The Cure For Jealousy - Bitachon B’HaShem (18)

[Music] we're back starting a new week uh we're continuing our series we only have a couple of lectures left in this specific series uh um the uh sh will be for for David benis and all of will have also for shamit raban S anat and uh also but I think it is and um any else all of by the way as a side note uh the uh in case uh people don't know uh you know sometimes you have to uh tell people a few times the same thing and we see it from the Torah we see it from the Torah for example in this week's par we're starting a new par says in the beginning of the so says if you can get off the phone that would be fantastic see I present before you today a blessing and a curse the blessing that you herken to the Commandments of hasem your God that I command you today and the curse if you do not herken to the Commandments of Hashem your God then you stray from the path that I command you today to follow gods of others that you did not know so you see in this week's par first and foremost we've already heard this more than a few times telling us once again you have two options there's no middle ground there's no gray area with theem he simply says you have you have doesn't say you have a half a you have like a middle siiz you have a small Big B you know mediocre a b with some rims on it doesn't say any that what does he say you have or you have either your life is blessed or it's cursed simple doesn't tell you oh maybe there nothing blessing or curse but we heard this already how many times you going to tell us apparently we need to hear it a few times we heard it already in we told us we have blessings and blessings and blessings over a dozen verses of blessings and then over almost four dozen verses of curses says that the reason why there's only a dozen or so blessings of of of uh blessings and so much more curses it's not that there's so much more curses than blessings is that we simply do not understand what a blessing is so it simply be a waste of time and a waste of space in a toah to detail the blessings we wouldn't understand what it is anyway so he gives us the basics stuffs we can understand stuff stuff that our human mind can understand you know money is blessing okay I'll give you money kids are a blessing okay before you have them you think it's a blessing after maybe 50/50 we'll see yeah you think getting married is a blessing yeah wait until you get married and she wakes you up at 3 o' in the morning says honey I have an idea what I have an idea it's 3 o'cl I want to go to sleep oh I have an idea sometimes they have an idea 3:00 in the morning so it tells you bless blessing or curse tells you blessing or curse we don't understand what blessings are we don't understand what curses are we think hasm is joking about the curses we heard the curses curses are scary the says in the beginning of the chapter beginning of the uh the book he says there are some people that are so stupid that they don't think there's punishment this what he says he says there's some people in the world he says there's not that many he lived 800 years ago that's why he say there not that many there's not that many but he say some people they're so stupid they don't think there's punishment he says as if hasm didn't say it a bunch of times like as if it doesn't apply so we saw in says there's blessings there's curses we saw in there's blessings there's curses we saw it in many other and if that wasn't enough AEM said it twice again here if you noticed he says I present before you a blessing and a curse okay Finish okay no he says not blessing or curse the blessing if you do everything I say but you said that there a blessing or curse I know obvious obviously if I do what you say I'm going to get a blessing why you mentioning it again if there's a blessing of a curse obviously if I'm if I'm smart enough to understand what this verse is saying you don't need to explain to me that the blessing goes along with me doing what you said and the curse goes along with me going against what you said obviously I understand but no knows his creation he says you have a blessing and a curse the blessing is if you do what I said the curse is if you go against what I said how come thinks that we need to know that there's a blessing in a curse so many times because apparently aam the human being unless you repeat the instructions the when it comes to kadus when it comes to things that are relevant to the purpose of life unless you repeat it over and over and over and over again it simply does not sink in for long enough it goes in you came to a you got a tomorrow you have to start all over again yeah but I got a whole for three hours for it's good no yeah it was good for today the two hours three 3 hours you came to the shield that saved you from all the other garbage you could have done with those three hours tomorrow you have to do something else you have to go on one YouTube go type in your why you have to learn a new Tor yeah but I learned already you have to learn it again how many times until until mhia comes unless you repeat it over and over and over and over again it doesn't sink in why it doesn't sink in what something's wrong with us no there nothing wrong with us says he created the and the's job is a few different things he's the he's the Satan he the says all three are him his job is to get you to think about anything but a think about doing something else get away from listen instead of go go have a drink with the guys you haven't seen him in a long time yeah but sh is good sh I can have a drink with the guys some other day no no come on the guys where you going insult the guys know you come on it's a this one all types of laws they're going to create for you that connected to your friend somehow why listen it's my friends yeah about to can watch tomorrow is going to get you off off the road after you fall for the now changes uniform he becomes the Satan Satan comes from the word Mastin Mastin means that he Rats on you he goes up to shamim he becomes the prosecutor he goes to you see this rash of yours where your son your son instead of going to he went to have a couple of drinks with the guys can you believe it AEM he desecrated your Torah he went to a couple have a couple of drinks instead of learning for free he didn't even have to pay for it not like he had to pay all of his money to he had for free he didn't go but instead he went to go see who knows what he saw in the bar this what he did your son this is your son AEM what an embarrassment in sham you have what an embarrassment a person has in sh when a his father in Heaven watches this movie of his son leaving his Torah why he could watch a game could watch football Sunday Night Football a bunch of overgrown men on steroids they're going to probably die before the age of 55 getting paid millions of dollars they're going to uh waste before they actually even end their career most of them declare bankruptcy within four years of retirement and you're going to spend all your time what to go watch them instead of so nowm is not happy with this so then Satan takes advantage what you say changes uniform again another uniform who we become you know somebody desecrates T you said t you say death penalty no can I go to work can I go to work right now so now we have to pray that we have some somewhere we have aad grandfather sad grandmother some mitvah we did that we forgot about some potential that we have something that's going to fight for us against the that's the job of the so says I have to remind you day after day that there is a and there's a why if I don't you're going to just treat my Tor as if it's something you can study whenever you feel like it whenever you get a chance and treat it like it's a mundane manner like it's something like uh secular that you're learning that whenever you get a chance you read the paper and and watch the news and just to keep up to date and you're not going to treat it like it's life or death you're not going to treat like this is either the key to blessing or to curse unless I remind you over and over and over again you're not going to get the point so once again he tells us again there's now sometimes when we don't take the teachings of a seriously enough to the point of applying them we could learn T every day you can go to a go to you're going to see books 50 times more than here the whole wall is full of books there's no walls go to some place in there's no nothing there's just books books people screaming yelling this that everybody's learning you could sit among those people and everybody's yelling somebody could be one of the can sit right next to you another guy's a regular started learning last week all types of people in this Coler all types of people old young B from birth this what doesn't make a difference you go to call you have all this T you could be among them but not for one day not for one week not for one month not even for one year five 10 15 years learning among the best and still stay the same be you started nothing changed how could that be how could it be that somebody could learn so much Tor among so many other F you know fine people but he stays the same animal that he started nothing changed I heard a story from my today will give you this real life example example told by the actual person in the act the person that told the story told it after unfortunately seeing the wrath of a but learning a lot from it to at least get the second chance there was two friends both of them learn in t fulfilling both in and the guy says his name was Israel and the other guy's name was Shalom now Israel he was sharper he was sharper than shalom shalom was like a nice guy but he wasn't the sharpest knife in the in the drawer you know it's like one of those really nice guys he's always happy what's going on oh well could be collapsing everything's okay what has but he's not like he's not going to be one of those guys gives you a listen I found over here this that you know the snakes that went against am is that's actually the snakes that hasem killed at the beginning of the journey 40 years before he's not going to find you that he's not going to find you a like this he just Basics Basics he understands Basics but he's always happy always happy guy is sharp always has an answer always has an answer that guy is like a ninja you got a question I'll give you three answers but he's never so he's not happy got always a complain about somebody about something so anyway these guys grow up they go to school together they're friends they're close they chitchat they go to col together they're learning for a while together like friends as you would have it both of them eventually get married Shalom the nicer happier one finds M unbelievable something unbelievable such great mid such a nice girl want only good and she's just like him always happy she's not Einstein but she's as happy as can be what do you you want to marry Einstein go marry Einstein he's in a grave actually his brain is in a few universities they're still dissecting it but anyway hey what are you going married you want somebody fulfills what do you need and is he finds a girl similar to him sharp she has something to say the truth is though is was jealous of Shalom even though is was the sharper with the and with to this and with to that he was jealous of little shalom why how are you so happy how are you so happy all the time you don't know anything what are you happy about you dad dumb that you're happy like how are you so happy is was eating his heart out how did you find such a girl that's so happy my wife always complains non-stop he says he doesn't know but he never says a thing he eats his heart out year after year year after year he has no schite whatsoever his wife is complaining nonstop but he loves her but she complains she she's like him she's like him says in the beginning a guy is going to get the same thing based on his actions if he aad he get aad if he's a rash I'll get a so if he's sadik doesn't necessarily mean he's going to get a sadik that's going to be perfect he's not perfect she's not perfect he's righteous in certain aspects he's weak in certain aspects but he'll get somebody like him I used to tell this always to my employees before anything before toah be became a uh my priority in life that you always get your own uh your customers are always like you your customers are always like you you're an arrogant person all your customers that will be attracted you will be arrogant you're a generous person all your customers will be generous you're person you like uh Sports your customers will like sports that's the way it works in life your friends your customers that's the way it is in life in general you attract things that are similar to you so one day Isel can't take it anymore says you know what every time I talk to this Shalom I eat my heart out why am I going to continue talking to him let me just stop talking to him so he cuts off he cuts him off he stops answering his phone calls you know they both went on their way they both live in different areas now and Shalom calls from time to time to check in but is is not picking up the phone but Shalom is still happy in his life he continues his life he does his thing one day there's a big wedding in B and is is invited goes to the wedding he sits there all the rabbis there all important people are there and he's happy he's at a very important event he's happy to be there but then he gets surprise of his life right see Shalom was also invited little Shalom that's always happy it's not the biggest in the world but he's always also invited and he's walking toward him happiest can be goes ah my dear friend how are you I haven't seen you I've been calling you for almost a year you have everything okay how are you is couldn't take it anymore he couldn't take it cuz what what how are you what how are you are you that stupid that you don't realize the world that goes around what's happening in the world are you and your wife that dumb that you're always happy that you don't realize what's going on in the world and he starts insulting him and breaking him to shreds he says you guys shouldn't have any kids you're going to produce dumb kids just like you any oh W he tells them things and there people there he rips him apart so much so the little Shalom is not happy anymore and he's so sad that he turns around he leaves so now he s feel guy kind of feels a little you know there's a little bit of a conscience left you've been learning to for 25 years you should have some conscience you're not Nazi but is still there working full-time you just uh paid a few bills for him says yeah listen I was helping him after all he should know he's dumb he should know he's dumb I'm done helping him out after all and he goes back to his business enjoys the event and life goes on a few weeks later he thinks about it maybe to call maybe not to call doesn't call no apology nothing life goes on one month two months 3 months things go on six months later is's wife crosses the street with two of their little kids one is four years old and one is a one-year-old baby in a carriage out of nowhere a car appears full speed runs all three of them over the baby flies in the carriage but the carriage protects him M miracle from Heaven the four-year-old critical condition the mom almost dead on the spot they call is you have to come to the emergency room what happened what Happ you have to come there been an accident he runs to the emergency room doctor says listen I'm sorry your wife is going to die your wife is going to die your four-year-old is in critical condition but by the grace of a your your your one-year-old just has scratches saved but you have to go say goodbye to your wife there's no saving her is loses his mind he breaks down completely starts screaming hysterical in the place ripping his hair out all of the things that he learned all the things he did everything goes in the garbage right now in the Moment of Truth that's all he knows the love of his life that gave him problems that gave him headaches that arguments and everything is about to die he can't take it with the arguments and everything he loves of what it's my wife no can't take it she dies at the he tells himself that at the uh Le they dug the hole in the ground and he jumped in the hole he didn't want him to bury her he couldn't do it m completely lost his mind he started giving him shots to calm him down eventually his four-year-old comes out of it miraculously but he can't handle raising both of them and they're raised by his parents but his whole life just went upside down everything went to the garbage he doesn't know what to do with himself he goes into a manic depression life as you would know it goes from being fantastic to being a nightmare the love of his life is gone it's two kids he can't even have a normal relationship with them he doesn't know what to do one day he hears that there's a sadik he didn't mention the sadik's name but there's a good uh indication that it's one of the that passed away recently steinerman said that he's uh you could talk to him so he comes to speak toin and because he's still in his craziness he has no patience no care in the world for any decency he cuts off everyone and he says to the he says listen everybody knows that youim you're all old you're going to die soon so please do me a favor when you die you go up to shamay you go up to God you tell him you tell him why did he do this to me I want to know why he did this to me and I want you to come to me in a dream and tell me why he did it to me theim they don't get riled up by crazy people they see crazy people every day if someone Katan like me sees a hundred of them a day imagine how much the get the says to him with a straight face no problem I promise you not a month passed by and the g passed away delivering on his promise this a named is says 3 months later theor appeared to him in a dream and he tells him to like he indicates for him to come with him and he brings him to a wedding very fancy wedding big fancy Hall looks familiar and he sees all these people I know all these different people and then he sees he himself with his old friend Shalom and he sees himself destroying Shalom to pieces with all of the insults you could possibly have in the book about how dumb he is and how this he is and how that he is and he rips him apart and the do simply points at this and is gets the message that that's the reason why God did it to you that's why did it to you the guy wakes up from this dream he starts hysterical crying goes to the Grave starts hysterical he takes at the grave and reads it for five hours straight until he finished it the amount of Tears he says that he had could have filled a small pool completely shattered he knows the whole thing is his fault nobody else's after 5 hours of breaking down he gets up gets out of the place and right at the door he sees nobody other than Shalom he sees his old friend Shalom and Shalom is not as happy to see him as he used to be but he says oh hi hi how how are you you okay you you don't look so good is go what are you doing here Shalom why are you here goes I just come to pray please please give me something goes no no I just got two minutes to pray and I got to go please I got to go I can't doesn't want to this Venom from this guy again he already got enough from him go no please Shalom if our friendship for 25 years means anything to you at all please please please just give me a few minutes of your time he says okay fine he sits down and he starts telling him everything I just told you he says listen I couldn't stand it that you were always happy I couldn't stand it how you always had like something like going on as if you knew this big secret you always had like everything you didn't know much but you knew everything at the same time I couldn't take it and I took everything on you and I ruined my life gave me I ruined my life hem took my wife and now even my kids I barely see Shalom looks at is and he says to him you know is I'm sorry all this happened to you but you have to also understand my side you see for all those years that I was with my my wife for 10 years I had schom bite we're always happy with each other don't matter what money no money doesn't make a difference we're always happy but that night after you said what you said because I valued your opinion so much you are my you are my every you are my I valued you so much that when I got home I didn't see my wife the same again and from that moment on there was no schum bite the schum bite went to the garbage we start arguing arguments that we've never had before suddenly we have differences we never knew so my that you were so jealous of I lost it too sorry you lost your wife but we had to we were on the verge of getting a divorce eventually we started going to some big rabbis they started counseling us and only only a few months ago only a few months ago did we finally reconcile and everything started going back to normal again is says wait a minute what do you mean a few months ago how how long exactly go a few months ago I don't know six months ago he goes no tell me exactly the date says a date uh probably this spec the exact day that the schom B came back is the day that is's wife died gave is a certain amount of time to fix the SLO bite that he destroyed isai did not get the message he gave him one message two message three message four message doesn't make a difference he didn't get the message says you destroy the schite I'll destroy your schom bite but I'll have to fix the old one so fix the old one too but I gave you the opportunity when they realized this when they realized the hand of a in this they understood the message they started crying and hugging each other and befriended each other and just several months later Shalom introduced is to his cousin they ended up getting married and rebuilding a new family she the new wife took care of the two kids from the previous marriage they had a few kids together right now I believe they have four kids and he wrote this story explaining to people how much of a danger it is to have just a little bit of jealousy that's uncontrolled cuz where did it start from it started from jealousy jealousy of something that you don't have and this is a story from the guy himself if he wasn't a t he would never even see the signs nor the solution but just because you learn T doesn't necessarily mean that you see them live unless you work on it on a regular basis now the BET says that will save you from jealousy and he says that it addition to all of the other benefits of having that we've already discussed one who has will be rescued from jealousy because jealousy is what makes the bones rot according to schl 14 verse 30 of mish Proverbs jealous is one of the things that a detests so much so that the if a person dies without doing chuva for jealousy he's only guaranteed one thing he will not be resurrected with the Dead one of the 13 principles of faith is that you have to believe that there will be a resurrection of the dead after the mhia comes if a person dies with even a jealous bone in his body that bone cannot be resurrected if his entire body is jealous meaning he simply thinks that it's okay to be jealous of people that have more money than them that have more wisdom than him that have more anything than him he's jealous of other people says you lose your right to be resurrected why because that jealousy the Venom of jealousy will rot his bones to nothing when one has and is convinced that everything Hashem does is good there is no longer any place for jealousy a patient does not get angry at the doctor for giving him one medicine and to his friend a second medicine it's understood that the doctor recognizes that each illness is different and requires a different medicine Hashem gives each person what is uniquely good for him one of the most difficult things for a human being to understand is why AOS who gives each one of us a different medicine each one of us looks at somebody else's good and feels if I should have that too anytime you admire people's cars I remember when I was a kid people love talking about young kids love talking about the fancy schmancy cars they see in the street oh you see Steve's new this car you knew that car got new GT you know new PT new something new this new they all day to talk about cars to such an extent they started calling the guys by the name of the car oh yeah that's Steve GT no that's Steve Mustang no that's Steve there's like 18 Steves but all of them are not Steve Jones and Steve Smith and no that's Steve Mustang that's Steve Beamer that's Steve Ben all these different Steve but they have a they have a car name behind them that's the last name in reality what are they doing all day looking at people's stuff looking at their car looking at their life and not admiring it like oh good for him he has a nice car oh good for him he has a nice house all good for him he has a nice life no when you look at other people's stuff to such an extent that you remember it as if it's something important that means that you're beyond admir Iration you're jealous you feel that it should be given to you that you should have this BMW that you should have this three four story house that you should have this big bank account that you should be the one that's on TV getting recognition for something you did that you should be the one that gets attention at the Shool for doing something good when you remember other people's major life events then means that you're it's beyond admiration it's at a point of jealousy and envy and that Rai is a spiritual cancer that kills people on a day-to-day basis so much so that if a person does not control their anger that control their jealousy they can get to a point of losing their mind just like our dear friend isil did at a moment of weakness he embarrassed his best friend in public and ended up suffering greatly for it now many people say that they believe in they'll even tell you there's differ Gul this is Gul that you'll hear often that says if you think about the few words from the Torah it says there's nothing else but him there's nothing else but hasem if you constantly think that there's nothing else but nothing in the world can hurt you no terrorist can hurt you no financial crisis could nothing can hurt you you become Untouchable if you're constantly thinking about it it's so powerful that it's constantly aul that they teach to people listen you want protection think constantly they made little cards that people have in their wallets some people made a bracelet out of it a chain all types of things and sometimes you see it in on on shes ones there's nothing else by it's fantastic it works if you really think about it one time there was a rabbi that uh he taught this to his students he tells him listen you should think this there's nothing but hasem there's nothing but AEM and nothing can hurt you so as they're walking they get to a uh dark aisle a dark uh road somewhere and uh they're walking outside and all of a sudden out of nowhere this huge dog appears without a chain without an owner without anything and he has two eyes looking at the rabbi and the rabbi identified those eyes those eyes look hungry that's what he identified at that moment the rabbi all of a sudden became a track run he started running climbed the tree dude the students saw the rabbi run away they ran away too the dog was hungry but they didn't feel like running he saw they're all running away okay they don't want to play okay fine I'll go somewhere else fine easy customer so the dog goes away after they see that the dog runs away they come down and they uh one of the students it's a little you know clever little student says to the RAB goes why' you run what you mean a dog CU yeah but didn't you just teach us that if you say there's nothing but there's nothing but AEM that nothing bad can happen to you so so why didn't you use that oh it's a good question my son I used it but I climbed for extra amuna for extra insurance just in case for extra insurance says if you feel the need to do something for extra insurance that means that your current policy is not good enough it's lacking a lot of people talk about amuna a lot of people love to discuss and and things of that nature but in reality very very few among us actually have or at all you see it in your day-to-day life people ask all the time should I buy a life insurance policy really first of all you should know we used to have a business we used to I know a little bit about life in insurance we used to have an insurance agency in reality it's a lie to begin with why it shouldn't be called life insurance should be called Death Insurance why they only pay you if you die second of all you only get paid if you die according to their description because if you die in some description they don't agree with they don't pay you but anyway should you buy life insurance you do not buy life insurance so there are some say that you could buy some life insurance gives your family some money in you know in case a person dies and he's the one that's providing for the family there's no problem buying life insurance where is the problem the problem when you become crazy when you pretty much start planning things and start buying life insurance to the extent where you show that you simply want to run the world and you have no Assurance whatsoever that hm knows what he's doing so what does the guy do he buys one life insurance broker comes there and says I Mr Goldberg buy life insurance it's only x amount of money every month your if you die your family is going to get half a million dollars a million dollars whatever it's going to get okay so he buys the policy but then the guy says you know what maybe it's not enough this this half a million dollar policy you know there's inflation things go up things go down market up down maybe I need more he has $5 to his name the fact that they gave him a half a million policy is a mistake but he says you know what maybe I need more maybe I need more so he calls another insurance company and he buys more Insurance why just in case you know inflation prices go up pric is this price is that he buys more insurance now this is a broker's best friend customer keeps going back for more stuff but then he says you know what the market has been going up for 10 years straight eventually it's going to crash once it crashes it's probably going to be another bailout banks are going to crash insurance companies everybody's going to crash how am I going to get insurance from me these companies they're not that strong these insurance companies I bought them from they're like uh you know a minus b-rated companies I need to be with the best I need more Insurance I need more ins why because if these companies they they go down how's going to pay my life insurance he buys a third insurance by who the besty company the best company so now he has three policies more time passes he says you know what I'm not really sure this is enough cuz yeah I have this company that company this company but all these companies like known maybe I need to get something unknown like some guy that's unknown and he goes and he buys some unknown brand some unknown policy just in case the first three things and the unknown because he doesn't have as much Surplus and as much money and so on and so forth the policy of the unknown is more expensive than the known how much more expensive 10 times more expensive if he paid $500 with the best brand he's paying 5,000 with the unknown brand now how many of you by a raise of hand would do the same thing as him nobody's raising a hand so far either sleeping or you disagree you disagree with the strategy you sure not get Mone any why you not going to get the money well the family you have kids you have family you have money do you want to take care of your family and if you're single if you're single you still have somebody that you care about if you don't care about anybody you to buy the insurance in the first place I'm talking about people that have families people that have families imagine yourself having a family you have a wife you have four 5 6 7 8 19 kids kids you have a house or two you have a car or two you have stuff that you want to pay for once you die assume that you actually need insurance not necessarily that much but you have people that you care about this is a Make Pretend story guys I didn't give you a family yet point is would you buy four policies like this guy but the most important question is would you after you bought the first three from two mediocre companies the best company of the best and then you put 10 times more money for the worst policy in the world would you do the same thing Michael is raising his hand he's not really sure he's either raising his hand because he's he's outstretched his arm or he's he's he's agreeing that he's doing it why are you doing it Michael why unintentionally we do it why why are you doing it we have this inherent doubt that's corrupted us so the insurance is allegorical it's we create one layer of defense against another layer and the last layer of defense is the most unrealistic of all if we really truly believe that God was right Michael should be giving some sh Monday so now what's the story the story is in reality we are the idiot that keeps buying the insurance policies and worse yet we pay the most amount of money for the worst policy in the world why is the best policy in the world the best policies the biggest companies they usually have a decent amount of discount why they have a surplus amount of money backings and so on and so forth they're okay with what they're doing is even better than that he's free all you got to do pray do his MIT he already promised you time and time again your life will be full of blessings but what do we do we did a few me V but we still want some insurance we want to make sure okay we're going to get a job and we're going to do a little investment that's the first two policies and yeah we're going to pray and uh you know we're going to do some fine fine we'll do that too but then just in case it doesn't work just in case it doesn't work where do we go we go to people the worst policy in the world we go and put all of our trust in the worst insurance company on the planet what is it people we put all of our faith all of our trust all of our future relying in people how so who said you going have a blessing you're going to have a blessing but you don't believe him why you got the job you got the job but you're only getting paid $20 an hour and $20 an hour was good when you were 18 now that you're already older you got a kid or two three four you have stuff 20 bucks an hour is not enough anymore you want to raise how am I going to get a raise I don't have the I don't know the boss's uh family or this one or that one so you try to figure out how do I get a raise oh you know what's the best way to get a raise I'm be aan you know what aan is a kiss up you see the bus hi sir how are you here the coffee for you sir here the coffee for you oh you didn't I have the other one too I have two cups just in case with milk without milk start kissing up the people start giving them some extra credit even though they don't deserve a single penny why he's in charge of the money if I'm nice to him and I kiss up to him maybe he'll donate maybe he'll give me a raise maybe he'll do this maybe he'll do that and we kiss up to people forgetting that there's a that you're forbidden from kissing up to people you're forbidden from being a fun unfortunately people do this day in day out both rabis and regular people alike you see a walking into a Sho all of a sudden everybody says oh how are you how are you why why did you say how are you to the average guy that has five bucks in his pocket how come you if you're already going to do how are you how are you with the whole show do it to everybody no but that's the Gil that's the rich guy now yes of course you have to give people respect but don't go out of the way problem is that we go out of our way we forget that is the best insurance company in the world and that's what tried to tell us on 146 verse number three where he says says do not rely on Nobles nor on a human being for he holds no salvation when a spirit departs he returns to the Earth on that day his plans all perish meaning even if this guy is a noble meaning he's a nice guy he's a righteous guy he's a good guy he's very generous don't rely anything on him why only in a only in you're only allowed to rely on a but not just when it comes to money when it comes to everything whether it's a z or it's a in general or it's kids or it's everything in anything you have to rely on anytime we don't we're simply killing ourselves we're killing ourselves to such an extent that we start looking at other people's stuff and we're thinking wait since he has such a fancy schmancy car and since he has such a big house maybe he can help me also get a fancy car and a fancy house forgetting and removing the equation altoe since he has this company maybe he could be the one that's going to invest in my company so when the guy you see the caller ID from him all of a sudden oh guys shut up shut up everybody shut up dannie's calling okay guys listen Donnie's calling he's a regular guy no no be quiet this could be it this could be it all of a sudden he loses all of his cool he Dan's calling somebody's calling he loses his mind at that moment when you've simply silenced everyone else you've also silenced by giving Dan too much credit thinking that your salvation can only come from him it's a very dangerous thing that every single one of us has done and probably does on a regular basis without even knowing it where we give too much credit to customers to donors to uh investors to potential employers to all types of people as if the salvation is coming from them instead of actually realizing that it's simply a using them to help us all they do is decide whether they're going to be the vessel that Hashem uses to run his world that's all that's in our hands all that's in our hands is our decision of whether we will be the vessel that Hashem uses to fulfill his will if it's a donation if it's an investment if it's a anything else you say you okay I want to donate I want to donate $5,000 okay great you have a desire to donate now evaluates your merits do you have a merits of a sadik or do you have a merits of a uh bunny rabbit what Merit do you have what have you done in your life if you have merits of a sadik hem is going to make sure that that $5,000 goes to the right place that is going to sanctify his name something that helps people do good things learn T do chuva and so on and so forth if you have the Merit of some bunny then guess what you could still donate the $5,000 no problem but you'll be donating to the Christian Jewish Alliance to the Red Cross where 99 Cents out of every dollar go to the CEO salary to some Hanukkah party and some reformed Sho that's what the $5,000 will be donated no problem you can still donate but where's the destination now many times you see us in the in the world where we get excited when we hear people donated oh he just donated $18 million maybe he could donate to you that's what people tell me all the time he goes oh listen I have this Rich Uncle he just donated this amount of money maybe uh maybe he could call them and he could donate to you reality is it doesn't work that way just because somebody has money does not mean that they they could simply donate wherever they want Merit goes along with it if a person has Merit Hashem will designate that donation to a good place that hem wants if not that donation will go to a bad place many times I me I meet rich people and they're always disappointed in meeting me rich people are constantly disappointed in meeting me not that I meet people so often but every time I meet them they get disappointed why CU I treat them just like everybody else I say hi to them I say hi to the next person I pass through them as if just like everybody else you have something I can help you with I can help you with but as far as the Hi how are you you nothing oh can you call me no oh can you come to my house no why can you do that no if there's an emergency I'm there I'm the first one I'm at your house at 3:00 in the morning but if it's just to socialize to want to to to to give you uh your honors for being rich and for all the Wonders that you done in the world I'm sorry I'm not the guy why have emergencies to deal with but that's a disappointment for rich people why because there's 500 rabbis that are doing it there's 500 other people that are doing it why because everybody else thinks Hey listen if I give this R this this uh this rich guy the Kad he'll donate you're right he'll donate to you to you he'll donate to me he'll never donate why you have to have Merit to donate to do help people do chva Hanukah party no merit at all the bunny has as much Merit as the rich people and that's why it's stopped being disappointing when we meet rich people and nothing comes out of it I met a guy that's worth maybe $100 million just two weeks ago maybe more anyone wants to volunteer an answer of how much he donated after the impressive meeting and the long letter that he wrote me of how I changed his life go ahead $80 $80 no Michael you usually have better answers than $80 no tell me $800 he's worth $100 million Michael 1,800 you're cheap no who else 100,000 100,000 zero zero he's been watching for the last couple of years rest of you guys are just sleeping at the wheel zero why that's the way it works that's the way it doesn't for me when I first heard this when I first learned this years ago I said no this doesn't make any sense what do you mean that's the way it works that's the way it works you have to have Merit to donate to the right designation that's the way it works this is a lesson to all of us especially some of you young people that are going to go into the work world you're going to go work you going to go make money you're going to go do something don't be a don't be a kiss up because some guy is the boss and has a three-piece suit that's worth $3 $4,000 do your job that's enough do your job be nice be cordial be polite that's enough nothing more nothing less don't be a kiss up aside from it being disgusting it's also a sin from a we have to understand if you're going to put all of the credit and all of the uh Power in the hands of people you'll fall into their hand hands instead of the hands of a and that's why we have to constantly remind ourselves that jealousy is not just simply being jealous of somebody else's stuff and therefore I'm eating my heart out for years jealousy Works in different ways it eats the bones in different ways it's also leads a person to think that wait if he has all this stuff then he could also be my salvation because he has all this money and he has this position and he has this and he has that yes maybe yes maybe no who has the answer that's why the BET finalizes and he says having will save a person from all of the sins relating and to dealing with other people in monetary matters such as stealing cheating unjust measures Usery what's unjust measures the way that it was applied years ago is that when you bought something from the market you bought it based on weight so thear says that if the scale is hollow the scale that weighs the things is hollow it's t you're not allowed to use it why because what they would do the thieves is that they would put it was Hollow they would put some weights some extra weights on one of the sides so it make the uh the the food that you're putting on there look like it weighs a lot more and therefore more expensive so in essence you're buying let's say one pound worth of food but it's being you're paying for it as if it's 5 pounds but in today's world it's not that different in today's world it's called bait and switch generally speaking if you go to the market no one really cares enough to change the scale no one really cares enough even the go why it's not wor it first of all a lot of things are digital a lot of the scales are digital you could play with it if you want what are you going to get yourself an extra 10 cents an extra 20 cents yeah if you're that busy if you're a supermarket busy then okay after a thousand customers it'll make a difference but in reality it doesn't make that much of a difference supermarkets doesn't make that much of yeah here and there where does it make a difference you go to the gas station where you have thousands of customers every day so sometimes they'll play with the machine and instead of it being $2.99 a gallon it's really uh you know it's really 309 or perhaps it's the opposite you're paying for a gallon but really you're getting uh 90 90 cents on a gallon or something like that so they'll play with it in such a place like that or perhaps they'll play with it in different companies that sell people things that are brand new brand new price $1,000 $2,000 $3,000 but in reality it's a refurbished product it's a refurbished product so you bought a phone it says apple on it it has all the stickers it has all the bags every it looks brand new in fact it looks even better than brand new but in fact what is it someone used it for 3 four five weeks the screen broke he sent it back to the company the company is not going to go and fix every single little phone too much money too much time so what do they do they take all the phones that are returned they throw them in one huge bucket send it to a company to refurbish them they sell them to the bucket and they just send you a brand new phone so you got you really did get a brand new phone but but that phone that you send back goes to some other company that other company bought it for a discount refurbishes it by getting a new glass on the phone and now sells it as refurbished but then somebody doesn't like refurbished price so what he'll do he'll buy it on eBay for let's say $300 cuz forer after all it's not $1,000 anymore and then I'll say brand new phone $900 only you could save 10% from the store he sells it as brand new why cuz he took off all the stickers and he has all the equipment to make it look like it's brand new it looks brand new in fact it acts brand new but it's not that's also stealing that's also a reason for somebody to come back in a reincarnation just for that until he pays all that money back to every one of his customers that is another person that does not have and feels the need to steal money because he does not believe that he is going to get the right amount of parasa the right amount of sustenance unless he steals unless he takes advantage of other people and he's just being a filthy liar by doing it there are many people that do this I remember in the uh when I was on Wall Street he he dealt with a lot of lawyers I spent over a half a million dollars just on lawyers and one time one of my lawyers this woman named Asmara nice lady we had some case of something happening I think we're opening another company or whatever it was a contract I think I had and uh so the the conversation itself was literally five minutes if that much but then we continued talking cuz she was a nice person and I talked and we just started uh just socializing on the phone continued for a little over maybe an hour now when you use big lawyers and they bill you they don't you don't send them the money the same day they send you an invoice at the end of the month and they tell you all the hours that you that you they they worked for you and they give you I worked for you on Monday from 2: to 3: on Tuesday from 3: to 4: on Wednesday from 9 to and they give you all the times they worked so when you look you see a bill 3040 $50,000 usually you pay but sometimes you want to review how' you put why so I got this bill and I'm looking at the bill and I remember specifically that day cuz after that call for some reason I said wait a minute is she going to bill me for the hour that we just talked about personal stuff and I didn't I was like kind of embarrassed to ask her so I figured nah she's not going to Bill me I said you know what let me let me see and I marked it on like look one of those little postage on the side remember this date from this time to that time are you getting build when I got the invoice I got build I get build $900 for having a personal conversation why time is money time is money yeah you can socialize all you want but you got to pay me that's the way it works that also is unjust why if you're going to have a personal conversation and charge somebody for it you have have to tell them first no one is under the assumption that it's going to be costly to have a personal conversation no one if you're going to charge somebody $1,000 for having a personal conversation whatever amount of money for having a personal conversation you have to let them know ahead of time you can't assume that they know or assume that they won't notice or they won't care this is also one of the reasons that one of the ways that we show lack of lack of trust in hem where people have gotone to the point where they feel the need to cheat the system to step on top of people and over people in order to get ahead almost every single business you're going to see in the street is cheating somebody it's just a reality it's not even an accusation it's simply a reality they're either cheating their customers by selling them you Goods that's new or they're selling them something that's completely fake altogether they'll sell them Nike but in reality it's Mikey it's they're selling him you know a Dodge but in reality it's fudge it's they two completely different things but they bought it from China but they say it's made in USA it's like the wig business for example the wig business they tell you it's made in Europe in reality it's India but why how do they get India to say it's made in Europe they send it to Europe and everybody knows it's in a trade business if you're an import export as soon as something goes to another country all you need to do is tie another knot that's it one little string once you put one little string one little sew into anything it becomes officially made over there yeah but the whole thing is made over somewhere there no no no sir it's made in uh Spain it's made in Brazil Brazil what Brazil there's no there's no PE no bold people in Brazil how are the wigs coming from Brazil sir Brazil why they put a hair of some dog somewhere in some place and that's made in Brazil from now on why because if we say It's Made in India no one's going to buy it that's how's happened so they cheat people they cheat good people they cheat bad people they cheat everyone this is happening everywhere but what do you think the people are victims no measure for measure people that get cheated cheated thems either they cheated other people or they're cheating Hashem on a daily basis or both every business you're going to go to is cheating somebody why because people do not have they simply feel the need to cheat the accountant is going to not be so careful on the timing or the money and he's going to charge an extra $2 $300 without you know maybe he won't notice this one maybe this maybe that he promised you one thing he gave you something else the uh the lawyer will charge year the doctor will not show up will'll tell you to come at 2: and by the time he sees you it's 4:30 oh wow you've been sitting for 2 and a half hours I'm sorry what I'm sorry just wasted two and a half hours of my time you know how much money I make I make $3,000 an hour you're going to try waste two and a half hours of my time you got to let me know I had a time you just going to throw my time away that's what people do why because we simply don't care about anyone else but oursel so much so that we think that it's okay to cheat it's okay to cheat if you want to gete it's very very hard to find honest people very hard only person you're going to find it's truly honest is someone that has a lot of a lot of fear of not a fear of man he's not afraid of the government he's not afraid of people he's not afraid of society he's not afraid of the community none of that stuff he's only afraid of a someone that's truly afraid of a why that's the only fear that works all the time if he's afraid of society okay so as soon as he goes to a different town he becomes asav okay so he's afraid of the community but as soon as he goes to Vegas on vacation he becomes somebody else this is what's happening sometimes by the way in in a religious communities my ra told me a story told he go went to a pool now obviously pools for religious people are different than for the secular world there's no boys and girls there just pools for women you want to go to pool for men it's a completely different area not different uh place within the same area like completely different place different building different block different Community but the ran says she went to the pool with the with the little girls and she said that in this pool even if you go to a pool you still have to be modest she says that there were certain girls that come from religious homes that literally looked like they never said sh in their life they don't know anything why literally they almost came naked like how but I mean you're religious what does that how how do you go from this to this what do you think just because you're in a pool you could be like this she said that the Arabs the Arabs that came to the pool were more modest than these girls meaning what meaning that people that so easily a their life their lifestyle and their beliefs so quickly means that their life their lifestyle and their beliefs are like a burden to them they're not really something that they believe in they're not really something that they hold dear it's just something that they do because of their fear of the community and of society and that's why you see many times people that leave their Community they go somewhere else on vacation you see religious people go to somewhere else where nobody knows them and they act like a completely different person all of a sudden he likes gambling all of a sudden he likes clubs all of a sudden he likes this he likes that what do you mean in your in your community you are the guy that was the Kazan all the time how are you over here in a beach this is because we have not ingrained the Torah into our veins into our life to the extent where we actually really believe in it and we believe that is watching all the time when someone knows that is watching all the time and fears you can trust that person with anything why because it doesn't matter where he is he knows that is watching it doesn't matter what time it is he knows that aosh is awake he doesn't go to sleep it doesn't matter at what item it is because he knows that a is involved in everything and anything and a person that has fear of hm will be somebody that you can deal with how do you find somebody has fear of hem usually he learns a lot of tah usually she's involved in a lot of tah it's not going to be a person that's going to the mall just to see what's going on over there it's not going to be a person that's going to play basketball on weekends maybe I will have a one-on-one on Shabbat it's not going to be one of those people a person that fears hem is constantly learning about hasem now the says that there was a uh a teenager that in those days there was so much poverty that they would send the little the little to different houses to feed them anyone that reads some of the some of the stories of the righteous from our previous generations see how much poverty they had and how much wealth we have in our generation if you compare the two we're Filthy Rich the poorest guy today is filthy rich in comparison to the people of the previous generations literally if you wanted to learn to you had to leave your parents house for months or even years at a time and there's no they didn't send you there with like a bunch of money and clothes and so on no you took one or two outfits if you owned one book at best and a loaf of bread that's it that's what you had go make it on your own kid you're only 10 years old 11 years old 12 years old that's it now once you got to the Yesa once you got to the Yeshiva you have to find a way the the the one of the one of the jobs of Thea would be to find some family that's willing to feed you he didn't have the money to feed you somebody had to feed you so they would send the the kids to different houses okay you go to the rubenstein's family over there every day from now on on Tuesdays and Wednesday you go over there for Shabbat you go there everybody would go to different houses so says there was one boy that was a sadik had some had some and every day he would go to this family and every day they would give him a couple of slices of bread with some butter on it and that was the food and every day would go to the same time and he would have a couple of slices of bread with some butter on it that was his food no complaint not like us we is the eggs with it too says it come with some uh what it's toasted right it's not like yesterday's bread it's fresh right no no whatever they had that's what we ate so one day he arrives at the house and the the woman that runs the house she says I'm sorry son the um the cat ate your uh slice of butter so I only have bread for you today so the boy says no the cat didn't eat my slice and the woman goes no no no I saw it I saw the cat ate your slice boy responds no he didn't eat my slice so the woman got the message she started doing some accounting goes wait a minute if he's saying he didn't eat my slice meaning his slice is he referring that really the cat ate my slice and I'm taking his slice this little span this rude little kid should be grateful so she was getting a little bit you know feisty with her go hey he ate your slice I saw it and the boy says no ma'am the cat didn't eat my slice she says then whose slice did he eat then he said the cat ate his own slice so the woman looks at him confused his own slice she goes yes it's his slice if it was my slice that means that a decided that it's my slice and no one in the world needless to say a cat can take my slice if he ate the slice that means that a decided that slice is his slice so he ate his slice me I wasn't given a slice from sh today what I have is the bread and thank you for that meaning when a person has whether he's 14 or he's 40 he knows that whatever slice he has in his life that's his slice and nobody else's and whatever he doesn't have is not his slice it's not his slice that car that he owns it's his car it's not my car that house that he has it's his house not my house there's nothing to be jealous of why because if wanted you to have the house you to have the girl you to have the boy you to have the money you to have whatever it is that you're jealous of guess what it would be yours it wouldn't be be theirs if you are jealous of it in essence what are you saying what are you really saying when you're jealous in essence what we're saying when we're jealous is that we're saying that made a mistake we're saying that who gave him my stuff you look at his car you say that's my car why did hasm give you my car and my wife and my house and my job Hashem gave you my stuff in essence when we're jealous the reason why we do not resurrect with the dead is because we have no place no place next to the no place next to the Salvation no place next to anything good why because we've been calling a someone that makes mistakes our whole life we've been our whole life why do we want hem to why do we expect Hashem to resurrect us when we are jealous of other people it's not just not having giving us what what's what we're entitled in what we deserve if you will but worse yet worse yet we're saying that Hashem made a mistake and that is one of the biggest things that a person needs to learn from this part now is one of those things that you have to work on it on a day-to-day basis it's not one of those things that you work on at once twice you're finished hopefully it sticks and that's why the BET says that if a person works on his it will prevent him from being stingy also which is a shameful habit a shameful Mida it will bring him to generosity what does having bet have anything to do with being stingy what does it have to do with anything with being generous if a person has they know that really the only thing that's in our hands is whether we are going to be the vessel that Hashem does whatever he wants anyway so if we say that there's an opportunity to get people to do chuv if we see there's an opportunity to get people to learn T if we see there's an opportunity to do a big mitvah and we have the money in our pocket it's not like we don't have the money we have the money in our pocket but we're thinking wait wait a minute I have $50 here uh that's all they they need $50 I have 50 they need $50,000 but the $50 is is 50,000 mil 50 okay so the 50 well help something I I have 50 bucks I could do something with this but wait maybe I'm going to need the $50 maybe I'm going to need it next week maybe I need to get by lunch maybe this someone that has doesn't think like that why he thinks wait a minute showed me aah I have $50 I have 50,000 I have whatever whatever I have I have money to help that mitah done why because who gave me this opportunity to dovah that he wants me to do it's not like uh go do a party it's not donate blood it's donate help people to get their back get G watch me doah he gave me this opportunity what about the $50 that I may or may not need in the future that same worry about that also all of a sudden the person becomes large becomes generous all of a sudden he's in every campaign all of a sudden he's donating to all the good things why because he knows that hem gave you money to fulfill mitv yeah but what about retirement that same God that gave me the money to do all these mitv I worry about retirement what about life insurance that same God that worried about this uh this money and these MIT he doesn't kill me he leaves me in this world for a long time cuz people need me and when the time comes for me to leave the rest of my family and whoever is going to have this insurance policy won't need an insurance policy why they'll have all the blessings to to benefit from all of a sudden he becomes much more generous all of a sudden he wants to do every single Mitzvah possible all of a sudden he wants to do the will of hem every opportunity that he can get but like I said it's not just about having money it's also about having Merit I see many times people donate an enormous amount of money to ridiculous campaigns ridiculous things that honestly I wouldn't give two cents to and you see it it's ridiculous from a mile away but people donate an obscene amount of money obscene amount of money to the most ridiculous things in the world but when it comes to actually doing something useful they never have any money so it's not just about having money it's about having the Merit that Merit comes with our own chuva so the BET says that this will generate love of hem and attachment to him because the one who trusts in hasem will not remove his mind from the one whom he trusts when a person constantly thinks about AEM he's going to fall in love with hem he's going to develop a inm a confidence in hem because he knows that hm is the one that's running the world he's going to find different ways to connect to hasem what's an example when you're looking to develop your and your confidence in Hashem that means that you're constantly looking for hem in everything you got a job you see oh this job hashm gave me this job why because hm knows that I need this job in order to do XYZ he knows that in this job I'm going to meet ABC you meet somebody's job you go ah thank God Hashem gave me this job CU I wouldn't have met this person had not been this job that Hashem gave me and you constantly look for has and everything Shalom he one day was sitting in traffic and he says during that time he was sitting in traffic was wondering why did Hashem create traffic why did Hashem create traffic you go to you go to different places you go to New York there's constantly traffic you go to Los Angeles all they have is traffic traffic traffic for hours and hours you guys think you have traffic here in Florida it's like uh kindergarten in New York in uh California Los Angeles all these places San Francisco traffic for hours I honestly think there's like literally like little people they just sitting in traffic they go they get into the car they're in traffic until they have to come home they don't go to work they're just in traffic for the whole day nine hours a day they get paid to go in traffic says how come this how come created traffic says to help us learn about patience learn about patience it's important to have patience one of the things that you rarely find in people today is patience this is the immediate satisfaction generation instant gratification you want to press a button and God to show up not the rabbi God himself they want to develop a god app you want an app every question every answer every possibility of the question from the question every grocery every penny every everything you want on a button people send a text message if you don't respond within 10 minutes that is everything okay okay like they send you a question uh I don't know whatever question it is and you don't respond for 10 minutes the next qu they send another text question mark you don't answer for another 10 minutes question mark question mark you don't answer again for another 10 minutes is everything okay can I help in some way should I call somebody no I had the phone off I'm learning I'm in a meeting I don't feel like answering you why do I have to explain myself oh you didn't answer I thought everything no I yeah I died I died I was resurrected because of your text everything wasn't okay but then Hashem said no no Steve just uh text you get up let's go on back from the dead yeah Steve you have to he asked you what's going on on today is there a so you have to answer the text is everything okay people want answers right away right away you don't answer they start calling you they want answers right away they want instant gratification it's disease and we're all we're all both the victims of it and also the ones that actually do it ourself we're also the ones we also expect everything you ordered something on Amazon it didn't show up in 24 hours dear Amazon is everything okay check the shipment honey did it show up no is everything okay you go on the computer let me check the tracking oh yeah it just went from Boston it's in New York why is it in New York let's Call USPS is everything okay is my package there who are you sir where you work here no no I ordered something from Amazon oh let us check oh honey it's in New York oh everything is okay let's ret for the package with the tweezers to show up on time is everything okay constantly constantly is everything okay someone sent me a text the other day I think I think I was uh uh I didn't have a shoe I didn't have yeah I think it was a week ago I didn't have a shoe on Sunday and truth is I didn't feel well I had a surgery in my mouth it wasn't a fun day and uh I just decided just tell tell uh few people just tell them we're not going to have a Sho today now I know who comes to the Sho by now I know all your faces I love all of you I know who comes to the shoe and also know who doesn't come to the shoe I must have gotten I don't know how many text messages of all the people who don't come to the Sho is everything okay is everything okay there's no shoeld today I was going to come I was going to come every other shoe they never come but that Sho they were going to come it's everything okay everything okay one time you take off giving shields for five years straight two days off everything okay this is us this is us this is us we have to train ourself to stop being like this have a little bit more confidence in and let him run the world let him run the world it's going to be okay the package may be lost or it may show up a week late the job may be given to you maybe not the sh may work out may not this uh you may have a kid this month you may not have a kid you know the point is is that just let a run the world everything is going to be okay there's no reason and there's no need for you to just lose your mind lose your cool just start doing crazy things start lying start cheating start uh passing lines start doing all types of things that really are just wrong people cut other people in line why because they want to make it on time yeah but don't you think that is going to decide when you're going to make it when not you don't need to cut them in line what was telling us here he says listen decided to create traffic why to teach us patience because once you have patience you give yourself enough time to think who is in control of the outcome once you have patience to let things play themselves out you have to do something with your time it's not like oh I have patience but I'm constantly busy with something else no being patient meaning you're okay that whatever it is that you want to happen is simply not happening you pressed enter and typically you're used to every time you pressed enter something happening on a computer when I was a kid you pressed enter nothing happened for 45 minutes today you press enter 87 different screens open you you come to my house you see my four screens if I press enter or one of my kids presses on my computer enter 90 screens open this that it's like a spaceship when I was a kid you press enter nothing or you see sound of the thing going to the internet for 45 minutes and then finally you got there it's like oh welcome oh wow where am I well there's nothing to do here there's no the internet just started there was nothing on the internet other than filth wow welcome emails no nobody knows that I even have the internet nobody else has the internet what do you do here this world called the internet that has nothing there other than filth okay guess uh nothing see you later off you waited for 45 minutes for the internet to work for no reason there's nothing to do now you press enter you go to different websites you go build a castle on the a computer back then nothing AB but we waited patiently why in hopes that something good will happen once we arrived at our destination today everything happens quicker but also at the same time nothing happens why because even when we arrive at a destination if we're unhappy with it we are so used to getting immediate gratification and things that we want immediately that if it's not what we want we simply abandoned ship and try something else now this is okay with apps you have an app you downloaded an app it was free you download it you don't like it you delete it even if you paid a couple of dollars for it you don't like it you delete it the problem is that people are treating relationships like this they start a relationship they pay 50 60,000 $100,000 to get married with the house with the uh with the wedding with the this with the that they get married oh ah everybody's happy you feed a bunch of strangers 3 weeks later divorce 3 months later divorce 3 years later divorce why oh we got into a fight so that's what marriage is you get into fights then you fix it then you get to a fight and you fix it you get to a fight and you fix it until you get along you're 90 years old already that's the point no no I'll get something else something better for me we treat relationships like it's an app like it's a website we treat Hashem like he's a service provider and that's the mistake and that all comes from not having in the system itself that's actually also comes some arrogance that we can do better than what a wants for us and it's very very important for us to develop patience and understand that we will arrive at our destination when decides this is the time there's nothing you can do about it no matter how fast you drive you will arrive at the destination of when hasem decides you will arrive whether you drive 150 mph or you drive 50 mil per hour you will arrive at exactly the moment Hashem decides you will arrive wait a minute that doesn't make any sense Rabbi don't you know math 150 M an hour and 50 mil an hour of course I'm going to ride fast no that's if you're a heretic if you're C you think that your your car is the one that's deciding whether you're going to arrive there faster if you if you think that oh we have another sh we'll send you the Torah and science we'll send you some other sh why because you think that you're in control of your destination what is trying to tell us constantly when he says that he's telling you I am the one that's in charge of both the blessing and the curse both are for me both are for me if you are going to arrive you will arrive when I decide if you're going to get the money you'll get the money when I decide if you're going to get the you'll get the when I decide you'll get this when I decide everything when I decide yeah but hasem can't I drive 150 miles hour and get there faster no maybe you won't get there at all you drive 1 15 mil hour but into a wallom yeah but maybe if I maybe if I would have D driven 50 miles per hour I would have saved myself no actually that wouldn't have helped either cuz it wasn't the speed that decided the destination it wasn't he drove 150 mil per hour and therefore Hashem took his life he drove 50 miles per hour and therefore he was safe no there's plenty of people that die simply standing there there's plenty of people that die jumping off of parachutes all types of people we somebody asked a question about a parachute skydiving in the last week two people died I don't know they said some statistic that no one ever dies just today the world's most foremost expert in skydiving actually created a special suit for NASA skydivers he died today now he didn't die because he designed the suit because he wasn't good enough no he didn't he died because he gonna die why I have no idea the point is it's not the speed that decides how fast you get there it's not even the effort that decides how much weight you can lift and how big you can be what decides it is simply a so what can we do what can we do as far as our own you know what how do we contribute in a following way number one accept whatever you have as is you have this slice because it's your slice he has his slice because that's his slice your slice and his slice will never change hands it this slice will always be your slice that slice will always be his slice maybe one day Hashem decides to change things and give you a different slice but that's not his slice it may look like his slice but it's definitely not his slice you have your slice he has his slice whatever who gives you accept it as is face value that's it this is the only thing in the world that you can get today that's your slice if somebody took it it didn't take it it's their slice they took what Hashem gave them the fact that you held it for a little while simply meant that you had it for a while it was yours for the time being until hasem decided to take it and give it to somebody else yeah but I want it back okay well ask Hashem and that leads us to the second thing what else can we do about our outcome we can cry to by aside from fulfilling his MIT and fulfilling his T like he decreed in order to get the blessings and not the curses but we could actually perfect use these mitv use this Torah learning in order to perfect our character remove all jealousy from our system remove all types of negativity from ourselves simply accept everything as a blessing and perect affect all of the negative things that we have on about us every one of us has something negative about us some are arrogant some are angry some are stingy some are this some are that everyone has a few things that are not so good everyone has a few things that are good everyone has a few things that are somewhere in the middle I promise you if you do if you do some self- accounting you'll find plenty of everything so pick one that's not good and start working on it start fixing it if you're stingy start becoming generous how could I become generous if I've been stingy my whole life the rambam says start giving little amounts to a lot of different people if you're really stingy take a $100 give $1 to 100 different people yeah but I give a $100 to one place they could use it a lot more than than $1 yes it's true the $100 can be used much more by one person than the $1 by 100 people the $1 by 100 people is not going to help any body even the homeless guy says give me a dollar give me a dollar he's really hoping you give him a lot more than a dollar he's not hoping you give him a dollar he's hoping for much more than the dollar but he'll take the dollar anyway and the $100 will help him a lot more but the problem here is not him it's you you are stingy so to fix that stinginess the rambam says take the $100 and divide it among 100 people how often as often as possible possible every day every week every month as often as you possibly can why once you get used to giving to a lot of people you'll start eventually enjoying giving and it'll lead you to actually become generous and start giving normal amounts to more people if a person is already generous already giving start looking am I giving to the right places the wrong places what are they actually doing with the money is there any actual results that comes out of it am I saving people or am I saving puppies there are people that donate millions of dollars to save sick dogs there are millions of dollars being donated to save sick horses there are millions of dollars being donated to save you know some plant that's on the extinct list or some bug that's on the extinct list to hopefully preserve the 18 different special butterflies that are in Africa but to save very few why because not everybody has prayed for this Merit and that's why it's very very important to do some to see where do we stand really where do we actually stand do we have as much righteousness and Merit as we thought and as we think about ourselves how do we know just review the outcome of your actions what good do you produce in the world if you disappear tomorrow what would change how many people would suffer as a result of your disappearance I don't mean how many people would cry over you I mean how many people would suffer suffering meaning that you're contributing to society you volunteer five hours a a week to this particular organization you volunteer an x amount of your salary to this organization you volunteer an X amount of your time to this family you volunteer an x amount of resources to this this how many people depend on you oh nobody you're the only one okay so if you die tomorrow no one's going to notice okay so what does need you for how do you get a long life get as many people as possible to depend on you it's not a coincidence that the adult tend to live very long life so we have to do we have to do some self counting where do we actually stand as things go on we evaluate ourselves we evaluate what's happening in our life we accept things for what they are we accept things that are happening to other people as they are and start finding a way to be happy for other people you see somebody else getting married buying a house getting a nice car a good job find it in your heart to be happy for them why it's their device it's not yours it's not that they got it therefore it's taken out of yours a lot of people think that if competition opened up in the same block there mean that means you're going to have less that's that's heresy thinking that somebody else is stealing your customers or stealing your slice that's actually heresy you have to understand that whatever decided to give you that's what he gave you so how could I change my outcome how could I change myice slies to be more like his his looks more juicy his looks fresh mine looks like it has a few green spots like it's old how do I get mine that means that we have to start fixing our character traits and then start praying to after we fixed our character traits after we've followed the tah in order to get the blessings then we plea our case All Over Again by praying to a who that look AEM I'm no longer the same person when you gave me this god- awful job where I was getting $5 an hour I wasn't keeping Shabbat I wasn't keeping this I wasn't keeping that I wasn't doing much but now hasem look I'm keeping Shabbat already for six months I'm keeping Shabbat already for six years I'm working on myself I used to be really angry every time somebody looked at me the wrong way you get a righty every time you looked at me the right way get a lefty anytime you look at me in general H I say okay fine you only if you look at me the wrong way the point is HEM I don't hate anybody anymore I give them hugs now I give everybody AEM I'm not the same guy anymore I used to be stingy n generous I used to do this I changed Hashem that changes the decree why it's not that Hashem is changing his mind is the destination has changed the one that got the negative decrees deserve the negative decrees nothing in the world was going to change that circumstance the CH that the person does has changed him to such an extent that he's no longer considered the same destination it's no longer the same you it's a different person the old you the one that used to beat wasting seed doing this doing that yeah he deserves all the punishment in the world still today but since that person doesn't exist anymore what exists today someone that keep Shabbat someone that keeps T someone that learns every day someone that comes to someone that volunteers someone that gives someone that does all this good oh that person deserves blessings why to says I give you blessings or curses if you're doing all this good I'm going to give you the blessings so as we do chv we ask but don't ask ask ask and do nothing because that just makes you look a fool it it just wait wasting your prayers those prayers eventually will be answered but only if you don't lose momentum a lot of times people make prayers they're number one uh they're number one thing and chuva secondary if at all chuva should be primary prayer should be secondary why if you do chuva you're assured to have your prayers answered if you pray constantly but you don't do chuv most likely you won't get your prayers answered and even if you do it's only after you've literally broken every single wall That's separating you and Hashem if you haven't given up already most of the times people give up because their prayer is not answered for so long because they haven't done Chua yet but that's where we need patience that's where we need patience andby says that as soon as he realized at that moment that Hashem decided to create traffic for the sake of teaching us patience he decided that from now on I'm never going to hunk I'm never going to honk I'm never going to look who's ahead who's the first one in line why if Hashem wants me to get to my destination at a certain time there's nothing in the world that I can do about it whether I drive 100 miles an hour or I'm in traffic I'll get there he said on himself that minute I got the trick I got the point But as soon as you sayem I got it says okay game over he says from that moment on he's never been another traffic he's never get got never got stuck in traffic again why there's no point the whole point of the traffic the whole point of the test is to get you to overcome the obstacle once you overcome the obstacle once you see oh that's the trick that's the that's what hasm is doing here got you hasm says okay game over next one next one the traffic is only for people that still haven't gotten the point of why hasm created traffic poverty is only for people that still don't have an idea of why hasem created poverty sickness is only for people that don't understand why hasm created sickness and so on and so forth what the BET what WBY the five books of Moses everything what in essence is trying to teach us is that is not simply a mere suggestion for you to live and have a better life it's actually a life vest it's a life vest for this thing we call life because without it we're simply drowning we're drowning in our problems that are happening there's so many of of them that you don't know what to do with yourself and unless you have as your life jacket You're simply not going to know how to swim how to manage how to do everything and at some point or another we get stressed out we drown in our problems we're we're overwhelmed it's a tsunami it's a sickness it's poverty it's too much money it's too many people interested in you whatever it is the problems don't necessarily come always because of lacking sometimes problems come because of surplus but the point is is a if we don't have that hm is running the world and he knows what he's doing we're simply going to drown in our own mistake and that's why the BET says that jealousy is not just necessarily something that you shouldn't have because you shouldn't think that oh you should have this you should have that it's jealousy could stem could uh bran outout it Roots into a lot of different places thinking that you should have something that really doesn't belong to you or even simply being aan being a kiss up and acting a certain way because youve putting too much Reliance on somebody other than you're disconnecting yourself from hasem that way and many many other ways the point is is that once a person starts delving into each and every little word that we discussed today you see that there is a clear instructions from the Torah of how to live in geden here here it starts with any questions yes you said something about if you have $50 in your pocket and there's a there's a need for it to be used charity Etc if you have you use it that reminds me of a gamar where there's a dispute I think it's whose blood is redder or where the two men in the desert have to share one ball right so on one hand I shouldn't expect it if I need that $50 it should you know it won't be there but on the other hand it's my last Bott of water I didn't say it's the last $50 I said you had $50 in your pocket my mind I'm think 50 in my pocket that's all I am so you're not you're not uh you're not obligated again it all depends on the level of the of a person the says many times the says don't be overly righteous meaning you have to know where you stand you have to don't push yourself to a limit where you won't be able to stand the test so you're not allowed to put yourself in danger when you don't you won't be able to to uh deal with the heat that comes with it meaning that if a person has 100% if he has 100% yes they should give their last $50 without a second question in their mind but guess what they're most likely not watching this youu they are living that life where they simply go to the supermarket without any money similar to this sadik that actually did it in Y where it's a very very famous story back a almost 40 years ago famous story where there was a uh a bunch of uh guys that were protesting s they were protesting because they were giving land back to the Arabs and so on they were kicking people out anyway they arrested a couple of people uh and they were going to keep them in jail the whole weekend so there was one particular sadik that wasn't blessed with money but he had an enormous amount of and he decided that uh he's going to fulfill theah of uh freeing the prisoners freeing a Jewish prisoner is a very big Mitzvah but he went to the police department he says okay I want to free these 10 people it says no problem $1,000 now $1,000 40 years ago a lot of money $1000 is a decent amount of money today but it's not a lot of money 40 years ago is considered a lot of money for somebody doesn't have any money $1,000 might as well be 10,000 100,000 it's the same thing okay he came he went to the Kila he says listen I need to free up free these prisoners before Shabbat it's already Friday morning I need $1,000 from the Kil I need to borrow $1,000 right now so I can free them before Shabbat so the Rabbi says okay how are you going to pay everybody back goes don't worry I'll get you the money by Sunday get the money by Sunday no get you the money by Sunday okay you're saying you are sadik everybody knows this guy's a sadik he doesn't say things for no reason sadik everybody 10 people got together each person gave $100 they gave him a th000 bucks he went to the police department th000 bucks free to PR prisoners come Sunday the guy that tells the story was the guy that watched the whole thing was with him the whole time he says if I didn't see with my own eyes I wouldn't believe it this sadik which I forget his name he uh says to his friend he goes come on you want to come with me he goes what we're going to go have a sud what we going to have a special Feast have a special feast in the field over uh and uh we're going to have a special Feast over there in why to celebrate to thank for giving us such an opportunity to free the prisoners okay fine let's go how we going to get there goes oh let's get a taxi taxi all the way to yeah let's go what's the big deal what's you have a c okay let's go okay fine they go all a taxi okay take me TOA it's a big ride a couple hundreds no problem go they start riding his friend is sitting over there with this tadik right as they're getting out to to uh to close the he tells the guy listen do me a favor stop by there's a uh caterer right out right in the beginning of the city right when you get into the exit there's a caterer on the left side stop over there okay fine no problem they stop at the first place and so other place goes okay come on wait for us outside we'll come back in a little bit they go inside he tells the guy listen I need he tells him a bunch of food that he wants his friend says where'd you get all this money he goes what money goes to pay for all this he goes I don't have any money right don't have any money so the guy starts getting scared goes I he started looking at his pockets he doesn't have any money either now he's ordering a bunch of food for like a wedding I want a hero this way hero that this n this that he starts ordering food like they're having a feast for 20 30 people so the B of the place with the food so the guy ordering me a lot of food it's early in the morning he says what's going on over there what are you guys doing you having a party goes yeah yeah we're having a for what because we're thanking hem for allowing us to do a big mitvah to free 10 prisoners on Friday those guys that got arrest goes yeah yeah you free them you know what I'm partners with you can be partners with you on goes yes no problem goes the food's on me the food's on me oh okay fine you know what let me take the food with you so now the food cost a few hundred nothing they take the food to the car he goes wow you got here with a a taxi all the way from where you are he goes yeah he goes ask the taxi how much is the taxi goes taxi is probably going to be by the time I finish the meter probably about $150 goes hold on one second goes gets the money goes taxis on me too taxis on me too they go they get the they start setting up the table and they're setting up the table they're waiting for people to come and as they see on top of the hill is the Baba Sali having one of his famous meals with the people that follow him all these rich people this that and he says I watch this with my own eyes he tells the sadik that's next to me has been doing this whole thing he points at him as soon as we get there the babaali points at him he says you come here no words do we go to the babaali as we come one direction to the babaali a one of the rich people comes to the babaali and hands him an envelope closed envelope the babaali takes from one hand from the guy gives it to him in his hand he goes this is for you take it for the and he leaves he give he takes the envelope he gives it to me he goes this is for you and the other nine guys he opens the envelope ,000 if you have that kind of do everything he just did but not doing it oh let's see if it's going to work that kind of be you you know it's going to work how that's the if you have that kind you give your last $50 you go to the supermarket without buying without having even a credit card let alone money but we're not that we're not over there we're not at that level so every person needs to know where they stand so if you have money then you you know that you're okay as far as you're going to eat it's not the last $50 you're not going to leave yourself stranded in the desert with nothing to drink you have money to drink you have money to eat I'm not saying you have a 401K with enough money to live 6 months that's not what I mean you have money for today you're okay and let's say for example you have this $50 that perhaps you don't need today you may need it in a week you may need it in a month but you don't necessarily need this $50 you give this $50 you give the $100 you give the $10,000 whatever it is and if you want to build is only Built once you start stretching meaning it's that yes I used to give when I had enough money for 6 months then it was five months then it's four months then it's three months then it's two months then you start living week by week day by day could be so the beton is is built based on how much are you willing to have as a reserve if you will but the key is is that the only way that is built is by stretching yourself a little bit more and a little bit more but don't stretch yourself right away to the final line because even if you make it it's not exactly doesn't mean that you're going to get because of it because is only something that you can repeat over and over again without a second CH without you know any questions in your mind it's not like okay yeah I jumped off the cliff and I made it great would you jump again no okay that's not be that's just craziness that's just craziness you jumped off the cliff good for you you survived theem had mercy on you but doesn't mean that you should do it you should know first how to climb how to D after that so each person needs to know themselves needs to know where they stand but I could tell you one thing when a person has when he simply trusts that knows what he's doing it's not just those donations and those uh big leaps and big deals and big things that happen it's also their day-to-day life the says that the Great benefit that someone that has gets is the it's simply the peace of mind that you have all the time what's what's Peace of Mind simply you don't lose yourself you don't lose your mind you don't get upset somebody cut you in line so somebody cut you off so you're late to an appointment tried my best I'm driving there's traffic okay yeah but the she supposed to start at 9: it's already 8:59 you're not going to get there for another 20 minutes I'm here I'm in a car I'm pressing the gas pedal that's just the best I can do it's the best I can do I can't do anything else and being perfectly okay with that being perfectly okay with it that's that's the that's the benefit of having where you have sh you have peace of mind you're not one of these crazy people that starts cutting people just to get into the elevator faster so you can get to your floor 30 seconds sooner you're not one of these crazy people that's jumping to get to the teller first so they could take your ticket and not his ticket so you can finish your appointment an extra five minutes faster like simply just go through life as is without losing your mind without losing your coool if the payment didn't come on time okay it'll come when it comes oh I sent you a package you were supposed to arrive today it didn't arrive oh is everything okay I'm sure it is when Hashem wants it to arrive it'll arrive nothing that I can do will change that yeah but that may not come if you don't okay if I need to do something if I get a notice from UPS or USPS or some type of PS to tell me that I need to do something I'll do it but until then I'm going to continue with my life I'm going to continue and when the package needs to arrive it will arrive this is a daytoday benefit of having you simply run through life not being lethargic and careless that's not what I mean I mean that you simply have a clear understanding that a is running the world he knows what he's doing and it includes what's going on in your particular life right now that is included in that list so there's nothing to worry about everything is okay the only thing that's not okay is that we haven't completed our CH yet that's the only thing that's not okay is not complete is cha that's the only thing that's not okay everything else is okay everything else is okay so that should encourage us besm to get closer to hm to understand what he wants from us ofm and to really have a true understanding of who runs the world which is definitely not us anything else yes the uh the the and is it all one entity or is it is it okay like I said it's all the same thing it's all one entity says it's all one entity it's all one thing just in essence wearing different uniforms it's like for example one person having three different jobs in the morning he's a janitor in the afternoon he's a secretary and at night he's a TV announcer you know has three different jobs same exact person seeing you know three different uniforms uh that's what the uh but the only difference here is that the uh Mal is more like a CEO a CEO of a brand new company wears a lot of different hats he's the secretary he's the salesman he's also the banker so uh this is what the he has all these different hats for the same same in Ence same position um but uh as far as our role our role is to make sure that we focus on not uh falling in love with our sin so much that the doesn't even have to work anymore that's what happens sometimes sometimes we we fall in love with the sin so much that the doesn't even have to do anything we just do it by ourself anything else yes if we believe that the theory of evolution is nonsense does that mean we believe that every animal every species was created on the same day when it says in the Torah let the Earth bring forth living what do you mean by a theory of evolution well because according to them uh everything evolved from from one another like there was water animals first and then eventually evolved into land animals which I don't even know how it's possible and and it took millions of years for for every species to okay so what you said and what you described yet that is nonsense as far as the world being millions of millions and millions years old and we all started from amibas and molecules and things of that nature yeah that's nonsense but it's not 100% nonsense meaning that the tah does talk about how there are certain changes in nature uh that have happened uh for example in thear says that um in a how does a person know which sheep are his and it says the sheep that he sees with a uh with his eyes anything that he can see with his eyes the the farthest one that he can still see with his eyes uh it's his so okay so asks how far can he average person see with his eyes and they give a description that's approximately 18 miles 18 miles there's not a single human being on Earth today that can see a distance of 18 miles needless to say one mile even we can't see you can see light up to 10 miles in darkness but to see clearly that the Sheep 18 miles from now is exists even you won't see it won't even look like an anti you simply won't see it 1500 years ago 2,000 years ago people had that ability to see things that were very very far away which means that nature has changed and many other things like it so yes Human Nature has changed certain uh animals have changed have developed but nothing changed form meaning where Evolution changes where evolution is a mistake is that Evolution thinks that one species became another the fish became a lizard the lizard became a bird the bird became I don't know a dragon or something that never happened but as far as different species developing themselves yes that did happen to a certain extent you can even see today with breeding of of dogs for example you see certain dogs that exist today didn't exist 500 years ago not because it wasn't possible simply they didn't do the breeding that they did back then uh today oh they didn't do it today what they did back then and so on and so forth and also human nature was slightly different uh so as far as certain parts of uh development yes that did happen but it wasn't something changing a species it wasn't a monkey or some type of ape or some type of uh uh species that resembles it that eventually becomes a speaking human being that never happened uh uh it wasn't a dog becoming a cat or a horse that never happened it's just certain things changed that we can see that we can tell that the Torah even discusses even certain aspects of The Big Bang Theory are actually in the I believe it's page 12a uh talks about how the world started simply with Hashem and that Hashem decided to create the world and he expanded and expanded and expanded creation until he said die till he told the the creation to stop and that's why he's called el Shai the the god that said die the god that said stop so that in essence resembles the big bang that the universe is expanding and so on but their problem is that they think that the universe is continuing to expand the truth is that Hashem said stop which means it's not not expanding anymore so there are parts of evolution of The Big Bang Theory and different aspects of it that do exist that are valid but that's also what makes the lie more dangerous that has some ankling of truth to it same thing with Christianity same thing with a uh Catholicism or Islam or other big lies the Shabbat says why is the K the K why is it shaped this way the K the letter K is it's a and then it has one line says that stands for she she has one leg one leg meaning why does it have one leg it has because every life for it to be for it to exist it has to have at least one leg what about em em it starts with Al Al has two legs and the T has two legs all the letters that make up have one leg all the letters that make up the word have two legs cuz for it to be a truth it has to have two leg a real foundation for it to be a lie it has to have one leg wait shouldn't have no legs no it canot be anything without a single leg it simply wouldn't exist no if I told you listen the sky right now is uh is uh is a burgundy with uh with with rainbows and little ice cream pops on it within 3 seconds everybody's going to go outside see that I'm completely out of my my mind and that's it it's no longer a lie but if I told you the clouds right now are out and the clouds look a shade of purple well that's believable why there's most likely clouds outside and it is possible for the clouds to have certain purple if the Moon looks a certain way there's a Certain Shade it's possible so it has aect to it even if there's no clouds whatsoever it's possible it's believable same that's what Christianity has Christianity has the Torah as the Old Testament that's the believable the valid part so then it builds whatever nonsense on it as well Islam same thing Evolution and uh all of the other scientific theories if you will have to have some type of leg to stand on in order to build on and they all do they all do have some leg it doesn't mean that it's true it means that it has an element of truth but that's what makes the LIE much more dangerous the biggest lies in histories H always have truth in them the biggest lies in histories always have truth in them if it's a big lie it has to have truth if it's has only a lie it cannot exist because You' simply find out it's a lie everything in in the world that is a lie had to have some truth in it so as far as Evolution and everything else again it all depends on what you describe if you describe it like them as Evolution then yes that's complete nonsense but if you describe it like the tor yes it's completely valid so it all depends where we stand that's why I always tell people if you find something interesting look for it in the tah you like superheroes look for it in the tah you like snakes look for it in the Torah you like anything you like look for it and there's definitely some that wrote about it all of the wisdoms that exist in the world are in the Torah all of them the seven wisdoms in the world all of them exist in the Torah any anything that you're interested in is in the Torah anything is in the Torah you want to learn about business you have entire track dates in the talk about business you have entire books from from hundreds of years ago talk about business and so on and so forth ethics uh marriage science medicine whatever you want to talk about animals anything and everything you want is in the toah everything is in a tah so there's the the uh the ones that are non-believers are people that invested an enormous amount of time looking at things that they're interested in through every single wisdom except the tah meaning someone that's a non-believer let's say he's from Christianity he'll be an expert in Christianity but he'll know virtually nothing about the Torah he'll know superficial things just to make his argument look real make his argument look valid but in reality he doesn't know anything why because to get to to know T takes a lot of time Tak a lot of time a lot of effort it's a lot more difficult than other subjects but the point is is that anyone that actually delves into the Tor always falls in love with it there's not a uh not never failure and the reason why is because says it's in your mouth it's in your heart to do it meaning that you were created for this you are created to comply with the Torah not that the Torah was created for you Torah was created 9974 Generations before us so it's not like we were created for the Torah it's the Torah was created for it was we were created to follow the Torah not the opposite so if a person invests into the T they're always going to find any solution that they want B we have our next year on Tuesday we're going to go over I guess it's thean and then Wednesday it's questions and answers back over here Tuesday it's an aventur and Wednesday it's back here amen V amen [Music] e [Music] oh [Music] [Applause] [Music] la [Music]