The Hard Truth About Why She Doesn’t Like You – A Deep Dive Into Love and Relationships 💡

um welcome to another episode of positivity thank you all for joining I'm very excited to welcome today Mrs Peggy Greenfield um we've known each other for a while and I had a session regarding my life if I want to get out there and and date um and you shared some advice that time okay um but the reason why I bring her up is because I think we've been very good in this podcast to bring up people that people have this like image and like judging on the outside but from the menance and I also think that her mission in the veg Health mention is whether it's something that people want to be involved or want to be aware of that's a question for itself but what she does at the core is very much helping people help on the outside and that is with helping couples that are struggling in in a in a unique way intimacy and she helps those couples so obviously there's so many details as gu on but I want to get to know this person and hear her story hear your story see a little bit um where just your background where you grew up in and then see he mention of Direction because many people will hear this and it will open up something for them where they say oh is area of help yeah so um welcome and thank you so much for giving from your time was busy and it took time to schedle because you B you're very very busy with seeing lots of different couples or people and we'll get into what you offer exactly soon but story William um put questions to make it easier you grew up in Williamsburg yes and where did you know that you have this passion to help people at that time of or what was no no no no like recently um diens okay you know friends and Coach like men with advice yeah whatever so I figured oh okay and then I started I was like why shouldn't I go into this in business and do it as a career right so research I read so many books in YouTube in like from all over all kinds relationships yeah yeah yeah okay mostly relationships nice phone right okay certain relationship chemistry sexuality right the million dollar question by the way I mean that that is the million doll question and you were curious about it okay go ahead yeah I don't knowy behind behind right so you're saying because of your research for mention right and psychology because Health to be honest like like from now going forward right right okay beautiful yeah so so um where where was I yeah sometimes because as the guest is comfortable and as well as the listeners so you were saying as information M and you saw that right and then I took coures field and and all about that in regards to Intimacy in regards toacy between couples right and relationship courses and I loved it and I still love it I still love it in couples even singles singles um all walks of life mostly mostly like obviously Crow right okay very nice very nice very nice so I I get a little bit of a of a picture you developed basically a passion to understand relationships what drives relationships obviously when you were studying about relationships and helping people with relationships at which point did you feel that intimacy has such a big impact on it that this is something that you want to focus on Direct single I went onto a lot of dating sites interviewed I draw a story um inter intimacy yeah specifically bedroom intimacy is intimacy like um closeness specifically um emotional and physical intimacy was dri relationships anything else intimacy then everything else falls into place can PL right say do guns get on understanding right yeah exactly um I think you're basically saying that this is inate yeah so so that's why you felt that yeah glue that helps to stick together relationships then it could be that people need help with this direct and exact thing oh yeah okay and like the community right true so if you have a reason for it and second of all how did you decide okay oh wow because is right and nobody talks about it why shouldn't I right what is I'm not doing anything wrong just the opposite I'm helping and I don't know I guess I'm gutsy yeah yeah so I have guts I was born with guts and I use it you know right and Beyond right the way in Europe um nudity and sexuality is made um um loose is made open to be honest yeah so in America I think because I don't know I'm thinking us as a Christian Nation in I feel in the Bible sex is a sin right yeah so and that's how it is right meaning that many necessarily Z possible that feel shame of but shameful about it but but chanity they learn like filter it and and for them it's a very shameful thing meaning of yeah exactly mind basically as as as as as a nation is is Christianity is is a lot more extreme basically in a way cat um um meaning and in right but then there's also obviously the part of being of there certain things with mention fil V red def like keep it private this is personal um and and possibly maybe that's why people feel that they have like a like they see what you doing and I feel so again it's a two-part question basically there is something about being um closed and hidden in that's number one and how do you see that number two to which level do you feel is okay to share on platforms so when that creates jealousy and jealousy you know like so in that sense I think you know negative right yes in general in life kind like people are not ha most people are not happy for somebody else's success um unless is True True Friend real friends happy sucess sad yeah's um deise or whatever right so but generally speaking Z Zar other days is in your opinion should a person share about their relationship or they shouldn't talk about it at all oh with me they should share everything correct because that's what you do as a professional but with others should they never share should they ever share so the reason why are they sharing what's the what's are the point silly help then yes they should reach out for help in in talking about it and by the way the shame is between couples M right exactly for real the problem right okay now so let's go to the social media a little bit because that's really where you blew up and and that's incredible because Med social media very big beautiful companies out there like you know I have multiple good clients that in in the in the community um t clients that we help build them up through social media where they don't have to bait mentions of status other necessarily invest payer ads all because Allah's guide through their own social media and they can promote any product or service that they want I feel like you've done that like I don't even know I don't know what you did before you posted on social media maybe you can talk about that and then one day okay they advice from me yeah and I'm sure that you got many many maybe hundreds of sessions from social media yeah so how did you when did you decide to share how many years ago was it why was it not too long ago like two years ago I did this work before you know what social media why not this so can post anonymously perfect this is it because mention obvious the username and everything so anything whatever says anything and how did that impact your business oh 500 times really absolutely yeah yeah because question but that doesn't matter it's irrelevant because question question 100% right 100% I want to address that the answer sometimes so it's beautiful the way you just put it right like question question asking the question about the question 100% And by the way I feel this is fake I feel this is weird that funny I still want to post it because funny entertaining crazy is weird p is boring in any way sost is like oh my action and it's all about that so mention part of marketing I do my own marketing so exactly no incredible yeah um um but it just gives a little Glimpse sometimes I I I respond um with humor this is funny and hysterical and is weird this is funny misspelling like I would bring it out you know yeah because I think it's humor it's all about um I'm very much into that like serious especially serious like all about being playful right right 100% um wow n how's that that why you posted on social media and how it helped you and uh and the messages that you get over there I think it's very relevant and it it's beautiful that you were able to build a business like by yourself you know um I I find it impressive um some of the questions that I have is um is that that people are struggling so much in this area and this question commun like actually I think by goam is the numbers are even higher for some reason numbers of of people that are in a relationship and they're not intimate with each other because community at the end of the day there's there's sometimes less help meaning commun as I said was just they they sit together in a bungalow Colony by Circle they discuss stories and that's a plus that's a good thing right because they should be able to figure out their stuff but the question so again so in communities is best be in in the the AL but then again it doesn't stop us from understanding why is it such a big problem like problem there's no such thing because instead first the men is masculine and the is feminine and you have to respect and understand the fundamentals behind just the opposite I don't think there's a really good um explanation from them good teaching is their needs are different their needs are different especially bedroom stuff right the man isot um they they respond to these things differently and we should stay clean because 100% right so I'm trying to find the right wordings so so tional intimacy of course but usually mostly that's a huge jump you know for life and for the whole bedroom life and they're they get turned on instantly M instantly the wind BL and then turned on especially and they're like everything is so new to them patience understanding um attention and and um emotional intimacy you know stuff like that right so meaning different needs you know is the FR completely under needs know which has nothing to do technically also with bedrooms validating this is really yes yes yes OB of course there's always an exception but like I don't know 70 80% tionality like you know what free for all like yeah of course you do but generally speaking Yeah yeah generally speaking so I just want to make that 100% mention because say is oh you're saying that that in education meaning as as and in so people they get married and they right away hit hit problems no of course A lot of them a lot look the problems yeah you know what I I just want to spice it up I want to spice it up I want to I want to come here for night cant I feel an open place to share and spice it up they're at level six they want to go to level eight to level eight wow but mostly problems right and yeah so I I think that that there's people also know that there are many many people that went througha traumas and they s b men are throw and that's why when they get married they have tremendous blockages um have you seen that is that common and is that something that you work through if somebody was was abused uh growing up M and then they get married um how does that affect their marriage oh tremendously certain therapist connected if I find you know I call them and I explain the situation and and at which point K thean oh when she you know usually made a therapist though so we discuss it together and we collaborate and see help him to be open up to open up and to go a little more into details right because she had she went yeah no a lot of women don't know how to take care of themselves sexually they're not in touch with themselves right right right right I understand um and I've spoke to a lot of people that came with you and met with you for sessions and they were very happy they like can yeah it's not a paid advertisement but I know that year very good in in in what you do thank you um role model you know the community yeah in that way so mention they're skeptical to come to me they're like and you know they're not comfortable okay so so I want to tell you that because of the C they still come to me why because and I'm not the to answer that they have to ask someone who they trust right so whatever is I never ever put onto somebody that doesn't want it so you're saying you can work on many levels of is within their understanding that is right or wrong and then you go and you help them develop that side of them oh yeah yeah for sure that makes sense it's beautiful so they shouldn't worry as personally I never ever ever it's within your boundary as to successful within their PL 100% And there's always room for growth the you know the extremist yeah secularism it's it's it's human right human so incredible um it's really really impressive um now on the other level how do you help actual like single people um what's the relationship intimacy with other people questions by the way so yeah first thing is that and it's okay oh wow okay okay human it's F like don't worry about addict right right right and and I feel like really meaning okay okay meaning says says okay in that sense that atin EP and now you can judge if it's right or wrong or whatever but say Okay Astin EP that they sense yes feel shame and that they're so weird and different no they're not they're human they're human beings and and listening to them is a huge help right that's step number one but so it depends what it is that they want I have a lot of people who go out and they want to pick up girls in bars and clubs but mostly how to how to talk to a girl how to you know bedroom right right right right you know in in a respectful way in a respectful way with Cass you know 100% so is that I feel like people just assume that when they will get married that they will find out everything what I quickly learned is because soine and there's a book called open her that talks about um the seven uh traits that a girl wants to see in a in a man MH and to me that book is is fascinating because and and I felt like a man kind of character to be likable by by by a woman so and you assume that everything will be fine based of the classes with friends shared and then you find out you move in day one and you're finding out that you're you're nothing that she needs or likes and she tries very very badly to be her best um but so she tries to make it work but after a while she starts noticing that just has zero [Music] experience and you're just looking to pass on time like or you want to do the right thing which is to build a family this ISS Allah fine of but the girl know notices that what I noticed is at this point probably hinder the hinder the people hinder toas okay because I meet people I talk to people WhatsApp social media so I talk to a lot of people and I noticed that 90% of the time and by the way like not just I don't just talk to the women side the men but 90% of the time it's the the it's the woman who says and I find that to be very very sad and then for me myself as somebody that goes and reads so many books um about girls about relationships and about intimacy the problem of course a problem provider you know what's deeper than that tell me are they even attracted to them attracted it's very hard to give it's very hard to be there to to be your complete self imagine okay's cute and that's um um you know whatever it is fine once then you go home and you have to live with this person you're like I don't know there's something about her that I'm not into something about you never you can't develop chemistry with this person attraction and what happens next you can't you're done exactly can't you don't enjoy the sex you don't enjoy being with her you don't enjoy having a conversation with her yeah and now what right what Happ exactly Z yeah Z again I'm just saying the actual is that you're not supposed to marry somebody before blindly sure yeah true now again again the the TOA in general lost plots for People level okay but I'm saying this is the the bottom of it um again you can you can tell me how many hours you feel somebody needs to spend with with the opposite gender to know that um that it's the right thing that this is the person that I'm attracted to I don't know how is attraction developed or how can you judge right is that something that you can see right away to be honest because of view because I believe personally yeah yeah can I fire back that sure according to Dr Jordan Peterson which is no world renowned as the biggest psychologist in the world yeah okay not just from his following just from the amount of knowledge that he has and whatever it out clearly that there is no point in living with somebody before marriage he's completely against it so I'm just again opinions opinions was was opposite but I'm just saying okay let me tell you his theory and then can tell me your theory his theory is at any point that being said marriage because marriage a that's it no matter what commitment in no amount of living together or words being exchanged is not going to be that commitment so it happens to be that because there's a lot of it there's something to it because it is a committed relationship and after six months okay marriage perspective again it's a perspective this is a perspective that happens to be that in in community so you get to actually see the commitment but according to what you're saying my question is how can somebody judge they live together how is living together how is it relevant first of all says do I can live together with hundreds of people the question not Comm Comm outside point of view right the paper what what the marriage marriage what's the marriage committed signature married yeah yeah the signature the mindset of marriage will never come from living together with somebody so not necessarily friends mention I can also live together with those people but Rel relationships marriage because the commitment is not as long as it right that's the term that people use 100% when it become so differ living with somebody where at any point can how how does that say anything about about you or or the other person 100% but if you really love someone you want to be with them if you want to be if you love someone you want to be with them I love hundreds of people and I want to be with them True by the way even in marriage so the the reason is it to have a family is it for financial reasons so K Peter um Peterson whatever Peter Jordan whatever yeah um um like if you want to build a family that's something else but why the need for marriage well majority people unless they had serious trauma in their life where they say um why why for companionship mention for tax purposes mention for so many different reasons yeah which doesn't really make sense or work out not necessarily not necessarily some do most of them don't the relationships that work out are the people that they are compatible and they want to build a a life and a family together that's the that's the statistics on this maybe but was M working out again that's you know you're I want to tell you something you're a doctor which means that in doctor I've smoked for 20 years and my lungs are shot right the gave a lecture as to why he was smoking until now all you going to do is fix the problem perspective gender religion but now but now we are talking for a second about specifically Y Community and it's specifically about what the right thing to do is okay right and in that sense I from my perspective I don't think it's the right thing to do to live with somebody Mar them against the to though they says but a now on a now on a on a on an opinion onal level on a moral level I don't think it makes sense is do mention was help yeah but on a moral level I and then again I think that the people that do live with somebody without a marriage is because they intentionally either want to work on themselves or they were hurt or they so this might be a stepping stone to getting somewhere I don't see it that way but we can talk about within the community was obviously it's it's about getting married building a family that's what it is right right you know the same type of d right okay and generally speaking why do you think people do want to get married generally speaking yeah um um s do benefits in getting married s do government benefits true to be honest turn all right yes yes and and and the for the the form it's like the last step that people see as right like there's nothing further than that mention certain I think it makes sense though man God did create a world and I think one of the biggest parts of it like if I have to make sense as to why we live in this world I would say a big part of it is to procreate right so mention so that this Legacy this world continues on that's one opinion but I don't want to go into it okay I don't want to go into it okay isn't that um all right but it's a fair opinion I I I get it I understand your point of view I do I do some people that that's why people are in general attracted to getting married because they want that so they want to have they want to have kids they want to know that the day that they die is they also left an entire family to carry on their legacy some do not all but some not all want to leave okay no no but it's gonna take a whole new okay but yeah but op and it's true some do yeah not all you can't really save him been mentioned that everybody does something nobody does something like it's it's it's a fallacy to say well right yeah right so I I because we don't know right um okay very good um self-educating meaning they want to gain a knowledge they want to learn and understand how can they where can they start single people or married people let's start with single people what's something that you would recommend they should do or read or listen come to me yeah but mention and they're G to be like whatever I don't want to take big steps no I get it so tremendous amount of information online right do books B so I don't know if I if you should tell them they give different advice and I bought it on Amazon stores from vburg that made an entire Cipher this thick all about intimacy M from the from the Toyota perspective on how to be in a healthy relationship how to love your wife um and it's just fascinating so I want to give this recommendation to people they can find it on Amazon and just order it and it's a great book um what about married couples if they want to educate themselves and they want to find out what their problem um is and why they don't have chemistry what's a good way for them to start why they don't have chemistry yeah so they can either Z can line in books but it you can always go to someone marriage counseling coaching you know to get deeper oh obviously right what's my to yourself like individually they can go to you no I'm saying they can go to you to me sure and to see if I was uh I'm just asking do Alternatives but he wants to learn more about it um yeah Dr John gry okay so this he's an old school old school type of guy I think he's like 70 plus uhuh and he talks about this he he wrote a lot of books and he's pretty on point I have to say he's pretty on point he's pretty on point he pretty good yeah like old school stuff obviously so do the this is uh you know all gender and which doesn't really you know a guid made the community standard so it's a little confusing it's a little they have great points but it's different right you know Z and I'm very much for like the masculine and The Feminine and the the Polar Opposites for attraction to happen right and in the the other side of it is we're equal right and this this this relationships right um I'm I'm very interested to learn more about masculine feminine because for most people they just have a hard time understanding yeah um can you explain what masculine and feminine means and how they play roles with each other so this is stereotypes stereotypes the basics masculine a masculine man is get is generous is a giver Anatomy their their biggest need is to give generously okay especially to their woman to to to the one they love right and a woman from the perspective like to what they say is like you can refer to God as a as a he or she do do concept masculine and feminine okay okay yeah and the women are just the opposite they like to receive graciously butan if the woman the woman receives and she appreciates it then she's going to give back K to him yeah and then he's going to receive and he's going to see um her appreciation for him name AC appreciate happy and he's gonna feel fulfilled needs feel fulfilled cirle it's a real Circle wow and by the way they concept is in intim in the be Alliance MH because when a a guy loves to please the woman right yeah wow yeah and why does that happen oh so many things first of all in the relationship well interested so she has to be there and okay fine I'm not the right person can I tell you an interesting thing I feel like you should it's you should statement like but you I feel like you should learn why like in order for you to fight the first first place and then you can tell somebody and then the right way to do it is how can you help a girl that comes how do you help this this girl speaker okay if she's comfortable and get the truth yeah because because so how do you call the whatever Z [Laughter] is so go call up once they're ready once okay then I can I have nothing to work with right right um how does a man get into his [Music] masculine from Men to Men and confidence it's confidence why is the is guess what it is what's the more than that what is the a woman's biggest usually a woman's biggest turn on F the guy somebody that makes decisions quickly confidence confidence confidence is the hottest thing wow yeah so confidence I feel that that's is fearless and not confidence that's the hardest thing that's a huge turn on for the for the thr right so and and confidence K is a is a masculine um it's characteristic MH Fearless confident yeah they lead leaders Community it's so offputting for the right so work on your confidence oh yeah for sure definitely right what about a woman that wants to work on her femininity is this EP out of they just spiggle up the masculinity from the mom she has to remove her pants right you know what I'm saying like sit down and sometimes the the women are like they're in the lead dver the man was to te that's not that's not cool that's not that's not very feminine so ah lean back they have to lean back and let him take charge let him take charge leaning back is is a problem right did you have couples that come here and no I don't I can't say that no no I never do that oh absolutely I think about it like how do you know that I don't know but intuition with was like what do you see what do you see when you yeah what how do you get to that intuition there's zero respect for each other constant constant constant fighting I big they want to they're trying and they have a lot of kids and they're they don't just want to break up they want to live in peace so you know they're fighting and bickering constantly they eating each other up alive amazing of course I would wish for them to be from Zer to 100 but qu focus of living at peace qu are peaceful look that and fireworks yeah yeah yeah I hear what you're saying yeah um wow I feel like we did Cover a very wide range of topics which addresses um you know be getting educated understanding yourself um where to start um when to seek the right help and what help means why people have resistance to the help um what else do you feel passionate about sharing to to people to the community yeah yeah it's a little bit of a challenging question meaning what did you probably before the podcast day and day topic that maybe we didn't address yet and that's that's where I give you the open space I know I I didn't think so much to be honest I didn't I let me ask you what's your mission what do you feel like is your mission right now oh I love to help people in in in you know and they're like but certain was they never um um was and they never got there they're like text and messages phone call like I I I follow through what you did and oh my God fireworks amazing you know like like awesome certain ideas and they do certain things and their lives get elevated um New World opens up to them I want to to say I think that that's an absolutely beautiful mission in of Z level like I think feel like we went on certain things we went back and forth but I absolutely absolutely think that that what you just said your mission I think is absolutely beautiful and I can relate to that like lack of knowledge knowledge and you feel completely enlightened like getting rid of the shame getting rid of the stigma for themselves just just between their couple and that they should know that okay save my marriage save my family for sure I that's just also a lot of people um they cheat yeah and I really really try to get them out of it and marriage like and I and I and I and I did see huge progress Andy a whole different point of view and it clicked and it work and now she's so much more open and willing to be together V name so he's doesn't have to look outside anymore right so that's also a huge um must feel it must feel really satisfying for you to help people in so many ways and especially in places where they feel they can't talk to anybody about it kind yeah do you even know somebody else like you yish mention in yish N there are a lot of sex therapist sex therapist coach is it's different Sex Therapy can trauma and and they go back to inner child right but there are but was K from the community was H the community maybe there's someone out there speak up right are there people that come consistently to you or it's mostly like one time or just like a few times or so they come once and I have for a for years that I years a couple of months weekly weekly oh weekly weekly to work on the marriage to work on themselves on their way to work on the marriage is to work on this specific factor and around communication emotional intimacy they don't get it they don't understand what it is so m in order to be a good husband or wife a role model even for himself mench right and then he's going to she's going to be much more attracted to him right wow beautiful um okay that's uh that I think that was very very interesting and um I'm check I'm going to put in the description uh Peggy's uh Instagram canny follow on that um or to you can DM her there to book a session um I want to remind you friends please to like this episode share it with a friend that can that will also enjoy it subscribe to the channel um subscribe to the membership if you want to see extra footage I wouldn't say deleted footage because I usually don't delete anything from podcast but go over there to see extra footage and leave a comment tell us the feedback and I always say questions mention hopefully I can sit down with you again and bring the questions mention live NGL do so um yeah that's about it thank you so much thank you pgy