THE GREAT SHABBAT: THE GREAT AND AWESOME DAY OF THE L-RD with Rabbi Aaron Dovid Poston

Heat. Heat. [Music] Shalom everybody. Welcome back to the Bate Madrash. Welcome home to Torah. Home to Torah. Before we begin, I want to mention this year is sponsored by Dr. Blanca, Dr. Dovavid Weisskoff, right, with the white hair, the smart guy, the one with the the wise cuff head. And it's in honor of families that suffer from parental alienation. Number one, I do want to speak about that. And uh especially Rafu Shalma, the learning should elevate the possibility of a complete recovery for Yil Ary Benut from whatever illness uh he has. uh along with the actual victory, success and victory of Israel against its enemies in war and the return of all of our hostages alive. Now, since RevDavid asked me to speak about this idea, I mean, it's in honor and um of the victims, the the the people who have overcome parental alienation or who are still suffering. I do want to mention that I know nothing of the subject. However, he did ask me to speak about the ha for Shabas. So it's not even this week's para because shabas a is not this shabas but I'm not giving a sheer neck shabas because it's so what we've decided to do is we're going to discuss it tonight. Okay. And um based on the idea that it does say in the na'vi if you go to the Hebrew sheets just turn it over a second right in the Hebrew sheets. So, one of the verses that you don't have, but uh it says in verse 23, "Behold, I send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and awesome day of Hashem." Verse 24, "And he will turn back to God, the hearts of the fathers with their sons, and the hearts of the sons with their fathers, lest they come and strike the land with utter destruction." Now that last verse is repeated. Now what was David thinking? And I'm going to try to come with let's say fresh ideas. I would assume that David is thinking of and that's one of the themes of yan as aus to create unity. So if the if there is such a thing as an alienation and I'm not sure who alienated who at the point in time based on what he is talking about parental alienation I would have thought that there's a victim is the child and the perpetrator would be the or or the cause of the alienation is coming from the adult in the room right you assume that there's always an adult in the room the one who's more mature the one who's more experienced in wife should have had the wisdom not to alienate their child. However, from the puss, I think it's going to be symbiotic. It's going to work both ways. And I'll show you why through the shar. Um, so I hope David is not upset with me when I make it as if. And we could talk about uh in our own generation what I think it's talking about besides I'm going to use the word parental alienation uh where children become former than their parents and turn the parents back to uh the proper ways of God. However, our parents, parents, parents somewhere along the line, they also were kids and they also, you know, turned away uh from let's say uh our heritage, our rich heritage of Judaism. So somewhere in the long along the line, even the parents someone was a child at one point. Also, I do want to say and we're going to talk about some very mystical ideas, but one of the ideas is before we come into the world, one of the it's like an oath that the soul takes and gets a choice. Do you want to be in this household with those parents? And for some reason, it's also a tikun for the child to be in that particular home. I actually will relate this to an idea, a very fundamental idea in Judaism. One of the six 13 commandments is dealing with a a weward and rebellious son. The parents actually have to have a lot in common. Maybe their voice, maybe their directives, they speak with the same voice. Many parents who experienced this um let's say the distancing alienation from their children because they also suffered trauma as children and never dealt with it properly. Maybe they didn't have the tools whatever whatever it was they never found the right tikun and the right fix and somehow another unfortunately go on for generations and generations. And I do want to speak a little bit about reincarnation at some point and how when we speak about the father and the son. It could be what we're really talking about is the father is my past lifetime and the son is the present lifetime. Okay. So hopefully we're going to come to all this um during during this year. So I think what we'll do is we will begin with the with the maharal this is the the Hebrew sheets that you have and it's regarding this is basically from the hagada of the the pesak hag of the maharal himself and he speaks about the Indian of shabas hag the Indian of shabas what is what is shabas hag it's the shabas that comes before pes That's why it's not really this shabas. It's the next shabas. However, it says in the shar and it's brought down in the Gammorrah that the the rabbi gets up and speaks about the to refreshen everybody get them ready for Pesak with all the and of course they must dion out and expound upon the ideas of chuva believe it or not chuva as well and mystical ideas getting ready for and I'm going to say it's really related to the ha to Torah for redemption Get ready for redemption, brothers and sisters, because this is Shabas coming up, you know, in 8 n days. But anyway, so the the clear, forgive me every time I mention the word clearp because we usually use the clear. So here it goes. He quotes a Pik from Mish and it's chapter 8 verse 6. He begins his words. which translates as listen hearken because I'm going to speak of very uh like noble things very important things and the opening of my lips shall be straight shall be the right things so that's very um what's the word apppropo for a darian someone who's speaking to the masses someone who wants to mikim to cause them to go in the straight path path is to make a little bit of a prayer first. So, my words especially should be able to enter into your ears as well. So he says like this second line downsur to inform you with the help of the almighty. that so is the rock the foundation of the world. The Yeshua with his salvations of God Almighty Shim be able to open up the gates, the gates of the Jewish people, the house of Israelim. I'll just stop there to translate that there are reasons there's deep reasons and hints that are very pleasant from all the different laws and and customs which are uh which have a certain beauty a very holy light and ashdas I don't know if I can translate that but a fiery uh notion to them that's that actually uh hoovers above hoovers. So we have like kitney oats. I know people want to talk about that, but if you ever want to ask me why is a very special min to hold, we could talk about that another time. But there's so many customs that we that we do and we hold dear that are very holy Shabbat that from the originally when we left Egypt that Shabas was the 10th of Nissan and we're going to talk about that as well. Why specifically the 10th? But anyway, the shab is before until after the night of the seder and his Hebrew is beautiful. So there are going to be a lot of customs between the shabas until the holy night, the sanctified night of Passover itself. Hashab that Shabbat that comes immediately before Passover Shabas and we're going to see in the Torah. This is an awesome day. Okay, it's called Shabas. What do we do? We're no more. There is a custom on on the Shabbat afternoon around Mina time to read part of the Hagada just part fromu until the words we were slaves. We were slaves in Egypt until that was an atonement for all of our sins. Imagine that. Where do these holy customs come from, right? Could be just to prepare yourself, but there's something much deeper. The gnimbo and the of the community also has the custom and people have the custom to go and to join in and to listen to the laws the upcoming you know preparations of the laws and um the expounding upon them according to the mahar what appears to him he says Maftbo. Remember, there is a ma. There's a ha tora. And if you notice, you don't have it in your sheets. Oh, no. You have it on the source sheet. It would be it would be um I believe it start look at number five in Mali chapter 3:4. So it's the fourth verse of the the third chapter. That's where the ford begins and we say it quite often in our dingshud right and the offerings of Yehud and which we used to do shall be pleasant to the Lord. Um okay can I skip something? The arva hashem that's the first two words in the in the in the text. They should be pleasant to God. In other words, we should have the rebuilding of the temple. We should reinstitute the corbanos and it should be pleasing to God just like it was back then as in the days of old and former years. Um, it was on page two number five. Okay. So, that is where the ha to Torah begins with great anticipation towards the rebuilding of the temple. Guys, you hear this? I know you guys love to see the temple rebuilt soon in our days and it's written in the para in the Torah and that would be verse like we just read it in the beginning that is uh verse number look at number 10 It's source number 10. It's Mali chapter 3 verse 23. You see it? Behold, I will send you Eli the prophet. I'm reading it from the Hebrew. In the Hebrew, it's Eliah. And there's a reason why. There's a V that's missing and it's on purpose. Okay. the prophet Elijah. We'll call him Elijah, but Eliah, the prophet before the coming of the great and awesome day of the Lord. Nice pickup. In English, it does say Elijah, but in the Hebrew, it's Eliah. Okay. So, the Maharal continues. So that is part of the theme of the haftra and it's because if we if you notice what it says at the very end that Elijah the prophet is going to come and he's going to have good news right besar toos right he's going to announce the great and awesome day of the lord is coming and that in Hebrew that's where these words come from that's why it's called nikra shabas And what happened? We left Egypt and it right. We left Egypt. When we left Egypt, what happened occurred? Awesome. Great things. His actions, Hashem's actions were were no were unbelievably awesome. They were great and awesome that he did. And when we left Egypt, this with this great awe. What is this description? What's the great awe? the gilo, the revelation of God's presence, so to speak, and we are what? We're notified and we are assured. This is what the prophet is telling us. The last prophet literally no more prophets after that point. That doesn't mean prophecy ended because the prophets prophesized about the future and they're unfolding before our very eyes. We don't have prophets today. Anybody who walks around and says they're a prophet is a fake. And if they had the if we have the Sanhedrin, woes to them for the punishment they would get. If they call to say I have raesh, you can get away with to say you have prophecy, you already nixed yourself. You've already lost all credibility because the prophecy of the prophets were God told me what to say and I'm telling you what God told me to say and that's a false prophet. If any part of that's not true to say I had a vision to say I whatever. Okay, let's move on. So we are notified and assured from this living redeemer. Who is the living redeemer? Hashem himself. And he sends his mahim, right? his servants, the prophets, that in the future that the Jewish people will be elevated to a much higher level. And I think that we're getting there. I think that there are people who through Torah and Mitz, we are further from Sai. So we're like midgets, but we're midgets, dwarfs on the shoulders of great people. as we're going to see soon in Mika 7:15 that Hashem is making with them greater and greater and more awesome things like it's written look at Mika 7:15 number 11 on the sor sheet as in the days of your ex from the land of Egypt I will show him wonders anybody who's lived lived in Israel for the last, I don't know, I've been here like over, you know, between 35 and 40 years. Anybody who's here last week, two weeks ago, has seen the wonders, right? I don't know how many missiles they claim. 300 missiles. There were really 600 missiles. Three of them already fell in Iraq. I'm talking about that night that I was on a plane coming back to Earth, Israel sometime in April, right? You had 300 missiles and like I can't say nobody got hurt. One guy got hurt. One guy might not even got killed. And who was that guy? Reminds me of 35 years ago we had a war and there was one guy that got killed by the 39 missiles that Iraq sent, right? He was a uh uh he had a he had a non-coosher butcher. He was a non-coosher butcher, right? Iban Brock sold pork. That one guy, he he he was killed. who was the one who was supposedly and and and I think it was a Gaza guy who was in Jericho. I mean like come on you it's like hello I I don't have to describe the awesomeness of of God. So the the um the mar continues why is it called the night a guarding a night of guarding right there's a pik it says it's a gu it's a night of guarding because god is guarding this type of night the the night of pesak which we were redeemed we will be redeemed in the future that's what it means the guarding is like anticipating guarding for the future something that's going to happen in the future and this could happen any day now where Mameish not only are we in the month of Nissan but we're the tension in the world towards what I would call either Armageddon or World War II. Um the Vagon says it's going to last 6 minutes. Some say he said 12 minutes, but you get the point. Only a war like that could have been a nuclear type of war. But we're safe here, so don't worry. Now, why is this thing that we're celebrating? It's called Shabas. It was on the 10th of the month. Why don't we just celebrate every 10th of Nissan as the day? Because it was on the 10th. We ignore the 10th. It's on Shabas. Because the strength of Shabas, how does it work? I'm sure you've all heard the argument the maklo alleged maklokus kazal tell us that if all the Jews just keep two shabases in a row mashiach would come right away but I'm sure you've all heard the other medish says if all the Jews just keep one shabas mashiach would come is that a fight is that a discrepancy is that an argument no why I heard the name of re yan said over like this. A shabas needs a beginning point. You have to have six days. You can't just say right now, okay, I'm going to start right now. I let's assume I never kept Shabas and I'm going to say I'm going to keep Shabas. So right now I'm just going to start six days and then the seventh day is Shabas. It's not a seventh day. I have to have a starting point. I can't just indiscriminately make a starting point because really today is 2,111,525th day of my life. It's not day seven or you know it's not day one of anything. So if I have a shabas as a starting point then I can have six working days because there's a power within that first shabas that's drawn into the six days. And then there's the six days. The power of those six days drawn into the shabas. It's like a snowball effect. You keep building and building and building towards the year 600. So what does it mean to keep two chabases? When they said kept two shabases, they mean have a shabas as a starting point. It's not a real shabas. It's just a starting point shabas. Because before that you didn't have 6 days. You had 2,111,58, right? You need a shabas to start to jumpst start the whole ball going. And then the one who says you only need one shabas. They're only talking about the second shabas because the first one wasn't really a shabas. It was day 5,000 2,111,525. So there's no arguments really. They're really saying the same thing. They're acknowledging the same thing. There's a power in shabas that and and what did we do on that shabas? Happened to be the 10th of the month. that Shabas we went against against what we took a sheep or a goat tied it to our bed post this sheep by the way if you notice there's a few pukim here that I bring just in Exodus 12:3 the the puss says on the 10th of the month let each one take a lamb how do we know it's shabas cuz we know we left on Thursday. So we left on Thursday. That would be the fifth day of the week. Okay. So that's the 15th. So the 10th was Shabas. So what is it about the sheep that is so bad that um we risked our lives taking that sheep? So there's two sukim and I just have to find them on the sheets that when Pharaoh asked well put it this way when the brothers got together when sorry when they got together with Yseph and Yseph advised the brothers when Pharaoh asked you what do you do for a living? What is your occupation? Of course you would have thought they're going to say we're doctors and lawyers, right? No, we're shepherds. He says what does he say? Tell them you're shepherds because this way since the puss says that's an abomination in the eyes of the Egyptians. To be a shepherd is an abomination. You know why? Because the sheep was their god. The sheep was their deity. So by saying and y was trying to advise them because he was telling them the secret of survival in exile. Don't intermar. Don't intermar. How are you going to keep from intermaring? Tell them you're shepherds. They're going to say, "Oh, you guys have to live far away from us because just imagine going to India." They say, "What do you do?" And you have a cowboy hat and you have a lasso. And they say, "What do you do for a living?" You say, "I'm a cowboy." Well, you know, well, I think they have a sacred cow. They have a lot of rituals what they do. They let they close the roads. Imagine if a cow wandered on the airport tarmac. I mean, that would close the airport. That's right. Right. So, so one of the psukim, anybody find it yet? Okay. So, if you go to page three, I'm sorry, page one, and it's the third source. So, how do we know that the sheep was the deity of of Egypt? As I just mentioned, but I'll tell you the verse. Genesis 46:34. Yseph is advising the brothers what to say. When they as Pharaoh asked you, "What do you do for a living?" You shall say, he says, your servants have been owners of livestock from our youth until now, both we and our ancestors. And what do they want to do? They wanted to dwell in a lush, you know, green marshy area so that you may dwell in the land of Gan. Yseph is advising them because all shepherds are ahorent to the Egyptians. And also in Exodus chapter 22 when Moses he um is offered by uh by by Pharaoh, you know, sure, you know, go ahead. Go ahead, offer your uh sacrifices here. What what do you think? Well, he was pretty smart to start with, but uh Yakov um uh right, Yakov says, I'm sorry, Moses says it's improper to do that. By the way, it's in chapter 8 of Exodus verse 22. No, we can't sacrifice our offering here in Egypt. For we will sacrifice the abomination of the Egyptians to God our Lord. We will sacrifice the deity of the Egyptians before their eyes and they will not stone us. what we're going to take your deity, slaughter it in front of you, and you're not going to like like you know, attack us, create riots like we see, right? So, this idea, by the way, we not only were we slaves, right, of hyenu, but we were also um idol worshippers. I mean, what what right did we have to be redeemed? So, okay, we're not going to talk about that right now. You know, there were four things that we did in order to better to be redeemed. I mean, we're not going to go deep into it. You know, we kept our Jewish names, by the way, which instills hope. There's a hope in the name. All the names and we talk about since paros all the names are representative of a redeeming factor. We kept our language. By the way, if we kept the names and not the language, it wouldn't have meant anything because it's only in Hebrew that each of the names actually mean uh towards redemp redemptive qualities. Uh we didn't what else? We didn't intermar clothing. We didn't intermar. We didn't speak lash. I'm just going to mute you. There you go. Um okay, this is what the what the fifth thing was, but okay. So this is what we did to merit. But that's a big big deal. It's a big merit. The truth is we were just like them when it came to idol worship perhaps. Maybe we weren't as deep. Maybe we were uh it was superficial. All right. Certainly ley did not get involved in in the idol worship. But um the angels on high said why should they be redeemer? Why should they be uh thrown into the into the sea of reeds to drown? Aren't they both idol worshippers? That was their argument. So we weren't such sadiking but what we had not just hope. We had the DNA of Abraham, Isaac, Jacob. We held the promise. We were part of the the tradition. And we had I'm going to call it derk erit. If we didn't speak lashhara, we really had a certain amount of octus which is going to play a very important role here because why the 10th I I started to discuss this what happened on the 10th we just said on the 10th we were told to basically separate ourselves from the idols. So if you go to page 4 number 15 it's Exodus 12 verse 21. So Moses Moses summoned all the elders of Israel and he said to them in Hebrew, draw forth and buy for yourselves the sheep. So the word mash, it's actually to pull away from draw yourselves away from idol worship. Okay? And it was through this um I'm going to call it mass nethish they were sacrificing their lives. They gave their lives towards this promise. They were willing to take the idol of the Egyptians, bring it into their bedrooms, and when the Egyptians asked, "What are you doing?" They said, "We're going to slaughter your your your your god." That would be like, I guess they call it a red flag, right? I mean, this is like you're putting yourself in such danger. Yet, this is the merit of what happened. Now, I do want to talk about what happened on the 10th. This was the day that um um what happened with Miriam on the 10th. Anybody know? What? The 10th. Miriam. The 10th of Nissan. That's when she passed away. What else happened on the 10th that's famous? No. Okay. So, what happened on the 10th that's so famous? I think we should I think this should be the we should institutionalize it as national aliyah day. Okay. Why do I say that? Because in Joshua we crossed the Jordan River on the 10th of Nissan in the 40th year, the the year we came into Israel. I guess it was the tail end of the 39th year. But so really on a certain sense I asked why are we celebrating on Shabbat? It's called Shabbat because it happened on Shabbat. We spoke about the power of Shabbat and how it draws forth because what we did on that Shabbat was so powerful. That's why we we were redeemed that week. The 10th, if we celebrated the 10th, that would overshadow or somehow another bring up the 10th. I don't know why you guys don't know that. This is national or national aliyah day. This is the day we came into the land of Israel. So one would overshadow the other. So we have to keep in mind it's shabas. Okay. Shabas. The number 10. The yud in in the Hebrew language is like a hook. It looks like a hook. We the Jews are called yidden maybe because yuda yid like yud. What does the yud do? The yud is that hook between the singular numbers right? to call the single digits and then the double digits because yud alif is 11. Of course in the Arabic numbers that we use 10 has two digits but on a deep level it's really the hook between up till nine or singular and then 11 is double and the yud. So it's a unifier the the Yeshua Hartman goes deep into this. I I don't want to lose anybody on that. But so just keep in mind the tenth itself was a unifier and we were totally unified. We were so unified, right? Like I said, we didn't speak Lashinhara. What does that really mean? We didn't turn anybody in, right? Already 12 months before we knew that we were going to leave with a great amount of wealth and no Jews spilled the beans. By the ninth plague, we were actually asking them during the ninth pl the plague of darkness where, you know, we didn't have to ask them. We were walking around their house freely. It was dark for three days for the Egyptians. We got to see and seek out where they were hiding all their stuff. We didn't take it. We didn't touch it until God told us, "Now go." The 10th plague, the the midnight during the plague of the fir the killing of the firstborn. By the way, on a mystical level, Aries, which is the uh the zodiac sign, the the ram, right? During Nissan, is the first born of the zodiac. I mean, the world was created in Nissan. And the non-Jews who believe in zodiacs, they acknowledge this is the firstborn of the zodiac. We slaughtered their god. God in the higher heavens slaughtered their god, so to speak. And in the full moon, the height, the most powerful day of the month, we walked out. We walked out the next day, but we walked out on that day, the 15th, the most allegedly powerful day of their deity, which was made into nothing. Okay. Now going back into what the Maharal had to say that I'll just read the last sentence we said and try to explain it that all things draw forth into actuality from the six days of the week. The six days of action they are they are awakened. We can do what we can do during the six days because of something that was awakened within the Shabas that came before and the very day of Shabas itself is it opens up the gatehu. So what happened on Shabbat opened the gates and it was prepared and part of the foundations of the salvation that was bound to happen that week. The hash pes now we understand why the shabas that comes before pes is called what? Shabas ao because that was the great shabas that allowed us through our following god's command wiping out the deity or let's say collecting the deity in order to wipe it out and risking our own lives to stand up like Ara did that is what catapulted us towards our salvation the following week you know five days later We are anticipating looking forward towards the power of this preparation shall hit of an awakening the opening of the gates from the future salvation is that's coming towards us the Jewish people. That's going to be a great and awesome day. Therefore, we are um from from our point of view, we're giving strength towards the movement of our lips. When we sit on Shabas afternoon and read parts of the we were slaves until the whole story until we're freed and our sins are atoned for when the rabbi gives over fantastic novel ideas and he's telling over different and he's speaking about different stories. Israel. Remember, our power is in our mouth. We talk about a double-edged sword. The the weapon of war is the double-edged sword. In Hebrew, it's pipote. Pipote is double-edged. Pipote. It's p twice. It's pepe twice. We have the power of the mouth to speak Torah. That's what we use. That's what we used to give over Torah. And to pray, we use our mouth. This is replacing the uh the cows, the animals, the lips are replacing them in Torah and it's the power we have also from anything that unfortunately has stopped and interrupted us because of the because we don't have a temple. We don't have the opportunity to bring the coronos now we spent in Egypt. This was before we were given the Torah. When we were in Egypt, we still not we still had not yet been given the power of the Torah to awaken us and toil through the movement of our lips. So what were we given? God gave us this command, right? He gave us additional from the seven Noah laws that we were bound to for hundreds of years. He gave us additional commandments. One of them was to bring the Corbin Pesh from the 10th of the month. It happened to fall in that year on Shabas. It was um the shabas that came before before pes. It's hinted to in the words. We already said that it's from the idea of removing yourself from this deity. Don't worship it. Stay away from it. remove your hands from like it says in the mid. And through these actions, the actions on the 10th of the month by taking the the um the Pes this awakened the redemption that was yet to come that was about to come. Yumipur Shabasuva as we know at the other end of the calendar we have right six months later and you have a special Shabas that's before that and it's called Shabasuva just like you have shabish chuva that's a special shabas what's going to awaken in you the chuva and during that week you're going to have yam kipur it's going to come out in the middle that week. That's why it's called Shabisha Chuva. So, what's coming after that? What's coming after that? Shabas, the power um that's happening on that special day of chuva for the Jewish people, hashim. We're going to be returned to God when through the five different types of five different types of afflictions and our prayers through our cries and our crying out loud our screams just like we said over here in the God had what? Forgiven our sins. It's all connected. That's what yum kipur is about. Hashem forgave their sins and he returned us, right? We returned to what? To the original to our original state. And this is well known that we required to do something something on the shabas in order to awaken that power from from something we do to activate this awakening from above. We actually awaken below and that will awaken above. beam and this is taking place through the idea that the Jews themselves have accepted upon themselves their heart the shabas prior to return to God with with strength and this is clear and that's why it's called shabas that shab is called shabas chuva so if that's true also over by yam kipur over here and I want to elaborate a little bit more so too the shab Shabas Pes this Shabas which comes before Pes is called Shabas. Why is it called Shabas? Because because this is all about the preparation for the Yeshua for the salvation that we are anticipating looking forward to. It's going to end up being one of the weekdays of the week that follows it follows what um that is the night of Pes that's where God's honor has been magnified through the whole world by this coming day that's called great and awesome and the clear the the uh the mara explains this is very proper. There's no doubt that this is all true according to everything anybody that has any understanding. Now I want to speak about another verse in here in the par you don't have it I mean you have it on the source sheet if anybody can find it for me where it [Applause] says sorry it's taking me so long and it's chapter 3 verse 7 the same words appear in Zechariah 1:3 God says return to me and I will return to you right we have one of our friends here his last name is and um it's God is saying you awaken yourselves first you do something and I'm going to return to you it's interesting in Jeremiah it seems like the opposite is being said it says over there if you return then I'll return to you I'll return to you but in the And we just saw in the in the um in that when this unity takes place when we return to whom? Our father then our father will return to us. There will be this unification. This no more parental alienation and then all the nations will praise you. the result of the unity whether it's through father and son son through father or general um unity this is what's going to bring us to the stage of msiach of el yao and then the nations will praise you um there's a lot more I can say but I want to speak about the benor kazal tell us it never happened and it never Bill, the clear car. The clear car says it's a it's a analogy. It's a mushel. Hashem loves us so much. We could be wayward. We could be off the dar. His love for us will never end. So ultimately, whether you're the father or the son, our job is to imitate God, right? to be forgoing to be mater. The father should overlook his own honor. A king cannot do this. The father should tell his son, you don't have to stand up for me. Every time I walk in the room, when your mother asks for something, I ask for something, let her have it. Right? He should forgo his honor. Hashem is a vatran to a certain extent. It's not for me to say, but the clear card clearly says it never happened because it's to teach us a lesson that Hashem never gives up. It could never happen where he would execute and finish us off. And that's also the message in Malahi that this relationship will be restored between our heavenly father and the ch us the children. And it could be just a hint a rees the way it's spoken about here. Um let's take it literally. Let's assume for whatever reason children are estranged from their parents whether the parent is the victim you know in the previous generation through uh what do you call it through a trauma as a child. Everybody can be healed. Everybody can work on their character. The child listen you can have a family of 10. Everyone's sparkling great and one kid goes off to Derek. You know they have this thing called tough love. We see for the most part it doesn't work. I'm not saying it should never be used. It should be used with guidance. There are going to be times where tough love is used. But as I heard from Rabbi, I didn't hear personally say it. Schlommo Carlbach would I always think to myself when I was bringing up my kids, what would Schlommo say? How would he react? Maybe I made mistakes. But anyway, that was the path I chose. It wasn't easy, okay? But if you know what I'm saying, I chose that path. Um, and I think my kids love me for it, okay? They all have they're all in different levels of observance, but they all love Israel, the God of Israel, the land of Israel, and you couldn't hope for really anything more than that. I hope I gave some insight into what we call Shabaso. Again, it's not this week. I don't know when you're watching this, but it's the day mamish, the day before the seder. Okay? So, um, what I always tell people is not just have a shabas, but there it says in the shokar, call it shabas. When people greet each other, okay, sounds very strange. You say good chabas, help people have a great shabas. It's shabaso. Okay, so that's one idea. Next is that we should hopefully how do I say it with kindness dova right fix those relationships figure out a way it's usually some pagum some blemish inside of us right usually right you point your finger they say you have three or four whatever you get the idea there's a few fingers pointing back at you so there's a lot of projection that goes on we always like to blame so easy it's much easier to blame the other person and if it's a kid. Listen, assume your parents didn't have the tools. They loved you, but they didn't have the tools or maybe they were also abused. If you were I'm not excusing any abusers, right? There's there's a point that is beyond just dysfunctional, right? Most of us are dysfunctional, but there's a thing that goes beyond that and that's not excusable. But for the the general dysfunction, assume they also had a tough upbringing. And maybe forgiving your parents is is uh is also part of the children turning their hearts. In general, I said it's probably the idea that most a lot of kids become more religious than their parents. I think in the end of days because they're bringing their parents back. That could be pushup shot. But it seems as though it's also working the other way around that some some parents they also they became from and their kids are already you know in their 20s how you going to bring them along so there's a a unification there has to be trust there has to be love there has to be respect and through that bizraem the whole nation will return to our loving father in heaven and our our sponsor David Weisskoff has a YouTube channel um dealing with parental or let's say the helping and assisting the opposite of parental alienation helping to stop it and if I can remember correctly it's Dr. D 1967 1990 1967 1967 a good year it was a good year Dr. D1967 on YouTube if you're interested in following through with more insights and how one can help or be helpful or be saved from parental alienation. And with that, I wish you shabbat shalom, a great shabas, and a great life. And we'll see you in a few weeks. A few weeks. That's [Music] it. Heat. Heat. [Music]