The Greatness Of Failure - Rabbi Mordechai Becher Shlita

but although I have fallen I got up but rather key should be translated in its usual most common meaning which is because I have fallen I have got up in other words it was the falling which actually caused me to rise because through the falling and as we all know from from failures a person learns from failure as a person become stronger from failure as a person that is only if that person is gets up afterwards and doesn't just keep lying there and we know posture King Uzziah harm a hulking Bahasa rubble or God all the people that sat in darkness saw a great light and the Madras rubber houses not tells us that actually is a reference to the idea of Taurus about pet Taurus chevelle pair is something which the the understanding of the Torah is only something which you can achieve if you first of all have a misunderstanding if when you open it up and you read something in the Torah in the VM Subin Gomorrah Mishnah whatever it is you're looking at if your so does it make sense and you keep going you probably have not understood it there's one of the keys to knowing if you understood a Gomorrah is if you understand the caches that Rebecca Vega asks on it yeah Rumi kubera ager a little thing on the side a little weird symbol and on the side you look at the side of the Mars got ravika Vega and he'll give you he doesn't actually say what the problem is usually he just gives you a mahram makan he gives you a reference say if you did not understand the Gemara at all when you look at rebuke you behaviors reference you'll say what's the relevance mister probably right you look at that you say you have no idea what he's talking about if you understood the Gomorrah well you'll look at ravika various reference you say oh my gosh that's problematic that's Akasha it's either as ruby giver ager rates his questions Sarris and this requires study Sarris ian god--all this requires a lot of study and occasionally Varsham your ear na may God enlighten my eyes that means this is slightly difficult right that means yeah but but absolutely the test of whether you understood it is that you don't that there's a level of my understanding the guy who's completely clueless won't understand the question I have had occasion where I have spoken to I mean I do this pretty often I spoke to a completely non from crowd and I used to do this I would say we had to shove a ton of something I'd say to the organizer let's have a Q&A I set a question answer session and very often there are no questions they don't know enough to have a question I mean you can have people yes you've got to know something to ask a good question and on the contrary when you do have a good question that is the key to a good understanding that's why our the the the longest-lasting the most can the continuous and most central educational event for a lot of Jews throughout the world who are not so connected to Torah is the Seder and the Seder which is all about transmission of experience transmission of information transmission of Messiah is based on question answer question answer because actually a something which comes as an answer to a question something which comes after you stumbled in ignorance and then you get the answer how am i hulking mahashiv if you walked in darkness then the light is or god--all the light is that much greater on the contrary the darkness beforehand emphasizes the brightness of the light that comes afterwards and as I believe it was Bertrand Russell who once said nothing is as boring as the answer to a question that was never asked if I walk into a room and I say I say the answer is 42 everyone's looking at some of you read the book but though it was Lumiere say what is he talking about right on the other hand if you've been struggling with a question and you've been and you know be working on it for a while and then I give you the answer oh that's a lot more interesting and actually the answer is something which is going to make greater inroads in your consciousness your understanding in your mind gugus the answer comes from the midst of that darkness it is not by coincidence Talmud Bavli the center central text which didn't start as a text but the central text of Torah cibele pair came from a place which is known as the place of confusion bol Allah said that's where I am confused the language of bodily bevelle comes from that work that's what it means not live loss Muslim that's where the languages were confused it comes from a place of darkness a place of confusion but it was from that darkness and that confusion that produced tremendous effort and that effort in trying to understand and rise beyond the confusion and rise beyond the problems that created or God all the great light the great light of Torah and so that is the obvious and first lesson of all failure is that failure is the means to success and the question is the great access to the answer and it is from the darkness that comes the light via Arab by Ibaka evening first many darkness first then Bakr and then thee and then the light and as the Gemara tells us the greatest darkness is always immediately before the before the dawn before the morning that's where you have that darkness and of course when you have the light coming at that time then it is much much more much more effective and as the gomorrah says in talking right the when we we like we check for commies Laura hinari we check at night right so could you Thanks right as opposed to checking during the day but you see when you have a candle when you have a source of light in the darkness it's it's that that much more effective its Schrag a Patera a candle during the day doesn't do that much but the candle at night the stark contrast that is it and that's where that's where failure comes in keener faulty Kunti because I fell I got up and run faint vulajin just like I've got to man it's not directly related but it is it is somewhat related reclaim to la Jinnah in his parish Rua came on Pirkei avos the Mishna says yay basic abase bad wow haha meme let your house be a gathering place the ha ha Meem and it says heavy shows of the dissociatives and it says the following having miss a baked but afar ugly hem now if you look at the standard translation most translations of that that's usually translated as having miss a beak but our Fuhrer gland means plea to the dust of their feet miss a beat from the washing a but it says afar so a buck and a ferrous like it's unnecessary so reclaim vulajin er translates it as miss from the losses via a fake issue more alloy Sasha a Yakov wrestles with the angel by your abacus uma so it says having miss a beak buffer ugly hem means struggle with their words question there was yes do it but after a Glen do it with humility at the dust of their feet but you should not not do it if you have a question he says he said and he goes on say Oh Sheila tell me look uh Birla's differ a rabbi in yesh lach ushio saleh him it is prohibited for the talmud to accept the words of his teacher if he's got Kush's if he's got questions on them he is obligated to ask the questions he's obligated to struggle the wilson if we learn as he says how do we make our homes into a base verb look upon him I mean I don't think there's enough coming to go around for every home right I mean so how does it how do we do it he says you have their story you have their books in the house so if you're surrounded by this far and you're surrounded by the Colombian and what does it say to do with those foreign miss a bake struggle with him in other words I'm supposed to actually yes yeah I'm supposed to have a my eyes are supposed to seek out a Kasia choiceless the great ballet tasteless in France in Germany in England the great ballet choiceless the authors of the one of the most amazing Peru saman the Gomorrah for but what did the barley toasters do what they did was they were they were scanning their eyes that amazing intellectual peripheral vision instead of looking at the Gemara and saying okay it says this this this their peripheral vision saying whew what about the come over there and what about that ones careful it's a combination of careful reading and dialectics careful reading reading it carefully and then comparing it contrasting it contradicting to other sources the marshal roofs la meloria when he describes what the Bally choice was did he says I saw a sitar would kick a door there's an introduction to Baba kama they made the Gomorrah into a sphere what does this sphere because every point connects to every other point and there's no sharp edges that's what they did but they arrived at the spherical shape of the Gemara meaning connecting every point to every other point smoothing out the art look but in order to do that it had to start off with what darkness I have to start off with a contradiction have to start off with a cutter had to start off with a question I'm hoping bullosa row or guzzle how much sailor has I stuck us yeah death all right and actually as the gomorrah says in gittin ain't as I'm a med algebra Tyra alien cane if solve ahem you can only really stand on the correct and clear meaning of devrait Tyra if you first of all had the question of course the key to understanding Russia in Hamas the key to understanding many of the propulsion is to not not all of the rumors a lot of whom will ask the questions at the beginning but Russia doesn't so one of the keys to understanding Rashi and what he's saying is understanding what bothered him ahead of the time there's actually an excellent book called what bothered rushy what know what's bothering Russia I forgot the title something to that effect and and that's what he does in that book and so that's the mishaela that's the question and of course from that will grow the understanding clarity of the answer a second point we have to know about failure and this is something which is mentioned in the by roof sukkah bounnam of chisca so if super goody mob cisco understand this is quoted in the CSRA way less also in the coal seam actually skal simcha in pastures cook us this week's person so si si piccata says the following I heard a shot in the name of simple bounnam if she stopped sir Mira that are sate of famous pasta can to heal him turn away from evil and do good and so this is how rob simcha William understood it he says it's referring he says to the bad that you have done it's referring to the sins that we may have done in the past it's referring to the mistakes that we've made and the failures we've had and he's saying the following day avec une schlep them which means I don't know it amazed me something's beginning you this but this one says here but it says the following it says al yoy al Ahmar so Veselka messiah sisse ad etat run don't let it into your mind the bad that you have done rock instead SI toys just do the good without see us a toy when you engage in doing the good news battle ahora me mela the evil will be automatically dissipated and destroyed and this is also something which if you do say hareem says could assure rim talks about this at length in his in the cooler when he talks about a young cooper and he says he says after her hair burro don't think about the about evil he says what does that mean a sister cabulance Ave Royce yes you may have got bundles of our various I'll say miss first connect dumb he says he says the following you says you see what happens and he says fascinating psychological insight that you do shall remakes here again this is a continuation of simcha bounnam both as we know from there as at Amin and and also genealogical he says this he says makam Sharma sovereign in seis somehow Adam nimza in Koloff saw the place where your thoughts are dwelling that's where you are my thoughts are dwelling on my past failures then the future rim says I'm living in the sphere of failure and of evil and of bad and he says better colossal mokuba and he won't be able to return in repentance and Zuber why keep my fight he is gushing vinegar on the tips of my life because his focus his overthinking his dwelling on his past failures will drag his mine down into the depths of that impurity the ala lip hole and as a result of his overthinking and dwelling on his past and thinking some two of the worst words in the English language should have and could have and he's always English I could have a cetera et cetera what's gonna happen he says you Paul latoque hats loose kalila he will fall into depression he says I feel alloy of a double Hummer that even if he didn't transfer something serious he says I Valka say Yakov when he keeps thinking about it he says he says who you share my boots he will stay in the mud so sir me reverse a table means get out of the mud and do good don't just get out of the mud in action but get out of the mud but I'm not contemplating and dwelling on the failures occasionally every time you say slackliner I mean to come out you can think about your failure but the rest of the time no sir my route but I'll say Todd what was the expression gate avec which left him just go away from the bad stuff and just head for the good so the way we deal with failure the way that you do she'll remember bazooka bunion she's gonna say is not to dwell on it not to analyze it not to do a post-mortem autopsy on the failure but rather to move into the future yet so when it gets to slip us so we'll say okay and so on and so forth okay that's fine but when you live your life you have to live like moving moving forward it's how the who - areum and the call simpler understand it there's a third aspect to failure the third aspect of failure is that it's a necessary requirement for the human being and for creation that failure is built-in meaning there will be failure why is that so so as the RAM coal room okay lose a toe in Derek Hashem verse 5 broken and many others discuss this but he organizes it and explains it with his usual incredible clarity and logical logically progressing steps in amazing ways and by the way he was not someone who was successful during his life - I mean there was a lot he had a lot of problems and here oh yeah so but he persevered and the RAM call says the following it says this now caught us both we have we have we know both from from sook him and from Kabbalah by Kabbalah meaning tradition and took him a long hair said keep on it Hashem created the world in order to give passion being perfectly good darica table light if it is the way of the perfectly good to give being that icon aspire who is perfectly good and he is the perfect good therefore he wants to give the perfect gift perfect goodness now perfect goodness is only icons Bothwell how does he give to the creature to the nefra how does the boyer give to the Nebra perfect goodness he can't like make other it's not site right logically it's right he can't you can't make us perfect that the only perfection is a shame himself so does he do so he creates people new fryin creatures and he gives us the greatest possible perfect good available to the creature which is what a relationship with a chorus powerful a closeness talk on a spiral and because since I caught us boy who is the perfect good then the and and it's not available for us to become him but to become close to him to have a relationship with him that is possible that is possible however and this is a crucial step the relationship with a college boy who requires that we be similar to our Shem similar to us as similar as possible for a creature to be and now similarity to our said means the following I've got a boy who is completely independent ain't odd mil father he doesn't depend on anything as the Rambam puts it if you could imagine that there was no space time matter universe that sets records both who still exist I don't alarmist ramallah Batarian called you'd seen Ibrahim rule before any humans crowd lace master the hip circle as I know ass Monica right sorry lace knives reckons the guys down and snorted crap the Hakurei and after kicks lace I called look I owe you moth Nora alright by himself he will rule in other words Hashem is not affected by the creation how Curtis boy who doesn't need creation creation needs I said that's why I thought it's one of the names of our same as the reclaim vulajin that explains beautifully that one of the names of our centers have makan the place as the meddra says who McCoy Marcel alarm ain't her Olin McCoy mode he is the place of the world the world is on his place and reclaim the Lawson explains what that means is very simply by place we mean framework of existence mat erectus masseuse the framework of isms so every object every physical object exists in a framework of reality which is what we call today time space space-time makan so everything needs a makan except the chorus problem of course bro who McCoy boys so om he is the frame where he is that which gives existence and possibility and sustenance to the world the world does not give it to him he's independent so he was his self determining self-contained independent that means for us to have a relationship with him requires that we be self-determining self-contained independent as possible meaning that we have to be able to create ourselves not to be created so of course can't completely create yourself Yoshi million we exist with creatures our sim creator sees the Boyar with a new prop but to the extent that is possible for an emperor to create themselves have chorus ball who gave us that ability he placed us in a world of the hero of free will he gave us the ability to choose the opportunity to choose and an environment in which we can choose and but in in order that we should be self-determining clearly I think we all understand if that environment was an environment that pushed us steadily in ox really towards a sham everything you know every time I do a mitzvah goldbrick falls next to me every time doing a very brick for so much put then obviously I will become a good person but I won't really be good I'll be a robot I will be a rat in a psychology lab so you should not call them rats it's not politically correct I will be a nonhuman animal research participant a nonhuman animal research participant so the nonhuman animal research but it could run around the maze and presses a lever and gets food pellets presses another lever and gets electroconvulsive therapy and and and of course the rats going to become conditioned to do what the psychologist wants cause boffin did not create a world like that I might press the electroconvulsive therapy later and get some pretty good food pellets I might press the food pellet lever and get some electro convulsive therapy a person it is not always that the good person will be the successful person I may make the moral business decision and lose the contract I may make an immoral decision and make lots of money I may be a brutal psychopathic homicidal normal New York driver and I will get to the place I need to get to in time I may be a polite I just got back from a week in Ottawa during a yacht a color for the Jewish community in Ottawa I Drive New York and New Jersey every day Oh driving author I felt like a shack like driving amongst the is like you know jellyfish and stuff like that I mean I'm the only person I'm any other person moving fast and I was like yeah the light turns green everyone waits a bit oh yeah is it clear and I'm the only horns you heard would mine but a nod to a driver comes to New York and they'll be at the Lincoln Tunnel they'll be saying go ahead a go ahead a okay you'll find they're starving skeleton three months later sitting in the car like this the skeleton you know they're not gonna ever get through the tunnels not gonna happen good guys don't win and bad guys sometimes win failure is there it's interesting in our mission that we say on Kanaka I know it's not seasonal but you know whatever Alan listen I'm Tanika write but in my youth Kanaka was always in the summer because I grew up in Australia and not December summer I remember one of the first times I got my own monoi I was so excited I prune in the window and I the beginning at the beginning of the day I get home from school all the candles have melted in the sunlight but Australian Sun yes that's it okay like so so I'm kind of girl I miss him we say Gabor Ian Bianca Larson rubbing me and me are Tim makes sense those are miracles the strong into the hands of the weak the many into the hands of the few all miracles but then it says what does it say after that zey Liam B are those cursor a surfer okay you could say that's awesome irak ulis because like a thug and a hooligan into the hands of someone who's learning Torah miraculous the guy's learning Torah is not like a trained military guy the fog is like that's all he does English soccer fan that type of thing right so so but then we're showing because why is that evil into the hands of the righteous why is that miraculous it's not the same type of Rights on the same type of miracle the other ones are miracles where the laws of nature are somewhat stretched here usually the largest army is going to win or the strongest is going to win or the most vicious is going to win okay but Rishabh you have to think in the answer there what the one answer there is that that yeah the idea that a righteous person is going to win there's not necessarily built into the system the righteous person that sadek does win against the Raja that's that's beget they're nice it's miraculous so failure is it and the RAM coal says so that means because this is to avoid us being being just robots or Tomatoes we need to be similar to our core as brother we needs to be self-determining we need to create ourselves creation of the self is only possible when this challenge and challenge is only a challenge if it's something a little beyond what I can do no it's on the border of failure and success like in sports you don't know you're training for you're training for some sport trying to run a certain distance at a certain speed etc so the coach yeah I don't know I can't think of I don't know the figures here because I'm not exactly an athlete I just look this way naturally so anyway so but but the you know he's trying to you'd want to jump five feet so you've never ever jumped five feet you've only jumped for the coach is not going to set it up at five feet and say jump five feet he's probably going to set it at four foot one inches which is a little beyond your capability you never done that before but it's not so be it's impossible but it is beyond what you've done before and you'll probably won't make it the first or second or third time but but you'll make it maybe the fourth or fifth time and then he'll raise the bar a little more and that's why some of them are far some say that the word miss seein is relatedness I am meaning test is right to the word mace which means a miracle because if you pass the test it's like you're doing something which is not within your capability it's like a little beyond the fact that I'm able to do it nature is that I'll fail but if I'm able to do it and some are necessary that's amazing so therefore mistakes have to be possible failure has to be possible and failure has to happen imagine if no one failed no it made mistakes no one did sins that would not be a freewheel system in the free wheel system which is an absolute requirement for us to be similar to Russian obviously our sin doesn't make mistakes but he is self determining we have to be the only way we can be independent beings as we create ourselves and of course the only creation of self is that's possible is the moral spiritual creation of self throughout the seasons their actions the exercising of our free will but exercising free will a free will environment an environment that enables that allows the free rules in the environment which this failure and so that's part of the system that's how it has to be the issue pizza talks about this a lot masha'Allah he has an extreme view of failure being part of the Divine Plan and he was not such a believer in free will but he was I he did say that this idea of failure is actually yes built into the built into the system and and he says actually the fact that we do fail is what is what anchors us in this world and gives us the ability to then become like a cottage for the Absaroka km in a couple of places talks about the idea that there are moments of sleep tarde MA and it's only during sleep he says when you're when you can have an operation it's only you know totally it's only during sleep where you can naturally remove something from someone without that the pain it's over he says the moments of sleep that we have the today me that we have he says are those moments we forget what we're supposed to be doing we forget out our purpose our goal and we might fail during that time but he says those moments are actually there so that we can actually afterwards look back and separate ourselves completely from that the ability to separate completely is that is is only when I've actually unfortunately experienced that in other words it's an analogy if you know let's say someone never drink wine in their life possible someone never drank wine in their life they don't like and you know they smelt it once its Discoverer I didn't like the smell of it maybe they had it when they were young and they they right so I don't know there's thirty they become a now seer take about thirty days no wine I mean I look at that in the safe it's not so impressive okay granted they're kind of any great products or no vinegar swoons no mayonnaise no ketchup no salad dressing oh yeah no mustard okay fine okay so they do but I mean still it's not so impressive the separation of the person who never had wine in their life who is now making the oath I'm another never having wine not such a big deal I think it's a lot easier probably for a vegan to become cosa then for a some guy who grew up in in the deep south you know in in the barbecue culture etc you come kosher yeah it's a little more of a challenge I'm a little more impressed some vegan from San Jose who becomes cars a big deal guy doesn't think anything anyway I feel pretty safe you know having to go vegans because they're usually too weak to attack me so anyway but but but the fact of the matter is that that it's not it's what rhetoric says is the separation from evil the separation from the wrath is actually able to be done much better when there was some there was a missile at some point there was a failing at some point there was a Aimie at some point then when I wake up from that that's by government then it is a much greater and a much better and a cleaner separation so to speak from the evil that is accomplished by me another important point to remember and this is something which the Tanya discusses and another of Brett's love Tanya empirical amidala from lima base and it's something which the Ramban mentions in his vicar with pablo Christiani which is that that we are not failures we have failed and there's a huge difference between being a failure and having failed the difference is huge in fact the Rambam implies that's one of the main differences between the torah and christianity he says to pablo Christiani says you see the human being as pathetic as a wimp as incapable of saving himself mired in sin and corrupt from birth needing to be saved needing intermediaries can't do it themselves groveling the Rambam says we see the human being as great and powerful and able to save ourselves through sugar be different you look at our phyllis so look at out phyllis inapt Phyllis usually when we go look us not that long off right but we say we say that I did a sin Oh hate jacket on all the fun fo the sin that I did before you or we say I did this I did this I did that the big difference between saying that and saying I am a fighter there is one or two - Phyllis all right we say I mean I think one of them is is the cousin before Moosa right hi topa Shani but the rest of the killer doesn't actually say that hey and that's actually from later than hazael in that phyllis of gazelle we don't usually call ourselves sinners we call ourselves someone who has done a sin which is a huge huge difference being a failure means my essence is I am a failure doing something wrong means I did something wrong but my essence is not that that's not who I am that's they say educationally the difference between between rebuking a child and saying you're a bad boy versus is such a good boy how did you just such you something so bad there's a big difference between the two one creates the expect expectation of bad stuff because he's a bad boy and the other is the expectation of good but this is essentially good but he did something wrong with torski varam torski in his in one of his books which is which is a fair thing not to remember exactly right so so one of his early books he writes value when he was a kid in milwaukee and he was at the time a chess prodigy brilliant brilliant chess guy and so during Rosh Hashanah I think it was governing as we all know is very long there's a guy in the soul who's a bit of a chess player too he walks over to little labor Ham to uh ski pulls a little chess board out of his cane prepared too short a little chess board is what he says listen you want to go out and have a game no no little kid says during governing he says it's gonna be going good the cousin will take be another we can finish the chess game before the cousin finishes the next posture I mean seriously so kids okay right they go down they go out somewhere they have a game of chess they come back the cousin actually he's gone to pursue Kim so it's a right that come back after the game anyway his father noticed his absence from school for like an hour I think he was maybe 12 something like that he was he was old enough to understand Erica so anyway he gets called into his father's study after after yeontan and his father looked simony says you play chess during governing on Rosh Hashanah kid says uh-huh his father says all his father's say he's sy and well Abraham Twersky heard in that sy not you're a bad boy but what he heard was disappointment and then the father said he says but you wipe the board with him right the kid says yeah this is all good okay in other words he lifted him up after he write he said yeah you killed arriving desi okay right exactly and he remembers that as a great lesson roof and indeed rub the the altar of Kelm roof inkle it's interesting he used to he used to say I never told the Talmud or my children don't do that it's awesome don't do that torn issue don't do it he said I always told them it's beneath you don't do is beneath your dignity to do that fascination for you you're a better than that posix says ASHRAE are dumb no Suey pesha happy is the person who now usually translated as who covers his sin think of our discusses that you're not supposed to tell about your sins a circle but mattress robber says that that ashtray ah Dom happy is the person show who he is above his sins his sins a virus is not about him so Finkel explained what does that mean it means happy as a person who feels that are very sad beneath his dignity right not that he has beneath them and that's the idea saying that I'm a so we don't say I'm a failure we could say that I failed we can say that I have sinned I'll hate rokkit are new but we don't say hate it that's a big difference and that the Tania says on the contrary he says the more the person realizes that they've done the wrong thing he says but simultaneously they have to understand that deep within them there is an it sites there's a spark of the neshamah which has been complete untainted by our failure it has never become Tommy it has never been sullied by sin it has never been if nothing hasn't been affected and he says on the country the realization it's almost like a duality he's got a contradictory realization on the one hand I've done x y&z I've done this other than this etc said he feels terrible but he says and he says but but doesn't there's a part of me that all that is beneath me that's not it's not appropriate for me and to realisation that within him and and when we look at someone else and this is Italia which I've quoted before apparently I'm a base where he says even though there's a minister of sinister asylum there's an inner of hatred for the rush of the glory I'm sorry but there's a simultaneous mitzvah of Arbus rain of love he says how do you have both he says yeah both by hatred of the evils that the person does but allowed for the knit sites Hakadosh hammock is snuff so the holy spark that sustains his soul that in every person have to love that's back and room nachman of breslov says he says not just true for the other guys true for yourself as well when you look in the mirror you shouldn't look in the mirror and say you failure look at her and say I've got this amazing spark of holiness I got this neshama I could die sure - higher up unaffected by event how can i how can i put it into goddess into exile with all the things that I've done he says on the contrary it's it's it's utilizing this in order to achieve achieve greatness and and he says that that's precisely how the person has to deal with with failure not to look at himself as a failure but to look at himself as having failed and done something wrong but that doesn't define me I undefined still by the potential incredible almost infinite potential that each one of us has to rise absolutely beyond that and actually we're if not when a bretzel says that this at this is going back to the foolish REM endure of cynical boredom chisca this says dwelling on all the failures and seeing myself as a failure leads to depression and and Nachman says there is no greater barrier between me and our Vedas am there was no greater barrier between us and our Shem than depression Ausmus and that's a very famous part where he says that that that a person should try everything they can to raise their spirits to have the sin and by the way this is in the field of positive psychology told then shocker of Harvard University his book happier phenomenal phenomenal book in which there's been tremendous research about this and and one of the features of a happy person talbin shocker shows is someone who does not dwell on their failings does not dwell on their past does not dwell on ice sugar and I could have but rather Sumaira abandons their asset all the Tonya's giving a little bit of a different twist than reversing cocooning he's saying that even when the person is in the midst of the rat he has to understand that this table absolutely within him and rotor of nothin by the way says that's what it means to be done the cuffs who's done the cuffs which means to find the area to look at the other person and find one area where that person is pure because there's no one like at least I mean in normal Jews there's no one I mean there's no one who's completely failed in every single area there's no area where the person successful there's no midst that you've done really well the Rambam says an imperial mission is the end of Marcus famous Mishnah right that the rat circles both Lusaka says y'all please don't say Kaddish ago just quite the Mishnah right rats are cousins Lucky's troll speaker here Ln Torah mitzvahs right there's actually two guys in the Ben Gurion Airport in this in the shul in ben-gurion so you know when you're in the shawl there you're always like yeah you always feel like you're in a hurry even though you're not got hours to the flight but the duty-free whatever anyway so so there's two guys there you know after doubling one guy says dr. Hylan will say another Kurdish summer so it's so his friend says do it and they say Kaddish he says dr. missional say in other cases now the Kaddish says the guy they're getting very frustrated with all that he shows him the mr. Perot says aim the homeboys forked ation the guy says yossel who are marked votura to keep canister I said it's about tourists a coaster over anyway so but on that Mishnah which says that here really interprets a snail shell pop it some articulatory yadi that the Rambam explains and it's just a classic it's a classic explosion it's a yeah he says this that here brilliant or omits us a corresponding a certain abundance of Torah amidst us that it's basically impossible for a normal Jew to go through life without doing one Mitzvah perfectly website there's so many misses there's so many opportunities to do a mitzvah it is just impossible here below him Tory he just gave us an abundance so that he says in the normal course of your life and not even your whole life I'm sure in the course of a month or maybe a year there's not possible that we didn't do one Mitzvah so that one mr. that's the cuff schools that's where I am pure and that's the makuta that's that point of holiness etc and from that will extend everything outside and the Ranaut Minh says that's not only how you should look at the other person's look at yourself that way don't look in the mirror and say I missed up everything no he says it's important to look in the mirror and find in yourself areas where you have succeeded areas where you have not failed areas where you are to where you're actually pure and that everyone has that everyone has that except I'll give you some names after but in general right everyone has that and that particular aspect of it is the I think fits in beautifully also with righto since the Williamson shut-in surah marij vas a top and the finished our rim he says because the traditional rim says it so well he says if you're dwelling on the failure your dwelling ourselves offended then your mind is in the Box in the mud that's the word he uses you're in the box he says if your mind is in the mud that's where the rest of your body will go and will be taken as the rest of you will be taken he says and you're sinking to us was etc so the dealing with failure is to of course as we said how much sailors lost half their kina faulty come T Sheva upon starting to come all of those hundred percent true that's number one the number one is to see failure as a means to make progress to see the darkness as a means to get to the light the cutter as a means to the turrets and and so forth secondly to understand that it's built into the system there will be failures because we need to be self creating I can only be self creating in an authentic free will environment an authentic free will environment requires there be occasional failure and sin etc etc but that is what's going to make me great that's what's going to make me close to our chorus powerful and finally to understand that although I have failed I'm not a failure or by I have sinned I'm not a sinner although I've done the wrong thing and as the Tanya says to understand even though I've done many wrong things but there's one thing I've probably done which is perfect and there's one area which I which in which I am pure and is that which I have to have rush Manas on and mercy on when I abrupt - on that Hashem will have rough - on me and we have rough one us on each other and on that Naqada of good within us therefore we'll have rough - on cloudless roll we all know there's the bone that will never be destroyed so that's the idea also the RAM Kyle says that the what's what's that boning value Searle the Khoi so laser skin and mucosal Marathi is this just like so on the in every individual has one area which is completely pure and can never be destroyed Claudius role has something which is pure and is never destroyed and he says and from those pure parts of the individual and the Clow we come to the time of the Guler slave owner of your Manor [Applause] [Music] same here you sure titled like the biggest rakaia to half a day inspiring you see without your biggest occur so if you're from Winkler to sponsoring tonight's Shiva the Isthmus although we feel most overlooked official of our solemn of eyesight we're aligned to see what the sponsor this year I'm celebrating share tera continual about stars Robin fully retire seven one eight eight five one eight six five one or email tape Center at Yeshiva net doesn't come and have to take great post about what disturbed arrival my sponsoring this year Nonya met Akash the Americans both of us are here entire magician M on an air hostess and on seed great yog guilt or the other [Music]