The First Step to Teshuva: Self-Forgiveness

So now let's get into talk of the conversation of mistakes in >> okay it's even more serious it's it is a rough day zero distractions It's a good song. >> It's a good song. Beautiful song. beautiful song that true forgiveness means um forgiving so that it doesn't live in you. You know the black and white version is okay is is controversial. And then you grow up and you start learning you know like for the mistakes that I say. One of my affirmations by the way are every single day I say I forgive myself for everything that I did up until this day and today and I fully accept myself for the person that I am. >> Excellent. That's that's >> thank you. So let's talk about forgiveness. >> So I I I want to split there's >> okay >> is probably the most important week >> of the of the of the Jewish calendar. >> Okay. That's that's the interactive mention, you know, it's the time where you're still actually interacting with people >> and you're doing business and you're talking the guys, it's such a good time to really reflect, >> right? Yeah. Fine. But yeah, do do it in real life. Let's do that week. Was the jump start. It was a transition. It was a happy day. Yeah. But it was reflect. It was the beginning of the year. He wants so it's like I think whoever is going to be really self-reflective look you know and then alliance is the happiest day of the year. >> Yeah. That's the You know you regret It should be the happiest day of the year. Totally clean. Wow. I didn't. Yes. Clean slate. >> You're as clean as it gets. It's a beautiful day. >> Yeah. But most people don't know was that. And if you want to go into of that, you learn a lot of So it's it's hard for them. It's hard especially the black and white version of is to say I mean because of because you're right they do work with black and black and white minds >> usually black and white but yeah but with and if truly his idea of the boogeyman then of course he's petrified in this in this whole of A stressful time. He How can he see past that? How can he see this beautiful version? Okay. foreign. Yeah. But is in the back burner. That's all I'm saying. Yeah. Focus on self-growth. Focus on reflection. Focus on is the best completely. Wow. Gone. Right. You're clean. Right. Zero. That's the scary part. and and mention as they get older child. It's not >> it's it's it's such a humbling experience >> to owning up. How do we call it in psychology? Owning up. Own up. >> You know, I call my father, right? What's wrong? just owning up. You know how how rewarding it is afterwards? You feel very good afterwards. It's a very good feeling. >> People get very stubborn after selfrespect. >> Ego is business partners. They never did self-reflection. They never looked at themselves. They're never the achiever to themselves. They're never the achiever. >> And is that echoing the they're losing out of this world. They start >> just I'm let's enjoy it. Let's >> And how about rebuilding that connection with Hashem? I want to see Hashem in a positive light. I want to see you as a as a beautiful >> Let's talk about that. That's a very very good a good thing. I I I think that The average guy Joemo guy was in America. >> Yeah. loved certain models, certain zingers, certain superstars, the hang So it and and and I >> So why is that [Music] sweetheart? >> Yeah. >> But the nature is connected. I know is the biggest artist. If you look at a flower, if you walk down, I love botanical gardens. >> Okay. >> Hind botanics. >> Oh yeah. >> Names of different plants. Yeah. I'm one of those >> and I enjoy nature. flower. I see right over there. >> Wow. >> I want to be close to the ultimate talent. >> Yeah. >> I want to be close in Europe a billionaire. He loves them. You're going to see him. You're going to hug him. They're dying to see God. >> Yeah. And I heard a beautiful reason why he doesn't show us what he looks like because limited. We all would have been disappointed in some way or another. It's it's a it can be whatever you want it to be. Yeah. Pictures and videos. Okay. Yeah. So I know where was and the story is unbelievable selfless right >> it's got the beautiful when you see if you like art >> Yeah >> and neighborh I got into certain I wish I could find Alex paintings beautiful >> the talent in the painting the arts it's unbelievable humbling >> to want to connect to everything that that's happened >> so that's why I met the gas Boring. Nothing. I'm clouds. The clouds of the Atlantic Ocean evaporated. The germs in State Parks the mountains of the mountains. Yeah. Nobody knows. Yeah. Exactly. the boats. We could see Hashem. It's a gava to want to see him, >> right? >> It's a you want to hear something very interesting. They didn't know there was the brother as a mask. You look at it, you see a mask like war. Wow. Wow. I want to share with you a beautiful but I I think I think it's very very very very powerful. >> Yeah. and he couldn't find a donor special type he told me the kidney zero recognition my kidney fine he tells me gave my label poetry trying to breathe. Yeah. >> And it hit me in my head when he told me this. Wow. I'm supposed to love wholeheartedly. I always taste buds and I start singing and poetry is all about my heart. Yeah. >> And how do you see that? How do you you look around the world and there's so much beauty, so much >> and enjoyed art and enjoyed poetry and enjoyed nature. You're going to love him just like this guy loves the kidney dog. So you don't need to see Hashem to love him. You need to open your eyes. >> Wow. >> Kiss. >> Beautiful. And to bring it full circle is I feel that when we have that connection with Hashem when we see him in that way when we see nature when we see his beauty I think it's a lot easier for us to believe that he can also forgive us and understand us the uniqueness. I always say when a when a kid in class doesn't behave and then give us a test of the arts and crafts there's always that kid that the teacher says it's okay sit next to me you know and I think that I think the Irish citizen the same way like that like >> the energy says okay so if you don't Mhm. >> Yeah. Because it's like Yeah. He had a hard time, >> right? >> But do I want to have a blind eye? I know what's good for him. >> Right. >> And he cannot come and say, "Yeah, you know my >> Yeah. >> And this is >> Yeah. So we don't know what Hashem is important and what that's dangerous. >> Yeah. He tried. >> Beautiful. That's >> I love that. Very nice. Okay. Beautifully said.