The Divine Trial, Antisemitism, TIKKUN HaBrit and Yom Kippur 5781 - STUMP THE RABBI (65)

for [Music] new faces old faces we have a um sh tonight stump the rabbi number 65 you guys will have some questions will give us the answers um tonight's sh was a sponsored by our dear friend Mar juli Will Bless and our children also give a special to save her dear daughter Isa from the s that she's in right now and bring blessing to her and uh all of her brothers uh also for a uh for an David benri dor Bora um abah Talia Batar Jonas Ben Sherry Haley ysep Ben ba Stefan Ben Karina m sarit b and a special for for Mara but Julie sha Ben faranah benis Gabi Ben Doris elad Ben and David Ben and all of the donors supporters employees volunteers of uh which really uh every day sacrifice their time their efforts their sanity sometimes uh just to get another person to get closer to because the last thing we do is discriminate the last thing you know we try to help everybody that wants to be helped now if you don't want to be helped we don't want to help you if you don't want to be helped we don't want to help you why CU we have other people that want to be helped and it's better to spend time resources and energy on someone that wants to be helped you know many times people ask me oh can you call my cousin can you call my friend can you call my this no he can send us a message he can watch a shoe she can watch watch a Sho she can attend a shoe it's all free but for us to go chase them when they're not interested not happening why because there are two many people that are interested and your cousin your brother your husband your child's blood is not read than theirs it's not why because they're interested that's already a warm lead someone's interested it's already a warm lead you know in the marketing business and I was on Wall Street it was marketing what do you do try to get you know customers now you could cold call you could warm call what's a cold call versus a warm call a cold call is you call a complete stranger hi Mr Jones yeah this is Ron ruin how are you good listen I have by the end of the call million dollars why because I'm Ron ruin that's why now that was the past stranger but what's the best customer not that guy that guy's not the best custom who's the best guy his friend his friend is the best guy why after he made a few dollars with us and he likes us he tell he tells me listen I have a good friend oh you have a good friend I have a good friend also your friend so give me his phone number listen your friend Steve over here I've been dealing with him for the last x amount of time and he said to call you say you know what he's right and guess what the second customer is the best customer why because I already have a reference I already have a reference I already have a rapport with his friend and he's vouching for me that's a what we call a warm call so it's always better to make a warm call than a cold call why cuz you already the the first guy you're still trying to build a report with takes time second guy you already did it you already did it it's no different when you're trying to save you're trying to save the the price that's on the line is much much more dear why it's eternity it's not just a few dollars and the reality is that you cannot waste any time you can't afford to so you cannot just focus on cold calls all day you have to try to get as many warm ones as possible how simply focusing as much of your energy as you possibly can on people that are interested in getting closer to hasem don't waste your time dealing with Christian missionaries don't waste your time dealing with people that are anti Torah don't waste your times with people that are atheists don't waste your time with people that are openly homosexual and are enemies of hem don't waste your time with people that are vulgar and disgusting and simply do want to do not want to change don't waste your time with people that have an ego bigger than this room don't waste your time with them why because there are too many people that are more humble that are at a position of their life where they realize they need to change there are too many people that are interested in the more significant and more purposeful life too many people like that go to them why cuz they're much easier to get them on board just this guy already wants to get on board all you got tell him he like make a right make a left show up at the lecture every uh you know every Sunday Tuesday and Wednesday at 9:00 you're there you'll get he already wants to go the other guy tell him listen you want to come to a lecture no no I don't believe in God what what do you mean you don't believe in God where did you came from I came from a monkey okay maybe you did come from a monkey you look like one so can it could be it could be you came from a monkey I see you you may be right the way you look you may be right you may be right once come to lecture anyway no no no I hate God wait you just said you don't believe in him you said don't believe in him now you hate him too no listen I I I don't want I want to bring my boyfriend what your boyfriend is also monkey or he's your father which what's going on people like that don't waste your time why for what for what go deal with normal people that want to change that want to get close to don't deal with the crazy people with people that are missionaries start uh preaching Yos to you listen you know come here no no I want to tell you about Jesus you know tell me about Jesus yeah how about this I'll tell you about Jesus he's right now in a pool a pool that's really really warm don't deal with that why too many people want to know AEM Hashem go deal with them that's the warm lead that's the warm lead that's the best lead I'm telling you from experience in the beginning I thought that I convince anybody to believe in hem and with enough time you technically can with enough time you can but after you start dealing with a lot of people you realize that it's not worth it to deal with everybody it's simply not worth it why cuz let's say for example you got this tough cookie and this guy is a missionary SL homosexual SL monkey SL his brother too he's all of the above this guy is a piece of work and you debate him for four months straight just to make sure that he realizes that a is stamped inside his DNA and by the end of the 4 months this guy says you know what you saved my life I love you you're the best great right you feel proud of yourself your wife is proud of you your husband's proud of you your kids everybody's proud of you but in reality you just wasted four months during that four months you could have saved 5 10 15 20 people a week investing the same amount of energy it's not fair it's not fair to those 20 people it's not fair why he's why he's better than them no he's not better than them he's not better than them and that's the reality so after I realized that yes I saved a few tough cookies one woman came to me missionary came to me missionary she tried to convert me to Christianity today she's in the process of converting to to Judaism she's more religious to me this woman is unbelievable she was missionary but today but you know how tough of a cooking she was if I had to do it again I wouldn't do it I wouldn't do it I wouldn't I can't can't do it why during that time you could save a lot people in that during that time it was early early on and so on and but the point being AB is a lot of times people want to go daa daa to the tough cookie it's not fair it's not fair for you to invest all your time and resources on the tough cookies go to the easy fish go to the easy customers there's a lot of them there's a lot of people that want to get closer to Hashem now to help you we're constantly trying to give more new each and every week there's more and more material we try not to go over the same material more than once uh jokes we repeat a thousand times cuz we don't have many but we have a little bit more and uh there's a lot of material a lot of material and uh every week there's more material right now we're uh you know we have thousands thousands of videos online short ones long ones movies with music without music all types of things lots of tools for you to use to learn and also to do kiru but also sometimes you need some things on the field need something to help your community some flyers some CDs some USB some different things and we constantly try to put some money to work to uh to help people do K now CDs have been the number one tool because that's number one most cost effective way to get the lectures across the people and uh but also even though people keep telling me for already four five six years already tell me listen the car doesn't have a CD I already knew that six years ago I knew that 10 years ago your car doesn't have a CD I'm still going to print more CDs in 10 years from now why it's not about the CD it's not about the CD it's about the fact that if I give you a flyer you're going to Value it as a flyer and it has a certain amount of value in your mind 5 cents 10 cents 15 cent 20 cents that's what it is but if this flyer is hard because there's a CD in it even if you don't have a CD player you you're more likely to keep this and even if you don't have a CD play you're more likely to take this and put it in your pocket and then go home and type in Hashem took back his millions on YouTube and then you're going to find out that same exact name has a little over a million and a half views next to it and that's going to make you interested to watch it too not on the CD on a computer but if it was on a flyer less likely so CDs are the best flyer there is whether you have a CD or you don't have a CD doesn't make a difference it's a fantastic way it's just that it's more expensive than an actual paper flyer but the point being is is that for those people that have a uh Community have a few together order some CDs give them to your communities help people have at least a way out of their own troubles a way out of their own mistaken life by having a little bit of a of in their life and these CDs have helped countless people just in the last year we gave out over 300,000 CDs honestly in the last since L since l b just a few months gave out almost a quarter million CDs so most of the CDs we gave out the last few months a lot of CDs and many people are doing chv watching the movie some of them are doing exactly what I just said they take the CD they type in the name the CD stays on the counter but they watch the movie they watch everything else other people still have cd players they're not as advanced as you guys point being is everybody has a way to use these things now on top of that we have our a posters the plastic uh PVC they call it in the uh in the uh Factory world uh the posters one side has ashkanazi one side has a safari um we pretended like we're going actually sell you know these things and pay for a lot of things but in reality 99.9% of them are given for free uh and distributed we distributed about 40,000 of them just this past year and uh all over the world in Australia and uh in the United States in Israel and different places a lot of places you go to you see our poster in a restaurant in houses and different places there's a fantastic way things you should have in your own house but nonetheless a uh good thing to distribute in your community now we have a little bit more propaganda for you uh to help you guys out do kiru and also to get our Torah across we need more merits we have we need more merits so again remind everybody remind everybody you're on the go you need Torah you have the if you don't have internet sometimes you don't have internet you're on a plane you're in different places the US USBS are the best thing in the world simply because you have over 400 hours of Torah on this USB and simply by the time you finish your mini Rabbi that's really what it is there's a lot of Torah on this USB it's not very expensive I'm sure that you have a lot of things in your house that are much more expensive including your phone so say again this USB you can get it for yourself get it for your friends get a few dollars together and get yourself a few USBs this the series it took us 2 and a half years to make this series and quite a few people have done got got closer to as a result of this series we have the same exact thing with t and movies on there and so on so again this is the USB uh we have the card that I told you guys that one of my favorite Chua stories that uh over the years has been from this card one guy or one woman I'm not really sure who it was cuz a few people bought some of these cards and decided to give them out they put it under doors in different uh places one place was in New York New York City New York City is like you know like a Sodom and Gomorrah but with business uh so you I used to live there I know so anyway one person put this little 10 cent card under a door under 10 cents you know what he has right now for this 10 cents he has 310 gun edin 310 gun not one gun Ed 310 gun edin for 10 cents he bought why cuz one woman saw this card she said you know what it's interesting I was interested about God I'm Jewish and I'm interested about God but I don't really know anything about him because I went to public school I I did all types of mistakes in my life I'm 30 something years old I don't know anything about God so let me watch this movie she watched this movie she been keeping Shabbat for a few months already and now she wants to start a Kal business start why because she loves she fell in love with saw the movie she fell in love with so for what this person whoever did it 10 cents he got 310 GED we have one G who has an assurance here to go to G he has assurance guys 310 for one card for 10 cents so this is a few people are smart enough to give these out then we have to the app the app is a fantastic way to watch the sh because you don't have all the distractions from YouTube and other places but on top of that you have the blessing on one side which is I think I mentioned to you guys the prayer before you go to a doctor before you uh take any medicine you should say this prayer to to remind yourself and in essence tell hasem you are the free doctor this piece of chalk you're the only one that's going to make it work this guy that has some funny Tools in his hand and calls himself a doctor your only way he's going to be a real doctor that's going to heal me is you you say this before you go you have a lot more success this is one fly you get again on our website another thing we had is muza prayer mza anybody that's buying muza gets these website gets these automatically now so we just got them uh but also if you have a muuza prayer you want to give them out good but you you're going to say yeah but how many times you going to do the muuza pray you buy muza finished you're not going to do it again okay we thought about that too the other side other side as the blessing of lightning and thunder lightning and thunder you do every year every year is lightning and thunder you have that on the other side you have to remind yourself sometimes what the blessing is trust me I sometimes forget so so don't don't feel bad lightning and thir on one side and the M on the other side but in case you don't like the horizontal we got you the vertical also just in case but just because in case you're you're bothered by the brown we got you the white just again it give you selection get you guys not to be bored anyway if you want this is the T Series but you say yeah but how many times can I look at T exactly you're right you shouldn't look at T you should buy it already and for you and for your friends but after you do what do you do with this flight throw Shalom you have the 13 principles of faith on the other side 13 now you understand why I made $50 million on the stock market okay so you see you have 13 principles of faith on the other side some genius some genius Nam I'm not going to tell you guys who it is I'm not going to tell you who did it I'm not going to tell you who it all 13 principles of Fai this one amazing I loved it so now Series in case you didn't listen to about the USB you have this again to give it out and in case people say who's Theon Ruben he's a Salesman he's a stock broker what does he do this is what we do we do K and in the last year we did a whole lot of K we did more kir than anybody else that I know at least published one company came out today or yesterday today said listen we have a fundraiser we want to raise a million or a million and a half dollars in 24 hours and guess what they got it they got a million dollar what did they get a million dollars for what did they get a million dollars for over the last I don't know I think it it's uh they reported year and over the last four years they took something in the neighborhood in the last year I think they took 20 and something kids from public school from public school to Yesa it's fantastic now for a million dollars a lot of money for 200 kids I mean you could technically build a few yot with that kind of money but anyway whatever 200 kids in the last four years they got I don't know 900 kids went from public school to Yesa now this is costing them apparently they're raising a million million and a half dollars a year at least just for this particular project of so million half do for 900 kids times four so that's $6 million for $900 kids you give me $6 million I'm going to give you we going to add a few zeros to that number but that's a different story now a million k a million dollars in 20 24 hours 24 hours they got enjoy the money go buy some houses too maybe you have to spare money but what did we do what did we do we got 60 million minutes of shim being watched online the last 12 months 60 million minutes this is more than anybody statistically relatively speaking out there simply and this is an enormous amount of toah and it's not million it's not even close to that why because everything we do is free and it cost a lot of money but it's free for you now we've given out hundreds of thousands of CDs we've helped over 10,000 people eat simply eat right now we just sent like I said we sent close to $100,000 in the last week to help a few thousand people eat during this we're going to continue doing good things and the reality is the more you help us the more good things we can do now for anybody there's still plenty plenty of people who don't even know we exist this flyer is one of those things you put a few of them you put 10 20 30 of them in your bitet somebody sees it oh wow this looks good let me go on YouTube and find these names next thing you know they're a subscriber they're a donor they're a supporter who's it go to to your credit yeah but I didn't even tell them about it I just put the flyer there exactly exactly you just put the fly it that's enough that's enough so all of these things you can get on the uh website if it's not on there now it'll be there tomorrow but the point being is that sometimes people need something digital sometimes they need something more tangible that's a uh you know hard copy we have to do whatever we can to get people closer to whatever we can every person should do whatever they can to set apart from everything else in the world because if you are marketing a business you starting a business you're starting the next Google you're starting the next apple you're starting the next little ranky dink operation that you think is going to be the next big thing what are you going to do you're going to invest everything in it every bit of time every bit of energy every bit of thought you're going to think about it at night you're going to dream about it you're going to draw you're going to do everything even during your lunch you're going to think how your cookies look like this business you want everything's going to look like this business to you why because it's important to you Hashem is more important to your business now your business you're can invest everything you have not say to invest everything you have everything else you don't everything you don't invest in your business invest Inu why because this is going to yield you a reward you can take forever now we have a few more days before the big day Judgment day was a few days ago that's R now none of us know none of us know how we were judged none of us know could be good could be bad but that knows his creation knows that sometimes we show up to with slippers on you know we show up to like we're going to the beach like we're not really sure what we're doing here we're too busy saying giving people high fives we forget about AEM so know sometimes we forgot to pray on or sometimes we didn't pray enough on and uh he says okay we have yip y Kip is a big day that's the appeal that's your second chance to change whatever decision was already made on on decided to give you $50,000 but you need $100,000 to survive so how you going to get $100,000 how you going to get the other you have double double what he already decided for you y is the day Y is the day decided that a certain person is going to die says okay this person going to die three four five six days or months after Yip now that could still be changed when onip everything can be changed on everything a person could show up to with cancer decide cancer is gone and many times we've seen this with our own eyes of how Miracles have happened to people especially especially those that took the message from seriously now the Tor the T gives us clear instructions of what happens on young people in Leviticus chapter 16 tells us about the Eternal decree of having y this shall remain for you an eternal decree in the seventh month on the 10th of the month you shall afflict yourselves and you shall not do any work neither the native nor the convert who dwells among you for on this day he shall provide atonement for you to purify you from all of your sins before hasem shall you be p uh before Hashem shall you be purified so this holiday says there is no better day for the no better day now we're thinking oh this tragic we can't eat the whole day we can't go on the internet watch YouTube we can't uh this we can't that no no you're mistaken there's no better day then because if a person simply knew what kind of decrees were supposed to happen and then ended up being changed the decree ended up softening the decree ended up disappearing changed where he said he said okay this country will now become Nazi Germany again but then he saw how we did Chu he saw how we cared about he saw how we cared about helping do and he said you know what let's put that Nazi Germany thing on on off for a little while if a person knew what kind of decrees were pending were actually already sealed but were reversed as a result of the actions we took before and during Yip he would realize why the says that there's no better day for now but what does mean for on this day he shall provide Aton atonement for you to purify you for all your sins before hasem shall you be purified so needless to say who knows his creation and knows that we're not showing up to yip like angels we may look like angels you wearing white you have nice smell on you you just took a shower right before you came to sh everything's good right but what's inside what inside says oh sin sin sin sin sin says you showed up to the you showed up to the mikdash small mikash full of sins all the sins you made the whole year even after you said I'm sorry you still had a week left you make more sense during that week knows he knows we have full of sins say but this day is a day you become pure how do you become pure how do you become pure the says someone that says since I could do cha later on I don't need to do it now I'll make a sin I'll do CH later I'll go out with this girl and then after I have a good time I'll say I'm sorry to come on just after have a good time this this sandwich has all types of like bugs and like Gremlins in it and stuff it looks delicious especially with cheese on it so I'm going to have a few bites you know get full but I'm not going to the whole thing I'm G do Chua after halfway in it I'm GNA do chuva I'm gonna stop say I'm sorry it was good I'm not GNA eat the whole thing I'm show I really mean business I'm only going to eat half the sandwich says a jokester like this that says I'm going to make a sin with the intent of I'm going to do like he knows this is a sin and he says I'm going to make this sin because I have this desire I have a desire to have a boyfriend even though I'm a guy I have a desire to have a boyfriend even though I'm not married I have a desire to have a boyfriend even if I am married all types of desires that are forbidden by the Tor I'm do but I'm do later says someone like this says I'm going to sin and then do chuva the punishment for that person in this world is says I'm not gonna let you do trva say wait a hold on a second we have a verse in the T it says every year it says this is the day that will purify you so even if I can't do is going to show up right the M says continues the same M says that person that's not allowed to do doesn't help them he can cry until he's blw in the face he can fast for a week straight not a day a week like the ra like the the ran like babaali used to fast from Shabbat to shabbat a week straight every week like like the would fast a week he can fast like that not just every week not going to help why you made a You made fun of the Torah you made a joke of it say I'm going to S I'm going do person fails normal but a person is making a joke out of the Tora says I'm just going to make sins and then do with no care in the world says the punishment is I'm not going to let you do CH and even is not going to help you and the r says this is the one of the worst punishments that a person can do can get in this world one of the worst the worst one is Hashem removes the person's desire to do cha meaning it's not possible for him to do CH meaning that the other guy it's still possible even though it says that it's is not going to let it meaning that's going to be more difficult point being is that Yip is only intended for those people that are intending to do Chua if you do not intend on doing will not help you if you show up to and you leave you prayed for nothing it's not going to help you if you showed up to to Yum Kip eating non kosher having a non kosher business having a non-coal relationship without an intention to change without a plan to change you simply are just going to go pray and hopes that everything's going to work out yum did not help you at all in fact it makes things worse because you're making a joke over the system so first and foremost a person needs to show up toip understanding that this special day that purifies us is only if we want to be purified we have an interest in being purified not if we think that hasm is going to do the job for us by you know without us contributing second someone asked to B question not just today but a few hundred years ago his name was says the rambam writes about 900 years ago that to do Chua is really a four-step process One Stop sinning stop obvious if you still have a boyfriend you haven't started doing Chua you still have a girlfriend you still haven't done Chua you haven't started you're still watching filthy movies you haven't begun doing cha you still violate chabbat on purpose CH hasn't begun yet First Step stop sitting stop sitting Second Step make a fence meaning evaluate your actions your failures and understand what are the triggers that cause you to fall for the Trap of the Satan you know that every time you go to certain places on the Internet or in person you fail with you know that every time you go to certain places or hang out with certain people you act promiscuous you know that every time you go to certain areas or hang out with certain people you end up eating non koser food or speak non kosher language such as or cursing all the type of vile language you know yourself when you're at your worst and when you're at your best make off fense means learn enough about the topic to know what's allowed what's not allowed but also evaluate yourself and put a fence around yourself in a sense where from now on I have rules I'm not like an animal I have rules from now on I'm not allowing myself to go to such and such places why cuz every time I go to such and such places I make sense from now on I'm not allowing myself to talk to such and such people why CU every time I talk to them I say I lie I curse I do this I do that now on yeah what about if they call you well you could just press uh you know that that red button on your phone red button I press it all the time people just press the red button all the time red button you just go automatic to a voicemail that's it oh what if they get offended let them get offended it's better they get offended gets offended make offense for yourself you can't go to certain places you can't do certain things because that's the fence that is going to keep you pure that's step number two so we stop sinning we put a fence around ourselves to not turn back to the criminal world if you're an alcoholic that means you cannot go to bars or even a bar mitzvah that has alcohol in it if you are a drug addict that means you cannot even walk around in a neighborhood where you know that there's certain people that do it you know if you are a immoral person where you've done all types of uh sex crimes that means that you cannot hang out with certain people or even be next to certain people or speak certain things because that's what leads you to do and everybody knows thems and so on and so forth so we stopped sinning we made offense and the rambam writes step number three regret your sins regret your sins your sins are terrible what you did say I'm sorry say I'm sorry it's very simple step number four when a kadosh test you again with that same girl at that same place you better pass that test why because that's when is going to stamp he is a b and at that day those sins that you've made turn into from purposeful sins to Accidental sins meaning the Judgment goes from Level a million to a few hundred punishment was eternal to now maybe a few weeks and it could eventually turn into even me depending if you continue growing in your CH so what's the question then says I don't understand why is the regret step number three shouldn't it be step number one isn't that the reason why I'm changing in the first place cuz I regret my sins answers the questions for us says the reason why you do chv has nothing to do with regretting your sins in fact when you first start doing chuva when you start when you first start repenting when you first start changing your life it is not because you regret your past crimes but rather because you simply decide that you want a better life than what you have now yeah you had fun going to the clubs and going to the beach and eating whatever you want you had a good time but you know that settling down with a nice sadika settling down with a nice sadik is a better life you know have kids instead of boyfriends have have a house instead of you know Vacation Resorts have a normal job instead of you know it's better life in the beginning when you first put your K on you're not regretting the time that you hung out at the club and you were doing all types of horrible things no you don't even think it's horrible why CU When your friends come over hey girlfriend hey how are you you remember when we went with that club it was there and that guy was there yeah we're dancing all night you you don't regret it at all you don't regret it at all what you had a good time you went to the beach you went to Cancun you ate all types of animals you never saw before you don't regret the fact that you took a bite it was delicious you actually say how could we make a kosher version of this how can we make a kosher Lobster how can we make a kosher Pig how can we make a kosher elephant how do we make kosher everything you like it you're saying now I want a better version that's it so how do I get to regret Salan says when you first start doing chuva you don't regret the girl that you were immoral with when you first start doing chuva you don't regret the boy that you were immoral with when you first start doing chuva you don't regret every single crime that you've made why because quite frankly you don't even know why they're crimes you just know that there's a better way to live when are you going to know that you are criminal when you leave the garbage that you're in for long enough time to realize that the foul smell was coming from you when you live in the garbage like a rat you don't realize you're living in garbage why cuz it's your house you don't call your house garbage you live there The Mouse and the rod don't wake up in the morning it's like I can't stand this dump he doesn't say that he says look at my house this beautiful house I got a box with roaches over there I got a box with tomatoes over there that I run almost perfect I got he doesn't think it's a dump he think that's my house when your life is full of sins and filth you don't think bad of it why that's your filth it's your stuff so when you first start doing chat you don't think of it as filthy gross ugly disgusting despicable no oh you're thinking it's my life what's the problem I'm just going in the better Direction but then when you spend enough time coming to the sh instead of going to the club you spend enough time reading the book instead of watching television you spent enough time talking to instead of talking guess what happens you're leaving that filthy dump because now you're putting yourself offend where say you know what I'm not going back to that place cuz I want a better way not because I don't like Cancun and I don't like pork and I don't like all the garbage it's just that there's a better way but after a while you know putting that fence and learning about Hashem little by little time passes and you haven't been in that dump for a while and you figure you know what let me look back how's how let me let me see some pictures of back home and you look at back home always like AEM I used to live there what what's the matter with me look at that haircut I used to have what what was I for a contest of ugly people what I was I doing why did I wear that clothes why did I what's that look on my face why did I get that tattoo what's the matter with me who would put something on their face forever am I C and you start looking at the filth of your past and you realize what's the matter with me how come you didn't say it when you were in it cuz you were in it when you live in the garbage you don't realize it's garbage but once you walk out of the garbage for long enough time you get enough separation from the filth to allow yourself to realize yes there's still a smell but I feel like it's behind me then you realize oh that's what I left behind and that's when the regret comes in that's why the r writes the third step of Chua is regret it cannot be the first step because in the beginning you don't even know why it's not allowed you don't even know why it's not allowed to drive on Shabbat you don't even know why it's not allowed to eat whatever you want you don't even know why it's not allowed to have a new wife every week you don't even know why it's not allowed to do whatever it is that you feel like doing because it makes you feel good you don't know why but after you've separated yourself from the sin for a long enough time and on top of it you've done enough MIT to start purifying your Nish you start realizing that the foul smell from your sins is behind you and you want to make sure to keep it behind you and you start realizing that you have made the best choice in your life subconsciously you didn't even realize how good the choice was until you got away from it until you got away from that filth says at that point when you regret the sin that's when you've officially become a b Chua that hasem will test you again and if you pass it hasem signs off he or she is a b now if you simply stop the sin but you don't regret it you're not a b Chua you're just a monkey that change clothes if you went from going to nightclubs to going to a synagogue that doesn't make you B it just means your entertainment places have changed that's all it means if you have changed your hat that looks like a baseball team to a keeper it doesn't make you a b it just means that your fashion expression has changed your style has changed you feel like uh yamaka is cool today maybe next month it's gonna be H again about Chua someone that has distanced himself or herself from the sin for long enough time to realize why it's disgusting to do all of those things and becomes simply disgusted from their past to no longer want to do it you don't want to go back to that girl to that boy to that pig to that donkey you don't want to go back there well it's gross so that means that if you have been going to synagogue for 5 10 15 20 years but you still reminisce with your friends about going to some nightclub by the way you've haven't done Chua for 20 years you just changed your fashion statement for 20 years you've been reading books for 20 but you haven't done cha and guess what a huge amount of people a huge amount of people think of themselves as Bala even though they still not only talk about their past they admire their past they tell their kids about their past they say Hey listen when I was your age I we're religious now so don't do what I did kid but I had like 10 girlfriends at your age kid yeah that was the life back then but no no you have a better life you have a better life then he's surprised the kid goes off the de a week later he's surprised he tells his kid about all the sins in the world that he made and he surprised the kid doesn't want to go to Yeshiva anymore y this looks like nice on you honey yeah you know I I had a different a different a uh I had a different style than you when I was there what IMA what did you have what kind of stu oh you want to see pictures of me when I was your age oh and she shows how she looked like a practically a prostitute when she was her age nonreligious and then she's surprised that her daughter doesn't want to be religious a week later she shows a pictures of herself when she was 16 18 and sinning why she never regretted being like that that means she hasn't done chuva he hasn't done Chua third step of CHA is regretting the sin regretting the sin once a person regrets the sin that's when tests him and that's when can sign off on whether you've become a real B CH or not now if a person makes a crime against theem that was very pleasurable everyone could understand what kind of crime that could be an immorality crime whether with a person or by themselves how can you get to a point of regretting that crime I mean after all was pleasant you had a good time how can you regret such a crime watch my shoe about Gom watch my sh about t wasting seed watch them over and over again understand the magnitude of the sin understand how much hem detests that particular sin and that particular subject Al together and how holy a relationship is supposed to be one of the shim that we have on the USB and on the playlist of T is a sheer called kosher intimacy look at what you did versus what it's supposed to be and you see how you acted outright like a beast that you can find a zoo and the way you're supposed to be is like an angel both of fun it's just that one type of fun goes to G know permanently the other type of fun is and goes to GED permanently to just depends both are fun just that one of them ends up in gay now when a person understands how much Hashem has given us the ability to enjoy ourselves but simply in a Kosher Way and yet we chose the non- Kosher Way the animalistic way and you learn more and more about it you start realizing what a mistake you've made and you start realizing wait a minute I made this mistake with no other than aem's daughter now it's better enough that you made this mistake of wasting seed it's bad enough that you made this mistake of being immoral it's bad enough now when you start realizing wait a minute I'm such a fool what an idiot not only did I make this sin crime against the king I did it with his daughter I did it with I mean when you start analyzing what what did you do one two five how many daughters you took A's daughters and it's not only you made the sin with them not only you made the immoral crime with them but on top of this you offended them on top of this you broke their heart on top of this you yelled at them you insulted them you destroyed their confidence you destroyed their their psyche for the rest of their lives they're always going to remember you are the guy that broke my heart you are the guy that I lost my confidence with with you are the guy that I thought I was going to marry that ended up leaving me a week later and who's that girl that's aad that's the King's Daughter you did it you start realizing not only I went against the king not only did he watch me do it on top of it I did it with his daughter the deeper you analyze it easier it is to regret so much so that at some point you start crying why you realize what kind of trouble you're in at that moment that's when you become B chuba that's when you become B chuba but if you're still admiring your past you're still showing your daughter the half a dress that you used to wear as a full dress you're still admiring the pictures of yourself with practically underwear you're still admiring yourself in the past criminal life you haven't even begun you haven't begun this is why it's very important to use your imagination when you're talking about Sins Not Your Imagination of how the sin looks like but rather what's the outcome of the sin after a who catches you red-handed not the five seconds or five minutes of pleasure not that your imagination the little while later when sends those to start investigating different parts of your organs with no limitations of a physical body but a magnification of pain times 60 with all types of wonderful tools that you've never even imagined exist and no limit how much pain a person could endure because at this point it's pure a that has no limitations like a body does cuz a body if it experiences a certain amount of pain it could literally die from Pain and Thea doesn't a person understands that he doesn't want to say it anymore it's that worth it why am I crazy am I CRA am I crazy person this is what you need to do not should do you need need to do in order to arrive at a point where you at least have the test under control doesn't mean you going to become sadik never sin again but at least get yourself under control you're not some crazy person one day you're in a synagogue learning and five hours later you're making a crime against hem and he's watching you so many so many different people young people old people tell me listen I don't understand I go to Yesa I go to a seminar I do this I do that but I still make crimes against theem that a secular person makes the same crimes how you haven't used your imagination the right way you only used your imagination to picture yourself making the crime but not yet picture yourself receiving the punishment for the crime you need to use your imagination for that too why that's going to help you stop it's going to help you stop we should try to do this as soon as possible but even more so now before Yip why because whatever decree we had on surely getting ourselves to do a little bit more CH will help will help in the next few days get a better decree in the following year and one of the ways that you can get extra strength as we learned from the and many other one of the ways that you can get extra extra Holiness is by being a preserve preserving yourself until you're married and even when you are married only to do it in a Kosher Way and one of the ways to get the strength to be a is by helping other people do cha help other people do Chua help other people get closer to Hashem specifically with this issue now many great rabbis throughout the recent years have focused on teaching people about Shabbat you have to keep Shabbat it's the foundation of Judaism and so on we've gotten quite a few people to keep Shabbat and we continue to get more and more people to keep Shabbat but if you've noticed I spend at least as much if not more time teaching people about t as we do about Shabbat and the reason why is this from my experience from my experience both on both sides of the fence I know that there are many people many people that observe Shabbat but are still going to go to Gom forever they keep Shabbat their whole life but they're still going to go to Gom forever if they don't do Chua why because they waste Eed every day or they're promiscuous and so on and so forth boys girls so on no there's no uh there's no no difference anymore it's not like in the old days like yeah the you know no difference anymore girls boys sh ismo they keep Shabbat but not K so G is waiting for them if they unless they do to meet many of these people and help them do now what I find out through experience I found out that someone that keeps Shabbat doesn't necessarily mean that he keeps everything else but someone that overcomes overcomes the Obstacle of Kusa and starts protecting his bre she starts protecting her Kusa she starts dressing more modestly she starts protecting ourself and preserve herself until marriage and even after marriage still treats herself in a modest holy way he treats himself in a modest holy way guess what the entire Torah becomes easy to keep he wants to keep Shabbat he wants to learn Tah he wants to do everything why the bit is the foundation but it's not just the because Shabbat is also foundation so why the bit makes everything easy but Shabbat not necessarily because typically a human being does not have a desire to violate Shabbat you don't have a physical desire to violate Shabbat you may want to do certain things on Shabbat but it's not a physical desire only to do it on Shabbat you would do that same thing any other day but wasting seed that's a desire that you have to overcome you have to overcome because if you don't simply everything there is no way there there you won't have any willpower to do anything else but if you overcome it if you can overcome this specific issue that means that you have enough willpower to overcome anything anything and this is why many times people that become they become they find a much faster their improves they simply have a smoother path for the future they want than the people that don't many times people say yeah listen I've been protecting my breed but certain things haven't happened first and foremost we don't know hashem's timing hm's timing for every person is different second of all sometimes a person thinks that they're protecting their breed but in reality they're still violating certain things they're still violating certain things CU they're not paying attention they're not paying careful attention to certain things and the reality is they're not doing what Hashem wants them to do doing part of it so you have to be very very careful there are certain things you have to Simply do what you're supposed to but certain things you have to go over and above when it comes to Kusha when it comes to protecting bed modesty and Holiness you have to do above and beyond above and beyond and it's very important that a person does that because if he or she does it she'll be able to have a much easier time following the entire Torah but as long as you're walking around immodest as long as you're speaking immodest as long as you're acting immodest as long as you're watching immodest things that out there it's going to be very very hard to become what you can become which means that you'll have a lot more obstacles in the path and it's going to be a lot more difficult for you to get to the destination that you want so this is one of those things where you got to go all out and you'll see if you go all out and you try your best you'll have a much easier time changing your speech you have a much easier time doing a lot of things a lot of things so this is the why we spend a lot more time teaching about and other things but also there's even more of a need for this because there's less people teaching it uh also so with that being said who wants to start with a question tonight yes why does the year start on the first day of huh so says that there are four New Years there are four New Years is officially the day that the was created and where time began to be counted that's now why is it the seventh month because there's another new year that is PES why is PES the new year because that's when took us out of Egypt we became a people uh we have a uh for New Years that are not just for mankind but also for the trees for the animals and so on and so forth and uh so although the world in essence time for the world began at ad um the uh there's a different way that the Torah counts as the official day which is in Nissan Nissan is the time that the Torah counts as the first month of the year even though the creation was in Tish in next question yes last tues mentioned saying that was equivalent to MOS so how are we supposed to understand this in line of R 13 of Faith states that M was the greatest Propet very good question the says that sh was equal weight to both Moshe and Aon together but yet the rambam writes in the 13 principles of faith that mosenu was the prophet of all prophets and no one could ever be like him including the Messiah himself including the mashiah himself so how could it be so we don't when when when thear says that sh was like Moshe andon it doesn't say that he was the same as Moshe in Prophecy that he spoke to hasem in a face to face like mosenu no meaning that Moshe reached his full potential if let's say his Full Potential from one to 100 he reached 100 and let's say aon's potential he reached let's say 100 okay they both reached their full potential and the average guy maybe reaches 30 40 50 but they reached 100 shuel shuel reached his full potential and some why because in his generation there wasn't an Aon equivalent there wasn't equivalent so in essence sh filled both roles of mhe and not that he was the same level of prophet as Moshe not that he was aen like Aon because when the mashia comes who's going to be the kenon so the uh the key is to know that in the generation of in essence fulfilled both roles he was that great he was that great and by the way as a side note shuel was the great great great great grandson of korak of korak uh and that's actually why korak thought that he would win the battle with Moshe because he saw in withes that he misunderstood he saw that comes from him says somebody like this going to come for me surely I'm going to win the battle with mosu surely I'm I'm I'm I'm right he didn't realize that his own Sons were going to choose mosenu side in the last minute because at that time when he was seeing this he's you know his son's W on his on his side so he didn't think that this was even possible that his sons would go against him anyway so uh in every generation there are different people that have a ability that's beyond the norm it's beyond the the norm and one of those abilities is to be the mashia every generation has a mhia possibility Every Generation Now surely everybody thinks that their Rabbi is mashiah just this past week we met at least four mashia most of them will G which is even more more more insane uh but the point is every day there's new mashia many of them are almost all of them I would say if not all of them are uh you know I don't know how to say this in a politically correct world they're mental cases the mental cases uh every one of them some are Jewish some are even Israeli uh but many of them are guim some of them are even female uh and all types of things there's one uh one idiot I mean I'm sorry mental case uh uh that is a uh he's not Jewish which is a requirement for the mashiah uh just in case you guys are wondering uh he's not only's not Jewish but uh he doesn't even speak Hebrew he doesn't know anything all he knows is what he watched on YouTube and he decided that he's mashia he lives in like India somewhere uh and he decided he's mashia and he just keeps making videos every video and he just says I am the one I am the ient one I am the Forgotten one and he keeps saying this and he says it enough times that people are watching this guy I guess he's not as much of a mental Cas is the ones watching him uh but anyway he wanted to he says I have a prophecy he says a prophecy he see in the book and he says the verses he doesn't really know he reads it in English he says oh yeah the the the the ancient one is going to write a donkey and then he shows a video of him in is riding a white donkey he says see see I fulfilled a prophecy I wrote a donkey I wrote a white donkey see I'm I'm the ancient one I'm the forgot why doesn't the sanedrin come call me you guys need to call me sanedrin like he's so oblivious he doesn't realize San doesn't exist but anyway this is one mhia then there's another one that is a woman but she says she's The Reincarnation of Jesus but she's the r and she's the ancient one but she doesn't call herself the ancient one she called herself the she she's the she wears jeans and uh there's all types of mental cases there's one mental case that uh that talks to people like this for years already mhia is coming he doesn't care for in Hebrew I care he talks like this that's how he talks and he closes his eyes he talks like this like as if he's seeing something one of the one of the one of the things of of of you know when you say prophecy Andes it doesn't come whenever you feel like it doesn't come one of you feel like you can't just say oh yeah I'm talking to God now and uh he's telling me this anyone says that is a m it's a doesn't work that way prophecy if you notice it from the verses notice from the verses the prophet shows up he starts talking about something all of a sudden here hem is saying what happened you were just saying something else what where did hasem come from you were just talking to a about something and all of a sudden say here hashem's message where did this come from the prophecy shows up just like that just like that one time comes to comes to rebukes him they want to kill him now so runs away because he wants to kill him he was the Goya wife of so figure where's AEM [Applause] AEM oh nothing he's running in the desert nothing no hasem is not talking to him not at him he passes out from starvation pass out an angel comes to him give him special food to give him energy to take a very long journey a supernatural journey in the desert to go to mount saai gives him the food he has the food he goes over there in in the mountain AEM to to to give him like a shows them allp of Supernatural things at Mount sa but how long does it take almost two months almost two months from the time that he asked to talk to him until hm finally talked to him some say that hasem did not talk to mosu for 40 years 40 years he didn't talk to him so anyone that goes like this to you oh yeah hasm is telling me this the time of the real Sedin death penalty death penalty that's what would happen today there was no death penalty but anyone that pretends like they're talking to whenever they feel like it that's automatic number one they're ignorant and automatic n so some guy does this another guy likes to look like a rock star he wears all types of like weird clothes another guy likes to go to different Kish Gatherings he goes to kidish Gatherings and you know you know they're you know they're nice people and they have their their their traditions and so on and this guy likes to show up and he always has a cameraman somehow always has a c and he starts tell yeah you know one day I just said to myself what does hasem want you know what does and then you know I said you know what maybe I should start keeping MIT yeah I'll do CH and the next thing I knew God was talking to me and then he told me you are the chosen one you are the Messiah and he started telling about how he was a Shabbat 5 10 15 years ago and all of a sudden he's mashia and there's countless of these crazy people countless every week every week I get emails from them every week so if one day you wake up you think you're mashia smash your head against the wall a few times come back to I'll teach you about it I'll teach you you're not you're not M why nonsense but this is every day there's a lot of crazy people lots of them tons of them tons and tons of crazy people so you have to understand there is going to be a mashia the mhia is not going to be something that we could even imagine how he looks how he acts how he is is it's not going to be like anything that we could comprehend until we see it even the things that will happen at the time of mashia even the things we cannot even fathom them until they happen the rambam says there's no point of you talking so much about what's going to happen after mashia comes because we're not going to know for sure until it happens because there's a lot of things that we simply can't get our head around can't get our I'll give you guys an example I'll give you an example now all of you know what darkness is right go outside it's dark right now all some of you perhaps also know what pitch dark is pitch dark right pitch dark is it's not like now is absolute Darkness can't see nothing right but none of you know what the plague of darkness is why you haven't been alive for 3,000 years see the plague of Darkness wasn't like it was just dark and I couldn't see where I was going the plague of Darkness was hell on Earth hell on Earth because the darkness wasn't just something that you that existed the darkness was something that actually it it was something solid you can feel it you can feel the darkness to such an extent that whatever position that egyp ion was at the beginning of the plague that's how he stayed until the end of the plague so if he went like this that's how he stayed in that position for three days now that's not enough you guys ever watched like you know before you guys all became uh scary movies right scary movies or perhaps maybe you're living a scary life because I know some people that live scary life they hear stuff Hear Voices okay now sometimes you hear something you're like oh what's that and it's like your wife or something oh I didn't know but sometimes you don't know what it is like something happened you have no idea what happened right okay but it's like a one thing scary something right well how about this how about that 24 hours nonstop the scariest possible things you could ever imagine and they're in your face that for a few days time of mashia 15 days 15 days that's what says that's not something we can comprehend and we don't want to we don't want to comprehend I don't want to go through that I want to be a sadik so I don't have to go through that but that's the reality so there's certain things that are going to happen at the time of mashia that simply is impossible for us to comprehend to get our head around but tell us little bits and taste of it in order to motivate us to do CH so we don't have to get ourselves in trouble so with that being said you have enough information I think today to to give you guys a some extra I don't even know if I answered your question but I got off topic and uh that was the answer so far did I answer your question I answered the question okay how yes so Russ this year when the first day repentance started well you able to do you able to do since the beginning of is a custom it's not an obligation but rather a custom as a form of prayer to connect to a say I'm sorry cuz when you sing when you sing it's a deeper part of your uh it's easy to become emotional and in essence that's the the the biggest purpose of of is to sing to Hashem the prayers and the apology to get closer to Hashem in preparation in preparation for the big days so this you can really do all year round but the custom is to do it specifically during the month of alul for those 40 days from the beginning of alul until the Yip that's that that 40-day period so technically you can do it any time you want now surely the custom is that you do it early in the morning that's more but what about can you do it a night yes you can but that's not the custom everywhere the custom that's most common is that you could do it in the morning but the custom that is for some some some places to do it at night also the custom is for some to start in some people only start it on they don't wait they don't do it for the whole month of they just started some people don't do it at all now do you have to do it no should you do it yes now what about if you are a you learn and uh in your community in in New York in different places they do at let's say 5:00 in the morning 5:30 in the morning and uh it's hard for you to wake up that early and still have your head on straight the whole day learning tah because you know you learn during the day you have a few hours with your family then you learn at night and you know you try to get some sleep so you have the the energy to to learn the next day people think that lifting buildings is difficult learning to is much more difficult exercising your brain for a full day is much more difficult than lifting buildings doesn't look like it but trust me it is anyway what about if you're that guy now you're waking up early in the morning now you're praying you're doing it's nice you hear the but by the time you get to your at the ISA by 11:00 you're already sleeping on your on your on your book you wake up at 12 and you go back to sleep at 12:30 the whole day you're off because you got one two hours less of sleep so what do you do says don't do do it once a week or go to one that's late at later later on in the day why is no not more important than you learning to learning to is more important than anything else in the world learning to is more important than anything else in the world that's why the says the uh the uh theah of learning is as if you're fulfilling the entire tah so you cannot lose out on learning tah that's fulfilling the entire Torah obligations in order to replace it with a custom this is not to Shalom uh lower the value of the custom but we but we need to understand what's where's who and where's what if you could do and still learn T but if the and waking up extra early and uh is going to ruin your learning of Torah no now most people don't learn to fulltime most people go to work they you know they're teachers they're doctors they're lawyers they're all you know technicians they're all types of different things so for those people that are not learning T all day you should go to should go to but for people that are more serious Learners you should you should learn tah learn tah this is also one of the things that also said in regards to learning people would come to to ask him about different what should I do I wasted seed what should I do I did this what should I do I did that what should I do he constantly tell him learn T like okay what about this learn t for that too what about this learn everything is a just learn T this learn more t going fix everything that's that's the biggest T of all biggest T of everything that's the ideal T now surely you want to expedite certain things you learn T and you also spend some money if you have it on doing tiim and so on but don't think that you could spend the money and not learn to like learning to is a prerequisite but sometimes people don't understand you have to be more clear so learning to is prerequisite to fix your but if you could learn Tor and on top of it also give do do things like that that's even better but either way every time people come to for for a question about doing it constantly give them the same answer as many of the sages said the same thing learn to learn to learn to next question yes um why is it said that as hat yob and not that as hates Israel ah okay so isim says this it's an it's a rule in the world it's a rule in the world that aov now the as doesn't Express his hatred of yov all the time as we even saw during the actual story itself of as and yov the actual people you know at one point isav befriended yob and he said you know give me some food I'll give you my first born rights so he trusted him enough to to eat his food then later on he wanted to kill him then later on he you know he gave him a kiss some say that it really wasn't a kiss he was actually biting his neck but then when Hashem miraculously transformed jakob's neck into stone and ASA broke his teeth point being is it was a pretty wild relationship over there uh but needless to say it wasn't complete hatred all the time it wasn't complete love all the time it was volatile relationship to say the least says why do we have so many details why there have so many details of the whole relationship between yob especially when yov comes back to see so thead says because this is to give us an illustration of what it's going to look like at the end of days when is is there to meet at you have to be prepared with certain things in order to face ad face as now with that being said question is how come it says that asav hates yov and not is hates is because Isel was also the name of yob now yob was the birth name of yob is was the name that hasem gave yob later on but kazal tell us that if you notice there are times that even after hasem named yob is there are periods of time where hasem calls him in the Tor yob again why anytime he was yov he did not have the prophecy when he was is he had the prophecy when was this specifically when he was sad because he thought that YF died so throughout the entire 20 plus years that YF was gone from his life and he didn't know if he's alive if he's dead and so on okay yob was name was constantly went back from is back to being called yob and then when he found that that YF is alive it went back to being is what is that like is is not always the best that it can be sometimes we're yov sometimes we're is when we're we well not so much a little bit here a little bit there a little bit of shuk over here a little bit of a little bit here you know we're not exactly we're a little bit of you know sometimes even no not so good what is tell us he says it doesn't make a difference it doesn't make a difference hates yob it's a rule hates it but expression of that hate expression of that hate is when you act like less than when you're KES he still hates you but he's not allowed to express that hate not all to touch you scared of you even but he still hates you don't think for a second he's your best friend hates you but he's afraid of you when you're not sadik when you're not the best that you possibly can be as a people as is given the permission to express his hate we pray to that we may never see those days but I'm afraid those prayers are more wishful thinking more wishful thinking than uh than uh we'd like them to be because Jakob is very much alive and well anyone that uh is paying attention to the world you see that anti-Semitism is is increasing rapidly uh uh I myself am experiencing more anti-Semitism now than any other time in in past but in you know in the past it was ignorant remarks and things of that nature but now it's just a uh people feel free free and and and and proud of their anti-em anti-Semitism uh just I tell you in just the last few days last few days the uh you know I mean people send comments I have one particular guy he sends me between 10 and 40 emails a day no exaggeration Sunny will vouch for it he sees the emails but we just delete them now we just I don't know how to stop this idiot he is now we tried stopping him but he has like a hundred different email addresses so it's it's a psychopath I don't even know how he has that much time he sends me literally between 10 and 40 emails a day oh maybe if he's watching the show maybe 50 tomorrow but every one of them is full of curses and they hate hate hate hate hate hate hate I don't even know who the guy is just a sick person so then there's that type of anti-Semitism then there's the people also that like to say all type of an anti-semitic remarks on our YouTube channel and Facebook and so that's the norm that stuff is you know it's like dogs barking you don't pay attention to it what surprised me in the last uh couple days is that uh we you know we started building our Suka and uh you know a new house that that we're in in the backyard over there and uh all of a sudden I get like five emails like like uh from the association with pictures of my backyard like how did you get pictures of my backyard it's not like it's in the front yard blocking people's view it's not a Tower of Babel here it'sa but sending pictures of my backyard which obviously the the Nazi next door to me apparently took and uh say this must stop what's going on here we need to know phone calls emails they copied the mayor the mayor was copied an email lawyers were copied an email within a few hours the mayor's office showed up at my house now how now listen there are people killing people on the street you can barely get the police to show up but me building a Suka in my backyard the mayor's office showed up now runs the world so don't worry for a second my wife and I you know I got these emails I didn't even respond I get the email I respond like oh let me just think about and I'll respond when I have a good response to to deal with the sick people but you see M aggression like for no what's going on huh so uh we're walking around eventually the mayor's office uh pulls over next to me while was we walking and I said yeah I can I help you and he's like oh listen I Rabbi listen I'm well aware that uh this is the holiday season but apparently there's somebody that lives close to you that has a problem uh and they got us to come here I'm like I'm like you're from the mayor's office seriously like you can barely get a doctor to show up to work today you can't get cops to show up for murder but the mayor's office showed up to my house a few hours like d what is is Bill Clinton next next door to me like who is this like What's Happening Here is Hitler Hitler's next door to me hates Jews that much like how do this be he goes I don't something so he's like listen I had to show up but don't worry we're not going to do anything do whatever you want just let you know they're probably going to know you for a little while I said okay nice guy Muslim guy and uh Muslim guy yeah you get you get you get more respect from the Muslim sometimes than you get get from from uh from Jews but uh you know but the point is that really nice guy and uh we were both we're both you know fascinated this happened so quickly but we went back home whatever I eventually responded to to the Hitler Association uh you know I was contemplating send them a picture of you know my comp for something say but now I figured let's let's let's try to Ed edate them a little bit and make them feel bad about themselves and I said no listen there's nothing to be concerned about this is a temporary structure it's not a permanent structure by you know it's the temporary structure like they're worried that lawyers this that it's a temporary structure it's not going to be permanent it's uh and the funny thing is that you know by the time they get the lawyers to finally get the paperwork done the holiday is over already so it's a temporary structure it's not in anybody way it's not in anybody's this it's not any doesn't bother anybody it's just a temporary thing you should know by the way that after we prayed for ourselves on onip 2,000 years ago when we had the BET mikdash Suk was a time where will bring sacrifices to the bet mikdash for the 70 Nations this is the time where we pray for theim for the well-being of the go for you the Hitler pray for you I mean no no yeah you nice guy yeah you you pray for you uh M I'm praying for you so anyway I said oh by the way in case you want to see a source as if these people even know what a source is oh you can see actually this story about Alexander the Great you know Alexander Macedon you know he uh came and he actually liked uh he liked to hear this so much so that he became friends with Shimon sadik and he wanted to put a statue inside of our bet mikdash but Shimon sadik told them instead of putting a temporary statue let's do something more permanent we'll name every Jewish boy born this year Alex and that's how the name Alex came to Israel became it's not a Jewish name but that's instead of having a statue inside the bet mikdash but he liked it that we pray for the gim we pray for the G's wellbeing anyway any way after uh after that you know the uh the lawyer's office the mayor's office everyone knew this is a complete waste of time this is anti-Semitism open anti-Semitism but this this this a uh this little Nazi Association uh still had to remain aggressive and and disrespectful uh so she uh wants to punish me so well you have one week to remove it after the holiday is over as if I'm going to leave it there forever and ever you have one week to remove it after the holiday and it cannot be disposed uh you know in a regular garbage you have to remove it from the like like she's trying to punish me like I can't throw in the garbage first who's throw in the garbage this say $2,000 worth of wood what garbage what are you talking about but anyway it's like they want to punish you because they didn't get their way these little Hitlers but this is this is now if this was five 10 15 20 years ago no chance in the world that this person would say a single word word about the Suka or anything else why cuz at that point 20 years ago it was still frowned upon to be anti-emetic there was a lot of it but it wasn't like today it's almost admirable to be anti-semitic admirable to be antiemetic people have no problem being anti-semitic no problem so we see here all the time but he's only allowed to express it certain times next question so when says about how am and Mal can't convert and later on in that part it says how children don't get punished for their fathers and fathers don't get punished for their sons so why are the Mo's descendants allow to convert if they didn't do the sin the sins of the fathers not affecting the sons and the sons not affecting the fathers applic applies to applies that's one Amon and two is that Amon and mo did something that was a Despicable in the eyes of Hashem which is they did something that was inhumane inhumane they lost their their right to be treated like the rest of mankind because they express something that's inhumane which is the ungratefulness one of the things that Hashem detests detests almost more than anything is people that are ungrateful people ungrateful people so the Amon and showed a lack of gratefulness and therefore hasem says that they lost their rights the men of them lost their rights to be treated like the me rest of is or even the rest of mankind because even the Egyptians even the Egyptians T says that they're allowed to convert to Judaism allowed but even though they killed millions of Jews for 200 years they killed they weren't apparently as bad in the eyes of hasem as Amon and moav but you should know that it only applies to the men of moav uh and not to women this was one of the uh uh big debates at the time of David that uh isai was the the the father of David and one day he learned this Al and he thought that he made a mistake because uh he thought that uh this applies to both men and women of moav rather than just men which made him think that he was forbidden to his own wife but then later on hasem made it clear to him uh that it's only Rel to the uh to the men are not allowed to convert whereas the women from Moab were allowed to convert as we know that Ruth the moabit uh she was his uh grandmother and the grandmother of the mashiach grandmother of davik uh and one of the most righteous women that ever lived but uh yeah the the men of Moab uh did something in human and by the way just so you know the uh both Amon and moav with lot lot is their grandfather with the ancestral relationship that he had with his daughters after the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah that's where uh uh moav means from my father meaning the son came from the father uh Amon means like from my Nation meaning also from my father but in a more discreet more discreet way she was more modest uh but the point being is that uh the uh the the the expression of uh lack of gratitude uh that they had uh you know was detested by hasem and made them in essence uh uh detestable in the eyes of Hashem next question okay when and how the Judaism start when and how did Judaism start so the debate whether Judaism started with Abu or mhu why is there a debate technically it shouldn't be a debate we should know clearly now in some's eyes it is clear Judaism started with M how do we know because be in the Torah before Mount saai am was not called the Jewish people rather we were called the Israelites the Hebrews we only became Jews officially at Mount why what happened at Mount sa we received the Torah we received the Torah we accepted the Torah That's What Makes You Jewish and one of our proofs is aside from what I just said is that anyone can become Jewish with their observance of the tah like you could be born a Christian or a Muslim but if you want to comply with the entire toah which means that you'll go through a formal conversion and a recognized bed and uh you know live a life in accordance to the Tor you can become a full-blown Jew say oh yeah but that's probably like a convert probably like a like a defective Jew right it's like a deformed Jew it's like a lesser Jew wrong opposite according to the Torah a convert is considered a real convert a righteous convert whether man male or female a righteous convert is considered higher higher than a natural born Jew you could see the uh the rambam writes a letter to a one of his students and it's a very uh famous letter how he tells him how the uh the uhad I think his name wasad UHA I don't know how you explain how you say it but anyway he writes the letter and he tells him that he's je rambam is jealous of him of this convert he's jealous of him why because he's like he oh I didn't choose to be Jewish I uh you know I was born this way you chose to be Jewish me I have my father's father was sadik he says you know your father is Abu Abu is your father who the one of having you can say yeah but my grandfather is also yeah it's your grandfather famous his father famous his father is Abino that's his father the convert his father is Abino so R says you're praiseworthy so now a uh a person that accepts the tah accepts the MIT becomes a Jew so we as a nation accepted the to and the MIT at Mount sa thereby beginning Judaism out Mount sa so why is there a debate about Judaism possibly starting beforehand because we even though Judaism began at the time ofu at Mount sa we still say that our forefathers are and Jakob and says that abob had the entire Tora both the the the oral Tora they had the WR T was given later on but they had the Torah and they were fulfilling the Torah they fulfilling the Torah and in fact they had a more extensive Torah than USS more extensive to than us our tractate of uh of has five sections abu's track dat of had 400 sections which we talked about the different opinions of why it's 400 versus 5 but the point being is is that he had or and he fulfilled the Torah so say if he fulfilled the Torah then he was the first Jew and some of the say yes AB was 100% a Jew even though he was by himself but some say no it cannot be because technically was a no hi fulfill the 99% 99% he knew that he was not allowed to keep Shabbat so he would violated by creating a cow every Shabbat that's how there was no electric back then so you create a cow instead uh that's that's create a cow Now to create on Shabbat and that's also the reason of why yob was able to marry two sisters was able to marry two sisters you're not let to marry two sisters a Jew is not let to Mar two sisters y married two sisters why cuz he was again he was a noahide noid allowed so the point being is but then they say yeah but maybe it's because he was a Jew but he wasn't allowed to do it in in Israel and that's why before they went back to isra ra died that's why she died because it's not allowed in but it's allowed outside and there a debate many many pages many many pages point being is Judaism for sure started no later than Mount saai some say it even started andov needless to say all of them arees all of us are descendants of and yob and and yob are something that are beyond our comprehension and their children are beyond our comprehension uh as far as where uh where judaism's starting point is officially uh like I said it's most common answer that I know of is Mount saai but that doesn't lessen doesn't lessen shalom the status and significance of doesn't doesn't lessen it just again as a debate among the of who what when and how of certain specific points that's next question next question by go good morning and we know Ash being the righteous judge and he's judging the world so what's the meaning of saying that um that like a certain people had to be judged first so the after the the whoever will come after so judgment wouldn't be so harsh on the person meaning that let's say a king is judged first because if he was just later than the rest of the people after judging the the regular people maybe has may be harsher on him than if you are judge so if hasem is the righteous judge how come certain people get judged first and other people get judged second another qu another way to ask that same exact question is what does kazal mean by saying that when you know the reason why we blow the on is to confuse the Satan believe it or not those two those two are exactly the same question why because if you're going to say that this you confuse Satan by blowing the shaar okay let's say you confused this genius once but you confuse him every single year every year you're confusing him he's that dumb how could it be so what is the so in essence the question is how can we be confusing the Satan every year with the is the same exact question is what you're asking is how come is judging these people first and these other people second if he's really the fair judge these are the same exact question how now being that he's the king he has to run the world being that he's our father he also has to deliver on his promise to Keep Us Alive Keep Us Alive so instilled certain rules uh into his own world to guarantee our survival and even the way he judges us is one of the ways that although it attests to his Justice and his stamp of AIT it also confirms our survival so each year he has us arrive at and we blow the shaar andal says that this blowing of the shaar confuses this sat time why because throughout the whole year every one of us acts different different one guy goes wakes up in the morning goes to sh pra I love you I love you I love you all day another guy doesn't go to bity he goes to somewhere else goes goes to work goes to a bar goes to this goes to that goes to sins goes to something else another guy goes to sh but his mind is in business another guy is this throughout the whole year all of us are in different places so Satan shows up sh okay so I know this guy I'm going to rip him apart I'm coming to hem with the whole de I have a whole book of sins this guy has I tell look he did this he did this he did this he did this he did this he did this let me rip this guy apartm that's my the Satan that's his P ripping people apart you guys P money is p ripping people apart blood is p he say give me some you you judge you're you're the judge you're the fair judge give me let me make a living so Satan prepares this is my portfolio my portfolio of Sinners oh these I can't really touch these people so I have these before all of us have our own walks of life all of us look different but there's one moment one moment that we all look the same when is it during the blowing of the Shar right during the blowing of the if you notice whether you're religious or not whether you go to SCH all year or you don't whether you're tall or short whether you're a convert or natural born Jew whether you're male or female what do you do when you heard the all of a sudden everybody's quiet the only time during the year everyone's quiet sh we have a to read the and is if if you do not hear one of the words of the M have to start all over again start all over again so what's the main thing they keep telling you before you read the m shut up be quiet nicer way nicer way that's it shut up why cuz if you talk with your loud mouth I can't hear the m to start all over again be quiet and guess what people still talk they still talk no so what are you eating no so where are you going after this also what do you think again H such a bad shut up go somewhere else talk somewhere else go talk somewhere no he still talk now talk we have another mitvah you have to hear you have to hear the verse to destroy am there's a verse we have to hear during the year that to to to Remember to Remember To Go destroy amalik if you don't hear the verse guess what you have to start all again so be quiet right what people do they still talk they still talk the one time during the year people are quiet Satan gets confused goes what's going on here everybody all a sudden looks like a tadik this guy was uh told five minutes ago you didn't stop talking all of a sudden he's doesn't say anything so this swings are judgment sweds our judgment in essence this helps our case because there is a moment that we have Unity there is a moment that we look righteous there is a moment that we look better and in essence that's what your question is how come hasem judges certain people at certain times because if he were to judge if you were to judge let's say all the sikim first and all the second there's really nothing to judge why okay I'm judging all the okay you guys are alive I hate you finished there's no judging you don't need to do it just take an angel okay kill these people let these people go to Vacation forever that's it if he judges first by the time he gets to the it's it's nightmare already listen I want to talk to whatever everybody's already see so much Darkness all day so judges the people in a certain way to make everybody look a little bit better mix and match mix and match like a minan why do we pray in a Manan why 10 people Manan because when you pray by yourself you don't have kavana 100% of the time you have complete Focus part of the prayer so part of your prayer is excellent part of your prayer is like T it's not exactly very good right it's not a good day now we pray in a because the the sages taught us that loves us so much that we we have Unity we pray together he takes the best of the prayers of each one of us and combines it into a perfect prayer so Sun had five minutes I had 3 minutes nanel had 10 minutes a Gabrielle had 1 minutes minute this one had three seconds that one had at the end none of us had a full prayer what but together perfect in essence that's our runs his world he runs his world in order to allow us to survive despite our countless mistakes and sins he has a system in place which we will never understand but I could just again minimize it to try to get it uh somewhat understandable and make it complex into something simpler uh that he has a system in place to allow our survival without violating his stamp of Adit judging certain people at certain times dealing with certain people at certain places and so on and so forth sometimes you will see that there is a person for example that is making every sin Under the Sun every sin Under the Sun but one day hashem's Jud judement shows up and the guy gets into an accident overdoses on drugs car accident something dies dies everyone cries terrible horrible I'm going to miss him what do you mean five minutes ago you were cursing him though yeah but I'm going to miss him not that he's not here anymore and I love him boo boo everybody's crying right then as everybody's you know still crying and and everything is terrible all of a sudden they start what happened what he's awake went back came back to life an hour later came back to life five minutes later near that's called near-death experience they go they die and they come back to life it happens happens is something in a neighborhood of 30 million 30 million cases confirmed cases of near-death experience in America in America or in the world actually the world 30 million cases anyway person dies and comes back to life now you would think listen if this guy was a big sadik big sadik and he died and hasem says you know what let me give you some more life that makes sense that makes sense he's a good guy he's sadik Shem says why should he die now let him live a little more life bring more MIT to the world have more opportunity to do MIT why not but gets more time why doesn't make any sense that's because you're thinking in your human brain human brain your brain is limited in our prayer had the Sages put one of the T that says that Hashem takes our merits and plants them like seeds plants them as seeds in order to see them flourish later on and the sages teach us is that sometimes somebody will do a certain Mitzvah and AEM will not reward him for it right away in fact he may not even reward him for for it in his lifetime he gave takaka that save somebody else's life he did something that saved somebody else's life hasem says don't worry I'll pay you back but not you I'll pay it down the road years past this person leaves the world a son comes to the world he has a few kids lives a life moves on to the next World his sons have kids move on have kids have kids 10 Generations later one of his kids off the already for a while already few Generations already not so good one of them is destined to a place of doom drugs alcohol crime da every crime under the sun Shem says Satan just showed up in my office and he says listen this guy's a criminal we got to kill him you said on y death penalty I'm going to kill him says kill him kill him yeah permission right permission all of a sudden boom car accident out of nowhere the guy's head smashes he doesn't know what happened all he knows is that he's in sh and they tell him oh listen khabibi you had a good time in the world yeah okay now you're going to pay for it going to go to kafak for about 70 years after you finish kafak you're going to chamber this chamber that chamber this chamber that they give the whole dean of all the judgments he's going to get and this guy cries Tears like crocodiles but not crocodile tears like the the the tears are the size of crocodiles because he realizes no more fun all of a sudden out of nowhere all of a sudden an angel shows up hey he heyy hold on a sec excuse me excuse me hey hold on a second before you stamp that that final deed excuse me I'm that his great great great great great grandfather gave that save somebody's life and I'd like to testify that he deserve a little more time to do cha says Mr Satan you'll have to wait why this angels are showed up from 15 Generations ago it's right I planted this angel I planted it I planted it it was a fair I made you think that you're going to get it I planted this before you even knew I planted this 15 Generations ago because I knew this going to happen so I needed to give my kid a little bit more time so Mr Satan go find somebody else and he gives the kid a little bit more time to go do Chua and that's what happens that's what happens loves you so he gives you countless opportunities to do Chu but that's also why the punishment is so severe if we don't do chuva because that means that if you've lived an entire life without doing Chua and there's nothing else to do for a person that means that everything has already been used to save you for 3,000 years and you still failed you understand like every single resource that who has to save you has already been spent over the last 3,000 years so that means that if a person finally gets that punishment that means that they deserve it because they literally insisted on putting themselves in G that's why the punishment is so severe because all of the chances all of the opportunities all of the planting of seeds was already used and abused for Generation after generation and a person simp simply never took advantage of it needless to say that's the reason why sometimes certain Souls need to be uh punished perhaps even destroyed but that's why we come to so we remind ourselves of these scary things and we don't fall into the Trap that we've been falling for for a few thousand years one or two more questions and then we're done for the um day okay if a didn't want a d to eat from the Tree of knowled didn't he hide it like the he hid the tree of life so Hashem does not want question is if Hashem didn't want a to eat from the Tree of knowledge why don't he just hide it so it's the same thing you could ask about if hasem doesn't want you to sin why he just make you with no evil inclination and you won't have a desire to sin so the the question has to uh it's it's really a non-starter question because it assumes it assumes that if a allowed to sin that means he wanted him to sin which is Heretics say that Heretics say now I'm not saying that you're a heretic saying Heretics say that ifem you know allowed to sin that means he wanted it that's what Manis fredman says by the way which means why why do why the Heretics say it because they say ifem wanted if he want he which means that if I'm sinning hem wants me to sin if you mean if I have a boyfriend and I'm a guy that mean wants me to sin if I if I'm eating that mean wants me to eat no it's a heretical thought it's yet going inside so AEM created human beings after he created he created they were in essence all of us were perfect but we since we are in essence a part of hasem we're part of hem not that hem has part but it's for understanding of our ear to we need to say it this way we're part of hem and because he is the ultimate good and the way you know if something is good is by it creating good our also wanted to create good but what good can we create for hem he's the ultimate good he's perfect we can't give him anything so so the Nish felt like they were getting a undeserved prize free bread and we didn't want it we're suffering as a result of this undeserved bread undeserved reward so we asked theem to please give us an opportunity to earn it so the whole purpose of a coming into the world of this world is that it's supposed to earn its bread earn its keep that's the point your whole job in this world is to earn your keep now when we came to this world how do if if we did not have a evil inclination a desire to sin and we only wanted to do the will of hasem then there was no point to the world why because the whole point of the world is for us to earn our way how do we earn our way by choosing AEM despite having an enticing Choice that's the opposite of hashem's will if we choose AEM because that's the only choice we have then it doesn't deserve a reward because it's the only deser it's the only thing it has if you tell your wife oh honey you're the best cook but that's because the only thing you have in the entire house is rice and that's what you cooked that's not exactly a compliment the only thing you have in the house is rice she happened to cook it yeah sure you could say good rice but it's not really a compliment but if she has 87 different uh uh uh you know ingredients in the house and and she made you a dish that's delicious guess what you compliment that deserves a compliment why because she could have made something that tasted not exactly like that so the point being is that when a person has two choices one is good one is evil and he chooses evil he deserves punishment for that evil evil why because he chose evil that's against theem when he chooses good he deserves good why cuz he chose good why is good deserve a prize why does evil deserve a prize because in essence they're both enticing they're both enticing it's just that they're enticing in different ways the good is enticing down the road if you have a long-term mentality the bad is enticing today today it's enticing not down the road down the road you know what think down Road created men with the ability to choose so in order to reward ad and in essence reward the rest of us he gave us choice you can choose to do good meaning the will of hem or you could choose to do something that's against hashem's will if you do hashem's will that's considered good thereby you are earning your good you're earning your keep if you choose bad then you're not earning your keep and you'll get punished for it so hasem allowed to choose because that's in essence the purpose of creation the whole purpose of creation is to allow us to earn our keep if he uh it's not that he wanted him to sin but rather he allowed him to sin he allowed him to sin by making his own choice it's not that he wants us to sin he allows us to sin allows us to sin because if he did not allow us to Cho to to sin then it would be a fixed game there would be no we would be robots you know a robot that does exactly what the robot is supposed to do doesn't get a reward for it if you press the button on your robot that's a vacuum cleaner and it vacuums the whole house you don't start clapping to the oh what a great robot you go robot you don't do that you don't do that there nothing why it's a robot it's programmed to vacuum it's programmed to do certain things who do you reward who do you clap for someone that's programmed perhaps even to do the opposite and it ends up doing it ends up overcoming something so that's that's the that's the key it's a it's a hashem's will is for us to choose life and the good but he allows us to choose death and the evil death and the evil uh we and we should choose life as it says in s next question yes um we know that um we don't have much description of the GM but is there enough description or feeling to tell somebody who's never experienced the learning of getting connected to has and learning Tor to feel that connection for them to understand what what GED is G is if they've never experienced it in the spiritual World which is the real true goodness yeah um I mean there is there is some books to discuss ganeden even that has also has a section in there discusses GED uh and there's other that discuss different aspects of geden more in the cabalistic world but the reason why it's not in the basic levels of the tah is because most people uh would not understand why it's even good like for example one of the things that it says that we do in ganed is we learn t now a person that doesn't learn T in this world and doesn't understand the Beauty and the deliciousness of the T says why would I want to go to a place where I'm reading a book all day like what's the they don't understand that okay so how do you explain a person g i uh I mean again you have to explain to people in their own language so people's own language is physical Pleasures physical Pleasures so imagine you have physical Pleasures that a person has in their life what could they so you have the physical pleasure they get from food eating delicious food okay so you put that in one basket then you have the physical pleasure they get from getting honor people giving you respect saying K good job you're the best you're beautiful you're smart you're you know everything is good right okay so you have that in another basket then you have physical pleasure from intimacy person has you know intimate relations there a physical pleasure from it okay you put that in another in a another box and you know just a limited amount of Pleasures but nonetheless there is different Pleasures that a person has now you take all those box combine them into one box right okay so that's for one person now that person that lives life he doesn't always have this pleasure in fact the vast majority of his life is not that pleasure he's alive 24 hours most likely he's not you know enjoying himself at all the vast majority of that time you know because he's probably sleep between 6 to 8 hours a day out of the 24 so already you lost 25% of the day right 25 33% of the day gone already all right so you got let's say you got 16 hours left after you slept that is probably working between work and traveling to work it's probably another 8 to 10 hours a day and say oh no but I like my job yeah okay buddy you know you like your job would you prefer to go to your job or be on a beach or on some vacation okay so you may not necessar you detest your job but it's not a vacation it's not a vacation you prefer to be in other places not not it's not considered as one of the pleasures of the world let's just say that let's say out of the 8 10 hours that you like your job let's say a half hour an hour at most out of that 8 to 10 hours you feel pleasure okay let's say they give you respect you're the best you're the best salesman you're the best this you're the best that let's say okay so right now we've already spent between 16 to 18 hours out of the day but we still only have about maybe an hour of pleasure out of that right then he has you know he's going home he's with his wife you know is but they're not always together they're not she's not always together with a husband he's not always together with his wife there you know not a horse sometimes he's tired sometimes he's busy sometimes she has a headaches sometimes she has a headache for a really long time like years but it's a sometimes you know it's a uh different thing so the reality the the pleasure is now always there right so it's the food also the food is not always delicious sometimes it tastes like you know like a shoe and sometimes it tastes like a table sometimes you wish you would have ordered Chinese food sometimes you know it's not always that good so in reality out of the 24 hours you're lucky lucky if you got an hour and 15 minutes to two hours max of actual pleasure Max so what does that mean really less than 10 % at best case scenario 10% of a person's life at the best case scenario is actual pleasure so if he lived a 100 years 10 years was pleasure at the best case scenario reality it's much less but let's say okay now I'm not trying to depress you just telling you reality this is how life really is now now let's say you took all 10 years of pleasure all 10% and you gave it to the person in one shot boom that's a lot of pleasure right that's a imagine all of the crazy stuff and experiences and deliciousness and and and good stuff that he had over a period of time okay it's a little bit here a little bit here a little bit but if you gave it to him in just one jolt it's 10 years straight of pleasure that's gedon right okay so yet 10 no you put that 10 years in a box right we're at 10 years now we put all in a box all that pleasure for one lifetime one person in one box that's a lot of pleasure now take not just his pleasure not just all of his family's pleasure not just all of his neighborhood and his town and his City and his State and his country but rather the entire world's pleasure during that generation you got let's say right now close to 8 billion people right 8 billion people take all of their pleasure some of them are going to live till 100 some of them them are going to live till three some of them are going to live till 50 everybody's pleasure let's say we're you know 10% average 10% everybody's pleasure put in a box combine it with that other box that's a lot of Imagine creating all that pleasure for all eight billion people one shot it's a lot of pleasure okay now it's not enough take not just that generation but every single generation that ever existed from the beginning of time including the generation of the flood where they had all types of horrific Pleasures all types of crazy things immoral things that unfortunately are coming back to life today also Sodom and gomorrah's generation Noah's generation uh the Tower of Babel generation Egypt's Generation all of the sinful Generations obviously they probably had more physical pleasure in the world than the standard take all of their Pleasures from all of the generations just the pleasures no no suffering just the pleasure of all of them take put them in a box together with that other generation another box now you got a lot of Imagine a person gets all of that pleasure that's a lot of pleasure right that pleasure from all of the generations of all of the people that ever lived is not a single minute of the pleasure that a righteous Jew will experience a gun Eden that's going to in in a way that we can understand any other questions K that that you but aren't repeat the question again I'm sorry are you things like tortillas or other things that are that are not but you are you allowed to say a moi on something that's not bread are you allowed to hand it to someone why would you not be able to hand it to someone like let's say for example if I have a tortilla or if I have a uh uh donut or something else that I want to hand it to somebody I'm trying to understand why why wouldn't I be able to hand it to somebody I mean technically from understanding your question if I have a cookie or I have a tortilla or I have a piece of bread or I have anything really I can hand it to anybody else um the only time that I can think of that a uh person may have a uh a time that they have to be more careful with handing is during Mi when you have the K of Shabbat or you have K of the of Y the say that you have to treat the bread when you do the blessing of the bread you have to treat the bread in a certain way of respect so there's a old tradition that some people have that's mistaken which is to take the Moi and throw it to people throw it to people across the table why because you're not supposed to hand the bread to them so he says get it to them but that's a disrespectful way according to so what's the best way to do it is that you give it to put it give it to them by putting it on a plate or putting on a table for them to get that's the only time that I would say uh you have to be more conscious of whether you give it to them and instead of throwing it or how you give it to them but other than that you know they as long as you're not disrespecting the the food uh or the person that you're giving it to there's no problem giving something to somebody but that's also something that a person should be conscious of not just giving but also knowing how to give many people know to give but they don't know how to give and this comes you know this is not just with food but it's with a lot of things because the way that you give something many times is more impacting on a person than what you gave so for example if let's say if let's say somebody says uh you know you have a kid and uh you know and you tell them listen give me you know can you make me a pie I just came back from work long day can you make me a coffee and if your kid comes to you and he just you know gives you some hot water that you're not even sure if the cup was clean before you put it there and he puts a bag of tea or coffee next to it or something and he puts the sugar next to it he's like make it yourself that's not exactly such a precious coffee that he made you in reality if you're a strict father or mother you probably want to pour it on him instead of take this coffee it's not a good coffee why how get this how you give your father coffee is how you give your father coffee make it nice delicious this give it to me say hey thank you AB for giving me opportunity to give coffee that's how you give but if you give me coffee like this just with warm water with some mud next to it it's not giving me nice way right so it's the way you give coffee another way for example if you say oh honey I'm hungry can give me something to eat right give me something to eat now if it's 2 3:00 in the morning and you know you woke her up she's giving you something anything she gives you thank you but if it's let's say 2:00 in the morning and 2:00 in the afternoon or it's 5:00 some normal time that you eat like honey I'm hungry honey I'm hungry and she she gives you a hold on a second hold and she gives you a piece of gum that she has left over she eat the other half goes here you go eat come on go ahead eat now it's not exactly such a good wife right right because it's not what you feed your husband you need a little bit more than a piece of half chewed gum so again you gave him food but it's not exactly the way to give but sometimes you givea give staka right say hey here you go here you go staka you have a few dollars on you and you see some homeless guy or Rabbi or somebody you know looks homeless but it's not really hey hey hey go hey hey like this hey hey look he's a horse hey hey hey here you go hey hey like this that's not a way to give why why does the whole world need to to hear the whole thing why also you have to treat the person that you're giving with some dignity and respect and not treat them as if they're like some like poor miserable person and many times people that give do the opposite where they give the person not just the money but a little bit of embarrassment too hey here you go but before you take it like they hold on the 20 they hold on to the 10 they hold on to the whatever Bill and he's holding on to the other end but they want to give him a speech too listen use this money right you don't spend it all one place and by the way your wife didn't look so good so maybe you should get her something and your kids they look kind of hungry so you get and give him a speech too money like that is better you don't give it don't give it other times sometimes person say listen they uh they donate money and you know then they want to uh listen they did you get it yeah I got it I got it thank you thank you you got in the mail yeah I got it okay good a day later so you got the money yeah I told you yesterday that I got it I got it I got it I got okay fine fine a week later listen so did you spend the money that I gave you already why you need it back no no I was making sure you got it but I just told you I got it already Okay did you get anybody else what start asking 500 questions with this not necessary it's not necessary if you donate on the website I got it you don't have to tell me did you get it if you donate on a website you get a receipt that means I got it you don't have to ask 500 times but a lot of times people do that why because what do they want really what do they want they don't want to give they want to thank you they want to know you appreciate that I gave now if you're giving because you're waiting to get appreciation it's not it's okay but it's not the best way to give it's like almost similar to that like coffee with you know not ready coffee it's not mud it's not like garbage but it's not ideal why ideal should be the highest form OFA The Giver doesn't know who the receiver is the receiver doesn't know who the who the giver is that's the highest form now we can't do that all the time because number one we cannot trust people to just you know tell them listen you give it to whoever and we cannot trust that you know the right receiver so we have to sometimes know who we're giving it to but we should try to aim to be at the best level OFA and not make a whole ordeal out of it like listen I want to make sure that when I give it to you you give me a receipt every time and you also send me a special thank you email and a special message and every time I see you I need you to make sure that you look at me and it you don't have to make a whole deal of it why because if you're giving for that it's better you don't give it's better you don't give why although it's meritorious to give you're spending all of the merits in this world when somebody donates for example in sh the Safar have this custom where they do an auction before uh the prayers especially during the and they uh sell the AL to the tah and it's usually the time where the synagogue raises the most amount of money but if you notice most of the money usually is donated in many places by the people that don't come to Sho most of the year and most of the people that come most of the year they don't donate during that time they may donate to the sh but not during that time why they let everybody else get it a little bit but the problem is kazal says that those people that donate if they're not coming to the Sho the whole year why are they even donating you would think you know the guy that's coming all year should donate yeah he does donate but just not then why let him he's not coming next week he's not coming next month so if he doesn't donate now he'll never donate okay so okay so we can understand the guy that's not you know it's going to donate later but why is the guy that's only coming once or twice a year donating why because he wants to get the respect from all of the other people that he even though he doesn't come he's still supportive he's still Rich he's still successful he's still giving and the sages say that guy that's donating because he only donates because he wants to get the respect the honor and so on he's going to cry later on when he arrives at the bedine of Heaven he says listen I gave a million dollars during my life I gave $10 million during my life I gave whatever amount of money during my life that's good right and the B de of Heavens say yes it's good but the problem is that you got so much respect for giving publicly because every time you gave it was like a billboard on the highway everyone knew you gave you won the auction you got the Aliyah you got the respect everyone knew you are the of the Town cuz you gave so everybody gave you a lot of respect and they even did more business with you they married your kids da da da da da right so all of that honor that was the pleasure that you got that was the reward that you got but you got it in this world all you have left out of the pleasure that's you know uh that's owed to you is one 2% left in the Eternal world and when a person sees the value of 1% of the Eternal World versus 99% of what he got in the physical world he's going to cry why because you're going to see that that 1% is more pleasant than 99% but he already spent it meaning had he not gotten all of that cavod in the physical world and saved it all or at least most of it for the spiritual World his reward would be infinite infinite so again there is a uh way to give and there's a way to give you know you can give but sometimes when you give somebody you're giving it to them and disrespecting them at the same time or you're getting too much reward and Cav at one time and so on and so forth so very uh very good subject to constantly delve over and perhaps maybe revisit a future date is that not just to worry about giving but also how we give how we give your wife asked you a question if your answer is a demeaning a uh answer it's a aggressive answer it's a nonchalant answer it's an answer that yes you answered our question but you made her feel bad in the process it was better off you said I don't know it was better off you didn't say anything it was better off you weren't even born actually why because at least you wouldn't be insulted in a understand so sometimes your wife asks you a question because she wants to know how you feel about something and you're frustrated because of a million and a half different reason reasons but that doesn't mean that you need to give her your frustrations same thing vice versa sometimes you're frustrated and your husband comes home he says there's something to eat cuz he's hungry cuz he's a human being and you happen to be the chef in the house but you're frustrated because your girlfriend forgot to call you and your parents haven't uh come over and you're this and you're that and the kids are driving you crazy but all your husband asked for is a little bit of food that's all he asked for but he say ah come on go to your mother's house what okay well it's better off you weren't married if you're going to answer him that way it's better off you weren't why why does he deserve your frustration so yes you gave him an answer you gave him an answer but who needs an answer like this who needs an answer like this so that's the thing we give a lot we're constantly giving in the world we give takaka we give headaches we give heartaches we give a lot of things the most important thing about giving is think about what you're going to give before you give it and think of it in a ways would you want to be the receiver of your gift before you give the gift of an answer of a response of whatever would you want to be the receiver of that gift you're about to give your wife of that gift you're about to give your husband of that gift you're about to give your employee or the teller in the supermarket or whoever it is would you want to be the receiver if the answer is yes yes go ahead and give if the answer is no why not then why are you giving it why are you giving it said I think we're we we've covered enough unless there's something pressing oh Harold good morning I asking become likeing you like he start seeing like oh I want he's G A oh can absolutely absolutely something sure I mean listen it's a uh sometimes sometimes a uh uh a person can be uh bought I mean there's auk in Tora that the the eyes of the wise are uh blinded by money uh and I believe shabat says that how is it that uh the 250 rabbis at the time of mosenu were the biggest rabbis in the world all in the level of Prophecy and they all chose kak instead of M the prophet of all prophets so the says is because kak was the richest man of the land and he was also very generous so he gave them a lot of money over time so by the time he kept giving them money money money over time what ended up happening is that little by little his opinion became more right in their eyes became more right why because every time he says so what do you think he gave him a check for a million dollar you know what what whatever you just said I like it I like it you I like it I like it so by the time he said by the way I want to go against mosu they liked his idea so much it was too far why because he said if I don't like it it's going to cost me $100 million so I like it I like it so that's the thing so sometimes a person has to be very very careful of who he's giving to because if the rabbi that you're giving it to the Torah institution that you're giving it to is going to change the Torah for you you should not give them a penny if the rabbi is going to change his opinion for you you shouldn't give him a penny a penny you shouldn't give him why because you're just buying an actor you're buying an actor you're not buying the Torah you're not investing in the Torah the Torah doesn't change for you it doesn't matter what kind of check you get this is one of the thing rich people have a frustration with us they sometimes want to donate but they expect us change the Torah so when they get the same exact Torah they decide uh you know that uh you know sometimes yes sometimes no many times they run away because they thought that maybe they could buy the Torah but you know we have a few decent people that you know have gotten the rebuke on their head a few times but stay generous regardless uh you know but many times somebody gets the the truth and they run away they run away cuz they don't like it a few times it happened a few times it happened where someone uh got an answer that they didn't like and instead of being a generous donor they at times turn into enemies you know one day I was mashia for them the next day I became K to both of them I became all 250 rabbis all 250 maybe came one day why because I told him something he didn't want to hear but it was still according to the Torah so that's the thing if a person wants to uh buy the Torah look somewhere else don't come to be but if you if you want to buy authentic Torah what Torah says that's what what we have what we do but that's very hard it's very hard for people because it's I could tell you even from my own experience and it's not an easy test it's not an easy test I don't I don't uh uh you know I don't uh I'm not jealous of the test of anybody else that has this issue because it's very easy it's very easy to you know try to be more lenient when there's a lot of things on the line because you could rationalize it so let's say for example you know somebody you know you want to build a Yesa you have a certain amount of students you have a certain amount of Torah you have a certain amount of good things that you have planned and then the money you don't have but this one guy this reformed deformed R says to you listen I'll give you a check for $10 million to build your Yeshiva your this you're that and I want you to put my name on a building I want you to you know do this give me honor even though he's a r it's very hard to say no to that why because you're thinking listen he's a rash who cares about him I'm really I don't like him well I put a stupid name on the building who cares about his name at least I could teach all these boys T right I can help all these people do ch right it's a good thing it's a very hard decision it's a very hard decision very very hard decision why wouldn't take the money wouldn't take the money yeah but it's $10 million let it be 100 million make a difference hasem wants me to have the money I'll have give it to me in a kosher way now it's very easy to say that in the lecture it's very hard to live it very hard to live it because many times you're going to get tested you're going to get tested at times where it's hard to say no to money we we get tested so far so good but it's not an easy test especially when you're talking about big money you know especially when you're talking about big money because you know you have needs you have plans you have this you have that it's not an easy thing to to say no when you have needs and there and you also have good involved too like you're figuring okay there's like 1% bad but like 99% good so your your brain will say it's worth it it's worth it like you know you go to war you know to win against the the enemy surely some people that are not really your enemy are going to die collateral damage they call it right so you justify the big war and killing innocent people with you know because you're going to Big beat the big enemy that cause bigger bad so you're thinking that theah world is the same way I can make a little bit of like for the sake of you know K can't do that but it's very hard very very hard to stand test uh and uh it's it's not a it's not an easy test and it's a daily test uh but nonetheless it's a test that a person has 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