The Hidden Face of Purim - Rebbetzin Avigial Gersht

[Music] last class we spoke about and the two Bashara one month is to betray fallout on I'll here give you a hint to be fast ah Shabbat sure I fall down in Swat now according to one January good around January every time according to our chart one Jewish month comes after Shabbat attire Thank You Shaina idea so what do we know about the month of Adar per in who is familiar with this holiday called perm everyone is of course that's holiday everyone's familiar with you get smashed on perm look I know why there's a halal you have to get drunk it's like the only hell off I know and Judaism okay so we have this holiday called perma falls out in the month of Adar odd rows actually the month where Moshe Rabbeinu that leader of the Jewish nation on the seventh of Adam Miller be new was born and he died on the seventh of other he was born and died in the synthetizer yeah we say the same thing about David hemella right he was born and died on Shibui so on your birthday Shiva on his birthday yeah okay so there are will speak about just the basics there are four holidays there sorry therefore myths vote of the day what are the mitzvot one is what that's part of it it's not it's part of it it's not one of the four mitzvot meaning you don't have to get drunk on Purim many people don't many people do there are four laws that are necessary on perm tadaka right giving money to the poor hmm read the Megillah that's Rosh Hashanah hearing the you're right though hearing the Megillah giving money to tadaka or to poor people costumes is part of it and not one of the four though again not everyone dresses up having a suitor having a meal and giving me Slovak my note which literally means I'm sending a package right so the law is to give two different blessings to one person we end up giving 15 different blessings to 50 different people perms wild especially in Jerusalem it's at every one the city's drunk the city is trying I wouldn't recommend but well not as too crazy but like there's meaning it's a mitzvah to get drunk for the right reasons if you're gonna get drunk and end up being like wild and crazy then you're not supposed to get drunk but there's a certain beauty that kind of seen people drunk the whole point of getting drunk which we'll speak about is bringing out the inside breaking up internality so people are just like getting drunk and doing really stupid things that's actually like a turn-off and we could speak about it laughs after class but there's meaning I like kind of yeah it's really all out anywhere you go the truth the truth is you'll feel it okay so the formants voter perm again are you need to hear the Megillah right woman included because we were included in the miracle of Purim giving money to the poor having a suit of having a meal and sending Michelle off my know the basic perm story is this first of all falls out on the you will see in Jerusalem actually permis two different days in Jerusalem and outside Jerusalem do we know that okay so what happened was I'll hide the days after let's first a the story the basic make this was a short fifty years earlier and the Jews were sent to live in Persia they were dispersed around the earth around the world okay and they were sent to live in Persia and the Jews were living under a king called hush Burroughs who had control over 127 lines and the Jews were living nicely and peacefully and the second-in-command javi Roche was this man named pama right that's when they hear the Megillah unlike bangs okay hominid Binks they want to like destroy his name it's like saying Hitler bang bang we don't wanna hear his name okay so there was this man named common who was second-in-command and before I even get to hamantash Parrish was having a feast he had a feast for many many many many days and in the during that feast he was speaking to all his guy friends me was saying how his wife Vashti vash TI is here the most beautiful woman in the world and he invited about she to come there the the huzzah tell us he asked her to come naked she refused right to come to the party as my children's book says he asked Queen Vashti to come with her crown no I have pimple she said with the frown that's how the children's story goes right so he asked her to come and she said no and then he said well what am i convened what should I do with the woman who doesn't listen to me so he said what did you just listen to me it only makes sense you should kill her right so they killed her and then he woke up the next morning after he weet that after his drunkenness wore off and he started seeking a song that only came out about ten years ago called lonely I am so lonely right so he was mohab and he understood that song right back then and um he said I'm lonely what should I do he had a beauty pageant for all the woman there you were forced to come there was this woman named Queen Esther right who was not Queen yet her name was just Esther okay she was at the cousin and living with a man named Mordecai are we following so far yes she's like just shake your head and now your head it's the right thing to do okay he asked he had tell me to slow down and ask all of you if something's too like fast ask me to slow down okay and he asked she was living with Mordecai and she obviously didn't want to go she was this Jewish nice woman why would she want to go to a beauty pageant for for a non-jewish King but she was forced to go and as luck will have it as nature will have it Aakash Jewish wanted her and she was living in the palace okay now back to Haman Haman was the second in command and everywhere he would go people were bowed down to him he except for one man named Mordecai Mordecai set I am a Jew how's the book again a Jew I don't know a Jew does about anyone other than God right it is forbidden to bow to a human being you bound when we check other spur will you bear only touch shut mine which is why when someone's praying someone's standing up and meet a prayer you can't walk in front of them because they're praying to God which is why Muslims who pray to who they don't worship idols they pray to the same God we do you can't walk in front of a Muslim when they're praying either huh oh really in an event okay wow that's hard okay so so everyone would bow down to Haman except for one man named Mordecai who said a Jew doesn't bow ha maan has what we call the Hmong's syndrome which you can have the entire world down down to then you can be the president or the vice president of 127 lens it doesn't matter one person didn't bow it drove him crazy so he had a brilliant plan every day he'd walk by every day mortified who stood who was there who was part of them he's one of the leading torah sages at the time he refused to bow okay so i haven't come up with his brilliant plan and he said ostrich there's this nation they're like this reckless nation we kind of want to get rid of them we destroyed then you go surely sign the document the document said on the 13th of Adar right all of the nations of the world can kill all of the Jews in the world right and the Jews cannot fight back good he ordered basically a massacre and a flush Pharaohs agreed to it okay I'm sorry I'm rushing trying to give you the the general story okay so he agreed to it Mordecai said oh my god something Crazy's goin on here backtrack should I say that's part of the story yes okay fine so so backtrack more if I asked when Esther was living there he's to go to the gate and speak to Esther through the gate the King still didn't know that she was Jewish he heard two guards talking it called vixen and Sarah you don't have to remember their names planning to plot to kill plotting to kill the king Mordecai heard them planning to kill the king he told Esther I don't remember exactly we told go let the King know he's trying he's about to be assassinated and he saved a hush Vera's life one night the king could not fall asleep ok hemella will speak with him Ella is God really that the king could not fall asleep he asked one of his servants bring me that book do you want to call his diary it's called safer house he who knows the book of remembrance is bringing my diary let me maybe reading will help me fall asleep and as he's reading it he gets to a point in the story it gets a point in his diary where this man in mortal I saved his life and he asked the guards hey did we ever repay him right and they said no you never repaid him for is so so all of a sudden he hears this noise in the courtyard he goes who's there it was humming who's walking around and he could oh ha maan you're here I'm so happy you're here what would you do to someone who you want to reward and you want to you won't you want to pay them back they did they save the King's life I'm hardly fools could the King be talking about me well what I would do to me I mean what I would do to him is I would put on the Kings clothes on him I put the Kings clothes on tin and put me I me put him on to the Kings and have you know that someone maybe you know any maybe even more to high-ups to have someone push him around saying this is someone who the King respect and who the king wants to thank at cetera so the King says great go do that two more to hide a Jew he's like oh the King made an order can imagine how angry cumin was after having to do that so Hanuman was really upset he gets home his wife right okay the wife had this bad advice want you build some gallows right builds gallows and and that way you can hang Mordecai and then he built these gallows and then one day Esther comes to the king and says you know King I want to have a feast for un huh for un homme on can you come okay it was a big deal the Queen cannot just come to King without being commanded or invited to she go she risks her life gosh mayor says you want to have a feast sure whatever you want and him and I'm on hum and so excited that he's just me King and his wife and they sit down and the King said what is it that you want my love I cut see how my host after half of the kingdom I'll give you and she says my king the only desire that I have is to have another feast with you and I mine they haven't baked he goes okay if that's your wish your wish is my command and they have another feast the next day and at this feast esthercita king says what is that you want my love I thought see how ma hos and she says there's someone that's trying to kill me and my people and he said someone's trying to kill you and your people who is this person says him ha maan and hummus face drops he did not know that the Kings wife was Jewish and I thought sure bearish is so upset he gets up and he goes for a walk in the courtyard and as destiny will have it ha maan is Sid if we had 5 years but could speak about this story this is rushing through it there's like deaf behind it you know it's like a crazy seems like a kid story but there's like it's infinite depth to it but as destiny will have it how many soon they'll be like Esther I didn't know I knew you were Jewish I never we're gonna I've never meant to hurt you I never would have killed you and he falls onto her lap as he's pleading with her to please tell the king I'm sorry and a hush hush walks and he says not only are you trying to kill my wife you're trying to to be with her and sleep with her in my own palace and then someone who you want to get rid of Hamid this actually Gauss he built four more - how did you why not hang him on those gallows ok and another document that God sent down saying all the Jews of Persia and of the world can fight back and the Jews fasted on the third and then Haman and his ten sons were hanged on the gallows ok that's the end of the perm story the Jews fought back and they survived the 13th of oz' till today is the fast day ok we fast in commemorating the fact that we went out to war the next day knowing it's all from Hashem ok we fast that 13th is the fast day the 14th of Adar is Purim however and this is the fun part about living in Israel or in Jerusalem the 15th of Adar is perm in Jerusalem do you have Pernod - okay some people are very mocked but some people are very very religious and they want to keep - perms so they travel outside on the 14 and inside the 15th why is it do we know why on the 15th is it sperm because during the time when they were fighting back they asked because Jerusalem and be they asked the people in Persia which was a walled city and can we have one extra day to fight okay and so they said they were granted one extra day to fight so they fought on the 14th and on the 15th but outside Persia they found only on the 14th so we had an extra day so now we celebrate in Jerusalem on the 15th however you feel perm everywhere people will basically keep like two days perm again yeah [Music] it's a great question you're saying if Judaism is the opposite of the two other main religions in the world which believing absence and celibacy in asceticism why do we have fast days great question let me ask you a question because as a Jews do when you ask a question you respond with the question and how many fast these are there how many fast these are there 9 close - 306 you pass your SATs I'm sure you pass your SAT and there's 6 fastest on the Jewish man there's no such thing as a fail so the there's 6 faster on the Jewish calendar two of which are politically mandatory from the Torah which are what do we discuss past days yeah if you had to take a guess which other to me fast days Yom Kippur and tisha BA thank you and Trish about when both the temples were destroyed so when we discuss fast these we'll get there more however the rabbi who said that is completely right we don't believe in sin abstinence however there are certain days iam kippers one day a year where we are totally removing ourselves from the physical world what's interesting in an Miguel it's a weird story right even as I was saying and it kind of had these two though this is like a wild like fairy tale like I don't know kind of kid story and the whole Purim story the way that it comes about and this is my my what I personally take from perm every single gear is that it just seems totally natural man okay so this guy was angry at the game and the King said this and then and then it's not it's not there were miracles that took place like you said that they were fighting back haunt the war was stopped the Jews had to fight back Esther Esther it was like Esther was redeemed afterwards Esther still stayed Mary Tamara for the rest of her life it's really sad Esther still stay mary-rose so it why wouldn't she say marry right no I'm saying it's not a happy ending though for Esther because she she was a Jew married to a non-jewish king yeah she don't know no no riches and goals weren't her thing [Music] no but she was not meaning to be married to King definitely at that time means you're at his will her life was at risk when she went to his chair to ask him to have a meeting with you so meaning it wasn't a lovey-dovey relationship between the two of them anyway she was a Jewish woman a religious Orthodox woman who was forced to be with physically and practically living together for the rest of her life with someone else who should wanna be married to so what's interesting about the whole story this is what I take from it is that Hashem's name isn't mentioned once an entire book all the other books of ketubah all the other writings Hashem is all over - hello my name is all over the story of iya where all that tragedy has happened to this man Hashem's name is written all over God's name is not written once an entire Magilla yes [Music] what do you mean by that what is that he couldn't told and he couldn't have told the king or Esther to tell the king that these two two men are trying to kill him but he used to he used his free will to tell to tell that story to tell that like they're keen to say okay Jews are not that bad more time to [Music] swab of Gaza need not be mentioned yes yes what's the point of her hidden miracles that's what I'm asking why do we have hidden miracles show appreciation what else take a guess and I guess why would we hit what would be the point of a hidden miracle your God you could do anything so that's actually the practical reason in the sense that Esther wrote Magilla Esther and so some people say the Hashem's name isn't mentioned because it was she couldn't have sent out this scroll this letter it's the entire world if God's name was mentioned all over it however what's interesting is right after what was the month right the Jewish month right after I die Nisan right nissim literally means nice miracles right Nissan is the month which we're gonna be speaking right after this class is the month of only miracles are the ten plagues in Egypt of the splitting of the sea of Mon coming from heaven only only open miracles however open miracles do not always reflect and represent a solid relationship let me give you an example right you can have couples who are all over themselves all over each other in public they could have a loving relationship they could not have a real loving relationship right meaning not loving side they could not have a solid relationship I don't know right but just because you're all over each other in public doesn't mean it's a solid relationship open miracles are so to speak us all over each other in public right however a couple who they are solid together they don't feel the need they don't feel the necessity to prove to the world that they're all over each other in public together so far out the month of Adar McGee left Esther literally means what you said it before Bella what is it Esther means head right hidden and what is McGill I mean gee Lloyd look eloped yeah to reveal exposed right expose the whole Megillah Esther is literally revealing the hidden that's what Magilla Esther is how shams name isn't mentioned anywhere in our lives in our lives it's so hard when we have challenges when we have these hardships when we're going through something in God I don't get it right that's what the Jews were saying then in Persia God I don't get it right a massacre set to take place on the 13th of Adar where are you but guess what there's something called an emotional bank account every relationship has one an emotional bank account means I say good morning to my husband honey all right can I make you a cup of coffee I just put three dollars into our emotional bank account okay and then he buys me flowers or says something that he put five dollars into my emotional bacon it's a very simple example okay and then let's see if we go through a hard time we go through a challenging time if there's enough can this applies to any relationship in life if there's enough cash inside the bank account for with the draw her chips mean I withdraw from the bake cap then you're okay however if there's not enough cash if we do not have this loving relationship beforehand then when you go through a hardship you're in - you're in the negative in your bank account every relationship needs an emotional bank account is that clear right so with God we had an emotional bank account we experience God in our lives now we need to build our relationship with each other and with God right why because during the hard time what are you withdrawing on comes Purim comes perm nothing makes sense it was all darkness it was kosher it was dark it was like God where are you so either will fall apart and breaks they say I knew it he never guessed it all along or else we have that relationship to fall back on on burn in a solid relationship you know who to turn to the example is let's say a woman receives a dozen roses in the middle of the week no signature on them who's the first person she calls her husband right in that nice you call your husband honey thank you sent me roses right so what happens if why wouldn't she call her husband so who else would be sending to her her wishes or her mother-in-law boosted her mother-in-law oh that's really sweet no he's really sweet I mean we should all have many mothers who get us flowers it's really a kissy fire if she if she's having affair that she's cheating then the last thing she's gonna do is call her husband and say think he's throwing for the roses because she doesn't know who gave him to her the way it was her boyfriend me was her husband I'm permit the hands a bouquet of roses right no name we're just like thrown into this crazy turmoil hardship that's going on and all of a sudden or who's giving this to us but we have that bank account with Hashem we had that relationship with Hashem and we're able to with the drawn that we were given roses and we knew who to call right out there is the month of hidden relationship but the solid grounded relationship and when you are able to see God during the hard times when you are able to know when it's Purim and during Purim when the hardship is happening when this crazy challenge eyes don't worry I can get there was going on you say how could his prognosis from you you will be so full we will all we have a Nissan right afterwards you have any sense you have any sentence is the month of Passover the month nee-san right you're able to have that this month have open and revealed and amazing miracles right Roger this is how you spell a doctor also means what does Alan Aleph mean one right Aleph is always represents them God right all of the dar dar means dwells world lives how do you say apartment in Hebrew Adira an apartment right a dirt I'll lift dark God lives dar means to live to dwell right that's utter even though I don't see it Hashem's name is everywhere in the entire Magilla right I'll look at stands for I'm me I dotted represents Hashem and raesha is Rafa ha your healer I am God your healer dalla could be used as it's interchangeable with a yawn which can be used for God and a hay which can be used for God however adalat is not the normal letter used for God right you usually see a hay and set people yes okay right then the month of Adar is another sham where are you I don't see it but but he's all over he's all over why are we getting drunk on perm why are we getting drunk on parent who knows to reveal the hidden within ourselves okay expand let's hear yes yes yes that's what it says the Talmud tells us you should drink until you do not know the difference between blessed is Hanuman and cursed is mortify kind of see that a bit louder why right why this oh that's we're supposed to that's how the song goes I did I did I did I did lay there right until I don't know until I don't know you're supposed to drink until again you're only drinking if speak to your local Orthodox rabbis when if woman you want to drink okay hmm speech without rabbi but why what is with this whole drinking thing why are we why are we drinking till we don't know the difference when kerfs is is hama isn't more high in buses Hummer was it through drinking any ideas that's that's part of the story also do we know that part of the story yeah what yes that's a different political class but what Bala said is correct when Hanuman was dragging the more high on the horse Hong's daughter looking at the window and she saw someone a men dragging someone on a horse and went this is someone who the King loves etc - and that who could it possibly be it must be mortal eyes it is dragging my father around so she took what we call the chamber pot okay it's where you go to relieve yourself and she poured it down and the fill bucket the filth bucket well that's very sophisticated in American cannibal call it other things will go with the filth bucket so she took the filth bucket and she she poured it down and all sent humming looks up and he sees his daughter who just poured that bucket on top of him and she looks down she sees her father it's like dad Gila got her and soon and she just she takes her own life because she is so devastated about what just happened what is that yeah no okay I know that's a there's so much we could speak about perm and we'll probably continue the next class so we have this miss what to drink until you're an addiction hung on and more to find there is a certain app and this may seem crazy to say there's a certain aspect of blessed is humming because how men's pain is what push - straighten tuck has Asheboro his hands Hashem's hands i am paying unfortunately is an often times the impass impetus to bring us closer to shine bringing us closer to people we love right so there's a certain degree a certain aspect of blessed is humming for the closeness he brought between us and God and there is a certain degree if I can even say such a thing of curse this morning I god forbid because and and this again it goes much deeper but in a certain degree morning I stopped Michelle from coming okay if all the Jewish nation were going to be killed right and they believe Michelle would have come and that's why some of the Jewish members didn't want him to sorry fast and and and pray why just let the massacre happen so there is an aspect of that the wise that we were drinking until we get to that point thank you yes when we're sober means in this world in this life of it olam Haza where it's referred to the room houses as Lila as a night I can't see that homens pain is good I can't see what's happening in my life my parents getting divorced this person dying mean whatever working so hard I not seeing any results and I can't see that that's good however only went in twenty a year relax right but what only when I'm able to lift myself add this physical body only when I'm able to see a little bit higher I see mmm that was good right that was good that's why only when you're drunk can we see Oh blessed is how my curse is more if I think you cleaner okay there's one more point I want it I want to say I'm well finished with this which is have you heard of mission s either Mehbooba simple yeah okay I mean you know since acne sign means an entrance right so mission if honest whoever enters Munich has other Marvin should increase like our bay is a lot in Marvin I'm victim huh and happiness mission right your class is called some fun something with where my ultimate some comets happiness right mission if enough outer Marvin miss Empire whoever enters the month of August should increase in happiness and the obvious question is how can you command me to be happy you can't command an emotion and on one foot it means mission if masada whoever enters the month of Adar knowing this secret of outer Marvin with some plan on Chris and happiness what's the secret of a de I know we rush as possible of it I'm sorry what's the secret of utter it's a muna in one word it's a muna faith based on knowledge right the Jewish concept of faith and the Christian concept of faith is very is very different right some blind faith it's faith based on knowledge based on information Misha Nick Masada whoever enters the month of Adar knowing the secret of what is author author is there's an entire Magilla God's name is not mentioned once you have an entire life you have an entire narrative of your personal life story and being able to see even though shams name isn't here one time I see he's all over the place right if we had time we'd speak about so many stories right I've just incredible had that happen right there's nothing natural about nature right Busey Oats natural look at nature's there anything natural about that happening and being able to see what what's behind that being able to recognize and internalize and munna having a deeper understanding deeper connection during the hard time during the hardship you will automatically be happier so mission if Masada I know that there's a bigger picture I know that this darkness is going to end I know there's light after this you will naturally increase in simcha why because you're not alone because it's a bigger picture because there's someone in charge of this there's someone who sees office it's going on and there's a master plan to this so so that being said we should all be able to take Adar and perm and be able to internalize the fact okay not everyday can I see the goodness in this right however when I'm drunk I'm able to see a bit above just my physicality and see there's a bigger picture here and being able to see beyond the darkness and and recognizes a bigger picture here but we should be able to do that on pump and let that penetrate and seep into our entire year and it'll be a different it's a different existence I'll end here and I'll take your question and I want to keep people [Music] you