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Good evening and blessings. In the world
there are people who hold key positions,
possess great power and can influence
like rulers, government officials and
company managers. They have power in
their hands. On the other hand, there
are people who don't have much power or
influence. King Solomon teaches us that
the woman has powers and the ability to
influence far beyond the man. This is
something we also see in Judaism in
general. The guidance that Solomon gives
here is for the man to know what kind of
woman to choose as a partner in life.
Understanding that she has great power,
influence, and strength over him, the
children, and the entire
environment. It's also guidance for the
woman herself.
A woman who truly wants to reach
spiritual completeness, have a good
marriage, influence the family, and
impact the education of children and the
environment must know how to behave
correctly. King Solomon says in Proverbs
12:4, "A woman of valor is the crown of
her husband." We will first look at the
meaning of the words and then understand
the deeper message.
What does a woman of valor mean? At the
end of the book of Proverbs, there is
the famous verse, a woman of valor, who
can
find. And here in the book of Proverbs
by King Solomon, we see the concept of
valor or strength. There's another
verse, the righteous will go from
strength to
strength. What does this strength mean?
When a person acts with power, speed and
succeeds, they are called a man of
valor. If it happens occasionally, they
are called he made valor. But a man of
valor means that this is consistent. He
is constantly active with great strength
and consistently successful. A woman of
valor has the same meaning, quick,
active, and successful. She is balanced
and is called a woman of valor. King
Solomon teaches that her merit is not
only for herself but she is also the
crown of her husband. Just like a crown
placed on the head of a king, she
elevates him. The crown is external, not
part of the body. But when the crown is
placed on the head, it signifies
royalty. She elevates him to the level
of royalty. He feels important,
respected and that life is good. Also in
the eyes of the community, he becomes a
respected person thanks to his wife. As
in the verse from a woman of valor, it
says, "Her husband trusts in her and he
will lack no gain. She is a woman of
valor not only when things are good, but
even when sitting among the elders and
respected people of the land, he is
considered respected because of her."
What's the connection?
If he has a good wife who behaves well
in her private life, how does it relate
to the husband's
personality? The answer is that the
woman has a tremendous influence on the
behavior of her husband, how he conducts
himself, and what kind of person he
becomes. At first, it might seem
unrelated. He has his own private life,
but the sages teach us that the woman is
like the engine that drives everything.
The sages say, "The wise woman of whom
it is written, the wise woman builds her
house is the wife of Onben Pellet, and
the foolish one is the wife of
Korak." The famous story from the desert
period, appears in the Torah. Korak, the
son of the son of Kohhat, the son of
Levi, gathered a rebellion against
Moses.
Everyone had witnessed the revelation at
Mount Si when God showed his trust in
Moses. But Korak organized a rebellion.
They were relatives, cousins. Korak was
upset that Moses appointed his brother
Aaron as the high priest. Moses, who was
like the king, the ruler of Israel, led
the people out of Egypt. But when it
came time to appoint the high priest for
the tabernacle, Korak was not happy. He
led a rebellion. No matter how much
Moses tried to explain that it was God's
decision to appoint Aaron, Korak
continued his rebellion. Why did Aaron
from the tribe of Levi become the high
priest? Why not any of the other
Levites? The Torah says that Moses
didn't want to be the leader at first
because he didn't want to overshadow his
older brother, Aaron. Moses was
reluctant to take the position of
leadership and instead asked God to send
Aaron. God told him, "Go meet him, and
you will see him coming to meet you with
joy in his heart." There's a lesson in
this. It's easy to say we're happy for
someone else. But in our hearts, we
might be jealous or feel
disappointed. But God assured Moses that
Aaron would truly rejoice in Moses'
success, and he wouldn't feel any
bitterness. Because of this genuine joy,
Aaron merited to become the high priest.
His ability to rejoice with his brother
Moses without jealousy earned him the
priesthood. By the way, the more we
sincerely support and cheer for others,
the more we gain. One doesn't lose by
rejoicing in the success of others. Then
God will give him from other
places. Anyway, Moses says to Korak,
"Why are you angry at
me? I am doing what God
says." So Korak said, "Take your
brother. That's what I did. It's all
about favoritism and family connections.
And he sparked a rebellion. One of the
leaders of the rebellion, as it says,
Korak, the son of Isar, the son of
Kohath, the son of Levi, and Dathan, and
Abiram, the sons of
Eliab, and on Ben Pellet, the son of
Reuben, was from the tribe of Reuben. He
was one of the leaders of the rebellion.
What happened in the end? The earth
opened up and swallowed them creating a
pit. Korak and his followers were
swallowed by the earth. On Ben Pelle was
saved. What saved him? His wife saved
him. And about her, King Solomon said,
"The wisdom of women builds their
house." When on return from the meeting
of the rebellion's leaders, he was angry
and speaking to himself, "We'll show
them. We won't give up. We'll act. We'll
do something. His wife heard him and
asked, "What are you going to do?" He
told her, "Did you see?" Moses put all
the people there in that meeting against
Moses. And he appointed his brother as
the high priest. There's justice in the
world. We won't give up. The wife of who
didn't want him to go knew if she told
him, "I won't allow you to go." He would
respond, "You don't run my life. I'm
going." She didn't oppose him directly.
Instead, she asked, "Tell me, my dear
husband, if Aaron becomes the high
priest as Moses once, what will your
role be?" "Where will you be in the
picture?" he answered. "But I'm used to
being who I am. But if Korak becomes the
high priest, what does that change?" she
asked. "Nothing. I'm who I am. So if you
don't gain anything from this, are you
sure you want to get involved? What's
the point? She spoke to him in such a
way that he started to understand,
though it was difficult for him to step
back due to his male ego. He finally
said, "Yes, but I've already promised
them. There's a big demonstration soon.
I'm supposed to give the main speech
against Moses. All the leaders of the
rebellion will come to take me. We've
set the time. It's awkward. If I don't
go, they'll say I'm backing down. She
said to him, "That's the problem. You're
worried about what they'll say. Leave it
to me. I'll handle it so you come out of
this without any trouble." She managed
to persuade him so that he agreed, but
it was uncomfortable for him. She told
him, "All right, now come and have
lunch."
She served him several glasses of fine
wine, and after he drank, his head
started to spin. So he went to
sleep. As soon as he fell asleep, she
sat at the entrance of the tent. They
were in the desert sitting in tents. She
sat at the entrance, removed her head
covering, and began to comb her hair. In
those days, everyone wore head
coverings. The distinguished men who had
invited on Ben Pelle to be the main
speaker at the demonstration came to
take him. He was an important man and
they wanted to bring him to the protest.
When they arrived at the entrance of his
tent, they recoiled. A woman was sitting
there without a head covering combing
her hair. It was like today when a woman
is bathing. Who would enter in such a
situation? Back then, everyone was very
particular about modesty. They said,
"Well, how long does it take to comb
hair? 10 minutes, 5 minutes, 3 minutes?
Let's do a loop and come back." They
made a round and came back. She was
walking from right to left, then back
again, forward, forgetting to finish
combing her hair each time they passed.
The public was waiting there. Eventually
they said, "All right, we'll give up on
on Benben Pelle and find someone else."
When everyone was swallowed by the
earth, on Ben Pelle and his family were
saved. Who saved
them? The wife. She directed him in the
right direction. He was headed in one
direction, but she steered him in the
right one. On the other hand, who was
the folly that destroyed the family?
Kora's
wife. She was the one who pushed him
into rebellion against Moses. The sages
say that his wife persuaded him. She
said to him, "What is this? Why is he
appointing his brother? You're a cousin
and more
important." She gave him a long speech
about why he was more important than
Aaron and why he should be the leader.
When she persuaded him, he went out to
fight against Moses. That's why the
sages say that a woman has incredible
power and can influence her husband's
opinions, the education of their
children, and the direction their lives
take. Does it depend on the
husband? Yes. But the woman has a lot of
power in the area of peace at home.
Sometimes a man feels humiliated due to
the criticism from his wife. She
criticizes him and points things out.
When asked why all the criticism,
there's a beautiful answer today.
Constructive
criticism. It's important to know how to
give constructive criticism. But
compliments are even more important.
Compliments build more than criticism.
This applies to both child rearing and
when you need to point something out.
There are rules for how to point things
out, how to talk. Start with praise.
Generally, when someone is criticized,
they feel they are being viewed
negatively. This is true for both women
and men. But men find it harder to
accept criticism than women. Women by
nature are more flexible. The sages say
that a woman is given extra
understanding. Why does a girl at the
age of 12 and a half already have to
observe
commandments? If she makes a vow, her
vow is binding. A boy only at the age of
13 is obligated. A 12-year-old boy's vow
does not hold because he doesn't fully
understand what he's doing. The sages
say that this is because a woman's
understanding matures faster both in
logic and wisdom because she matures
quicker. God says, "I trust you at the
age of 12 and a half while for a boy he
says only at the age of 13." So on the
one hand extra understanding is given to
a woman to the point that the sages say
when a person has doubts or questions
they consult their wife. The Gamarra
says that Rabbi Eleza was told that the
position of president of Israel had
become vacant and they wanted him to be
the president. He said to them I will go
and ask the king and my wife. Today if
you told a member of Knesset we want you
to be president. He would say, "I'm
going to consult with my wife." He went
to ask his wife. "Why?" "Because she has
extra
understanding. She notices details that
I might
miss." He asks her, "What do you
think?" They offered me this position.
And she says, "There are two points you
should check before accepting." He
checks and sees everything is in order.
So, he accepts the role. But she sees
things that I don't notice. Extra
understanding. On the other hand, the
sages say that women's minds are
lighter. This means that their
conclusions are flexible. In today's
Hebrew, there is wisdom, understanding,
and knowledge. Wisdom is information.
You have a lot of knowledge. You become
a wise person. But that doesn't mean
you're discerning. A wise person has
learned a lot, has experience, and has
gathered details. Discerning is
something else. You can use the
information you have in your mind,
observe things, and build a new idea.
Just like building physically is
construction. Understanding is mental
construction. The Hebrew letter Yud
symbolizes spiritual progress, and it
represents mental understanding. A woman
has more understanding than a man. She
notices details that he might overlook.
A man might be excited about a business
deal that seems very successful and he
tells his wife. She brings up points he
hadn't thought of and suddenly he sees
the whole thing collapse. He hadn't
noticed those details. The sages also
say that a woman is good at recognizing
guests. When a guest arrives at the
house, the man might be very impressed
with him, but the woman with her keen
eye can notice
nuances. Therefore, someone who wants to
start a business with a partner, a
person, a partnership. It is not
recommended from the beginning. Business
is better without a partnership. Handle
it alone. Usually, partnerships end in
disagreements, divisions, fights, and
anger. If there's no choice but to form
a partnership, even then you should
write everything down in the contract up
front. Then even though you trust your
friend, you should still write
everything down. Make a contract, every
detail as if you're about to have a
dispute. Don't feel uncomfortable saying
this because I want to avoid
disagreements. I'm writing everything
down. If you decide to enter into a
partnership, tell your partner before we
sign the deal, come over to my house for
lunch. Before he arrives, tell your
wife, "Today, the person I want to
partner with is coming. When he arrives
and sits down, turn on the X-ray. You
have an X-ray vision in your mind. Check
him out and tell me what you think about
him. Is he honest, loyal? If yes, go
ahead and do business with him. If not,
don't. The woman has extra understanding
even in
relationships. A man wants to get
married and a woman wants to get
married. They bring him in to meet the
parents. This means asking the mother,
"Please host and give me feedback later
about your impression of the person."
They have extra understanding. They have
perception. A woman is good at
recognizing guests. Koratra's wife
caused him great disputes. Why? Because
she had flawed character traits. Her ego
and pride ruined his life. A woman who
knows how to uplift her husband, but
with compliments in private, not to stir
conflict with others, who knows how to
praise him, and even when she needs to
correct him, knows how to do it in a way
that maintains his dignity. The sages
say that out of 10 aspects of speech
that came into the world, nine were
taken by women. Today, studies show that
the speech center in the brain is more
developed in women. What a man can say
in one sentence, she can turn into 10
sentences without a single unnecessary
word. You are amazed by this talent. And
why did she receive this talent? Because
when raising children, you need to speak
a lot in order to build the child. You
need to know how to soften your words. A
man speaks briefly. For example, the
father might say, "Do this, do that."
But the mother knows how to soften it,
to preface her words, to end with words
of encouragement, to give him motivation
to change, to inspire him to do what
needs to be done. So women were given
the talent of speech. A woman should
remember that the speech talent she was
given should not only be used for
children but also toward her husband. If
I want to highlight something to him, I
shouldn't speak right away. But I should
start with kind words, begin with
praise, tell him how much I appreciate
him, how important he is to me. If
there's only a small thing that bothers
me, I shouldn't say, "You're wrong.
You're bothering
me." As if it's my personal
struggle. It would help me a lot if you
could go along with me on this. A man
loves to support his wife. But if she
tells him, "You're wrong." He feels hurt
1,000 times more than a woman would feel
humiliated. No one likes to be
humiliated or belittled. But with men
there is this male ego and the hurt can
be devastating. It can push him away
from his wife or he might go to war to
prove that he is important in the home
or he may shut down completely. A woman
can extinguish her husband entirely with
too much criticism, too many remarks. He
might feel that he is living his own
life and doesn't want any connection
with her. He does what is necessary at
home just to avoid divorce. But if she
becomes miserable and he becomes
miserable, it becomes very difficult to
get marriage counseling. Women when
there are problems at home have no
problem going for
counseling. But it is very difficult to
convince a man to go to counseling
because he feels that if they tell him
to go, it means that he is not
successful, that he's a failure, and
he's not willing to admit that.
Therefore, the rule is always that when
a woman wants to suggest marriage
counseling to her husband, she should
not say, "You have a problem. Let's go
for counseling." There is no way he will
agree in such a
situation. She should say, "You are
perfect. I have a problem. Let's go
together so they can guide me on how to
behave." Now, he might say, "Okay, I
agree to come." Although that's not
guaranteed, but there is a chance. If a
man feels that his wife is criticizing
him to fix him, he will rebel. If you
are coming to fix me, what does that
mean? Am I a broken tool? Who needs to
fix a broken tool? I'm not broken. I'm
not damaged. That's how he feels.
Therefore, one must know how to wisely
direct things, how to lead. And the
woman, as we said, is like the neck that
directs the head. The head may look one
way, but the neck determines where it
goes. And the head will see a different
picture. A person standing by one window
may see trash, while standing by another
window, they may see a beautiful view.
It depends on where they are looking.
Looking from here, they see trash. But
looking from there, they see a beautiful
view. The woman has the power to guide
and redirect. This is so powerful that
the sages say that if a person pays
attention, they will discover that all
the Jewish holidays, all the festivals
we have in the Torah, and even
rabbitical decrees such as Hanuka and
Purim are all thanks to women. Let's
start with Hanukah and Purim. Hanuka,
everyone knows the Mcabes defeated the
Greeks and drove them out. How did it
all begin? The story reveals evidence
from those days. Matiyahu, son of
Yannan, the high priest, was pained
because the Jewish people were
abandoning Torah and mitzvot due to the
decrees of the Greeks. They decreed that
Jews should not study Torah, not
circumcise their children, and not keep
Shabbat, and anyone who did so would be
killed. Gradually, people began to
stray. And without Torah, the Jewish
people were falling apart. What keeps
the Jewish people intact is only the
study of Torah. What distinguishes a Jew
from a non-Jew? Violence, Torah, and
commandments. This is what makes us
unique. This is what preserves the
generations of the Jewish people.
Antiocus decreed that this would not
happen. Everyone felt a sense of
weakness. What could you do? You could
fight against war elephants and an army
of trained soldiers, an enormous army.
Greece had conquered all the nations one
by one. Who could fight against the
Greek Empire? It would be suicide from
the start. But Yehudit, the sister of
Judah Makabe and the other brothers, was
the one who awakened them. She said,
"How can you be indifferent? Look at
what is happening to the people of
Israel." And she didn't just speak. She
took action. When the Greeks saw her,
she said, "Take me to the
commander." She risked her life. She
served them food, including cheese,
pretending she was defecting to their
camp, and she was the daughter of the
high priest, a message to the Greek
commander that he should take the
daughter of the high priest for himself.
She risked her life, gave him wine, and
when everyone dispersed, and only the
two of them remained, he fell asleep.
She beheaded him and brought his head to
the camp of Israel. They placed it on
the wall. The Greeks woke up in the
morning, saw the Jews coming at them,
approached the commander's tent, and saw
him without a head. This marked the
beginning of salvation for the people of
Israel. This woman Yehudit is why many
people eat dairy foods on Hanukah in
memory of she fed the enemy. Purim who
was
responsible. Queen Esther risked her
life by entering before King Aaseras.
She went through the whole process with
him. And in the end, Hmon, who was the
king's most trusted official, was given
the king's signate ring and sent to
hang. She said, "I will go before the
king." And told Mordeai to gather all
the Jews in Shushan to fast for three
days, day and night. I and my maid
servants will also fast. She said, "Then
I will approach the king, but first add
merit for me." She was the one who
stirred the Jewish people to
repentance. She was the one who risked
her life. And to this day, we celebrate
Purim because of her. Passover, Sukkot,
and Shavat, the three holidays that
commemorate the Exodus from Egypt. The
Jewish people left Egypt thanks to the
righteous women of that generation. As
the sages say, they did not say this to
flatter women. If they said it, it means
it is true. It is written that in the
future, the redemption will come because
of women. The entire fertility of the
Jewish people in Egypt when the men were
despondent happened thanks to the women.
When Moses built the tabernacle, it is
written that women brought the mirrors
they used for personal grooming to give
them to Moses to make the bronze labor.
The mirrors of those days were not like
today's glass mirrors with silver
plating. They were polished copper,
metal, and bronze.
When they brought them to Moses, he
rejected them, saying that they were
vanity, external beauty, and he didn't
want to take them for the
tabernacle. But God told him, "Take them
and make the labor out of them, for
peace and reconciliation between a man
and his wife. These mirrors are precious
to me." In Egypt, when the Jewish men
were enslaved, they were discouraged,
and they had no desire to be with their
wives. They only cared about their work.
The women would sit under the apple tree
as it says in Song of Songs, and they
would take their mirrors, show them to
their husbands who were broken and
despondent, and say, "Look at me. Who is
more
beautiful?" This revived them, and thus
children were born, and the continuity
of the Jewish people was preserved. God
told Moses, "Why do you reject these
mirrors? The entire future of the Jewish
people is because of them. Take them and
make the
labor. This is the power God gave to
women. King Solomon says, "A woman of
valor is the crown of her husband. A
woman of valor knows how to manage
properly. She is diligent, quick, loyal,
wise, and active. She's like a crown to
her husband. She lifts him to a level of
kingship. But a disgraceful woman, one
who should be ashamed of her actions and
her behavior, who is not acting
correctly, ruins him to the bone. Just
as a bone starts to decay from within
until the entire body collapses. Solomon
illustrates how a woman on the one hand
can elevate her husband, can build up
her children, who will be properly
educated with the example of a wise
mother, who knows how to act without
insults or
degradation. There are women who
struggle in life and vent all their
frustrations on their children. And
these children grow up without
self-confidence and joy in life. Even
when they marry, their behavior toward
their wives is poor because of what they
saw at home. But a wise woman knows how
to manage her children, how to
compliment them even when there's
criticism without humiliation and
degradation and without generalizations
like, "Oh, you're always like this. You
are always
unsuccessful. You are always breaking
things you never learn." Why say this to
the child? A child is not always like
that. He has many virtues. A wise woman
knows how to praise the child for the
qualities he has and guide him in areas
where he might be wrong. She knows how
to direct him, telling him, "Act like
this. Don't act like that. This is
right. This is wrong." Encouraging him,
complimenting him, lifting him up, and
building him for life. So far, this is
the simple explanation of the verse. A
woman of valor is the crown of her
husband, but she who causes shame is
like rottness in his bones. And with
this, King Solomon intended to teach
through a parable. Let's see what the
parable means. The parable is true.
We've spoken many times about the idea
in the book of Proverbs. Rashi writes
that you can learn from the parable and
the parable itself teaches you guidance
for life. But the true lesson is always
on a spiritual level. For example, in a
more physical context, the parable
conveys a spiritual message. So what
does King Solomon want to teach with
this parable? He is telling men what
kind of woman they should look for? Seek
a woman of valor. A woman who is
energetic, quick, loyal, and has good
traits is worthy of being called a woman
of valor. Let's read the words of Rabeno
Yona on this verse. Rabeno Yona lived
about 700 years ago. And in his
commentary on the book of Mishna, he
writes on this verse that Solomon wants
to warn men. In other words, Solomon
wants to warn men to be careful and
cautious when choosing a wife. Don't be
tempted by external appearances such as
a rich woman or a beautiful woman with
an impressive exterior. This external
allure might attract you but she might
be a disgraceful woman. You will only
suffer from her behavior. So why enter
such a
relationship? Look for a woman of valor
and your life will be better. This is
also guidance for women. Every woman who
wants to succeed in life should say to
herself, I want to be a woman of valor,
a woman with all the right virtues, who
knows how to speak, how to approach, to
be like the wife of Ben Pelle, so that
people will say about me, wise women
build their
homes. Don't be like the foolish woman
whose hands destroy her house, causing
conflict for her husband. A woman has
power over her husband. She can persuade
him to fight with neighbors or to argue
with his boss at work. But a wise woman
knows how to manage money, to save when
necessary, and to spend wisely. People
earn money, and there are those with a
good income, but they still rent because
they don't know how to save. They buy
everything they see. A wise woman knows
how to prepare delicious, nutritious,
and inexpensive meals. saving for the
future so they can buy a home and
accumulate the capital necessary to
later add a mortgage instead of paying
rent. Rent is like taking money from
your pocket and throwing it on the
street to the landlord. Make sure you
have equity. Even if you grew up in a
family where the financial situation
wasn't great, save, work hard, and
invest in
equity. At the base, you need to pay the
bank. Instead of paying rent, pay the
mortgage. So, it's like you're taking
money from your pocket and putting it
into the other pocket. Then there is the
interest of the bank and the bank's
profits or at least a person is
advancing in life and has his own house.
A lot depends on the woman. If the woman
is wasteful, doesn't know how to manage
money and can't save, then you can't
advance in life. Mymones in his guidance
to men on how to behave with their wives
writes that a man should honor his wife
more than his own body and love her as
his own body. He continues by saying
that if he has money he should increase
his kindness toward her according to his
wealth. This means that the correct
approach from the man is not to create a
suffocating atmosphere by questioning
her purchases. Why she bought this? why
she wants that or if she's
overspending. Sometimes buying is also
her therapy. It heals her soul. It makes
her feel good. But she should also be
self-aware, know when to pull back and
when to save in order to secure a
future. According to Meimmonades, the
man should give her the freedom to act
but also maintain balance knowing that a
woman can handle this if the husband's
attitude is proper. Now, what is the
parable? What did King Solomon want to
teach us? The Maharal says that a woman
of valor is a parable for the Torah. A
person who is blessed with the Torah,
goes to Torah classes, learns, and
becomes wiser. It's like something
external, like a woman of valor. But
when it becomes part of you, it crowns
you, like a crown on your head. When a
person learns Torah, the wisdom the
Torah grants him brings him to a state
where wherever he goes, he walks as if
wearing a crown. His friends who once
spoke to him about soccer now see that
he is full of content. They seek advice
from him because he always shares a
teaching from Pir Avot teaching them to
be a hero who conquers his desires. He
might give them advice on how to manage
arguments with his wife, saying, "Be
strong. Don't let the trivial things
affect you." This learning elevates him.
When a person complains or feels
envious, he can share the wisdom he
learned in Torah. He imparts this wisdom
to others. Even his friends who might
have once viewed him as average now
begin to appreciate him. Many times
young men share that when they were part
of certain social circles, they used to
talk about meaningless things. But now
that they are learning Torah, they feel
those conversations are shallow. They
start discussing wise matters and it
feels like returning to life, like a
fish returning to water. They realize
that the conversations they had before
were of low value. Now they've leveled
up. And this in essence is the crown of
her husband, the woman of valor, which
refers to the Torah. The Torah is the
crown of her husband, as King Solomon
described in his metaphor. In contrast,
someone who follows their own whims,
doesn't want guidance, doesn't want the
Torah to tell him what is permitted and
what is forbidden, how to behave
properly and how not to, and just wants
to do whatever comes to his mind. His
situation will ultimately be like
rottness in his bones, like something
that starts to decay and spread.
Sometimes you see a little bit of rot at
the edge, but if you leave it, the decay
spreads until the whole apple is rotten.
So too, a person whose character traits
are corrupted, even if at the beginning
he has many good
qualities over time, throughout his
life, he will discover how much he
loses. He becomes angry, doesn't work on
his character, and slowly discovers that
at first he had conflicts with his
parents, then with his friends, later
with his wife, and eventually with his
children. Everything in his life falls
apart like decay spreading and harming
him more and more.
Therefore, Solomon advises a person to
be wise from the start and to make Torah
study a
priority. Today, there are many ways for
a person to become wise in Torah, which
didn't exist in previous
generations. Imagine someone who, when
the Benshai, a great rabbi, was alive in
Baghdad, Iraq, wanted to hear a lecture
from him. In the past to hear from him,
you would have had to buy a ticket for a
ship, then take a train or a cart with
horses or camels, travel to Baghdad,
wait at the synagogue until he arrived
to give the lecture. But in our
generation, a person who wants not only
to hear but also to see Rabbi Oadia Ysef
can do so using technology that wasn't
available in previous generations.
We don't realize how fortunate we are
with the tools we have. A person can
through travel easily access any Torah
class they want with any Torah
scholar. But one should be
careful. There are those who post videos
of themselves online, but they don't
represent Torah. They may appear
outwardly like rabbis, but their
teachings contradict the Torah itself.
Therefore, when in doubt, always ask a
rabbi you trust. Ask if you should
listen to a particular speaker or not.
If you have doubts, ask a rabbi who is
knowledgeable and trusted. Is this
person accepted by the great Torah
leaders or are they just someone making
videos and spreading them without any
responsibility?
This week I was in Miami where one of
the community rabbis there shared with
me that there is someone in the area who
films himself, looks impressive and
quotes texts and verses from the
sages. To some this might seem like
Torah, but within that he suddenly
introduces nonsense and incorrect
teachings, including in areas like
marriage advice. He asked if it was
right for him to warn people about this
person. I told him not to name names,
but to speak about the fact that some
people do not represent the Torah and
that the community should use their
critical thinking. If what someone is
saying really aligns with the Torah's
teachings, and if a person hasn't
studied enough Torah, they should ask a
rabbi they trust for
clarification. When you see a person
whose teachings are supported by the
great Torah leaders, you feel that
everything they say is solidly based on
Torah itself.
Today it is possible to learn Torah
while traveling, at work, or in any
other way. We can always study Torah,
improving in matters of conduct,
character traits, laws, and ethics in
all areas of life. I end with a blessing
that this lesson be dedicated to the
success of the people of Israel and the
protection of the IDF soldiers wherever
they may