The Bar Mitzvah Series Part 2: Parshas Toldos - The Zohar's Revelation

this torah class is brought to you by torahanytime.com okay as we prepare for parshas told us how about lino latoya um yep so welcome everyone want to welcome all the torah anytime viewers everyone listening on j wrote radio and the big time i'm here in the kailua matsuyam in kew garden hills new york okay so let me share with you the following idea that is connected to the parachute you know on the words points out that until they were of age nobody paid attention to recognize their inherent natures but then when they became 13 years old when they became 13 years old so rashi says this one separated to the base of madrid and the other one separated to the house of avid azara barashi uses a lotion of when they each became 13 years old and in fact this comes from the madrish the madrid says this is until they became bar mitzvah but once they became bar mitzvah the matter says made the bracha petrani and each one went on to their desired path in life so right so now we're going to discuss since the makara bar mitzvah comes from this week's fashion we're going to speak about some of the kabbalistic elements of bar mitzvah on wednesday we spoke about what the makar is that a child becomes remit so at 13. we spoke about whether you have to wait 24 hours so today we're going to speak about a very interesting transformation that occurs to a young man at 13 years old and something that we all need to be aware of because this is something that occurs throughout our lifetime what do we call bar mitzvah boy what is the traditional classic expression that we use to refer to a bar mitzvah boy we call him a bar mitzvah what in the world does that mean bar mitzvah a bar mitzvah chosen i mean if anything it should we say we should say he has free choice now until now he was under the control of the sahara he did not have a yetzer taiv we'll see about that but now he could choose now his life is in front of him but why do we call in bar mitzvah who chose him it should be called bar mitzvah so famously for writes impressions mishpatim and actually this is the draw show that he gave at his son's bar mitzvah the sav sofia wednesday we learned what said at rib shemin's cipher's bar mitzvah now we're going to learn what the samsuffer said at the sam cyphers he says from now on the child chooses good and despises evil why [Applause] at age 13. so we call him bakur because now that's when god chooses him until now god did not choose him until now he was not eligible for habbo khabib israel he wasn't yet now that he is now he's 13 god chooses him and therefore he's called bachur the chosen one so the question is what happens at age that now god chooses him and until then until now he does not choose them so you can say oh this is good stuff i could say it and my sons are mr grant says if i miss her cousin's mom so nephews bar mitzvah good okay so just remember where you heard it okay mr haimus is taking notes okay it's a cycle we're not going to stay down here because if they hear that you're taking notes they're going to know you got it so we'll keep it doing the question is where did it happen what happens at age what happens at age 13. the posix doesn't tell them like this asap i speak regarding the law hashem eli god said to me beniyata you are my son ani hayao milatika he's recording a conversation he had with god that god told him you're my son today i gave birth to you interesting thing that there was a day in david's life that hashem said david was master what's going on everybody said by the way i just want you to know vinayata you're my son today i gave birth to you so what's that referring to what day was that says this is when david reached 13 and he was on that day to enter the fourteenth year kaden siv about that time it says hashem amarelai god said to me viniyata you are my son amazingly david on david's bar mitzvah day he had a special guest who was the guest triban and whether rosham tell him he wrote he say he didn't give him a card he told them personally why before bar mitzvah he was not the son of hashem the lord shares allah and the supreme shaman did not dwell on him he was still in the years of arla like the years of allah are off limits so david was still in the years of our love again because of this until now you had an ashama maybe from the dark side now you have a neshama from the right place i seems to be saying is that before 13 a person does not have an ishama illah and but on the bar mitzvah day hashem gives a person the neshama illah and not from the sitra akhra which implies that until 13 maybe the neshama comes from a different place and we'll have we'll have to maybe have a different share well where what what how many different places could the neshama come from but these are just the simple words of the zara qaddash that the shama comes at age 13. so what one second rabbi does are you telling me that when a jew is born he doesn't have an ashama i never heard that i didn't know that pal there are a lot of things you don't know okay so at when a person is born a jew is born they do not have a neshama so when do they get the neshama according to this zayar at age 13 but we're going to have to explain this further that reza alhat writes in the eighth kaiyam from of a person does not enter until the 13th year says in his twentieth interpretation on the first passage in voracious he says that refers to the darkness of the first 13 years of life god sends help against the darkness that's when the child reaches 14 years old it is revealed from his holy abode a spirit of the holy god nishama qadosha tahirah the holy neshama let's explain that further the holy neshama which part of the holy neshama so that reason on the shareholder says that really the truth is throughout life the neshama is changing it's transforming does not remain stagnant different things are added to it so now we're going to get the history of your soul you never knew you could be um you could be 10 years old 20 50 190. good to know what am i what happens to me says will be complete at age 20 like zayar says in pashas mashabatim but by the way if you don't fix your ruach light economy meaning if you don't get the ruach at bar mitzvah then the neshama is not going to come at 20. basically you could go your whole life and never have a neshama seeing this jew it doesn't have a show yeah he doesn't have a shaman he never got it he only has a nephesh so that's a frightening thing but we don't shy away from the truth over here so this is what that result says then in the ideal person nephesh when you're born 13 and shama at 20. but again you can have people who are delayed i mean you see people you get people who are uh in the fifth grade and they're they're really in eighth grade so it's the same thing within hashami you could have jews who are you know they're being left back they're behind they're delayed okay because they don't get it at 13 right when do you get it can they get it yeah you could get it you could get it you could get it later and we're going to talk about some of them in hugging we know there's a minute that the bar mitzvah boy darshan's at the bar mitzvah should you do it should you not do we're going to learn a very interesting um phenomenon that transpires during the draw show when the boy says bar mitzvah looking now this is the safer seder now who wrote to say their haiyan was written he wrote a very important fila that every single jew says every single morning you know what he wrote one second one second one second so the question is so you're telling me it's not found in the gemara maidani yes i'm telling you it's not found anywhere until the student salaries so he wrote something called and they and he also maps out for us the scheduling of the soul's arrival okay so he says like this is the nephesh comes when a person is zaika to circumcise the flesh of his allah with shame when you get to 13 which is the yetzer taive now the imha nefesh if the nephesh that he got when he was born is from a good place then it becomes the resting place for the ruach one without the other cannot be used it's not called possessing the yetzer toyotayla but yet nevertheless it's not called the eight certain fully because it's still bhatto bhamir to the eight sahara who's been ruling over you since you were born by the way the mawak that comes listen carefully the malach that comes and makes you forget the torah there's no that that comes and makes you forget the torah who is the malek who taught you the torah the maimai that's the yetzer tife he leaves as soon as you're born the ma when does the aliyah sahara come when you're born comes you forget all you're learning there's no like special maha and then the it's leaves and at 13 the eighth comes back when you have a yetzer hara you forgot everything you saw and everything you knew now this kid this little kid has a fighting shot before bar mitzvah he's lost he's not going to overcome the sahara yes he has him in his grips the moment that he has a yitzha toiv so now he has a nephesh and a ruach versus the eight zahara now now we're talking you know if you're going to fight a heavyweight and you're going to be you know a featherweight no there's no there's no shot but if you could get two featherweights one in one corner one the other then you know you could you could do something i don't know i don't know any i don't know if they're true yeah yeah you know look sometimes it comes early i guess that you know it's not set in s now he says like this why do we why does a person become a bar owns him at 13 years old because now he's accountable until then what do you want from the poor kid yet sahara has him in his grips but now that you have a nephesh and aruak now you have a shot about 20 years old now you're going to be punished not only lamato you'll be punished for a mile in other words the more components of the soul you have the more culpable the more liable the more responsible you are for your mycin so until now this all sounds very kabbalistic and it does not seem to have any practical nafcaminos but it does i'll tell you practical nafcamina so here's a so you go into a restaurant and you say to the guy hey pal i want a big on cream cheese so this guy who comes from south america who i don't know maybe he's mexican he's a nice gentleman he's a salmonella kim one thing is i guarantee you he did not watch nego master in the morning but here's the problem the problem is that before you uh watch nego master you can't touch food if you touch food there's a question about whether you could eat it or not so how can you have this mexican guy touch your bagel so i don't know probably you don't ask the guy do me a favor do you mind watching negovassar say my da'ani and say racist and you know maybe so why why what no tamabai gayam why not yeah gayamar tommy mace yeah so why is no tama here because the shadow over here says is that where does the tomah during the night come from tuma is always when there's a vacuum so when the neshama goes up there's a vacuum of kedusha the tomah comes but don't have a neshama the gum don't have a neshama they don't have tuma in the night and therefore is that if the guy handles your food it is not a problem well what about a little kid what about the city has a health coach ask ask the people in the food industry how reliable that is you know but marvel said now the shyla is what about if a child touches the food before he washes negovasser according to what we're saying that somebody doesn't have in hashama until they're 13 years old that means no neshama left so they don't have to during the night so it's not a problem if they touch food so up to what until what age are we make all so we would say according to this year so far we could be may go until 13 years old says you doesn't come until 13 lazarus because then they're in mitsubishi but that's the icker but it starts earlier when does it start it starts the age of me it's not that one day this kid was a nephesh and then poof the moment he will ramps on the phil and bam there's like a new soul that enters his body immediately no it's a gradual process when does it begin six or seven years old so from six and seven were mahmir because they have some degree of ruach but before six if a kid touches food you could be makon now the truth is even from the time of mila they still have something they still have a nephesh and therefore it is considered a holy practice to wash children's um even little children from the time they're very young to wash their hands for an ego master especially from when they start touching food but again this concept that the shaman doesn't come to bar mitzvah has halachic ramifications as well ah comes the mishna or larbasa the night of the 14th we check for comments by the light of the candle ah our larvae look at number 10. and this week's fight says the kids grew up after they grew up they became two yeah a sovereign thinking he's thinking about how could he serve god he's thinking how could he get oil and in the meantime what's it sahara doing the sahara is becoming subdued once it's ahara sees that a person is coming and thinking about how he's going to get oil bizarre sick and tired from the yates archive and asav the sahara says tiago if because on the first day that the eights are taught enters the person's body 13 years in a day then he rules on that day and the sahara's nichna only because the first day of the fourteenth year earlier dalit the first day of the fourteenth year is when the it's artif enters in this host of the torah which is called r r vitara r and it goes to the mitzvahs which is called ner so earlier dallas the first day of the 14th year through the torah and the mitzvahs that he did through the this name that's how we search for the itsahara and we push him away this is the famous remnants of that resale earlier would you pray what could it take the day the first day of the fourteenth year we start to attack and fight the eight sahara or haner i'm gonna tell you an amazing ramez yeah first and the third letter yeah you get 13. take the second and the fourth you get 14. that's the difference okay no no no no no yeah zion why would you take the first and the third that's a different question okay rabbi sai it says it says in mishlai it says hashem the candle of god nishmas adam is the soul of man what is man's candle what is the candle the neshama refers them so there's a safer shepherd tal in the chef of tal he explains the pasta near hashem that this pasta alludes to the three components of the soul ner ner stands for nephesh all three and by the way the tikun izaya says ner is nafsha varuha the nephesh is the wick the ruach is the oyo and the neshama is the fire so nero we see from here is the rashitavas for nephesh and ruach the nephesh is absillah and the is the zayas so says friedman in the seyfriend bar mitzvah called beniyata or larba on the day of the bar mitzvah when the person enters the fourteenth year boyd and the ruach that the kid just got now the kid just got his rock so the truth then is when the zayar says you get the neshama it's not exactly the neshama which part of the neshama which part of hashem do you get on the day of the bar mitzvah the ruach the nephesh you get when you're born through therefore explains before me then number 14. which came when you were born and then when you're 20 you get the the therefore when the desire says you get the new shama illah the kavanaugh is for the ruach marvel who understood bar mitzvah more than anybody else probably right i mean he's telling us all these secrets so what did reverend what kind of bar mitzvah did shimmer make you know what did he have at his bar mitzvah who was the caterer what what did he serve what kind of stations were there you know what was going on at the bar mitzvah that ram shimbar made for rabbit one who comes to purify himself we help him what help do we give someone who comes to purify you know what the help is nishmasa kadisha then sharma gives him do you haven't laid lusaya then helps him in this world in the next world um if you want to be righteous if you want to be pure then we give you in the shama kadishi law where does it come from this gaza because the icard of malacca comes from the keys this is the meaning of the 13 paths of you're giving me this meaning basically in the first 13 years you need a lot of help that's where you'd give me those harassment come in before you have a neshama you're reliant on the you're going to meet a sarah listen to this who did rip shimon invite to his kiswah mitzvah now we're about to get the invitation list of rashim who did he invite you know some people how do you decide who you invite some people say let's see who's going to give good presents you know who says he invited the masters of the mishnah he covered his whole house with expensive items he put the rabbis on this side he was on the other side and he was very happy um what are you so happy about rap shemin like what's going on with you today what's what's up with you why are you so happy allah this is the day that the holy new shaman was given to the lazari and that's why i'm so happy come the kafka via he says a wondrous thing he says we know we learned on wednesday from the email he says this is if it's on that day that he became a bar mitzvah if the kid speaks what if it's not boy beyonce and the kid doesn't speak so islam it won't be the only time you're movata from time in your life and you wasted your time and money so that chalk this one up as another in other words only uh either on that day or if the kid speaks says another indian of why why do we much of the kid here you have this little kid the kid could barely get his head over the stander and you're teaching him aries and briskers and and papullim and khakira's kid doesn't even know what he's talking about certainly nobody else knows what he's talking about the answer is says the kafkai'm you know why we have the kids speak through learning torah that the kid teaches and the sudas mitzvah for his honor he is to a higher soul meaning not everyone gets the same level soul it depends on the sanctity of the kid and it depends on the kids drasha the indian of the kids drasha is it instills in him a holier soul mitzvah this way the kids interrupt them because they're afraid you know and share the next day this kid's going to get you know he's going to be the best guy in the shira they want to keep their standard but um i don't know anyway and if yeah look if a person didn't give his kid to speak so tell him to say that tonight it's never too late and then the kid will get uh yeah but the onion of tying the bar mitzvah to drasha to see him and so on and so forth and to sudas mitzvah is this enables the child to get a higher level ruach and he says in the inaudible the kid doesn't have a darshan the rabbi's darshan the father darshans um fine and let's just conclude that i want to save our christ that it's good for the kid to learn mishnay's on that day because again the same way we learned mishnay is for a nifter that so too we want the kid to be zaika to a higher level in the summer and therefore is in your learning mishna but the point being is i think you know obviously everybody's familiar you know when a kid becomes 13 he's maturing and now he's higher than mitzvos i don't think it's really understood that no the kid is be getting is he's becoming jewish today in other words he's becoming a yidd today and maybe we could add as follows some says that why is he called because god says i choose you today why is god choosing a kid at 13 years old i think the reason is like what did david hamel say that the abandoned told him at 13 david said that hashem told him at thirteen biniyato now you're my son why are you only hashem's son at bar mitzvah answer is very simple what makes you the son of hashem what makes you the son of hashem what makes a father a father it's because you're made out of the same dna so what makes hashem our father because hashem is alaika and we have a neshama we're a piece of the divine the only reason hashem is is not because he loves us just because you love someone you don't become their father you're someone's father if you contributed to their dna on what day could we say that we are the son of hashem when we get the khilakala kami what day do we get that the bar mitzvah therefore my bar mitzvah said to me therefore hashem says every bar mitzvah boy i choose you when do i choose you i choose you on the day of your bar mitzvah to maintain it to preserve it to sustain it and we hope that we do we make the bar mitzvahs in the right way so that our children are elevated to the proper status robots have a great challenge you've just experienced another torah class brought to you by torahanytime.com