The Healing Message of the Tanya - By Rabbi YY Jacobson

if a dotnet about that ever cold this time you safer shall bein in them because he wants to talk to me if everybody could quarter of a leftover much lapel you see what amazing it has you see what a baton is it's not science to most people Clara says invaded good days I've been me layover of a Tamiya male Avril island when the Alina kill of shame Russia fill of chakras where guys could call Yama money of you'll tighten Tonya that he could do children fine but still way over Oliver at me bob is a bane indeed Africa I've been because of Bain and we understand a baton is in state so fine but it's we understand why I can make a mistake it's a mistake but it's a Chuck it's a goodness she says I could fry look at all the pillar potted sure was a cost of all the time he finished pay to Calif and he said I used to think I was tickled sarthak and yeah it's tell the vibe a nanny so the showers are good to Charlotte I'll be Mothra wanna coda then the code of the bane and his shyest everybody say Stasi whenever you read about a certain matter a game considers or any safer people make a mistake and they look at it as black and white either am this or I'm not this and since I'm not that I'm the opposite every Indian exists in Russian of alter never wish lame us and also exist busy a rampant was a dump in means you'll have a mirror that reflects an image and in the mirror it's much smaller you have a picture of yourself the picture is deciced the picture is four by four you're not four by four you're not four inches by four inches let's hope not but the picture has all of you inside the picture when you read about a Madurai again maybe you can have mine where you could have a picture of it a picture that means the inion the way it applies in a miniature form it's very very important because people read about things and I'm not this not try it to me it was written you wanted express the Indian in its full arm it tears but you have to take a picture of it picture that means pictures a real thing it's not a you see of you see what the guy looks like in other words you take the image in the way at a place every moderate applies in every person's life in a certain - every Indian even at Sadiq culture getting another band name what's the finish of the baton a and then we'll understand why in so important what's the finish of the baby as I developed always held that Sabich is somebody who mostly mitosis rushes mostly of a disability is fifty-fifty doctor never completely rejects this notion he says that stung Shaima mu shal it's not the real idea sometimes you use it like you'll say your child got a good mark on the test at Sadiq it doesn't mean the descending you're at something somebody comes out from court and he's innocent you pissed at Sadiq doesn't mean it's a shame emotion isn't the real definition of it's sad that kind of pain Indiana Russia there's something else Sadiq means Libby's Holabird cubic other than a v8 so her painting is somebody who struggles but lay off of a layover and I rush is somebody who struggles and he surrenders if you let now some loud let's think about it the Big Finish of time you say for champagne in there not safe for shots at the command not say for sure I'm safer shall bein and in many ways the hero if I could express myself this way the hero of the time he is not at Sonic certainly not in Russia it's the bane of me my Bane and me my Hanukkah Tamara Bonin my Hanukkah of dilutive is a stunner Ivana my beta me what's what what's this beta me what's the faucet um get breaths pay the Caliph doctor abandon prove that Santa is not somebody who did mostly mitzvahs Russia is not somebody that mostly evaders and Hebei knees on somebody fifty-fifty my enslave what was bothering him stops are pimple in tomorrow what it sounded can abandon is to understand robber or to understand eeeh evil to understand all the Shiloh's over him pain a caliph what a gosh is he asks a good child of the camara says and shoe is in a moment he do one ave they already are she never accepted to finishing Amara's of Smalley's theories she says Russia's even one of it what does he want a lot of people learn the first painting time is okay till I learned the first pay the tiny I thought then I'm at something and now I'm not even abated me now I'm stopped my Russian okay so what's the point makes you feel worse the Emmis is that with this concept he was trying to teach something that is often revolutionary I'll say the kids are numerous if you read see in Worcester MA sure my atomic ship if you read safe limo service if you read swarm of masseur I'm talking about serious if we Muslim shyrokov are Fossati Kim Davis olive Ava's ratios hakama share each other miss ELISA Shoreham over this something used to learn 15 minutes before service every day so you learn all this foreign of a city most said generally Claudia soil is divided into two groups good guys and bad guys I'm speaking very generally so the commander Shan good guys abandon the good guy is the guy who's aligned with rots and Hashem Hashem and me we're a good ship of salah bites the bad guys are the people who are not aligned with resolution that sound ik is somebody that what are shem wants is what I want we're on the same page shell doesn't want me to do this I don't want to do what he wants me to do this that's how I live I love him my love is tired I love his Mitzvah Simon what we call what the Zeta is to call on ever fade yeah Plus yeah he's a good guy that's that stuff then the other group are troublemakers Hashem wants so there's they do CH over then they could become something but very often they don't enjoy their major showing up this was generally again I'm being very generalize and make it simple but generally there's two categories of you of course this problem and Protectorate him and matter agus etc here's the challenge here's one of the great challenges and today you can really appreciate it but this was a challenge a few hundred years to ago - and that is there were serious Jews who read all these Farnam and they want to do they wanted to make it personal but they had a major problem problem was do are those the shamaness that get along with God there are in every generation does even I'm just saying it you know in the dramatic words but they get along with Hashem they just get along maybe because they're very bright they're extremely bright or maybe because they're so simple innocent they're just innocent their commitment or they're just - usamos whatever the situation is but certain people maybe it's from birth together with a void its genes its nature its nurture and a smile a abayas polloi this office the mom is telling them the Mamas tenon combination of everything together in their own way in their all weightless everyone everybody in the world wrestles we live in a world but there's wrestling in his wrestling you know what I mean the edge of a Yasha is wrestling in yeshiva you know what I mean and is wrestling in with the big boys bird Oh godl certain type of soul you just have a certain type of solar certain a sensitivity an airless kite you're gonna decide your son is gonna be the ribbon it's a rabbit tomorrow yeah the Mendel foot of us was very close to the libman sir the benefit of us was a kibbutz care who was in prison for many years and he became causing the Russia he was stayed for many years he was with the niblets as he said once that niblets has said that men will come a mikvah feels very intimate let's call it man so the mikveh was in a river the problem is it was winter winter and Russia's not winter in muncie winter months he's a heat wave winter in Muncie yes a heat wave the summer that's a heat wave there's no boating there's no boating but if you go to certain places up north up there - 40 it's a heat wave especially tonight there's mama a heat wave so the rivers when went to harvest that was buried near a river the Persol River it spice mama scheisse they were they were doing you saw they were skating on it Shabbos afternoon the were Gentiles ice-skating on it there was a citizen who would come and they would chop the ice and go to the mikveh because I didn't want to go and today they but have a hop lick but it was on me cuz I didn't were no steps there was nothing they would chop the river to be able to go to the but it's very dangerous because this ice everywhere of the person it's mom or cyclist no flashes so deliberates it takes her Mendel down to the mikveh to the river was freezing so stocking our ice it was water but it was water that mama SH you can suffer from what's called hyper fermion push a dangerous the frigid miss who was so cold if you remember the mall Santas matron measure push it's a type of cold this is partially dangerous I went in you couldn't I couldn't go in three times because I felt the body is you have to know you have to know your body would they wouldn't be able you could be young you went three times once they also you couldn't go three times unless you have a different time it's like dangerous you could feel your body says out calm the results may cause like a heatwave the result is a vitamin you can't compare anyway so the evidence said thousands of mendel come gained a mikvah the Mendel says he is very sinister forces were so cold like the water is like 40 below zero whatever the number is it didn't get it didn't get out it was almost ice he says gay gates was anger so the men will go jump since there was accident he was a little too vague to eat but he was a regular person he said he almost died he came out it was pitch dark he almost died but it came out he got rest his head the difference it goes in slowly he does 310 320 suspected in this water he said once he he falls down on a silver and he's very relaxed now they came down the hill it was a slope that the go thought they Riven had to go up he finished his 300 and he came up he cuts dressed and he says and he runs up the slope like he was a teenager who jogs does marathons every day he comes up and they go on top he's going home and it's already almost always a shock he wants to go down and suddenly shake circles that's it again because work another 310 the man used to say this certainly a help okay so you have a person you have a person so obviously it was a different to different caliber different quality okay it's a person whether it's on that Monday goal or McNair and then you have the rest of the people who don't get a warm amish with hashem once in a while yeah not so when they were reading Moses forum very few people could genuinely go into the category of the topic because it's not a guy who Yom Kippur wants to Darvin it's a person who's always in sync with rots in Hashem who could say that about themselves so the rest of the people went into the left so either you go right so you go left what does this do to people it does one of two things either you use you give up what does he use bring to cynicism huh cynicism you become a let's you laugh you become cynical because it's like it's all a joke it's all it's not real nothing is real it's columnist Chicago I hate him a lot Hayden so does he hear a rough gets up and starts talking here he goes again you know he's gonna be selling the Brooklyn Bridge that they sold to him that they sold to him they salt him and I was gonna sell it to me and you could just see on people's faces I don't know if you know but people they open their mouths and everybody's faces are like they may look at him but it's like yeah Wow yeah can you also sell Venus you could sell me Mars yeah and then the guy is serious he's doing this job no question was a mother once came to her of and she said you have to save my child as machete to one I've said what happened she said he put on a yarmulke he wasted Cissy put on a bit of Tom's twill and he goes to the mikveh doesn't drink all of Ockham anymore mom he started to do tied mitzvahs he Kashar the home is an answer machine you have to save so the rabbi says it's funny you come to me I do you know you get paid for it my son never you get a salary what are you gonna get it by the big man say guys I don't believe anymore my god he got a cell somebody got it through the propaganda you know the music got to go on somebody gotta sell the thing but this is my son he's not getting paid for the guy never means so some people call in to that category they just become either they get depressed and they live with guilt because they look at this farm they hit delicious yeah and they know that the incapable they also don't give up woods and even if they read the sign they do so it's for a few minutes so either they feel guilty or they have used to have the spear and if they don't want to feel guilty and have the spear they become cynical they just detach they disassociate cuz they want to be free they don't want to live with guilt I always say a Jew if he doesn't feel guilty he blames himself and if he doesn't want to blame himself any more you just give it's all a joke and you make fun of everything today you have an enormous amount of such people they have a smirk not bad videos give a little smart they give a little smart a lot of people the first time they come to my shear and they do that they sit with a smirk I bet you shaft of the camel mmm that's a lie but it's just smart the smirk is okay the next card the next one the next charlatan let's yeah let's find out you know what he's up to well take a week I'll take a month okay it's this month and it's coming from pain it's coming from innocence I've heard too much how bad I am and I had enough I had enough of feeling that I don't belong which is also innocence annoyance pain frustrations alienation yeah I don't wanna either I could feel dirty and filth I'm going to get him tomorrow oh I say this whole thing is leave me alone I may do it for my kids I'm not gonna get divorced and take my kids out of the moistness and move to Greenwich Village I live in mon-sol state months I live in case you lost a key Israel I live in Barra Pakistan Burpo I live in Lake will stay in Lakewood but I'm not part of the game and whenever you can he he finds ways of entertaining himself then you have the other extreme the other extreme is that I want to live with guilt I don't want to be disillusioned so I make believe and I'm that Sonic which means what do you do with all your emotions you have to repress all your emotions you repress your emotions and what happens is I'm talking about also good people you talk to them you're not talking to a real person you're talking to a facade you're talking to a guy who closed his eyes on you will start making with his hands and this yeah it's an automatic system because if I can't he wants to fit in and he wants to say I am that person it's banana everything EDM it's initiated and if I really have to deal with my emotions I Know Who I am I have to say either I'm depressed I'm guilty or I'm disillusioned I'm not I'm a good guy and it comes with Shawn I filled Vegas it comes el oh I feel the rock I'm Amy Goodman Serafina it comes sonic I feel our goners I don't feel I scream a little louder I'll close my eyes more and when you talk to that person you can't have an honest conversation not because he's bad because he can't have an honest conversation with himself because if he has an honest conversation with himself the balloon plotz's so he becomes a very superficial person or a very faked person or a person who repressed as most of his self or mutilates much of himself he can't deal with it these are two opposite extremes from the same issue and that is Claudia stall is divided into two sound the Kenosha and here is here is where we come to appreciate a little bit what the Alta rebel the bow hi Lula of tonight wanted to give Claudia strong and every Jew in the world was safer shall bathe in it the baton is not just a piece he found that pill palma tubs have no mana bein in me because he found on the sack the shoe is with a massage de blacas but I'm a sector son Hedren Thomas a Kenosha shaman to prove it's not the crush see he had upside good to pull for after that was eyelids what's everything by him is is through the shots and poskim and everything I was his dareth but the Bainer name was in abstract affection good mornin the baton II was a mihalis in either side what's the hidden of the baton a medication dish the bane of me is a man who will always struggle like we learned in this mind man anything trigger he walks in the street and he sees a woman oops he's almost gone he's almost gone he sees a gash like a piece of food and he's almost done anything could trigger him anger snows Chavez Aras huge all the issues that people struggle with me read an eruption Hashem complete this interest in anything I'm interested in his wife nurses kids not interested in God and interested of nothing wakes up in the morning and like Shailaja sunny go not me baruch hashem elokenu Malekith omim hi-yi so so secret was an ago it was an avid is services you have to take care of the kids but I going with an avid Avada I have it maybe not I don't relate to any I'm not interested I'm interested in you and suddenly about an episode who said that God wants perfect emotions it was my homage to sin you disguise I pay to get download the penny could give them on a pair of Zion not some souls were made to beat so they could they have to be created like that if you're not created like that you may be able to achieve it but you may never be able to achieve it you may always have to deal with spaghetti that hits the fan and when your spaghetti hits the fan it goes all over the place and the dining room gets very very dirty and there's some ketchup and mustard and barbeque soup to a barbecue sauce too and you'll have to deal with me deal with it your whole life every person in their own way this one's psychological this one emotional this one's spiritual this one all together yes God never asked you to be at Sonic in the sense that you're completely holistically pure or as he says at this moment that we learn tonight about shaivism take on a bris stop expecting this absolute purity expect Shriekers that will send you straight into an emotional abyss and then I tell you that in that place God said I want you to connect with me because you'll always be in control of your thoughts you'll always be in control of your words you'll always be in control of your actions any mood or any struggle does not take away from you the ability to act a certain way to speak a certain way and to think a certain way I may not be able to control every emotion I may not be in a horrible I may be angry I want to punch you in the nose I want to punch in the wall and I want to run away to the Congo for seven years he came to our Rafa you like the Congo Youth once came to our of and he says everybody says will I get I want to get up says very Vilnius you describe him and Columbus discovered America who doesn't every guy wants especially when you get to a couple upon them tonight so you're the only one struggling are the people who don't struggle of course that people there are newlyweds lovebirds who are what's how many neshama saw that people read novels they think every marriages like that so one had a 1-1 and eight billion and there's no eight billion people in the world that's my maybe one except maybe one in six billion I don't mean to be not romantic but it's not this people struggle I could make men's that itself I could use to connect when a person becomes accountable for what they did and they learn from it that becomes part of the relationship the mistake becomes a lesson so the mistake itself becomes part of the relationship it teaches me about myself teaches me about my weaknesses teaches me what I should be careful of tomorrow the Makos well if Superman said again wouldn't now that ideal baton NEMA is like over Nevada he never sends you know why because the struggle for him doesn't make him sin he's fine with it the s place for it part of me has to deal with battles and it doesn't mean it has to control my life the biggest sin in the world is when he decides that his struggle is sinful that he's an evil person he's not so without it ever wanted to do with the Ben Oni what he did with the baton is just put it in one sentences he gave he allowed every single Jew wherever he or she stands in life to be able to find their place as an avid Hashem without chopping off parts of themselves without the need to repress to crush to run away to become cynical to become angry to deny to become superficial he showed how you're alive the way it is in all of its complexities could be a sheer etosha or as the russian of a sham hamako him a shadow only the love at Moscone omit the law maybe the love means you're not a saint but it doesn't mean you're wicked and evil he's talking to my chest as a Reb of the Jewish people he's talking to my shares as a leader not to my chest Amazon huh he's talking too much as a leader there is the [ __ ] about moisture famous story with moisture to fire all that you know the story with the picture many people denied the story but the story is an interesting word that the Pharisee straw brings it in an omission is that thinking condition that moisture Rubino he says he saw he found a source that moisture was in the mid bore and there was a king who heard about what my shoe did so he sent his greatest artist to pick the painting to make a painting of and the person brought back the painting and he gave it to experts on how I saw parts of the people who study the face they looked at the picture and they said this person is emotional he's a corrupted Fedor been a person he's a horrible person the King said probably he made the wrong at the wrong I got the GABAA instead of their evidence whatever I mean he just got the wrong guy you know they said he has the longer beard he has a muzzle he has a longer beard so so so they sent another guy the same picture so the King couldn't deal with it so he went is what he says he went himself to the mid-north and he asked if he could meet my son they said yeah and he went to meet moisture privately and he looked at moisture and he saw the picture and he so it's the same thing it looks perfect so he tells my chef to ask you a question my experts tell me that your face represents horrible horrible meters you're horrible person to something off so moisture says they're right I was born with a very very difficult personality and I worked on myself I challenged myself to become Hawaii now many people challenge this tafero sister all the Gemara says in the smiley huh biased cooler he was born right area a stinky tofu but this vote has brought even the dagger machina frying brings it committee about sham to ring not to stir that motion Albania was born with a difficult ever so the story with the snail would also apply to him according to this Mahalo again it's a debatable issue but certainly we could learn from it right so that's the word that the bane of me represents a model for every person wherever I am even a person who sins but the concept of the vein in the hands that I don't have to look at my negativity and either get depressed about it or make believe it doesn't exist and then I have to use so many distractions to numb my pain because it's very painful to know that it exists so most of my life I'm busy making believe I don't have something or covering up or getting rid of the pain which means that I'm completely not even connected with what I want to be but rather it has a place and that's part of his avoid assertion explain to Tonya that Hashem told the most of us a Lima Tommy McCollum is a two course meal so the other episodes there's two types of meals this is mom Nashville for diner but he says there's a Michael that's made of delicious sweet food you make a cheesecake [ __ ] adesh what do you use you use flour sugar eggs oil marjorie never even very little flour of course lots of sugar that's a fat lots of fats and of course lots of cheese and it's a good smack of foods everyone goes crazy you're putting a little marble whatever it is and I love that mache device then you make your money they get fat and make your money everybody's happy but do you taste a little bit that's called orcish market Michael then he says the second type of chef the as of food and you taste it and it's full of tarty bitter foods that are very spicy and if you take the spices for itself it's not edible but this chef knows how to take the most horrible herb or spice which is very bitter and not edible and he puts in a little amount into the salad to the chunk and to the fish under the kishka into the soup i'm a fycare if you don't put in salts Affeldt shouts now who eats salt welcome miss sugar welcome out which normal person needs so but if you take the salt and you know how to put in the right amount of ingredients into the soup into the salad the salt actually makes the food that gives it its its beauty so the alter episodes that's terms of the topic and abandoning the Sabich serves gods with sugar circuses he's a sweet eid there's no bitterness in him the bane of me is full of bad black pepper smug career crushed pepper fathom it salts with all the party foods jalapenos yeah everybody's enthalpy knows sriracha all the good stuff Koopa and then he takes it so if you stomp eat it on its own it's horrible but he's a chef the very very bitterness becomes an instrument and avoiding this Hashanah either as the device itself becomes an opportunity for a truther for rediscovery or it becomes an opportunity to be able to crystallize what you believe in what you don't believe in by screw by struggling against this and confronting it you really have to tell yourself this is who I am this is why I'm not so the bitterness itself is converted and transformed to a tremendous instrument of avoidance a sham so not only don't you run from it this is your tassel is brie asylum you might like a liver to be able to deal with it it doesn't glorify evil doesn't glorify this to us as a mitzvah to struggle but the point is that the various ups and downs in life that we have internally this is essential to the home Allah and this changed the paradigm for millions of Jews whatever the session was it allowed the person to be able to show up to God fully in your full presence hey MA he's up [ __ ] Mario Bava metzia I ready shall colorful man domina Here I am he named him the ability to be able to say he named me that's what great now she says for me he named e of rum said he named me Yaakov moisha small he named Li what's the my lovin Amy he named he means it's been done with a gun sir the full self he mainly I'm here I'm here fully you know why I didn't have to cut anything off and after Ron I didn't have to deny I didn't have to repress I'm not afraid of it I don't solution maybe I'm here the ability to be able to say he named Eve I admire of evæmon he never even E has been done I'm here what happened with all the torment with all the confusion there's a place for it we confuse gills with children with remorse by us guilds we think guilt is wholly guilt is worse than Nevada because guilt doesn't tell you the sin is bad that would be good that's true ver guilt tells you you're bad you're evil you're hopeless Torsten Nevada that's because we we we fail to teach our students and our teachers our children played us of our guilt guilt curse boys people constantly it's one of the what's one of the most poisonous things it air Eliza's people doesn't help them grow or number or nominee you would welcome the challenge aspect of business you make a mistake either tomorrow you don't make that mistake let's go nobody gets the getting rid of the guilt is one important thing another important thing is I tell you every day yet another important other important thing is another important thing is learning that just because I struggle with something it doesn't mean it has to only it has its place and fact before I could give it its place the less it owns me in other words like this the less I give it its place I say it's not much it's not even a child I would give it any place people think oh you're chasing it away the more it owns you because it creeps in silently and it controls everything you know what is covet discovered and then you know people aren't shy put your name on the flyer the needs of saddam holy Volvo your changes in anything why cuz he had to tell himself Mimi covent yeah may cause a double whammy the more you give place to it you see comfort doesn't then you tend there's a part of you it doesn't need to comfort my fam I real value somehow we have ingrained in our DNA I mean all humans have there's also another component that debating me knows about his neshama his inner core is divine and he knows it like he says in this mine lucid the livings very aware of it and he connects to it okay so say this we don't underestimate this I'm not he knows that he connects to it he but he he cherishes it he wants to fight for it if I don't think I have this in me so for K this is my mood he braced us he knows that there's a deeper value for him that he wants to fight for and he has to he has to waken that every morning after this class is brought to you by the achieve Annette please help us continue the classes make even a small contribution at triple w dot they you Shiva net / donate