The Hidden Connection between Hilchos Niddah and Purim - Rabbi Daniel Coren Shovavim Lecture

this happens to be a very very hopefully at least I'm enjoying it I hope the enjoys it because we're holding by see I'm already drunk that cougle had a lot of wine in it uh they started you know there's a secret ingredient in ch there's a secret ingredient in cogle they put some Mallen some schnaps but in anyway I was thinking like this that um really wanted to be Mas the purm because I can't stay away from purm so the first Kash of course to the is what's the connection between and the laws and what's the connection you're getting close so you're not going to believe it I make I do not make this up two ladies today I get a lot a lot of sh throughout the day and two ladies challenged with the challenge of having a mar basically becoming n during the seven Clean Days Z is pretty much like uh I want to say tragic everyone is levels and levels of what tragedies are and the difficulties and challenge but it's quite challenging anyone that experienced it what was interesting is that this lady that asked me the question her name was Esther and I said listen I told her what to do she has to start people make a mistake they think they have to do again 12 days so this is it's not 12 days if a woman's in the middle of she just restarts with okay the um so I told her that she was very happy and and then I said you know it's had to be I said you know says says what that's the connection that mean very strange word became a so here's the connection ready and but not only that it reminded me of the most incredible Von the there's many new SPM new coming out in the v there's but um I had this for years already 32 years I I think I purchased this safer it's calledo so in the back of he has about five five or so on Mill eser each one of course is a is a gold is a golden Pearl and one of my favorite actually is on this what's the connection so what's the significance so listen to this incredible vill the god oh the PK says PK says like this the she invited the king and basically invited the king and to the party why did Esther invite says she was setting up traps say what she from her father's house she what did she know it's it says if your enemy is hungry feed him bread so figured she's going to make a party for H knock him out she was worried that he's going to take the counsel and he's going to rebel against the king okay that's a political move if wanted to make sure that no one's going to really recognize that she's Jewish cuz may remember which is I've been speaking about this in my daily videos The Mystery of Esther Mala somehow savoring her identity which is Mella but I've discussed about how is that possible it's not to get to to today's but then it goes like this this is what I love this says besides all these I have my amazing because on the bottom you know a lot of the in the vill guns different they come out it's like it just came out the night another so they um they have different many times like versions and versions and version exactly what he said so in the bottom here they say actually says like this if I was there I also would have said learned and hear he was like and he was there he said if I was there I would say the following shot what would he say right so what if two guys have have a lady walk in between that's what people are careful to make sure that they don't have two guy lady goes between two guys oh so defense like this yeah I mean usually when you're at a wedding you can't like stop the lady and [Laughter] say you know I'm saying that's a problem so that's why you have to be comfortably moved them to the you know whatever but like this beginning of her nether cycle she kills one of them it's pretty serious stuff again so today we're not so because usually doesn't happen that if a woman walks in between two guys that one sudden you say guy's dead you know that you know could be that if a lady's about to walk in between two men the guy should just scream but that's what says one of the guys dies the end of she causes a fight between the two youever know suddenly there's a fight between you and your friend is because you let a lady walk in between hey we were getting along a second ago what happened says listen to this now you understand what's going on here Al why did she invite to the party the says there's a decree and one of the guys dies meaning from the advisers wow is asking why did invite to the party the answer is became she said wait a minute she grew up in's house she knew she said the beginning of she'll knock at one of the guys once one of the guys is out about to go I'm going exale make a fight if I should say this on video on my daily video because not sure if the women will appreciate this so much I don't know okay anyway so as I showed you clearly what an incredible connection to my the that was just the introduction by the way now what's interesting also is that I got a WhatsApp today it actually yesterday a lady sent me a WhatsApp um it's like like when you get a WhatsApp it's not just like a something that happened or is going to happen it's like I'm fighting with my husband right now are you available I like so I I was I forgot where I was I was at a wedding I think I wrote back I said Well for now at least make sure that it's done with respect so the lady wrote me back you know that makes sense I'm so happy and look at that they didn't even whatsa me to that so let's speak tomorrow see what happens you argue with respect so how does that connect to um Pur the answer is is that there was a lot of Shalom problems going on especially with V and and as you recall say seriously actually not that this everything I said ton wasn't serious but it's a Gak anything connected to but the truth is we said about two three weeks ago when I spoke I said that is tot the most I would say the the the what's it called the foundation we explained it's how much a person really believes that it's not that someone's going to say something and and and without but not only that it's the acceptance I saw by the way the Don Frank that was speaking two weeks ago so I listened he did a great job videoing so he said so the most important ingredient in marriage is Anova why is Anova such an important ingredient because it's an acceptance I's acceptance I always say over from rash Rashi says says my favorite ver why is it called saan is AER you know that sa is AER oh is what yeah yeah that's what comes is is the because it comes from tolerance what does it mean tolerance your ability to to to to to carry how much ability to carry that's how much of an you are if a person understands that everything is from hasem he's going to have easy time carrying what it means from it's not a it's not a heavy PE but if a person thinks I have a I marry to and I have to deal with every single day and it's all because of her and I because of I have a miserable life then it's very difficult so it's interesting that the Deep the more there's a real connection between the husband and wife and the more when a person has a he understands that it's that it's really all there to for his benefit both ways to grow so then of of course you can to have a good health you're going to have much more success but if you have a relationship like Vash and and here's another villain where do you see that they had no relationship how do you know how do you know they didn't have any communication because the PK [Music] says somebody else yeah exactly what happened was she sent them he sent a message please come now by the way she didn't have no problem if he would have done it in the right way she would have came because she was a and she wanted she would have came naked and she would have done things that are improper but the way the message was sent was was was degrading and if you look at the Mal the Mal basically explains that the whole battle was who is really the source of the Maus her me his message to her was always Vash you're not you married to me may you became a queen she would send messages you look in the she would always send and the would say the why because she held that it's only because of her that he's really a king why because she's from Royal royalty she comes from she's a granddaughter she's a daughter of Bel nothing at least according to her but I on my videos I mentioned from m is there's a famous incredible story that really know he's also from royalty his father was K and Kish is um and and Kish was a son inlaw by dares the first and kish's father was this guy and was was a was um kish's father what happened was so his mother was a daughter of the king I forgot the name something like artisis something like that and what happened was the daughter the only daughter she got n by some one of the cers one of the s in this in the palace and she got pregnant what happened was the father wasn't happy threw into jail and when the king kid was born they took the kid and to he said send him to the mountains he should die in the mountains he didn't want to murder Mish he sent the kid into the mountains baby the M said what happened was a dog female dog was there and she nursed him that's how that was Kish Kish was nursed by a dog and what happened was K in in Persian I looked it up similar to is a dog means a dog so what happened was this kores ended up becoming a gashaka warrior and he fought his father found out about it and he start he sent it to try to kill him couldn't kill him and he killed his he killed his he killed his father he killed his father yeah not his father his grandfather killed his grandfather and then he took over Persia and what happened was said hey I have a daughter let's let's make peace was the king of and hence you had so so so really I wanted to say why is it a so I'll tell you why it's a you look another says in the right says whates it say by the way again she was stressing I'm the queen she I'm not coming because you sent to to get me so what happened but instead of having a nice conversation which obviously little bit difficult when you know the party and everything going on but that's what that's what he had to do so what happened so the king got very angry and his anger burnt inside of him what's y's question got angry and his anger burnt inside of him first what's what's the difference number two has gun I don't understand usually when a person's angry and he's means like foam he's foaming it really actually is therapeutic I once knew a therapist that he used what's called this called anger management one of the processes of getting so to speak of dealing with anger is screaming it out now it's safeer if you don't do it to a person he's screaming out in the room I'm upset I'm angry and this and that but a very intense level so so so it's a debate actually in the in the in the therapist world in the you know the psychology world is that really work that you scream things out and Tak takes rid of anger but I'll show you villain G that says yeah R from a villain wish this friend of listen to this why is he getting so angry who why it sounds like she lit a flame inside of him was like burning what what what did she say you know what she said she sent him a message you are the you're the guardian of horses for my father my father is referring to he drank a thousand bottles of wine he didn't get drunk you you drink a little bit you're ready Tipsy making fun of him that's a good you know recipe for relationships you know what what's amazing we're speaking about speaking about couples will know that if they insult each other and they scream at each other and they try to demean each other it's only going to make things worse and you know what happens they still do it every I used I heard this from used to say every husband knows a happy wife is a happy life and every husband thinks he's going to be the exception right no I don't need to be I don't need to make sure my wife's happy she'll be happy even with even if I don't have to make her happy or I'm going to be happy even if she's not happy yeah you're right cuz I'm going to put it down and that's going to make me happy see how the is working so I'm showing you that this was old style because vashi basically said like this you sent him the message that you don't even know how to drink now that for so that's really not nice don't insult husbands about drinking that's already very personal and she says like this so he says I understand you should be shocked about this gun says what asking why was he so upset I would also be upset I would be upset I'm not the king my wife would say what are you stable you're just a stable Taker and you don't know how to drink that's it I'm not I'm not not I'm a stable worker and I don't know how to drink that's not a good reason to get upset every husband today would get upset so what's about the king and she's rebelling against all the how can you say that he's not going to get upset she embarrassed him of thousands of people imagine [Music] what's the difference between and says know classical V he says basically means anger like foam that's on above the water that's why it's was inside why was it burning so much inside he already got angry he let it out and we just said if you let things out then you shouldn't be so angry inside pschology he says Everyone Knows by Israelis they can Mish argue scream you think they're ready ready to kill each other and then suddenly after that the best friends it's most beautiful thing I'm talk about Arabs Israel but Israel that's what happens you see it says it's says here it's the opposite got his anger out no says that's why was inside she sent him a message that he can't express anger that you're upset is only going to work out when you get it out because you could get it out but something that's personal that you can't share with anyone is just going to get stuck that's what the gar is asking the gar is saying there must been something that was so angering and and he couldn't express it ah it must have been something secret that's was a message that she was sending him so what she send him that was a personal thing no one knew that he was a stable taker that's the whole point they were arguing the whole time who's really the source of the royal of the royalty now we understand so first he got angry about the refusal what happened these Messengers obviously they got the message so they had to whisper to him he can express it so that's why he so Ang inside so this is another incredible less just these two vill guns already Priceless no next time wife screams me keep SC might be might be well if she's ready to get everything out you know that's um that's definitely if you're able to tolerate but that's the truth okay no amazing I want to tell you one more one more because as we mentioned the of marriage as we see is auna can't have marriage without auna you know the second people is it is it really is this is really my maybe it's not myash I should really I could find someone better that's already also very a very a good voice and um and the grass is green on the other side so there's a lot of like we said how does aun play a role and I I mean specifically because the the level that we know there's a of course there's a difference between so says what's the difference between that means you can know that God exists and then even though you know that God exists and then the second you wife said something that's it she's done you just insulted me you called me a stable so instead of saying oh maybe I need to work on myself no this is what she said to me she's going to get punished so that's called not having V that's where do we see that this was actually a test and it was actually not just a theoretical concept but it was a battle through excuse me throughout the generations of how much which really means how much really was in the world so there's another mod this is my favorite one probably my favorite on the gun although the other two will also can't say which ones but this is probably my favorite why this is already this is by the way I heard this once um years ago he said this over I saw I think I saw it before when he said it but you also got very excited about it such a beautiful thing and especially that we say it every single day I don't say everyone says it but many if you open up a sitter Art School sitter you have it the after what do you have sings it right what's very good so what but what so what's the what's the explanation says you see this you will say this and it will change you it's a way to actually leave the B listen to what he says in the says in at least we're getting to learn m the m inside famous it says when those letters were signed I was just learning this today because we were just learning say basically that after that after right H became great it was right after the big got into trouble KS H became great and the problem was that the wasn't bowing down so he got really upset right we want this you jump what does that by the way mean basically he said that I'm not going to go after one guy right the they went to and they said you know that said I'm sure everyone learns what does that mean I'm not bowing down he said because I'm a Jew doesn't bow down says today tomorrow's big right so there's open he brings down from a different once you hear this by the way you'll never be able to see the the same way again when I Lan it I L it based on this what and by the way I saw this no what does that mean they told H that m is saying you know what he's saying he's saying that you're Jewish what H is Jewish insulting the greatest insult he's Jewish so if you look at M he quotes The Source he doesn't say this but there's a famous story not just a story the reality was is that Mor and H were hired to be heads of the army of Persia they were fighting a battle I think it was like for three years and they both had basically a certain amount of people under them and food for three years food for three years for years of course ham used it up early and he was in trouble so he came to begging him I need food so basically ended up saying listen you become a slave I'll give you food became now we know that is that when a person owns a slave in the old days and then you free him half Jew becomes half a Jew so sent a message to to I'm GNA bow down to you remember you are my slave and if you're not my slave you're Jewish you want me to bow down to you anyway but we're focused on the let's finish up with this anyway so the E letters were basic because what happened let just continuing the story is that H ended up getting permission from she paid him off 10,000 shek no problem money always talks and he was able to now get the um the approval he um because after he he and what happened he decided great I'm going to kill the Jewish people 12 months later it's going to be that and the letters were went sent out so what happened these three young kids coming from Imagine runs after them know because he gets to the young little children and he said one to the one of the children him what did you learn even if it was taken away wasn't it was given to to the little kids so one said the the child said don't be scared from Sudden Death from Sudden fear that's one the that's a the child I read a different today that was the second says was so happy he was M dancing from this from this news said to himz was there know how's there and he says why are you so happy he told him he said I don't have to be scared I'm not scared of the of the counsel that you just decided to do to destroy the Jewish people so so so the villain go says Where where does he get this from first of why are these three speak about the Jewish people being saved and their success why are we so paying attention to these says listen to this history he said history came three times against the Jewish people and I used to give a seminary seminar um on on the proofs of Judaism and everything else this is my favorite we end off with this because it's all about M the sequ ofer and the and the Germany and everything else not for now but in any case says this three times in history comes against the Jewish people we this in right when's the second time it says died so it says there in the P they was secret right because they dressed up like different Nation but who was it Wass it who was it and they tricked the Jewish people can you imagine they knew how powerful is so they so what happened the Jewish people saw that they're wearing clothing like but the language is like so that's why beautiful so that's the second time in history when's the third time in history his third time in history comes against the Jewish people you know when that's the third time the fourth time by the way is Germany so the third that's that after the Von the Von himself is the one that says thear says says is Germany we already knew that there's going to be a fourth time saidy saidy yesy just said yes what fascinating is if you look at the says that they were they were they were you look at in history of Germany there were 300 separated colonies that were United together the the G in this it's Bas that says that don't tell don't allow to come out because if he does he's going to be he's going to destroy the world you see in any case the point is the third time was that's the the even stresses that he comes from from from that's the that you see in your sitter and you say you're supposed to say it every there you could say it every there you'll see now from now and you'll always say it these are the three that the kids were to in the one said don't be scared of a sudden attack a sudden fear that was the first time where it says surprised right that was the first he chilled you off because he came from the back W ready just like he saved us then that was the first time right that's the about the first time AAL came what's the next one said right why that's conected the second time they they try to trick us with an oh you could try all the counsel you could try your tricks the is going to be an old right they tried to trick the Jewish people by trying to speak a different language that's why we say the second and when is the third what's the third what's this saying saying it doesn't matter how old I am I'm still around ah says what did say said yes there's a God yes is's a Creator we know there's a Creator but his theory was he's old he's retired he's not an act he's not an active Creator he's not what goes on he can't do anything any for the Jewish people and you should know that that's really what p is all about it's called which basically means that that CL that's it says says they became old for Mitzvah they became asleep they were sleeping is waking everyone up so listen to what he says they told H what are you doing look at all the other previous Kings know this also anyone starts the jewi people ends up being blown to SMI thank you and much more than going to get this last one this last so you know what said unbel he's old he's like old yeah I heard about he's old he's retired he went to Florida and what's this proof cuz he destroyed his Temple and the whole proof by the way the Kings the beginning of because he thought that the 70 is up and he see they not being redeemed must is old he's not doing it anymore all the proofs were in in his pocket so that's why the third child said no you're making a mistake he's making a mistake doesn't change supposed to say when you leave sh because then it reminds us how much he loves us he takes care of us throughout history and he's taking care of us he's going to take care of us in history and the third time or fourth time which is really fifth time I would say the fourth time was Germany the fifth time is all these that are all like the says all people that m is going into just people this time it's going to be the end of them and we're going to see it was so for me I hope also for you and we there was no in every generation depends how you learn rais ra learns that anyone really that is trying to be and destroy the Jewish people has but the P say that we that there is however we know that we even say it in the the what's it called in the so really they're mixed because as married um as married