The Costs of Being Zealous - Rabbi Yitzchak Breitowitz

[Music] again because I'll tell us that these Thai nation are going to be sussing Allah simcha when we have the face of Mick - so I don't know it could be even after Machir comes we'll still have a queue of seminar but at least we won't be meeting and a day of a kindness we hope this will be the last time let me start with a thought coming up in the part of the week purchased Pintrest in which building tried to curse us and building failed so he came up with a plan B if he's not gonna be able to curse us supernaturally he will be masterless be Avera the daughters of mullah Wentz and they were not sure the Jewish people in gilma uraeus and our Vedas ara and then there was a Madhava 24,000 people died and finally pin has stood up for the glory of our cutters barcode and pin cross killed the nasi of shimmer Zimri and the Legion Knight woman cuz be but a god Sara Magatha and the Magatha stars and a college boy who then says because pinnacles was zealous on my behalf the canoas can you see therefore I am giving him a covenant of peace a confident of show light whatever that means exactly but Pinkas has a claim has the chaotic to bring Shalom into the world so one thing one can understand is the high rep in crust engaged in an act of violence ain't no enemy the whole awful was correct he did what he's what he did cod lion pagan briar karna as Ellis person is supposed that they would pin Christine and of course you'll get a tremendous reward but it's a little incongruous that the reward that he should get for his violence albeit justifiable violence should be a connection to Charlotte kanai's and shall I'm on some level seemed to be the opposites another question Rashi himself raises from Kazan the tyrunt's Miatas Pintrest not only to being the son of Eleazar but it also says he's the grandson of ayran husband allows Reuben Aaron so Rashi raises the question again from Kassala why call him Ben Aaron just say been a loser but the answer is the chaton were Mikasa him because Eleazar also married the daughters of history so they were saying who is this Pinterest to kill the nasi be Israel because of our Vedas ara he comes from as part of a lady Zara I ve mother the father of his mother was my Fatima Golan fattens our golden calves the ablator Zara such a man has the right to stand up for a Shem and kill a Nessy be round so the Tyra says well don't look at that part of the family look at the fact that he comes from Aaron Carter that's not a terrorist yeah he comes from Ireland but he also comes from Israel the fact that he comes from Aaron doesn't tell me he doesn't come from Israel so the tinier that he comes from a very different is still a good tight so the Kasab cipher the son of the kasam siren this will actually be be relevant to the macabre says the following idea he says in order to be a convoy a zealous person for the honor of the Shem you can't act out of hatred and out of animosity you actually have to hate what you're doing you actually have to have a temper in order to be a con none of the same samaya your inclination is that you're a no abs rail you're a lover of juice that you don't like to find fault with people that you try to see their good side that you're not acting out of egotism and you're not acting out of self-advertisement and you're not acting out of juggling you're not acting out of covet and you don't want to do what you're doing but you make is she cold that ultimately for the greater cover the Hashem and out of your Abbas Israel to be muscle folly show you to it a person can only be aconite if they hate being a canoeing because if you love being a Kenai you love finding fault in people you love exposing their shortcomings you love because I'll say the person should be are you a certified this is one of the 48 ways we acquire tegra but the meaning of iowa's a title that means you love to receive cipher but sometimes we're the opposite I love to give masseur I love to point out all the ways that you are not behaving properly I'm Ava citation but that's why they might as all meant so here is what the toy is made when the SWAT team are my father Pinkus they're saying that they're saying to pimp us who gives you the right to stand up for coverage and I am you come from a tainted Gyges you come from an idolatrous background so you're doing this not the sanction I am you're doing this to bolster your reputation you're doing it to be admitted into the inner circle you're doing it as it were to show that I repudiate the taint of my family that's not the coverage sure Mayan so the Tyra's made the substrate for says when it says Pinkus been Eleazar then our own it doesn't mean the son of Eleazar and their laws are was the son of Armand rather Pincus had two fathers his physical father was there was or his spiritual father was ayran ayran smith there was a yep Sheldon for a Dave Shulman a lover of peace a pursuer of peace Oh Ava sub Rios he loves all of Rios is a very broad term it could even include animals theoretically he loves doesn't say say love juice he loves all that I am created Huma Carvin the tyrant and through that love some cipher says elsewhere he brought them to Tegra he brought them to work nice so pinch Guster was not a hot-headed seller who was standing up in order to re-establish his bona fides as a soldier in God's army Pincus did what he did not because of his nature Pincus did what he did in spite of his nature and that is why it was a colossal shame shame I am and that is why he is led to a bris of Shaolin because in fact his nature and his Terra and his desire in his fashion was showing again I think it's very very significant that this is a massive ax from the sub cyclic sub safer was the son of the for Sam safer if you know historically the kasam se fair was indeed a very very big canal a very zealous person a person who fought incessantly against the inroads of the reform movement in Hungary very very stark you could get the impression class for shelling of the facade cipher as an argumentative angry person who always wanted to pick fights with anybody who wasn't doing things his way the Kasab cipher bi - indirectly although he doesn't directly connect it to his father I think is magatha something about what he saw in his own home that's for character the kunai for our college bar who's covered has to have the media of ayran to be IEF schellenberg they've shovin to be i a bursa Bria's not to ask not to act in order to put down but to act in order to raise up raise up calling israel be moderate cabochon i am and even care about the people that you're fighting to try after in a good way to bring them also back to our cottage burger now they say the shame will find that your finest of a trick once said that the difference between a true can I like Pincus and an illegitimate zealot is the difference between a housewife and a cat let's imagine that a housewife we know in their neighborhood you buy a caste because there's a lot of you know if you don't have to buy a cat here they're just around but there's mice in the house right so you get a cat because there are mice so the housewife and the cats have a common agenda that if there are mice we want to get them we want to get rid of them but the Nazca Mina is the housewife really hopes very much there wouldn't be mice the cats would be very disappointed a cannoli like Pincus gets no pleasure in exposing the constraints of other people I I got you on page four hundred of your safer there's something that's not for cared from what the receiver once said so you're not declare if you are kafir there's no pleasure in doing that for carrot how Viper however me eating his Cola on the BM how by claudius load would be righteous and good and that's what I want but there's a kinda like that sometimes goes the other way gee if there's nobody who's famous I can expose what am I going to do with my time look into myself I don't want you right so this is what your I am said that foster Kanye is like a cat's a true con is like the woman who buys the cat if there are mice we have to take care of it but how live a live there wouldn't be mice and then before should want to point out that's a beautiful thought the Gemara tells us yesterday recently of course had a teen breakfast and later Rabban Gamliel in yagna this is after the horrid man so we're faced with missionaries christians early christians all sorts of people may see some people though i must my sir to the government it's all historical question exactly who are these meaning why these sectarians that we need to get protection against but troubling Emil had a dilemma me he Jane who will give us a brother against the meaning and they couldn't find the author of beer casa minha till they had Roja cuttin they found tarnish well I'll cut such more of a modest one and shamova cotton is the author of beer sesame member maaske name LTE signal so the kasha is what's the big deal I mean good whoever ok we don't have the actual addresses are telling the Phenom II they're not there anymore but what is the big deal that's probably all right professor meaning what is it that you need some unique author for Beatrice Amina and why which moral Hakata and be that the the author for because I mean so the thoughts that they said it's quite beautiful well mouth Sheena is the only branch Monash right that is not asking a Shem to bless it is asking that Shannon to curse and punish and destroying it's very very unique it is a brother of negativity a brother of destruction but Roberto Leal says when you turn to Koosh born and you asked for punishment you asked that somebody be heard that somebody be destroyed you can't come out of anger you can't come out of hatred you can't come out of animosity you have to come out of a love for a Vestas rel and a novice at can and that's why reluctantly you're asking out his welcome to do this but not because you have a hatred towards the person that you're being with Rakesh sermon Emile says who can rise above that we live in times of Roman persecution they destroyed the base on meekness they destroyed Bates are hundreds of thousands of cause all you've numbers and the millions of Jews died and then we have missionaries may see cinema decent who can ask a beardless Amin and without feeling anger and hatred but that is a tainted prayer that is not how you go to work of this world so what was so great about smaller cuts in so we don't know a lot of much smaller content he's not mentioned that much cuz I'll say he was so great Rory should teach mr. Kenan he was right Brett Russell Shana but in pure ghee of us there is one member of shmulik Hutton she wore locket on hoo-ha a mare and it's not even his words it's a prusik initially but apparently he said the pus ik over so often that it became his mantra it became his mission statement and that is being a follower veca out his smile do not take personal Glee in the downfall of your enemy even applying it to mitzrayim Reverend Graham Leo said only a person with the attitude been a follower vet for autism I can write the burkas I mean him because she's not acting out of anger out of negativity out of hatred out of beetle he is not acting because his nature is to be my visa and be mattress but rather he's acting because it's the opposite of his nature and this is needed for coverage remain so this is the thing the emesis the negativity of Congress although it is sometimes very necessary has a very very significant cost to a persons reference first it inculcates within a personality a certain negativity in which you no longer are able to see the goods and what people are doing nobody is perfect and none of us are perfect and there are people that are wished Tuggle to do something recover the shell and it may not be the way we like it the way we think it's right there may not even be a colossal are done right but it's coming from a place and if we could be master of the place if we could see the good in a person that would give a person with music Shalom I'm not that says come I am upon him upon him came later than the other water reflects the face that you show it I smile at the water I get a smiling face I found at the water I get a frowning face such lamella as water reflects what you show it lay for other only other on the lave of a person reflects back what you show that legs I show a person disdain I show a person Beto I show a person an attitude that I'm not garrison I'm not much of him he's a not be terrorist he's a kafir or the either Pisa he's a fanatic because he's more firm than I think he should be can go either way that's what they say to the right of me is a fanatic to the left of me is a not be Kairos Punk'd where I am is the right thing but what's gonna happen so um I'm Alex tells you you have that ye those stories a person they will feel the same about you the other way around you have a sense of the person being a such a person being misseldon elokim decides try to see their good points to try to understand where they're coming from then they will understand you as well they will feel that like dialogue keema burmese either this is that he said not a thought generally about how we deal with all the Salone problems in Israeli society but dialogue schema beer Mesa that if in some way we could move away from being mulatto which just causes the other side to be Movado and fathers on my mother's ASA of Kamiya my upon him upon him Paris I tell you for the good that others tell them police whatever it would be then I think that following the hakama cavada there might be a shilling in the way the item of the tiger has also viewed by others rebel your chief said that the central advisor of the turret community bisman Azam is to make the name of our College Board who beloved in the eyes of others do more Numa be our half-day session of Akasha that the shame shamayim should be miss I have a yachtie the name of Hashem should become beloved in the eyes of others maybe that means they'll be shown more missus maybe not but even if one is not much different that level if they look at a bent IRA they look at a shame in mitzvahs and they say common I am Asif how beautiful are his actions common no add directly how pleasant I am drunk of how pleasant are his ways Tyra's good mitzvahs are good then you've made the name of Hashem miss your valiant the central idea of kiddush Hashem over thar a cogniser my negativity does exactly the opposite but it's also concerning the person himself that he no longer sees the good that exists in the world that's a very big Cosmo let me just give you a you know I want to do a little bit of a rush side caste although I'm not going to administer and it's a test a person here's a mice about cotillion and again I just got this I was telling a mice in which I was 100% sure that the Lekic of the mice a was so-and-so and a person heard the mice a totally different I think I'm right but okay but you know maybe they're right and I'm wrong I'll just give you a few examples by side with their visitors almond del Sur that one day it was a hot summer day like today and he came home from me Shiva and he's pacing the streets he was not a healthy person who was an old person he was sick and he's pacing the streets walking around the block for an hour and I were to have and somebody sees him Tallmadge sees him it says Rebbe ready what can I do is Rebbe feeling well can I take the Rebbe home and mr. Solomon said no no no no I need to walk and it turns out because he had a cleaning lady who was cleaning the house and when she was cleaning she liked to sing and you're mr. Solomon didn't want to go in because I didn't want to be you didn't want to have a koishi problem with her singing so a person hears that story and one person will say wow what it's a turkey is so saw here in kaliesha even though she would have stopped him if she would have stopped when he came in Ella ma he would have heard a note right so the length of his he is so Saharan kaliesha that he's willing to walk around in the hot Sun as an old man another healthy man for an hour and a half that he shouldn't be in this shower in hearing a note in coalition that means that he would have heard before she starts but you know that's not the reason of issues I mean games mr. Solomon said why should I stop her singing if it gives her pleasure I know she would stop if I would go in why should I take that away from her in other words instead of looking at it as as a hereis in a Hummer in Halawa which wouldn't be i'll be done really because if she stopped right away you know he's called her - yeah a person doesn't have to stop going home because he'll hear a note of a woman but this is a letter in Bernardo Mahavira insensitivity this must have been a simple woman probably not a great great before some subjects but if this gave her pleasure why should I take away a pleasure of hers another story well-known story but if [ __ ] zalman was sitting on the bus coming from cultura back to Sherif SN and the seat next to him was empty and amazingly enough a woman came in and sat down next to him so he's told the woman that he just have to get off the next stop and he got off the next stop which happened to be around 2 miles from his house and either walked or waited for another bus so some people hear the story and they say well dick what a Sadiq he is that he wouldn't set Nick's note next to a woman and therefore even if it meant he had to walk two miles he was so Sawyer in Hill sicinius but that's not the explanation that he gave yes it is true he would not sit next to a woman in the bus but he would not apply that halacha in a way that would hurt her feelings so what would he do all right so today what you have people do is they just push her off the seat as if that's really making shame shame and decide okay if you're a more refined person you will get up and stand in the ayah okay maybe most of us might do that even though my trip would allow you to even keep sitting but okay let's say we would get up stand but how does that make her fail oh I'm so I'm so impure that you can't sit next to me so look what a guzzle not only entire but a guzzling me dice on one hand he gets up right away he is very much there in hillford Smith but he does so in a way that she can't possibly understand this as I can't sit next to you he gets off the bus he says I have to leave look at the such - in which you don't simply become a chameleon but in what in one dollar and then be mrs. L in other in younger but you take it very seriously in terms of the be another massive area to make the shame sure Mayan missile value we tell a story about Rebecca Vega reberty beggar was once in an inn and he was stuck there there were no scarring so he asked the innkeeper's there any that you have anything that you have at all so strangely enough there was a fiduciary but hey look colorful please do sit around let's see there's no Gomorrah no no Clement did is nothing left the TV around so you're icky beggar learned he was learning they say fiduciary Spanish Anna Sofia Shabbos and there was one page that was missing one top of the wrapper that was missing tricky beggar asked the innkeeper for a piece of paper and rabbika Vega wrote over the missing page so you ask people what does that story show so the first thing is amazing he knew the whole rash but by hearts he knew it by heart Wow what is ela what a genius but you know if he knew it by heart why did he bother writing it what was the purpose he knew it by heart anyway the answer is he was thinking about the next person who's gonna go to the hotel who may want to learn who doesn't know the restaurant by heart so he went to the trouble so you know we tend to emphasize how brilliant somebody was how much clearer they were in Halawa and this is all anis all of this is honest but at the same time look at the sensitivity look at the meters when one is a kunai they become blinded to those aspects of the human personality it becomes blinded in them and they don't see it in others either they're not even my servants anymore because it's not something that they're massive because it's not part of their dish it's not part of their personality and therefore they don't see it you know I remember there was certain cuddle who was nifty and people were talking about how can I see was how kind he was to his wife and the gyro sericea and I actually heard people complaining says I need to hear this this is like a 1950's you know a situation show on television oh no destabilize Leave It to Beaver this is what you talked about with a puddle oh yeah it ripped Kriya that somebody would say that that somebody would be masala in the fact that another God Oh was great in Benidorm Mahavira that that becomes a Silvo that becomes a critique that's a cleaner type how could that be how could that be how could that be and this is we have to be much massacre selves we have to understand now I'll tell you one my several finalizar won more money than I thought I'm going through at different points well climb Iser was goggles should be tightly my ownership our vitamin recalls as a teenager as an unmarried teenager he went to visit with climb riser in Vilna and he described her climb Iser sitting at the head of a big dining room table and on all sides of the table there were people that you know ten people on each side of the table and each person was likely these people who play ten games of chess at the same time or twenty games of chess people were asking Seamus eight since our colossal attack and Gomorrah he was also writing the children at the same time his Rebbetzin was in the kitchen and when she said something to somebody else he would like be myself and her conversations and when people would stop talking he would say go on go on I hear you I hear you people were couldn't imagine he was he was tightest everything brilliant brilliant to me he's one of the very very few later cranium that relationship quotes with us are competent it makes you says that the other is a dumb God all had me I you might you almost never quotes later a queen and a crime laser was not in Kirov per se if clang riser was not in Jewish outreach or say but there's a story they tell this is actually told by the certain reporter he worked with the Joint Distribution Committee dr. Schmitz he was a mahalo Shabbos he was not a firm person but he traveled from the u.s. to Europe to distribute various funds in the pre-war years or at the time when the Iranian became free for a while between the conquests and the like and he had to meet with refined Iser in terms of knowing where the money should go to climb Roger had millions and millions of dollars passing through his hands constantly and in the middle of the conversation dr. Schmidt is giving a reports and with Kyocera puts his hands on dr. Schmidt's hands and he says do you mind if I call you Rep Shula instead of you know dr. Schmidt I call your reps more so dr. Smith started crying because he knows Reb is like a title of honor title with respect and he says Rebbe another rabbi I don't keep Shabbos I don't where it's filming I mean I'm not someone that someone like you should should be mahabad Andrew Klein Roger says what do you mean you're not worthy of covered you've risked your life to come into a war zone to help other Jews do you think that's not worthy do you think that's not Kruschev do you think a college boyfriend does not get nauseous from what you're doing of course your repertoire that's what I want to call you dr. Schmidt said that day after he left her climb over he got himself a pair of to fill in he put it on he continued to wear it for the rest of his life and he became a shomer Shabbos this was not a jld program dishes out of nowhere the goal of program what made this person from he saw the greatness of Torah and the care of the concern and the love that a goggle of Torah had and really with all of the needs for petty pedagogy and training and of course you know we should be able to talk about age of the earth and what is the tourists view on evolution or surrogate motherhood and how to organize a shot of town these are important things we need to have that information but ultimately what brings a person back to my cottage garden is when they feel the love that a goggle datura or rather and makaras have for them so even if the Makara it might not have the answer to every single complicated question but if you're in Kirov and the person is Marcus that you care about them and the person is Marcus that you're a person who sees the good in them like so my mother says it then becomes command upon an opening came late for the meal the other way around well the message is one of negativity the nest message is one of denigration the message is one of a patronizing attitudes that you are nothing but I can show you the wisdom that can bring you up from the dirt well one of two things will happen and both of them are bad either you'll underly fail and crush your spirits which of course is bad or you'll be Mac IRA of a person will be just like you which is equally better so the truth of the matter is this approach is lousy whether it's successful or whether it fails I mean [ __ ] it's not gonna be good come I am a plumber mo upon him near Irvine Cutler was already a goggle goggle the Israel at the age of 21 he was already before she was already Brosius Eva i'ma force him as a gardener he came to the United States during the war years he established the Lakewood first it was in White Plains then lightwind but drove on cutler a goggle who could have written here Benny's farm as it were but he could have done so much more he spent so much of his time collecting money and in those days in those days people would give $1 $2 that they didn't even understand the most abuse even now we're a little better but although with an inflation-adjusted I'm not sure how much better it is and it's Hamid once after Byron Rabiya and people will be y 0 VAR n people imagine they say what are you doing this was America what are you bothering us with your old-fashioned ways they would be 2010 pleasure and it's haunted ask Rivera he said you know you're such a great person Sadiq and a gud all and again other Agarn didn't like to be complimented that way because how is it Shia that you have to go through this sir of ayran answers my beats a tailor often have to go into goddess the goddess why because maybe inadvertently they killed somebody when you're going to Gus when you kill betray gank a Rebbe my parents can kill in a shuttle you can kill the person by your word by your harshness by your let by our lack of attention our lack of care its receiver it's not good see fascicles its received some effort and it's not the maze of cross for Sheldon nobody intentionally wants to crush a spirit it's for sure you think Rasika be shy gay there's a sea of godless that's the tremendous idea of crushing his spirits and by the way this doesn't only mean in Kirov no didn't make somebody from who could have been from and was refined vulajin er says if that person could have become showmen mistress or veteran did not then all of his are various and all of the mr. C could have done and all of the daily diets around your Suchman in a net are such been in a negative way because we could have changed it and vice versa British and all of this applies that come the dive a diamonds are on our accessory but it's not only that even if a person remains from Q of Craven person remains from there is a phenomenon the Walking Dead the person could still be a show minutes ago but they're crushed inside they don't have a symptom of a decision they don't feel anybody cares about them they don't feel connected to a rebel to a yeshiva even if they're really ready even if they have a rabbi in there any issue and this too is what Ravana is talking about when he talks about crushing a spirits and therefore we have to try to work to the best of our ability the other way to build people up and although as I say it is important to try to have answers to the difficult questions people ask and of course Lima de terre the smile is the most important character it needs of course but you have to know that without the love and without the care and without the catcher none of those things are going to happen and when we cultivate the attitude of cognizer being avato of destroying instead of building up then we are setting ourselves up for failure and we are setting the people were working with for failure as well because as I say whether they fail it or whether they succeed you failed because if you have succeeded in making them as negative as you might be that is a great failure in and of itself so I just wanted to say that it's like to take a little much over from partion a few weeks from that really towards territories of a forest Hashanah we read about Asia Street Ostia right a very very enigmatic parsha about a woman that is taken in captivity and without going into all of the pretend Rashi points out that the whole parsha of Asia first tire about taking the woman and marrying the woman is not talking about a male famous Mitzvah where you have to eradicate the seven nations it's not when a Muslim mistress just an optional war of expansion the terror gives you this hatchery with these guidelines then Rashi says because in the most famous Mitzvah it's not Shia who could take anybody because the tiger says low such high a calm the sugar that's what Rashi says from the supreme now the problem is this desire of Carthage tells us that the whole partially fast tire he say Salem no karma alloy a vessel when you wage war against your enemy is a remiz to the cosmic struggle we have against our Yeats erhi rap and it goes through we're not gonna don't have time to go through every aspect of the analogy but the parsha of you FASTA are the facet alia is the beautiful measurement that you lance and the enemy has captured it and you recapture it and even when it says you she cries for her father and mother for 30 days desire says her father is Hashem and her mother is ami Israel and the 30 days of the 30 days of L o in which she cries to become close to us Yemen and it's a beautiful remnants to Muslim Messiah so here the question I want to throw out to you is that there seems to be a disconnect here on one hand you're telling me the parsha of your first ayah is no consolation but Deborah Commandments and the other end you're telling me it's a most famous for shifts now if we were to ask ourselves is the mill follow that I fight against my yetzer Hara is that a Miss for battle or is that an optional battle it's a better question a macaw mitzvah Godiva Yasir Mesa so it's a very odd idea that the Tyra's Marah maze to the struggle against the answer harder how Peters are in a partial that is talking about optional wars for character turreted the Morales to this struggle in the parsha of obligatory Mars so the greater slo-mo yes of seven another god only it-- says the following idea even though it's true that the Mahama against the HR is emotionless mitzvah it must be fought the way you fight them or some officious not the way you fight the more famous mitzvah what's the plan what is the main halakhah difference between Muhammad Smith's mimosa miss Richards biochemist Mitzvah you destroy the enemy lost Hayakawa Shama Moloch seven nations with the no chemistry shows you can capture these some aspects you can capture and reclaim say seven the mill humma against our yetzer hara the mill kama of doing chuhwa the goal is not to destroy the enemy the goal is to capture and subjugate now what is the lesson here the lesson here is this there are two types of Chula that a person can do in length and there's two types of Kiros that I could employ in encouraging a person one might be called amputation of a limb you come from a past of tumor you come from a past that's worthless your job is to cut yourself off from your prior life your prior talents your prior relationships even your family and start anew like a brioche Hadassah that's the Trueba of amputation sometimes that is necessary indeed just as it is sometimes necessary to amputate a limb yes it may be necessary but it's a last resort that is the truth of no Commerce Mitzvah lo Sofia called neshama but you know just like when you try to delete a computer program somehow there's always something left and even in a physical amputation there is a phenomenon called phantom pain that can be very debilitating a person cannot really amputate without suffering great consequences but there's another eight so that's a higher rate sir and that is instead of looking at your past life as failure and worthless look at the past life as the source and the foundation of the insights that you bring to a later session that precisely because of that past and because of those relationships even if they were in some ways connected up as well there are hard runners and understandings and you say this that you get that maybe a person who hasn't been there wouldn't understand you know the former drug addict is better able to be a drug counselor then a person who never had that experience this is actually the meaning of hazaa statements suvamay other the I various can become Sofia's think we now not just erased they become part of your operator the family you came from the talents you have the relationships that were created they become the basis of your strengths the basis of your insights and the goal is not to amputate the goal is to capture to take and transform and elevate and make and make good and that is why the parsha of milk i'ma say answer is in the partial no chemistry chefs because the goal is capture subjugates trend reclaim as opposed to having it be destroyed and that is one ideally when a person is in a process of chuhwa if unless there's a toxic situation the relationship with families need to be nurtured need to be strengthened if a person has talents in music or poetry or whatever it might be there's we have to find some way that that can be employed because that was a gift a madness a beret to be used in positive ways and in that way a person builds on the totality of his life he builds his avoid assertion that is a healthy enduring Binion that has the asite but that doesn't come when the approach is one of denigration one of veto one of self negation sometimes a person could be too much of a cannoli on themselves of others now becomes the command myself that everything I've done is not worth it let me just end with one run two minutes my sir this is the truly the last one this is from the marsala and this is written in the Pincus of lublin the marsala will to rub in a number of cities and the story goes there are two Meissen interrelated my sir number one a woman was on her deathbed she was very jealous she made her husband make another would never marry again he wasn't happy he made us on that or he would never marry again around a few months later he very much wants it to marry he went to the marshals yes - Sheila - ma hsiao Posten this was nice fella vocalist a mitzvah and therefore the shoe is not foul go ahead get married no problem he marries a second wife he dies a day later the Yamuna comes to him and says to the marshal you killed my husband's because obviously he died because he was over at the Shibboleth then you told him it was mutter she told him I shall do something about it so there marshal ordered the kefir to be opened he wrote the long chuga he threw the chumma in the kefir and the kakashi lublin say a miracle happened that somehow they made a mistake ensure my Eman heroic sake the mechanics basin shall Marla was Moscone and there was the Fiesta Mason the guy came back amazing that's my son number one my said number two is the young mother wasn't happy some people are never happy the old mother said you know I can't help it when I'm with him I mean I was at his funeral and now he's back I feel I'm with the zombie I feel I'm with a mace I can't be my office to him in a normal way do something about it again she said so there my Shaw was miss Paula that she should forget that he ever died and that her heart should be the same as it was before this also was granted so then there's a little footnote by the [ __ ] major bling that nineveh gum room the Colombian said ii myself was a bigger miracle than the first myself because the first my set was too fierce a mason the second my sir was to change a heart the change of heart is a greater accomplishment than to see a summation those of you who will be zoca to be Makara forsaken or mataira of craven or even to raise your own children which indeed is the biggest way that you have you will be psyched you have the possibility not only to be Macaulay Mason but to manage give a lathe hard I shall lave of kedusha wave of sympa Marrakesh birth will help all of us all of you to be able to do that properly and to make the Seamus shed Masaya value data [Music] you