The Day You Discover That Everything Is Love | Women's Class - Sfas Emes Vayigash

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do that so our participants on zoom canosa can also follow along today's class is dedicated by our dear friends liz and dr michael michelle in loving memory of her father whose 21st yard site is going to be on the 11th day of tavis this coming shabbos harav israel yitzhak khalevi who passed away 21 years ago on the 11th day of tavis rabbi irving levy zachrona lovraka was one of the founding fathers of the muncie community when he settled back in 1952. he was an exceptional talmud scholar an extraordinary balches a person of benevolence generosity and kindness who built together with his wife of blessed memory a beautiful home and an exceptional family he helped countless people with charity with zidaka an invaluable life guidance career advice marital advice financial advice he was a life coach and a social activist and asking before these terms were known he made weddings for girls who had no one else to help he established careers and life direction for those who were floundering he helped so many jews who found themselves in desperate situations and had nowhere else to turn a legendary balches tahinish and a good better for his entire family la riches and i thank our dear friends liz and dr michelle here in muncie for their friendship and partnership please open up your source sheets and we're going to begin today with a few verses in mishlai chapter 6 of mishlai proverbs perigov begins this is the advice of the author of mishla king solomon let's look inside at his words mishla chapter six i read beni my son imaraftali raya taghatta if you have stood surety for your fellow given your hand for another we'll soon explain what this means you have been trapped by the words of your mouth sneered by the words of your mouth do this my son in order to extricate yourself kiwasa because you have come into the power of your fellow this is what you have to do go humble yourself and badger your friend give your eyes no sleep and your pupils no slumber he nuts save yourself like a deer out of the hand of the hunter like a bird out of the hand of the trapper of the fowler what is mishla chapter six talking about let's look at rashi says rashi benimarafta aravuz my son if you have stood surety our sages explained this as referring to monetary irves you have decided to become a guarantor to a lender to pay up somebody else's loan somebody needed money they came to a lender the lender doesn't want to give them the money without an array without somebody to guarantee and secure the loan you have accepted upon yourself the responsibility you have assumed the role of an aurav arvos is a guarantor an area in order to pay up the other person's debt and now what happens the borrower did not pay the money you have stretched out your hand for a stranger in other words you have taken his hand in friendship and assumed responsibility for him but he never paid so what should you do you have made commitments you have made commitments and now the burden is on you you have this huge debt to pay so what is giving advice to his son if he did this if he fell in so to speak to this trap apparently it wasn't such a it may have not always been such a kosher situation you would maybe trying to be a nice guy or whatever but you got stuck what should you do says rashi hater pass it's a combination of two words this rapper says hater pass open the palm of your hand for him to pay him his money in other words make sure don't remain indebted to people for years and decades and centuries and lives you don't want to maintain negativity and grudges open up the palm of your hand and make sure you pay back your money history means go humble yourself but rashid says it's a combination of two words hater pass go and pay back the money literally it means give your fellow superiority extol what if there's no monetary issue it's not like you promised money you accepted that you're going to pay money and you never paid you fell short but it's only an issue of words maybe you insulted him you got trapped by your mouth saying the wrong thing something rude and sensitive obnoxious selfish apologize and if need bring many friends to ask him to forgive you he says it means extol your friend and she says what it means is bring many friends in order to get him to forgive you make men's this is the advice that the brilliant man king solomon shlaima malik is giving his child about civil about human relationships says there is another way of interpreting these verses they are allegorical beneath my son source page page two in the sources if you have become a guarantor for your friend it's not if it's a fact since you have become a guarantor for the creator of the world because he is considered your friend kadixiv in the song of songs chapter five we define hashem as my beloved and my friend are after you have become a guarantor you undertook at sinai and in the plains of maiev with a with a complete commitment and an oath to observe his commandments you have become a guarantor guarantor makes a commitment that i am going to pay this loan you made a commitment to the creator of the world that you belong to him that you are going to be a conduit for his love and energy in the world and he's considered your friend takata is our capex but now what happens you have given your hand to a stranger shatasha of a taser of a titiba precursor you turned away from your commitment and you may have clung to heresy and to follow the ways of those who are not aligned with the will of your creator says you have been trapped by the sayings of your mouth you have given your hand to cling to strangers let me give you my dear son advice since you have come into the palm of your friend at sinai you have come into his palm and you have accepted his godliness on you you have become a guarantor lay his rappes go humble yourself he cannot the fun of cascopa addresses humble yourself before him like the threshold become completely humble a conduit for him she is and bring other friends many friends who will pray for you before god this is how the madrid explains these verses hasten and extricate yourself from there like a deer that extricates itself from the hunter's trap you ever see a deer running away from the predator who tries to kill it or trap it if you ever saw the the antelope of the gazelle the deer running away you be you be that deer run away this is the second interpretation so rashi presented two interpretations to these opening powerful verses of michelle chapter six one is it's dealing with human relationships i have taken a commitment and now i wanna back out because of obvious difficulties and challenges i didn't realize what i'm getting into he says no don't run away from the situation deal with it pay back your loan you insulted somebody make men's you need to bring in other people to make peace let it not be beyond your dignity the dignity of friendship and of honesty and of loyalty and of maintaining good relationships trumps all else not bad advice in life if i may say so not that slammer needs my agreement but we all know that it's very bad good advice how do we know it's good advice because it's difficult sometimes it's difficult to do we sometimes choose to be right rather than to be happy and honest sometimes the ego or the fear the insecurity triumphs over the deeper need and yearning for integrity and wholesomeness and authentic relationships and honesty in life that's advice number one one perspective the second perspective is talking about our relationship with the creator of the world you have become a guarantor to follow hashem's path at sinai you're going to live a certain way and then sometimes i get trapped my mouth traps me my behavior traps me and i give a stranger in my hand so he says get out of it accept you have given your your your friend hashem is your friend his hand so what does it actually say it's time to humble yourself and if you need to bring in other people to help you in the relationship do this why am i mentioning why are we learning chapter six of proverbs today and by the way right after that goes and gives advice to go learn from ants how to live learn from ants what it means to be agile what it means to be to have perseverance what it means to transcends transcend laziness that's the continuation of this chapter in proverbs but that's for another class why are we learning this today because of a fascinating medrush right in the opening of parasha's vagis chapter 93 section one in medusa valley quotes these verses in misle and in a fascinating commentary applies these verses to one particular incident in the genesis of our history and that's of course the history the the story described in vaiisha from the cates and vegas let's recall this aspect of the story yosef became the viceroy of egypt his brothers come down to purchase grain in egypt because they have no food there's a terrible famine all over the fertile crescent they don't recognize their brother their brother says and accuses them of being spies he wants them to go back there to stroll and bring back their baby brother binyamin their father does not want to allow binamin to go because he has already lost his other brother yosef and shimon has been imprisoned by yahushua so he really refuses to let binyamin go but everyone is starving and that's when yahudah considered the king of the tribes the lion goes over to his father and says give me binyamin i will become his guarantor this is the first time we find the guarantor in the tanach i will be the guarantor miyaditevak you will demand him from my hand if i do not bring him back to you if we take him to egypt and i don't return i will be considered a sinner to you my entire life and yaakov ultimately acquiesces and he gives binyamin to you the yum and the baby brother to you he wasn't such a baby but he was the youngest brother and indeed it's not so simple because as we know joseph has his personal silver goblet stored stocked hidden in the sack of binyamin and he is caught and he is arrested and brought back to egypt and the prime minister of egypt joseph says let him remain here as a slave because he stole my goblet and you go back to your father and that's where pause begins yehuda approaches the prime minister of egypt who is really his brother yazoo but he doesn't know it and he repeats the whole story and at the end he says i cannot go back to my father without this boy i have taken responsibility i am the guarantor and my father will not survive losing another child binyamin and therefore i will be your slave let binyamin go back home to his father i will become your slave because i cannot go back and see the pain of my father when he discovers that binyamin is going to remain in egypt as the slave of the prime minister and that's the moment that joseph can't contain himself in the malayah sapic and he discloses his true identity to his brothers i am joseph is my brother still alive comes the madrish and in a very interesting and intriguing and fascinating interpretation says yehuda is the first guarantor that's what shlaima malik is referring to let's see the madras beni my son if you have become a guarantor for your friend zed yehudah this is an intimation to you who told his father only here venue i will guarantor the boy takata lazar you have given a stranger your hand you have given an oath you know you give somebody a hand representing a deal an agreement of a respectable person you don't go back on a handshake takata lazar kappa you have given a stranger your aunt me yadi tavakshanu remember he said from my hand you will demand me you have given your yakov your hand your commitment you became trapped through the words of your mouth you told yaakov i don't bring them back to you i will remain a sinner to you all my life you became trapped by the words of your mouth you said that you will bring back beyond under all circumstances no matter what happens even as it turns if it turns out benjamin so to speak stole the prime minister's couple it's not your fault that he stole it of course they didn't know that it was all you know pre-orchestrated by the viceroy of egypt they thought yamana indeed stole it but they didn't know what happened so you got trapped by the words of your mouth so he says this is my son what you have to do to save yourself to extricate yourself lei what does he say his wrap is go humble yourself and go turn your friend into a king rahav extol him make him great badger him surrender yourself to him go become his doormat go knob go go go connect to the dust of his feet meaning go humble yourself completely and plead with them accept his kingship and his rulership of yehuda that's indeed what yehudah does he approaches joseph completely surrenders and humbles himself to joseph goes through the whole story and says i will become your slave. so the medras sees this advice that a father gives a son in proverbs chapter 6 as referring to the story of yahudah becoming a guarantor for benjamin and then pleading with the ice of accepting joseph as the king and saying you're the ruler and i will become your slave but please let my baby brother go back home now it's very obvious that there is an interesting stroke of of genius or certainly a very intriguing similarity the medra sees and says oh this works perfectly with yahooda but what really do we gain from this insight so now we know that in proverbs when our father tells his son go make sure to pay back your debts and if you become a guarantor you stay true to your commitment okay this explains what happens to you that does it give insight into the story of you then so does it give insight into the advice of muhammad what do we gain from this connection from this uh synthesis or juxtaposition combining together these these two events i want to introduce another madrish in the same chapter madrid chapter 93 section 11. take a look one of the greatest sages of the second century after the common era says who was a human being a flesh and blood and yet when he rebuked his brothers they could not withstand it without who is the ultimate judge who sits on the throne of judgment and who judges every individual certainly no mortal human being will be able to withstand god's rebuke asks us to reflect on a story in vaingas and draw from this a lesson into our own responsibilities to god the big question is joseph never rebuked his brothers in fact they were terrified when he disclosed his identity to them it says they could not speak nivhalu miponov they were astounded they were they were they were shocked they were terrified and you have calmed them down and he said don't be depressed don't be despondent don't be melancholy you didn't send me god sent me here to be able to save the world to be able to save you come back with your families bring my father yourself didn't rebuke them your blessing says if they couldn't deal with the rebuke of yosef how are we going to deal with the rebuke of god what is the meaning of this please go to page 3 in your source sheet now we begin the explanation the explanation is based on the hasidic work known as fasemas svasemes i've mentioned quite a few times is one of the classic hasidic works on humish there's also a commentary on gemara and shaas known as fassems by the same author was authored by rabbi yehuda arya leib alter the second rebbe of the hasidic dynasty of ger or gur hezed his grandfather was the hidushi harim rabbits mayor alter who passed away toughrey and he raised a label alter he was an orphan his mother died shortly after he was born then his father died so his grandfather the kidus harim the first gary reber raised him and after his grandfather's passing a few years later he was still very young he became the gary rebecca known as the swasemas he was born in 1847 in warsaw and he passed away in 1905 heishvat tophish january 11th 1905 in the city of gur which is approximately 25 kilometers or so south of warsaw sva semester's commentary on humish is very short very brief very concise very cryptic it contains extraordinary gems of insight and it follows the pattern of the teachings of the balsamic and the students in the world of exodus and here i chose a piece from the semester it's from the year tougher islamic base he said in islamic base that would be take a look inside it's brief it's short it's hard to understand it needs to be deciphered let's try to decipher it together it has life-changing advice he quotes the madrish you already know the whole madrish i gave you the background we learned the madrish about the guarantor we learned the madrish about the rebuke of yosef let's see what this facebook says but madrish the madrid says benihuli or he's basically quoting briefly a few words from the matters which we already learned about yehuda being the guarantor on a bilateral level it's a very technical madrish yohoda made a promise deliver on it but as i said there has to be some deeper connection what is the matter is really trying to teach us says this fascemas and i quote kiho adam nivra le karev hakkoi la hasha mizbarak a person was created with a purpose and the purpose was to align everything with the oneness of the world with hashem everything is really one everything is part of divine of the divine reality but this is the human being's job to reveal it to bring everything close to show that everything is part of god every person every creature every existence every aspect of life we make uh you drink a cup of coffee as i'm drinking before we drink before i started to drink we make a blessing blessed are you god our god the king of the world for everything came into existence from his words not only the water the water as well but everything else the job of a person is to bring everything close to hashem because of the posix says tells us god actually made a person straight a person naturally organically is aligned with his or her inner core there is a seamless flow between your innermost divine core and you there is a oneness he made you straight he made you a line but but then our brains often take us down winding paths as we seek adventure that can distort our vision of reality if a person would not go off and compromise his or her true energy the organic state of a person is completed vegas complete intimate oneness and alignment with hashem we're part of hashem the expression of the zoya israel everything really is an aspect of divine energy so the organic the wholesome the natural state of a human being if you can have an x-ray into your soul into your brain an x-ray into your 70 trillion 70 approximately 70 trillion cells and with each cell the natural organic state of human being is vacus alignment with your that's the meaning of the words starts the possibility says right you remember the first source what was the opening verse of michelle perigevov the opening basic literally if you became a guarantor to your friend who is your friend hashem why is he called your friend zaire zeddy he's your best friend a friend is your closest ally you're one with god he's your best friend rashid says hillel told the convert the non-jew wanted to convert teach me the whole torah on one foot he asks hello what does it will say what you dislike to be done to you don't do it to your friend so rashid says one of the interpretations who's your friend hashem like we see like he says you are naturally aligned and connected to holiness to sacredness to divinity because of your own root because of the core the root of who you are your soul your soul is a piece of god a fragment of infinity you have become a guarantor for your friend but it's not a stranger who becomes a guarantor it's your best friend because you're really one you're really connected this is who you are you are divine you are god's ambassador in the world to reveal the oneness of hashem in the world because you are an aspect of that oneness and you are an ambassador of that oneness as we always as we talk about pretty often um wonderful words and therefore the whole world is your best friend the whole world literally saying is subservient to you now we have to understand what he means i mean the whole world is observing you doesn't mean i should become a narcissist it means when i am truly an ambassador of the divine when i realize that who am i i'm an aspect of hashem i'm sent by hashem into this world to reveal the oneness the whole world is singing with me the whole world is really god's world so the whole world is my best the world is my best friend everything in the world is here to assist me because who am i i am not detached if i become a detached person if i become fragmented if i lose the plot if i become disaligned with the truest nature of who i am in other words with my inner infinity then as we will see the world becomes a very difficult place for me but when i am truly loyal to me what does it mean i am part of an array of i'm an arab all jews are guarantors for each other which means we're responsible for each other as famously says in zoya you know i'm in a boat and i can't make a hole in my corner of the boat and says this is my bedroom this is my bedroom in the titanic it's none of your business i could make a hole in my boat the problem is a hole in my boat causes the boat to go the entire boat to be endangered what does our raven mean we're not only guarantors for each other there's a reason we're guarantors for each other because we're mixed up with each other i rave him famished and of course he also gave the interpretation i rave him from the word sweet vahrehv array the sweet so the valhamtev said one jew experiences sweetness when he or she meets another jew i rave him when you see a jew you want to feel sweetness you know when you're drinking your coffee or your tea and you need your sugar cube to be able to make it sweet if you're allowed to have sugar or if you like sugar you want sugar he says you see another jew ah this is my sugar cube i rave it sweetens me he says my sugar cube it sweetens my life i see your drew ah why because i rave him zabazza because we're integrated we're one if i don't like you it's because i don't like me my essence i rave himself and therefore we're guarantors for each other so that's what's faster says you're a guarantor for god doesn't mean you're a guarantor for god you're one with god you're god's man in this world you're his ambassador in the world and the whole world therefore is part of you the whole world is here for you the whole world is a year for you to be able to fulfill your purpose your mission the world is your best friend ah this is a very idealistic statement right says ah de mai segasmi but sometimes a person becomes disaligned with who he or she is and instead i become doverk i become addicted i become entrenched in behaviors in a lifestyle in thought process that are alien to my truest spiritual infinity viset takata lazar i give my hand to a stranger is this is where the person's passion and addictions and cravings and yearnings become entrenched in things that are not productive for you they don't promote your oneness they don't promote your well-being they don't build your physical emotional psychological spiritual financial identity they don't allow you to live as an ambassador of infinity in the world as an ambassador of god what happens is i take my hand i take my heart i take my passion i take my commitments and i sell them i surrender my soul to pursuits or to thoughts that are not good for me they're immoral now sometimes it's done in a premeditated fashion but really very often it's done because it's my survival skills i don't even know i don't even know who i really am and i need this to survive i think i need this to survive ali desa nirmalay hakka and what happens now is instead of the world being my best friend everything appears as dark as a struggle as adversity as my enemy ki paul adam yoshulam the verse says in job and if we create our energy our energy creates what comes to us in other words i unleash a certain energy in the world based on my behaviors and my thoughts and that's what comes back to me paul adam what a person creates you shulam lai it comes back to haunt a person so this facemas is saying something very profound he's saying when i realize that i am divine i realize that i'm infinite i realize that i'm a messenger of god in this world to reveal the oneness in the world the whole world is smiling at me it's like that story i once told you it's a great anecdote about this boy who would go to school every day it was just a few minute walk so he would walk there and walk back one day it started to rain in the afternoon and there was a thunderstorm so the mother didn't want that her son should walk home alone so she drove to the school but she sees he's not there anymore the teacher said that he lent her ready started to walk so she starts driving on the road past from the school to the house to try to find him and get him in the car and she sees he's walking slowly and he's in such a cheerful mood and every time there's a lightning he looks up and he smiles so she opens the window she says come in come in he says no i'm enjoying the weather i want to walk home she says why are you smiling he says god keeps him take god keeps on taking pictures of me so every time god takes a picture i look up and i smile he saw the world from a space of alignment of unity the world is smiling at me and this fascema says it's true because you're the ambassador of the creation of the creator to reveal the creator in the creation benefit as the expression of the balatanga to reveal the kayechapel beniful to reveal in everything its true soul so you see everywhere that opportunity because the whole world is really god the whole world is an aspect of hashem the balsamic said god is als is god hashem is everything and everything is hashem there's nothing outside of that reality so when i am aligned with that reality i see everything as part of that reality it's here to help me flex my muscles and achieve my purpose in one way or another when i detach from that part of myself takata lazar instead of being a guarantor to my best friend instead of being a guarantor become being one with my best friend what does it mean my best friend my biggest ally in the world interesting god is called my best friend not many people not not everybody defines god as their best friend how do you tie the fine god but this is what the possible says in mishla this is what the puzzle says this is what the basic says this is what the gemara says in shabbos god is your best friend your best friend means the one who wants you to succeed the one who forgives you the one the one who wants to see you maximize your life the one who wants to see you live life to the fullest that's your best friend that's what a good friend is fagin wants your success i was interviewed the other day by somebody saying so he he asked me how do you know who to ask advise by how do you know what ask advice but i said it's a good question but the first prerequisite is somebody who wants to see you fly somebody who wants to see you succeed somebody who wants to see you live the best possible life on every level that's the first prerequisite extremely important so hashem is defined as my best friend instead of becoming aligned with my best friend meaning with my truest yearnings and essence because a best friend is out for me not for him instead takata lazarka instead i surrender myself to a stranger a stranger who's basically not interested in me but somehow i feel that this is where i'm going to get the source of my nourishment because if i can't feel that if i'm not aware of that powerful connection if i'm not aware of who i really am so now i'm looking for myself so this person becomes addicted to binging and this person becomes addicted to gambling and this person becomes addicted to screens and this person becomes addicted to other things that i don't have to mention and this person becomes addicted to alcohol and this because becomes addicted to nicotine and this person comes into destructive substances this person becomes addicted to compliments this person becomes addicted to criticism this person becomes addicted to fear shame self-loathing insecurity what happened i sell myself i give myself away to a stranger my passion my craving my heart was now eaten up somewhere else and you know what happens now now basically i'm living in a difficult world i'm living in a challenging world i'm living in a dark world there's so much darkness around me a classic example for this is what happened when they sold joseph because they sold them and they distanced themselves from his brotherhood they made believe he's a strange even though he was a brother they could not get along with them and therefore they sold them suddenly here in this story he appears as their enemy really he is their brother wow you get what is saying here yehuda is approaching the prime minister of egypt he thinks he's speaking to his enemy if you would ask who are you speaking to he would say i'm speaking to one of the toughest tyrants in the world somebody who accused us of espionage somebody who has been torturing us and persecuting us and abusing us the majority indeed says how yahudah was planning to kill him and destroy egypt they saw joseph as their enemy as their nightmare here is the man who is their nightmare again and again and again what was the truth the truth is he was their brother and indeed when he reveals himself as we'll soon see they realize he was their brother and he was their brother who did not plan revenge but in their perception who were they talking to they were talking to their enemy how did this happen says this facebook because our mindset creates reality they were the ones who decided yosef was their enemy they were the ones who decided joseph is not our brother they were the ones who decided that there's no place in our family for yosef that's where they wanted to kill him they threw him into a pit and then they drew him out of the pit and they sold him into slavery and they distanced him from the family and they created the impression that joseph was devoured by a wild animal by dipping his tunic and blood and sending the bloody tunic of yosef who began to weep and say torah if tara of yourself my son was devoured the wild animal has consumed him and now what happens they're looking at their brother their brother who does not want to harm them he does not want binyamin as a slave bin yaman is his brother but what do they see they see an enemy what is this emma telling us and i want you to listen to this and i'm talking to myself first what you and i sometimes think is the is my greatest enemy in life is really my best friend think about those things that challenge you most and it always begins inside the thoughts the fears the wounds the scars the traumas this is my darkness in life this is what i want to get rid of and it's normal don't judge it it's normal i am in that place of fragmentation but really really if i can go back to alignment if i can go back to vegas if i can go back to oneness with the source then i realized the oneness in the world that which is challenging me most is really my deepest opportunity for growth my greatest adversary is really my best friend now this sounds strange he's not my best friend yes superficially he is not your best friend these thoughts are not my best friends these wounds are not my best friends these scars are not my best friends these fears are not my best friends this prime minister of egypt is my nightmare he causes me or she causes me or it causes me sleepless nights but that's because of my own neural pathways who have redefined the world as a jungle rather than as a space of love now i'm going to ask you please do not hear these words as a judgment because if you're hearing it as judgment you're falling into the trap that this fascemas is warning us against right like if you're now telling yourself i know and i'm guilty and i'm even more and i've been more messed up than i think i'm messed up because i don't know what robert jacobson is talking about you missed the plot against i'm going to ask you to look at these words with feel feel the love feel the compassion this is not judging you this is helping each of us open ourselves up to another way of looking at reality but not blaming yourself or judging yourself because perhaps this for you or for me was a survival skill and i can guarantee the most guarantee you i can guarantee we're talking about guarantees that in most cases that's what it is so you have to have compassion that these are the survival skills that i was forced to develop and now i want to open my neural pathways to another opportunity and the other opportunity is can i see myself as aligned with absolute infinity meaning my scars don't define me my trauma doesn't define me the events of my life that were so difficult and restricted my consciousness so deeply they don't define me what they did do is they turned the world into a very dark place and they turned me into a dark person and they turned my brother into my enemy and it's all my own perception every trauma every pain every difficult emotion you're facing is really divine energy helping you to bring you back to your truest greatness as an ambassador of divine in this world helping you fulfill your mission this doesn't mean it's not painful this doesn't mean it doesn't warrant many tears this doesn't mean it doesn't hurt it does mean that the whole world is yours the whole world is singing with you you are a hey like you're invincible you're god's light in this world everything is here to help you spread your light everything so that pain that i'm facing that i'm confronting don't see it as your enemy it's here to bring out your truest potential to make you aware of your deepest reality and of the deepest reality of the world but when i don't look at it that way then i am living in a world of darkness i'm living in a world of enemies i'm living in a world of betrayal i'm living in a world of distrust and a lot of us are living in that world i cannot trust how could i trust when i trusted as a four-year-old or as a ten-year-old i was backstabbed when i trusted as a 12 year old i was hurt and when i trusted as a 20 year old i was yet hurt again i stopped trusting i closed myself off to myself into the world i wanted love but i was betrayed so now all i seek is attention or validation or some other form of filling the void and numbing the pain and the anxiety and the stress that i'm experiencing is all part of that can i open myself up to another opportunity so he says you know why yosef is their enemy it was their own doing he was their brother but this is the power of a person's thoughts of a person's attitudes let's now go further so in conclusion the world is yours joseph is your brother you decided he's your enemy you ran away from him because you were running away from yourself you were running away from your own life don't blame yourself maybe for you it was survival but that's what happened so he becomes my enemy but only in my perception and that's the story i tell myself he's my enemy this is my enemy this makes my life miserable you make my life miserable i make my life miserable it's miserable as long as i continue to tell that story now i don't know of another story i get it that's what he says you became trapped in a certain narrative that's my only story but if i could become aware of the trap i could start telling myself other stories about myself my spouse my children my god my family my friends my community and ultimately the whole world what do we do now it's allah's uh continuous summers here's the advice what has to happen now is to be able to accept with faith even when i'm in darkness that the true energy of everything is only from hashem even if in my perception i cannot appreciate it in other words i don't have to run away i'm facing these thoughts or these experiences or these emotions or these realities and it's so scary it's so dark joseph is here the prime minister of egypt he's such a scary man and now he wants to kidnap my brother and make him a slave because he decided that he's a thief and my father is going to die from all of this and i'm responsible i'm going to be the criminal for the rest of my life in this world and in the next world you don't know how it's going to work out you don't understand how it's going to work out you don't see where god is here because i don't have that clear vision of reality i have a lot going on in me but can you stay here can you stay here with a conviction and a deeper muna that even though there's darkness here and even though there's confusion there is divine opportunity here there is divine energy here everything is ultimately an aspect of the divine there's a spark of hashem in this situation in this person in these circumstances ultimately here to help you achieve your mission and reveal god's oneness in the situation when a person can really experience this conviction um when a person can really really accept us and i'm adding it's not easy because my brain is going to play games with me my brain is going to say no no no this is horrible this is bad you're traumatized you're scarred you're wounded you're hopeless this is a hopeless situation when a person can really really have compassion for their thoughts but to understand that there is a deeper way of looking at reality and then the person could surrender their soul with true humility to try to touch the true essence of what's happening that is what yehudah says yehudah tells the isaf i'm going to stay here i will become your slave instead of binyamin what does this represent i'm going to remain here i know that there is there's goodness here i know that there's growth here i know that the divine is here i don't know how this is a ridiculous situation i don't know how we ended up in this mess of course they ended up in this mess because they sold joseph but right now i don't know i am confused i am overwhelmed but i'm going to trust i'm not going to run away from the pain i'm not going to run away from reality because we often do you know fight or flight i'm going to remain present and hold on to the truth that i am god's ambassador i am infinite i am hashem's light in this world and i'm here to reveal the light in everywhere and everything yehuda goes out of his brain he transcends his brain he surrenders his soul to the infinite mystery of god's oneness in every single moment and he becomes the ultimate brother who sacrifices everything to be a guarantor for binyamin he says when a person is ready to surrender their brain and their ego and their fear which he calls him a serious nephesh surrendering my own perception of what my life is supposed to look like i'll say that again surrendering my own perception of what my life is supposed to look like and i have to do it truthfully without agendas without objectives without manipulation he says asking one question what is my divine mission at this moment that's my question if i could go out of everything all my expectations all my stories about who i am and who i'm not i can really open myself up to infinity i can go out of my ego go out of my fear go to my insecurity i may not be able to get rid of them but at least i can quarantine them in other words i could see them for what they are have compassion and then open myself up to another story you know what happens joseph can't contain himself and he says i'm yosef and suddenly all the goodness of the moment emerges all the goodness in these circumstances emerges that person who you perceived as your ultimate arch enemy turns out to be your best friend in the world this becomes a glorious moment of family unification not only has been yemen not taken as a slave binyamin is now celebrated and reunited with his long-lost brother his only whole brother from his father and mother yaakov can ultimately be reunited with his child wow he says joseph represents the pneumous and everything because joseph on the outside he looked like an egyptian on the inside he was a child of yaakov on the outside the brothers thought that he was the black sheep of the family on the inside he was completely aligned with the divine so yosef always represents the ponemius the inside story maybe not the outside story the inside story li yacht joseph les can't contain itself anymore and it bursts out he says because really the inside was always divine the inner core of all your thoughts all your adversity all your traumas even if it was caused by people who made the most horrible choices and decisions but ultimately there's an inner inner divine spark there that is there to bring out the best in you and to turn you into a blessed person into a powerhouse of love and light and open spirituality but it's so painful and i'm going through all these journeys and i have to have compassion for every single step of the way and realize that because of the distortions of life the truth becomes eclipsed the clipper means a shell it's a husk it eclipses reality as though there is something separate from hashem and from hashem's oneness when i can surrender my expectations and my versions of reality and how things have to play out according to my brains and i have to stop controlling the reality i can allow myself to fall into the embrace of divinity even if my brain presently can't grasp it you know what happens i find out that my greatest enemy was my best friend joseph is really my brother and what that means in my life is that those thoughts those experiences those emotions that were my greatest enemy really are here to bring out my deepest deepest light and then they become transformed because they fulfill their purpose these are the words that you would opens up the conversation by igor of yohudi goes to yosef and he says be adoni very strange words be adoni literally means what does it mean you know what it really really means be in me adorning my master what does it mean is the master is inside of me the master hashem is inside of me my core is filled with divine energy that's who i am i am an ambassador of god i am an aspect of hashem in this world can i tell that to myself can i go to that space where i am completely aligned with divinity there's nothing separating me from hashem yes it is eclipsed from me part of my brain is telling me that's not true because there were distortions in my life that took me away from that but that's the truth it remains the truth even if i'm not fully conscious and cognizant of it and this is true in every concealment that you face be adoni inside here is hashem don't be afraid and even if there is tremendous fear look at that fear create space for that if you understand where that fear is coming from it's coming from the notion that you're fragmented that you're detached oh now we come to understand the depth of the madrish the madrid says when salima tells the sun if you're a guarantor for your friend what should you do you stretched out a friend uh your hand to a stranger you got stuck through the words of your mouth you were ensneared you're trapped go humble yourself before your friend go extol him make him your melech what does all this mean now we understand yohudan yosef's story is a metaphor for all of life we have become guarantors for the divine because we are the divine but often we become misaligned we become disaligned with our true selves i'm not connected anymore i have given my soul elsewhere and my mouth has trapped me the way i speak the way i think the way i communicate the way i live and this is the time to humble myself to the situation i'm facing to the darkness i'm facing and realize that god is right here but i must have the humility because if i don't have the humility then i will remain stuck in my narrative of negativity and toxicity kind of a class without the word toxicity sorry i will remain stuck in my anxiety and my stress and you know what i have good reasons for it the world is a dark place i am a dark person my brain is filled with darkness and depression and melancholy but if i can humble myself humble myself to the true essence which is right now beyond me it's infinite and i can realize that right here in this reality there's tremendous truth you hood is not running away from joseph he doesn't i'm not going to deal with the situation i'm going to remain present here and i'll be here for life i'm here because god is here because this is where reality is this is where the light is and suddenly he can discover the light now we go back to that last matrix that we quoted remember about joseph's rebuke and now we could finally understand masha'allah now we'll finally understand that second madrid says when we realize the power of yosef's rebuke and how the brothers couldn't deal with it will understand how we will not be able to withstand god's rebuke but there was no rebuke here so this fascema says now we'll get it what does this mean what is even trying to tell us he's just trying to tell us guys get scared because when god starts rebuking you you're done you're chopped liver you're finished what's the point what's the point of this measure let's see the deeper element of teresa balsham to how the balsham and his students look at this madrish the words that the torah uses is when joseph told them i say they couldn't respond because they were astounded they were shocked they were startled they were overwhelmed from his face it doesn't say from him from his face says this was amazing doesn't mean they were terrified he's going to take revenge means they were overwhelmed in or startled astounded me ponov from his plymouth from his core from his inside shaykh they thought he's the gentile the prime minister of egypt power his right hand another anti-submit suddenly they saw that their perception was so wrong they have erred in their perception the doors of the perception were completely blocked they never saw they didn't see the truth they thought they were talking to a gentile the viceroy of the great superpower of the time egypt and really they did not recognize that beneath the garb there was joseph a child of yaakov a grandchild of yutsuk a great grandson of avraham unbelievable words they were so ashamed that their own alienation of him caused them to transform such a light into such darkness they suddenly realized the story of their lives they took the most precious light and they transformed it into darkness because of their own inability as youngsters to recognize joseph they never saw the pneumonias of joseph they thought he is their enemy they thought he is the ultimate stranger even as a brother they didn't recognize him as a brother they didn't open themselves up to the relationship they ran away from it so what happens in their own mind he becomes indeed the most estranged person in the world he becomes the epitome of darkness and suddenly now he says aniyasof nivalumi panov what caused them so much shame so much pain was the enemies they suddenly saw the dissonance they were living in what they thought is their greatest enemy was really their best friend those relationships that you are running away from because you are so threatened by them is really it's the doing of my own mind my own mind turns my enemies my friends into my enemies it turns that which seems so much so painful it's my adverse this is my address this is he is my adversary and when i say he it's not only somebody outside of you somebody inside of me and really these are all my best friends these are all my opportunities to be able to reveal my oneness god's oneness because i'm an ambassador of god like he said in the beginning the whole world is under you the whole world is part of you the whole world is here for you the world is your best friend but i live in a world i go into a place where my best friend becomes my greatest enemy and this is very painful realization such a painful realization they have nothing to say says you know what happens in the day of judgment and i love these words that he's going to say because you know we always look at the day of judgment you know god is going to come down with a hammer and strike you down for your sins he says let's understand what this really means the day of judgment means the day when everyone will see the truth when a person will realize that that which i perceived as the greatest abomination that which i perceived as the worst as the most terrible of realities really the inner energy of it was divine it was sacred that's the imagine that's the day of judgment and yet my choices turned this godliness into so much negativity what is this fasam is telling us everything is part of the divine everything and my relationship with it must be that must be one of positivity one of cheerfulness the perspective of holiness allows me to see in everything an opportunity to serve hashem an opportunity to reveal god's oneness sometimes god wants me to embrace certain things sometimes he says this is not for you don't eat this don't engage in these relationships don't go to these places that's also a way of serving god it's also a way of revealing god's oneness in the world the water i can drink because it's a kosher drink shahakal nearby some wines i can't drink over there i can't make a brachial vera priyagov and i have to say no to these wines but everything is part of a story of oneness even that which is an abomination even that which is negative even that which is traumatizing even that which is so immoral is also ultimately given vitality he says that he uses kadaish even that has divine energy and how do i access the divine energy i actually divine energy by living and relating to it in a way that is aligned with the divine will as they're articulated in so this is kosher this is not kosher but even that which is not culture also has divine purpose in it it also has a holiness in it the way i fulfill its purpose is by not bringing it into my life certain you need boundaries certain things i don't go certain things i don't say certain things i don't do certain things i don't need certain things i'm not involved in certain words and actions and thoughts are beyond my realm it's it's it's compromising my integrity my soul what happens when the person loses touch with who they really are they take an opportunity for closeness and instead it becomes a situation that causes them distance he says you took something that could have brought you so close to yourself and i used it in a way that it alienated me from my source and when i suddenly realized that there's such a deep sense of of shame how did i not get it how did i not see that really the whole world is cheering for me everything i come in contact with is god giving me an opportunity to reveal his light in the world but for this i have to have the confidence of knowing who i am when i know who i am everything i come in contact with everything even if externally it seems like there's nothing promising here and it's just trying to tempt me to destructiveness and to depression and to sin really it's an opportunity to make me aware it's an opportunity for growth it's an opportunity for alignment it's an opportunity to bring out the good in myself and bring out the good in other people always everything because there's always oneness but when i'm not aligned with that i fall prey to the external facade and i say ah this is not the vine on the contrary this is the opposite and often it's tempting in one way or another i just want to go to that place and i take something that was really so holy and so sacred and i transform it to negativity and in my mind that's what it becomes and now i live in that pattern of negativity what happens when joseph reveals himself to his brothers he doesn't rebuke them he doesn't have to rebuke them the deepest rebuke is not the rebuke that comes from me screaming at you or me telling you how bad you are that's not real rebuke that creates defensiveness you know what real rebuke means real rebuke is when i have the courage and the love to open you up to who you really are that's the deepest rebuke the deepest review because then i tell you all you're you're low life you're despicable you're horrible you're immoral okay so we don't speak again you won't talk to me again that's not rebuke real it says twice that says before you rebuke somebody else you have to rebuke yourself real rebuke is can i show somebody who they really are can i teach them can i show them their niggin can i show them their song can they learn the patterns of their brain and see where they went wrong and how they managed to alienate themselves from themselves can i do that for them joseph did that when he said two words anni wow we turned our brother into our enemy and this was our doing because of how we perceived our brother back then and what we made a terrible mistake and that mistake came to haunt us and it changed the trajectory of our lives and now they want to rediscover a new story for their lives that's the ultimate joy madin if yahsef can do this it was says hashem who is the source of every single person who is your deepest best friend when he reveals himself in everything suddenly you see this is hashem and this is hashem and this is hashem and every thought is hashem and every person is an aspect of hashem every aspect of the part of asha and it's all here for me to be able to help bring his light in the whole world and show the oneness i'm like why was i living such a small and petty and insecure life when i was destined i am destined to be an ambassador of infinity and he finished his vahaven i hope you understand this there's really no time to elaborate your question forever makamachima has already once wrote about this and therefore he says for having i hope you'll be able to understand and appreciate the message indeed let's take some questions oh thank you for posting the source sheet on chat in the zoom so you see you can open the you can open the the source sheet on the chat in the zoom and then question number one you say that the balshamptiv told that we are each other's sugar cube i wish and pray that in fact you write that when one drew meets another jew he or she thinks of the other as a sugar cube that they sweeten my life when i see that it doesn't appear that way reading commons jews make about each other that are not so flattering it makes me so sad what can we do to change that what can we do as individuals to show each other the incredible positive energy that would come from actually being that way i have my ideas about it and i try to do my part but so often i feel helpless and impotent when actually talking to those who have such incredibly negative attitudes about each other i think our very teaching today gives us so much perspective you know sometimes people remain trapped in a certain narrative of how to look at themselves and others if you can see this in yourself you can see this in others if you stop judging your own negativity and have compassion on the stories you told yourself and then open yourself up to a larger story you'll be able to see this in other people and help them see this in themselves but this these are the types of things that we have to learn and teach and internalize you can take such a class or similar classes share it with people and become a living example of this and remember you talk about people being negative towards other people maybe that negativity itself is coming from your own perception and what i mean by that is you're looking at a certain aspect of their lives just like the brothers looked at the isaf and they saw him as a very negative person really he was their brother if i myself can really go into my own infinite light i could start seeing that infinite light in people and seeing through their negativity and not getting stuck there and helping them see themselves that way and bring out in them glorious potential think about what i said you say god is our best friend i believe that he is but there are there are times i even know it and feel it but it's not always clear with it's not always clear i suddenly realized that he sends messages to me constantly but it doesn't always feel that he's a best friend yeah you're right sometimes there's a lot of pain and i have to hold on this is what emunah is the the resilience the fortitude the conviction to faith that even in the darkness there is divine love is this true what you're saying that everything really everything the good the bad and the ugly even the seemingly negative things that happened to us is always good it's always for our growth and realization for our connection with each other and god to hold on to this idea this truth is transformative but do you really believe this and is it possible for a person to live this way it's not a simple thing just to internalize and say yeah everything is good good good sweet and dandy remember there is also there are also the people who as a result of this teaching when they don't internalize it they just go out for lunch they become aloof they detach from the world they say everything is good and dandy but it's really a way of avoiding pain sometimes when the world is so painful you say oh everything is good everything is good everything i don't allow myself to feel it that's not what we're talking about yohoda felt the pain you said felt the pain there was a lot of anguish there was a lot of pain so this is a very very deep and mature and emotional process not about escapism or detachment from reality it's about connecting to reality and holding on to reality and experiencing the covers of reality and feeling the pain of the break over of the brokenness and the fragmentation and the dissonance and yet allowing ourselves to open ourselves up to a deeper story beneath the pain and inside the pain and that's the story of ultimate ultimate oneness and goodness and that the whole world and everything in your life is here to help you fulfill your divine mission as an ambassador of oneness is it counter-intuitive this facebook says really it's the most intuitive way to live it's our organic way of living but our brains often distort our reality that's why we need to learn and meditate and pray and connect and learn more and always practice and exercise exercise this lifestyle and it reinforces it and it creates new neural pathways we know in neuroscience we create new neural pathways that allow us to approach things in a different fashion next question the way i understand it is that this facemask reminds us to maintain alignment with our true purpose this means to distance ourselves from misalignment which is what yehuda had to do at that moment but notice the background before yehuda gave himself as a guarantor was joseph's immaturity self-beautification tail-bearing horniness disclosing his dreams was that proper alignment was yakov's favoritism of yosef proper alignment was where the brothers plot to kill actual throwing him into the pit proper alignment nobody would say that these were proper alignments these were distortions but even things that would have been at the time mis improper alignment they turned around to have a hidden secret of alignment because by ice of being thrown into the pit and the brother sinning ultimately he becomes the viceroy and he saves them so what this means is that we need to have the perspective glasses to see that present seemingly negative non-aligning events will later turn out to positive aligning matters there is not much merit to call obvious good good there is merit to see the hidden secret inner good that comes garbeda seemingly bad to see it now as an opportunity for growth so maybe the whole joseph story is designed to save the fledgling jewish nation from starvation and later fulfill god's promise that his descendants would be slaves and be redeemed iron that is hardened by alternating extreme cold and heat becomes temperate steel much stronger and rust resistant compared to untempered iron thank you i have another question the brothers transformed joseph's light into darkness wasn't that supposed to happen wasn't that part of god's intervention in our lives we had to go into exile we had to go through all of this the brothers had to sell joseph wasn't all of this part of the plan well it was certainly part of the plan however you do have to understand that when they were doing it sometimes when we act we don't feel that it's part of the plan we just do our thing god has a plan and later when we align ourselves with god and we do real truth then retroactively we could see that what we were doing was part of the plan but for this we have to go through our own process of of realignment okay let's take another question this is from zoom question is as follows if this is true what if i have family members who are toxic and as you said they're using survival tactics they learned as a child and now as adults they have difficulty understanding that their immediate family is bringing them down basically they're in denial is it lush and hard to tell them they are bringing him down have tried to make peace but they are extremely controlling and are not looking for this person's interest so somebody has toxic family members they're bringing another family member down and i want to explain to him to protect himself i'm not sure exactly what the question is but of course if you feel that you can help somebody from being manipulated you should try to help them try to help them in the in the in the most kind but firm and respectful way you're allowed to help somebody from from being damaged of course what it's our responsibility ah everything you shared resonates i've definitely experienced this to be true in my everyday life how do you reconcile these ideas and avoid a negative narrative when faced with real pain you witness around you some things are beyond perception a child in an oncology word you see the faithful suffer you see mind numbing tragedies how do you understand the ideas that mindset creates reality in this context we don't yet live in a world where all the darkness can be seen for what it is this is what golos means gullis means there is dissonance there is exile exile means i'm not at home i'm in exile what does that mean spiritually there's no full alignment we don't see the world for what it really is when we face these tragedies we cry we get a lump in our throat we feel numb we often feel paralyzed we get angry there's sometimes denial anger right bargaining grief sometimes just complete frustration it's takes away our vitality we feel like everything is just worthless and everything is evil and bad and we have to respect the fact that these are the perceptions based on our appreciation of reality our fine appreciation of reality there's not much to say to help somebody believe that everything is good by telling them oh it's really looks bad but it's wonderful that plays with people's emotions if somebody loses a loved one god forbid somebody really struggling with the health of a child it's pain it's dark the words of the svasemas is i have to know that sometimes my eyes will not perceive the hidden reality joseph is dressed up with many many layers of concealments and i have to accept that and i have to know that the pain is very real and there's an unfathomable reality circumstances that are as you said mind-numbing and heart-numbing and really accept that and accept that that's also part of the purpose remember just as god's energy is in every event god's energy is also in every perception of every event there's also god's energy there the fact that i'm feeling so painful i found that i'm feeling so much pain and i'm feeling so much paralysis and so much numbness there's also god's energy there that's also when you say the kabbalah is it doesn't only mean everything is good and dandy for many of us it's not good and dandy but can i accept the fact that there is purpose and there is love even in that experience that's part of what god wants for me now to have a num a mind-numbing experience because if not i'm not human mushroom when he saw the jews suffering he didn't say god knows what he's doing it's good let's dance let's say he cried and he said la maria salaam why are you afflicting the people masha come on you're the ultimate believer because he was a believer he can empathize with the people he felt what they're experiencing these are mind-numbing experiences these are oppressive experiences you can't just tell a person you know make believe it's all good it's all really good there's purpose god is here enough they start dancing at the funeral that's against the terror itself the same terror who says this also says that on tisha but we fast we don't dance and there's something called shiva why don't they just go dancing everything is good and the answer is because there's the human perception of reality is also divine that's also meaningful that's also purple that's part of the problem you say why does god need all this i don't know the answer to this we don't have an answer for individual pain always the finite brain cannot grasp the infinity of god and cannot grasp the infinity in every situation and i have to be able to surrender to that i have to be able to be humble without about that i have to be able to understand that i don't understand i have to be able to accept and be humble about the fact that i don't know how it's going to work out i don't know the purpose i don't know the meaning i don't know why i don't see the sweetness i don't always see the sugar cube can i really really humbly accept that and hold on to the reality not by denying it and not by avoiding it but by staying here and remaining here and not being afraid of looking into it and deep deep deep down somewhere there i will find maybe not reasons but i will find meaning i will find purpose i will find energy i will find god now these are very deep ideas they're very personal they're very intimate they are serious they're very serious these things should not be said lightly and with no judgmentalism and it's always with respect to the process of people because that process is also divine that's his point in everything there is divinity including the way i process things and therefore i have to have compassion for that process i have to have compassion even for the fact that i am processing things in a dark way even that itself is also divine and that therefore will help bring me closer to reality so don't the main thing is not to run away from the reality i hope i addressed your question at least a little bit next question you speak you mentioned about a toxic family if there are toxic family members who are bringing someone down i cannot see how peace can be made at this point with these family members what does it mean to be aligned with god does god want me to stay away from them because peace is not possible is this a test do i have to still be close to them what god wants from you in this situation is to be able to ask yourselves what is the best behavior what is the best line of behavior right now possible in order to bring the most goodness and light and hope into the world it's probably important to have an objective person who cares for you but who is not afraid to challenge you somebody who's wise and understands the situation has empathy to be able to guide you maybe you need better boundaries with these family members as a prelude to make peace the ultimate objective is always peace but to get to peace sometimes you need strong boundaries you need to protect yourself you need to consolidate yourself and then you can relate to them from a place of strength and not from weakness so the objective is peace how that peace is made sometimes by talking something about confronting the situation something about bringing in a mediator an arbitrator a therapist a rabbi whatever it may be sometimes you need better boundaries sometimes the communication needs help sometimes you have to go to therapy with a family member sometimes you just have to have a good conversation we have to learn to stop to stop right away thinking negatively and accuse the other person always of malicious intent we try to give people the benefit of the doubt see the goodness in them but maybe at this stage you still need good boundaries you have to protect yourself because there's too much toxicity in them or in you or in the combination and the dynamic and then when you build yourself up you can reapproach the situation from a stronger place sometimes there is real abuse and real dysfunction and you need to really create very firm boundaries to protect yourself protect the children i don't know the situation so i cannot give any specific advice outside of the generic advice that we always ask ourselves what is my mission in this moment how can i bring the most light and goodness into myself and into the people around me and into the relationships and into the home and what is necessary for everybody to ultimately live with their own inner infinite light next question can you find godliness and tragedy by knowing that my perception that is dark is also god both are true at the same time the dark and the light that we cannot see yes very well said very well said and a real humility and a real immune that my brain will not be able to turn everything into a puzzle that mathematically makes sense to me and to be able to be to be in that the darkness and the light ultimately live together because till machia comes the light is often dark garbed and darkness so holding on to that darkness is also holding on to god and that's what yehuda did he held on to that relationship with joseph as the prime minister he said i'm going to stay here with you i'm going to stay here with you and he stayed there with him you know what happened he saw joseph he saw yourself and that's the din that's the ultimate day of the ultimate day of judgment is the doors of perception are cleansed and i get to see what all of reality really is what i am who i really am what my life is about what the people around me are what the world is and what all the circumstances in my life are can men listen to this she or two or it's only for women men can listen to the class in fact a lot of men listen to it and the class is available on the yeshiva.net so people can listen to it it could be men and women i think this is uh this is a class for everybody next question you said that i am each and every one of us is an ambassador of infinity in our day-to-day life what can that look like what can that look like it's a beautiful question and you know what the probably the hardest part in this is it's too good to be true you know when we think it's too good to be true we have a mindset that negativity somehow makes more sense than positivity it's like give me the bad news i can deal with it i can catch the good news oh how do you deal with good news you know some of us we have repetitive patterns in our brain that tell us bad news i don't mean news you know news in the newspapers or on the radio i mean news of how we relate to life so like the bad news yeah we're used to it you know life is horrible the world is a crazy place everybody's meshuggah i'm the first one who's meshuggah you know oh if i have a calm day wow that was uh you know some coincidence some muzzle but the truth is it's the other way around it's like it's not too good to be true this is truth why would a loving god create you in the world just to suffer god just wants you to suffer and then to try to pray that he alleviates the suffering and he puts you in the world he gives you all these temptations and all these challenges but he says but if you sin i'm gonna punish you there's something off about it god is infinite love and you're part of that infinite love and the purpose is to be able to experience that infinite love every moment to be aligned with that infinite love and the whole world is part of that love but for this i can't be fixed in my stories and what things have to look like because then i get frustrated and then i'm busy controlling my life i really want to open myself up to the infinite love now these are not words if you just take them as words you're missing the point and i'm missing the point i have to breathe this in i have to be able to to internalize this and it's it's it's daily work this is avoid this hashem what does it mean to serve god what does serving god mean we say i was created to serve god annee neveresi the mishna says at the end of kingdom what does that mean this is the basic definition of serving god it's constantly beginning when i open my eyes in the morning aligning myself with this truth i am an ambassador of infinity because i am infinity ain't safe that's what it is should we take some more questions i don't know how to relate to this practically anything you said i'm struggling with my children what does this mean practically when i'm struggling with my children i'm struggling with my marriage can you explain this practically well i think that's exactly what he's talking about now when we're struggling with something whatever we're struggling with don't deny the struggle don't make believe it's not a struggle there's a struggle this is about changing ourselves it's about changing my attitude instead of seeing the people in my life that i'm struggling with as the enemy i want to be able to see my thoughts and the power of my thoughts to recreate the narrative that's what i want to do i want to change my attitude towards it instead of seeing these things as my enemy see these things as my opportunities that god has given me in order to be able to truly be an ambassador of love at this moment but for this i have to go out of a place of ego and insecurity and a place of control i want to control you you are causing me pain and distress because you're not giving me the nachos that i expected because that keeps me stuck in a place of detachment when i realize who am i i'm an ambassador of hashem in the world to bring light into the world and the whole world is filled with his light and everything that comes my way is an opportunity to bring out that light inside of me and to help me share that light with others so then i see the reality i see the disappointment i grieve for an alternate reality that i hoped for i grieve for it because it's dark joseph and the brothers there was a lot of tears there they were separated for 22 years this was painful it was not the it's not the family you dream of having brothers sell a brother and then meet him 22 years later it's a beautiful story at the end but it's riddled with it's it's saturated with pain i can grieve for a different story but then i say but this is the story of my soul this is my schlichtest this is my mission i can embrace it i can embrace it with tears but i can embrace it with good spirits and when i embrace it with tears i can then go to the good spirits i can go deeper and find the joy okay what does texas have to say about all this does jerusalem have to say about all this what does california have to say about all this what does london have to say about all this what does south africa have to say about all this i'm just introducing some of our guests here today [Laughter] what does muncie have to say about all this what does brooklyn have to say about all this what does the five towns have to say about all this what does miami have to say about all this what does jerusalem have to say about all this wherever you are i'm very thankful that you have joined us today on this journey and it was a very meaningful and special journey and may each of us including myself be able to become these people that we talk about you know it always begins inside i want to become the person that i want other people to be i want to become that person who radiates this type of perceptiveness and you know what happens you'll inspire a lot of people around you to start radiating it radiating it as well have a beautiful day and a meaningful day to all of you thank you you can unmute yourself if you want you