The Ben Ish Chai on the Crown Rebbi Akiva Placed on His Wife's Head {DH Iyun Shiur Nedarim 50a}

Okay. I just want to share with you something on regarding Rabaka. The Gumar tells us that Rabaka is ba did Kadush. He married the daughter of Kaba Sava Shama. Kaba heard a So he assured her in benefit from all of his possessions. They then went and they did nuin. It's interesting theubis asked the following straa from the garit mashma inubis that She sent him to learn Tory tora before the nuin but in the daram it's mashma that he did to her in his poverty that means he went to doin before he learned to so it's a little bit of a contradiction the asks in the says that certainly he did even before he went to So what happened was first he did kadushin so that the father should not find out about it and therefore he didn't do nuin because if he would have done nuin he would have definitely found out and at that point she sent him to learn then >> after he went to learn to the father heard about it and he chased her out of the house. So when Rabbi Aka heard he came back and to do nuin in other words the way the beny reconciles the gumar in with the garbus is originally he attempted only to do kaducian so that the father shouldn't find out and then he went to learn once he started learning the father found out so he figured he might as well do nuin anyway that's the inubis on anyway the garra here continues They slept in the straw. Our ga is she picked the straw from his hair. However, the brings that the ga is he picked the straw from her hair. We'll see. It makes a difference. He said to her, "If I had the money, I would place a Jerusalem of gold on your head." The Marsha asks, "What do you mean?" But the garra tells us that they made a gazer not to have crowns on the head of the mala. So, how could Rabaka say that he would make this crown for her? So, Marshall says that gazer was only for but not for a regular wife. It was the gazer. They made a gazer not to make these crowns but that did not apply to a regular wife. Okay. So I want to bring to your attention is interesting here not in in the says to his wife if I would have had the money I would make you a a Jerusalem of gold. asks it should have said I'll make for you a golden Jerusalem. Why does he say I'll put it on your head? What does he mean I'll put it on your head? It would seem to me says he made a to her. The nether was not he's going to make it that he personally would put it on her head. It was a crown. It definitely had straps of gold to tie it onto her head. It needed to be placed through someone else that it should be placed very well and it should be tied that it should stay and not fall. And he made another that the placement and the tying he would do personally as a reward for the honor that she showed him in their poverty with her own hands. Now the girth of the beyada is different than the way I explained it because we explained it that he plucked the the straw from her hair. Here the says his ga is she plucked it from his head as a reward for her plucking the hair from his head. He says, "I will pay you back by personally placing the gold crown on your head." I would just say, if you look carefully in the run, the Ran says that he plucked it from her head. She actually the Ran says she plucked it from his head. So according to the ran she plucked it from his head. Let's see what Rashi says also. Rashi says she plucked it from his head. So as a reward for him plucking it from his head, he is saying that I will pay you back that I will pay you back that I will personally place the crown on your head. By the way, if you say differently, if you interpret the garra that he plucked it from her head, maybe what he's saying is you suffered the indignity that you had straw in your hair and I had to pluck it from your hair and I will reward you that I will one day personally place the crown on your head. In any event, the benyad says with this we could explain what it says in a rabna and parag that the students told a rebiuis you embarrassed us with what you did to her. The students of told him rebi you embarrassed us by putting the crown on her head. He said she took great pains in so I had to give her the crown because explains it's embarrassing for us and our wives that our wives don't have such because says, "It's not clear. Why are the students commenting to Rebaka on his jewelry purchase for his wife?" How could they equate? Why would they want to be compat comparable to Rabi? The Gumar says on the bottom of the page that Rabika is very wealthy. Kazal tell us that in the US that even the wife of Gaml didn't have jewelry the way the wife of Rabbi had jewelry was much more wealthy even the wife of didn't have such jewelry and she was jealous why would it be embarrassing for the students because wife has such nice jewelry because a millionaire The answer is they weren't embarrassed by Rabbi Keva's purchase of jewelry. They were embarrassed by Rabbi personally waiting and servicing his wife by putting it on her head cuz that was something they could have easily done and they didn't. Based on what we learned, it's very understandable. But when they said you embarrassed us and what you did for her, they weren't talking about making the jewelry. It was that he personally put it on her head and he with his own hands tied it and affixed it to her head like he said in in his nether I will place it. He wasn't saying I will make it. He was saying I will place it. Therefore the students said you embarrassed us that a great person like you should do this kind of service to put the ornament on her hair. So he said no she is worthy of it because she took pains with me inra so she honored me. Therefore, I'm honoring her. Says, "It's not just I'm rewarding her. I am honoring the Tory by putting this crown on her head." Cuz since she really was Moer Nephesh to take care of me in my uh time of need. So, she honored the Tyra. I'm honoring her. And that's an honor for the Tyra. Now, one last thing. Why did he honor her by offering a surah of It's interesting in there is a safer Margolus Hashas who deals with the question. You know what exactly was this value of the shah? He says it could be that he was giving her a razal say from the day the B mdish was destroyed all has in his world is the ra says the am of are like today's mikdash the maral says that the tora in the galos is like our bamedash now the beginning of the life of raka was the time of the byeni. So Rabaka maybe was being morame to his wife in the absence of the bame mikdash I will make for you theim of zah I will dedicate my life to tora that in is our mikdash in our times now that the bdash is destroyed but the says what was the meaning of this it wasn't just regular gold the body was gold but The image of Jerusalem was with beautiful stones. He found a special reason in this saw with the Holy Spirit that he would become wealthy through six ways. Like the says, The gamatria of the words is 600. Shaim is 546 586. And the word zah is 14. Zah equals sh 6 which is 600. The word sh which is six is gamach 600. Therefore, he made an I will have wealth like I foresee that comes to me from these six ways. I will place on your head a Jerusalem of gold that this ornament has the numerical value of 600. He also said this that even though it's a very expensive even though it's very expensive and it needs a lot of money to buy I will rejoice in making it I meaning I'm happy to do it for you that it equals joy And by the way, he says something interesting. The reason why he made this nether is she he made the nether when she was plucking the hair from his head. What does it mean his head? It meant his beard. The beard represents the flow of mazul and parnasa. So because she was honoring his beard, he says one day when I have money from the mazel that is marumas in the zak then I will give you this very valuable gift. Okay. So this is a this is a a nice idea especially you're in yushim. So this was the uh gift that Rabi ka pledged to his wife. It wasn't just that he would get her the gold, but that he would personally administer to her as a reward for her, so to speak, what she did for him. Okay, Rabbi say that is the that is the today's have a good day. Enjoy the rest of your >> Okay, bye. Recording stopped.