unhappy so many people are unhappy so I learned this from uh from my route from of uh yaakov Spivak uh where uh and he learned it from Israel and Israel learning from their abanim all the way to moshira bennu as it is with all people that have that to us he says that uh people have a uh confused understanding of what happiness really is meaning that uh when when they look at happiness when they when they think of it when they when they try to understand what it is they usually want to connect it to something physical they usually want to connect it to to materialism of some kind they want to uh you know connect it to some type of goal or aspiration of some kind and many times they you know they reach their goals but their happiness is unchanged uh you know sometimes they get joy but that's temporary sometimes they get excitement but that's temporary but happiness they never get and he says that this is actually the curse gave the snake the the snake The Serpent and settlebellashit where after a demolition sinned and uh due to the uh enticement of uh the uh the snake uh Hashem punished everyone said to a demolition from now on because obviously he didn't listen to Hashem you ate from the Tree of knowledge you will have to work very hard you'll have to work very hard to attain uh Comfort to to to make sustenance to make a living and so on and so forth and of course that's pretty much Society at hand today even the people that are uh very very well off uh you'll notice that they typically work harder than everybody else uh you know there was a video uh uh someone uh uh sent to me one time I didn't watch it but I remember the title very vividly where it says that uh the the guy from Tesla uh who became a billionaire over the last few years he's a very very smart guy and uh but he doesn't take any days off he has no vacation no this is not really such a unique thing many times many of the uh uh Amazons of the world and the uh The Berkshire Hathaways of the world and the coca-colas of the world are led by people that are very extreme uh when it comes to taking time off I could tell you myself I myself is like that I haven't taken a vacation in uh Hashem only knows how many years uh simply because you have a motivation you have a aspiration you you want to get somewhere and uh you know vacation sometimes seems like a uh it's gonna get in the way or delay you it's not necessarily true sometimes it's good to have a vacation and to take some time off uh but mentally speaking it's it's very hard for certain people to do that now when it comes to uh to a demolition a demolition was uh told that he's allowed to take a vacation but regardless of whether he takes a vacation or not he's gonna have to work really really hard and uh the billionaires of today work really really hard the millionaires of today work really really hard the blue collar workers cleaning uh the garbage driving the bus uh driving the garbage truck uh police fire department all different types of employees of the government all these different types of blue collar people teachers and so on they all work really really hard some have better schedules than others but nonetheless everybody works really hard especially if they want to succeed in life and uh not necessarily just monetarily but just in their profession to attain some level of success that is in essence part of human nature on the other hand Eve was also cursed that for her to Bear children to raise children is going to be very very hard that was the curse of khaba I've never met a woman that had an easy Labor uh carrying another human being in your body is never easy Unfortunately today many uh women that are unlearned about the the topic uh simply decide that they don't want to deal with any of this difficulty of carrying a baby changing their body having uh giving birth to a baby raising a child uh you know they don't want to give any any type of uh time to actually simply decide to murder it uh but that's only because they are misled to believe that it's not really a baby it's like uh a button it's like a little lizard or something in their stomach it doesn't really exist you know so uh next time you think that a baby that's inside the stomach doesn't exist just uh you know put a plastic bag around your face tie it really really hard and just say no no I don't exist so I you know I don't need air anymore see what I what happens when that happens it's not gonna work out so good why because you're murdering yourself no different just because you don't see the baby doesn't mean it doesn't exist but unfortunately again this is unknown by by society and there's also one of the things we cover in the movie takuna breed uh and unfortunately many women young and older uh murder their babies without realizing the consequences of it the uh whether it's the spiritual consequences of it or even the physical consequences of it many times women end up losing the ability to give birth as a result of a single time that they had a uh apala they had a abortion uh so uh it's it's uh sad but it's a reality it's uh and uh so it's very very dangerous and uh that's carrying a baby also is not so easy and that's in essence the curse was cursed with a uh having a difficult time raising children and so on on the other hand the snake was called is the worst curse in the Torah and uh this uh this snake was called who says to him that you'll be able to eat pretty much anything that the snake is going to be able to not work for his food not struggle for uh for for Success uh you you see pretty much snakes are are never the type of animal that starve to death you'll see a lion starve to death from time to time you'll see a tiger starve to death from time to time you'll see other animals starve to death from time to time but you're never really going to see a snake starve to death sometimes because the snake can simply eat anything uh in a uh and that's actually the curse why is that the curse it's like saying you're gonna get on day one of your birth you're gonna get a trillion trillion dollars and Hashem says that's the curse why is that a curse says that the reason why that's a curse is because it eliminates the ability of that person of ever becoming happy because happiness is not something that someone can give you happiness is only acquired as a result of hard work the the hard work that people run away from on a day-to-day basis is the only way they can actually attain happiness whether that hard work is the hard work in their marriage the hard work in their learning Torah their hard work at work itself whatever job you have you want to have happiness in that particular uh part of your life you have to work on it it's not something that anyone can give you even if you get a very big salary on day one you will be unhappy with that very big salary at some point or another uh because again it's a uh there's a certain uh part of a human nature that wants to attain success as it says in the Book of Job Adam lamalula that person was created to toil and uh but in the bigger scheme of things in the in in the battle for achieving the purpose of life it's even more significant where a person does not know how to attain happiness will simply never achieve it they can attain wealth and money and still be miserable and commit suicide like many millionaires do suicide uh for uh for you know for For Better or For Worse is a rich man's problem if you look at the statistics that were done by the US government and other uh organizations uh they said that over 70 percent of the people that commit suicide are middle to Upper clasps of society you would think that poor people jump off of bridges but it's actually not true it's rich people that jump off of bridges and lose hope uh so uh suicide is not a uh uh you know done because you're poor usually it's done because someone doesn't understand how to appreciate their wealth and the gifts that they have so a person that uh has money is not necessarily going to attain happiness and could literally kill themselves a person that is married is not necessarily going to attain happiness because over 80 percent of Western Society ends their marriage that was very exciting with a very in exciting and traumatic divorce 80 percent uh actually uh or actually a little over the 90 actually file for a divorce uh which is a nightmare of its own uh so you have uh people say oh yeah but once I have kids well what if your kid ends up being this kid that just killed a bunch of people you're still happy that you had this kid what if your kid ends up being like Adolf Hitler and kills even more people are you still happy that you had kids what if your kid is uh you know has some other type of problem are you still happy that you had a kid it's again uh it's it's not a uh it's not just a easy thing to say oh kids are going to allow you to have happiness everything has its cost and people that understand what they have uh can attain happiness as he led as a Ken said who is Rich meaning who has attained success who's attained happiness someone that's happy with his share whatever you have you find a way to be happy with it now this again is a uh is not because what you've attained was given to you but rather because you've worked hard for it [Music] thank you let me know what you think and make sure to share it because other people need to learn too