The Joy of Letting Go: Living as a Conduit of the Divine (Pre-Selichos Farbrengen with Rabbi YY)

[Music] Dear brothers and all those who are joining us live or virtually let's begin with blessing all of you and all of us that this year for all of you and all of your loved ones and all of us and all of our people should be a year filled with abundant blessings. A blessed and sweet year materially and spiritually and all of your heart's desires should be fulfilled. Should be a year of true health and happiness, prosperity, transformation, and ultimately a year of complete victory and of true redemption. This evening I want to especially thank three individuals who dedicated this evening the priest fabangan dedicated first by our dear friends Davidid and Shatenstein in memory of my dear cousin the unforgettable Rabbi Shalom Dar Lipsker Rabbi Shalom Dar Lipkar Bernabelo Akiva, the founder and leader of the famous Schul in Bell Harbor, Florida, and the founder of the ALF Institute and a uh extraordinary leader and spiritual uh guide for so so many who really built Yiddish in Florida and passed away last year on the 5th day of year 5785. in a loving memory of Rabbi Lipkar Shalom and may his example and love and dedication always remain with us as an eternal source of inspiration and empowerment. And thank you Davidid Danita. Also dedicated by our dear friends Esther and Nakman Goodman in honor of their dear children, grandchildren and great grandchildren with lots of love and all the abundant blessings and thank you very much. And also dedicated by our dear friends of Remy and Rakul Spitz in honor of David Ben for a complete and speedy recovery. Amen. Thank you very very much. So tonight, Jews all over the world according to the customs of the Ashkanazim who begins tonight. We soon say the famous [Music] which the translation is the night following following the day of rest serenity. We have come to you in the beginning. We have come to you and please give us your ear from heaven. Be able to listen to the praises and to the prayers. And this is always begins shabas. And here we come to a very powerful and fundamental even transformative idea about this whole period of the year. This year everybody knows is very long. that continues. This week is not the week of rash. It continues for a week plus almost a week and a half. Why is so long? Some years it's the answer is because according to the according to the tradition needs to be minimum four days and if is on a Thursday so you're good. You do shabas Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Wednesday. But if rishana like this year is on a Tuesday or is on a Monday can be on a Sunday but if is on a Monday is on a Tuesday or on a Monday it also can be on a Wednesday. So now if you start you have only two days of Sunday or Monday because Tuesday is already and you need four days. So therefore you start almost a week and a half earlier. So you have four days. Okay. Now why do you need four days of it be two days of why four days? Yeah, this is brought in in the laws before this is brought from the a lot of the four days. But why? There's different explanations. There's a famous explanation of the and they were from the great authorities and they said something very interesting. There's a by the carbon and the carbon pes that you had to check out the lambs four days in advance for blemishes. It's called Bikur Mumikum. You had a sheep in the B. There was something place called a chamber with a sheep. So four days before they offered the carbon four days before, let's say it was a Thursday that they're going to offer this sheep. So Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, they checked it for blemishes. They checked it one day and then they checked it the next day because maybe there's another blemish on the third day and the fourth day and after four days now it can go. This was also true with the carbon pes. That's why it says in you should take the lamb or the goat on the 10th day of Niss and offer it on the 14th day. What do you need it on the 10th day? The answer is you check on number 10 yimble then your dollar you can offer it. So four days and each day the moral explains if you didn't find one day maybe you'll find the next day. So since it says in all the it says by it says because you yourself are recreated as a as an offering toe. So you got to check yourself for blemishes. Four days because you are the the offering so to speak. So you need four days of checking. That's what is an introspective journey to be able to examine the blemishes for four days and then you could go to Shana. So if on a Tuesday or on a Monday, you don't got your four days. You only have two days. So therefore we need four days. So hashem this year we have not only four days you have the next whole week and then on a Sunday and a Monday. So we really really get to check for all the blemishes and clean it out etc. But now comes another question right? So start next Thursday start next Thursday. So you have Thursday Friday shabas we take a break you have Sunday Monday beautiful the answer is the beginning of slick needs to be m shabas. But why? Why? And that's why we say it's not a date. It's essential. That's why this year we have so many days of because it has to start shabas. And if you start next week, you only have two days and we need four days. So we start this shabas. So we have six days plus another two days. So it's altogether eight days. So this only transfers the question, why do you start mitas? Why can start on a nice to Thursday morning on a Wednesday morning on a Friday morning? I mean what what also in the we say the usual word that's used is [Music] why they focus on the idea of serenity. Logically, it's actually not so serene because is not so associated with most people with right away you begin. We're ashamed but knew you don't say you're not let us say it's not a time for that type of prayer. It's not a time for so first of all why do you start shabas? Second of all, you're emphasizing as though it's connected to the serenity of Shabas when it's really a very different energy. It's a very different climate, very different vibe as they say today. It's a different vibe. Nonetheless, we say So I want to share with you a uh very very powerful insight that was once shared by the labb at a shabas shabas 1968 the end of the end of the year and at the shabas that shabasa gave a very very powerful penetrating and extremely inspiring and moving explanation. He elaborated at length. I just want to take out one one point that I think could be very relevant and very helpful for all of us. He asked the question who checks for the blemishes in the animal. You don't have the animal check its own blemishes. By definition, for somebody to check blemishes, you need somebody a little bit outside objective, right? somebody outside can look, can diagnose because you have to have a little bit of a distance to be able to examine and say this is a this is a we have an right all the blemishes all the all the leprosies a person could look at besides his own even if it's the best cayenne in the world he needs somebody else so it's not just physically phys but also emotionally everybody knows when it comes to my own blemishes you can't see your own back as brilliant and as great vision you have nobody has ever seen their own back or scratched it. You need somebody else. There's certain parts of me we have blind spots. My brother once told me that he was once talking to somebody about an issue he was having in his life. So he said, you know, maybe you're having a blind spot. So he says, no, no, no, no, it's certain. He says, do you have blind spots? He says, yeah, but I know them. Right. Okay. So everybody understands that every person has ngas. We have it's called confirmation bias or other forms of bias. A person needs sometimes feedback from another human being who could see things clearer. And that's why who examines the animal for the blemishes? Somebody who examines the animal. Somebody outside. Here's examining me for my own blemishes. Me. Myself. I'm saying you're not saying for me you're saying for yourself. Yeah, there was once the fourth was Maharash the son of the they say when he was a child he was ding in and there was aid an old who wanted to say and he wanted to clap nicely so when you're holding a m it's hard so there was a child there was a name so he put the on him because he was like leaning he put it on his back to start saying his he turns around he says the sinning you did alone don't start clapping on like you s you send yourself clap yourself right so I'm not doing you're not doing for me how can a person check his own blemishes if it's the real idea like says it's by definition somebody else needs to do it somebody else need which is why it's so important in life to have feedback from people closest to you and people around you because they can give you sometimes a painful but an honest evaluation of things that are going on at least something to reckon death or people who cannot listen to anybody's view outside of themselves. It's a very painful situation. Some of you know what I'm talking about. So that was that's that's that's the question. How could how could you be your own woman? That's one issue. Another issue that said is it's very possible for people to go into and there's a certain negative depressing melancholy despondent. I can use more adjectives but I'll keep it with that that they can go into because of the nature of there's sometimes a heaviness that people go into. was like, can't we skip this season and just go to either sukus or better even kaneka maybe or just July 4th and let's get it once you're skipping go after pes already let's go let's get to the summer so even though it's the calendar and it's a season and etc etc but nonetheless deep deep down you know you start reading this is so much about my sins and atonement and how embarrassed I am and I'm a bushma and you know [Music] whatever all the if you say in English or you understand the Hebrew it's intense intense language very very intense words and a person could go into it from a negative negative place so the said that's why always starts it's not a technical detail it follows the foundation of is the foundation of needs to be an internal serenity. What's the serenity from? What's the tranquility? Tranquility is the whole message of Shabas. We saying on Shabas everybody returns to their source and in the source you're completely one with Hashem and you're not blemished and you're sacred and you're whole and you're divine. Right? We say in the those who say the so what do we say over there everybody is crowned with a new fresh soul the faces are radiant says in Bas say you have an extra what do we say no It's an intimate intimate space of deep deep oneness. Even people who lie, they're prone to lie a whole week. On Shabas, they don't lie. I mean, if you really try, you could lie also on Shabas. But naturally, the organic the organic system of a Jew is Shabas. That's that's that's that's the experience of Shabas. On Shabas we have we don't do so explains is not just physically to select the good from the bad. It's also spiritually. It's not a time where you're involved in the inshment between the good and the evil because you're aligned with your source. The source everything goes back to the source. Once you experience this internal posture of Shabas, now you can go into and now you could check your blemishes. You know why? Because you're not your blemish. Shabas, you know, you experience that you are not your blemish. The blemish is almost something external to me. It's it's there and I need to deal with it. But what's the foundation? The foundation is the experience of if not I can go into thinking I am the blemish. I am the sin. I am the problem. And when that's the baseline, the whole slick becomes distorted. And it's a very subtle subtle thing because sometimes it feels like of course that's what religion is. Guilt, shame, I'm bad. I'm evil. God is going to punish me. When that's the baseline of yiddishkite, it's a depressing experience. And it has nothing to do with real yiddishkite. The baseline is you're beautiful. Don't be completely imshed and entangled. Of course I have challenges. Of course I have flaws. Of course I have wounds. But the moment I start feeling that I am essentially damaged and and and broken and sick and sinful and dirty, that is the greatest victory for Satan. The greatest victory for the Yates Sahara is not just that I have sin that I need to do, but that it becomes me. that I own it to the point that that is me. And we all know it's that subtle feeling where you just can't extricate yourself from that shame that penetrates your essence. And then the whole relationship with God is so u contaminated. It's so like negative. It's so like of course I want to get out of the season. But when you start when you can really tap into a to a place of real serenity, why are you serene? Why? Why are you so relaxed? Because you can actually tune in the fact that in your real core, even if nobody ever told this to you, but it's true. You are the divine manifestation in this world. That's what you are. Whereas the says you're a derivative of infinite consciousness. Now from that perspective, that's the baseline. Now we begin a journey. Ah, I have a blemish. Okay, let's deal with it. First of all, I could be objective. You know why? I don't have to get defensive. If the blemish is me, then I get very defensive. Cuz when you're pointing out the blemish, you're actually delegitimizing me. That's dangerous. Of course, I become defensive. Of course, I can't be objective. Of course, I'm going to counterattack. Right? Only when you can recognize a goodness that's much deeper than that, then you could say, "Okay, so somebody told me that there's a stain on my on my my kapata." Okay, so clean it out. Somebody said your your shirt is dirty. Okay, I have other shirts. I have other shirts. It's not an attack on my essence. Why do people become defensive? They become so defensive because you're attacking me. You want to kill me. Of course, I have to defend myself. Of course, I can't even go there. Either I get angry, I have to fight back. It's fight, it's flight, it's freeze, it's fawn. But it's a very urgent response of self-defense. Somebody punches you in the gut. Of course, you should be defensive. Don't be objective. Either run or fight or at least freeze, die, call the kadesh or whatever, but detach. It's serious stuff. only when it's now it's a whole different experience. Now on the contrary when you recognize how good you are, how powerful, how amazing you are, I don't want to have these blemishes. Why should I even have part of my life in which I'm stuck, in which I'm numb, in which I go down rabbit holes? It's it's it's it's so below me. You know, you can go to the smogus board and eat the most beautiful meal. Why should you go to the garbage? Why should you go to the garbage and look for some meat on bones and hang out over there when you're so rich when you're so grand? When you're so exquisite, why do I need to reduce myself to such pettiness and small smallness? It's a different type of the Gmorra says in San it's also in Medish that Tunis was the Roman governor in Judea in the time of Rabaka and he used to debate a lot. So he asked what why is Shabas different than other ones and they had a hold told him about Shabas the river of Sambatian will prove Shabas so Rashi explains and the med says that the river of Sambatian in a whole week six days it hurls rocks so it's like this this it hurls rocks so nobody can go through and shabas it's no shabas no it doesn't throw rocks you can go through the sbatan that's so sambatan is is a physical is a physical testimony for Shabas in the physical world. What's the what's the message here? What's the message? In middle of the week, if starts in the middle of the week, you feel like somebody's throwing rocks at you. And if somebody's throwing rocks at you non-stop, of course, you you can't be calm. How could you be calm? And what if life is throwing rocks at you? And what if God is throwing rocks at you? And what if your wife is throwing rocks at you and your kids are throwing rocks and and the and the and everybody's throwing rocks at you? How could you calm down? Well, what do you want me to calm down? And then you start throwing rocks at yourself and those are the strongest, most powerful rocks. Shabas, nobody's throwing rocks at you. When nobody throws rocks, you don't have to be defensive. If somebody's throwing rocks at me right now, I'm going to be defensive. Sorry. I'm not going to like throw another one. Here's the second sheet. You don't do that. If you're a healthy person, either run or become you have to defend yourself. That's why we're defensive. Shabas is when I could I could look at the blemish from a place of serenity. Nobody's throwing rocks at you. They actually love you. Energetically, when you could make this shift emotionally, your marriage will change. Your relationship with yourself will change. It's one of the hardest shifts for people to make, especially in our days. We could talk about things but energetically energetically you relate to what I'm saying energetically in a very very deep place there's such an inshment and entanglement and even when we hear beautiful words you know all these nice things but that's all lectures it's all in the books but push comes to shove internally my nervous system is like when is the next rock being hurled at me. That's the only question. And and and we're hypervigilant, you know, and we're ready for it. We're like, "Okay, here we go." It's a posture of self-defense. And in a posture of self-defense, there's no co-regulation. There's no tranquility. There's no relationships that are not transactional. It's like transactional. You do this, I do this, you do this. Because I can't really relax. I can't let go. And the truth is, especially if in my youth I had to be vigilant because nobody taught me what it means to be completely regulated. My nervous system doesn't even know what this looks like. So now when Rashana comes, Yamkipa comes, oh my god, you better be tense. And it very internally internally it's a very very deep shift that comes from a radical reexperience of your nervous system as being holy. beautiful, sacred as deserving of infinite love because you are really a manifestation of God in the world. That's what you are. There are things that attach themselves to us and they can become very entrenched. And because they become very entrenched, I want to deal with them. But what am I dealing with? I'm dealing with something that's not essentially who I am. The inshment can be so deep, it becomes, as somebody told me tonight, as tight as the skin to the flesh. The skin to the flesh is very very tight. But it's not the same thing. It's called the epidermis. It's the skin. The skin to the bone. Sorry. The skin to the bone. The skin to the bone. We know how tight it is. That's how deep the inshment can be. So, so is always never on a Thursday and a Wednesday and a Thursday. The baseline of slickus is shabas. You're holy. You're beautiful. You're sacred. You're divine. You're glorious. You're perfect. You're amazing. You're incredible. Now, now I'm ashamed of the fact that I have to be so ashamed. I'm ashamed of the fact that I have to reduce my life to such smallness or pettiness or manipulation or exploitation. It's a part of me. But that this becomes who I am. I want to extricate myself from these blemishes. And that's the essence of chuva to return to that core. to return to that idea there's a that everyone said it says in the beginning of right but when it comes to the 14th of you have to check all the holes all the crevices so the asks in the beginning of what does mean what's means light when is that is that the day no it's the night and it goes a page and then another page like a page and a half in g to debate If means the night or the day back and forth, back and forth proves, proves, proves, proves. At the end, the Gmorra proves that means the night. The night of the 14th, we do. We don't do it by day. We do it at night. Yeah. Comes the big question. What do you have to write the word? And then give me two pages back and forth, back and forth with this. Yeah. No, it's very complicated over there. Why couldn't you just say the word the night of our boss just says you want to begin with idea of find another way of saying it clearly said it's telling you everything here is very important but only if you start with if you start with If you start with light if you start with the baseline is dark. Don't start checking for the it's going to be a disaster because it's going to be confirmation bars. You're going to find everywhere constantly. The baseline is light. Now go check your it's a different when you check with a baseline of darkness versus a baseline of light. It's a completely different. You have to start with on shabis. We say the ganim closes down. There's no there's also ain't done in Bashabas. You know was not allowed to judge on Shabas. It's not just collectively. It's also individually. You don't judge yourself on Shabas. Ain't done in Bishabas. The Genim is closed on Shabas. Why not? Why shouldn't you judge yourself on Shabas? Because the Shabas is a space where what are you judging? Who are you judging? Shabas is the is the moment to get in touch with your eternity, with your divinity, with your cleanlin, with your holiness. Only when you learn the place where you don't judge yourself, you know how gloriously divine you are. Now you could start saying and with this the explained one more powerful this shabas is called by Jews shabas. Shabas we call Shabas. It's an interesting name because whenever Shabas has an extra name, it's always about something that's connected to Shabas itself. For example, you have Shabas on Shabas you say the Shabas you say Shabas a great miracle happened on that Shabas Shabas Shira. You read the Shira every Shabas is something that happens on Shabas. the one exception. You don't say on Shabas. Why is it called Shabas? You say, but one second. It's a funny thing. We have a you're not supposed to prepare from Shabas to the weekday because Shabas is the objective. Shabas doesn't prepare for the weekdays. The weekdays prepare for Shabas. Famous with the sudas of Shabas are so they need the preparation meal. The middle of the week is a shabas. Not the other way around. Now here the name Shabas is not you're not you're packing your suitcase for but even conceptually it's a problematic idea that Shabas is assuming a name of something that's going to be after Shabas Shabas. So the Reb said, "Now we'll understand." No, no, no. Shabas describes the Shabas. The only way you could go into is because of Shabas. It's not that Shabas is a preparation for the on Shabas. That's the foundation of the is based on the Shabas experience, on your wholeness, not on your brokenness. Slick is not based on the fact that you're broken. It's based on the fact that you're whole. It's not based on the fact that you're evil. It's based on the fact that you're good. You're good. You're amazing. You're beautiful. That's what it's based on. That's what is based on. On a deeper level on Shabas, there's also But the of Shabas is you find the place where you're not blemished. Over there, you don't need forgiveness because you're not blemished. You realize that all my blemishes are coming because I don't know my purity. I think I'm small. I think I'm a crook. I think I'm just in survival mode. I think I need to live with my coping mechanisms because without that I'm going to melt. It's my smallalness that causes me to react and to live from an impulsive disintegrated dis misaligned space. So shabas is but from the place where you're unblenmished. Now when you go into mits shabas and you sing ali because there is a fear mits shabas because shabas juice suffer what's called PSS post shabas syndrome which is why we smell bis etc etc. So now you can go into the blemishes and say ah with this baseline of shabas now that's why we say in the same in the same p what do we say [Music] you know what t is their their dirt their filth erase let them acknowledge your wonder. That's the baseline. And that's why it's not only it's Reena. Reena is praise. Reena is celebration. So that's the baseline. They say I heard it from in the name of the Ashab. I didn't see it from but he said in the name of Rebard the fifth. He said as followab said what's the difference between a rich person and a poor person. So you say one guy has money one guy doesn't have money but we all know it's not so simple. There are plenty of rich people. Yeah that's love dafka. They're having a there there's three lawsuits against them. Okay. There's three lawsuits against them. They're thinking about declaring bankruptcy. The liquid is completely abolished. Okay. But they're in shul and they but in practicality they don't have a lot. And then you have a poor person, right? He's been here a whole week and he's doing fine. The pockets are filled up with money. So why is he called rich and he's called poor when in practicality he has money and he doesn't have money. Nonetheless, you won't change the title. The answer is because this person may be going to bankruptcy. There's four lawsuits against him. He has no liquid but a haste. I'm a rich man. I right now I have nothing mish but why? Because that's who I am. The other guy, he may have $5,000 in his pocket. It's not how much money you have. It's who how you carry yourself. How you carry yourself. Yeah. That's what the wants. It's not if you have money. If you don't have money, he wants you say I'm essentially poor. Your pockets are filled. There's so many amazing things about you. I'm essentially a poverty-stricken individual. Yeah. The approach has to be you're not a you're not you're not you're not a you're not a garnished you're not a filthy low life you're rich you're full of richness you told it to me you heard it from Kry the chief rabbi of um Antworp he told it to a very deep story he said that uh Kryvit was born in Kraka in 192 20 and he survived the war as a bacher and he ultimately came to Israel and I think Chicago and then he moved to uh to Belgium became the reantit shared this you told me freedman he heard it from him so he said that when he was in Europe it was 1940 right before he got out an older Jew came over to him and said I may not make it out from here and I have a Swiss bank account with a lot a lot of money. A lot. It's a pity that nobody should inherit the money. So, I'm going to give you the information in order to retrieve the money from the account. And please, if you ever find an ear of mine or the closest relative, give them the information. Let them get the yusha. It's a huge astronomical amount of money. I did very well. Fine. He took the information. Unfortunately, that Jew never made it out. Kryt made it out and life moves on. You know, 25 years later, he was in Antworp and a Jew comes in after Davening to collect money is rolling up his talis filler and this Jew comes over and he looks at him and he's not just poor. He's so povertystricken that you could see the man has nothing. And he starts talking to him, where's your next meal? He says, I I live from meal to meal. basically the money I collect here is going to support me for my next meal. He's always on the road. He's always traveling. No, no stability. He asks him for his name and he tells him his name and he has a flashback. It's the name of that Jew, but he can't feel he doesn't feel that it's connected, but he feels maybe. So, he takes his information. He doesn't want to say anything. And he asks him if he's going to be around for a few days. He says, "Yeah." And he afterwards he starts doing research. and his research is telling him that there is a connection. So after a few days when he's almost sure he starts speaking to this Jew and without dulging why he's asking him all these questions he really does a thorough investigation to really be able to hone in on the details until he comes to the conclusion that this is the son he is not just a relative he is the direct he's the son of this person so uh cries calls him over and says, "I want to tell you something. [Laughter] You're not a poor man. You're very, very rich." So he says, "Well, you laughing for me, lawyer. Why you laughing for me?" He gives him money and he says, "Listen, I want you to buy a train ticket and I want you to go to Basil from Ant. go to Basel and go to this in this bank and here is the information and retrieve the money that belongs to you. He thought it was was completely insane. But he took the information he has the money for a train ride and he went to retrieve it. Kryford said at that moment I realized something in his perspective he was one of the poorest people on the universe in the truth. truth. He was one of the richest Jews alive or certainly extremely extremely rich, but he didn't know it. He didn't know it. And that duality was so powerful. And this is exactly the emotional truth of so many people. We have learned over a long long gulus and a long long history and everybody's own history that we are essentially so broke so downtrodden so guilty so filthy and if that's the baseline the whole the I hate to say this can be such a rotten experience it's almost like I have to justify my existence and maybe I'll find Hashem in a good mood for a few moments and he won't get angry at me and I'll say the right thing and I'll make the right and I'll make the right resolution and maybe maybe maybe and maybe he'll find some spark. You have to know the for that. But the truth is it's the other way around. It's really it's really the other way around. It's the the ba the baseline is your richness is infinite. That's the real baseline. Now we all know we have blemishes. We have things that attach themselves to us. The skin is holding tight to the bone and doesn't want to let go of that inshment. It doesn't want to let go. If you can even for three minutes experience this part of you and if you ever had that experience, you know what it is. You know once you have touched it, it's unmistakable. It's like you have heard your real music. It's like, wow, I'm actually good. I'm actually innocent. I'm I'm actually pure. Everything is different. Everything is different. I can be so rich and completely ignorant of it. That's the secret of You could do maybe not other one. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. [Music] Love [Music] a friend. to [Music] see what's wrong. [Music] Sh. Thank you. [Music] [Applause] Sh. [Music] I [Applause] [Music] I want to see [Music] I am [Music] she can come [Music] May [Music] Oh, absolutely. [Music] He absolutely [Music] Sh. [Music] Sh. Sh my [Music] He absolutely [Music] Sh. [Music] Oh [Music] Sh. [Music] I want to save the sh I sh my [Music] I know my Sh your sh [Music] Oh Sh. [Music] Heat. Heat. Heat. [Music] [Applause] Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. [Music] Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. [Music] Heat. Heat up here. Yeah. Heat. Heat up here. Heat. Heat up here. Heat [Music] [Applause] [Music] up here. Heat up here. Heat up here. [Music] Heat up here. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat up here. Heat up Heat up here. Heat. Heat. Heat up here. Heat up here. Heat. Heat. Heat. kind. I don't want to ruin the music with my words. Somehow when you sing a niggan, the niggan says everything that you want to say. You know, it says it much better than words, right? I don't want to ruin it with the words. They say from of breast, what's the difference between a speech and a song? If somebody is speaking, if I'm giving a speech and somebody starts speaking in the middle of my speech, we call it I call it interruption. But if I'm singing a song and somebody starts singing a song in the middle of my singing, we call it harmony. So there's two types of people that live. There are people who are always talking. Look who's talking. And there are people who are always singing. It's a choice. If you're always talking, everybody is always interrupting you, especially your family members because they're around you most. If you learn how to stop talking and start singing, everybody is harmonizing with you. So that's the that's the secret, my dear friends. Stop talking and start singing. I would add there are those that even when they sing, they're still talking. And there are those that even when they talk they're singing that's so and look at the hashem you open my lips my mouth will channel your praise in other words I'm not doing the talking from the word giddim giddim are the blood arteries through which the blood flows My fe wants to be like a gid, like a channel, like an artery to for your praise. I'm just going to open my mouth and say whatever you want to say and you could use me as a mouthpiece. By the way, those come out the best if God wants. If he doesn't want to use me as a mouthpiece, I got to figure out what to say on my own and then whatever. It's a disaster. Somebody gets insulted or whatever it is. But uh if it's a there's no self-consciousness. The mic you think the mic is self-conscious. The mic is not self-conscious. But what happens? This the mic is a mic. When you become a mic, you lose your self-consciousness. Let Hashem speak and be the mic. away. So, what can I do? Just show up. Get out of the way. Just bring your heart. So just open your heart means you prepare the heart for that we have to it's the easiest thing but it's the hardest thing is is the easiest thing but it's also the hardest thing. It's the easiest thing cuz like going out of space once you're out of space there's no gravity but to get out of space is yeah you have to get into a spaceship you have to train a little bit. It's it's but how long does it take to get out of space? How long does it take? How long does it take to get out of space in a spaceship? 6 seconds, 30 seconds. That's true. Just get out of space and then you're floating. But to get out of space, it's like don't let the grav let not the gravity control. Get out of space. The ego doesn't have control anymore. There's no gravity. And then you soar may there's a galic of the mag of mis what's a shifer why do we blow sha rash sh right it's amazing idea he says what's the shifer so he says a shifer every musical instrument the musical instrument creates the music piano gavaldic the violin the cello the harp The guitar, the drum, every musical instrument with its own unique flavor and ingredient. The cha is different. The is not creating the sound. Who creates the sound? The blower of the cha. So what do you need a for? So blow. It'll be easier. It'll be simpler. Everybody will hear because the is the instrument that when you take the and you blow it through the narrow sound. Oh no. And you blow the sound from your mouth and it goes through the ah comes out from the other side with a resonance that the chaur gives it its unique flavor and ingredient. If I would just go two two two it has a different flavor. So the mag of misri says that that's what life is. The person is a what's the main avoid of the I don't create the sound. All I need to do is hollow out. If the has in it what is it called the >> marrow cuz when you take over the ram's horn it's full of marrow. Nothing is going to it's not hollow. You need to hollow it out before. You hollow it out and then you blow. Beautiful. So in in life, the greatest moment in life is when you become a shy. A shaifer means I'm a channel. I'm a conduit. A conduit. And by the way, when you're a conduit, you can do it. If you're not a conduit, I could do this. I can't do this. I can't do that. When you're a conduit, you can do it because you're just a conduit. Just show up. If you're not doing it, don't worry. You can do it because you're not doing it. Just show up. But show up with an open heart. show up with a hollow without ego without self-consciousness. The mag says it's so Hashem tells I want you to raise your voice like a and tell my people about their sins. tell the the house of Jacob about all of all of uh all of their sins and their so the mag is why like a chaer there could be a lot of instruments or just say raise your voice why like a so he says hashem is telling something very deep if you want to be able to communicate to people especially if you want to talk about their blemishes you need to be aher if they're going to feel your ego they will never ever Listen, if you want to speak to people and raise their consciousness, you need to be aer nothing is coming from the shy. Nothing. Just a channel. When you criticize somebody, especially your child, if you're not a shyer, who is it going to backfire? Cuz they feel the insecurity. The moment I feel the ego, I become defensive. You're throwing rocks. I start throwing rocks. Go back to get rid of the rocks. That means you communicate from a place where you don't have to take control, where you can completely let go. It's one of the hardest things in the world because we like to control because we want to stay safe small and in control. But once you free that up, it's gavaldic. And there's something else about the shaer. If you ever noticed, if you ever tried to think, let me blow from the broad side of the why do I have to be a narrow type of guy? Why should I be parochial? I want to be broad. So take the broad side of the and start blowing. You know what it's going to sound like? You could try it out. [Applause] I've tried it. I don't know if there's a sha here, but if there's a sha here, I could visualize it for you. But you could try it at home. You have a shy? Okay. Galdic. Gavaldic. I forgot China also. There's shas. There's a cipher. There's there's what a restaurant. Whatever you want. Look. Look at this. [Music] This garnished, right? Mam is gushed, right? Even though this is the guy like he's broad, he's expensive. Expensive consciousness. Nobody's into expensive consciousness. You go to this little guy, right? And I'm not a professional baya. Imagine a professional is mama glat glat kasher. So you have two types of Jews. You have Jews that say, "We're universal. We're expansive. We're not parochial. We are citizens of the world. We only blow from the broadside. We're not domesticated. We're not like, you know, narrow-minded." And that's where they want to blow from. And what happens? There's no voice. There's no distinct voice. When you're not anchored in your uniqueness, in your truth, in your in your faith, in your history, nobody has what to hear. There's you're not selling anything. You're just looking what's the last uped page opinion in the New York Times or CNN. That's what you're repeating. You just need to fit into the world. There's nothing you're not saying anything. But when you go back to your own anchor, when you go back to your unique essence, you're a Jew. Then there's a voice. The whole world will hear it. The whole world will respect it. Right? the generations of Jews being so embarrassed and apologetic and apologetic for their existence and apologetic for every move. Nobody respects you. Stop being so broad. Be real. Be authentic. It's also true in our own life psychologically, emotionally. People who are constantly trying to please everybody. You want to make everybody happy. I'm the guy that makes everybody happy, right? I'm broad. I'm broad. I'm not nar, not parochial. I'm here for everybody. I'm the quintessential people's pleaser. on my tombstone. They're going to write that. The quintessential people's pleaser. Everybody liked them. There's nothing that you're not giving anything. You're not giving anything. Be a man. Be be you. Be you. Be anchored in your soul, in your distinctiveness. Be present. Be present with your energy. Be alive with your energy. Don't try to What's your energy? Let me copy you. Oh, now I copy you. Now I copy you. Now I copy you. The main thing is I'm spineless and everybody is satisfied. That's the idea. So the mag says that's what Hashem told especially if you're going to say muser make sure that people feel egolessness because then they won't be defensive. The moment they start feeling it's me versus you everybody shuts down. They shut down. People want to know why their kids shut down when they talk. Because your kids feel your insecurity. Other people don't. But your kids know how insecure you are. They know how much fear you have. They know how overwhelmed you are. They know how much anxiety you have. So they shut down. So if you want to help your children, help yourself. Become a shyer. Start dancing with your soul. Start dancing with your spouse. And then when you talk, they won't feel that it's coming from fear and pressure. It's coming from celebration. In fact, it's coming from a place where Tati and Mommy are doing amazingly well. Not because we don't have empathy, but because we're not defined. We're not putting on you the pressure to make us happy. One of the hardest things for children is the pressure that they're responsible for their parents' happiness. You remember when you felt that about your parents? If I would only be a good boy, my father would rage less, my mother would be more whatever, finish the sentence that belongs to your house. The pressure on kids that they have to make their parents happy is overwhelming. It's hard enough to be happy yourself. Now I have to make my father who has a lot of issues happy and now I'm responsible for my mother. Good luck. Till after the let's hope she'll be happy. I mean, God willing, bakar mish, the guys are laughing too much for this. I don't know why, but fine. I'm not your psychoanalyst. I'm not going to go there at the moment, but you're having too much of a good time here with my humor. The bottom line is don't put this pressure on your children. Be happy because cuz you're because you're human. Cuz you're Jewish. Take that pressure off of them. I don't need you to be like this so that Tati shouldn't be a miserable man. Wow. Really? You know what happens? They can actually look at themselves, see themselves and actually stop blaming you and projecting everything in you and do their journey and do their work. This is the value of we hollow out. So daily become a empty it out. Get rid of if there's ego fine it's normal. We all have that. But we have to realize if I'm blowing from the ego or I'm just being a saying all the pressure is off. Self-consciousness is off. I know it's easier said than done. When it comes to physical shy, it's not so hard. When it comes to an emotional shyer, it's it's trans it's transformational. You know the mice, I told it to you once. You know the ma with the shvitzaldik gavaldic. I heard the story from the balamisa and we actually have uh some of his nephews here. I was once at a wedding. It was in Morristown, New Jersey. And the kadushin was a Jew whose name was Rabbi Shalom Bear Gordon. We have some of his nephews from the Gordon family here. his brothers children and grandchildren and Gordon was a rabbi in New Jersey in which city in ule >> first Newark and then Maplewood and we're sitting at the cabalis ponim it was a it was a wedding of uh of uh a girl named Greenberg who was marrying a cousin of mine that's why I was there and he made their parents balichuva back in the 60s or early 70s so he was mass kadoshin He had cancer at the time. He was sick and shortly after he passed away. But we were sitting at the when I saw that he was frail and weak but he was he was a very gushid. So I asked him this was around 2008 or 200 right before close before he passed away. I asked him how long has he been a rabbi and he said 60 years or close to 60 years. I'm like wow 50 or 60 years like a half a century. So I told him, "So tell me what's just give me, you know, the the bottom line advice like what do I have to live 60 years and figure out from all the mistakes? Just give it to me right now." So he says, "I'll tell you a story." And when I experienced that story, I didn't have to hear anything else. In 1949, Tshantas, he was invited to be the rabbi in the sh in New Jersey. This is 1949. You have to understand that orthodoxy in America was very different than today. It was very small. It was very very challenging. Educational institutions you can count on two hands. No yeshivas nothing. And uh Yiddish was very weak in America. Extremely the reform conservative movements were much more powerful. And this was an orthodox Jew. And he went he took the and he started to speak and the first week he spoke about Shabas and the president comes over to him afterwards and said you realize that most Jews here drive on Shabas even though it's an ordinance so don't talk about this you're insulting everybody okay the next week he spoke about mikvah and they're like the president is like that's not what we do talk about something else kash no no no no we don't do that here so finally he asked the guy what what should I talk about he says talk about Judaism Talk about Judaism, right? He didn't know what to do. Was he going to make a joke out of himself? So he went to consult the Rebayat, the previous laberba, the sixth labreerba whose name I'm privileged to carry who was the father-in-law of the Reb. He passed away 1950 in New York. So he went to speak to consult the rebay. This was the last year of his life of the previous life. You probably saw some pictures or videos. He was like uh you could see from his eyesim and he was half paralyzed. He was very very he suffered terribly in the Soviet Union. He suffered and then other things he was really he was from his middle bottom he was paralyzed and it was hard for him to talk also was hard for him. It was hard to understand him. But he went in on this. He told this to me Gordon. And he presented the question to the rebay to the the sixb and he said, "I have a challenge because if I tell them what I want to tell them, they're going to fire me. If I tell them what they want to hear, I'm not doing my job. I'm just selling my soul to please them. What am I supposed to do?" It's like a catch 22. You know, you're stuck between what is it called? A rock and a hard ball. You say the truth, they throw you out. You don't say the truth. You throw yourself out, right? You feel like uh you feel you you're denigrating yourself. You don't forgive yourself. Like so what do you do? Do you sell your soul for the sake of the people, right? Or do you not sell your soul and then you have no people? You know, you go looking for a job. A big question. 1949 had a deal with the congregation. So he tells me, he says, "The Reb looks at me and says, Have you ever been in Ashvitz? Did you ever go to Ashvitz? Ashvitz is a sauna. In those days in America, it's coming back slowly. The shvitz was like a very Jewish rel. It was like the essence of the Jewish religion. You went to the shvitz. You ate you ate nuts and you analyzed Harry Truman and Eisenhower and Roosevelt and you decided the Korean War. That's where Jews ran the world. There's still some Jews here in Muny. They go to the Shvitz and from the Shvitz they run the whole world. Everything they run. They decide everything you know else it's all in the strange question to get from the Reb. Have you ever been to the Schwitz? He says, "Yeah." So the Reb says, "Can you describe to me what happens at the Shvitz?" Now he really felt uncomfortable. this is not you know it's not mish uh you know whatever it's we know what happens in the schmitz you know what is he going to start but the asked him so he starts saying and he says you know people come and it's a room and they don't have their clothes on and it's very hot and they enjoy it and they sit and they converse and ended up saying what happens afterwards he says after they get used to it they go up a few levels a few steps and it's even hotter and hotter and hotter and then what happens afterwards he says Afterwards they used to have in the Schvids it was called a bed with with a broom. They had bezame I don't know if you ever saw that but they used to have in the brooms and when you really were you really hot you ask the guy the attendant in charge the gabby to take the the broom and whip you on your back and the what happens when he whips you is ahm and you ask him to do it more and more. It's very it's a good feeling when your your back is burning hot, you know, glowing red and he's hacking you with this bezom with his broom. It's very gishmach. So the looks at him and says, "I have a question. If this person would come to your middle of the street with a broom and start whipping you on your back, what would you do?" So he says, "Either I would run away or I would hit him back or I would call the police." So why in the shvitz do you ask him to do it? So at this point he told me I was smart enough to be quiet. I said it's a schmitz. He says no. So the reb looked at him and said I'll explain to you why if he comes over in the street with a bosom with a bez with a with a broom and starts whipping you. you're going to counterattack or run away. In the shvitz, he doesn't just start hitting you. First, he makes sure that you're warmed up. Then, he makes sure that you're elevated. You go higher. Once you're hot and you're elevated now, he takes out the broom and he starts whipping you. And what do you say? Mayor, may give me more. Give me more. He looked at him and he said, "If you go stand up in your sh with a broom and you start whipping the community, they'll throw you out. Turn your shul into avitz. Warm them up and elevate them. Then take out the broom. And then you know what they're going to say? More more more. He looked at me and he said, "60 years I didn't have to hear another piece of advice." It was the only piece of advice I needed to hear from my entire career. And by the way, you should know the results of that cuz he affected so many people. And whenever you take out an art scroll gamora or anything and you thank Rabbi Nusen Sherman who's the main editor of art scroll that's one of the products of Rabbi Gordon cuz he was a young kid in New Jersey and he sent him to yeshiva so the whole art scroll revolution is from the shvitz that theat told him to do. Every time you take out a gar and you're learning is it's all from that. That's the impact of one, one Jew who's who's a channel who's a scher and you don't realize the impact. He sent him to yeshiva I believe and he became who he became and became part of a tremendous sat. What does this tell us? This tells us don't take out the broom in your house or anywhere else if it's not avitz. Make sure it's avitz. Ashvitz means it's warm. Warm them up. Fire them up. You come out with a broom. You're bad. You're bad. You're bad. Leave me alone. Go to therapy and deal with your issues. You're an angry person. You have anxiety. Stop blaming God. And I know Rashana, you freak out. So call out Salah. Go do cardiac arrest somewhere else. Do me a favor. Leave me alone. I'm being dramatic a little, but you you all know there's a little truth here. You know how you felt about some other people in your life. But the this but this, but this Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. If you had a deep, intimate, blissful relationship with God, can you go to that space and enjoy it and stay there and let them just look at you? People feel energy. Everybody feels energy. People know what is safe and what's not safe. Everybody knows. We could make believe. We don't know. Everybody knows. You know when you're in a place of safety and you can let go and when somebody's throwing rocks under sabat and you can't let go. Akea said shabas you don't have to you don't need rocks. And if you bring in shabas a whole week you don't need the rocks. Don't change other people. The only person you'll ever change in your entire life is yourself. And even yourself, you won't really be able to change. You'll only be able to open yourself up to who you really are. If you think you have to change yourself, it's not going to happen. You don't change. You open yourself up to who you always were, who you always will be. But some blockages came in in the middle. Turn your home and your schul and your school and wherever you are into avitz. Make sure that people feel warm. In warmth, there's safety. When there's safety, I can relax my guards. I don't have to be defensive. I can have a conversation with you in which you feel my heart and I feel your heart and I don't have to be vigilant. I don't have to attack you. You don't have to attack me. We could both like it's not transactional. It's not points. And you know, you know what happens? You can do that with God. And the moment you do that with God is like, oh, I'm not your enemy. I'm not your enemy. We're one. We're always one. We're always one. We're in indivisible. Indivisible. And everybody around you will feel it. Everybody. Now it's easy to go, but you're this and you're this and you're this. Make avitz. He said, "Stop it. Make this a fiery warm place." And not enough. Elevate them in avitz. You go higher and higher and higher. Now take out the broom. And you know what happens? May ah give me more. Why? because people want to get better. And I want to say something. I don't know who's listening to this. I don't know everybody who's in this room. I know some people in this room. I don't know everybody in this room. I certainly don't know who's listening. I do know that there's a lot of sick people. What I mean by sick is the trauma of Gulos has been long and this has been a difficult year and it's been a difficult exile and people and Hitler's long hand is still present and people are still very sick without judgment and people really want to heal but they don't really think they could. Narcissistic personality disorder it's your pain. Nobody ever saw you. So now everybody has to see you for eternity. Borderline personality disorder. All different forms of personality, the depression, anxiety, even pedophilia, the deviance in people's lives. Many of us have become sick. We become sick. Whether it's depression, whether it's anxiety, whether it's complete shutdown of emotions, complete disassociation. You think you could talk to God if you're emotionally disassociated from your wife and from your children? It doesn't work that way. If I shut the water in my house, there's no water. I can't suddenly for the shower, there's water. If you shut your emotions down, there's no emotions for anything. It was a survival tool. It was a coping mechanism. People had to shut down their emotions. We get it. We created simulated emotions matrix. Artificial intelligence. We're amazing at that. artificial intelligence. And this is a generation where God says it's time for redemption. It's time for healing. But so many people don't. There's such a despair deep, deep down. So we continue so many divorces that are happening now. People are not ready to face their crazy trauma. I could blame my wife my entire life. I could blame my husband my entire life. And you know what? Maybe you're right. Maybe you're wrong. But if you can really deal with your stuff, everything around you changes. But it's hard. It's hard. Coping mechanism says don't look at your pain and don't let anybody else see it. And the moment somebody brings it up, just throw rocks at them. And we completely disassociate and disconnect because we're in such defensive mode modalities. And the truth is there is a different way. God has granted this generation with gifts of healing. And people should take adv people should take advantage of it. There is hope. There is real real hope. I am deep in the thicket of this reality. And I could tell you I could tell you from my own life. I could tell you from other people's lives. There is tremendous potentiality for transformation because deep deep down you know you want it. You don't have to live a tortured life. You don't have to have a miserable marriage. You don't have to be disassociated. You don't have to be shut down. We have learned to do that. And what's worse, we learned to call sickness health. Many of us learn to be sick and we call it healthy because it works. As my wife likes to tell me, it works until it doesn't. So for those of you who are lucky enough that it stopped working, you should know that there's another path. And for those of you who still think it works, the train is moving and God has expedited consciousness very very heavily. The last era like consciousness is on steroid. He expedited consciousness. Like you know you want to be a turtle, you could be a turtle but like wake up and smell the coffee. This world is moving fast. This world is moving fast. Somebody said in today you told me right that somebody asked Charlie Kirk 31 years old really from the trueam of our generation. So somebody asked him how do you want to be remembered after you die. So he looked at the guy like he's crazy like 30 31 years old you know what are you writing my obituary like he wasn't planning on this and uh and finally the person pushed him and he said I want to be remembered for my courage and my faith I want to be remembered for my courage and my faith and he will be remembered for those two things and I thought you know we need everything is a lesson we need courage and we need faith when you have courage the faith as where to go. And when you have faith, you can have courage. Courage and faith. Courage that is true. That God is real. That there's goodness. That you weren't created just to survive and exploit the world. Like you're rich. You could do much better. You could do much better than shutting down and being on autopilot. We can all do much better. And this is without judgment because most of our coping mechanisms is simply survival. Everybody was just trying to survive. And you know what? They did an amazing job. We're all here. We're here to tell the story. We are here to tell the story after 3 and a half thousand years. Not so bad. Okay? We're here. We're singing. We're present. But comes a time of gula. God says, "I don't just want you to be here physically. I want you to be here. come into my shvitz. I just realized as we were singing all those songs I realized that we keep on talking in slick or sha kipper about all of our shame and then I realized wow so I used to think like leave me alone already with shame I have enough shame inside I don't need slickers to tell me about my shame everybody has so much shame and then I realized wow somebody once told me uh a mentor of mine said when your nervous system is safe it can go into dark places when your nervous system is not safe it doesn't go into dark places. Our sages were not afraid to keep on talking about shame because their nervous system felt safe with God. That's why they they they weren't afraid. When your nervous system feels safe with God, give me the broom. M bring on the shame. I want to heal. Bring it on. I don't have to be mediocre. Well, my nervous system is not safe. You know, they say kids in orphanages don't cry. They don't cry and they never say, "Mommy, I hate you." In your house, they say, "Mommy, I hate you. You're not my mommy. I'm never talking to you again." You know why? Cuz they're safe. They know mommy ain't going anywhere. She went out 5 minutes. She's coming right back. She anyway feels guilty 24/7. She's a Jewish mother. She's not going anywhere. Trust me. In the orphanage, they don't feel so guilty. You don't say, "You're not my mommy anymore cuz maybe you won't have a mommy. in your house. Nobody's afraid to give you an attitude. They gave you an attitude. When your nervous system is safe, you can go to these places. You can go to dark places. When it's not, I have to be like this. The reason so many of the prayers deal with it is because they wanted to clean it out. They're not afraid of cleaning it out. Clean it all out. Clean it out. Clean it out. Don't be afraid. Bring on the broom. But only if there's avitz. only if there's avitz. So that's the hope and the we spoke Shabas is avitz right it's warmth that's what shabas is so fire of shabas ah once is avid now bring it on bring it on everybody wants to hear the truth who doesn't want to hear the truth but I want to hear the truth from somebody who loves me from somebody who forgives me and from somebody who knows me not from somebody who's just busy protecting themselves from their insecurity. I didn't expect all of this to come out, but sh hopefully I'm a shyer. We'll see how it impacts. If I if it impacts I know I was a shyer. If not, okay, I got to deal with my own stuff. Huh? Rakamadoni. Rakamadon. [Music] Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat up here. Heat up here. Heat. Heat up here. Heat up here. 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They had to be able to enjoy attention. And they had to be able to uh deceive the world that they're leopards. And he got the right skin, the right uniform, and they dressed up as leopards. And he put them in the cages, and they got a very good salary. At night they could become human, but during the day they were leopards. They growled as leopards and they screamed as leopards and they fought as leopards and they ran as leopards. They jumped as leopards. And the tourists loved it. The visitors to the zoo. This was a huge attraction. They were athletic. They enjoyed the attention. And they really became quintessential leopards. You know, usually you go to the zoo, you're lucky the leopards wake up and look at you for a second. But they were active. Yeah, it brought in so much business and so much revenue. Everybody was happy. One fellow, a gentile, enjoyed these leopards so much. He came constantly. He came constantly back and back and back to be able to see these leopards. Anyway, he became such a frequent visitor and he enjoyed it so much. And one day he was just sticking around and it already became evening and one of the leopards didn't realize that this guy was still there. So he thought everybody was gone. He didn't realize this guy was so addicted and so attracted the lepers. He was still there the last moments when the zoo was already closing. The lepers didn't realize and he couldn't contain himself and he says what do you say it was a good day today this gentile can't believe what he hears didn't understand but he knew this is not the language of lepers the money is coming. He runs to the owner and he says, "You're a thief. You're a thug. You're a liar. You're a deceiver." Says, "What happened?" "They're not leopards. They're humans." No. What are you talking about, Muga? You are. So, how do you know they're human? I heard him talk. And the other guy answered. I heard him talk. He says, "Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. How long have you been here already in the zoo with these guys?" Is a year. a year you heard them talk. He says, "No." So he says, "Once once you spoke, they heard you speak. You heard them speak and you decided based on that that the lepers." I mean, come on. Oh yeah. You didn't hear a word. Once they made a mistake and they spoke that makes them lepros, huh? >> That makes them humans. Sorry. That makes them humans. Come on. That's the end of the story. But of course, he was right. Why? Because to prove to me that you're not a leopard, I don't need you to speak a whole year. I need you to speak once. A leopard doesn't speak once a year or once in 10 years. To prove that you're not a leopard, I don't need you here to speak even more than two. One sentence is enough. One yanks is enough because a leopard can't even say that line with people. It's so interesting. We define ourselves based on our lowest moments rather based on our highest moments. If you were a real leopard, you couldn't even say a word once a year. And if you were a real leopard, you couldn't say a word once in 10 years. And yet most people look at themselves and they say, "I haven't said a word in a year. I must be a leopard." The fact that you could say a word once a year means you're always a human being. You may not be completely embodying that quality. When people look at themselves, they usually judge themselves based on their lowest moments. Can you start judging yourself based on your highest moments because that's who you are? If you were a real leopard, even once a year you couldn't say these words. If once a year you can experience something sublime, that's who you are. Now the question is, how do we bring that to the rest of the year? How do I stop dressing up as a leopard, getting rid of my masks, and being human? That's a good question. But you're not a leopard. So people say, "Yeah, but I'm filled with this, this issue, and that issue." I got it. But once a year there's a moment of clarity. There's a moment of bliss. There's a moment of wonder. Where did that come from? So you're not a leopard. You have a soul. I only feel it uh for 5 minutes. I got it. And Yanko and the leopard only spoke for 3 seconds, but that proves it. So instead of defining yourself based on your lowest moments, you really have to define yourself based on your highest moment. Because if you wouldn't be defined by that, there wouldn't be a potentiality. Where did it come from? If that's the moment that was there, that's who you are. Now the question is how to integrate it. One of the famous prayers that we say and Musf after each time we blowifer call [Music] Right? Everybody knows that if you look in an English what does harass mean? Today is the birthday of the world. Today harass is the birthday of the world. Ask David was one of the shin and he wrote one of the first commentaries on ding and he says there's something that's off. Why the term harass comes from Jeremiah chapter 20 was the prophet who saw the destruction of the first bik. He wrote and he cursed the day that he was born and he says that I wish that the person who notified my father that my mother gave birth to me would have told him instead that her womb remained eternally pregnant with me, meaning I was a stillborn. He was so sad. You know, we sometimes are under the impression that the greatest sages and prophets didn't deal with deep deep crisis. But some of the greatest of the great asked God to dieuhani I mean some of the greatest of the great had to deal with a very very deep pain that they had to confront because of what they saw and what they experienced. So this wasn't simple. So he says I wish somebody would have told my father my mother is eternally pregnant with me. Meaning I'm forever in the womb. I die in the womb. I die in uterero harass. Haras means pregnant forever in the womb. I would have been a stillborn baby. Comes says come the sages and they completely manipulate the words. Haras means pregnant. They made it birth. Means forever they made it the world doesn't mean the birthday of the world. It means today you're eternally pregnant. But that wouldn't sound very good. So they turned it into he said that's not fair. You took the source and you completely changed it. Aras doesn't mean born. It means pregnant means forever. Eternally pregnant was a curse. It wasn't a blessing. Interesting question of the one of the answers my friends open your hearts is the sages weren't distorting anything. This was exactly their point. Their point was harass has two paradoxical interpretations. And who is the one who decides which interpretation we're going to give it? Every person individually. It's like the story of that guy who would go from town to town and he answered all the questions and he always knew every answer. And then finally one young man said, "You know what? I'm going to cap him. I'm going to catch him." And he looks at him and he says, "My fist is closed and in this fist there's a butterfly. Is this butterfly dead or alive?" And he knew here he's going to cap. he's going to catch him because if he says it's dead, he'll open his hand and the butterfly will fly away. And if he says it's alive, he'll just crush the butterfly to death. And the sage looked at him and said, "The answer to this question lay in your hand." You can interpret two ways. One way is eternally pregnant. One way is the birthday of the world. Friends, every person that I know is pregnant with tremendous potential who is not pregnant. There's physical pregnancy of a child but there's pregnant with so much potential creativity. How much life is there inside of you? It's fascinating. You go to the m when the came out of the holy of holies he said very short prayer. You know why? He says he's wrong not to scare if he would sit and dab for 3 hours like my speeches everybody would think he's dead then it would be over. So he did a fast fil a few minutes a few seconds so he could come out because he didn't want to forfeit the opportunity to din when you come out of the holy of holies but he did so you can understand that in that fel in that prayer he compressed the most important things what does he ask for so he asks for [Music] Jewish people shouldn't lose their sovereignty Judea shouldn't do that. The Jews should be independent. They should have their own country, their own military, their own empire. He asks there should be rain. Without rain, everybody starves. People should have parosa. And then he says, "No woman should have a miscarriage." Now, it's a beautiful prayer, but if you're doing that, why don't you ask for women who have infertility and people who are sick? There's so many different types of struggles in this world, but that's what he focuses on. But there's a very deep message here when it comes everybody in their uterero has something inside. We have children. The Gammorra says, [Music] "How many people's dreams die in utero? We're so filled with potential, but how many of us surrender to quiet desperation? How many of us start believing that we were just born to survive? If I could finish the week and finish the month already, I'm above. I'm out of the red." But you weren't born just to survive. You were born to change the world. Says, "Don't touch my anointed ones, my Messiah." Who are the Messiahs? The little children. So once said, "Every little child, you remember when you were young, you had a dream. Either you're going to be Mashiach or you're going to bring Mashiah." Every child has these dreams. But then we grow up and you know we become a little cynical. [Music] Don't allow anybody to touch and contaminated the child inside of you. Don't allow anybody to contaminate the beautiful innocent child inside of you. Never grow up fully. Always have that child inside of you. The innocence, the purity. [Music] Every person I know there's so many dreams. People have so much potential. People have so much light. But so often our internal power dies in uterero harass. We remain eternally pregnant. We create things in our mind and then we just let them die. It's not to blame. It's not to judge. There's a lot of stress. There's a lot of anxiety. There's a lot of stuff to deal with. And people are so busy surviving they could never learn who they really are and how much God needs them and wants them. Today I have to decide is this going to be another year in which I'm going to be eternally pregnant or will this be the year when at last I will be born. The world will be born. I will be born and through me my world will be born and the impact I can have in the world will be born. So the understood this is the quintessential prayer. You touch your you go into the holy of holies and you learn about yourself but please don't allow any woman to have a miscarriage. Every Jew is the wife of of Hashem. Don't allow any woman, any one of us to misaryry physically of course, but also emotionally and spiritually. So I want to bless you all my dearest brothers and friends and holy souls that this should be a year in which individually and collectively you should say be able to say harassm. I want to be able to be a chaer. I want to be able to light to come through me. I want to let go of all the meshment of all I don't even know how to describe it. All the nauseiating fake energy. Yeah. Whatever it is, not with rage cuz that becomes part of it. With compassion, with empathy harass, allow yourself to be born. Allow yourself to be born. Allow your soul to emerge. We blow Shyash because in the first God blew what did he blowish? He blew a soul into which means he took a shifer and he blew it because Adam is the shifer. We sped before Adam's body and personalities and God took that cha he blew. So everyash we reexperience of here blow blow it through me. Let me not block the sound. The worst thing you could do is take the and go like this. God is like blowing and blowing and blowing. I'm like sorry I don't have time. Open your hands. Open your hearts. Let it go through. This is the era to be able to be born and individually to be able to be born and collectively to be able to be born. Able to be born as a people. Today we're a people to have that courage, to have that faith, to have that conviction, to have that unwavering confidence in the infinite divine light who entrusted you to become a channel for that light. Especially for our soldiers, especially for the hostages, all of our brothers and sisters in the holy land and all of the leaders, they should be able to blow the cha and not be afraid to blow fully to the point that the blood it says in that the face of the becomes red because there's a flow. There's a flow of energy. [Music] And the main thing is a year of victory and a year of redemption, internal redemption, protest and automatically collective redemption. We'll go for slickus. It was good.