The Character Trait To Survive The 15 Days Of Darkness - MUSSAR Pirkei Avot (22)

[Music] n great to be in Miami the place where we have some of the best uh before I uh forget we had an amazing Shure last night in aventur we had a last minute change as far as the location but it was very good anyone that wants to watch it go to Tor anytime.com or.org and uh they're publicizing our sh tens of thousands of people watching the shim every day and it's uh it's truly amazing how many people are being affected by it uh also to U Doris meloto Hada sarar Balu ruven Joseph Ben Rifka SAR Batar Gladis Nunes Ed magero Josephina Matos Esperanza AA Anna sedeno G Solano Jose Aila Raquel Sandler lordes Reni Yoshua Mikel Ben hadasa David uel benara Olga Flores David Gamel Ben hadasa Nicole valman Aus Hernandez J Hernandez is a betan betan uh Lana an bonil uhuh Gilberto menes thank you very much will give them so the last minute change from uh you know last night Shure has a little bit to do with well we'll continue the topic of last night and today where right now we find ourselves in a uh very interesting time they call it the the times of sh the way that they get the names is that it's the first letter of the name of the par for the next six in the Tora still spells the name shim and shim means like Little Rascals like troublemakers and there's a verse in the Tor where it says like hasm is saying come back to me you little rascals you little troublemakers meaning stop being Sinners stop being stop going against my come back come back home I'm going to take care of you I love you I feed you I take care of you I give you I give you I give you I give you everything stop being troublemakers all hasem wants is for us to come back to him he G gives us a box of 24 chocolates every day and all he wants us to give him a little bit he says I'll give you 24 chocolates 24 brand new chocolates can I have one it's one if your son asked you can I have one chocolate you say yeah sure take two take three take five if somebody gave you a present and say here it's 24 box box of chocolates amazing from Belgium kosher can I have one you have 24 but can this taste one you'd give it to them right hasm does the same thing to us every day he gives us 24 hours and he ask us for a little bit of time every day just to pay attention to him pray to him thank him ask him do something talk to him obviously we should do more than one hour more than one chocolate but if we're not doing anything then it's very easy to understand why people like that are called which means ungrateful he give you 24 chocolates you don't even give him one that's a problem now there is also a time where it's the of the r and the ramb in says something extraordinary he says at the end of times in the times of the mhia the Torah promises us that all of that are live we'll do Chua so on one end we're thinking okay so why are we working so hard right now we're learning to at 9:00 at night let me go watch TV hang out relax I don't have to do anything Ram already said it's I'm going to do chuat so I don't even have to do anything let me go hang out whatever whenever hasem puts the disc in my head I'll do chuat what do I need to try for what do I need to go to class for what do I need to convert what do I need to get more religious why to do a let me do the wedding that's not allowed where the men and women are dancing together and then when hasem puts the disc in my head like Ram said he puts a this in my head I'm do if it's Al means we got it from Mount Si it doesn't change it's not an opinion it's not like this I think this is going to happen meaning if this is that means this is this is it so what do we this is what places like kabad places like kabad that tell everybody you could you know come to sh knowing a guy's driving guy's driving to on Shabbat I say come to why come to the they said no no but we need him for what he doesn't count for the Min guys is's not counted for he's not counted for what you asking him to drive on Shabbat what you for what what is he doing for you no we're trying to get him closer by what by giving him death sentence in sham how you get him closer to the Grave what are you getting him closer to what are you getting him closer to he goes to sh and he gets hasem angry on the way there it's like somebody wants to propose to a wife and he says honey before I propose to you I just want to let you know I just cheated on you and but I really love you what something wrong with you what are you telling the guy to tr to on Shabbat for no no but we don't say anything yes but the guy's been driving to sh for 15 years by now you know by now you know you're not allow to drive on Shabbat by now he knows obviously if he thinks that you don't care he doesn't care cuz you have the beard and the hat you have the certification and this is not just kabad and this is not all of kabad it's a lot of organizations unfortunately it's a lot of shs and a lot of places that unfortunately have leadership that's weak leadership that's not willing to look at the fine details of what the rambam actually said what the rambam actually said is that everyone that stays alive will do Chua key words is stays alive meaning at the end of times the times of mashia in the rambam says we're going to see Sim things to what we saw in MIT and one of the plagues that we're going to see is 15 days of darkness 15 days of darkness but not Darkness like there's no light Darkness like Egypt where we can't even move deafening darkness and during that darkness 2third of the world are going to die during that Darkness many of those people are going to be Jews Jews that were born Jews their mother's Jewish father's Jewish they went toab with theat all the will be killed during this Darkness so what is the ramb really saying he say if you stay alive if you have the Merit already by then to do Chu and you're walking to and you're keeping kosher inside the house and outside the house not just inside hasm is inside the house and outside the house and you're wearing K as a married woman inside the house and outside the house also to the wedding not just to you know it's very easy to be religious at home at home everyone's religious at home everybody has a candle with the everybody's religious outside all of a sudden everyone takes their clothes off what happened hasem is inside and outside ra is telling us if you have the Merit to survive because you full chv is relevant to you you'll do chuv you'll be saved you have but if you're not if you don't have the Merit this doesn't apply to you my friend the key is to look into the details of the words and not just say no no everybody's going to do Chua just last two words everybody's going to do Chua okay but first few details change the significance of the sentence mhm and unfortunately the last time something like this was said by anyone other than RAB mrai or myself was over a decade ago by in my opinion the best Rabbi that I've ever known of and they recently made a video one of these movies that they have like special effects you know in the um with his voice talking about the end of times this uh um and this huge organization that makes a lot of amazing movies he speaks it's Hebrew the whole thing but it's 10 minutes and on the way here I listen to it three times even though I've already heard it and I've heard many of his lectures he such a powerful speaker I said you know what I I need to wake up myself I need to do chuva on the way here I need to do chuva why because that's what I say it's time to do CH got to come back to hem and I was thinking why did I think about this because last night we went to a Sho we have a Sho that's uh supporting us and helping us do the shim and aventur the breast center and uh great sh great place and you know they're very very kind they welcome people and uh unfortunately sometimes you know you don't have time to like you know verify details of every single person you invite so they invited this so-called Rabbi to come to the Sho and uh before me you know like a couple hours before me and he wanted to have like he came from Israel to visit and he's raising money obviously you don't come to America just to look at the toy stores um so he came to visit to raise some money for whatever cause he has it's fine there's nothing there's nothing wrong with that costs money to do all this you know we we haven't gotten to the level of getting M from sham that's in a few weeks we have to leave Egypt first we just got it to Egypt but came to raise money so to raise money takes time takes effort takes people takes so on so one of the things that people do is they have get together with food and music and T and so on so he was before me they told him listen the Shure starts at 9:00 it's every week for the last month month and a half and when I got there I got there almost an hour early and uh I saw there's a bunch of people there no very nice and I'm setting up and I'm taking my time because I have a lot of time it's not a uh and a few people know who I am and they come say hello we talk a little bit and I see that this is continuing to go on it's getting closer and closer to 9:00 you know which by now I'm assuming okay you you start you know taking back the food and throwing the garbage so I could you know my people are coming if you want to join us join us but point is it's time to go well it's 8:45 8:50 and I see more food coming more food coming and the music getting louder and this pardon the music is getting louder and there's more food so I said okay this is going to take a little longer okay so you know let's stay cool it's fine even though you know when you're giving a lecture you have to be focused you have to think about AEM if to think about you know what you're going to say cuz it's not a prepared speech we're not Obama we learn we come to the sh we say what hasm gives us in our mouth to say so I'm waiting I'm waiting it's 9:00 okay 9:00 this is the time no one's moving what's happening more food's coming out man I've never seen so much food in my life weddings don't have this much food food food food and the music and they all you know they're banging on the thing and they're making music and it's you know if it was just purely a party and I didn't have a sh it's it's fun yeah but I don't come for parties I come to save lives people that are on one way ticket to G we try to change that to geden takes a lot of work yes if I give them schnitzel it's not going to get them the gunen if I turn the music down really really loud it's not going to get them to G it's going to get them to Gom even faster so I'm sitting there and I'm waiting and it's 9 and I'm not saying anything yet 910 I'm thinking okay this guy is you know he's a rabbi I don't know black and white he said I don't know a couple of stories to them that were entertaining he knows Torah he knows midot he knows he has to have character traits and you know what aside he's he has to have just he knows I'm here he's been watching me set up for an hour 9:15 I see nothing happening I asked one of the guys I'm like no how much time I people already here we already waiting it's not nice so everybody's looking at me like like I just came from a different planet so I go to the guy himself and why and he's in the back in the kitchen and as I go into the back he's taking out two giant pans of chicken and steak more food I don't how much these people eat I've never seen people eat so much in my life and he's taken them out from the thing and I'm like what is this I'm like have sure he goes yeah what time does it start I'm like 15 minutes ago 15 minutes ago it started go oh yeah they told us like 9:00 okay so you know it's it's going to be a little while I'm like what a little while with the way it looks with all the sticks it's going to take at least an hour he just ignored me and just walked away like as if I wasn't there pretty pretty much he showed me I have two choices I can either argue with him which caus because people are not religious they're going to see two people with a keep argueing and say what's this who wants to be religious who wants to be religious if you see the religious people fighting who wants to be religious so then it call on the other hand I can go outside and smash my head against the wall a few times trying to figure out what to do so I'm waiting I'm waiting it's 9:30 already until one sadik comes to me goes come on let's do it in the next door sh I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm like you don't have to be sorry him I don't forgive him I don't forgive why don't I forgive him am I some Rashad that I that I am uh very stringent on people that uh I don't want to forgive them why is that is that what it is no there's a time to forgive and there's a time not to forgive forgiving is an extraordinary quality but if somebody told you listen I just murdered your family member Shalom but I'm sorry you going to forgive him he said I'm sorry twice he's even going to write you a letter and an email he's going to call you and he's even put a billboard I'm sorry you going to forgive him you're not going to forgive him no this is exactly what happens when someone cancels a for a schnitzel party you're supposed to have people that their lives are lost their souls are lost they have no idea what's going on they have no idea what's right they have no idea what's left some of them already started doing but they're still vulnerable some of them haven't started at all some of them this just their first year ever so they're going to come here and say oh there's no sh okay I'm going back home that person could be lost forever yeah it's kind of like excuse me for a snitel party it's it's kind of like uh humiliating somebody in front of people in public even more so no forgiveness even more so if he I actually prefer if he humiliated me if he humiliated me if he cursed me if he made fun of me whatever no problem but getting in the way of the Torah calls a person like that it's and also talks about different types of people that do different sins a person that gets in the way of Torah the Torah calls him which is the worst possible curse in the Torah how do you say a r u r so now the troubling part is that the people that he has in his crowd that he's feeding them until they get drunk from the food so they can give him money they think he's doing a mitvah oh we're celebrating the rambam we're celebrating Thea of the rambam we're celebrating this we're celebrating that when 80% of is not even keeping the basic level of MIT it's hard for me to understand what do we have to celebrate it's hard for me to understand what this Rabbi actually learned in Yeshiva what he learned to tell him that this is the right decision not only to cancel to tell him to go sh go away but on top of that instead of helping these people that he has do he's just feeding them and he's making the religion look like it's just like another thing like oh he had to eat now if anyone wants to actually know what the r actually did with his life this is what do you do during the H of the r what do you do the of any one of the what would they want you to do they want you to learn their tah you think they care if you eat snitzel or not you think they care if you eat a hamburger or not the ra said the most I ever slept was three hours a night and sometimes I wouldn't be able to sleep because I had so much in my mind that I had to write my and learn my Torah three hours a night his genius and wisdom was beyond anything we can possibly understand the of the r is not even something that anyone in this generation could understand not have but understand I said a story from last night the reab from one time prayed to have the of the ramb but the lowest level that he has not the highest level of not the highest not the best type but the lowest one and he said the next day hasem granted his prayer and he got to the problem was that this was so high he was so scared he couldn't leave the bed he couldn't leave the bed the whole day and this was the R's lowest level of so somebody like that that values time that values to Dedicated his life to Hashem you're going to spend that time eating hamburgers and chicken and canceling a read one page one page out of his book and you'll see who the rambam was he had all types of wisdom any wisdom that you want whether it's medical wisdom scientific wisdom Torah wisdom everything and anything that you want and this very same R told us in Chua that only the ones that survive will do Chua meaning only only the ones that already started doing Chua only the ones that became very dedicated to hashm already and there's only a few Nicks there a few little mistakes here and there they haven't learned all of the of Shabbat of course they don't drive but you know they once in a while they make a mistake because they haven't learned that yet those people that are 100% serious and committed to hasem says you have no problem you havea you have no problem but if you're still one of those people that hasn't made time to learn to in a daily basis rambam says you cannot be resurrected with the dead when the resurrection of the Dead happens you're not included why because it's it's a must in Tor to learn every day for a man a man must learn Torah every single day yeah um I have a question then so regarding to this the incident you just spoke about let's say now I give Sak due to that I give Sak those places that are real Shabbat or whatever what is the meaning of that I'm doing a mvah but a mvah to a place that is to a place that is not apparently uh right so here the uh like I said the place itself is amazing and the rabbi of the place uh was obviously not there he I spoke to him after he was very very embarrassed and very upset and he said this will never happen again so it's a great place it's just that unfortunate like I said the guest the guest was a he looked like a he's ignorant uh you know the uh rats they're going to eat the remains of the food are probably smarter than him for for the stupidity that he did yesterday but in regards to General places like as far as giving you have to just like when you make investments you want to make investment let's say you're going to buy a big piece of property or you're going to buy a house for yourself or you're going to invest into a stock what do you do first you investigate you research right you're not going to say oh listen I'm going to invest a half a million dollars into this property but it looks good well you going to check you're going check the pipes you're going to check the walls you going to check if there's any type of a damage you can check everything check the roof is it going to cave in is it going to stay in you're going to check if you look at the stock you're going to check is this company real is it fake does it report earnings on time is a CEO an honest person you can do investigation same thing witha especially sta that's real serious money if you're talking about $2 $5 no one has time and no one is expected to check where the $2 is going to but if you're going to invest hundreds of dollars or thousands of dollars or tens of thousands of dollars into anything then it behooves you to check where is that money going yes it may say Judaism on the door but it could be Christianity inside it could be a inside there's a whole sect called Messianic Judaism to an ignorant person this sounds like Jews that believe in a mashiah that's an average Jew every Jew is obligated to live in Messiah it's one of the 13 principles of faith that the rambam wrote same rambam he said 13 principles of Faith you must believe the Messiah is going to come problem is Messianic Judaism is not even Judaism it's Christianity yes it's Christianity that calls itself Judaism because once you go inside what do you find out that the Messiah that they're talking about is an idol worship it's Jesus so it says Judaism on the door and the people themselves sometimes even call themselves Jews but they're not Jewish it's 100% idol worship or you have reformed Judaism or open Orthodoxy open Orthodoxy to something new or you have conservative all three of them all three of them are in a level of a one of them has a dog that they give uh bar mitzvas to another one lets women be the rabbi even though it's not allowed according to to the Torah and another one says that the rabbi can be a homosexual and that's okay too as if hasem didn't mean it when he wrote in the Tor that someone that is a homosexual has to get death penalty like AEM you know he didn't mean it and that's what one of them actually wrote in an article a rabbi a conservative Rabbi one time wrote an article not too long ago they ask him what do you think about homosexuals you know it's written inat you're Rabbi train T hasem says someone's homosexual what does he get death penalty he didn't say you know but maybe he's funny so let's let him go cuz he's funny or maybe he dresses really nice he's a nice designer he makes fendy bags we're going to let him go no Hashem says someone that's homosexual is the same level as someone that has a wife like bam who's Bam's wife bam the prophet his wife was a donkey he was with an animal so someone is homosexual is the same thing as bam meaning both of them get death penalty this is ashm wrote this what does this Rabbi write in this article he didn't mean it yeah Hashem didn't mean it sure it's not nice it's not nice to say that so if he didn't mean that maybe he didn't mean anything you closed the whole Torah goodbye so when you go to a place like that you have a serious problem especially if you donate to a place like that because in essence what you're doing is you're supporting heresy you're supporting the enemies of Hashem it's like saying it's like waving the Israeli flag while donating money to Kamas no no M they're just Arabs they don't have enough weapons yeah but you know what they're doing with the weapons they're killing Jews yeah no I have the Israeli flag I have I'm supporting Israel what's supporting is leave the flag give the money what are you doing with the flag stop or at least stop giving money to the enemy but that's what happens when we give zakat to the wrong place so if a place is heresy you're not allowed to support it it's 100 it's not a Mitzvah it's a sin there's no Mitzvah in it at all well it's reform open Orthodoxy or a uh conservative or Messianic Judaism or a church or anything that's anti Tor unfortunately in some cases it's even parts of Orthodox it's even parts of Orthodox that are really not so Orthodox they call themselves Orthodox but everybody drives the shoe there's not even a of Shabbat the rabbi shows him where to park on Shabbat instead of telling them what to do and stop driving he shows them where the parking is hey come right here next next to Steve park next to Steve come come we have chant we have chulent come come eat with us so this is these things like this I mean it's on one end it's funny on one end it's really really sad because what happens is you feel bad for all these people that are driving and and know they in essence they feel Justified driving because the rabbi doesn't say anything they feel Justified eating on P because the rabbi doesn't say the rabbi doesn't say anything so they eat they feel Justified playing music on yum Kip because the rabbi doesn't say anything they feel Justified because listen this guy is a rabbi he knows verses from the Torah he read it so he knows I never read the Torah so I don't know so he knows so I'm going to trust him and he says you could turn on the light on and off on Shabbat on you can eat on P you can give mitvah to a dog the rabbi could be homosexual everything all everything goes y I'm going if if there's a problem cuz yeah listen this guy your own says it's a problem it says this Torah doesn't say that but I'm going to go to sh I'm going to tell listen my Rabbi in in the sh said I'm allowed to do it so it's his fault the problem is you're not going to be able to use that excuse because deep inside deep deep inside everyone knows what's true everyone knows what's right and wrong everyone knows what's modest and what's not modest everyone knows what's kosher and what's not Kosher and if you don't know you have to go to a mental hospital I can't help you why because it's called a conscious it's called a conscience once you don't have a conscience you don't you don't belong with civilization everyone knows what's modest what's not a woman knows if she's dressing sexy or if she's dressing modest she knows she knows what you think that because she's wearing the extra tight mini because she actually believes it's more modest is there a woman on Earth that thinks that a mini skirt or a tight dress is really modest like seriously you're showing the details of your body and you think it's modest no woman in the world actually believes she may say it out loud no it's not a big deal what's the big deal it's just it's a skirt the raban wears a skirt I wear a skirt just mine's a little tighter the raban wears a shirt I wear a shirt just that my shirt is a v-neck you can see parts of my body what's the big deal if he doesn't like it don't look why is it my fault that the man looks the reality of it is that when you're part of am you have to take responsibility not only for your actions but for the whole nation part of the same family all in the same boat one of us can't go to the end of the boat and say start digging on the floor to make a hole and you ask hey hey what are you doing like I'm making a pool I'm making a pool what do you mean making a pool you dig a hole in the in the ship the whole ship drowns like okay so it's my room what do you mean it's your room we're all going to drown with you when a woman walks around in the street not modest everyone gets a affected the guy with the black and white the guy with the red the guy with the blue the guy that's NOS the guy that doesn't know everyone gets affected when a so-called Rabbi tells people it's okay to eat sh andit instead of learn Tor that's how you're going to actually honor the rambam that's how you're going to honorem sh everybody has a problem so we can't go up to sh with that excuse number one we know and number two you're expected to learn it's one of the M SP you can't go up there I didn't know okay so why didn't you learn in chapter four of we're going to learn B it says if a sin that's accidental accidental sin comes as a result of lack of study it's no longer considered accidental in sham it's considered 100% on purpose why if it's accidental because you didn't know because you just never got to it you learned all of alabat and there was let's say the last chapter you didn't get to yet you didn't get to yet you went already 120 years old you went to sh you didn't finish allat but you made a sin that's on the last section that that you didn't cover let's say you didn't learn that you're not allowed to rip paper let's say you didn't know but you learned a lot but hasem took you from this world to the next world he said you already going to ganeden you're going to get judged first oh look you made some s but yes but you didn't know why didn't you know oh you studied but you didn't get to the section okay that's an accidental sin I'll judge you based on accidental sin if it was the time of the bet mikdash you'd have to bring a Coan you have to bring a sacrifice now on the other hand the other guy your next door neighbor he also RI paper on Shabbat but he comes to sh and they say okay you made a sin you RI paper on Shabbat why did you make the sin oh you didn't know okay why didn't you know oh you didn't learn not you just didn't learn this you didn't learn anything you went to e TR at the hula R you didn't learn the AL that the rambam wrote you went to watch the baseball game the football game and whatever other game you went to the casino you went to your friend's house you went to sleep you went to everything else except so you didn't learn because you just didn't feel like it so that sin is intentional why because you intentionally didn't learn Torah you intentionally didn't you knew that you're supposed you knew that there's T in the world you called people say what are you you say I'm Jewish oh so you knew you were a Jew you weren't born like in the middle of Africa with the jungle you know you were Jewish so people ask you what are you I'm Jewish and you show them you're a Jewish star so you knew you were Jewish you knew that the Jews got Torah that's what made us Jews before SII before Mount Si we weren't called Jews we only start being called Jews after Mount sa meaning the Torah is what made us Jews so you knew that the Torah existed but you intentionally didn't want to learn it so you didn't know because you didn't want to and you intentionally did it and therefore the sin becomes intentional so this is why it's extremely important to learn more of what the sages said than to just have parties without even knowing who the sage is you know and that's again I'm not saying people are not allowed to enjoy themselves enjoy yourselves enjoy life enjoy food enjoy your marriage enjoy but leave some time for hem cuz that 15 days of darkness it's around the corner it's not far from now the end of times the Messiah it's around the corner could be a week could be a month could be a year few years either way it's in our lifetime everyone knows it is you said I think it was the last sh you said the guy said look at the paper said but that paper is nobody up there exactly exactly some people say no it's a they they have a to that they have the Israeli identification card and they think that that's going to uh help them you know with uh with getting judged as Jews in sham I said it would help you if you're able to take it to Sham problem is paper stays here just like money stays here and the house stays here and the friends stay here and everything stays here only the goes up there everything else is too heavy stays here we leave it for the worms yes yes face um what if you did a sin to maintain Shalom depends what kind of sin it depends what kind of sin now we learned from Abu that for the sake of schem is willing to change the rules now we have a rule in the Tora that we get that we're not allowed to desecrate hashem's name and that includes we're not allowed to erase his name so if you ever see the real name of hem you k k it's UD but you say UD K you see it on a piece of paper and not allowed to erase it now what happens if for example we see that there's a seph T that's P it has the name of hm in it but it's p or you have a mza that's P that's not that's not valid anymore but it has aem's name on it but it's not valid and you can't fix it you can't erase it only thing you can do is bury it you go you bury it so erasing aem's name is a big deal a big deal we learn from which is in the Tor about the the whole story of the the Wayward woman where if a woman is suspected of cheating on a husband she has to go to k g she just to go to bet mikdash and they have to find out if she cheated or she didn't cheat if she cheated death penalty if she didn't cheat biggest blessing in the world but before they get to this this is M asked this question because I actually had an idea that I had no idea how to connect it to this see how hasem works so they connect the woman not connect they uh bring the woman to the qu now obviously is not a nation of killers We're a nation of people that worship hasem We're a nation of Peace even if we have the authority and the right we're always obligated to ask for peace first if we want to go fight somebody we ask him first do you want to ask peace you want to make peace first we don't attack if you see throughout the entire history of am is we've never attacked why because says always offer even our enemies offer them peace so we know the Quan the doesn't want to kill this woman even though she's accused of being of being a cheater how is she accused she was not only caught but witnessed with at least two witnesses to be in a closed room with a man that's not a husband which already is not modest not allowed if it's an open public it's not great but it's allowed but if it's in closed room where no one else can enter and who knows what you did that's not allowed if there's witnesses to it she's suspected of cheating one woman one man not allowed to be in a room together unless they're married it doesn't matter whether she's Jewish or not she's Jewish not Jewish doesn't make a difference a matter of fact a uh two men one woman also not allowed a uh there's a lot of different of and so on this also becomes a problem sometimes when people adopt kids and uh the kids grow up they're not always these cute little things you know grow up to be a grown woman and a lot of crazy things happen when the kid is now a 20-year-old girl and the husband is a little crazy this happens in a religious world too people need to talk about it people need to bring this up this is a very very important thing to understand why because the only way to protect ourselves from all of this stuff is fear of the almighty if you know that hasem is watching you'll act differently but as long as you think that no one's watching you'll do whatever you want so now this woman didn't think anyone was watching she was alone with a man so she already did something wrong to begin with they bring her to the BET mikdash theen goes through a process he tries to intimidate her to get it to admit that she sned that she went with this other man because if she admits that she sinned they don't kill her they say you get a divorce you go your way the husband goes his way you're also not allowed to marry this other guy but you go your way at least you admit it if you don't admit it then what has to happen we have to give you this water this holy water the same water that the kohanim would wash their hands and their feet before they would go and do the work of the bet mikdash she you would drink it then they would put the name of Hashem that's written on a scroll they would dip that into the water the ink will go into the water she drinks it if she cheated her stomach explodes and she dies on a spot they didn't need private detectives back then so this is cheaper if she didn't cheat then obviously this is good news on on some end but she still got all this punishment beforehand why because before they this whole intimidating process is not just do it do it do it it's gets physical and they make her walk around for hours to get her tired and the last two steps of the most critical that I know that someone is going to make a crazy comment about this but this is what it says in it says this the coin then grabs hold of our clothing if they're torn they're torn and if they're shredded they're shredded and he rips them until he uncovers our bosom and he then unres her hair explanation last two steps are this first he grabs her clothing and shakes it until it rips until it shows her bosom shows the chest not exactly the most modest look especially when you have old sadik there and only after that he takes off a the last step is the oh my gosh the last step is to take off the you guys understanding what I'm saying here we've always talked about in that the biggest thing was the fact that he was taking the off and he shows her hair to everyone because a woman even if she was a prostitute would still walk around with it's not modest to show your hair when you're a woman if you're a married woman you have to cover your hair now if you were suspected of cheating they would try to intimidate you and eventually they would show your hair which is very very embarrassing it's the ultimate embarrassment to show your hair to the public but here this this this is oral this is what happened at the bet mikash this is what happened from Mount Si they say showing your hair is even worse than showing your chest wow now obviously There Was Fear amongst the sages as they saw that the generations were getting lower and lower in Holiness and decided to no longer do the whole clothing thing no longer show the chest because he said maybe there's going to be somebody out of all theim maybe there's going to be somebody that maybe maybe be get turned on so no more but as far as from sh what said this is what you're supposed to do because in hashem's eyes in hashem's rationale showing your hair is worse than showing your body so this is the process of su when Hashem sent the angels to abrah ainu the angels told abah a little bit of news one healed them because he had to bre mil a few days before that one told them that we're here to destroy Sodom and gamorra where your cousin lives or your nephew lives lot and third is a year from now you're going to have a kid yeah we understand you're a little old but nothing is beyond theem now when his wife Sarah who was a prophet that according to Kaz was a bigger Prophet than AB when she heard this she started laughing she laughed in herself and she said inside she didn't say it out loud she said inside now hasem is going to give me a child when I'm old and my husband is so old I'm old and my my husband's old I'm not you know I'm not 20 years old anymore 90 years old and my husband's old she said in her heart she didn't say that loud she didn't say on loudspeaker she didn't go on CNN but AEM one of the 13 principles of faith is what heisten hhm knows our thoughts so Hashem comes to AB he says why did your wife why did your wife say that she's old but she didn't say she's old she said a husband's old meaning that hasem changed the truth changed the truth because you know that if he told him if he told AB hey your wife thinks you're old it may cause a schom bite problem so says how is it that hasem technically lied if it wasn't written we wouldn't be allowed to say it how did Hashem lie and kazal explains to us if AEM is already telling us that he's willing to erase his name for the sake of SCH because we see that to find out if the if she's innocent or guilty hem puts they put hashem's name in the water and it erases aem's name and it becomes part of the water which is a sin you're not allowed to do that but for the you're allowed to why because you may find out that she didn't cheat it may create schite and for schom bite you're even allowed to erase aem's name therefore you're also allowed to lie for schom bite CU even hasem himself light forom now this does not open up the doors for us to become compulsive liars to our husband and wife you can't say honey I love you and then you have an affair on for six years no no it's no that's not schom that means you need to get a divorce and your poor wife has to move on you know that's not schite schom means simple things your wife ask you do you like the dress what's the default answer you guys need to learn yes the default answer you always like what she wears another okay another one she asked you if you you like something default answer is yes okay if she asks you honey do you do I look fat what's the default answer no no never no never even if she became a mini whale she never got fat mini whale she looks good okay now how can you okay so now that's you're allowed to lie for the sake of SCH but how can you get to the point of actually believing that that's a different question how can you believe that your wife really is pretty no matter what when she's 20 she's pretty when she's 40 she's pretty when she's 60 she's pretty when she's 80 she's pretty at 120 she's still pretty in your eyes she's always going to be pretty how do you get to that point to says if you watch your eyes if you watch your eyes and only keep them for your wife she will always be the prettiest diamond in the world but if you look like a fountain everything that moves if you're like this like one of these guys you look at this one you look at that one you watch TV you see all the prostitutes on TV you watch this you see all the girls over here you see the commerci see all these things God 5 minutes later you want to get a divorce yeah you watch TV five minutes you see the program you look at the woman on TV you look at your wife you look at the woman you want a divorce why because the guy thinks he can get the girl on TV he always thinks he get the girl on the TV every guy thinks he gets the girl on TV the biggest enemy that a woman has for a marriage is television because they don't put ugly people on television even the ugly people are not ugly yeah so what are you doing you put a television in your house he watches cable he watches uh even if he watches sports or he watches there's commercials there's a woman selling soap but she's half naked or sometimes completely naked don't show you the parts selling soap or cereal or a car it's all naked women pretty much all IM modest women and the guy keeps looking at it what do you have at the end of the day he doesn't even want to look at you anymore why cuz he's thinking about the other woman so this is a very very important thing for a woman to do to understand that if number one she keeps her modesty hasem will bless her with a husband that's going to also work on himself but obviously it has to be mutual sometimes you have situations where the woman has been given a tun a big mission in life where she wants to fulfill the entire T like some of my students she wants to fulfill the entire T she wants to be mod she wants to learn to she wants to do everything the husband nothing it's a very very big T it's a very very big problem now based on Al if he is not willing to keep anything Shabbat kosher nothing but at least he lets her keep everything and he's willing to let her keep which is family Purity you're allowed to stay married as long as you're allowed to stay let her go to the mik and you're not allowed to touch her during the time that she's impure but if he's not willing to let her have family Purity you're not allowed to be with her not allow to be with him you have to get a divorce immediately no Second Chances no counseling no nothing if he's not willing to let the wife go to the mik and keep family Purity where he's only they're only together for approximately half the month there's no marriage you must get a divorce now this is contrary to what's being taught out there sometimes there's some people that teach things that are stupid and uh without mentioning names we're going to mention what they said unfortunately in the world not everybody's a sadik so sometimes you have people that are uh more animal than human so the husband can't wait or can't act like a human being and he in essence tries to force his wife to be with him now this is obviously a problem if a man forces a woman to be with him it's in essence borderline rape if not 100% rape this is not allowed in Judaism amen is obviously in Judaism and according to thear if a child comes from such a intimate onest which is rape uh this creates major major spiritual problems for the children major problems also obviously huge sins for the for the husband who in my opinion should be killed but we can't know who Who's Who these days but the point is is that sometimes when you have an animalistic husband like that you really don't have much of a choice and you have to you have to leave you have to get a divorce there's no if if the if the husband is not willing to let the woman be a woman a kosher woman that goes to the mik you can't stay married now on the other hand sometimes you have the opposite you have a husband that starts doing chuba but the woman is not interested it's not interested and you tell listen okay I understand you don't want to keep Shabbat I understand you don't want to keep kosher I understand you don't want to keep anything but at least go to the m because if you don't go to the mik I'm not even allowed to touch your finger your finger I'm not allowed to touch forget about being intimate not allowed to touch your finger so go to mik and the woman says no no I don't want to go to mik now it was said and I heard this not that it was said and I heard from somebody I actually heard this the person say this in a public lecture that if your wife doesn't want to go to the mik you're allowed to be with her anyway or you should go to a prostitute someone that calls himself RAV RAV said either go to a prostitute or be with her anyway don't force her to go to the mik because your Rabbi told you to that needs to go to the mik well first of all the rabbi didn't say that she has to go to mik God said it it's called go you go to you go to you go anywhere the talks about under no condition are you allowed to even touch your wife's finger finger if she's not pure so being with her because she doesn't feel like going to the mik either get a divorce or don't touch her Rabbi who huge Zab in Israel used to be a big Broadway producer and success in the Alik the the world of Lies left everything became religious but in the beginning his wife wasn't buying it his wife was anti and after a few years he came to his Rabbi he's like Rabbi I haven't been with my wife for years for years I haven't been with my wife she doesn't want to go to the mik she doesn't want to keep anything can I get the bo can you give me a get can can I go goes no get her to do CH he goes but she's anti she's anti Tora goes that's because she doesn't understand you stop teaching her let the rambam teach her rambam she like she's going to read the r cuz she's a scholar right yeah big scholar she's very very important person how am I going to get to read the rambam because listen take one of rambam's books read it in the kitchen look at the papers close it and put it back on the kitchen table and leave every day every day you read a few pages Laugh Smile smirk and put it back don't put it back in the library with everything else every day every day put do this I is saying hey what's this going to do he goes just do this last chance Last Chance and then if she doesn't do this do with the ra I'll get you again no problem this is what he does one day he comes back and he sees his wife is all shaken up and she's interested in learning T more than him you ask her what happened what happened well I went to school and I went to this and I learned this subject and I was an expert in this and I was you know big scholar so one day I don't know I was just looking at you read every day you read this book you read this book and you laugh you read this book and you smile you read this book and you say wow and you put it there and you put it back and you put it back so what is he reading so one day you weren't home I just looked at this uh ROM book and I open the page and I looked through the entire page and I didn't understand even one word that he said because his intellect his wisdom is so much higher than mine I couldn't understand him and I said if that's a Jew that's that smart I have to learn what he says and she started to actually learn what the rambam says and he says r says she's more she's more of a tadika than me but what are we one of the things we learn from this is that even during his chv he wasn't allowed to be with her why because she wouldn't go to the mik so for anyone who listened to this lecture full of tum that said that a husband is allowed to be with his wife if she doesn't feel like going to the mik it's 100% wrong two going to a prostitute also not allowed for multiple re reasons number one a prostitute is always need she doesn't go to the mik which means you're trying to run away from your wife because she's nid to go to a prostitute but she's also nid that's one two you have another sin promiscuity three another sin wasting seed you just killed 300 million Souls being with this prostitute point being is that the sins don't end thank you there's no permission in Judaism to be with a prostitude whoever said this is as wrong as can be and if they say listen I didn't mean that I meant something else I meant that you know if they were going to rape somebody then it's better that they go to a prostitute instead of rape well the answer to that is that you have to read the mishna chapter 2 where it says that the rabbis must be careful with the words that they say you must be careful with how you talk if you're going to speak publicly if you're going to teach if to teach properly meaning that everyone even the idiot has to understand you it's called being idiot proof go ahead um you said Rabbi should should know how to answer somebody right okay you know like this witness people that they go knock on the doors on Sundays Jehovah's Witness yeah yeah they uh they left uh they they left a magazine where they're talking about in my house you know and gate and I looked at it and and they were talking about from the front page they would show your but you know she asking if you're allowed to throw it out yeah and so ask you I ask I said look I said in the whole magazine they were showing different churches different places where they're showing God's name in Hebrew but it's idol worship at the same time so you're asking if you're what you what are you supposed to do with it I ask say what do I do with it I mean I don't want to just dispose it the whole the whole magazine is is is hashem's name you know over he said let me tell you something he said when this come from Gentile Pagan persons you know he said you don't take it as really hashem's name you could throw it away I said uh doesn't sound right it doesn't sound right I said to me you know because as so let's see what rambam says rambam ra same ramb that we talking about him all night rambam says when a seph t not a magazine a seph t is written by a non-jew or an idol worshipper it's not a goes right in the garbage oh okay so you see if you see let's say for example sometimes they have the uh New Testament it has it has so excuse me you throw it in the garbage burn it you could not could you should that's what you have to do okay what I did you know in uh you feel bad because you See's name away what I did is I burn it good perfect I did excellent now what do you do with when they're just one out oh or anyes anything that you do with with or uh or things like that uh if it's a m you bury it if it's a you bury it if it's a uh you put them in tin foil and then you throw them out like that so it's a respectful way you don't throw them out directly with the bananas and the chant from fromat but you know you throw you put them in tin foil and then you throw them out in the garbage that way okay um yeah it's fine it's a uh it's just treating it with a little bit more respect but nonetheless it's still it's still uh amen it's still waste but the the key here that we learn is that sometimes the rationale of is not the same as us we don't understand things the same you know the way and that's why it's very very important for us to to to learn what he says and now somebody would say okay so in regards to this whole immodesty situation in regards to this whole situation with uh someone saying that the uh husband is a um is allowed to go with uh prostitutes when obviously you're not allowed to but this guy's also RV how could it be that he says this and you say this I can't speak for him I can't tell you why he's making such a mistake but I can tell you that if you look at the if you look at the if you look at any book regarding you will not find even one opinion that agrees now I got a message that he meant something else and what he's trying to say is that if the husband was going to rape the his own wife it's better for him to go be with a prostitute because it says in the that if a man is about to sin let him put on black clothes and leave the city so at least he makes the sin somewhere else oh and he says see look at this it says if you're going to sin might as well go sin somewhere else so if you're going to sin if you're going to go sin with your wife go s with a prostitute it's better this how we understood this if he's right we should close the books start eating start eating because everything say no no I'm not eating at home I live in Florida but every sin is in Las Vegas every sin is in New York but I live in florid I live somewhere else I can do whatever I want somewhere else I'm wearing black clothes wear black clothes go make sense somewhere else that's it all goes to the garbage shom now why does he say this because he's a in he's ignorant that just read just a small sentence and decided not to listen to the rabbis but decided to be the rabbi meaning he didn't see the commentary the commentary the basic level commentary by tosot tosot is basic level it's not like the it's not like a mid of it's not like something that's far away it's on the same page it's on the same page just like you see you know Tora you have Rashi on the you have Rashi and TOS so tosot says of course the sages are not meaning it's okay for you to send somewhere else what they're trying to say here is that go put on black clothes cuz it was hard to find black clothes in those days that by the time time you spent all that energy getting the black clothes you're not going to be so hot for this sin you're going to say ah the heck with it I'm not going to S let me just go back to my wife and be a normal human being so they took it literally so he took it literally and he studied it like the Christians study the Torah Christians study the Torah they take it literally and that's why they believe in idol worship you can't study the Torah literally in a in such a way that you're completely storting it you have to look at what the rabbi said you have to look at what the commentary said and unfortunately sometimes these people make stupid mistakes that even a fifth grader in Yeshiva wouldn't make this mistake but what's the difference between the fifth grader and this RAV this RAV calls himself a RAV even call himself Rabbi calls himself RAV what is the difference with this person on the very same message he says you know I need to you know people love my teachings because you need to be honest and you need to be humble and I am honest and I am humble he actually says this about himself says I am honest and I am humble that the definition of humility is that you're not going to call yourself humble but this is when people have a distorted mentality they live in their own world what does the fifth grader have over this RAV the fifth grader knows he has a r the fifth grader submits to his R if the r is in the classroom the fifth grade says for what does Rashi mean when he says ABC for the what does mosu mean when he says I don't want to go who am I to go save to he's arguing withm for a week he's arguing in for a week withm what does he mean for the now if the rabbi is not in the class he went somewhere else he left everybody to learn who else does he go to this fifth grader he goes to Rashi V goes to Rashi goes to the he said what does Rashi say it's not that was disagreeing with hem and didn't want to do his will is that mosenu was the humblest man that ever lived and was scared that maybe maybe his brother is going to be offended because he's older than him and he has been helping is for all these years and now all of a sudden you're going to come and you're going to take the job maybe he's going to be offended but yeah but they're in slavery you're going to save them why he's going to get offended from you saving them says maybe I know it's saving them I understand we're saving them I understand they're slaves and instead of being slaves they're going to go and get the become Kings I understand it's a good thing but maybe maybe he's going to get offended maybe he thinks in the Deep part of his heart that he should be the leader maybe for that he argued with Hashem for a week just not to offend his brother the fifth grader knows the truth why because he listened to the Rob who's the Rob Rashi who's the Rob tosot rambam sages people that were able to revive the dead you cannot translate the Torah according to your liking or to your common sense because our Common Sense would all du respect to everyone watching and everyone here our common sense is closer to monkeys than it is to the rambam and the rambam was only 900 years ago and the rambam was not even at a level of Reviving The Dead like all of the students of RAB AKA from 2,000 years ago and RAB AKA was not even at the level of his Rabbi hos andos was not even at the level of which we learn about here so we're not even at the level of any one of them or even their shoes and we're deciding no no no I decide something else I'm going to do something else I don't agree with him I don't agree with the ra I don't agree with toot I have a different opinion I'm humble I'm honest certainly not do you understand what's going on here yeah and this is the epidemic of G of Pride that we have infesting the land when people are not willing to submit to the sages not willing to submit to the people that spoke to God we barely speak to ourselves they spoke to God in different ways we barely know mod by heart they knew the entire tah back and forth 50 times over just to start the day it's very very important to understand the significance of the sages and who we're dealing with because as long as we don't understand who they are we're never going to agree with them as long as I don't understand who wrote the gar who is the person mentioned here in this gar that talks about how the process of the is the Wayward woman is to show her chest then take off her I mean sounds crazy sounds like we were like I don't know in Iran or something sounds like we're just a bunch of fanatics crazy people what are you doing let the woman live leave her alone she doesn't feel like wearing she doesn't feel like being with a husband she doesn't feel like being modest she doesn't feel like doing it let her live right the mentality Today Live and Let Live that's the mentality Today Live and Let Live leave me alone but once you realize that the people that wrote it spoke to God were prophets were sages were higher than prophets were able to revive the dead I mean this is this is this is not regular stuff this is not this is not me and you and to take their words and distort them and disrespect them and treat them like it's a newspaper so this mishna continues to connect with everything we've talked about it thus far because we see from this week's par was the first time we hear about mosenu the prophet of all Prophets The Greatest human being that ever lived we get introduced to him and AEM in essence argues with him for a week and mosenu in his humility tries to get out of the job not because he doesn't want to do it but for the sake of his honor of his brother maybe he's going to be offended showing us how significant humility is where he already learned MH already learned from his ancestors from 12 tribes he learned from the story of Judah and Tamar that it's better to jump into a light fire a lit fire huge giant fire and get burned alive then embarrass someone in public there's no forgiveness for that right no share of the world to come unless someone does serious chuva but the chuva of embarrassing people in public is not an easy Chua because you have to make sure that every single person that saw it also saw the also saw the apology the apology has to be at least as big as the embarrassment sometimes that's not possible in the times of the rambam as you see has giving me a lot of rambam stories because I didn't think about any of these before he was an innovator he was renaissance man he was something special he was born in the wrong generation he was supposed to be born at the generation of Moses and they say that from Moses to Moses no one was like Moses R's name was Moses from mosu to the rambam there's no such thing there's nobody was born like Moses special people so people ask wait this mashia is going to come mashia is bigger than Moses or no no no hasem says no one's ever going to be bigger than Moses all can I meet Moses when the mashia comes m is so huge if we're able to even look at him look at him it's already going to be a merit look at him from 15 miles away is is going to be more significant fire than the sun want to meet him hang shake his hands we get to see a picture of him butu didn't exactly have such an easy life he didn't have an easy life he tried helping is what they do they called him a thief he tried helping is they called him a womanizer maybe he's trying to steal our wives he tried to give him a toah they go idol worship he saved all the Egyptians that said they wanted to convert they all became the a of balagan craziness rambam had his own tun being a very smart person very studious person he learned even the works of Aristo Aristotle Plato and he wrote multiple books he was philosopher also philosopher scientist mathematician doctor doctor giant P the biggest PC we've ever had in the last thousand years at the very very least if not ever giant of giants to such a point that even the gim have a statue of him and they call him one of the 18 most important people that ever lived yeah I think in Washington I believe it is right Washington it's also one in his Spain too oh okay this say 11th century so ran was something special he was also the doctor for the king in in Egypt but when he came with his out with his book Guide to the perplex yeah uh Guide to the perplex I think it's called in in um in English it included some wisdom from the go included all types of philosophical arguments and so on and the big big rabbis didn't like it they didn't like it they didn't right away they saw some information from theim immediately they called it they called they went against it and they started burning the P books publicly they started burning the rambam's books publicly who is the leader ruu if you actually notice if anyone that has this particular book or many many books commentary is very common from but made a very big mistake here he's leading to pack to learn rambam's book publicly it's not like today 5 minutes you got 5,000 books in a printing machine back then every book is handwritten if you actually had one of those books today it would be Priceless some people collect these things so he would burn these books but one day decides you know what let me actually read this book why did he think about reading this book because he saw theim decided to start taking from the and start burning them too like hey if you're burning Jewish books from R let's burn this too and he realize in his deep heart I made a mistake I made a mistake I went against the ran publicly and I actually didn't read the work yet I just saw a few things and it didn't sound so good because it was different because unusual cuz it didn't agree with my pre-existing knowledge but I didn't check the whole thing yet so then he started checking it and he realized that Not only was the rambam right but he was actually the we went from from one corner of the world to the other corner of the world on one end you're calling him Jesus you're calling him a cof you're calling him a heretic and the other you calling him it's a big big huge distance G G oh Jesus G geden so he has to fix it how do I fix it for the rest of his life he went from town to town into every bitet and every Jewish community and said I was wrong the rambam is right he's the gador listen to him and for years decades I think it was 30 years and throughout this time he wrote a very very famous book called Chua the gates of chuva and we learn a lot of things from this Chu who do we learn it from why why is it so good to learn this book sh CH because he actually did Chua 30 years Chua for one sin the F we don't even think it's a sin well okay so you burn some books big deal buy him some new ones go to bars and& Nobles they have a sale sure get some kids to write new books no I went against the sage I went I went against the name of the y y o n h so why basically he did he he went he went from uh he burned the books in public would EMB embarrassed the rambam so then he went to try to give credit to the rambam telling everybody he was wrong and the rambam is right really yeah and he throughout the next couple of decades he kept telling everybody that he was wrong about what he said about the rambam the rambam was right and throughout this process he actually told his own story of how he did full Chua for this one sin so why is it important to learn from someone with experience cuz if let's say for example if I came to if somebody came to you and said listen I can teach you how to be rich teach you how to be rich but the guy is homeless he homeless he doesn't have any money you're not going to come to the course but if the guy is a multi-millionaire it's a better chance you're going to go to the course if a guy says listen I could teach you about schom I could teach you about have to have a great marriage oh tell us about your marriage which one first one second one third one or fourth one you going to come to the course you're not going to come to the course guy is divorced three times already but if the guy says oh I've been with my wife for 30 years and she still likes me okay I'll pay for the course maybe you understand so when someone writes a book from experience When someone tells a story from experience it carries much more weight that's why in The Book of Jeremiah the prophet Jeremiah chapter 3 of The Book of Lamentations in in Hebrew it's in English it's Lamentations chapter 3 Jeremiah says I know suffering that's how he starts the book that's how he starts the chapter I know suffering why you know because if you read the first two chapters it talks about talks about destruction of bet mikdash and Jeremiah watched the whole thing says pools blood people being murdered all types of disasters he saw all of this CU I know suffering I saw it saw it firsthand so from him we listen to he know suffering for a millionaire we take advice of how to be rich unless he became a millionaire by telling people he's a millionaire you know sometimes people say I could teach you how to be rich but the way they got rich is by telling people just that to get rich not they didn't actually have a real job the guy wrote a book of how to be rich when he was broke but he got rich from writing the book about how to be rich that's not that's that's a common thing so you want to get experience you want to get information people would experience now this mishna says which we learned a little bit about over the last couple weeks including yesterday today which we know is one of the greatest sages that ever lived and yesterday we learned that he had five key students he had many many students but there were five that were exceptional five that he said these are going to be the ones that continue the Mas they're going to continue Judaism they're going to continue the leadership and the authenticity of the Tor now we learned yesterday why did he pick these five I mean he had thousands and thousands of students were they the smartest were they the richest why why did he pick these and last night Mish we we learned we picked them because they were the most humble they were so humble that they would have never said any of the words that he said about them about thems there would ever be one of these guys say I'm humble I'm honest and the reason why humility is a key character trait because we learned from the one that got the Torah who got the Torah M the humblest man that ever lived right says the pride of men will be the the way that hasem embarrasses him eventually someone that's very proud has a lot of Pride thinks of himself when Hashem eventually punishes him he's going to use what he was so proud of to embarrass him with so for example someone that's very proud of being rich throws his money around makes everybody think he's the boss acts like he's the boss treats people with disrespect cuz he has some money burn the money with a cigarette lighter yeah Burns things like that nonsense what does a people do the people like that what's the best thing you could do to a rich person take away his money once he has no money there's nothing to be proud of anymore right one guy came to a rabi I'm sorry but I have a problem and I have to work on it goes what do you have to work on I have to work on my pride I have a lot of Pride I'm very very proud of myself because okay all so you have something for me I can read goes no no you know what just wait for me outside 2 hours and in 2 hours I'll give you the solution was okay 2 hours he's waiting outside like this he's waiting he's waiting he's waiting somebody comes in to see the rabbi he says go see him he points to him he sends it to him the guy comes to him and he says oh yeah I just spoke to the rabbi I have some financial problem he says I should come to you he go Financial I don't have any money to give you goes no but the rabbi told me goes I don't know why the rabbi is sending you to me I don't have any money the guy leaves short while later a different guy comes he says to him hey I have some uh problems with my business the rabbi sent me to you we're in a stock market business stocks are going up but I'm short stocks are going down but I'm long you have any advice what we should do with Google what we should do with apple I don't know anything about the stock market what are you sending you to me what Rabbi crazy I don't know anything about the stock market the guy leaves sure while later little Yeshiva Boy comes 14-year-old boy comes hey send us to you and he said what does Rashi mean when he says thatu wasn't excited about getting the jobu Rashi I don't even know what are you talking I don't know I'm not I don't know anything I don't know what this Rabbi is doing so the guy gets up and he goes to the rabbi go for what do you keep sending all these people to me I don't know what I don't know how to answer them I can't help them so the Rabbi says to them I sent you somebody that need money you don't have any money I sent you somebody that needs business advice you don't know any business I sent you somebody that needs learn T you don't any T what are you so proud of what are you so proud of what do you have so much pride for wow when you really think about it there's absolutely no reason for a person to ever be proud if you look at wrote an several extraordinary books we only have a few of over a hundred that he wrote [Applause] and and miss talks about different ways to work on your midot different things that a person needs to work on and in chapter 23 talks about humility this is a section you know usually I have a lot of highlighters and pen marks and my books to remind me of different things but once in a while I have one of these not often but once in a while I have one of these where there's no highlight but it's just a note what's the note say read at least times this is what it says when a person observes his lowly state of corporeality and his inferior Beginnings he has absolutely no reason to be conceited instead he should be ashamed and embarrassed what's the beginning beginning you came from a seed a putrid seed that some people waste into the garbage seed you came from what do you end up as a corpse the maggots eat because he realizes where he came from he realized where he's going what are you so proud of everything that goes inside your body comes out stinky what are you so exactly proud of to what is this uh analogy like to a herdsman of pigs who Rises to power as long as he remembers his former days he cannot be hoty says listen even if the pig becomes the king even if they call him the uh Beauty uh King he still knows he's a pig he's still a pig right so is not here to insult us he's here to give us a reality check and when he considers his well that at the end of all his great Endeavors he will return to dust food for the maggots his pride will surely be subdued and his unbridled Hess will be forgotten for what value is there in the good and the greatness that he has acquired when in the end shame and embarrassment Prevail when he starts thinking about what's going to happen at the end all your money all your cars all your Fame all your songs all your stocks all your bonds all your real estate all of that stays here everything stays here all the things you were so proud of stay here you show up to sh empty only thing you carry is two things good deeds sins that's it these are the two things that you actually own what are you so proud of you have so many more you have so are you so rich in Mitzvah are you such a sadik that you don't even make any sins that your sin account is broke and your your Mitzvah is overwhelming what are you so proud of and he continues and when he reflects further and imagines the moment of his entry into to the great Court of the Heavenly Legions seeing himself before the king of all Kings the Holy One blessed is he holy and pure to the ultimate degree of Holiness and Purity in the midst of the Holy ones Servants of strength Mighty Warriors who do his bidding who have no blemish everyone that serves hem is perfect he is perfect of perfect and you you show up with all your zil all the garbage you brought from the world the sins you brought and he stands before them deficient lowly denigrated by his very nature impure defiled on the account of his deeds will he even dare raise his head you say hey I'm humble I'm honest you going to say that over there I'm humble I'm honest I I I I donated $6 to k i I did six [Music] times will he be able to justify himself if they ask him what have you to say where is the pride and honor that youor in the world what will he answer how will he respond when rebuked in this manner surely if a person would for just a moment visualize this truth portray it portray it realistically and vividly all of his Hess would vanish and never return says as soon as someone actually pictures just this two paragraphs in reality he will never ever be arrogant again that's true very graic very touching this is not me don't blame me I'm still trying to read this a few hundred times so so what we car sorry it's the only thing you have and sins now one of the things that people ask about a lot is why are so many disasters happening in the world you have natural disasters happening it seems like a weekly basis every family has damage one person intermarried another person died another person is sick another person got money stolen another person is a thief every family has a disaster is is suffering we're getting stabbed we're getting abused we're getting insulted it's become popular to be anti-semitic most recent statistics said on the top that over 40% of Americans are Ally call themselves anti-semitic they openly are anti-semitic 40% the ones that the other 60% doesn't say they're not antiemetic say they're not open about it no they're not so open about it this is our Ally is our friends what about our enemies everyone says no Islam is a you know it's a peaceful religion oh yeah what when they're cutting off the head or when they're putting it back on on a pole when is there peaceful religion exactly you see the AL jazer clips that they put online sometime s you see what these terrorists say about Israel all they want is to kill us and all they're doing is killing us and what is the Israeli government the genius Israeli government doing what are they doing the Israeli soldier poor Soldier killed a terrorist terrorist came we spoke about this last time I was here he killed a terrorist because the terrorist if you saw the video tried to kill him it's not that the terrorist was just standing there smoking a cigarette saying ah maybe I should be a sadik now be a terrorist maybe if's a sadik no no no he tried to kill him he took a knife tried to kill him and a few other people so he shot him and he killed him which is a normal thing you would do right in America if you have a sandwich in your hand that looks like a knife they already shoot you that's right whether you or or doesn't matter but if you're black you don't even have a sandwich they'll kill you for sure but in Israel if you're an Arab and you have a knife and you're trying to kill somebody if someone Shalom tries to kill you they're in trouble if they actually kill you they throw you in jail but a soldier he's trying to kill him because he killed him because he's killing other people but this is the stupidity of this generation what about the resolution that the the big countries of the world say Israel doesn't exist exactly so now you have but even the other countries not liking Israel is not news they've never liked us they've never liked us anti-Semitism was created in this week's par this week's par it's the first time officially where a country said let's go against the Jews let's fool them before they grow and join our enemy and fight us that's what par said beginning let's fool them let's fool them from being businessmen to working for us let's give them some government positions pretend let's give them some fake money pretend we'll give them Bitcoins let's give them pretend significance in the world but as soon as they give us everything they have we'll change our mind we'll say no no you know what all that money you gave us is actually worth a lot and everything we gave you is worth nothing so now you have nothing so you might as well work for us for free let's fool them into think thinking that we're their friends let's fool them to think that we're their allies except at the time of need so anti-Semitism by the countries it's not a surprise it's been happening for over 3,000 years starts with this week's the UN it's not new they've always been anti-israel that's their resolution you put Hamas un same thing why you didn't see the videos where the actual terrorists shoot the missiles from a un building why am I the only one that saw it why you think that the workers the employees at the UN didn't see it they probably put the ammunition in no no no it's a little heavy let me help you Mr Arab terrorist let me help you let me give you a hand let me give you a hand with dismissal no no aim that way same thing so the hating us it's from said said is always going to hate yov to rule so yes there's a few people that are decent human beings that like the Jews and those are righteous Gentiles but in general it's not a surpris if if if a non-jew hates a Jew it's not a surprise you guys don't see some of the YouTube comments that I get yet sometimes I delete them sometimes I leave them there I got one guy calling me yes yeah I don't know just all types of uh Nazi comments that he made he wants to kill me he wants to this he wants to that so I told him thank you for embarrassing me publicly just as our God said I bless those that bless thee and I curse those that curse thee That's Heavy that's pretty heavy hasem said that so I just repeated it tou is what he said the point is is that theim hating us is not a surprise yeah but one one one question triggers me is okay is we're talking here about ignorance as a as um as a point that is real the one that make definitions of people because for example I I think I told you once in a story that I have a friend she is very smart very smart person very well educated and one day I I showed her a little piece of writing of RMA and she started reading it and she started crying right and I say Lee what happened what moves you say say I have a son that has 37 years he was born in a hospital in Canada mhm that has the name of rambam until that moment I thought that I was a toy oh yeah yeah it wasn't a real name ramb was a toy was something rare but I didn't know that and she's very smart person wow the biggest mistakes in history made my smart people the biggest mistakes in history made my smart people so-called educated people um the smart and secular knowledge doesn't mean very much because you could be the smartest guy in secular knowledge math science architecture archaeology all types of information but you could still be a beast of a human being doesn't change your character you could still be a horrendous personality you could still be a rapist you could still be a pedophile you could still be a murderer even if you're a genius in math science the only subject if you want to call it subject that forces you forces you to change your character is Torah only thing why because if you learn Torah for the wrong reason you learn Torah because you want to give speeches you want people to give you respect and call you Rabbi you want to write books so you can make a lot of money you want to give lectures and charge 15 20 $30,000 a lecture meaning you're learning Torah not for the sake of Torah you're learning Torah for the sake of money on that kazal right this very same kazal this very same sages take a verse from the T from the five books of Moses and they say that Torah it's not from heaven from somewhere else it's not the Torah you're learning for the wrong reason my friend your Torah is for money your Torah is for Fame and Fortune it's not Torah my friend you could learn the by heart and you could do all these things you could wear the hat and have the beard and have all these things all that stuff is great but your Torah it's worthless worthless the same G says meaning someone that knows that has bad a dead animal in the street that a car ran over is better than him better than him guy learned T his whole life learned T learn learn he's giving sh he tells people he knows this and he's those this and he do this but he says I'm humble I'm honest I also charge $155,000 a lecture I also I'm only doing this for the money not because I believe anything I say they say the dead animal the dead rat just ran over it's better than him K says this very same Sage that can revive the Dead so now we ask ourselves how could all of this be we'll finish with this main point how could all of this be and we'll leave the rest of the Mish for next week but how could all of this be how could we have all of this disaster people are trying to stab us people are trying to kill us the UN feels proud to be against the Israel country the Israeli government themselves are against themselves we have more Terrorist on the government of Israel than we have actual good people everything's upside down how could this be AEM how could this be what you did you go on vacation how could this be page 47b gives us a detailed explanation of why when the number of Torah Scholars who were Pleasure Seekers increased Justice was perverted and deeds deteriorated and consequently hasem is not satisfied with the world when the people that are supposed to be learning T instead of learning T and teaching T they have snitel parties they cancel someone wants to do to go make chicken to go make popcorn they want to enjoy the world like this is saying when instead of being they're Pleasure Seekers what Pleasure Seekers trying to enjoy this world I want to get donations so I can buy a bigger house I want to get donations so I can buy a bigger car I want to get this I want to get a nicer hat I want to look better I want to do better I want to invest in the stock market you want to enjoy this world you're not waiting for the mhia you like this world too much you like this world too much that's what he's saying you want to enjoy this world you're pleasure Seeker you're not studying Tor for torah's sake you're studying Tora so you can make money so you looks like you're aik it looks like you're humble and honest it looks like it it says hasem is not satisfied with the world because of you when the number of Judges who displayed favoritism in judgment increased and command and of you shall tremble before any man you shall not tremble before any man which is a verse in Deuteronomy 117 when that commandment ceased to be practiced and the Commandment of you shall not show favoritism in judgment was discontinued and people removed the Yoke of heaven and placed on themselves and instead the Yoke of flesh and blood when the number of those who whispered to the judges during judgment increased Divine anger increased in Israel and divine presence departed from its midst he's saying when the Judgment in the courts started deciding cases based on who's richer than the other one who's bribing me more than the other one who am I scare of more than the other one oh no no I can't rule against him he's a big guy he's going to ruin my business he's going to ruin my position if I go against him if I convict him I'm going to lose my job if I convict him I'm not going to be president if I convict him I'm not going to get a promotion we're not looking for justice anymore if I go against him they're not going to accept me to be on the board is it commandment in the Tor not to show favoritism even to the poor there's a commandment in the Torah don't ever be scared of anyone any man the only thing you're allowed to be scared of is God and your parents and your Rabbi other than that you're not have to be scared of anything else when we're scared of people there's a CLE clearly says here in thear Divine anger increased in Israel hem gets angry what does it mean Divine anger gets get increased in Israel something happens he leaves and he brings something else because it says God stands in the in the Divine assembly in the midst of Judges he judges God stands in a Divine assembly meaning the nation of Israel only when the verdict of the judges reflects his judgment Hashem can only be there when the government is running the country according to its Torah according to proper laws not according to the stupidity of convicting their own soldiers for murder of terrorists that's stupid that's sad too when the number of people increased of whom scripture says their hearts lust for gain then there increased the number of those who say regarding evil good and regarding good evil and when the number increased of those who say regarding evil that it's good and regarding good that it's evil The Cry of whoo whoo increased in the world there when people start doing things the opposite they say hey driving on Shabbat just drive on Shabbat toet walking two miles toet no no no drive drive it's better just as long as you come and you donate money to the everything's good they say whatever is a mitvah they say it's no good whatever is they say it's good a woman wants to be madest they make fun of her I have a student she's sadik maybe 19 years old 18 19 years old trying to be modest for 17 year old 18 19 year old to be modest is like might as well it's very hard split the seat yeah yeah huge and she comes from a house full of secular anti to family now you would think okay you know what she wants to be mod support her what do you care support the young girl let her be modest what do you care does it defect you in your life you're not marrying her you're not dating her it doesn't if you want your wife to look like a prostitute you marry someone as a prostitute she wants to be modest especially if she's your little sister or your little daughter if anything you should want want to be modest of course who wants their daughter to look half naked in the middle of the street but what happens with this family what a t she has they tell you're wearing too much clothes you're wearing too much clothes you don't look like us anymore take off the clothes oh my God take off the clothes you don't look like us anymore and they start making fun of her and insulting her and cursing her and fighting with her this is a t this is G in this world this is what this is talking about when the mitvah you're telling them it's bad it's evil and the evil you tell them it's the increased wo wo in the world meaning you used to say yay now it's O you say yeah I'm celebrating but then there punishment in the world like oi this one died this one got cancer this one got sick this one lost all of his money this one got divorced how many problems do we need to get until we wake up how many oi oi do we need how many how many and this continues saying and those who spit far distance increased the number of arrogant people increased and the number of Torah students decreased and the Torah goes about searching for those who would study it Torah goes like a homeless person please study me please CH please please M please something please study something I go to go beg me beg me to convert beg me Jews oh busy the Torah even goes to the G okay you want to study me somebody's going to study me become a Jew now we go to we go to the Jews please study me the Torah is like homeless please study me read one par one page one word it's five letters five MIT please study me why it says cuz the arrogant people increased what why does arrogant people have to do with people not wanting to study toah what's a connection increase because the Torah is knowledge the Arrogant person already believes he has knowledge therefore he doesn't need to learn Torah The Arrogant person reads just the verse and says I'm going to be the commentary I'm going to be Rashi I'm not going to look at Rashi I'm going to be the one that translates what this verse says rash she's 900 years ago he's old news I'm the new kid on the Block arog people increased real Torah Scholars decreased because the arrogant people don't want to actually read Torah they want to make money and it continues when the number of arrogant people increased the daughters of Israel began to marry only arrogant people for Our Generation seize only on the surface and are easily fooled by appearances this is not this generation yeah says even the women who do they look for as husbands what they look for the sadik the guy that's no they look at the guy with the biggest watch who's the girl say oh I want to marry him oh I can't wait there the guy with the nicest car the guy with the big watch that's 17 lbs I don't know why people need such a big watch just put a clock it's cheaper put an alarm clock why you need such a big watch alarm clock put an alarm clock on your hand hand I don't understand why people need such a big watch but who she wants to marry she wants to marry the guy that has a clock on his arm she wants to wear the guy she wants to marry the guy that has clothes tighter than hers you know the new skinny jeans the skinny shirts and skinny this and skinny that only problem is the only thing that's not skinny is the guy the guy's fat skinny jeans skinny pant skinny everything but the guy's fat so you see all of his curves and his skinny jeans who she wants to marry she wants to marry him CU he has a Lexus or a beamer or this one or that one and a watch and a clock and a this and a that that she wants you marry she wants to marry the guy that shows off his wealth that he got from ABA anyway she doesn't want to marry the Ben Tora that makes $1,000 a month and Nico is studying 12 15 hours a day she doesn't want to it doesn't look what I'm going to Liv such a humble life I need to have at least at least start out with a five-bedroom apartment at least start out living on the 35th floor that's what people think these days I'm not ready to get married until you get a car well you marrying the car you marrying me if you want I just send you the car you marry that I'll save myself the get the car what do I need to who people are marrying the wrong people why cuz they're looking for the wrong things they're looking at the watch instead of the eyes but the master said one of the sages said this man who's arrogant it's not it says in the Torah that even his family hates him so how could it be that all the women Marry The Arrogant man an arrogant person even his own family hates him no one likes an arrogant person especially another arrogant person because he's taking his light he's stealing his Thunder confed with him like Donald Trump cannot have a vice president that's also Donald Trump can't we why because he'll steal his Thunder he'll steal the attention can't be so he picked a guy that's like Meek and waiting and like quiet in the side it's perfect so an arrogant person can't be in a room with another arrogant person it's impossible so he says arrogant people even their own family hates them so how could it be that every daughter of Israel is marrying an arrogant person says initially the women jump to marry these arrogant people but ultimately their husbands become despised by them initially that they want to buy the watch they want to marry the watch they want to marry the car they want to marry the tight clothes with the fat guy they want to marry the uh strange weird herir do that they have with three lbs of gel that's what they want to marry initially that's what they want to marry everybody has a hair here and hair here and hair here and hair here and earrings here earrings here earrings here the cow looks at him like listen I have one but they put it here what do you have so many the bull is like jealous of me he's like Hey listen I only got one here one here you have a lot whole face is Wings you can't even go to a metal detector it's dangerous but what they marry they marry these things cuz they want the you know they want the style stylist he's Innovative he's a modern day everybody wants to marry the modern day guy six months into it I can't stand him we need a divorce why because who cares about the modern day I want a normal human being that's going to love me that's going to listen to me that's going to respect me that's going to treat me like a human being and not a corpse or a baby f Factory that's actually going to buy me flowers with his own money and not just take the neighbors Flowers by you know stealing them five minutes before Shabbat that's going to actually want to hang out with me instead of with his friends at 10:00 at night that wants to build a family with me that wants to learn to allow with me that wants to be my BFF my best friend not BFF with his high school buddy still drinking beers every Thursday and Sunday that's why I want to marry but she only realizes it after she married the modern guy with the Rings and The this and the tattoos and all this Bagan that he has the fat guy with a tight cloth the fat guy with the tight clothes so here we see that Hashem is telling us very very clearly when we transgress the Torah we could only lose you can't win it's like fire it looks very very pretty from far it's pretty you get close to it you put your hand in it it's not pretty anymore you go against the Torah guaranteed loss not just in Thea that no one wants to believe in not just in the days of mashiach where 15 days of darkness are coming not just then but in this world in this life in this marriage in this kids in these schools in this country in your personal life and this is why said God teach me your laws why cuz he knew that hashem's laws must be good he's the manufacturer of course he's the manufacturer he's not going to create you to destroy you you want to destroy you he just build Gom just build G for entertainment just throw people in the G ha if he wanted to torture you he just he just created Gom that's it no gun in no world even just Gom but obviously created this world full of perfection full of flowers and butterflies and trees and all these wonderful things he could have made all food taste the same but instead he gave you cookies and he gave you meat and he gave you chicken and he gave you all these wonderful things that you can enjoy food and you can enjoy the scene and you could see colors and you get married and you have love and you have all this kids and what wonderful things he got you to a place that you could actually enjoy the least you can do is remember him and thank him for it sh yeah could you imagine if we all saw black and white I imagine that we most of us already see most of us only see black and white just we see the we see the wrong colors as the problem so the thing is that the sages teach us Moses teaches us both mhu and R please don't forget God because you're going to need him any questions am [Music] [Applause] [Music] he [Music]