The Holiness Of Jewish Women - MUSSAR Iggeret HaRAMBAN (3)

[Music] all of the uh old faces all the young faces uh for uh everybody first of all I'd like to say thank you for coming the uh for a person to go to in this generation : at night you should already give yourself a round of applause because in this generation a lot of people are so busy trying to do so many other things that they forget that Torah is the foundation for your life it's the instruction set many of us grew up not even realizing that t is even relevant to our day-to-day life so the uh series that we're doing on Tuesday night that we started about a month ago is uh called anyone who doesn't have a book you should just grab one it's free it's a letter of the ranad who wrote a letter to his son almost 900 years ago his son was still in Spain and uh the ran was in is he uh won a debate in Barcelona against the Christian church and and uh showed them that their entire religion of Christianity is completely fake anyone that wants to see the entire debate after the debate was completed the ramban wanted to make sure that is could always use this information to verify that Judaism is the only true religion Torah is the only book from God and most importantly everything else is considered 100% idolatry with the exception of Islam which is not idolatry but it's still considered heresy it's still considered that their enemies of God because of how they misinterpret the Torah but nonetheless the ramban asked the church questions or presented questions to the church that until this day almost 800 years later no one can answer and the reason why is because by answering them you pretty much nullify the entire chrisan religion you destroy it completely and in order to answer those questions you pretty much have to ad the Christianity is complete falsehood nonsense now after the church saw that the ramban beat them after a 4-day debate they still wanted to push their power on the Jewish people and intimidate them and pretend as if they won the debate but the ramban obviously did not sit quiet and he published all of the answers that he said in the debate and after the the church saw that that he's doing it they uh pretty much put out a uh bounty on his head and he had to flee the country he had to flee and he went at the age of 70 uh he went to is which it's not like today going to is if any of you want to go to is you just go on to an internet buy a ticket and tomorrow within about 15 to 20 hours you're in in those days there was no such thing you would simply go on a donkey and hope you're going to survive half the trip not even the whole trip so he arrived in is but once he arrived in is and he settled down he was only there for a few years he decided to send a letter to one of his to his one of his sons and uh this letter is a uh simply the ramban giving his son instructions of how to live life if you guys can pay attention to the Sho it's going to be much more beneficial than your phone I promise you now if the ramban is writing a letter to his son he's not writing a letter hey how are you how's the kids how's your wife what' you do this weekend you still play soccer a little bit he didn't write one of those letters he wrote letters to his son to explain to him simply instructions of how to live a good life which is something that in today's world is virtually unheard of most people believe they have a good life because they have fun once in a while they go to watch a movie that scares them or makes them laugh laugh they find a new girlfriend or a new wife every other day they have a kid sometimes they find out it's not even theirs they get married shortly after they get divorced then they get married again and if you want to be a celebrity you have to be married at least and divorced at least five times once you're married and divorced five times then you can become a celebrity they try some drugs maybe to take their mind off of their stress and then they realize that the drugs actually create new stress and new problems they buy a dog they give the dog away because once they realize they have to pick up after the dog they realize it's not that much fun like it looks like in the TV and people constantly try to do things to occupy their time playing video games for hours and hours upon hours watching TV for hours after hours after hours and telling everybody oh did you see the uh new series Lost all these different series you see it yeah I spent the whole weekend watching uh season one I watched the whole week oh what' you get out of it oh it was great okay so what did you learn out of it well nothing really I learned absolutely nothing that I could use for real life unless I get stranded on an island and there's a smoke that's chasing me and uh other than that to run away from the smoke that's chasing me on the island you really can't learn anything from that but you spend 12 15 20 hours watching it I mean if you're can invest 20 hours into something you should have some type of benefit have something oh I didn't think about that you're going to watch season two for sure maybe I'll learn something on season two maybe there's uh different kind of smoke maybe uh one of them is going to get married maybe one of them is going to kill the other and people spend an enormous amount of time wasting their life doing things that have zero benefit why they need to occupy their minds they need to occupy their time and they need to somehow feel even if it's a momentary feeling like they're having fun but yet statistics show that that system doesn't work why how do statistics show it right now in the western society which is in essence considered the richest Society in the world which you would think is the happiest because that's what people think creates happiness they think money creates happiness so the richest Society in the world also has the highest rate of depression every other kid is considered someone that has attention deficit disorder every kid every kid in school is attention deficit disorder tell me oh why don't you come to sh no no I'm sorry Rabbi I can't why not I have ADD what do you mean you have ADD why do you think you have ADD no the psychiatrist told me I have ADD I said why he says yeah because I can't sit down for a while no that just means you're impatient because you play a lot of video games and you like immediate uh immediate benefits for anything you do sit there for a little while get the point pay attention after a while you'll like it no I have ADD they put me in a special class what class they put you with special ed kids that they uh my classmates's 39 years old my teacher is 170 and there's a horse in the class we're not really sure if he's human though I have ADD every kid has ADD every other parent is the parent of the add kids is on Prozac why he's depressed his kids on ADD and the father regrets that he had to take Viagra and everybody everybody's on some type of drug to do something why they figure they can't run their life without something you have an addiction what are you addicted to painkillers you have any pain no so how' you get addicted to painkillers I don't know somebody told me it gives you a little high okay well you got the hide now would why' you continue I tried again okay so why' you continue I tried again why'd you continue I got addicted how long you've been addicted 5 years how many pills you take 27 pills a day and you realize that even the guy that actually has pain the one that has pain doesn't take 27 pills a day you realize that right you realize the amount of pills that you take every single day should kill you so the fact that it doesn't kill you every single day you should do give a special s thank you for not killing me today why I took 27 pain killers and I didn't die the pain the guy that's dying he didn't take 27 painkillers but I took 27 painkillers why' you take pink Killers I was bored and that's what says boredom leads to sin we live in a generation of bored people every two seconds we check our phones because we hope that somebody send us a text message or somebody made a post on Facebook or Twitter or schmitter or something on something happened somewhere else that we can have the highlight of the moment what press like press like what you do you like it yeah oh why don't you like my page they get upset your friends get upset at you how come you didn't like my page why you you're not friends with me anymore why you didn't like my post I didn't see it I was working oh you're working now huh you're working yeah you're one of those people you work you're like that that's that that's that's that's a that's that's that's it right now that's it 20 years with friends but now you work you have you don't have time for me anymore cuz you work you can't see my post that I posted the best movie of the year what' you post I didn't see it yet oh you didn't see it even even after now you didn't like it you didn't even see my post what' you post you didn't see the post okay you know this time I'll let you go what' you post so important post oh you didn't see in Australia these two cops stop traffic to let a few geese past the road I got 8 million views on YouTube because there's 8 million other losers in the world also pressing like this is our days we wait for text messages we wait for Facebook posts we wait for something why because we have nothing nothing going on here nothing is stimulating our mind so we have to stimulate it ourself and if it's not the Facebook post and the phone texts and all emails five million emails a day what is it we have to replace it with drugs we have to go and start day trading every every uh Average Joe became a day trader what Bitcoin schmitcoin all this stuff I was in a business fac 16 years on day one someone told me what Bitcoin is I said it's a scam it's all going to go to zero last a year and a half ago I told you guys going to go to zero it almost went to zero it recovered now people are having uh Second Chance Second Chance what not to make money to get out theem has mercy on you get out before it's really zero but no no one wants to listen 16year veteran on on Wall Street you don't want to listen to you're going to listen to yourself because you read a few Facebook post that somebody says it's good people need some type of immediate relief immediate stimulation so they day trade they turn their business into day trading he used to sell toilet paper now he decides that he wants to buy and sell containers he doesn't know what's in a container but he's going to buy and sell it one day he's going to realize the container is empty and the customer knows it and all of his money is gone but no and this also affects us it affects our marriage it affects how we raise kids it affects our day-to-day life and this is part of the reason of why people are so depressed why almost 90% of the people you're going to meet are depressed some clinically depressed some just complaining non-stop they might as well be depressed you ask him how you doing he starts telling you a slew of problems that he has a slew of problem this didn't happen this didn't happen this didn't happen I should have been this I should have been there I should have done this 500 million things he's not happy about a single thing in his life yeah but didn't just get married last week yeah yeah I got married but you know now I have to pay the bill $100,000 bill I'm going to get the money for why' you have wedding for $100,000 then if you can't pay $100,000 why' you have a wedding for $100,000 what do you think I'm homeless how can I get married without $100,000 wedding who gets married without regular people get married without $100,000 winning you just go ran have 10 people maybe a little bit of uh shakshuka maybe a little bit of uh you know some big Goods over here you're finished no $100,000 why show off show off you want to make sure that everybody remembers your wedding but I can tell you for any of you that didn't get married yet I could save you some money how listen to this advice you're going to save yourself the money no one will remember your wedding for good the only thing that people remember about your wedding is how bad the food was how bad the band was if you had a band how you the bride and groom didn't pay attention to them or how she didn't look good or how she look terrible or how this all people remember his complaints why because they've conditioned themselves to such a miserable life they can't see good even if it's staring at them in the face and even if they see good they appreciate it for a moment and they move on to something else so divorce rates right now in America in some places are over 90% 90% like for example if you go to col you have certain cities within Colorado in the 90% success uh failure ratio meaning that if you any one of you that never went to a class to learn how to fly a plane you decide tomorrow you know what I'm going to take on a new hobby what I'm going to go break into Lal I'm going to go break into American Airlines okay I'm going to break into take one of these 747s I was going to feel like see what happens you actually have a higher chance of succeeding flying it Landing it than actually marriage in America you have a much more higher success ratio you never went to school why because people believe that if it doesn't work right away it must be uh must be something wrong they don't believe in fixing things she yelled at him he wants to divorce her she he yelled at her that's it he's a dog throw him out with the garbage yeah but he just yelled at you once maybe you deserve to be yelled at maybe he deserves to be yelled at why don't you just work it out why don't you have a discussion like talk like people I'll text her I'll text her oh you know what I think she got mad at me why I didn't like her post on Facebook this is this is our lives today this it's a good joke but it's real our lives have turned into a joke assimilation in America where Jews are marrying non-jews on the best case scenario where you see for example places that have more Jews and more and more yes 70% 72% meaning the religious places so-called religious places in America over 70% of Jews are Maring meaning we are one generation away from no more Jews in places where it's predominantly reformed over 90% into marriage Jews are marrying Goen this happened once in history and and as I've told all of the old people here I'll remind the new ones or I'll tell the new ones and remind the old ones when did this happen in history same exact thing when did it happen right before the Holocaust right before the Holocaust the intermarriage rates in the country all over Europe especially Germany hit Sky High rates to the extent where the Jews of Germany said that Berlin is the new yush for them so with that being said when you see that clearly no one here can look in the mirror and honestly say I'm happy unless you've been coming to the shim for at least a year you can't look in the mirror and say you're happy why you don't even know how to you don't know how to you could fake it to yourself but in reality the next day you're crying again the next day you're you're you're miserable again no one can say why because people don't know what happy is what is happy happy happy is not really a feeling it's a state of mind it's an existence you are happy and fulfilled about your life just because it doesn't mean you don't have problems if you don't have problems that means you're probably dead because once you're dead there's no more problems at least not in this world you have new problems in the next world but in this world if you don't have problems you're not alive everybody has problems happiness does not mean you don't have problems happiness means you're fulfilled happiness means that you have a state of mind that you are achieving a significant purpose in your life at all times sometimes that purpose is better than others more significant than others but nonetheless you never feel like what's the point of life why should I live you never make stupid statements like every other kid makes today I wish I was dead every other day I have a kid send me a text message say I wish I was dead why I don't know I don't know and they don't even know why they're just depressed if you understood that happiness is a state of mind that means that you would understand that in order to test yourself whether you're happy or not that means that tomorrow morning when you wake up you're as excited to wake up as if you won the lotto without the lotto though if you win the Lotter you have to give my you wake up in the morning as ecstatic as ever you're in pain but you're still happy you're uh tired you're happy you're single you're happy you're married even more happy you have kids jumping on your head happy no kids happy bankruptcy happy wonder the H everything regardless of what's Happening you up you're happy happy to wake up happy to go about your life happy to go talk to happy to go do whatever it is that you're doing but happy to the extent that even if what you're doing stopped for example if your career ended for whatever reason or another the happiness would not change if you're happy because you like your job and you like your wife and you like your kids that mean it doesn't mean you're happy it just means you're content with the situation that you have happiness means you would be happy with or without everything that you have why because you know that your entire existence is playing a role in a bigger picture without a it is impossible to attain that type of Happiness so thean wrote a letter to his son giving him instructions of course he tells him to go learn Torah of course he tells them to go respect other people of course he tells them to go do a lot of things but he specifically worded the letter that you could learn something from each and every single one of the words not just the whole letter and that's what we're trying to study we're trying to study why did the ramban one of the biggest giants in history one of the smartest men that ever lived decide to use these words versus anything else so the ramban starts even before he starts the actual ual letter we went over last week that we went over the first half of the PUK he chose to start the letter with a heading a title if you will where he used the PUK from The Book of Proverbs that schl the wisest man of all time wrote Proverbs 1 verse number8 saying he says heed my son the discipline of your father and do not forsake the guidance of your mother so last week we went over the first half of this verse we said why did he start with this verse where he says heed my son the discipline of your father and to summarize the entire sh of last week we could simply do it with one story in Judaism we have 620 MIT 613 from the Torah that are from God and seven from the rabbis from the sages not the the rabbis of today the rabbis of 2,000 years ago there's no new laws coming into practice today anymore unlike what people think you're not allowed to make a new any Al that's for example passed on today for example if you see a book that says such and such it's not a new it's just an innovation of something that already exists it's just showing you how to use the you know the original Al from 2,000 years ago and apply it to something that just came into the world today for example phones or uh electricity and so on and so forth or like for example this one Tes this one fool calls himself a Rabbi says that uh if you uh make uh uh clones of uh use uh use uh technology to to make clones of pigs then it's kosher because the real pig is not Kosher there's no way to make a pig kosher but if you make a clone of a pig technically he wasn't born from mother it wasn't you make a clone so he deemed it kosher and people are surprised wow I can eat pig no you're not allow to beat Pig he's the only that says it's allowed nobody else says it's allowed and you don't listen to One Rabbi you listen to you listen to the sages now one of the rules that we have is that you must rebuke your fellow if you see a fellow Jew violating Shabbat and you have a relationship with him you know who this person is it's not like some stranger you know it's your friend it's your cousin it's a member of your Kila part of your school and you see him he's uh lighting a cigarette on Shabbat you have an obligation from the Tora to go tell him this is not allowed on Shabbat now you can do it in a lot of different ways it's a nice way there's a mean way but to says no no you can't go and have this rebuke that you're telling him to do that he's doing something wrong lead you to sin meaning you can't just go out there and just embarrass anybody that's making a sin there's a way to do everything and that's what the raan says you have to first and foremost make sure that this person that's violating Shabbat he is attentive like if you say to something to him he's not one of these people that hate you that regardless of what comes out of your mouth he's not going to listen to you just because he doesn't like you or perhaps he's your parent and your parents no matter how smart you are they always going to remember when you were in diaper so they're probably not going to listen to you either make sure that this is a potential customer not just somebody that's definitely not going to listen to youma meaning make sure that whoever you're going to rebuke has an attentive ear doesn't mean that they're definitely going to do what you say but at least they'll listen to what you say they'll respect what you say second remember M which is ethics character development is the foundation of our Tor and the Rashi says on that is like saying Tor it's synonymous it means the same thing say Tor say m means the same thing why because the entire Tor is supposed to teach you mus supposed to teach you ethics supposed to teach you how to become a better human being so what happens when you see sometimes these so-called religious people do horrible things steal uh rape pedophiles there's no end to the horrible things that so-called religious people on the news do what do you do with that if you see somebody that looks religious in a casino somebody that looks religious in a club somebody that looks religious doing something terrible he's not religious he's just wearing a costume some people wear a costume once a year some people wear a costume every day he's not religious he's a faker don't blame God for that don't blame the T for T says it's not allowed if a person is doing something against the Torah we have a problem your job is to use the tat to become a better quality person and that is by learning M but then he says if you're GNA go and tell somebody M nobody really likes to be told what to do nobody really does even if he likes you even if he's your student even if he's your your study mate he doesn't like you telling him what to do nobody likes it part of the reason of why I never really uh stayed very long working for anybody is because I don't like to be told what to do so I would work for somebody I'd make them a bunch of money but eventually I would leave why because I want to do my own thing while I'm working for you I'll be the best employee in the world I'll work hard I'll be honest I'll never steal not time not money not nothing but you should know from day one I don't plan on being forever why I don't want to and that's what I would tell every single time I would work for somebody they would ask me what's your intentions here I would say buy you out you know it's cute you know little kid saying you're going to buy out this guy that's in the business for 20 years a few times it happened anyway no one likes to be told what to do so if you want to give somebody advice in order for them to improve their life you have to treat them as if you're a father figure not that you are above them not that you're even equal to them not that you're their father per se but meaning you have to show them love what is this like there was one time a israelian which there's a lot of them a lot of rude people sometimes especially when they don't have t so was one guy that uh decided that uh yeah this Torah it sounds real sounds good but I don't know I'm reading in the Tor he says I'm reading Tora that there's somebody named H he was he never got angry he was holy prayed to hem is there such a person as he today 3,000 years later 2,000 years later he says if there's a person like he in our generation I'll do Chua but if there's no bur in a generation like H that's righteous like him then why should I do CH if everybody's why's going to kill everybody that's what everybody says why going to send everybody to get know the answer is yes answer is yes if everybody's a if everybody's a s everybody get home he did it already it's called Noah generation of Noah Sodom and gorah plenty other times in the point is that he says if there's nobody in a generation like why should I do CH so why did he decide to do this this rude person this arrogant person he decided I'm going to test the rabbis he got a phone book with the names of the Pim all the big rabbis he decided to call them at 2:00 in the morning morning not 2:00 in the afternoon 2:00 in the morning hello yeah right right yes um listen if I have sugar on my Apple do I have to what blessing do I have to do is it ET or is it chak now obviously these rabbis are still human beings call them at 2:00 in the morning they're not exactly ecstatic you you know unless you're a teenager no you don't want anybody calling you at 2:00 in the morning so a lot of the rabbis hung up the phone on him so he's going one after another after another after another they keep hanging up on him or nobody's answering the phone he got to the last Rabbi he says if this Rabbi doesn't become H I've done my job hasem I tried I've done my job he calls the number hello this is this is how can I help you was the head Rabbi of meaning he just called the biggest Rabbi in the world at 2 o'cl in the morning 2:30 in the morning now says hello this is how can I help you and the guy says oh Rabbi if I'm if I have an apple and there's some sugar on it which do I do do I do the ETS do I do Shak and he's expecting the rabbi to hang up on him or say no you call me at 2 o' in the morning what's the matter with you call tomorrow in a normal time says oh my son that's a very good question he says see the we have we have something that's insignificant and something that's significant and he starts giving him a about which to do at 2 o'clock in the morning and he's so patient with them he says listen if you're going to eat the sugar separately from the Apple then you do Shak and you do the eights but you first bless the eights but if you're going to eat it together since the sugar is insignificant in comparison to the Apple you just do sh and it includes the sugar as well and he's giv a sh half hour sh about why to do this blessing at 2:00 in the morning he says any more questions my son and he says to him you know Rabbi I have to tell you the truth he tells him the whole story of why he called tells him the whole story of why he called and he says I was looking for a reason of why I shouldn't do Chua but apparently we do have a hel in our generation and because of you tomorrow I'm must start going to yes why why did have such a merit because he knew yes you can yell at people yes you can scream at people yes you can do a lot of things but you have to know when how and who most importantly regardless of what you're going to use regardless of what strategy you're going to use some is a loud voice some is a low voice some is with jokes some it's with scary stories some it's straight to your face some it's behind your back whatever it is make sure you act with love this is the confusion that a lot of people have when it comes to M they think that if you're screaming and fireing brimstone that means you hate people it's the opposite it's the opposite if you're telling people things you spill your guts you tell people please do Chua or this is going to happen or that's going to happen what are you telling people please do CH because I'm trying to warn you there's a fire it's on the way if you don't get out of the way you're going to get burned this was last week's Sho this week we're going to continue on the second part of the PUK now I have some stor today that we're going to tell T is going to have quite a few stories more than usual some of them are probably going to make you emotional if you still have a heart in your body um and uh some of the things some of the stories are simply going to make probably every woman here cry maybe some of the men but most importantly it'll give you some type of understanding of where you come from why because today we're going to talk about the second half of the PUK and see why he says don't forsake the guidance of your mother now say that why does it say don't forsake the guidance of your mom the I'm sorry page 318 says that naturally a son is more scared of his father naturally a son is more scared of his father so the Torah says the Commandment of honoring your parents is an obligation that you have for both your mom and your dad but here we have a p in the Tora in Chapter 19 Verse verse three it says a person has to be afraid of his mom and his dad keep Shabbat observe Shabbat because I God I am your God say how come here unlike the Ten Commandments where it talks about Shabbat it says you shall observe Shabbat when it talks about honoring your parents it say you should honor your father and your mom why does it here say that you should be afraid of your mom and dad how come the order change how come here it's Mom and Dad and not like it was in the other PUK dad and mom father and mom he says because naturally a man is scared of his father a boy is scared of his father much more than his mom and Tor says you have to be honor both of them but you also have to be scared of your mom too why because if you're not scared of your mom if you don't have and I'm talking about a healthy not scared that she's going to kill you while you're sleeping healthy that you give her respect then you simply are the most ungrateful person on Earth because you don't even understand where you came from now also say that the when it talks about the discipline of your mom it's also referring to the second half of the Torah we have when the Tora when it says in the T that we got T it says to to is plural for more than one what's toot to means that we got a written tah and an oral Torah the written tah is the five books of Moses that we all know hopefully we've all read at least once with commentary if not more and most people say yeah I don't have any problem with to I understand it's from God where do we where do we see the problem the problem we see is with the oral Torah why because the oral Torah is the one that explains the written T and explains how to fulfill the mitv so even though you're going to see a lot of people say oh I believe in the T but they still drive on Shabbat I believe in a t but they're still married Toya I believe in a t but she's still dating uh some guy from Hulu you know I believe in the Tora but they still still eat shrimp wait but you say you believe in the Torah yeah I believe in the Tor I believe God gave you the Torah okay but Torah says that you're not allowed to do these things I don't remember reading it I don't remember reading it where what does it say I don't maybe you're misinterpreting it no the interpretation is in the oral Torah ah yeah the oral Tor that's rabbis maybe maybe they made it up maybe this maybe that and that's what this PUK is trying to tell us when you're going to give honor for T you have to understand the t is either all or nothing it's either you honor both the written and the oral Tor or it's as if you've honored nothing this perhaps is the problem that the Christians have the uh also the Arabs have and really anyone that does not follow the Torah but says he believes in it they call it the Old Testament they call the Bible whatever they call it different names they call it but they don't follow it why because they say no this oral Tora oral Torah is a is difficult because it says rabbi's names and it wasn't given at Mount sa the reality is that it was and there's many many proofs of it but more importantly wants us to understand that this written in oral tah is no different you're supposed to have a relationship to it no different than the relationship that you have with your mom meaning that you always have to remember where you came from you always have have to remember who and what you're all about if you don't know where you're from you don't know where you're going and when a person simply just acts as if the past is irrelevant his future is in D is in danger now in Russia during the time of Stalin imim first for anyone who doesn't know history Stalin was one of the worst war criminals in history during World War II during the Holocaust first he was a partner in crime with Hitler and then he went to war with Hitler during the same war first couple years there were partners and then they went to war with each other it was a mental battle between him Churchill Hitler shimo and Roosevelt very interesting stuff but everybody knows that Stalin was one of the worst people on Earth he was a very vicious person that ruled with the type of fear that will you know will make you shake if you understood what he did to his own people when he saw himself losing in war he made a law any soldier that surrenders to the Nazis surrenders why are you surrendering you're surrendering because you don't want to lose your life and you know that if you continue fighting you're going to die so why die Just Surrender go to jail until the war is over then maybe they'll release you but the point is at least you're alive that happens in every war says any Russian that surrenders is considered a traitor and as soon as he comes home back from the Nazi jail we're going to kill him his own leader is going to kill him for surrendering Insanity Story Goes one time Stalin lost his pipe his smoking pipe looking for looking for it at the end of the day he asked one of one of his uh generals comes he goes okay is what we have so far 10 people admitted to stealing it two were still working out details to see what they admit and there's 100 more that are up for questioning tomorrow the fear of the people was so extraordinary they would literally just say okay what you want me to do it you want me to okay fine just kill me just kill me he lost this pipe by the way he found it no no one stole it no one stole a stupid pipe but the people were so afraid of him that what he wants to kill okay you know what I rather die for a crime I didn't commit because if I don't do it he'll probably kill everybody that's how much of a psychopath he was during his time it was illegal to be Jewish it was illegal to do AIT Jews that wanted to do a Brit Mila had to break the law part of the reason of why was because there was a lot of wicked Jews at the time that started an organization called Yia y seia was comprised of communist Jews that were some of the worst people on Earth no different than Nazis and these communist Jews hated Judaism their primary primary joy in life was to kill rabbis kill religious Jews destroy religion burn books and so on and so forth I know this is probably news to many of you but this is reality I did a whole Sho about it it's history it's not something it's not propaganda or something now it was illegal to be a Jew but real Jews find a way to be a Jew there was one sadik that was known as the moel he was the guy that was given bre in secret so because he never knew there's no like hey uh Hey Rabbi how are you can you come at 8:00 tomorrow there was nothing like that there nothing like that what was it like Rabbi baby's right here please he's hidden under the Under the Tent over here come on quickly that's how the rabbi was he had his his tools his knife on him at all times at all times he was ready to give B at any given moment that was the deal why there's no appointment there's Noam you know Hall Party have some uh have some chant have some uh some cake some you know nothing like that you are putting your life in danger they catch anybody here involved everybody dies there's no prison sentence for one day a Russian general pulls him over says get in get in the car get in the Jeep the rabbi said okay started saying this is the end of my life one of the soldiers of Stalin pulled me over and he's driving he's driving out of town he's driving out of town he's driving I said okay so he's probably going to torture me he's thinking about all the tortures this guy's going to do to him he scan the poor guy he's thinking what are they goingon to do to why are you driving so just kill me here he's quiet the whole time quiet the whole time eventually they get out of the town he pulls over in in front of this small little house the general looks at him says go inside do what you have to do and come right back out Rabbi surprised gets out of the car goes inside he sees a woman and she has a little package and the package is a cute little Jewish baby he says you're the rabbi who's going to do he says yes he takes out his knife from the hidden compartment in his jacket he does the b in a couple of minutes leaves goes back into the Jeep not a single word in the car nothing no oh who's your parents where you from he's scared that this guy's probably going to kill him anyway he doesn't even know how this all happened but he couldn't hold himself at the end of the ride right before he threw him out of the car and said okay go back to your life thank you for that the Rabbi says to why why you're a soldier for Stalin why did you care enough to put your life in danger your wife's life in danger your kid for what the smart general says I know this communism stuff this anti- God stuff it's not going to last forever and I want my son that if one day he wants to go back to being a Jew he wants to go back to being a Torah based Jew at least they'll have a sign on his body to remind him that he belongs there I'll give him a choice he want to be communist be a communist but at least I'll have a choice meaning every normal person that's old enough eventually realizes you cannot abandon your past you cannot just say ah I don't connect to mosu he didn't have an iPhone he didn't have an iPad he doesn't even know what Facebook is this m guy so I'm not connected to him he probably doesn't understand the struggle of this of this uh of living in aventur where every girl walks around naked he probably doesn't understand wellar says nothing new is Under the Sun all the sins in the world that you guys can commit today were available also 3,300 years ago quite frankly many of them were committed 3,300 years ago nothing new is Under the Sun only difference today is today you could do it digitally other than that it's the same thing so everybody understands that in order to connect in order to connect to your past you have rules rule number one most important don't forsake your past don't forsake your mother don't forsake who and what you came from don't just say you know what it's not for me you know what I don't have time for it you know what I don't relate don't just say it doesn't matter don't treat it as if it's not important why because there's going to come a day where is going to put you in a situation where he's going to say yes it is important it is extremely important and hopefully it's not too late at that point when you hear it from me it's painless maybe you don't like my voice maybe you don't like the way I look but in reality it's painless you're going to get free sushi in a little while too it's painless you hear it from hasem it's not painless most of the time it's very painful and for anyone who know wants to know a little bit of a a smidgen of how painful it can get it can get much more painful but it can get all I recommend is you listen to my personal story it's on our website it's called from Wall Street to the Western Wall or another lecture it's called a um Hashem took back his millions and gave me a instead there's a couple names to my personal story on the internet I actually gave my personal story here about a year and a half ago or so and I promise you that if you wait for Hashem to wake you up you're not going to be happy when he does now there are a few things that violate rule number one meaning that if a person does them he for took the Torah he abandoned the tah he abandoned theem he is putting himself where he is saying it all doesn't matter to me and those things are called there are 36 sins in the Torah that are probably not on your phone as you're looking at it 36 of them that are in the Torah that if you fulfill if you make those sins says you and me are disconnected you and me are disconnected until you fix this problem you and me are disconnected until you fix this problem I'll give you a few examples of what is puts your Jewish status spiritual Jewish status on suspension puts your Heaven on suspension if a person dies without doing no heaven ever if a person lives his whole life without doing CH and he has on his under his belt he has a very very serious and permanent problem I'm not going to give you the details but I could just tell you it's not pretty there a few of them one is being with a woman that's nid a woman that has not gone to the mik now most people think oh yeah well I'm not married so I don't have to worry about my wife going to a mik CU I don't even have a wife if you're married you have to wait half the month your wife has a period after she has a period she has to wait Seven Days Seven clean days and after she has seven clean days she goes to the mik and then you're allowed to be together so approximately you could be together half the month approximately some more some less depending on her hormonal balance and so on now if you touch your wife not just intimate but if you touch a finger just a finger you give her a kiss on a cheek you give her a hug hey honey how are you give her a nice hug like she's one of your football buddies hey what's up give her high five you do that it's called you touch the you have a very serious problem now most people think oh I'm only 18 years old I don't have a problem I don't have a wife good for me no that's the problem that's the problem is that you don't realize the problem why if you if you don't have a wife that means that you cannot be with anyone why because if a woman is not married she's not allowed to go to a mik which means that all of these cute little single girls that you see guess what they're all need they're all need meaning if you give if your best friend happens to be a girl you say hey hey Steve hey Stacy how are you n you have a serious problem with your mind hey Sarah hey Steve oh what you a you know people do this today they think they're in Europe give each other a kiss on their cheek hey why you kissing is this woman here everybody kisses each other they hug each other they hav you saw each other in the last uh the last class you're in eighth period now it's ninth period we have to kiss each other again this is n in Judaism you're not allowed to touch a but is unless she is either your mom you're allowed to hug her if she's your mom or she's your wife even your sister if she's older than 12 years old it's highly not recommended to even touch her allowed but only stupid people do it that's what the rambam says literally ra says only stupid people touch their sister n I'm talking about just like give a hug to his own sister he says only stupid people do such things that have empty brains now what's another what's another way to disconnect being with a non-jewish girl being with a non-jewish man you have a serious problem now somebody asked me yesterday people send me questions I love the questions people ask me why because it tells me where we are in a generation because if a religious person has asked me such a question needless to say the non-religious also doesn't know so a religious student of mine fantastic student a student asked me a question he says listen it says in the par that a Coen a Coen is not allowed to marry a zon he's not allowed to marry a zon he says why would anybody want to marry AA now most people understand the word zonah as prostitute which it does mean that but to says zonah is not just a prostitute Zuna also means a Jewish girl that was intimate with a one time in her life a Jewish girl that was intimate with a one time in our life for the rest of our life she's considered a z according to the she is not allowed to marry aen she's allowed to marry anybody else she's CH she's she's perfect she's amazing she's just not allowed to marry a Coen anymore why Coen is not allowed to marry a this is how significant intimacy is in judism why says to you you be holy because I holy other issues are like Shabbat somebody that drives on Shabbat plays on their phone on Shabbat works on Shabbat smokes cigarettes on Shabbat it's eating on P eating on y on yum Kip and so on there are 36 different sins but the point is is that if you know that you're not supposed to do it first and foremost before you're even considering violating it find out if it's correct if it's correct it's definitely not worth it why because to do CH is not easy now page 24b says RAB they ask him where did you get all your strength became but wasn't only a giant in Torah powerful in Torah but he was also physically strong at 80 years old he was able to take his shoes off and on on one foot now you 18 20 year olds probably could do it easily I can't double your age or more actually but for an 80y old to do that obviously you need a lot of strength so they asked where did you get this strength he says the and the oil that my mother gave me when I was young gave me the strength meaning he is grateful for what he has 80 years later for what for what his mom gave him when he was a kid meaning that he's not only grateful for what she gave him but he's still connected to it 70 75 years later this yes how do how can you repent for it starts off with stop doing it starts off with that once you stop violating Shabbat stop violating all these other things already you have achieved 90% of the battle second thing is is say I'm sorry to I'm sorry I didn't know was this bad sorry I did it third commit to not going back to it say I promise hem I'm going to do my best not to go back to this Goya I'm going to do my best never to drive on Shabbat I'm going to do my best never to do this make the sin again and ultimately get to a point where you regret it you regret that you ever did it meaning that even though you enjoyed it when you did it you have to learn enough about this topic that you get to point where you regret the actual sin it's no longer enjoyable to you says that one of the critical parts of overcoming the obstacles of the all of the desires that we have all of the things that lead to sin is remember where you came from remember where you came from remember that your mom toiled so hard to get you here remember that your grandmother toiled so hard to get you here during the Holocaust there were millions of people being butchered simply because they were Jewish even if they themselves did not want to be Jewish even if they themselves wanted to be like they were butchered because they were Jewish designed the world in such a way to make sure that whether you like it or not you're always going to be reminded at some point in your life that you are a Jew if you accept it with love you're better for it if you reject it you'll suffer because of it now when a person learns about his Heritage when a person learns about what it took to get to hear for you to be a Jew today it's very very simple to understand why it's worth it to continue because if you think about it three ,300 years ago mhu and millions of is were at Mount sa accepted the Tor and MIT guys try to finish as soon as you can and sit down so it's not like a hangout please I don't mind you eating just don't socialize there are still other people here mosenu and millions of other people heard the voice of God saw the words of God accepted all of it and for the next 3,000 years Jews will be killed Jews will be tortured Jews will be persecuted generation after generation whether it's in turkey or it's in Morocco or it's in Spain or it's a Nazi Germany or by Romans or by the Greeks every major civilization at some point or Another World Domination was not enough for them they had to go and Disturb This little Jewish Nation now why do these Jews continue to struggle why do these Jews continue to fight why do they continue why did they just say to the Greeks listen you know what what you want me to be a Greek why you want me to put some skirt on and become homosexual like you okay fine what they just accepted now unfortunately some some of them did some of them became Greeks but still in every generation we had just enough reject it hold on to the Torah and sacrifice their life for it why it's a fantastic question if you actually think about it why would anybody hold on to a book of laws that restricts his life that tells him that he's not allowed to be with any girl that he wants that tells him that he's not allowed to do whatever he wants that tells him that if he does whatever he wants he can get punished for it why should he sacrifice his life for a book that restricts him o was one of the he was the brother-in-law of the now the lived in a house that in today's world probably wouldn't be allowed to exist because of how unkempt it was he did not allow his own wife to put a floor to put tiles on the floor his floor was sand why he says this is uh too much we're enjoying this world too much if we put if we put uh Stones we're enjoying this world too much where if somebody comes to the house and they would in mud just now you're going to probably care so much that they're making your your floor muddy that you're not going to want to welcome guests anymore so it's better off not to have tiles on the floor so one day his wife says to him how come you are not allowing yourself to enjoy this world no towels on the floor no no no nothing covering the windows much nothing like a very like a shack but my brother also has his house is like a castle his house was like a castle says how can you compare a he's a m he's a king he's the obligation of T to make sure that the M of the generation lives in a palace what am I I'm just a b I'm just I just own a little store Delhi this is saying about himself so who the called the me of the generation who everybody in the Exile had to thank for even having Judaism in that generation thanks to him he himself was an orphan and he says they asked him what made he says the only reason I became the only reason I was able to put together the the book is because every morning my mother even though it wasn't his biological mother he was grateful enough to call him his mother unlike some people that I meet where they for some reason resent their parents that adopted them he says my mom every morning she would bake me a little cake and give me hot milk and she would wake me up with the smell of the cake and the hot milk and I would be excited to go and eat the cake and drink the milk and go she would send me to go learn Torah and then I would be excited to come home after learning to all day because again my mom would make bake me a little cake and make me hot milk again every day same thing he says because of that milk because of that cake because she sent me to go learn T that's what made me he didn't say because I learned a lot because I studied at night because I did neish because my Rabbi was great because uh you know I happened to have a really good memory because I had a good none of that what made me great my IMA she made me cake she made me milk and she constantly sent me to go learn tah why because when she made me milk and she gave me the cake she says you're going to go learn toah today she showed me it's important to go learn toah so when she showed me it's important to go learn to I wanted to go learn T so when I went and learned T I was thinking wow it's important to learn to and I started liking learning to and then I say well I can't wait to get home and tell Ima what IMA I learned to he says how you learn is a milk is a cake he says that is what made me if a person spends a minute thinking about all of the sacrifice that their mother made for them if it doesn't lead you to cry you simply don't have a heart or you have a bad memory hopefully it's a bad memory if a person thinks about all the sacrifice that his wife if you're married makes for you every single day and it doesn't lead you to cry either you don't have eyes or you don't have a memory hopefully it's the memory again cuz we can fix that now page 17A brings a auk from the book of Isaiah book of Isaiah says something very interesting that theim are wondering the PUK talks about how Isaiah is talking to the women of his generation and he says he says oh complacent women rise up and hear my voice oh confident daughters give ear to my speech now in essence what he's really trying to tell him here is stop being so complacent because things are not as good as you think they are but the say what's the other lesson we should learn from here when is a woman allowed to be complacent what's complacent complacent meaning I'm okay you say everything okay everything's okay when you allowed to just sit there complacent everything's okay as a woman ask this question when is a woman allowed to say be considered a woman that's complacent everything is okay how are you how when when are you ever allowed to be complacent says the following the promise made to women from Heaven is even bigger than the one that was made to men because a woman has bigger power to get to heaven than even her husband again the promise made to women is even bigger than the one that was made for men because her power to get to heaven our ability to get to heaven is even more significant a bigger Heaven a better Heaven than our own husband so asks for what why is she even going to heaven he's the he's going to he's going to she not learning to why she become the cover why he says the woman gets Heaven because she sends her kids to go learn T and she waits for a husband until he comes comes back home from the BET mid why does she go to heaven she goes to heaven because she sends her kids to go learn T and because she waits for her husband to come back from the sh T at 11:00 at night for that so then say I'm even more confused than when I started first you said the women are going to go to a bigger Heaven he's saying that if the husbands go learn toah if they're kids go to they could be sh they could be content everything's okay and you're saying they're going to get a bigger Heaven than the husband why the husband is the one that's going to the husband's going to learn at 9:00 at night the kid's the one that's going to be in school all day why is she the one getting a bigger Heaven thear continues says women benefit to have a bigger because they're the engine they're the engine that gives the kids and the husband the power to go learn to and as it is stated greater is the reward for the one who influences another to make a Mitzvah than the one that fulfills the Mitzvah himself you get a greater reward for bringing somebody to the sh T then what you're going to get for actually going to the sh T yourself you get a bigger benefit for encouraging somebody to do a mitvah than you get for you doing a Mitzvah itself but it also works the opposite it's a bigger sin to lead another person to sin than to sin yourself so when a woman leads a husband and our kid to go learn Tah she's giving them power why if the wife thinks it's important the husband's going to think it's important if the wife thinks it's not important then the husband's not going to things important if every time the husband says I'm going to and she oh man again again why don't you spend time with me you have no idea what it means to be a wife now galinski Shalom was one of the greatest MIM of his generation and one time he was visiting America and he gave a shoe they invited him to give a shoe to a bunch of women whose husbands were studying half the day studying toora half the day and working half the day so galinski says there is a in the page 778 that goes over a in it says it's vain for you who rise early who sit up late eat the bread of Sorrows for indeed he gives his beloved his beloved ones rest restful [Music] sleep psalm 127:2 says he talks about the women of is but not is he says it's hard for you it's vain for you wake up early to go take the kids to school wake up early tell the husband to go learn a little bit go pray wake up early start the house now wake up at 11: you wake up before the kids why so you prepare the kids for school so you prepare the husband for Bess she prepared the house now I wake up at uh 11:00 hone I'm still tired wake up early yeah but it's hard he says exactly I went up I went to sleep late he goes exactly that's what the rest of the PUK says the rest of the PUK that's what it says he says it's vain for you who for Rise early who set up late not only did you wake up early you went to sleep late why did you go to sleep late because the kid didn't want to go to sleep he was crying all night the husband had a stomach ache the other kid had a stomach everybody had a stomach ache you have no idea what what's going on but you have to be there why cuz no one can go if they're not asleep you can't go to sleep your mommy it's vain for you you go to sleep uh you go to sleep late you wake up early what do you eat you eat the bread of Sorrow the bread what you eat you ever see a mom that has little kids in the house she can barely eat why because there's always somebody crying somebody's annoyed somebody's this somebody's sick she never has time to eat she has to eat like a bank robber like in between like in between missions why because he always like somebody's chasing him oh he just grabbed something he doesn't know what it is just eating just to live that's that's how mothers are why cuz you don't know how much time you actually have before the next baby cries before this one something happens you can't eat like everybody else they have dinner and you're sitting there and so on I see your hand I just have to finish the point so you see that AB is has kids has a husband and the says I already know your life you wake up really early you go to sleep really late even eating a healthy diet is almost impossible for you even eating like a no human being is almost impossible for you but you should know Hashem gives his beloved restful sleep galinski says the says what does this mean he say is when you're and you wake up early and you go to sleep late and you feed you eat the bread of Sorrows because you're sending your husband to the K you're sending your husband to go learn Tor you're sending your kids to go learn T you're constantly doing everything everything everything everything to keep the machine going cuz you're the engine you my friend become aem's beloved you are considered AEM what's your hasem you're friends with hasem that's what the PUK says the PUK says that a woman becomes the friend of soinski says to the to the the women in the lecture he says I'll tell you the truth if I had a letter from the K he says if I had a letter from the previous generation from him find a letter from my dear friend yin's name if I just had that I don't have anything to worry about hopefully I just wait until hasem takes my back I just go I just ask my will only thing I asked bury me with the letter why I go to sh I go to sh with a letter from the K saying I'm his friend I'm set i'm set said he says imagine if I had a letter from the r if I had a letter from the rambam says my dear friend says my dear friend I go to get scared of me why I have a letter that the r called me his friend R calls me his friend is scared of me he says imagine I have a letter from Rim I have a letter from Raba his Rabbi R AKA writes me a letter young my dear friend doesn't matter what the rest of the letter it's worth to come to this world get the letter die you're finished you're good why you go up to Sham with this letter they can't touch you why you're friends with you're friends with you're friends withu you're friends withu says my dear friend you have nothing else to worry about he says is you have an opport opportunity you have an opportunity of a lifetime why you have something in writing but not from not from the r not from R shimai not from R AKA not even from mosu you have something from you have a letter from aad saying what you want to be my friend you want to be my beloved send your kids to T Tora send your husband to T send your husband to learn Tor you my beloved you and me we're best friends best friends the next day of galinski went to co collect money had Yesa a big Yesa went to collect money they sent him to a place businessman had a lot of money he went to his office he goes oh you're R galinski I'm not giving you anything okay no but I'm going to tell you why oh you tell me why too no they're not going want tell you no they want to tell you why they will tell you no okay tell me because you ruin my life because you ruined my life how I ruin your life he says I have a business I'm running this business 40 years I have a wonderful daughter I found my wonderful daughter a nice husband the husband learns but we had an agreement once they get married the husband learns for a couple of years but after he learns for a couple years he's going to come take over my business I could go retire I've already working for 40 years I go retire I set up everything the office I set him up his own office I set up everything today supposed to be his first day instead of him coming taking over the company today I get a phone call from my daughter ABA uh my husband's not coming to work why he sick no why something happened no so why is he coming to work work he's going to be in the cola for how long he's been already there for a couple years he goes forever why what happened to our agreement he's going to run the business a million dollar company no no AB I don't want it you don't want it no I don't want to go to work why not I want to be friends with hasem I went to ginski last night and he told me if I want to be friends with hem if want Hashem to call me my beloved I have to send my my husband to go I am not willing to give it up I want to be friends with hm so the guy says toit see that's why I'm not giving any money ginski says that I have the Merit to be partners with somebody that's friends with hem you see when a person understands the significance of things he understands why he's here why who what when and how but unfortunately as I told you before it also works the opposite if a mom does not send her kids to school that's religious if a mom does not send a husband to a place of Torah and instead she asked him why don't you take me to a movie why don't you go with me to the mall why don't we go to canun so we could be naked on the beach with the rest of the green when a woman does such a thing she also inherits the bigger sin now the mid is by is one of the more popular mid that uses in every mid anywhere between 500 to 1500 sources it's unbelievable how many sources you have in every single one of the books and anyone who doesn't know was one of the 300 years ago and when he was writing the M he would fast for a week straight he would fast for a week straight learn write the book write everything the whole week no eating no drinking nothing not like he's only fasting for a few hours you know in between meals Like Us in between meals he's having a diet you know some people say you're on a diet yeah yeah in between meals what was the last meal an hour ago I had a burger so so when's that diet till till the next Burger no he stopped eating M Shabbat not eating until Shabbat again for a whole week and the whole time he's learning wrote this book withes now he brings different sources from across the from from the from the from the from the Giants he says the following he says there are certain we got in we got the Ten Commandments one of The Commandments is idolatry do not become an idol worshipper do not make an image don't go by a Buddha statue and put it in your house don't worship a rabbi don't worship some uh a aete don't buy any statues don't donate to you know to uh churches and so on and so forth he says but idolatry also has taint of idolatry meaning that when a person makes a obvious sin he doesn't need much help from the to to explain to him that this is no good so T the oral T is there to explain to us that sometimes we can make sins where we don't even realize it's a sin or even if we know it's a sin we don't realize how grave it is so in he says the following what's taint of idolatry he says a person must teach his children the correct way and make sure that they obtain good Torah education and keep the Norms of Judaism from their childhood one must make sure that by the time the child becomes older he knows how to live as a Jew and will respect God in his teachings but if a parent spoils his children and doesn't give them a good Torah education meaning sends them to public school or sends them to one of these fake isot where there's boys and girls or sends them to one of these yes that 30% of the students are which by the way there are many here in Florida they call themselves Yeshiva but 30% of the students and I know this my own eyes 30% of the students are not even Jewish if a parent spoils their kids gives them whatever they want he sends them to Yesa because his friends go there yeah but his friend is Mustafa yeah but he goes to yes Mustafa yeah Mustafa is an Arab yeah but he goes to Yesa he learns yeah you can learn all he once but he's still an Arab you cannot go to school with Mustafa you cannot go to school with Chris you can't why you're a Jew he's not what happens if my parents said me there he says if a parent sends his kids and doesn't give them a good education and they're not going to learn how to keep the Commandments this parent is in constant violation of idol worshiping is a constant violation of do not make a carved image where kadh says in a 10 commandments don't make a carved image yeah but what is what does one thing have to do with the other he says raising a child that's not not going to have proper Jewish Education is making a carved image making a pel because the child will grow up to become a rebel and will dishonor his parents will dishonor God in the end he's probably going to seek out other religions he's going to want to find out what does Christianity have to offer what does Mustafa have to offer off what does Buddha have to offer what is India that worships the cow and the rat and the uh motorcycle and everything that moves and doesn't move what do they have to offer he wants to go to hu he wants to go to India after the Army this child will seek out other religions everything except Judaism the child is apt to commit all sorts of sexual offenses from the to and even commit murder If the child is not Ed educated in his religious Roots he can commit all sorts of crimes because a child without firm religious value system is susceptible to all banful influences Source Z page 93 further it says a person also has to be careful when he's expressing Torah ideas if he's giving a k why if the that he says some insight that he says from the Torah is not falling within the rules of the Torah it just comes it makes sense to him that's also a form of idolatry so you have to be very careful if you're bringing a new insight from the Tora that's just out of your own common sense because a fake is equal to a taint of and the punishment for a person like that is that his soul will never Ascend to will never get to a good place in because he changed the T same thing goes with fake rabbis he says that when the uh rabbis are uh make far-fetched interpretation of the tah just to fit their contemporary themes you know these politically correct sermons in order to please their congregants they're not aware of the tremendous damage that their their words are causing and as a result of their false interpretations their souls are also cut off and are not allowed to ascend to the Heavenly Chambers and this also falls now there are many other aspects of but the point is is that a person knows that sometimes the sin is clear not allowed to do this not allowed to light fire on Shabbat not allowed to eat pig not allowed to desecrate aem's name certain things are obvious but to is here to tell us that sometimes it's not so obvious sometimes you don't think it's a big deal to go to public school sometimes you don't think it's a big deal to go see a movie a PG-13 movie a rated R movie a g no movie you you don't think it's a big deal Tora says it's a big deal why it starts with one thing and leads to many other things if a person is connected to his roots connected to his mother he could overcome this but if his mother herself is sending him to this stuff then guess what not not only will you be punished she'll get punished even worse than him now all of us have heard the story of Noah all of us have heard the story of story of am is that left Egypt was taken out of Egypt and eventually arrived at the land of Israel but many people forget is that before am Isel arrived that he is the land was owned who was it owned by Canan the Canaanites so the question is how come Hashem took the land from them how come hasem took the land from them now you can see there's a p in theora it says y they made a lot of sins but what's the foundation what's the worst part says [Music] Canan had a very serious problem with AEM what was his problem he didn't respect his father he's the one that raped Noah After the flood he disrespected his father didn't listen to his father and that's why no cursed him and no told him huh no kanam was his son but Kanan was the one that actually did the rape yes yeah but started it startan started the sun K butan Canan is is the uh is the one that caused a lot of the trouble now he didn't respect his father he didn't honor his father even when his father told him no and Hashem cursed him hem cursed Canan hasem cursed Kanan in the Tor in theora cursed Kanan that he's going to be cursed which goes the curse goes to Kanan that Kanan is going to be a slave to the other descendants now he had a brother his brother was named MIT m is Egypt so the curse became fulfilled when Egypt was at one point the master of of Egypt was the master B was the slaves when was the curse fulfilled when arrived at is why because now became the slaves of the slave cuz am was technically slaves of of brother Egypt MIT now Canan became the slaves of is that's when the curse was fulfilled why why did it start it started because of dishonoring the parents disconnecting from where we came from now honoring your parents starts off with first and foremost understanding where and who and what you're made of yourself so Tora explains in the cabala that each part of of you physically and spiritually has an someone that's contributing so there's three Partners to a each person the father the mother and a now what is each one contribute the father contributes five things the bone the nerve tissue the brain the fingernails and the white part of the eye that's what the father contributes the mom contributes also five things the skin the Flesh Blood hair and the dark part of the eye and contributes 10 things connected both of them five and five and he does 10 he contributes the the spirit the soul the uh Radiance of the face the look of a person's face when he's alive is a world aart different than if the person died the eyesight the hearing speech the ability to walk knowledge understanding and and intellect which is the uh knowledge understanding and intellect and once a person dies what does it mean it simply means that took part took back his part he left the m and the dad their parts the eyes the the the bones everything else left but without A's part the part ership fails that's when a person dies now one of the most extraordinary examples of understanding what it means to connect to your past understanding the results of hard work of a parent hard work of a mom is in our history many times there's countless stories but one of the most famous stories you'll see in the uh several places in the book of makab in page 57a or 57b uh you also see it in uh in a mid and several other places which is the story of and Her Seven Sons now in your every day you say a from which is that SWS righteousness makes the Salvation flourish and creates cures so say what does this mean he says sometimes a person gives a person does something good and Hashem instead of giving him the reward right away he plants it he plants it for another day he plants it I'm not going to give him a reward right now I'll give him a reward when he needs it that's why it says the Salvation comes when when he needs it not right now right now yeah he's giving Saka because he wants to get this deal but I'm not going to make the deal happen I'm gonna take thisa I'm GNA give him something at a later time why because 10 years later he's going to need the money right now he doesn't need the money right now he just wants the money so the story of Kan is one of the great examples that we have in our nation as somebody that planted many many seeds and saw the seeds flourish in a very extraordinary way to say the least that if somebody learns the story it gives you an understanding of who you could be related to if you choose to be a righteous Jew now the story of Kan goes as follows couple of thousand years ago the anus of the Greek Empire or Roman Empire decided that he wants to Outlaw Judaism but that wasn't enough he wants to make sure that it's not only not legal to be a Jew but they all bow to his Idol is caught by one of his his generals named pipus imim and he brings Kan and Her Seven Sons there's no mention of the husband maybe he died maybe he wasn't around whatever the case is but he brings Kan our seven sons in front of the Caesar in front of the anti andus commands them one after another to bow to him now I'm goingon to read you details of the story word for word because you probably heard the story before where the story starts with just like I said Each one says no I don't want to Bow he kills each one of them and they all die in K now this is a superficial understatement where when somebody says something like this where and our sons did not want to bow to an idol and they died and they died on Kem and then you hear that some reformed people that were anti- God were murdered by some psychopath in Pittsburgh and people say that was also Kem it's not so far-fetched why they died because they didn't want to buy to an idol they died in Pittsburgh because some guy killed them because they were Jewish even though they themselves did not recognize Judaism for what it is so k k it's not so far-fetched for both of it to be considered K today people throw K on every single accident somebody slipped on a banana in the middle of the highway but said at some point five hours before K somebody uh got murdered by some terrorist K somebody uh didn't go to a church because he was late everything is K today so I'm I want to give you a real example of what K is what is it to our why is it called K so the source is several places you can pass these three pictures around you'll understand what they mean in a minute source is several different places the book of mbes chapter page 57 and I even double checked with the uh or not double checked but I found that even the Christians published a book 200 years ago in 1827 called the epitome of General ecclesiastical history in essence talking about the history from the beginning of the world all the way to Christianity and thereafter and they obviously mentioned the Jews and one of the things that they mention is or actually they have a picture of is the story of what picture do they have they have a picture of what happened to kan's children by who by Christians by their own people what do they do to them so now y the righteous Kan had seven sons and one day pipus one of the generals of the of the king caught him and brought Kan and Her Seven Sons to anus the king the king took the first son as the other the rest of the family is watching the rest of the family is watching all the son is there and the King tells him why do you need this Torah bow to the king V to the idol or else I'm to kill you in a very strange and unusual death the son responds he says don't even waste your words and try to teach us your mistakes your false beliefs our Torah is to emit that was given to us from our fathers and our forefathers and our forefathers and we're not going to remove ourselves from it not right or left so ad a Mr King don't waste your words don't make don't say too much if your will is to kill me go ahead do it right away hurry up actually actually so I can go and be in a hurry to go see now the king couldn't believe that this young man is talking to him this way he got his soldiers to go bring a huge pen and they put oil in it boil the oil and put the person in there put the son in there and started literally frying him after they cut off his tongue his feet and his and his arms his uh hands and you see in the pictures that's from the Christian book that's exactly what you see in the pictures in multiple places aside from that they removed his skin his tongue andash tortured him in a horrible way until he died on K why Tom bow to an idol he says b to an idol do whatever you're about to do go ahead do it in a hurry why I want to go see hasem not even a consideration now maybe he was a 20 years he's learning already so you say you know what surely the younger ones are not as strong as him they brought him the second son no better to die not sin there's three sins that you're not allowed to do and you have to die for one is which is idol worship another one is murder not allowed to commit murder and third one is a sex crime some tells you you know either have sex with this woman or uh or will kill you you have to die but it's not better to do one says no if it was me IID tell you yes but I'm not a says there three sins you have to die for you have to die if they tell you go to a church or we kill you you have to die they tell you go worship Buddha or will kill you you have to die if they tell you go go a uh rape this woman or will kill you you have to die you have to tell you go kill somebody else or we kill you you have to die but that's the three that's obvious what most people don't know is that that's when it's private when it's private when it's oneon-one they tell you go worship an idol it will kill you you have to do it but if it's public if it's public meaning there's a lot of people there's a lot of people are watching and they say there's an there an that you have I'm just making up Ana right now that Jews uh only wear you know let's say blue shoelaces violate viate from now on you're not going to wear blue shoelaces you have to die and keep that why cuz now it's public that's public because if you violate it it's called is the worst in the Tah so now the Second Son arrived and the Mel tells him the king tells him this evil King tells him bow to the idol or I'm going to kill you just like I killed your brother with with a lot of uh viciousness and so on the son the Second Son responds to him hurry up the fire hurry up the sword do with me whatever you want but please don't detract for me anything you've done to my brother meaning make sure whatever you did to my brother do also to me don't not do something to me do everything you did to him do it to me also why I'm also like him I'm not less righteous than him I don't have less y mind him I want to die in K just like him Second Son the King was in shock the King was in shock did not understand how this kid just told him not only kill me but make sure that all the torture that you did to my brother do it to me also and then the son hears the guy threatening him again so the son responds to him he says who un to you you vicious and your viciousness on our on our on us what are you thinking that you're going to do your will and whatever you want with our with our souls our souls are going to the one that gave them to us to a place of extraordinary light that created and we will live we will live Eternal lives meaning Heaven a place where there's no end but you your soul will go to G will go to a place where the suffering doesn't end the king heard this and kill the second the third son is brought up in front of him the third son doesn't wait for the king to talk right off the bat he says to the you you you Wicked enemy of Hashem what are you trying to scare me with all these uh punishment with all these difficulties that that you're doing you think that that's gonna scare me we have nothing to to be scared of we have nothing to be concerned of because we know that this is the will of a this is to repent for the sins of what you're doing to us wants this why to repent for the sins of is this little kid all of the uh suffering that we will get we accept it with AA we accept it with love cutting off arms cutting off legs cutting off heads cutting off every worst possible thing you can imagine as you can see in the picture so what's happening to every one of them we accept it with love and they're seeing their brothers going through this not like each one is like living some imaginary life they're watching their brothers going through this and say we accept all of it with a we love it why why this is what hm wants he says will give us a reward will pay us for this for what we're doing but you you're going to a NeverEnding suffering Eternal damnation the king is astonished and they killed the third son in front of his mom and his brothers comes the fourth brother the fourth brother no different he doesn't even wait for the king to say a thing he says don't even say anything don't even say anything you you vicious person don't extend it don't tell me anything do whatever you want with my body my is going to my king in heaven my salvation will bring us back and will resurrect us and we'll come back to life at some point King can't even handle the fourth one he's talking with so much confidence he doesn't even let him have a second sentence he kills him same thing again all thing come comes the fifth son he starts cursing him he says you fool you he calls the king the son little kid little 10-year-old kid say hey what are you doing you you fool you don't even understand your own actions you don't even know what you're doing he tells a seven-year-old King you don't even know what you're doing what do you think goes what do you think send us in your hands because he hates usom you think well hasem hates us know this he's only doing this because he loves us and he's bringing us because to this because he wants to give us cavod he's giving us Honor by giving us this a 10-year-old kid he's giving us the cavod why because now we can die on K he can't handle it kills the fifth son six son doesn't talk to him either six son talks to him in a confident way says you know Hashem is really happy with us SE is really happy with us right now he's very content with what we're doing with all the while dying he's is very content with that because this is this is an atonement for all of what's happening to us and here we're going to all die but you is going to uproot you from the world of the living he kills the sick son now at this point you would think even if the Seventh Son is a hero like his other brothers the mom should be hysterical anytime you see a mother with her kids don't mess with them why she'll kill you she'll kill you that's it don't mess with with a mother's kids don't mess with them why she'll kill you a mother M A mother can lift a truck over her head just to save her own kid it's unbelievable how much mothers love their kids now you would think that the mother's hysterical crying but it continues and it says the mom is watching everything and she seeing each one of our sons get killed but this does not even affect our heart in a negative way she's not upset she's actually singing Allelujah she's singing to she's singing that our children are dying in K she's standing up watching our holy children being killed watching their body part watching their body parts on the floor the arms the legs they're all cut into little pieces she's watching all of this and she's happy and she says this b b my children my children I don't know how you got into my stomach meaning who am I why there's a seed go went into my into my into my body and you came out like I don't know how that works that's a the fact that some seed comes from somebody else and it goes into a woman and now that is going to be a baby from that I mean that doesn't make any sense at all she say I don't know how you came into my body I don't know how adorned you meaning he shaped you not only you came into my body but he shaped you each one with a certain face each one with certain features and then on top of it he put the inside you but the god of is he's the one that created you he's the one that put uh put you together gave you your bones gave you your uh your organs he's the one that gave you the flesh he's the one that covered the flesh with a uh with skin and with hair he's the one that uh put the N of of life into you he's the one that brought you to the light of the world and now you gave back your to honor is Holy tah to die a short life to live a short life and to die in a short life in order to for surely he is going to resurrect you and bring your n back surely he will save you from the Eternal death of G and will give you Eternal heaven and all of this my children will pay you great reward and you're praiseworthy that you're doing it and I'm praiseworthy for having such children so now this king is starting to lose hope why he's looking terrible he just killed six kids there's one kid left no one's bowing to him so he tries a different strategy he goes he brings the the son in front of him he says maybe this kid he's only s years old says here says this kid is only seven years old maybe I could like tempt him and and try to seduce him with something try to bribe him with something so at least this woman this over here at least she can't say oh I beat onus I beat onus that we me and my children all died on for the honor of maybe I can at least get this one kid and like bribe him with something so they bring the little kid in front of them and this kid is seven years old and the King starts begging him the little seven-year-old he starts begging him he says please please do what I want please I swear to you I swear to you if you do what I want I'm going to make you second in command you will take over the entire Kingdom after me I'll make you my own son you're going to take over the entire entire Kingdom you're going to be rich with gold and and and silver the seven-year-old kid the seveny old Jew [Music] answers wo un to you the king that's old and stupid what are you trying to honor you're trying to impress me with your lies you're trying to impress me with your stupidity quickly do what you did do what you did to my brothers to me quickly don't delay so I could succeed in going to see them next to a now anus has one Stitch effort he says okay this kid brainwashed brainwashed he thinks let me go to his mom so he goes to the mom he says to the to the mom you know nice good woman have some mercy on this little boy have some mercy on the fruit of your of your womb convince him to do what you what you want to do to do what I want so at least you'll have one son left so was very smart obviously and she says to him you know I'll talk to him I'll talk to him I'll convince him I'll convince him but I need to do it separately I can't do it in front of you I do it separately so she's separated from them and they get closer and away from everybody else and one of the most amazing things in the world conversations in the world takes place so goes to a seven-year-old son just imagine if you have a seven-year-old kid in your house you have a conversation with him it's a pretty interesting conversation when they're seveny olds this is the conversation she has with a seven-year-old no no it's a different she says my son yes says my son pay attention to the things that I'm saying to you and understand I carried you in my womb for nine months I breastfed you for two years and I fed you until this day that you are here today and on top of that I taught you fear of and from his Torah and you learned exactly what you can based on your age I taught you all of it now my son open your eyes and see the Heaven and the Earth see the ocean see the land see the sea and the fire and the wind and all of creation and pay attention understand to know that all of this was the creation of aad that he made with his own heads because after this created man to be simple and complete in his serving of AEM and to engrave in his heart to have fear of hem and for that is what he pays reward for but one that has assurance or confidence in another person it won't be successful it won't be to any to for any use because all of it is against God now my son don't let this vicious person seduce you with his lies because what will it give you even if you're saved from his sentence from his death sentence now in this moment who will save you from the sentence from so please listen to me and die on Kem and go with your brothers and then my son I will see you in your greatness in the place of Holiness that hopefully I will be able to to see you in Ganan hopefully we're all under the light of hem and there we will celebrate and I will come to you and I will celebrate with you as if I have seen each one of you on your wedding day she then finalizes with this after the son responds he says she continued talking so he cut her off the kid he says my dear Mother why are you delaying me to go and deal with this why don't you let me go and join my holy brothers because there's no chance in the world that I'm going to listen to this stupid King all of what he says a word zero to me and word zero because they're against AEM so is mother says to her son he says my son when you get up to sh go to Abu and you tell AB ainu in my name you tell abrah you are willing to sacrifice one of your sons I sacrifice seven the the child went back to the king with a strong heart and says to the W to you stupid Old King vicious and enemy of Hashem on who you're trying to fool on who you're trying to win with your words I'm seven years old and you're 70 and I'm making fun of everything you're doing and I know it's all I mock all of your perversions because they had all homosexuality beastiality and all types of disgusting things he goes I make fun of all the things that you do you disgusting human being I believe in the and if we suffer here from the pain of your sentence in this world we're all going to live eternally in a place of eternal life where there's no death but you you you met you you Abomination you you homosexual you are away from Hashem you are away from Hashem Our God and you he's going to take revenge against you he's going to put you you're going to go to a certain section of called and then and then you're going to go in a place where there's no light and there's no there's no life he's giving him and you're gonna go to tells him another place in G you're gonna go to the place and G also and you're not gonna your soul is not going to find a moment of Peace a moment of rest because the uh the uh trouble and suffering will only surround you and you will be constantly in fire and brimstone because that is your share of God all of us have a share from God that's your share the King was shocked and commanded them to torture the year old more than all of the other brothers until he died and K once the Seventh Son died K stood up proudly still pure still holy and started singing started singing T to and said to my heart rejoices in you hasem please Hashem take my soul back to you so these enemies don't defile me because she knew that they wanted to rape her keep me holy show me the place that you've prepared for your servants where my sons that died onim K show me where they are show me where they are and take me there as she finished to pray hasem took her and her body fell at that moment noem took her she's right at that moment everyone that was there which apparently that's probably the reason why even the Christian books have the story because it's not exactly aaed to them everyone heard a but call come from sham a Heavenly voice came from sham as Hashem took her out Hashem heard everybody heard a b call where hasem quoted T he says mother of sons Rejoice happy is the mother whose Sons refuse to bow down to the idol in the next world World they will be happy and they will be joyful you see a person can send their kids to any school a person can give their kids any education a person can send their kids to a Yeshiva but the kids still be damaged later on because when he came home the house is secular or person can be sent to the best Yesa but perhaps even at home it looks okay but there's too much Freedom that's being given to the son or perhaps the parents don't pray for the kid or perhaps the parents don't show the kid enough love the point is is that there's so much to Parenting there's so much to taking care of children that if a person looks at it just like we say in our every single act that we do every single mitvah that we do every single prayer that we do every single lesson that we learn is planting a seed don't look for a reward right now says plant the seeds plant your plant all the good deeds why I am the I'm the one that makes the Salvation flourish when does the Salvation come exactly when you you need it not necessarily when you want it to finish I'm going to tell you a couple of stories that I know the people themselves of the storyi that I told you a story about him some months ago he's the one that runs a organization with troubled teenagers and he says his great-grandfather was the r of Al one of the his name was and he wrote a book called in the preface the beginning of the book writes the following that when he everything that he's achieved in his life is all thanks to his mother why he said when I was a child I was a terrible kid he WR about himself in his book thrown out of every school thrown out of Yesa I was like the criminal of the streets but one day I woke up with a insane will to learn toah one day I just woke up and I just said I need to go learn to I ran to the bet midash and I've been in that mid ever since I never left after I got older I got the thought maybe to ask my mom like maybe she knew something cuz I started realizing okay I like it I like it but why I mean I used to be a criminal I used to be terrible so I asked my mom IMA how did it happen that one day I just decided you remember she goes oh I remember she say what happen she says I saw that with every year that you were growing the trouble that was surrounding you was growing to and I knew that it's only going to get worse so I decided to pray and I took on myself a fast and I said to I'm going to fast until he does chuva I'm going to fast until he does Chua if it's a week I'm going to die but at least I tried my best one day I fasted no CH continued fasting into the second day not ate at the end of the day continued fasting two days in a row no eating no drinking still no Chua continued the third day three days no eating and drinking when I went to sleep that night a very old sadik appeared in my dream and he said to me stop fasting from now on I'll have the desire to go learn toah and in the dream this sadik came to you and kissed you on the head the next morning you got up you went to the K and you haven't left since then the mom understood her son is in danger and she said you gave me this as collateral you gave me the son as collateral I'm keeping it so if I cannot keep it I might as well die so either you fix the situation or I'm going to die because it's better off to die than for my son to be a criminal for my son to be for my son to be against AEM better off for me to die why because it was my responsibility raban cook people that know cook inia one of theim of the generation got a phone call from the principal of the ISA that two of our sons attend and the principal told the story to ra our friend he calls and he says listen I'm sorry ranit but your two sons are really really causing a lot of problems in school they're causing a lot of problems can you please talk to them rebuke them she goes no no no it's okay it's okay I'll read t for them said what what T the principal says this he goes T I'm thinking what is this crazy woman what you talking about t give the kid a nice slap in the face tell him to stop causing trouble but she's no no no I don't want to don't worry I'll retaing for him I said no but they're causing a lot of trouble it's like a it's like a p in the school with these two kids okay okay don't worry me and my husband me and my husband we're both going to retailing for them then we're both going to retailing for them the principal of this of the school said this story he say I don't know what she did I don't know what she read I don't know what read but those two kids became the best kids in school those two kids became the best school in Yesa two of the students of raal himself when they were 13 14 years old they were considered even though it's a relatively religious area they were considered the they were considered the criminals of the neighborhood they had a little quarter keeper but just for sure literally called the criminals of the of the community everything and anything bad you knew it started and ended with them everybody was scared to death of them one day they come they asked please can you set me up with a both of them can you set us up with a so he said they start learning he says right now they're the best kids in the Yesa they're the best kids in the school they're the best I think in a call already at this point or may almost all so after a few years of this he asked the two kids what happened like I never asked you I didn't want to bother I was so surprised that you wanted to actually learn I I just said be quiet quiet silence is is a silence is a gift says if talk if one word is worth $1 quiet is worth two I didn't say a word but a a few years have passed you guys tell me already why he says both of us we come from a house our parents are very simple people very old-fashioned people very simple people and you know we didn't really care about anything but then we started seeing that our mom every Shabbat would start reading T we start praying and we hear our names for us forem to help us to do chat and she's hysterical crying every Shabbat now you're not about to cry in Shabbat but she couldn't control herself she's crying for us every Shabbat hysterical please do please hysterical hysterical eventually it broke us eventually we just couldn't do it just we couldn't look ourselves in the mirror couldn't look in the beginning we were making fun of it oh this crazy lady crazy lady crazy lady eventually we couldn't do it anymore sometimes when you're young you make stupid things you make stupid mistakes you make mistakes because you don't think that's even a mistake some 30 years ago a couple comes to the United States from Israel does not know right or left does do not really have much going for them struggling to survive trying to start a new life traditional Israeli one day after the summer is over they decide to time to send their kids to school they don't have money to go pay these they don't really think there's that much of a big deal to send their kids to American schools and they send the kids to Public Schools as the years pass and the parents get older they see that the simple Act of sending their kids to school with gim was the biggest mistake they made in their life why because out of the four boys that they have in the house one is still too little but the three older ones are all going out with Goot one after another they can't find a Jewish girl for their life they go out with new every week every month every year planning to marry the Goot and during this time the parents start doing chuva the parents start realizing that runs the World maybe we should stop working on Shabbat maybe we should start keeping Shabbat okay but what are we going to do with our kids they're still with Goot and one day they realized that it's too late the kids already feel and act like guim they consider themselves Jewish they go to Bess a few times a year they have K but as far as marrying Goot being with Goot doing things that go do they don't think about it twice why we went to school with them we hung out with them we were friends with them what's the problem the Mom starts praying and she doesn't stop praying every day she lights a candle every day she reads T every day she cries hysterical to to save her kids from the mistake she made innocently why she was 30 years old she didn't know right or left and the reality is she didn't think it was that much of a big deal to send kids to public school now we know the outcome but it's too late now now the kids are already grown up this one has that business this one has that business this one this this one has that what am I going to do she prayed for our kids for 20 years 20 years every single day calling rabbis from all over the world asking for blessings asking for all types of doing all types of taking on more organizing everything and anything she can possibly do save my kids why one of them is about to marry someone she's not Jewish the other one is a new girlfriend every day none of them are Jewish the other one who he doesn't even know himself he's Jewish each one is worse than the other 20 years she prays for them the first one starts doing Chua one down second one lives his life starts doing chuva a little bit get stronger third one is a problem why third one has all that life has to offer materially and is not willing to listen to anything that anyone says why he's the boss when you're the boss one of the great benefits of being the boss is no one's allowed to tell you what to do so you try to tell him what to do and he says okay doors over there don't let it hit you on the way out I appreciate your opinion I have one too I have two opinions actually for each one you have he's not willing to listen right he's not willing to listen left and it gets to a point where the prayers have to get stronger but the prayers are not enough so Hashem has to get involved because the prayers are not sufficient as I told you rabai when the prayers are not sufficient and the ears are not listening then a gets involved but when a gets involved it's much much more painful and he goes into a battle for his life for years and throughout that battle eventually he realizes that aadh who runs the world and little by little he does chuva and today days in front of you the amount of prayers that my mom prayed for me I don't know how many they are all I know is for 10 years 10 years she prayed for me day and night just so we can fix an innocent mistake from 30 years ago what was the mistake send the kid to school just the wrong one that's it she didn't send me to go eat pig we never ate Pig not in the house not outside the house she didn't send me to a casino she didn't send me to go sell drugs she didn't send me to become a murderer no everything else was normal what was the mistake wrong school but by the time she realized it it was too late so she now has to ask for to please help me do CH how fix it I don't know how 10 years of praying 10 years of suffering I know how painful the pain is for me but I'm sure it's much more painful to watch sometimes the other woman in my life that saved my life is my wife one day decided that even though I don't follow anything really and she at the time was at a different religion it's a good idea to make me a religious Jew so she decides to buy me on her own she decides to buy me a tanak and she gos here you go I said what am I to do with this she goes read it it's about your heritage it's about your history it's where you came from that's what's going to give you the answers I it to what s to all your questions all the questions you have it's in there read it said no I have work to do she goes don't work it's holiday now so what P I said okay I eat matah he goes eat matah and everything stay home I'll go work I'll run the office said what do you care she goes I care I need to get you need get answers why would she care I don't know but she cared and every single day she cared more and more to make sure that I get religious every day she cared more and more that I get connected to the source every day she prayed every day she took me to the hospital whenever it was needed every time she looked for more doctors and more medicine and more prayers and more this and more that and you see when you actually start thinking about the women in your life whether it's your wife or it's your mom really if you really think about what they've done for you you arrive at a few concl conclusions first you can never repay them because the things they did for you you can never return you could buy him any present in the world won't help you could pray back for them still won't help why you're praying to for them under different conditions but most importantly most importantly you have to realize that if you're fortunate enough to have a wife if you're fortunate enough to have a mother then you have to realize that no one in the world will pray for you and care for you like them they're the only ones that're going to care for you even if sometimes they're mad at you even if sometimes they don't feel like talking to you even if sometimes you disagree with them at the foundation of it all the Torah still obligates you to honor them to fear them to love them to connect to them you have to you have to do it why because you owe it to them because if it wasn't for them we wouldn't survive a week now if a person has a wife that's an enemy of God then that's a different story if he has a mom that's an enemy of God it's a different story but it doesn't mean you disconnect from them automatically it means you have to treat the relationship differently as long as they're not instructing you to be an enemy of God you can have the relationship with them but if they're telling you you have to be an enemy of God then obviously that's a problem the point is that you cannot just simply cut off people because they disagree with you you cannot cut off your past because your past is not something you're interested in you cannot simply ignore the magnitude of things that they've given to you the fact that your wife is tolerating you at all is already a miracle if you're a guy the fact that your mom carried you for nine months is already something you can never repay the fact that they're literally there for you and willing to pray for you day and night just because you have a little cold and you're acting like a baby should remind you that no one in the world world will ever love you like them no one this is important to remind ourselves why because sometimes we get annoyed by them and by everything around them and by everything that everything and everything and everything but if we're constantly reminding ourselves what the ramban started his letter with that yes you have to listen to the m of your father but you also cannot forsake the teachings of your mother the guidance of your mother even if sometimes your mother makes mistakes even if your mother sometimes sounds some like she doesn't make any sense even if your wife has an opinion that makes her sound crazy even if your wife sometimes makes you crazy in the end that's you that's your foundation that crazy is you that crazy is you that Foundation is you and whatever you do with your parents remember it's measure for measure your children will do to you you disconnect from them you care less about your parents guess what your kids will also care less about their parents you send your parents to some nursing home that abuses people and never check in on them and car less about them guess what one day you'll be that you'll be old you'll be gray and they'll send you your kids going to send you to some nursing home where they put you next to some dog so yes it's difficult but that's why the say that honoring your parents it's not just one of the foundational of the it's also one of the most difficult in the T it's also one of the most difficult in the T but difficulty never absolved you the fact that it's difficult that's why there's a big reward for it and the reward is not just eternity it's also here that's why it says when you honor your parents you get a long life not just a long life eternally but a long life here a life that's worth living it starts with respecting your mom it starts with respecting your dad it starts with realizing that by fulfilling that fulfilling that Mitzvah you're actually sanctifying hashem's name you're honoring hashem's name because the explain the reason why the order of the Ten Commandments was given as such because if you dishonor your parents it's considered all five other sins that follow after it murder uh the uh stealing uh jealous all the other five uh Ten Commandments if you dishonor your parents you've just violated the other five dishonoring your parents considered like you murdered them in Cold Blood not supporting them you have money they need money you're not willing to help them it's considered Like You Stole and so on and so forth why because says they gave you life you disconnect from that that means you'll disconnect from me at some point also you can't respect them you can't respect me so this is a little bit of a reminder for us to number one respect and honor what we have number two realize that whatever we invest into our children eventually eventually that's going to be something that we could speak of either we're going to speak badly about it or we're going to speak good about it if you invest like K you can have children that I don't know how many people in this generation can do what the seven-year-old did I don't know how many people could do it I'm sure there's at least 36 of them that could do it but I don't know how many more than that our goal as Jews is to have kids just like where those kids learn enough about learn enough about reward and punishment that if Shalom the test was ever given we know we would be able to pass hopefully we never have such a test but you have to educate your kids and yourself and prepare for that because that's the generation we live we live in such a generation we live in a generation of mashia we live in a generation where there's going to be a lot of ups and downs a lot of craziness a lot of you have to prepare for it sometimes the comes knocking on your door sometimes it's a tank you have to prep everything it starts with educating oursel starts with applying everything to ourselves if you learn your kids will have you value learning your kids will value learning the wife sends the husband to go to a sh T at night the kids are going to want to go to a sh T at night the wife values to the husband values toah husband and wife value toah the kids will value to and so on and so forth once people understand that every one of their actions has a consequence has a reward has everything that is going to materialize in this world then they could live a life that is worth living any questions is more important your parents right keeping Shabbat is yes I mean it's a it's both a two separate MIT if your parents tell you to violate Shabbat or any you're not allowed to listen to them you now let to listen to them but if uh your uh parents are have a life risk then obviously you're obligated to violate Shabbat in order to save their life also honoring parents is different than for men and women you should also know that it's different while you're living in your parents' home you're both obligate men and women the son and daughter are obligated to honor the parents but the son is the only one that's obligated with honoring the parents forever whereas the daughter is only obligated to do it as long as she's living in their house once the daughter is married then she's obligated to our husband first and only secondary to our parents if she gets divorced then she's back to having to honor honor her parents first but if she's married she has to honor her husband before she honors her parents her husband takes precedence this I know is probably not going to be music to some women's ears or men's ears that uh you know love their parents and maybe not so much their husband but the reality is that once the woman gets married she has to know that the uh husband becomes the number one a woman that makes a husband number one will have a happy marriage a woman that makes husband you know somewhere different than number one where the kids are number one or the parents are number one or work is number one that woman is either going to have a miserable life or just a lonely life because she'll be divorced you know you have same thing with a husband if the husband makes his family number one his wife number one he'll be a happy husband if he makes the wife something different where there're you know she's after his parents she's after the kids she's after money she's after stock market she's after all these different things then obviously she's going to know it and she's not going to like it and uh she'll reciprocate she'll reciprocate and he'll be a miserable or most likely lonely person so yes the Torah obligates us to honor our parents but there's conditions to things but nonetheless if every single person simply worries about their spouse the person that's next to them the person that's near them the person that's dear to them you're never going to have any problems but if a person only worries about themselves then they're always going to have problems anything else yes okay tomorrow night we have the uh questions and answers uh series uh next week I'm not going to be here on Tuesday so next week we have a Shure on Sunday and no sh on Tuesday and as far as Wednesday I'm gonna try I land on Wednesday but and I'll try to do a on Wednesday but I'll see you guys tomorrow amen amen [Music] n [Music] [Applause] [Music] he [Music]