The Divine Self-Help Book vs The Munchausen Proxy Rabbis - MUSSAR Pirkei Avot (25)

[Music] n great to be here again we had a very Lively sh last week we uh got to I think just a live lecture reached over 3,000 people and then many many more watching the lectures learning musar getting closer and closer to Hashem and running away from sin and one of the main things that is important today as it always was is for us to run away from sins as you're going to learn from the parot when we get to Mount sa kazal tell us that when said the first two Commandments the entire nation died everyone died Hashem said the first commandment kazal says everyone died the of's voice was too high for everyone even though everyone got a level of Prophecy where the lowest level of Prophecy was still higher than the prophet Ezekiel the lowest level was still higher than the prophet Ezekiel but still not holy enough to hear Hashem speak and also one of the things that we learned from from kazal is that when Hashem spoke or when the sounds were made am was able to see the sound how do you see sound in some of our previous lectures we talked about Torah Torah and Science And scientists have actually proven that there is a way to see sound especially when referring to the Hebrew alphabet to the holy language but nonetheless is saw aem's voice heard aem's voice it was too much for them to Bear they all died Hashem brought back the dead and set a second commandment and then they died again Hashem broke back to dead again so everyone always asks wait says one of the 13 principles of faith that the ramban put together is you have to believe in the resurrection of the dead and some people for whatever reason or another they haven't studied enough Tor and got closer and closer to hem so they have a tough time believing this one thing say it's hard for me to believe that hashem's going to bring back the dead is it easy to believe that every single one of you came from nothing from a little drop it's easy to believe that at least the dead has bones but nonetheless people think that it never happened before as a matter of fact it's happened several times in history these are just the first two times so after this after the second time is says to mosu you go talk to him we'll do and then we'll listen whatever he tells you we'll do it and then you tell us what we actually need to do but whatever he says we'll do it automatically by default we're putting everything on autopilot everything Hashem says we're going to do it and then we're going to understand we're going to learn the Mish going to figure out what to do what's right what's left the details but just let them know we're going to do why because if he continues talking we're all going to die how they know they're going to die cuz they already died twice they all felt the pain of death twice that's also one of the things that kazal tell us that at the end of times whoever is fortunate enough to be alive at the time of the Messiah is also going to have to feel the pain of death they're going to be brought back but everyone has to to feel the pain of death at some point it's a form of repentance to some extent to some sins for example like it is the main part of the repentance you have you know the cannot be repented through any other way other than death unfortunately and obviously other things that are Beyond this world but nonetheless we told Moshe please go you talk to him we're going to do leave us alone we don't want to die anymore so what does Moshe say if Moshe should have said you know what you're right let me calm him down a little bit we're going to talk oneon-one what's the big deal you can just tell you in a you know little calmer voice what does Moshe say Moshe says something that each and every single one of us has to remind ourselves every day every day especially before we go learn from a rabbi especially before we go and open a book and learn T because all of us are obligated to learn to every day now if you're going to learn but nothing's going to change whether you're learning from a book or you're learning from a rabbi if everything stays the same if nothing in your heart changed at all there's no pinch there's no doubt there's no question there's no something did did you really fulfill your mission well according to Moshe you didn't because Moshe tells relax don't worry the only reason that hasem is scaring you is so you don't sin meaning he's intentionally killing you it's not like it's like by mistake there's no mistakes he didn't accidentally kill you and then he had to bring you back he's intentionally killing you is's intentionally scaring you to death literally because the only way you're going to run away from sin is if you're scared praiseworthy is the man that's always scared says you're scared all the time wow mean scared the guy is scared of his own shadow is is is a great no not scared of your own shadow scared of ghost no scared of a little monster behind your bed no what are you scared of scared of every time before I do something I think what does AEM think before I take out the money for to somebody gives they already take you give the homeless guy $3 buddy relax not give $3 and okay it's $3 but you know guy walks around yeah did on the way to work today what' you do I gave the guy half my sandwich yeah you were throwing it on anyway well let's the let's be real come on let's did you give him something that hurt you a little bit did you give him the extra money that you going to spend on you gave it to him instead did the hurt a little bit or did you give him money that pretty much you forgot about already you know like lost money what's lost money you know you do laundry and once in a while you get lucky and you get the pants back and it's like 20 bucks you forgot in the pocket it's the greatest 20 bucks in the world wow I forgot $20 or $2 or $5 whatever it is you're excited about it it's lost money but you forgot about this $20 so is your like this lost money like you forgot about it it's not really that big of a deal you gave the guy 20 bucks for CDs you gave the guy 20 bucks for whatever for some uh thing is it that kind of then you're not exactly a it's but let's let's call it SP the SP if you're going to give something and you want to really fulfill the full mitvah it's got to hurt a little bit not put you in a homeless shelter or put you in a situation where you can't uh have food for your kids but it's not supposed to be so comfortable that it's like forgotten money the same thing goes with every single Mitzvah especially when it comes to learning to if you're going to learn from a rabbi and you're with the rabbi for 5 years 10 years 20 years but you're still the same as what you started you my friend have been wasting your time if you're reading a book like it's Harry Potter it doesn't matter who wrote it a could be M could be whoever if it's not affecting you there's something wrong either with you or with the book the point of your Torah is to build a foundation and that Foundation must have so whenu was telling Hashem is only scaring you so you don't sin he wasn't just referring to them he's referring to us Hashem is constantly sending you messages whether it's shalom sickness Shalom somebody stole money from you you lost something you got a flat tire somebody ran into you everything he's trying to get your attention he's talking to you and since we're not or even his shoes he's not going to talk to us out of a burning bush he's talking to us through our life the closer you are to the easier it is to feel like he's watching and he's taking care of you and he's talking to you the further you are from Hashem the more you think you're doing everything I'm making the money I'm making the speech I'm learning Torah it's my knowledge it's my skill set it's my learning skills it's my this it's my looks it's my this my my my my meaning you're alone you're alone the more you think you're doing the more you have to realize that you are far from hasem and the way to get closer and closer to Hashem is to build a solid foundation now series as AEM would always have it it always comes at the perfect time everything that we learn is always at the perfect time as I told you guys sometimes you're going to look at the M even though it's the same chapter uh chapter 2 the number of mish changes because there's different order it's the same order just different numbers because some of the the sages broke single Mish into two or three and some made it one long one so sometimes the mishna within it is a different number but in but it's the same language same word same everything so in my book it's Yim which is 13 and it says the following translation we continue with ran Kan talking about his students and in this case is actually talking to his students and he's asking them to teach the rest of us something so he referring toan Ben zakai said to them to the five disciples go out and discern which is the proper path to which men should cling so now the sages respond with their own ideas and we'll go over each one which is referring to hos RAR says a good eye a good eye is a good trait to have RAB yua says a good friend good friend important to have RAB says a good neighbor rabish Shimon says one who considers the outcome of a deed and RAB elazar says a good heart so he said to them meaning ranan said to the students I prefer the words of razar Ben the last one which said a good heart I prefer his words to your words for your words are included in his words meaning that everything that all of you said is included in the one thing that he said which is a good heart okay so first and foremost what is really asking the sages to do so first he's telling them go out and discern what you mean what is he saying to them go go out what are they going to going to the mall going to the supermarket where are they going usually we learn toah M at home where are we going says no no no go out into the real world where you're not surrounded by where everyone is reading the same book the same Mish the same Torah same everything everyone it's very easy to be religious inside it's very easy to be religious inside your house in your in a house all day it's very easy to be religious you have the you can look in reality you're in your pajamas but you're look at very easy no no no says no no go out go out there and use that Torah that you've learned to learn and teach based on your learning as well as based on what's out there where is am failing for example tonight we're failing at remembering to turn on the air conditioner I'm hot I'm always hot I'm always hot hot blooded what do you think those Screams Come for free so is telling his sages go out there you possess some serious knowledge you've learned the T you've learned the Mish you've learned all secrets part of the Torah but now it's time to go teach it talks about how important it is to have a to have someone that you stick to now there's a couple of different rabbis there's a rabbi that you go with as far as a p if you're sapharic for example most people today go by that's who you go by he goes by obviously the and so on the ashkanazi have their own the Safar have so you have you go by a major pek but generally when you go by a major PC you can't just go with him for what's convenient to you and you go with somebody else what's convenient to you like some people are doing with the whole issue of wigs we're not going to go into details with it because I think we've covered already enough about wigs but in short unfortunately this issue with wigs is become such a big problem that some safaris have decided to use the ashkanazi even though the asaz is questionable to begin with because obviously no one in history has ever permitted the wigs of today the wigs that were permitted look like wigs not like real hair but nonetheless the ones that actually gave the permission were asazi there was a couple of asazi that actually said it's allowed fine but not the safaris safaris didn't say it's allowed so sometimes you have people and you see Safari women wearing wigs and you ask them based on what say oh so and so said this and so and so is ashkanazi like oh but you're not ashkanazi and your husband is even less ashkanazi than you are he's from Iraq he's from Syria he was born the same desert I was he's in Tripoli he's nothing to do with ashkanazi no no but we hold to him okay do you know the rest of his books you hold to the rest of the stuff that he taught do you not eat rice on PES do you do you have all different other do you follow everything else no no just this one thing just this one thing is not allowed my friend because then you make the Torah into a soup you're not allowed to do that so you have a rabbi that's your P that's what you're going with the you have the and so on then you have a rabbi that's going to be like your speaker people that like to listen to speeches they like to watch ra mrai Raa if anyone likes to watch me I'm assuming at least you guys like to watch me because you're here um and of course all the amazing people on the internet but nonetheless you have people that want to be motivated some people watch us some people watch other people but you have this speaker that get you up and running get you alive get you clo you know get you closer to Hashem motivates you and then you have the rabbi and that's good you obviously have to have a rabbi that's motivates you and then you have the rabbi that's your K Rabbi that's the guy that you're going to go to usually on a day-to-day basis with your day-to-day problems what time Shabbat come in what's the uh laws in regards to the you know is this is it is it koser is iser basic day-to-day stuff some people even use us to do that as well but the point is is that you uh you have a rabbi in front of you that's your day-to-day Rabbi now each and every single one of these rabbis has a different role but the last two the one that's a speaker and the one that's next to you on a regular basis you have to be able to connect to they have to tweak your heart a little bit put a little electricity into your spiritual heart because if you're listening to one of my speeches and you're bored to death stop listening I'm asking you please don't listen to me if I'm boring you don't listen to me if you're going to sleep as soon as you hear the sound of my beautiful voice please stop listening listen to someone else don't waste your time you don't owe me anything you owe something for yourself listen to Torah you want to listen to anybody else doesn't matter who you listen to it as long as it gets you better to fix fixes your soul up puts all the pieces together same thing with your local R if you don't feel like you can connect him to such an extent where you could be honest with him and pretty much he thinks you're a sadik and in reality you're a big rash and you're not really willing to tell him you're not really willing to tell him that you drove to sh you're not really willing to you know on Shabbat I'm talking about you know you drove to sh on Shabbat you're not willing to tell him about that you're not willing to tell him that you don't have any kosher or anything in your house you're not want to tell him the truth he's not really a r he's just a r he's not your r a r that's in your Kila you have to be able to talk to him be honest with him and according to the you have to have the same way you have you fear of hem you have to fear your love you have to be scared of Your Love where do we learn this froma one of the Sages found that every single time the word it which is and every time it appears in the Torah it's to teach us an additional law so for example when it says we honor your father and your mother it could say it should have said technically honor your parents not honor your father and your mother we know that according to t you could only have a father and a mother you can't have a father and a father like this Sodom and Gomorrah we live in today you can't have a mother and a mother it's father and mother so you should say k you know it's one word why does it say it's an extra word here so teaches us that means you also must honor your older brother you have an older brother you have to honor him also but then they got to you have to fear hem have to honor AEM and there's a it right before it and the sage was stuck he didn't know what to do says maybe everything I thought the 13,000 times the word appears in the tah approximately don't quote me on the number 13,000 times it appears it's maybe I just made it up cuz one is missing one he doesn't know what it means says you know what it says it AEM who else you going to fear more than hm as if something is bigger than hem as if something is even equal to hem as if what you going to fear like AEM he says he told all of his students this is his lifelong work his lifelong work he says everything I taught you until now is wrong cancel it imagine what kind of you have to have to say listen my whole life's work is B throw it out the garbage it's not worth anything why cuz one mistake it's one mistake I don't know I don't have a on this it on this one word in the entire I don't have a so everything I've taught you till now it must have come just from my mind and not really from the Torah not really from and I can't give you anything from my own mind it must be from M it must be verified by the sages before us it must have an agreement amongst the you can't just become Rashi like everybody decides to be today people start learning oh yeah start learning a year ago five year ago 10 years ago yeah great so okay well you know you look at their there's no Pim reading the like oh where's the how do you know what you're reading commentary no no I don't read commentary what mean you don't read commentary how you know what you're doing well no I understand you understand what do you understand even though you know Aramaic you know Hebrew you know to that extent you understand and I ask him some questions they barely know how to do in the right way but everybody wants to be Rashi everybody wants to write a book no one has enough honor for the Torah this's this one rash who got was put on all wrote some books not even worth mentioning his name wrote a book full of full of full of heresy to such an extent that put him on and he would say you know R Shak thinks this and I think this like he in essence what he's saying is like R Shak is here and I'm here like he's at the same level as ra sh as if he's like the r shak's sh like shoe is is anything you're comparing to you just get out of diapers 15 years ago no one has any for the ra for for nothing and that's the that's where R came and he said doesn't mean that someone as great as Hashem but it does mean that Hashem expects you to honor and fear your Rabbi like you fear you have to because the only way you're not going to sin is if you have fear the only way you're G to tell the rabbi The Truth Listen you know what I'm sorry I violated Shabbat my got so big I played with my phone on Shabbat I didn't drive I didn't smoke I didn't cook but I play with my phone on Shabbat what should I do how do I do chuva if you have a real connection with your you're going to tell him if you don't you're going to pretend like a sadik he for yes was amazing I felt such Holiness you are on the beach what Holiness you were doing a Barbe shab every two seconds you're destroying your your your Shabbat I love Shabbat with the quarter keeper that you barely put on your head so you have to be you have to respect your you have to respect him enough to tell him the truth and that's one of the things that we're missing so page 63b says not only must you have a r but if you actually want to learn from him you want to learn his Torah how are you going to get to be a how you going to get to be a it must have to such an extent that you're willing to kill yourself to learn to it's not going to come with a coffee and a cake and you're learning with one leg over the other you want to become you want to be connected to hem you want to have full even when there's no money in the bank requires so is telling us first and foremost my students my dear students you've learned you've honored me great it's time for you to move on it's time for you to teach because as the says someone that learns T without an intention to ever teach it to anyone not to AAL not to his family not to his children he just wants to keep it to himself it's like someone who doesn't have a God to that extent to that extent says why because you're supposed to learn Tor in order to learn from hem learn the midot of hem learn the character traits of hem in order for you to emulate him now if you're going to learn Torah but you're not going to learn to emulate a you're not going to learn his character traits what are you learning what are you doing with this Torah so the first thing that you know about Hashem is that he only gives he doesn't take anything why because he's perfect he has everything already he doesn't need anything from you doesn't need your doesn't need your Torah doesn't need your doesn't need anything he's perfect so in Ence hasem always gives so if you're learning T you're taking from Hashem you're taking the Torah you're taking the greatest thing there is in this world the least you can do is share it the least you could do so says you now have to go share it and teach us how can someone go on a proper path to which man can cling what does it mean here mid tells us that ran is saying please tell us what's the best way to live what what is a purposeful life course not necessarily the purpose of life but how do I live life how do I live so in essence this mishna is a self-help book this is a self-held book you want to have a purpose purposeful life here you go you have this mishna you don't have to pay $40,000 for Matthew Kelly you get it for free today and from a Jew so ra wants to give you a self-help book for you to know how to have a purposeful life how to wake up in the morning and be excited how to wake up in the morning and be confident how to go about your day and know that you actually have a reason to live and not be like many m in the world today that really don't want to live and are waiting to die sometimes Shalom even trying to die intentionally so is trying to teach us something very very critical and the reason why he's telling us to go out there into the world and not do it in Thea says listen when you're surrounded by everyone's great everyone knows how we going to really live okay you can't just you know this is only applies to but not all of theid that are good for the BET midash are good for the marketplace for example to be jealous in a Marketplace is a horrible terrible Mida to such an extent they say someone is jealous will not come will not be resurrected it's that extent why because in essence the root of jealousy is the root of jealousy is heresy how so you're jealous of another person because you think that what he has technically should be given to you which in essence what you're really saying the real Foundation of what you're saying is that Shalom made a mistake he gave to him and not to you so the root of jealousy is it's it's heresy not allowed to be jealous but to be jealous and envious in bet about someone's Torah that's the goal you have to be cuz the only way you're going to be a is if you're jealous of the real the only only way you're going to be able to even be anything in your life is if you want to be ra if you want to be R Steinman if you want to be a serious it's the only way you have a chance to even be a for getet why because you're going to know that every single one of these serious they all have one thing in common for the no one was just born with knowledge and didn't have to work for it you read the bio of Raad you read the bio of Rabbi zilber you read the bio of any of these any of them anybody pick one first of all every page makes you do chuva you think about the real experience they had to go through the real they had to go through to earn their Torah I don't know if you were able to survive a week in their shoes I know I wouldn't be able to survive a weaken their shoes and not that I'm higher than you or anything but but it's just it's amazing to me someone doesn't eat doesn't drink doesn't sleep doesn't nothing doesn't care about anything but Torah nothing completely disconnected from The Real World there is no real world in their eyes Torah is their world so if we want to be a serious T first thing on the resum we must have a check next to no no t maybe you'll learn some Torah maybe you'll know a few you'll be a decent Jew you'll be a kosher Jew you'll have but you're not going to be only way you're G to be learning when everyone's sleeping praying when everyone's sleeping learning and praying when everyone else is so-called having fun and watching the Super Bowl constantly sacrificing everything and anything you can to learn but again he's telling us you want to go give life advice what I just said doesn't apply to everyone because not everyone is going to be a not everyone even knows that they should want to be a in reality if you know any righteous person in the world would have their wish they would say I wish would just be kosher and that's it just keep Shabbat keep they say all need to be but in reality if we could just get all of them just keep mitv that's already mashia is going to come the next day but not everybody actually understands that the number one ambition they should have in life is to so since even back then over 2,000 years ago people didn't know is telling the sages go out there and give us advice about how everyone should live not just the people in the col that know that the only thing that's really meaningful in life is Torah everyone the one at the marketplace the one that sells fish the one that fishes the fish the one that cleans the fish all of them all the regular people the guy that has oil on his hands all the time all of them give us life advice that applies to everyone okay this is you'll see as we'll learn today that every single one of these things I mean each one of the topics we want to talk about by itself can be 15 to 20 shim can be at least at least 30 or 40 different self-help books but here we gozar elzar says a good ey so kazal is explaining to us that each one of these character traits will serve as a foundation to get someone close to hasem to such an extent that it will always bring him back even if he falls it's always something that he can use to build on to get to the next level one mitvah leads to another one just like one leads to another one but in a the reason why it says you should cling on to is because each one of us every day when we live in this world we have to make a decision of how we're going to run our day and which part of us is going to control us is it going to be excuse me it's going to be the material our body our physical or is going to be our spiritual is our number one priority today food and exercise and having enough gel in our hair to make sure everybody knows that I have this new hair dude that little Wayne has or whatever one artist has or is it going to be I got to wake up certain time to go pray to connect to Hashem I have to learn I have to learn about Hashem who's Hashem how can I connect to him today how can I serve him today which part of us is going to control because in reality both of these things are in in us at all times as long as we're in this world we have both they have to coexist our decision every day is to is really going to determine which one's going to run our day the higher level you get as far as closeness to hem the easier it is to see that your spiritual is Conquering now how is your spiritual going to conquer are we becoming some type of uh spirit no where you get to a point which just like many of theim and many of the people that really are serious about AEM the realid not the people that you know just have a long beard and a hat real real people that are clinging to hem they use every single thing they do in their life as a way to connect him when they eat they're not really thinking about the food they're thinking about the kavana they're going to have on the blessing before they eat the apple when they drink they're not drinking just because oh I need to drink drinking because I need to have energy and I need to have the strength so I can read that's why the closer you get to Hashem the more you lose your taste buds and that's why there's very famous stories of radya and and some others where by mistake some of them have eaten soap without knowing there's a story about one time he came home and uh he just grabbed something to eat and the next morning his wife looked at the big pen said it's still full there's nothing you know he didn't touch it why don't you eat he goes no I ate yesterday and she found out he ate the soap he so disconnected from this world he didn't really don't a piece of bread he just didn't pay attention he just needed food to survive so you go back to Torah now again it's not a sin to enjoy this world it's not a sin to enjoy food it's not a sin to you know enjoy the world you could have a big house you could have a nice car you could have nice things but is it running your life and that's what it say that's what it means when it says you should clink to it clink to it meaning you should make it a foundation is must be one trait that each each one of us have that makes us a decent human being everyone always says listen you know my friend yeah he doesn't really keep anything but he's a good guy he doesn't keep any mitah but he's a good guy what makes him a good guy and usually people say the same thing he's generous or he's funny you know makes people laugh it's a very good character trait to have uh you know he's uh I don't know he's smart I know there different things that people say about people and uh it's great it's good to have a good character trait it's necessary but what kazal is telling you here is that that one character trait that you have usually there's one that you're amazing in there's probably a few that you know there probably a few that you're good at maybe you're generous and you're smart maybe you're uh you know you're uh funny and you don't really get angry quickly it's great but you're stingy you give $8 to the to the guy for the you suffer for a week like what kind of s if I made I have to give this guy gets $18 he wants to kill himself so yeah so it's good that he doesn't get angry it's good that he's smart art it's great but the fact that he's stingy means he has a little bit of a little bit of nasty things on him he has to fix it little so but you have to use that one character trait and build on it so first and foremost every one of us knows something that we're good at something that we are good people compliment us for it they say oh yeah you Sunny you're very creative you know a uh you are smart you are this you are you know people always tend tell you certain things or you feel about yourself listen I may not be this I may not be that I may not be this but I know that I am X whatever that is start learning about that Mida start learning about that character trait and really start comparing yourself and where you are with this character trait to the ideal situation you start learning that you're not as good as you think first of all but even more so you can build on it it's much easier to build on a foundation than a nothing so start building that one start develop if you're a extra funny I don't necessarily recommend start learning jokes but you get my point start learning how to to use humor in a positive way that's going to improve people's lives and not just make fun of people start using your intellect to learn holy things instead of so build on the character trait that you have until you get to a point where you feel very very confident that this is a character trait you are as good as you can be then move on to the next one then move on to the next character trait that you know you're terrible in you're a typical Israeli that gets angry as soon as they uh you realize that your fli is open as soon as your kid gets in the way of you leaving the house you get angry as soon as your wife says something you can't hear it you get angry so you got you have an anger problem that's the one you have to work on next my friend why because if we leave this world Shalom without working on that mid we're going to show up to sh and say oh yeah you're the idol worshipper from uh from Bon you got angry every day every time you get angry it's considered idol worship you got a problem so you have to start working on anger how do I stop being angry and it's very very difficult but you have to work on it and so on and so forth but the here is that kazal is telling us R Mar telling us that the perfection in one area is preferable to partial success in multiple areas meaning you perfect one Mida it's much better than you being decent at a bunch of them which is a completely opposite of what I've ever learned in my life from self-help books and other things they usually tell you you should be a should know a little bit about everything a lot of a lot of people I say many people pretend like they're smart how first of all they use big words they don't really know what they mean but they use big words so sometimes what did I do to learn these big words I've actually had employees like this and people that you have come to my door and they use these big words and I ask them what do you mean cuz I don't know and he explained it to me and you know sometimes I actually did know or sometimes I'll just check and doesn't mean that um but they what they do is because they are trying to sound smart they start learning the dictionary instead of you know learning it from a book they learn the dictionary it's not exactly the ideal way of learning big words you know just learn big words that people use but nonetheless many people try to or feel like they even smart because they know a lot of different subjects but a little bit about a lot of them so they can hold the conversation and this is actually very common amongst the current generation the millennial Millennials there's you know there's a wealth of information on the internet every Millennial every young kid you know spends 80% of their day in the internet and they read a bunch of different things so they feel like they know everything cuz they know a little bit about everything they could hold a conversation for you know 15 minutes an hour about everything but if you ask them any skill real skill set they have many of them don't have any skill sets you ask them if they could you know wake up and be at work at 8:00 in the morning many of them can't so it's better to say collect the Torah Torah is telling you first be a master of one instead of being a jack of all trades you have to be a master of one Excel one major character trait why why this one character trait because of the whole concept and teaching that we got from Mount Si which is mitvah goah once you have a character trait that's strong that's the foundation that's going to encourage you to build another one because now that you've excelled the mid of money you have zero desire for money you care less to you it's purely paper to you it's purely a hammer like a tool someone needs money you don't ask you don't negotiate just talk this is what it is sounds fair fine good luck to you whatever I deserve a is going to give me you're not wasting valuable Torah time negotiating with people you're not wasting valuable Torah time searching to save $3 you know that whatever you deserve Hashem is going to give you and in reality it's just money the guy says he wants 400 you give him 400 okay so you can get it for 380 okay you can get it for 420 but who cares it's money it's tool okay so I could smash the nail this way I could smash it that way it's going to get there fine let's just do it move on move on move on it's just paper it's not something you're connected to you're not constantly thinking about it talking about it you're not making your life's decisions because money is such a you know big yet in your life oh yeah you want to have a uh you want to get feeling yeah yeah sure sure let's I need do CH okay great so I'll get you which one do you want oh they cost money yeah we're not really at a level where you know we get M from sh or from sh they do people make these takes a year to make aine you want to get a decent fine it's going to cost you some money I mean I don't know a little bar mitzvah boy is going to buy $4 $500 someone that's a grownup usually spends th 2,000 on a serious pair of fine you want to get the bar mitzvah boy $400 you're 35 years old you shouldn't really be getting a $400 pair of unless you absolutely have no money but if you have a regular job you make $60 $70,000 a year you should spend a little bit more than $400 on it is your direct line to hasem I mean let's let's let's start thinking about it it's not a beeper you spent $800 on your phone without asking questions you stand online for a week to get the newest iPhone for $1,000 feel oh come on ,000 you have something cheaper yeah I have something cheaper but 30 years old buddy made $150,000 last year what's wrong with you so if money controls your life you have a problem you have a serious serious problem somebody tells you listen we're raising money for some type of for k for helping people for this for whatever it is oh yeah yeah and you give $20 like it's like a uh like you just gave you a lung what about the $400,000 portfolio you have what it's all in Google take $20 take a few thousand out of it you can't take the money with you when you're so close to money it's going be very hard for you to give it why because if you love money you're never going to want to give it no person in history that loved money was ever generous at least not for the right reasons so now the next question should be how do you explain all of these people that are rich and you know they love money more than anybody cuz they work even though after they have a billion dollars they still work how do you explain that they give so much it's a good question the real answer is there's a benefit to give there's a tax benefit to give so in essence they either give it to the hospital as Charity or to save the Dolphin's charity or something or to save a butterfly from being extinct they either give it to them or they pay it to the IRS so might as well give it to the butterfly and look good and IM media like I'm sadik so it's very important that once you've overcome this Mida once you gotten to a point where you're no longer cheap you're no longer angry you're no longer whatever that mid is you are you've excelled you're a superstar in this mid you got a lot to work on because there's many midot but you have one that can serve as your foundation both to get to the next level to work on the next one plus as your foundation to stay close to Hashem in case Shalom you fall in your CH Shalom you make a sin on chabbat you make a sin with wasting seed you make this sin that sin immediately gets into your head as soon as you make a sin saying ah look you wasted seed once might as well do it again look you turn on the phone might as well turn on the car too actually had one of my students Shabbat never in a life kept Shabbat never did anything we had a nice conversation and said you know what I'm going take on Shabbat modesty and kosher was like modesty by itself is like you want to beg people for two years to be modest she took all three all three at once superhero so she text me Shabbat and she says listen um I made a mistake I uh touched my phone should I have just continued watching TV and you know just or is it better that I went back and you know cuz I didn't continue I just I touched my phone once but I stopped and I went back to shabbat is it better that I did that or I might as well just cancel the whole thing once I violate shabat once then it's all worth it it's all goes into garbage that's what people think no each sin is itself somebody makes one sin end the sin go back to being a sadik go back to being aad okay you touch the phone once okay you l a cigarette once okay you drove once but as soon as that sin is over that's it you start fresh if you turn on the phone or if you go back in the car or you watch TV each why it's a new sin meaning that all of those Geniuses that drive to SCH on Shabbat thinking that they're making a mitvah they don't realize just going to sh they're making millions of a millions and way back they're also making millions for what for one Mitzvah to go to the Sho and let's say a few years saying let's say Amen a bunch of times let's say you made 100 me by going to Sho let's say you made 49,000 50,000 just going to the first traffic light why because according to one of my students who's a uh engineer said each time you turn on the car it's not just one sin because there's a certain amount of RPMs certain amount of speed on the average running a car at normal speed you're making 6,000 fires each time you press the gas pedal press the gas pedal once 6,000 different fires you're not pressing it all once you're pressing it several times by the time you got to the house it's 20 minute ride it's not farfetched to say you made 15 20 million C for what for 100 you understand so first first and foremost we have to realize each sin is separate you make the sin okay is going to get into your head said no might as well not do anything no do what you can and get stronger okay you touch the phone but now remember that okay touching the phone on Shabbat is not allowed lighting a cigarette is not allowed whatever you did is not allowed get stronger for it just like someone that's on a diet someone's in a diet once in a while they cheat they eat a burger okay you're not going to become an animal all of a sudden just because you ate one Burger if you've been diting for 6 months okay you ate a Burger you finished the burger sa and go back to not eating burgers anymore don't ruin six months worth of work because of one Burger don't ruin a whole Shabbat because of one sin okay it's not good but don't ruin the whole thing not the rest of your life of course so it's important for us to not listen to the when it comes into our head and move on once you have that found that that strong mid that's going to serve as your reminder how so when you made that Shalom or anyone that made that sin on Shabbat say but you know what the rabbi did say that my uh anger problems are getting much better I'm not getting angry that by itself just getting that compliment from the rabbi makes it worth it for you to say you know what let me put the phone down let me go back to shabbat oh you know what my wife she was really nice to me this week because I was very generous with her so I guess I'm not as stingy as I used to be two months ago that by itself is worth say you know what let me turn on you know let me just stop watching TV on Shabbat or at all so that strong Foundation that you have that one mid it's very very important that you have it as strong as possible then move on to the next one that's stage one but RAB is saying something else here RAB is saying that Foundation he's giving you details of what the foundation should be so first we learn that you should have a foundation says no your foundation should be having a good eye what's having a good eye I think every single Jew know the verse that says love your brother as you love yourself the ramban comes to us and he says of course hasem who is the creator knows his creation and knows that it's not possible for even the most righteous among us to love every single human being as much as we love oursel once in a while is going to be a guy you don't like and even the one you like you don't like him as much as you like yourself let's be real here we're all selfish and this is in the generation of the ran and the ramban and the ramban is saying this one so obviously hasem he made an eternal Torah he didn't make a temporary Torah and he said you must love your neighbor as much as you love yourself but it's not possible K didn't exactly loveu even though K was supposed to be so what does mean it means having it means being happy for your brother for your sister for your friend for your neighbor for your fellow Jew about what they're receiving in their life the the the grace they're getting from Hashem the Salvation they're getting from hem the P they're getting from Hashem the good they're getting from Hashem just like you would be happy if you got it yourself meaning when your friend bought a car say and really mean it not be one of these people say how do you afford that car maybe his father paid for it no he probably stole it nah it's probably some one of his bank frauds or something n he probably cheated some customer he start coming up with ideas of how this guy's a criminal cuz how could he afford this car and I still have this uh 1956 Buick this guy's a mercedesbenz or whatever they are how could it be that's called evil eye you have to have you see a friend do an extension to his house enjoy you're happy as if you extended your house you see you got a new job got yes that's I've mentioned this many times in the lectures I remember in the past you know I told you guys many times that uh when you have money you tend to get many friends so I used to have many many friends and uh it was very interesting that the topic of conversation was constantly how much money I have or how much money I made and I would always ask people why do you care how much money I have like what difference it make to you or they would talk about somebody else's money talk about I some baseball players money he just signed a million dollar deal or $50 million deal or a billion dollar deal whatever deal or this artist or that artist he has has this money and that one has money in my opinion the lowest form of conversation is talking about other people's money what do you care how much money they have why why is he paying your bills is is is he sending you like a residual check because he signed with the Yankees like what difference does it make that he has money or not if anything now that we learned T I realize how bad it is it's not that it's just a low form of conversation where it shows that you have no collect whatsoever but it actually shows you have you have a jealous mentality you you you think that in essence you should be getting it counting other people's money is the worst possible thing in the world first and foremost it's guaranteed to make you miserable guaranteed because even if you have a lot of money even if you have whatever you consider a lot of money everybody just you know has a different definition of what a lot ofy money means some people think $100,000 is a lot of money some people think a million is a lot of money some people think $10 million is a lot of money in reality in my opinion none of them are a lot of money but that's my opinion the point is that if you are constantly counting other people's money you're going to have a serious problem because you will always find someone that has more than you and you'll never be happy ever because you're always you just got a million dollar deal buddy come on two years ago you were almost homeless you got a million dollar deal yeah but look at uh Bill what's his name he went to he went to Vegas for the day on a jet his $50 million jet okay but he's Bill Gates Buddy's not you just you're Joe from Klondike you're lucky you even have a job buddy it's different you're not him hasem didn't want to make you a billionaire you're lucky you have a job you got a million dollar deal you should be happy you're going to make 20 grand this month n but look he's got a jet look at his car he's got a phantom he spent $500,000 on his car he spent $5,000 on his suit you're going to be miserable for the rest of your life my friend I guarantee it I can't gu guarantee much in life but that I can guarantee you will always be miserable as long as you spend even an ounce of your day an ounce of your day thinking about other people's money you will be miserable for the rest of your life you will never ever be happy you'll be fake happy fake happy fake happy Means that's temporary happy happy when you got your fix you just signed a deal the check cleared in the bank you're happy for a few moments you're happy for an hour you're happy for a day you're happy maybe for a week but over time you get used to it and then it becomes meaningless how do I know I lived it first check I got for $1,000 was the greatest check in the world to this day I remember the pleasure I got because of six months of not having any money six months of living pure poverty borrowing $1 a day from a guy named Dimitri so I could buy a doughnut and coffee 6 months six months of sneaking on a bus six months of M must torture finally got a $1,000 check to me it was the greatest thing in the world 7 eight months later I got $117,000 check great but the pleasure not even close to the Thousand much less pleasure as much as as strange as it sounds but it still I don't know pleasure for a week a month whatever it was few months later I was on vacation in Puerto Rico I called my office I'm like how much money did I make you made 180,000 this month like all right good good and I hung up the phone I just went back on vacation I enjoyed I don't know the 4-day weekend thinking about this $180,000 that I had wasted some money $180,000 for a month I'm 20 something years old 23 years old 24 years old 23 great enjoyed it for 4 days fast forward May 200 six I make $1.6 million in one day 5 minutes after I find out 5 minutes after I find out I made $1.6 million I go back on the phone to work my employees come to me and tell wait didn't you just make a bunch of money to yeah made made a lot of money yeah what's up what do you need why are you still here like I'm working what do you want for my life what what what do you need I'm working like what do you expect me to do zero Joy zero Joy why because I was constantly looking at the top of the food chain he's got a billion I can get two as long as I don't have two this million means nothing so as long as you're counting other people's money not that I cared about their money as far as like I needed anything from them but if you have that type of mentality you'll always feel like you're lacking it's good to be ambitious but there's a healthy one there's a healthy way to be ambitious and it's an unhealthy way most people use it in an unhealthy way where their ambition is looking at car magazines their ambition is looking at plane magazines their ambition is looking at websites or shows like MTV Cribs oh look at his house it's $15 million and they spend half the day talking about 50 cents money or this guy's money or Mike Tyson's money or Bill Gates's money and all these people's money you know what the funny thing is most people that are really rich don't talk about money they talk about deals but they don't talk about money don't talk about oh yeah I bought this I bought that it's usually the new Rich it's the new kid on the Block the new Kid the new money he's the one that talks about money every five minutes the little rapper that just got his first million or $10 million or $15 million he talks about money and all of his songs and it's fun and it's great and God bless you few years from now you may not have any left but the guy that actually wres his check he doesn't talk about money talks about deals talks about like Ambitions and things like that so again there's a healthy way to be ambitious there an unhealthy way of being ambitious and if you have you're already on the right track why because number one you're guaranteeing yourself that whatever you have you're going to be happiness see give us even a thumbs up the train came right on time pun whatever you have you're going to be happy with sis double so that's one of the most important things in your life is to be happy and this is one of the most important things to build that happiness on to be happy with what you have you have five bucks in the bank be happy you still breathing you're still eating you still have a roof over your head should be happy you have eyes you know how how much money people going to spend just to get one eye you know how much money any of these rich people that are blind are willing to spend for one eye one not two eyes one eye that you have endless amount of money you know how much money someone that's crippled Shalom is willing to spend for your legs or how much money somebody's willing to spend for your brain or even your sense of taste how miserable would it be if you were like a snake and you weren't able to taste anything you know how much money people will spent for all of that you're already rich you got to look at it that way got look it in in the right right direction stop counting Phantoms and Ferraris so says the ran says means every time your neighbor your friend your buddy he gets something you fulfill the meaning you're happy for what he got just like you got it that's loving your neighbor that's loving your brother he got a new car new kid yes we have another Jew in the world his wife is prettier than yours you shouldn't be looking but anyway ma whatever he has be happy because what it's saying here is that Hashem is doing it and Hashem says he deserves it whatever he has he deserves maybe one day you'll deserve it too maybe not that's the first thing a good friend now when you think of a good friend in today's world what do you think of you think of somebody's going to pick me up when I have a flat tire somebody is going to take me to the airport at 6:00 in the morning that's what we think of as a good friend that's not a good friend kazal is telling us Rob and telling us a good friend is someone that's willing to offer constructive criticism and corrective advice that's what a real good friend is a good friend sees his friend making any type of sin Shalom a good friend you're tell my friend you're not allowed to drive on Shabbat come stay in my house stay in my house all weekend I'll stay your house house a wolf not leave the house just don't drive that Shabbat hey he's a you can't be with him you're a Jew you're a beautiful Jew you're a princess you're not all to go with him okay he's a nice guy okay he's an AR but he's not a terrorist but he not alled to be with them he's he's not a Jew she's not a Jew okay he's nice he's Italian he's Filipino he's Greek they're all wonderful people but you can't be with them if you're a Jew and they're not good friend's going to tell you that that's what a good friend is how do you know you have a good friend cuz sometimes you have people that all they do is criticize you bring them to your house this never happened to me cuz I would act differently but there was a guy that would go to a friend of mine's house one of my students houses this guy constantly invite him to the house his wife worked hard like every wife to prepare for Shabbat I don't know how people have this I don't know this guy was maybe born in a jungle but the guy gets food he's invited for Shabbat what does he do he complains about the food it's like oh salty oh it's sweet oh it's oh it's this oh it's that me if he did this to my wife I take the foot up in his face what you're coming to my house and you complain about my wife's Food Eat be quiet say thank you leave that's what I think with my animalistic beult the guy's insulting my wife with the food you crazy this guy every week every week every week he'd complain about the food like what a just to watch this let alone experience it so some people just like to complain they complain about everything they complain about the government they complain about the besset they complain about missionaries coming they complain about they complain about all types of things they complain they complain complain complain that's not what I'm talking about here kazal is saying here the one that's going to criticize you he's not going to criticize you because your food is salty he's not going to criticize you because uh you know I don't know some other nonsense you like this team he likes a different team both of which are considered watching any of these stupid Sports point is not going to complain to you about that a real friend is going to tell you my friend you know you get angry too fast and I have this book for you it's called it's called it's called whatever Other M book you have it's a really good book it really helped me out I think you watch it I think you should read it that's a good friend that's a good friend and if you're so scared to tell him that he's an angry little monster he's a little angry little Gremlin then what do you do just send him the anger lecture say listen it's a great lecture what's it about it's great what is it amazing don't give him any definitions just tell them it's amazing change the title if you can if it's called like anger management lecture just change it to happy happy place whatever just send him the lecture have him watch it what is it about it's amazing he'll get the point he'll get the point he'll watch it and the best part about it is that he'll eventually think it's his idea to start working on his anger but don't worry in sh you still get the But if you can't really tell him the root of the problem kazal says that's the test of your friendship meaning the strength of a friendship is measured by its ability to withstand the strain of constructive criticism English if you can talk to him face to face next to him not like from across the room talk to him face to face not over the phone over text not over WhatsApp not over Facebook not mail Facebook face to face and tell them I love you but you have to start working on your anger buddy I love you but you're seriously you should have given that guy a little bit more money you just made $10,000 this month you gave the guy five bucks come on man you could you could handle a little more in your own language obviously my language is not necessarily for everyone but the point is if you could tell him like he it just the truth then you have a strong friendship but if you have a tough time if you're walking on eggshells either next to your friend or next to your spouse your friendship is not that strong your marriage is not that strong now when it comes to marriage M says a good friend is actually referring to a spouse but when it comes to your spouse you can not criticize them the same way you you criticize your friends one the reason is because you won't survive the week your wife will kill you uh probably when you're sleeping uh but really it's a uh it's not healthy for a relationship the one of the most important things for a woman to have in order for her to feel love feel love for a husband is if he empowers her if he gives her confidence she's confident to be herself she's confident in her relationship she's confident in her looks she's confident in her ability and her intellect but if the husband makes his wife feel stupid feel ugly feel fat feel whatever you ruin your marriage if you tell your wife hone I think you should go to my mom to learn how to cook that's the end of your marriage it's the end of your mou you might as well just write the get just pay it already it's the end she's never going to look at you again maybe she'll put poison in your food especially if she's sapharic it's very likely slippers so put the slipper in the food say oh you don't like my food you want like your mom's food okay let me put the slipper in the food let's see how you like the slipper throw it after oh W slipper yeah when we were kids my mom's slipper was like a boomerang God bless her you'll be in the end the room oh waa how did this happen how did it get here she's like three miles away got that got that listen that's the that's the real that's the real discipline oh we ended up pretty good kids but anyway no we didn't get abused but once while get slipper I wish today kids would get some slippers learn how to behave watch there's going to be at least 10 haters saying oh he's advocating beating children is that what what the Torah says so my dad told me what they would do to him in his school how they beat him up there the teacher listen it depends who's beating you but anyway so when it comes to a friend whether it's your spouse or your colleague or your friend the strength of the relationship is going to be determined by how comfortable you are criticizing each other constructively not just criticizing each other you know by making fun of each other now today whether it's in breev or it's in kabad or it's in different movements of there is this concept that's mistaken where many are saying that we really are such a weak generation that we shouldn't really be teaching anything in regards to Mid we really should shouldn't be a uh teaching anything that's um should really shouldn't be teaching anything in regards to it's all loving hem love AEM connect to Rabbi this or Rabbi that and I saying you know is all about loving AEM is all about you know and you know all these wonderful nice parts of Judaism but if anybody actually reads some of these ancient books see it's not exactly that it's not exactly that and I gave you an example in a uh the early late 18 late 1700s early 1800s there was one of the by the name of rabz Papo rabz Papo also known as P was one of one of the major moving pieces of the M movement he's called a Pelle because that was his most famous work called Pelle a m book and he has some other books one of those books is called Y and Y he writes this anyone who sees his friend sinning and doesn't rebuke him she's a friend buddy fellow Jew neighbor whatever sees him drive onab Shalom sees this over here instead of over here sees him eating T sees him doing something doesn't say anything it's as if he murdered him no more no less explain it twice you saw your friend sinning this is aish book this is the real you saw your friend sinning and you didn't say anything you my friend are a murderer that's what the P says at Le who say listen you didn't rebuke him it's not that good he's said you're a murderer not less and he's not saying if you didn't rebuke him forat he's not saying you didn't rebuke him for wasting seed he's not saying you didn't rebuke him for for bringing a missionary he's not saying that he saying for anything anything you see your friend sitting you don't say anything you're a murderer it's aish book we got to start learning these books why is it that most people are so scared of rebuking in this koser magazine called zman it's a very interesting article this month about a strange case a very unfortunate case where a woman had a disease called Munch Housen what Munch Housen is is to think that you're always sick but you're not sick in essence making yourself sick take medicines and do all types of things making yourself sick but usually most people have not munching fors they have Munch hous in proxy meaning they make somebody else sick usually their child child's born 100% healthy but they tell the kitty sick or she's sick and they start giving a medicine and more medicine they keep giving them to bring them to doctors yes his ear hurts the kid doesn't he it doesn't hurt and what is the the doctors they're not always a uh uh you know the best doctors so the parent says the ear hurts they listen to the parents they don't listen to the kid the doctor hears the parents say the kid's coughing all night they're not going to listen to the kid ask him listen are you coughing all night is she lying no they're going to ask him they're going to listen to the parent and this is a horrendous disease it's a mental disorder and this case over here is that this woman had a kid who suffered for 23 years for 23 years the world thought she was sick and the girl herself thought she was sick because of what her mom did to such an extent that they gave her surgeries in her ears in her teeth in her head in different places of our body based on his crazy mother how do they eventually find out that this she's not really sick eventually the mom died and the kid that everyone thought was a uh paraplegic they thought that she wasn't able to walk anymore just got up of the chair and start walking and she left the house and they found her 400 miles away from her house walking where have you been the mom died and I realiz I'm living a life very very interesting article it's a very it's a kosher magazine you're not allowed to read non kosher magazines but this is a very kosher one also some why do I tell you about this Manch and we're going to have a biological class a psychological class even though I wanted to be a psychiatrist when I was in college not going to teach psych why because on Shabbat I had this I'm asking myself all the time what is it about this generation's rabbis that first of all fear rebuking people to such an extent like they're all walking on eggshells when to such an extent that when they see you telling people that Shabbat is considering an idol worshiper they go against you the people accept it they don't like it all the time but they accept who the enemy the rabbi the rabbi goes against you who do you care I'm telling him it's in the Tora did I make it up it's WR Chapter 30 in the r it's there where where else do you want me to quote pick a book any book that talks about Shabbat says it any of them you tell this people no oh it's too much too much M too hard for this generation and I said you know what this is the generation of rabbis with Munch Housen in essence so many rabbis literally believe and are forcing to be sick they're forcing them to consider themselves anim or or whatever other term you want to use that pretty much excuses you from all so we had the Christians for the last 2,000 years that used to be Jewish 2,000 years ago they wanted to forgive themselves for they say listen some dude died and we don't have do any anymore so they start Idol worshiping so now you fast forward 200 years and we've assimilated so much we're starting to do it to ourselves we're starting to say listen his mom was Jewish that's enough what do you mean it's enough he's aab he eats T every day eats a McDonald's he doesn't pray it's fine he's 37 years old theine he has is when he was 13 years old doesn't fit he doesn't know anything he does like this guy doesn't know anything he says it's okay no he givesa why giva it's not going to help him and I actually had a debate and anyone that wants to seriously check it and think that I'm making this up I have this in writing this so-called Rabbi they used to come to my office every week sometimes multiple times a week for years not once did he ever tell me to keep Shabbat not once did he ever tell me to do anything as a matter of fact I even asked him one time can I learn some Torah you want to teach me some Torah you always talk about this Torah that you learn can I can I learn with you he came once we learned one time he never came again after that he just came for to pay his mortgage to pay this to pay that for that he came like clockwork tell me never did telling me that I'm not allowed to be inter married never did telling me anything of any value never so whatever I guess that wasn't his he didn't want to do it he didn't have the guts whatever after I did Chu we started giving lectures we start helping other people do Chua one day he sees my lecture online he contacts me we get in touch we start exchanging uh messages and I ask him Point Blank how come you didn't tell me how come you didn't tell me about Shabbat about enter marriage age but anything CU Oh no you're uh like why am I I'm I am I dyslexic am I my brain not functioning like why why am I because now everyone in this generation is I said but I'm as you can see I'm not anymore I learned to I teach a little bit he goes yeah yeah but you don't have to only this generation has to do is give only that's it you give you're fine this is a rabbi don't think I'm making this up Rabbi has three 400 people come to his place every Shabbat everybody's practically I'm thinking to myself I said you actually believe what you're saying I start providing him verses what does this verse say what does this verse say look at this Al look at this look at this look at this long story show we go back and forth I tell him you know you're you're you're you should stay in your house and never leave stop you know talking to people about Judaism and I said at the end I said wait a minute if everyone's excused like the rabbi say and all you have to do is give and one day you're going to keep Shabbat one day you're going to keep kosher one day you're going to do whatever why does the rabbi keep it why don't you use the excuse yourself why don't you he's not maybe why do you keep why do you not eat on you should eat also you should drive the sh in Shabbat also why do you keep it ah cuz you're a liar go cuz you're a liar cuz you're a businessman you're a con man all you want is money cuz the only Mitzvah you care about is the one that affects your pocket give pocket grows and that's the generation we live in where there's a lot of Shak there's a lot of liars and we have to stay away from them if you're not growing in Judaism you're shrinking if your Rabbi is not rebuking you once a while telling you listen you have to fix this you have to fix that you have to work on this you have to work on that directly or indirectly sometimes they'll be direct sometimes they'll say it indirectly they'll tell you a story about a guy that had the same problem that you happened to have like my Rabbi God bless him I don't know how he does it all I know is that by the time we walk from the Sho to theet when we were when I was in at his house by the time went from the to the to theet somehow one of my midot get fixed all of a sudden I realized oh I have to fix this he never said anything directly but he said something this that there was I don't know what happened all I know is that by the time we got to the something changed I felt that I have to fix something immediately but he never directly said listen you know what you have a XYZ problem never he has his own the point being is that he did something you can't be one of these people say no no just give and everything's going to be fine it's not going to be fine it's not going to be fine so that's one of the things that people need to understand enough with the nonsense enough with the Munch House of proxy we're not a sick generation we can handle mitv if you can Dov we can do mitv if you can learn Torah we can learn Torah okay it's not easy in the beginning okay Shabbat is a little usual in the beginning eventually it's a vacation okay learning to is a little bit difficult at first eventually it's G but don't decide for me what I can or I can't do don't decide for me at the very least be a at the very least tell me the truth a little bit tell me one of my problems don't tell me a list of my problems cuz maybe I'll discourage me tell me one of my problems hey by the way you know I know you drive to sh every day to Nets but if you don't drive on Shabbat it's even better as a matter of fact if you never come to sh again it's better than you driving on Shabbat once don't never come to sh at least don't drive on Shabbat tell me one of my problems tell me something stop asking me for money and earn it what do you think if I become religious I'll stop giving like what's the thinking why don't you want me to be religious why do you have the Munch house and chrum why why do you think I'm sick and incapable of doing MIT I can do it I can put a keep on what's the big deal what's the big deal of putting 5 minutes a day what's the big deal of praying before I eat so I'm not an animal the Torah is not in sh it's not so far that we have to send some spaceship to get it it's not that difficult to keep Shabbat it's not that difficult to keep kosher okay so it's a little more expensive big deal it's not your money anyway hasem gave it to you it's not that difficult to be modest in the beginning it's a little strange in the beginning it's a little hot in the beginning it's a little unusual but what girl doesn't like a brand new wardrobe you get to get a brand new wardrobe and it's a mitvah for your husband to buy you as much clothes as you want why because they're all Mitzvah every time you put a modest clothing on it's a Mitzvah you're walking K it's not that difficult you get used to it in the beginning it's a little unusual to change your life but it's not that difficult who thinks it's difficult not the people the fake rabbis to tell you you can't do it just give Thea and listen to the missionary give us motivational speech it's not that difficult the very least be next good neighbor says a good neighbor he says because a good neighbor is closer than a sometimes is far away friend is far away but a neighbor is because of his proximity could be even more important than the and the reason why is because he sees you every day so he can influence you directly and indirectly directly by being a friend and saying listen buddy by the way it was nice that you cut off so and so on the highway it's not safe and it's also could be plus badot he knows where you're at he's next to you but your neighbor could also influence you by his own behavior cuz you see him all the time just because he's close to you so he sees that when you're when his you know his kids are going crazy he's calm collected okay yes Sarah I love you I understand come baby you pick her up you kiss her she stops screaming you put her down you go to aadya talk to him teach him a few Pim you move on with your life he says oh wow look these kids were screaming five minutes ago now they're come wow I should try that with my kids instead of throwing shoes at them plus the shoes are breaking so you you end up helping the person with the same thing what is it constructive criticism again kazal only cares about your closeness to Hashem in order to get close to Hashem we must work on our midot the AR said without working on your midot there's absolutely no way whatsoever for you to fulfill your mission in this world everything else is worthless if you don't work on your mid so one of the things that will help you be such a good neighbor is going back to the beginning with if you have a good eye then every time you look at your neighbor number one you're going to judge him favorably if you see something if he's known to be righteous if you see something that doesn't look 100% kosher if he's known to be righteous if he's known to be good over an extended period of time you're going to use your imagination that gave you to find some type of excuse of why he's doing what he's doing oh I see him driving on Shabbat okay maybe he's driving his wife to give birth in the hospital Hashem didn't give you an imagination so you can make uh cartoons and Mickey Mouse drawings you give you an imagination to create excuses for other righteous people to give them K to give them the benefit of the doubt so if you see a righteous neighbor driving on Shabbat say maybe he's going to the hospital maybe he's part ofala as a volunteer and he's saving a life maybe you know come up with something but if he's a r you're not allowed to give him k not allow it's actually a sin to give him meaning if you see you see Hitler start giving free sandwiches to people you actually have to come up with an excuse of why he's doing it oh it's probably poison in a sandwich if you see a mean a missionary come toes say Hey listen I'm going to give a lecture to motivate everybody not allowed to believe him why CU maybe he's trying to convert US maybe he's not coming just to motivate us about life maybe he's coming to motivate us about Jesus and the rest of his idol worship friends not allowed that that's why P 17 says you're not allowed to be within four am of him or his place you cannot be within six feet of him standing you're not allowed to bring him into seph T next year you to bring him to a biget because you're not all to give him benefit of the doubt next someone that sees the outcome of the deed one of the main things that people like to read about today both past and present is leadership great leaders who are the great leaders in history great leaders of countries of armies and obviously needless to say great leaders of companies that's why top best sellers are always always the bios of whether it's Steve Jobs or uh the Walton family Henry Ford Bill Gates Warren Buffett and so on and so forth the list goes on and on Everyone likes to read their books about their life and he was a little kid and he delivered newspapers for 25 cents a week and one day he invented this and the next day he went and worked in this and and today he is a gazillionaire it's always the same story it's it's inspiring and people like it and everyone says yeah he's really smart oh yeah he's really this he's really that but there's one common characteristic that all great leaders have both past present and future that's rarely talked about where if you don't have this character trait it's impossible impossible for you to be a great leader anyone want to take a guess huh you see the upcome of actions to be able to see the future to be able to use something called foresight people that are smart hire smarter people that's the best sign that you're smart if you're smart you want to run a business you hire people that are smarter than you because if you're the only smart guy in the company you're an idiot simply said you have to hire smarter people Steve Jobs did not create the iPhone he did not create much of anything in the last 10 15 years he had an idea and the really really smart guys they put it together same thing with every major company whether it's Coca-Cola or it's Pepsi or it's Ford or it's anything they had an idea because of their foresight they saw that there is going to be a need for something specific there's going to be convenience created as a result of their product they saw something in the future not now Steve Jobs knew that not everyone's going to buy a computer today when he first created the first computer or first home computer I should say he knew that not everyone's going to buy it I mean it's any logical person would know that there was nothing to do there's no internet it was a typewriter that was digital you played games on it you played I don't know Tetris or something it almost a practically a useless machine that just fancy but he saw that the more people get it the more likely there are going to be other people involved and create other things and take this internet that was basically just used by governments and make it mainstream eventually he was right eventually all of these leaders were right so it's not that they were in a right place at the right time that's not true it's not about being at the right place at the right time it's knowing where the right place is going to be in order to be there when it happens you want to be a great leader you have to be able to put yourself out there and let everyone call you crazy let everyone call you crazy crazy you're coming up with this who's going to ever use a search engine well it's called Google Now who's ever going to use this who's ever going to use that every major company that ever succeeded was C crazy at one point you must have foresight that's the business advice but the spiritual advice is even more important because that's the advice that's going to decide whether you havea that's a good or a bad one in order for you to use this foresight you have to look at the past at your past at your nation's past and determine what the future is going to be based on that the last time I looked at a girl I walked up to her and Shalom you ended up sinning so better I don't look the last time I went to this bar fill in the blank you know the last time you did XYZ you did this the last time I hung out with Joey and Steve we went to fill in the blank so Joey and Steve are not exactly a not only are they not rebuking me they're making me sin with friends like that who needs enemies you have to look at the past you have to look at what you did in the past the last time you had money last time you had money were you egotistical Maniac or were you generous the last time you had an argument with your wife and you yelled at her did it actually work out to your advantage or did she try to like you know put a little poison in the Chant how did it work out for you yelling at your wife how do it work out for you yelling at your kids they become smart harder they become wiser they got hundreds in the next test or they started failing for some strange reason all of a sudden they became stupid no they didn't become stupid they just lost all their confidence cuz their father yells at them like an animal look at the past look at the past to see the future because that future is going to determine whether you're going to GED or G let's not misunderstand that it's G Ed in or G there's no in between it always was and this is what I believe we're failing at miserably when it comes to the situation in Bon we're not going to spend as much time as we did last week on this issue but there's definitely a few things that people must understand about this situation cuz people ask me why are you doing all this I haven't slept in over a month the bleach me of my own son I was barely able to pay attention to non-stop trying to call different rabbis different places trying to put every energy every ounce of energy that we have to get people to wake up and see this is a to see this is not allowed to see that this should not happen to do everything we can to stop it what do I care what do I care so much that anybody you know some people went against me they saw last week's lecture oh you're saying oh you're rash oh you're this oh you that few people most people saw the truth and are supporting and are even doing even more on their own but nonetheless there's definitely a few naysayers that are saying the opposite am I getting extra money from somebody no in reality I get hurt more than everybody else about this I live there I live in the community I've been going to that synagogue for two and a half years I now have to move I dread moving I don't anyone know I don't think anyone actually likes moving but I actually hate it it's a big waste of time and money money I care less for but time I do I have to move now I'm not earning anything out of this there's no money there's no Fame I only get problems because of all this why am I doing all of this because the problem is much much bigger and riskier and more dangerous than I even mentioned myself in last week's lecture and I believe that very few actually see it because Rabbi Goldberg is not a regular Rabbi he's not your average Rabbi that's leading a Kila of 50 or 100 families or 50 or 100 people he is leading one of the biggest kot in America it's almost a thousand families on top of that he is an AED the head of a bed there's two major bed Deans in Florida he's one of them Florida is bigger than Israel practically he has control over a significant part of that he's not your average Rabbi he's very well known he's very well connected whether it be government or different types of things it's a likable guy I don't have anything against him despite what anyone thinks I think he's making a horrendous horrendous sin I don't have anything personally against him though I hate the sin not the sinner whether it's this or no previous and the point is this is a problem I don't I didn't have a problem with him before that that's why I went to him personally privately the problem is not me against him it's not a it's not like I don't want his job even if they offered it to me I wouldn't want it I don't want to be a rabbi of Aila I never did I never want to be not that I'm even qualified but the point is that it has nothing to do with anything it's not has nothing to do with any self-interest it has to do with the only thing I could say that I may maybe had in a business world that was better than some that made me a decent businessman decent I was able to see the future I was able to see the not obviously future like prophecy not a prophet but I was able to see what is going to happen as a result of certain things happening before even though certain things happened whether it's predicting markets or marketplaces or consumers or laws or so on nothing's changed the fact is that because Goldberg is such a big Rabbi bringing Matthew Kelly a well-known missionary that no one can doubt now because we even have a video online with him saying I'm a missionary and he's training missionaries and he wants to change the world you don't undo a missionary you don't put missionary on hold you're always a missionary when you're a missionary and even Goldberg himself had a lecture a few years ago about Christianity saying himself we have to distance ourselves from missionaries from people that Idol worshippers he said it himself he maybe forgot but he said it now because he's such a big Rabbi this is a big deal if he was one of his little guys if he was shopai that works there I wouldn't even care I try I may be mentioned in a lecture I write a letter or something I would dat two days I'd finish cuz he's affecting himself no one knows who he is and no one knows K it's a small k but when you have an A make something you have yourself a serious problem because every lenient modern Orthodox semi- Orthodox sometimes Orthodox this Orthodox or that Orthodox or reform or conservative or whatever every single sh in America at the very least America if not the entire world will see that a missionary came to a Shool but not just any Sho they came to a Sho run by one of the top Dian in America or in Florida at the very least and they're going to use that as a they're going to use that as this is allowed and what you're going to have is you're G to have Matthew Kelly and his Compadres swamp all of America and pretty much do a tour of every single synagogue in America over the next 6 to 12 months why hey the did it it became it became if I did something like that no one cares who I am he's crazy he's a mish he's a fanatic he's a this he's a that who is he they're going to mention a million and a half things about me but when you're of B you're di you're politically connected Moses same thing it's like we got to mount siai to bring missionaries to synagogues it might as well be so even if Rabbi Goldberg is very confident very confident that no one in his K is going to be affected negatively by Matthew Kelly and his missionary tactics he still can't do this number one it's against Al and we've proven that even from his own video aside from own but aside from that his Ki is not exactly as strong as he says it is because I've already o overheard several people asking about Christianity over the last two years of being there having interest in Christianity already in the last two years and last but not least are you really going to take risk with 6 million Jews in America it's a good it's a good question now why do we fight these minim so much [Music] in seph Psalms 139 verse 22 it says says to for indeed those who hate you oh Hashem I hate them and I quarrel with those that rise against you with utmost hatred I hate them they have become enemies to me a mean an idol worshipper a someone that causes other people to sin is an enemy of hasem no one will lead another Jew to sin unless they hate not only Judaism but they hate God no one is going to tell people Hey listen let's go have a barbecue on Shabbat knowing that you're not allowed to do it knowing that the others are trying to keep Shabbat unless he hates God he's an enemy of hem you look at the end of last few verses hm defin who is considered his hater there his lovers the ones that keep my Commandments are my lovers his haters are obviously the opposite but who's considered his enemy his big enemy causes other people to sin so D says I hate those that hate you they're my enemy the says why is it a mitvah to fight the meim to fight the Christians rais one of the MIM of this generation said that anyone that wants to get to a high level ofus in this generation must fight Christianity must fight idol worship you don't have to if you want to get to a high level of so it's written here in question is why is it aah to fight the to fight Idol worshippers to fight the people that are complete Heretics now here he was really talking about the kites the kites believed in the written Torah but were against the oral tah so someone asked them are we allowed to reprint a book that was written by a kite it's not a idol worshipper it's kite he just believes in the written to can we reprint his book because everything he says in the book doesn't go against the Torah it doesn't go against everything is it's kosher it's about car we're not talking about Idol worshippers talking about carites it's abouta neutral subject agrees with the Torah can we reprint a book he writes in his book you're not allowed to reprint the book it's a Mitzvah to burn it it's a MIT to eliminate it from the world why here the reason so others do not get attracted to their other books because even if this book is 100% kosher even if everything agrees with the Torah even if the Catholic missionary comes to your to teach you m to teach you to teach you to teach you to read the out loud still not allowed because shalom you're ever going to admire him for even a moment and want to connect to him in another way Shalom you're going to buy his other book shom you're going to know his other book even exists so when you look at everything that we've talked about all of the with its or ITS m you see there's no room to move if you go to the prophet mikah chapter 1 verse 7 directly from the book he gives us a little bit of a understanding of hashem's feeling about the subject all of its graven images will be smashed and all of its idolatrous gifts will be burned in Fire and that will make all of its Idols desolate this is one of the prophecies that mik is telling us of hashem's ultimate purpose with idol worship what is this connected to if you remember last week page 16 B and 17 it talks about the story ofos of how he was punished for even considering or enjoying the idea of an idol worshipper that got his idea from got his idea from JC Penney and he said listen I learned this from JC peny what do you think or be didn't even talk to him he didn't respond to him but he said I enjoyed his idea and for that he was punished from shamim where he was almost killed he was almost given the death penalty by the go so what idea did this Idol worshipper give him this verse for they were collected as a harlot's hire and they will revert to a harlot's hire he said to him listen the during this a week he hasn't leave the BET mikdash why don't we get him a new bathroom get him a new bathroom I know you're not allowed to use theban of the Z The Prostitute I know you're not even allowed to benefit out of anything she does cuz it's a filthy occupation you're not allowed to sell a dog and use the proceeds to buy a sheep and give it to the to the bet mdash I know but I learned this from I learned that maybe you could take the proceeds from the zonah from the prostitutes and use it to buy the bathroom to buy the bathroom for the Quang because it came from filth and to filth it's going to support filth what in the bathroom it's not flowers came from filth it'll go to filth andos one of the greatest sages that ever lived the rabbi of Raba says you know what I like the idea for liking the idea he made a he made a sin from the Torah you're not allowed to like it you're not allowed to even compliment the idea or thought process or anything from the idol worshipper to like it to recommend it to complement it not allow he said says why something that comes from a place a source that's impure is impure you can't have kosher milk from a pig can't happen never will you cannot get from an idol worshipper if says it's such a nice idea if one of the other sages actually said it maybe it'll be a mish maybe they will put in it's a good idea it's interesting it's invigorating if you will makes sense makes sense but it came from a place that's to not allowed to listen to it and he had to when the idol worshipper came to him he had to fulfill the mitvah of running away physically running away because in it says you're not allowed to even be within four am of an Ider for am needless to say bring him to your and the reason why is because this is hashem's ultimate goal for Idol worshippers to the beginning of that verse of mik saying that hasem ultimately is going to destroy and smash all of idol worship this is actually also what you say during every you're honoring Hashem but also you're saying that at the end of times you're going to Hashem is going to destroy everything he's going to destroy all of the elim all of the idols and the whole world is going to be as one and see hasem as one now we've talked about many times the horrendous sin of arot of sex crimes where there's promiscuity wasting seed and so on at the end of page 17A at the end of a it talks about an interesting story between and raban who were traveling on a road and they saw it as a crossroad on one end if to go one path it opened up to the door not inside but the door of a church like they would pass you know they would go this side and there's a church on the side of the street they would pass the door they wouldn't go inside the church which you're not allowed to go into they would just pass the door but on they go on the other Road prostitution house but they have to go so one of the sages said let us go on the path that opens onto the door of the idol worship let's pass the idol worship because no one's going to come to us Shalom entic us to sin IM modest woman now have don't have to worry about that why not the idol worship why not the prostitution because it's over there so the other one says no going to go next to the idol worship I'm sorry we're going to go next to the next to the prostitution and not pass the idol worship why because the is of idol worship is even worse the of idol worship is not something that leaves you instantly a woman came before ra and she wanted to do full chuva for all of her sins but this was no ordinary woman this was The Sinner of sins where she said the lightest sin the smallest sin that she had was that one of her sons was the father of another one of her sons sh incest incest even in this generation we know that's not good we know it's disgusting incest she can't him said the lightest sin was that meaning there was much worse and told her they should make shrouds for you immediately because part of our chuva was that she'd have to die and she ended up dying as part of our chva part of our repentance and asks why did she die if it says that really you're not supposed to die for uh uh you know doing Chua you made in it's a horrible sin but the Heavenly punishment is not a death penalty instant like that what's what's what's what happened here my explains because no no that was the least of our sins what was the biggest sin heresy she said that hasem is three like the Catholics she said that some guy died 2,000 years ago and said that the entire Torah is cancelled even though he didn't but he did going against the Tora for that she died for that there was a Heavenly punishment where she had to die that's even worse than incest bringing the flame into the Beet 10 times to fix this now if you remember we learn a mishna briefly not in depth which we're going to get to later on we talked about in the fourth chapter I believe of it talks about all of it says anyone that is a does K that helps people do chuv no sin comes to him chapter five I'm sorry whoever influences the masses to become B to become meritorious shall not be the cause of sin but one who influences the masses to sin will not be given a means to repent meaning the rambam says they will get someone that causes other Jews to sin or even other go but obviously Jews especially causes them to sin causes them to listen to idol worship causes them to go against hasem Shalom they could potentially get the worst possible punishment in this world according to the ramb which means that their will be closed now many people think that I don't know we made this up so there's many places you can find it one of them is in the rim it says this the concept that God will punish a person by preventing V ing him from repenting and withholding the option of chuva is not a foreign one said it's not new it's not a that decides Shalom sometimes to say you not g to do even if you want you're not g to do you can't do you got to there's people that get to the Limit there's people that cross the line however hasem does his says that one he's not going to do CH not going to do that's the punishment and let him continue making sins let him continue living why so he collect more sins so the punishment is greater the ram continues for he meaning ashem for he knows the severity of the sins and his wisdom and Justice determine the nature of the punishment received there are those whom he punishes merely in this world others whom he punishes in the world to come and others whom he punishes in both worlds similarly the type of punishment in this world varies some are punished for their physical p in their physical person some are punished through their finances and some through both of these means some get sick some lose money for example as the punishment God May nullify the possibility of per for a person to function in a certain way in which he could have chosen to function previously he might prevent his hand from functioning as he did in regards to yov or in the eyes from seeing as he did to the inhabitants of Sodom who congregated against lot so sometimes he can punish somebody physically similarly he may prevent the desire for repentance from arising so that he will he will perish in his sins he says sometimes someone gets to such a horrible level with hem such a horrible disconnect with hm he says that the punishment that hasem says I'm not going to allow you to ever have a you're never going to want to do Chu you're going to think you're a sadik you're going to think that what you're doing is aahah being open-minded being sadik being this being that you're everyone you're the sadik and everyone's a everyone's and you're you're not even going to think about doing Chu that's the worst possible punishment you can get in this world better to have 70 years of the that I had for seven years 70 years of them or 70 years of of of course a y one minute of a better to have that than hasem closing he continues later on a few paragraphs forward it says this made it known that God May punish a person by withholding free choice from him you have free choice you could choose to do CH could choose not to do CH choose to have choose not to have as the saying says everything except being righteous or not except having or not except once it's an exception when when hasem says you free choice no more you're going to die rash no more Chu for you very scary this is scarier than any G could give you guys if you actually think about what I'm saying here what the rambam is saying really thus a person will know of this possibility and will not be able to continue leading his sinfully his life sinfully and rely on the option of repentance he says if someone actually understands what we're saying here he's not even going to gamble being a sin anymore and continuing being a sinner because just because there's a chance that Shalom he can get this punishment and all the sins he says no no I'll do chva later I'll do cha when I get married I'll do Chua when I have kids I'll do cha when I move to New Community I'll do chuva when I'm rich I'll do chuva this I'll do chuva that he go no you can't even think about continuing sinning once you realize that this is even an option for hem to use once you realize that Shalom hasem can use this option on you Shalom takes away free choice says you are going to die a sinner you can only lose if you didn't have now you should get it a few say that he uses is in Isaiah 610 interestingly this is a very famous book that a lot of the Christians love to use especially chapter 53 I believe but this chapter here this verse here negates the entire Christian concept because they say that you know he died for our sins everything's okay everything's great all all baloney why you read this verse chapter 6 verse 10 it says makes the heart of the people fat and their ears heavy lest they repent and be healed he says that it makes people their hearts fat meaning they're overly confident their ears heavy meaning they're not listening to anybody they think they're righteous they think they sikim everything is great everything is good why is he why do do that to them why does he give them so much confidence why is the tble think he's smart why does the fool think he's great decided you're not going to do Chua you're not going to convert you're not going to do cha you're not going to be a sadik you're going to die R why because you did cross the line you cross the line too much hasem has love but there a line book of Kings 1ter 18: 37 Elijah the prophet says about the Sinners of this generation he says this and you have turned their hearts backwards meaning that since they voluntarily rebelled they made sins on you know voluntarily like it wasn't like they accidentally turn on the light on Shabbat they turned this light on Shabbat on purpose and not only that they invited their friends to have a barbecue at their house careless since they voluntarily rebelled you punish them by turning their hearts away from the paths of repentance so that would have so that they would have no choice or will or will to forgo their sins and they therefore continued in their denial of God lastly it says this The Obedience and Rebellion are in the hands of man that he has free free choice whether you going to listen to Hashem not listen to hasem you have free choice for that he will do so what he will do what he desires to do and he will not do what he does not desire to do unless God will punish him for the performance of a sin by negating his will as we have explained says yes you have free will you could be righteous you could be Wicked you could decide to go to be on Shabbat walking you could decide to drive on Shabbat thinking you're a sadik even though you're a walking or driving you can decide do what you want you could decide to say listen I was wrong I thought he's a motivational speaker in reality is a con man missionary I thought he was appropriate for a k in reality is the biggest tragedy that ever happened to a if he comes in I thought he would help in reality he's putting at least 6 million Jews at risk every day if he comes here you could be righteous and swallow your cavod and say I was wrong I was wrong I was simply wrong mosu was wrong you could be wrong it's okay it's not the end of the world I was wrong a million and a half times if I count all the times I was wrong I probably have to write a book just about that okay I was wrong but it's my pride so great so big and so important that I'm not willing to say I was wrong and say you know what let me just put 6 million Jews at risk let me just put the let me make this event anyway and show them that it could work out you're really willing to put that on the line you're really willing to put that on the line and actually put six million Jews at risk don't come surprised if sh Clos on you don't come surprised don't be surprised it's things like this there decisions between life and death is decisions between whether we have a good future or a bad future whether it's the Holocaust or the pams or the inquisitions or the mikash the first or the second all of them there was always a point something an event some say it's the between them everyone knows the story one guy came to a party he invited the wrong guy you know he wasn't really invited was supposed to be somebody else got disrespected he left no one said anything whatever the point is there was many other things that happened point being that was the straw the little thing that just broke the camel's back that's it it was too much that was it that was too much all the culminated accumulated accumulated accumulated that's it that was the end but that was an argument is decided it's a good idea to go have a couple of drinks with the we have a couple of drinks with them so what that they're celebrating the BET mdash wasn't built having a drinks he's having parties for six months you tell me I'm not going to go for six months let me go have a couple of drinks it's kosha wine kosher wine they go have a couple of drinks that's it just a couple of drinks no big deal that was it end Hashem brought the Holocaust he brought ham we're going to be celebrating poring very close very soon in next month what was poring about how Hashem had mercy on us and cancel the Holocaust did anybody ever ask why did the Holocaust almost happen was it because we brought a missionary was it because we started learning the New Testament was it because we had all types of idol worshiping no not at all we had a couple drinks we had a couple drinks of kosher wine we did we did we a couple of drinks with the going what's the big deal what's the big deal of having a couple of drinks it's a big deal my friend it's very big deal it's a big deal to bring the idol inside your big net so you have to decide you have to decide if you're able to see the NAD see hey you know what even if there's 1% chance that I'm right 1% not 100% 1% you will to take that risk well many people say a lot of different things I spoke to R ketki today and yesterday he's one of you can call him and ask him if I spoke to them if anyone wants to verify I also spoke to the office of ravanesi yesterday and today and many many other rabbis big ones small ones plenty obviously no one disagrees but what I heard as soon as I started the story to ra ketki it said oh b b is complete desecration because it's horrible and I tell him listen we have a problem that's bigger than I think anyone is thinking because Goldberg is a big Rabbi he's not a regular Rabbi he's big Rabbi he's respected he's honored he knows Torah forgot this but he knows a lot of other Torah this could be a this could be set a precedent said I I agree with you 100% this has to be stopped so at least I'm not some imaginary fanatic you want to call me fanatic call me whatever you want but is Raf ketki a fanatic is Raf kki a fanatic is the a fanatic Ison Ben M fanatic too call him too ask him if I spoke everyone's a fanatic maybe it's just that everyone else sees the NAD sees the outcome of what could possibly be what could even 1% chance be from such an event that could destroy millions of lives not just thousands one of the people that commented on the thread today or yesterday or a different thread that I had on uh one of the posts we had on Facebook I think about raising money for somebody that needed some money asked me to see if I could help them raise money so I posted their uh drive and one of the guys that posted on it says oh you know I'm uh really considering Christianity because they're the only ones that are helping me financially I wanted to die I read the comment I wanted to die that moment if Hashem buried me that moment I would have said oh that's it you're considering idol worship for money but that's how weak we are I can't fault him it's not his fault it's not his fault his whole life he was told he was sick by rabbis that told us that we can't do it and we're weak generation and we can't do this and we can't do that and we can't learn for ourselves and we can't put theine on time and we should do it by 4:00 at least and that makes it fine can't blame him on top of that the church spends over $300 million a year in Israel alone to convert Jews According to some statistic I heard from one of the big kir is in Israel lives in Israel does Cur in Israel he says that they convert over 1,000 Israelis every week a week might just more money point is is we have a we're losing we're losing the battle already we're lose even if we lose one Jew a year one Jew a lifetime time to idol worship we're already losing we're losing thousands I have a student M went got recruited by a missionary 45 years ago 45 years ago he was Idol worshiping and he idol worship for many many years almost 40 years seven eight years ago he woke up started realizing there's something wrong over the last few years start getting much better we you have a problem he's married to a Goya for 45 years you can't just divorce a Goya after 45 years and you can't just tell her listen why don't you convert to fix my account with Hashem what do you think the missionary came to him and said Hey listen let's talk about JC no he said listen you need some money let me help you out let me help with your groceries what need 50 bucks it's on me your mortgage not paid it's on me you don't want some motivation it's on me what else you want free books well free books I got plenty what else you want what does the missionary want your soul that's it just your soul just your soul according to K someone that murders still still has a share of the world to come someone commits murder Shalom he still has he has to suffer for the sin but he still has a share of the world to come but someone that destroys a soul has no share of the world to come and goes to the worst possible place you can go which means that one of these missionaries is even worse than Hitler Hitler killed the body hem is merciful and you have all of those holy Jews in ganeden we're suffering they're in ganeden they suffered in this world enough for all of us but nonetheless they're in ganeden he killed their bodies but one of these missionaries that recruited one of my students 45 years ago one of these missionaries that recruit thousand people a week they're burning souls and we're going to let them go into our house with the back toes how how how does this make sense how does this make sense to anybody all you need to do is to see the outcome of a deed I know it's hard I know go has a very very big battle ahead of him because you have to be either blind or stupid to not see the point by now maybe you missed it in the beginning you made a mistake you didn't see it you didn't know whatever but by now everyone knows everyone knows this is it he's a missionary it's not allowed that's it it's not it's not it's not a secret anymore but now it's a different battle a battle that's an inner battle for him if he overcomes it then he deserves the position deserves to be a deserves to be big Rabbi overcomes it cancels it on his own without being forced to cancel it by one a big letter that's on the way cancels it first thing in the morning or even tonight before he's forced to cancel before there's before there's anything that's gets this into an uglier stage that it already is then your kav's a little hurt people are a little shaky but you didn't put 6 million at risk that's fine but if you're still not willing to do it because it came from me who am I or you thought it came from RAB M and you hate him because of that you're going to put 6 million at risk then you deserve all the punishment that hasm is going to give you I hope he doesn't get any I hope he succeeds his success is our success his success is your success his success is am success all you got to do is see thead and how can you possibly fulfill this mitvah by getting to the last stage that says have a good heart and raanan says that having a good heart means all of them put together if you have a good heart you a pure heart you only care about what Hashem cares about you only want what Hashem wants you only do what's good for the nation you only do what's good for your brothers then of course you're going to go already in a good path of course you're going to have a solid foundation if you have a good heart of course you're going to have a every time you see one of your brother succeed you say mazov you have a new car you have a new wife you have a new house you have a new job you have a new contract you have a new whatever you're happy good makes me happy that's when you have a left to if you have a Le of course you're going to be a because you're not going to be able to live with yourself knowing that your your friend is a you're not going to be able to live with yourself knowing that your friend is going with going with a married woman that's not his and cutting himself from you're not going to be able to live with yourself you're going to tell them I love you that's why I tell you if you have a good heart says of course you're going to be a good neighbor you're not going to watch your next door neighbor go against theem on a regular basis and not say anything you can say something directly indirectly give him a CD give him a lecture send somebody whatever you're going to do something and of course if you have a good heart it's going to be much easier for you to get and see the much easier for you to have and see the outcome of actions because AEM grants knowledge you try learning but Hashem grants knowledge you try learning your gar but Hashem will decide what you're going to remember and what you're going to understand that's why you could read the same a thousand times and still learn something new each time a million times and still learn something new each time cuz hem grants knowledge if give a pure heart pure intentions Hashem will make you see things that are apparent to you but maybe into nobody else and you have to decide whether you going to act on it or not do you want to be that jumped into the ocean saying I believe in hem he didn't bring us to the ocean to kill us he just wants us to show him a little bit of I'm going into the water he jumps into the water and hasem splits the ocean why we had some got some all we need my friends is a little bit of and everything will be fine once you have that Foundation you're going to start working on your midot you're going to start seeing things much clearly you're going to connect to much easier you're never going to feel alone you're never going to feel hurt you're never going to feel anything negative cuz even though life is chaotic and there's only problems but you're not going to see it as problems you're just going to see it as organized chaos you're just going to see it as AEM moving the pieces oh today this car has is missing a fender next week hasem will put the fender back this week the Kaa hates each other next week they're going to like each other this week this Rabbi is about to destroy things tomorrow he's going to make the right decision and say I was wrong it's a mistake or whatever other language you want to use make an excuse for all I care say Matthew Kelly died it doesn't make a difference event cancel we're going to replace him with a kosher Rabbi we all have the Merit to find rabbis like that they can make big decisions like that at difficult times difficult places and help all of us D any questions y'all with your mouth open so I'm hoping that you like question are going to be a little personal personal about what personal about me no about this but we talked about it said you don't want to no no no we don't go I'm not listen I again personal insults about him or about anyone else I have a book full a book it's not going to help anything because it's not a personal battle it has nothing to do with what I feel about him what I feel about another Rabbi or anyone else has nothing to do with it it has to do with if I wanted to be a personal I would have already done a lecture a month ago has nothing to do with it doesn't make a difference as I told you for I don't have anything against the guy there is a rabbi I have a problem with over there but it's not him it's not him he's nice we actually were friendly he even invited me to his house when he first moved to the community I have no problem I don't agree with some of the things he did signing a letter against RAB mrai having this horrendous of of a lecture having a few other lectures in the past I don't agree with some things he did but it's not personal there decisions that he made so for me to disclose information that I know that most people don't know first of all it's not allowed why because even though I have at least two witnesses to every single thing that I have it's a uh what purpose is going to serve I mean the reality of it is that it's it will serve no purpose two it'll it could you know it could destroy lives and people take it personally turn this battle into something that is not and the reality of it is that for what it's I'm not here to destroy lives I'm here to save lives you know so as far as going back and forth hey you're stupid hey you're funny hey you're ugly hey for what what my little kid all I want is the event canceled all anybody should want but he's is the event canceled huh he's a stubborn one stubborn I'm have to personally walk I'm hopefully it doesn't listen I hope I hope you get the point put it that way I hope they get the point it's only gotten worse every day I think that he's working for the mission that this Rabbi I I don't want to hear it I'll cut this part out of the lecture it's not it's not that's not that's not my that's not my field I don't speculate only thing I've talked about a fact I've talked about facts I've proven that Matthew Kelly's a missionary I've proven that it's not allowed in the Torah not I proven it's in I you know we've proven that this is even Goldberg knows this he said it himself we've proven every single point for anyone to still have this lecture is only coming and after seeing all of this is only coming from a bad place it's only coming either from GAA or some type of financial Arrangement or whatever other bad place which I hope is not the case if it is like I said before every punishment that they get they deserve but if it's not then there's no reason to have it just cancel the event and that's it it's the end it's the it's over he even converted a Jew a month ago to yeah yeah they converted Jews they they have a lot of success unfortunately converting Jews because they give a lot of money away but the point is is that we could still cancel the event it's still not too late and that's it that's it as far as my personal issues personal this who cares who cares about me who cares about my feelings who cares about how there's one guy from there that uh pretty much all he does he created a fake profile calls himself I think David Rosenberg it's a fake profile s and all he does all day is insult me all day all day just writes insulting comments oh you're this you're this all day start learning how to block people what do tell you want to insult me have fun I don't care just how to block people CU I see that no I can't I I actually specifically wrote a wrote a comment saying I am not blocking him I'm intentionally not blocking him number one it's because his insult to helping my so it's good to get insults uh two maybe he's going to there's still other positive comments people are talking Tora so maybe he's going to see enough T and do CH number three there's so much foolishness coming out of his mouth or his keyboard that he's actually making our case even stronger I think I know who it is by the way but it doesn't really make a difference so whatever he wants to insult me all day a couple of other people want to insult me all day enjoy you want to have the Dana Cohen and the rest of the that went against ra M for the last few years they want to make insult me they want to take clips of my videos I actually post their Clips they take clips of my videos and they you know they misw things like they call them a different title so I take their Clips oh it's a good clip I post it also why I say anything against the Torah if I say anything against T then I deserve all the punishment I get too but I'm not I'm saying everything I read the book this you see read the book I didn't make anything I read the book I read this book I read that book I read this book that's it they're making to becoming indirectly those people are cutting a cliff short listen Al they'll have the so they could actually do listen I don't care I'm not here to earn enemies I'm going to earn enemies regardless because Satan doesn't like M but uh listen I even had uh somebody that uh embarrassed me in public and um went on and on and on and on about a misunderstanding and continued embarrassing me in public and really he wanted me to apologize apologize to him for something I didn't really actually do I said okay all he wants me to apologize to him okay I apologize to him why I said because if I don't apologize to him he's going to ruin his by continue to go against me in public so okay you want all you want your ego wants apology okay I'm sorry sorry that's all you want okay I'm sorry say settle you down I'm sorry Rabbi go I'm sorry Shai I'm sorry sorry I'm sorry to everyone I don't care all I care about is AEM that's it and that's what people need to understand many people from the community from the community listen listen very carefully to this it was worth it to come to this lecture just for this many people from the community reached out to me and say to me I agree with you yes good job no one said like at least that didn't reach to me directly hey or I don't agree with you pretty much anyone that reached to me and people I don't even know supported it some did it in an alias that didn't give me their real name some gave me their real name and became friends with me on Facebook on this on that whatever good job for doing it I said okay so why don't you speak out you're in a community you're much bigger than I am I'm nobody you maybe you donate maybe you this maybe do that speak out do something no no no I'm uh I'm stay behind the scenes why no I don't want to disturb this I don't want to disturb that I don't want to disturb this and I'm thinking to myself everyone is scared of Goldberg but no one's scared of God rabbis reached out to me yes okay okay speak out write a letter do something no no he's a big Rabbi he's who cares big hasm is not big he's making a mistake made a mistake so what he made a mistake cancel it that's it it's the end you want to make me the kban make me the kban just cancel the event cancel the event doesn't make a difference what you do just cancel it so we don't have 6 million kot that's what people need to understand has nothing to do with me has nothing to do with M has nothing to do with anybody has to do with is has to do with you do what hasem wants you're blessing you do what your ego wants you deserve all your punishment that you're going to get made another made a video to about Goldberg he put out oh he did it on his own he did it on his own thank you for coming uh we'll talk we'll talk about the uh sh um what's his name Rabbi Koffman kofman umab kman he actually made a video he saw the situation and he decided to throw his hat in I know he's a rabbi he deals with a lot of conversions he's in Israel he's located in Israel uh I know some of his work and we have some mutual students I don't know him personally actually just met him recently uh but he decided he saw what was going on and uh he has some Y and he decided to throw his hat in and uh say something listen it's a uh it's a horrendous situation it's difficult it's not going to be for easy for anyone um but it has to be canceled and like I said before it's not I'm not I'm not a man of threats but I could make one promise it'll only get worse if they don't it'll only get worse I said this from the beginning I'll say it again there's no reason whatsoever there's no valid reason to have this lecture this person Matthew Kelly or any missionary or any Idol worshipper in any synagogue let alone in a synagogue that's Orthodox or modern Orthodox or any Orthodox or anything um and we've proven that based on based on their own words based on our words based on whatever thing you want there's no reason which means that if it happens it's can only be bad bad bad Source you know it's coming from a place that's T so if that's the case then you know we'll have to use whatever measures we have to to uh to to stop it obviously nothing violent and again for any The Crazies that are watching this that are thinking of anything violent I'm specifically telling you do not do it that will be a big no violence no violence don't beat up anybody don't break anyone's legs don't slash any tires we're not KKK we're we keep and we work with our mouth and with our prayers our mouth to study our mouth to speak our mouth to pray that's it pretty much that's it that's really all that's the only thing you need no violence we're not a violent Nation we weren't ever and we're not going to be so despite what the uh Palestinian uh sympathizers say uh so no violence no one be violent no one threaten no one anything KY is STO the event protest in a million ways doesn't need to be violent we have to stop recently swasa on a car there okay swasa was on a car a few days ago Shabbat I think Shabbat someone so they're already getting anti no anti-Semitism has always been here anti-Semitism in Florida anti-Semitism in America has been here forever it's it just so happened that there's a anti-semitic uh act a hate act uh this past week on on Shabbat one of the uh Rim uh Nazis decided to put a swasa on a car and uh you know scare the living you know lights out of some of the people in the community and it's sad because it's funny on one end that they're scared of a swastika but you know we're not scared of Hashem enough to cancel this event uh on another end where do you think it came from they're just Messengers Hashem moves the pieces signs signs we always signs there always Messengers nothing just happens nothing just happens you know the uh says there only there's three things that would surprise a person one is finding a wallet full of money two getting uh uh not uh what is it uh stung by a scorpion and three mashia so the question is what do the three things have like what's what's the connection between a wallet a scorpion and mashia mashiah comes everyone's going to be surprised the go the Jews everyone's going to be surprised everyone but the surprise is going to be feel like this if you're righteous you did you destroyed your own cavod in order for to honor hashem's cavod it'll feel like you just found a wallet exactly when you needed it full of money full of bills and doesn't belong to anyone it's yours to take feels like a great wallet to pay the mortgage the rent and even enough money for Yesa if you're not it's going to feel like the Scorpion problem is with the Scorpion instead of kills it's very painful and it kills so that's what it's going to feel like so most of us start preparing already now so we feel like we're finding a wallet when mash comes time we succeed anything else amen amen [Music] [Applause] [Music] la [Music]