The importance of the sacred feminine

[Music] okay there's our first time going live with our new equipment the lapel mic and everything and we're really excited about this a long time in the coming and the media Club you should know everyone who's already given in the media Club thank you very much we've already hired two people and we have equipment so like o'mariay say yeah saying do I promised that if we got this media Club together I would hire the appropriate people to make this happen and get the right equipment so people would stop saying it's not loud enough for my commute so now because you're commuting should hear perfectly and we're also live on not only on Facebook we're live on YouTube and we come a day later for tour need time but that's ok cuz all 480 Jews get their news anyway a day late ok which is although the whole world got their news a day late I mean went and when did your a team get their news sorry when did the world get news the following day when the paper arrived so the radium's still get their news about 20 plus hours late which is fine because it was a real emergency you'd hear from your friend with a smartphone [Music] stream live on tour anytime oh really ok that's cool we'll add tour anytime you're right they do streamline oh so we'll go stream live stream on tour anytime as well please go and what else you just know if I make fun of her a team once in a while it's only because because it's really good to be able to laugh at yourself we learned on poram we learn on poram to laugh at ourselves and and that's the beauty of alcohol also the reason I don't trust people who don't drink alcohol is because they take themselves so darn seriously and if you can't laugh at yourself you're probably a loser ok why because you take yourself so darn seriously you just take yourself so darn seriously that it's just become you know what you become you become someone everyone has to deal with yeah how would you like like in the end to find out that you're just someone everyone has to deal with what a bummer would that be you know like your your kids are making weddings and they're like and they're like okay so let's divvy up let's divvy up mom - like who's gonna be in charge of mom you know and all your siblings are like figuring out who's in charge of you because you're such a liability at a sympho you know so anyway so with that in mind we all have to learn to laugh at ourselves it loosens us up it just makes us viable contenders for human interaction and and and what bigger joke is there than human human beings I mean we are we are the laughingstock of creation you know I mean we really are I mean look what we've done look what we've done I mean we've done horrendous we've done horrendous things we've done horrendous things but but we've also you know people do really funny stuff and and you do also and you're also you're like a misguided missile or something you know like like if you just left life up to up to you I mean you just wind up in so much trouble it's ridiculous we we we need mentors I mentor a lot of people but do you think I'm getting mentored you better believe it you hope so I'm I'm being heavily mentored and and and depending on the category I get mentored extra mounts because because like there's certain mentors who are good at particular categories more another and I find those people and I let them I let them whoop me you know whip me and get me into shape and I have to be you know and also I very much appreciate the beauty of going live this you people have no compunction than to comment you know so I get a lot of comments around the world some are from like serious bonito ara some are from Christians who don't like me very much and and though there's other ones who think I'm fine so I can't quite figure them out they have a lot of opinions and the but one thing that I just want to mention about the trolls the bullies online is is you should really think twice bullying me online I should be speaking their camera you should really be thinking twice about bullying me online let me explain why do you notice these yeah and this thing I may had the soup bowl yarmulke you know this isn't the token potato chip you might see at a university okay and and they and the bird's nest for a beard yeah and and the cosmic dental floss on the sides over here so let me just tell you something about all of those items those items are part of the observant community of the Jewish world which makes up maybe three percent of all Jews on earth and and so in other words 85 percent of Jews don't know their ass from their elbow when it comes to Judaism and then you've got the last fifteen percent and of that last fifteen percent you got about the three percent that are Jews like me and and let me tell you what they all have in common not paying any attention to you in fact being as in Soleri as possible and and completely cut off from all modernity so that perhaps they can maintain some level of purity in this crazy generation of ours I on the other hand take the risk of creating a portal from the world of Torah in real toward Judaism in Jerusalem I create a portal so that people can maybe see into it and maybe see a little beauty in there instead of just some news report of some like organ trafficker that looks just like me or something from New Jersey or something the but there's actually a beautiful world of super holy Jews here and I'm being a portal for them so if you don't agree with something I say for sure say so but don't get bullish yeah don't start bullying cuz enough that I you know I can hack it you know you can't take the heat get out of the kitchen I could take it but but it's not polite to do that to someone first I'm a rabbi have a little respect for clergy and and not too much though so you always have you can in Judaism you attack but with questions not the names you attack both with questions and you back up what you're saying when you say you know just throw it out there and but but lastly and most importantly is is don't don't take down your only portal your only vision into a 3331 year tradition by someone who's immersed himself for the last 28 years close to three decades in murk full immersion yet opening a portal for you to be able to experience these classes so that's not the guy you want to take out okay this is this is the guy you want to join his club which is called the ohm toke media club and even if you don't even if you don't join the ohm till media Club calm you're part of the club if you're watching this already so you're already in the club it's just you to be a serious member you get online and join it and help me get the word out as much as possible we've already hired thank God to people and and we're on new equipment which is really exciting because it was on my smartphone before which was a little irresponsible hello everybody let's go we're gonna do a little music there's a Mishnah that says that says a sailor Karev I forget who introduced the Mishnah who said it cuz you're supposed to say things in the name of the people who who knows this Mishnah by her she was human shell doc said a sailor from Robin can't wait girls know this by her I was human pure you're sure been prophet Rabi sure have been raffia Amir a Celica Roth he said that you should I said look arrived means and I can put on the board here's a pen I said no ha means you need a mentor you gotta have a mentor in your life you got a Rob means rabbi but you better get a mentor appoint someone to guide you and you should know by the way you can appoint someone temporarily let's say you found someone you say finally I found someone who could guide me and the person like you want me to guide you and they're like my guides today I've been with me for years and years and years I've got the same guides for decades now and that's a sailor kaurav and the next one by the way there's a plan words of this a sail aha Rob the word Rob also means abundance like great said make yourself great make yourself great but that's more of a play on words make yourself great it literally means you should find yourself a teacher and someone should be teaching you don't go it alone you know all those people who you know I did it my way yeah those guys wind up like Road pizza okay you don't do it your weight your weight your as I said before your way is trouble okay it's not gonna it's not gonna be helpful to do things your weight okay your way landed you in this glass now the what I want to say about one more thing about doing things your way oh did you know that no one climbs mount everest without a sherpa guide you have to you have to go up with it there's a tribe in the Himalayan mountains called Sherpas and you have to pay them a bunch of money and they take you up there it takes weeks to get there to get to the top but but you have to hire a Sherpa so what's harder to climb Mount Everest or life which one life's way artic if you trained and got yourself ready and went in the right season you got your Sherpa guide and you already did a couple 14,000 footers and and you're like you're ready you can do it life not sure you could do it not without guidance got it go through with the guide that's I say that far out the second one oh I killed the pin while I was doing that others some pins can I take a blue pen please thanks we're gonna switch color here Sankara oh it's not very good let's try that green pit let's try that red oh that's much better the next one is so that's a that's a good a teacher or mentor there okay which serie would call Chava I'm sure but today the house up here and that is a friend okay a friend is now here's the interesting thing that what's the word kanay what does I mean leak no it's cone a 2 by a choir - by it's really a language of buying - canal the house of air means to buy a friend tell me do any of you want to buy a friend who wants a friend that you bought yeah so the answer is you do all of us do you know why it's really deep teaching here but if you don't invest in friends they disappear you gotta invest in friendships they're not like siblings siblings you can you can even wrong them you know they're still your sibling they're still there at you know Thanksgiving or Passover and or whatever siblings our family is you know you should invest in family you certainly got invest in marriage and but and it's funny that we make a Kenyan in marriage what we don't do with our children we do with when we get married we make a opinion and the anyway but kinetic haha bear is as teaching you a deep lesson that if you want friends you gotta invest you got to get selfless and give to those friends and then you have friendship and we all know that every friendship that we stopped investing in is gone and so yes you do buy friends and but the way you buy friends might be investing your heart and by sharing with them and or letting them share so but that's how we do it that's how friends work and our sages just nailed it right there with that one and then the last one is one of the most important that's to judge favorably did I mention I stopped going to school when I was 11 years old can someone just tell me the next letter please I did yeah I did I'm one of those people there's a few people in the world were schools bad for them I did yeah yeah yeah there's certain people where if I promise all of you if I had gone to school all those years you would not be in here with me right now that is for sure that was good I went to a different school and I learned a lot a lot a lot a lot of things and and boy did I learned some great stuff and I share it all the time in fact I'm flying at Brooklyn next yeah I'm flying next week to Brooklyn but those who want to come to class next week I'll be here till Wednesday I'm flying Wednesday night anyone's come to Brooklyn I'm doing a couple things there I'm doing a big event in and I don't know yet somewhere in Borough Park I'm doing a big event Thursday night and and then I'm doing a shop atone in Borough Park that'll include I'll take out a shul lead Dominick and stuff and and there will be a book but uh for man Friday night and and then what else um I can do oh please God the possible use seminars coming to Brooklyn after over a year which is really weird but over a year the seminar is finally coming to Brooklyn men's seminar starts Sunday August 8th and the women starts Monday August 9th that's a real heavy experience very much worth being part of you did what I say I just filled you in a little more part of my dropping out of school when I was 11 right there September September 8th women start September 9th and which is ll 9th this year thank God that makes life easy and what does I want to tell you oh is you can look it up online it's called the possibly org thank you yeah that's what I want to say is that I'm flying the next javis I'm doing a Chaba tone in Stamford Hill in London and and I'll be in London running out the first time ever the possible you in London which is amazing and that's gonna be something yeah that's a big deal and people ask me why in the world would I do that why would I go to London to run the possible you the possible you basically deals with the five deepest fears of humanity the five deepest fears of humanity are are in order their rejection failure being controlled the unknown and pain suffering so these are the five fears of human beings meaning it's these are the brakes meaning your brakes in your car see I know all of you think you're driving with your foot on the gas pedal which you are but what you're not letting anyone know and perhaps you don't even know it yourself because you've been slowly sliding when no one's looking you slide your left foot over you press the brakes at the same time and the results you get in your life are really not from your greatness here's what you get a life for really the leftovers a sure ayam as we call them it's the sure i''m of what your fears let actually come out it's like when my daughters make cakes they ice the cake afterwards and then decorate it and they have all these different shapes I have a whole tool chest of shapes that they that they squeeze out of these piping bags to make shapes and they like to show me the shapes like here's a flower or here's a fence or here's a tree you know they make they make these shapes but being Who I am you know what I see all I'm seeing on the cake is what that shape at the end of the bag let out it's the left it's whatever it let out because the shapes job was to keep it in and so what I see is the leftovers of what's inside the icing bag and we you know what you you know who sit in your chair right now whoever your fears let plop out of the icing of your life and the scariest thing about that is that none of the fears are real none of them are real the ones on the board none of them are real because if you ever want a meaning rejection forget about like everyone's scared about rejection that means the person you're talking to is just as scared as you are so why are you bothering and failure is is and check out any successful person they fail many many times so how could how could your fear of failure hold you back when the successful people have failed over and over and over again you have to learn to chew on the fad of failure failure is good for you that how are you gonna learn anything without family and that was just part of my these are part of my years by the way out in this this treats basically from 11 years old was was I had a lot of walls running around out there and I've got to learn that I had I got to learn that parents place parents and communities and societies place the walls way before the walls are reached and so the second you leave the walls that society put second you leave there suddenly your instincts are gone you're out of your depth you don't know what is going on when really you were should have been on solid ground it's just that you're so scared of death that you freeze and so you wind up just leftovers whatever your fears leave over is who you become and the control like good luck having a society where someone's not in control controls good yeah you need someone in charge of a school system you need someone in charge of government you need someone in charge of community we need these people I would never want to be one of those people but but those people are absolutely necessary if we're gonna get anywhere in this world we need cops we need jails we need we need judges and law enforcement and and the these are necessary things that we need God and God's in control of everything so you're gonna spend your whole life trying to like stay out of other people's control you're gonna have a lousy life and I definitely learn that one yeah because I was under nobody's control about 12 years and who I've learned to appreciate structure okay the unknown you know no one knows what's out there but for you to sit here and stay indecisive about things I even saw some girls who couldn't decide whether they were coming into this class and we're blocking the door for good like three minutes and and like but we can all sit there in life and just let life choose for us because we're so afraid of the option that either option might end up in disaster but you got to just choose and make your best choice and put all of yourself into things last is pain and suffering besides just wearing seatbelts and helmets at the appropriate times you know what why would you worry about that take it be careful use general precaution and go for it God will save you you know the first time I surfed a 25-foot wave do you know what a 25-foot wall of water looks like a little hard to describe if you saw it coming at you you would say it was bigger than 25 feet even though it really only measured 25 feet but the first time I surfed a 25-foot wave it was first of all it was in a jungle in Indonesia where nobody could hear you scream it was it was I had been riding for an hour and a half on the sand on a you know on a motorcycle is 18 years old by myself in Indonesian jungle I'm riding by myself for an hour and a half on a motorcycle down a sand beach when I discovered this wave it was so far away that I couldn't really see it the only reason I knew that it was a surf spot at all was there's a few other motorcycles with empty board surfboard bags on the on the sand which means there's surfers out there and so because it was so far out it was breaking about three-quarters of a mile into the ocean so then I paddled three-quarters a mile under the ocean now the Sun was setting at the time and the surfers I saw each of them get these massive waves I was like oh my gosh like amazing so happy to join them as well because you kind of it's nice to have a surfer to mark the spot where you're supposed to sit to catch the waves except what happened when all the surfers caught their waves cuz the Sun was setting they went all the way into the beach so I was by myself and now it was getting dark and there's like building-sized waves coming through like literally like three storey building sighs waves coming through and and that's where I learned to ride 25-foot waves and I stayed out there till I couldn't see in front of my face because the waves were just so awesome and and the white water always kind of shows up white the white water splashing you know the the washing machine you can see that a bit and you just kind of surf from instinct because you sense the wave under you and that's how I did it and just since I'm on that story I get back to my motorcycle put my board in the bag just wrap the bag around me you know around my shoulder and start riding I run out of gas and next thing I know I'm getting attacked by mosquitos to the point where I couldn't even see the white of my skin so I had to jump into the ocean to get the mosquitoes off and then jump out and run till I was covered again and then jump in the ocean but I had taken malarial malaria pills and stuff for the trip and and then and I just kept going like that into the night in the jungle and eventually made it back to to my little tree house where I was staying with Tiger tracks on the beach every morning so so I lived to tell about it and now how many of you would go for that so everyone raised their hand which was very few of you are gonna get places yeah you guys are gonna get places in life because because Hashem is running the show God's running the show and as long as you take general precaution your your you're gonna be perfect okay now the last one is judged favorably and for various reasons when you see someone doing something that you don't like figure you got to just figure there's a good reason you can always figure there's a good reason if you turn off that AC and we'll just get rid of that when it's it's just getting to be a meat locker here we're all gonna like live longer in here thank you so judging favorably is is how I mean it's so often the case that let's say I go in the mikveh you know I'm a big mikvah guy and for those who don't know Hasidic Jews spend every day naked with all of their neighbors [Music] anyway the years ago there was this guy in our mikvah and you know Israel is a desert and we need our rain and we need the canary and and the Canaris the the how do you call that the CI CF type be the sea of the Galilee it's our drinking water but there would always be this like this big party guy and he would use the shower for like 40 minutes and he'd be like brushing his teeth in the shower there's a public shower you know you spend his ten shekels to get in and then spent like 50 shekels on water in there and he's just like brushing his teeth under there and and I would not enjoy my time there cuz and I actually I've taken less showers over the years because of him because I'm making up for the water that's missing from our you know our water source and and but maybe he was like a youngest son who never got enough of anything you know like stuff didn't quite trickle down in a poor big family big family not a lot of money very little trickle down coming down the youngest kid and he's finally got a chance to take a shower and he's just gonna like milk it for all he's got you know he's you can let every last drop of water come out of that canary and who knows what his story is know who knows what's going on with that guy and then I go in the water and there's some ball chumma and they're doing like I know what he's doing in there like water aerobics and so you know he's up and down and but now the whole water is going like really up and down and every time I try to come up from air for my ritual bath the wave goes over my heads so now I'm like drowning inside the mikveh and you know I just want to like give him like a sidekick and just pin him to the wall for a second just to get some air in this make fun but perhaps it's the case that perhaps it's the case that he's had a bad injury or something and the doctor said that this is the only way you're gonna rehabilitation you need to be have your bodyweight suspended while you get your strength back maybe that's what's going on in there there's no way to know there's no way to know you know another guy in the mikveh in the changing room he locks he has a little block and he locks his flip-flops to the to the bench but you know once in a while you run into those guys flip-flops and I don't touch this guy's flip-flops you know the rest of us bring our flip-flops like he's got to lock his flip-flops to the bench and but who knows maybe this guy had like some terrible foot fungus and that and the doctors like you know you gotta wear flip-flops seems like I got flip-flops but sometimes I forget him and the doctors like you can never forget him in you gotta wear flip-flops every time you know maybe if I lock him to the bench so you never know what's going on with people you just never know and I'm sure every single one of us could tell story after story after story of where we thought something was the case when it wasn't you know and what was that famous story of the maybe went viral as a video I forget what it was but it was like someone was sitting in a cafe either drinking their coffee or eating their ice cream sorry someone else was eating their ice cream and they just couldn't believe someone was eating their ice cream and they were like getting so upset they finally like just couldn't believe it as in him and the person find that gets up moves their paper and and sees that underneath their paper was his own ice cream and really this person had been eating his own ice cream and the other guys ice cream was under this newspaper so so like this we all have crazy stories like this I leave my house on Chavez and I'm in my streaming and I wear one of these big four round hats and you know and I'm like in the long robe and and I leave my house on Shabbos and I'm excited you know and it's Chavez and I'm saying good Chavez to everybody but I walk into my house and what do I see I see a tattooed body pierced chain-smoker who's some guy smoking cigarettes out on the street right outside my house now had I lived that guy's life if I had his brain his family structure his freaked-out upbringing his everything meaning if I lived that guy's life like the whole equation you know the entire equation of his life what would I be doing right now I mean I'd be that guy smoking cigarette on Shabbos outside the house full of tattoos and had he lived my whole life he'd be this rabbi coming out of his house on Shabbos so to judge somebody is as if you would have made a different choice you couldn't have made a different choice because if you were them that is the choice you made so everybody is all of us I mean who are you who sit in your chair right now if not the sum total of all the mathematics sibling order community who your father was your brain make up your IQ your everything all of that is inside of you and that whole long equation of everything you've ever been through has an equal sign and on the other side of that equal sign is you on your chair right now and I know you would wish that people would accept you you wish people would judge you favorably and so anyone you might have judged anyone you might have judged is that person you're just seeing the other end of a long equation and therefore don't judge nobody and I tell you this is particularly hard I hate to admit this this is like know I always get too personal but I'm getting too personal now but I'm going there anyway the this is this is one of the painful things of living in Israel Jews who live tour in Israel especially the ones who aren't from here their home being in Israel is connect first of all you're in your ancestral land and aligning your life with the ancestral heritage of our tribe called the Jewish people and it just seems so darn obvious that that's the right way to go it just seems so obvious I mean the writing's on the wall I mean even as I teach this class like and literally I don't know if you can turn the camera a little bit if it would go so if you can focus it out the window but like we're standing we're right outside the Temple Mount here will it focus on over there oh you can't you don't know how to play with that like never mind never mind so anyway we're right outside the Temple Mount here you know like is it not obvious that God kept us for millennia in exile brought us back in six days we had the six-day war and returned to our biblical borders and and got back the most important site the most holy site of central to our people and not only to our people but to the globe it's like so obvious so they're so judging favorably just when you see Jews in the land who don't do any of this stuff many Jews who are like they're trying to like surgically reinstall their foreskins uni they can't do enough Gentile lifestyle things like nothing's enough like they can't be more Gentile again they're trying so hard to be like the like to run as fast as they can and as hard as they can in the opposite direction of Judaism so you've got to somehow figure out how they have turned a blind eye to God's hand in our destiny that is culminated in this very day this day right now 2019 or whatever the Hebrew date is of this year fifty seven seventy-nine like you have to be like you have to not look around you have to be asleep completely or or willfully blind yourself it's called willful blindness and it's how do we judge that favorably how do we judge that favorably and they sometimes look at me hatefully and least until I open my mouth and they realize they got the wrong guy but sometimes they look at me kind of hatefully like like I'm I'm somehow bringing up some guilt or I represent something that's that's like taking us back in time instead of forward something that that's embarrassing for them and no not you know in the high-tech world where Israelis are the cutting edge I'm some kind of embarrassment like they're trying to show in Israel that's like Silicon Valley and I'm showing it Israel that's ancient and it's a little embarrassing for them I don't know what it is exactly going on but you can shut that we know them so so how do we judge favorably and the answer is I guess I already said the answer the answer is is that because if I were them I'd be doing the same thing if I were watching those news stations if I was watching the commentaries of the secular media if I had if I had you know these black hat people trying to take their slice of the pie financially from my community I guess that's one way as if I were them I'd be doing the same thing no I'm just saying how can I get through the day without being upset without being upset by it I just don't want to be upset enough time we're right in wrong right now I just I'm about being upset because things that are obvious to me are not obvious to them yeah that's okay so was the guy with the tattoos and the body piercings and smoking on Chavez that equation was wrong but but I can least relax around him so I don't know I don't know what to do exactly because I want to feel better about it and I so blew it the other night I was sitting in a restaurant with my in-laws and I should not have blown it in front of my in-laws but I did and the they had loud rock and roll music and it was the countdown - it was during the nine days coming up - tisha Bob and it was an issue you know I wouldn't say anything to a restaurant playing music when we're forbidden to hear you know Jewish people aren't allowed music in that week we're just we're Jewish and it's forbidden music just during that time and because we're it's the culmination of the destruction of the temple that that kind of last countdown comes without any more music and and I shouldn't have said anything probably yeah I've normally wouldn't but but it was too loud to hear each other and it was you know here we are you know we were spending I was spending like I don't know maybe seven eight hundred shekels here to this business otherwise known as a restaurant and but then I looked around and I saw no one can hear each other and then I looked around and realized everyone in the restaurant had to keep on their head all the men were observing all the women were observing and it was just an entire room of men and women and children all of whom would never play music right now and if you do the math it's thousands of shekels that our that we're all sitting there that are going straight into this business so I decided to get up and say something and so I asked for the manager of the restaurant and there was already I should have got this because there was already smoke coming out of her ears as soon as I mentioned music but i but I realized that maybe I shouldn't ask her to turn it off when I saw the smoke so I went easy and I said if you just turn it down a conversation level that'd be great and she says oh no it's Thursday night here like this is like this this is quiet for Thursday night I said well we can't hear each other and she's like no so then I decided to mention like listen look around the room here everyone's observant in this room none of us are allowed music here and we're not even allowed to listen to this music or anything so when he'd just turn it down at least you know so it's not really so loud and and she's like no and and then ice but that wasn't where I blew it here's why I blew it I said you're not allowed to hear this music either she exploded she exploded in a way that a woman could only explode like that if she was raised observant and has thrown it all off meaning I unplugged something I mean I I took a cork off of something that was not from a girl raised secular this was I employ I in court something that was raised observant and since I'm on that subject something else interesting happened the other day is I was in a situation where where I had to be interacting with a bunch of people and the women were not dressed very modestly to say the least and I had to interact with them as you know rabbi I was brought to this place so you ready for this is the craziest thing and had to interact with all of it was a mixed group but I had it be in interaction with each one and they were really dressed like a super not not a little not nice super not last and so and so here I was in this situation but here's the crazy thing is that some of them were super friendly so we're just super friendly and very connective and some of them were like they not there was a whole they were like every couple ones could not look me in the eyes they couldn't look me in the eyes and when they were supposed to me like everyone had to meet the rabbi so when I met them they were like looking everywhere but to me and they were like could not get out of the conversation quicker like they just needed whatever they had to deal with had to happen you know for whatever they were part of some camp for what it was and and I was the rabbi and those I had to like find out a little about each person and and they could not look at me so what did I find out later that all the ones that were totally connected were a secular and all the ones that could not look at me were raised totally observant and they just their their their inner humiliation to be standing in front of a church to me as a compliment that I'm someone that that your your sense of shame grows if I'm in contact with you like that which is which is it that means there's that because it's not it's not just the look it's there's there's some something holy is happening and I'm and there's something not holy in me and I'm getting embarrassed now and ashamed of myself but it was weird because it was totally on their turf this was like loud live music playing and it was a whole event and it was for them to just party and and I was like part of the entertainment of it and the that there was so much shame for them and it was such a truth serum from what was really going on for these girls you know I mean it was like it really it really told you what's going on in that they're not happy with this they're they've bought into something they're getting over some issue maybe with their mother and this isn't acting out of some kind or some way of dealing with the pressure of grandparents from maybe the post-war you know very observant grandparents and they're just they're suffering these people are suffering and they can't even connect and anyway but but all of us have to learn how to work through our stuff without having to act it out like a sign of maturity is to work through your stuff once you're acting out your stuff that's not that's not you it's not authentic doesn't ring true if you can't look somebody in the eyes with with who you are and how you're representing in this world if you can't look someone in the eyes and stand firm your place and be connected like that then you're probably acting something out right now you got to feel comfortable in your own skin yeah you mind coming up for this question and starting again yeah it's just people always want more people on this it's just you know the reason the other reasons we'll lapel mic ya know so now you can hear me so use that introduce yourself my name is michael adams is a pleasure i'm the student in age and it was one of my teachers so he posed really good questions like how do you deal with people that are different than you you know sometimes they have tattoos sometimes their piercings and they're not what you're used to and one of our rabbis here rabbit Hurwitz he always loves the answer and what was the answer love is the end yeah he was just saying that the other day it's so true so when you look at someone and and and they're different than you and when you're trying to judge favorably to really be empathetic and understand who they are what they're doing and they come from a place of love and understanding and not a place from attack and why are you doing this to me but make it about them and then everything will go better so I like that you know my brother wrote a song called love and understanding such a great no but I'm willing to learn it learn it what's up yo so everything's good okay let's let's do the song you ready I blew the intro here we go you guys ready maybe I'll sing with me a little bit not expecting any of the seminary girls to sing and you shouldn't [Music] for you also for Oh could I read you guys something so amazing can I just read you guys something amazing check this out this is crazy I was I I'm connected to like tribal to like tribal leaders and stuff from the you know various places in the world like jungles and stuff so you know I speak in like panels as a rabbi I'm kind of like I said earlier I'm kind of out there in the world and sorry I just got to tighten my belt a notch I'm sure these two bubbles over here I like they're like give that guy a sandwich he's like he needs a good brisket sir sorry I apologize for being this thin I actually I'm covered in muscles I just have no body fat and it's Sunday Sunday's clean and our family we all cleanse on Sundays because we're super healthy house and but we're also very Ashkenazi when it comes to Shabbos meals and on Shabbat we eat all the schmaltzy foods and everything and you know the beef chillin and all that but but somebody loves themselves cleanses on Sundays cuz give your poor digestion a break after Shabbos right some day you don't want to eat solid foods on Sunday till maybe evening time anyway you shouldn't be eating that much anyway until you're hungry well I just forgot I have an appointment with someone I'm sorry I'm still teaching my class period but I'll be done really soon and I will call you period and a phone meeting with this Jew in New York he actually did our discovery program why did I pick up my phone oh yeah check this out so I was speaking in a panel of about 23 tribal leaders many of whom had never it been in Western civilization I mean when I spoke there were translators translating to tribal leaders in not in the dialect of their country but the dialect of their tribes like real tribal language that doesn't exist like for example there was tribal people from Brazil from the Amazon the the translator was not translating in Portuguese they're translating in a dialect from that jungle spot were there try this anyway so what had happened was it was a big thing we knew there were 800 people in the audience but the front was the leaders and I was speaking on behalf of the behalf of the Jewish tribe now they found out that my wife happened to be in America when I came in for this talk and they said if your wife could be there with you up on stage for this for this talk because it was a talk on what's called the Sacred Feminine Sacred Feminine is is a mystical tradition in every tradition especially in Jewish tradition and the the Sacred Feminine and that was what every tribal leader was gonna speak about the Sacred Feminine and what better thing than that have the rabbi's wife right there alongside of him for this experience right so check out this check out this email from my wife just pull this up real quick Sacred Feminine you know the crazy thing is this video didn't look at this oh my gosh this was a beautiful him another one she sent she's an excellent writer my way one sec sorry to do this from familiar [Music] she is so hardcore I got a say star that one I just found a email to me that's super long then I never read but I just she sends me this great emails today maybe this is it ok I think I found it so he's taking a while here okay I'm blowing this you guys are so patient I appreciate it [Music] maybe this [ __ ] okay here it is ready for this now this is my wife's response when I stood up in front of these 800 people coming around for like the nations of the world's tribal leaders speech about the Sacred Feminine my my I read this email instead instead of having my wife up there listen this she says yes but the power of this Jewish sacred feminine and the masculine one she empowers comes specifically from her hiddenness when she is on stage with the masculine it reduces his strength dividing into two what was better flowing from one especially because the one is meant to be the machiya in other words the male is supposed to be that is called the causative the male as the he's acting upon by the way females wear that masculine when you're cooking you're acting upon when you're feeding you're acting upon you're in the masculine believe it or not when you feed someone as a woman or a man feed someone as a man you're actually in the masculine by causing that was really strange because the most feminine thing in the world is to help sustain people yet that's the masculine while you're doing it [Music] I am certain period she's certain this is rocky waters for the world's traditions to hear she she knows the world's traditions are in front of me this is rocky waters for the world's traditions there especially at the sacred woman's festival the feminine is rising and when it finally comes honey miel Ponemah face to face with the masculine mushiya will be here as in toxic as intoxicating as it is to want to speed the rising through external motion meaning women being more external wisdom tells us that the real rising is from within and needs to be honored protected and protected to state within while it's developing which is she's that's she's hinting at giving birth it needs to stay within while it's developing sometimes expecting parents over there it is sometimes expecting parents just want to see their baby already and induce an early birth it is a mistake the most organic growth for the feminine happens within the masculine throughout history either through jealousy or lust has distracted the feminine from making her real rising reducing her body and psyche to the external women all women are meant to be on stage together and for its real power no men need to witness it the feminine is not something the masculine understands only one woman and one man together can create the sacred space if selflessly devoted which requires humility vulnerability and honesty and that will reveal to them the language of shared understanding the greatest pleasure the closest a person can come to the divine counterfeit sharing especially with it's dizzying pleasure remains counterfeit and can be identified by our need for more and more so I'll be there in the crowd meaning she'll be sitting amongst the 800 people out there so I'll be there in the crowd I'll find a good spot late lost shoulders shoulder in a sea of women happen to be a mixed crowd but no I don't think this conference would receive blessing from above if the divine presence the Sheena from Jerusalem was cheaply plunked on stage for all to behold the Serena will reveal herself when she knows it's right Serena means the divine presence the divine presence will reveal herself when she knows it's right Hashem God is running the show we just got to follow our ticket stub and sit where he wants us we know where will we know where we will see best sorry he knows where we will see best how's that for a message so I stood up in front of all the you clapping I mean my right with my wife's writings unbelievable and she actually wrote an eight hundred and fifty page book on the Jewish holidays from a woman's perspective I don't know if you realize this but all those bookstores with the holiday books they those are all written by men for women only women read those so all those holiday I don't read those books only women read these books they're always men written so my wife said how about a woman writes a book for women for the holiday books that the women aren't the only ones who read and and so it's called good Yom Tov and it's based on holiday every publisher is like you're not publishing an 850 page book so so far only thing out is Hanukkah and I think the next one's coming out of Shavuos but you shouldn't have a pen name she's just herself she's hidden but not that hidden her name is Leia Glaser and guess what the series is called it's called good young - good young - no no she's hidden her books you can get she wrote that she wrote yes she's an amazing honey she's from another planet she's from another planet yeah a lot of a lot of a lot of experiences she's grown a lot you know you know my wife became observant my wife became observant you got to hear this song and then you'll go hey my wife became observant and she she she used to be at weddings she used to be you know how girls will be on the mijita watching the men dance so those are like the pizza the myth Itza clingers yeah so so those are the girls that have been affected by they've been affected not everyone but a lot of them were women affected by feminism which is a non Jewish thing where where somehow men are like watching the men dances where it's at so we're gonna watch the men dance and my wife said it took her ten years of living in the Jewish world until she finally like I need a better a good word but like got her fingers out of that partition between the men and women at the wedding and like what's a good word for like extracted till she could extract her fingers from the partition between the men and the women dancing and go celebrate with her sisters and just dance the night away with the women she doesn't need to see a man dance she doesn't need to see the action on the men's side but just to dance with her sisters at the wedding so she said she was we were fully immersed in our Judaism for 10 years till she could finally start celebrating being a woman so we and we don't realize how much it affects us in these external forces that are foreign to our are people okay here we go [Music] we start with the first one here teacher right teacher you know that you're not gonna be right - every time you step across the line you might need a guide just to let you know which is the way that you want to be down it down Oh [Music] baby [Music] in translation get yourself a teacher burn yourself a friend judge all people charitably father's command [Music] you're gonna need someone to call upon the phone someone whose friendship is tried and true someone who just wants the best [Music] baby [Music] get yourself a teacher earn yourself a friend judge all people charity table this Rick [Music] last first gonna be times that you're doing things not so good for coating the P purchase being misunderstood throwing away the key [Music] maybe [Music] you guys want to try it get yourself a teacher burn your cell friend judge off people chair to be my father front row let's go get you earn yourself read you want to clap so let's clap off the beat okay we're not Persian [Applause] [Music] make yourself great thank you very much I've never taught a class with a guitar around my shoulder the entire time and just only played at the end those who've been watching us online please click on all the appropriate spots you know like the subscribe or the share whatever you're watching you know and get it out there send it to your friends click that click on the link and please join the media club calm and let's keep pumping this out there into the world okay and seminars Brooklyn New York you can fly in to people fly in every seminar Brooklyn September 8th and London September 15th I guess it is what Sunday ladies sunday is the 15th of September anyone know whatever size it'll be the 15th okay show them everybody [Music]