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so what am I saying over here or I'm not
saying anything what's so much
so it's very harsh and in the same
puzzle look in the same person it says
Hashem
is soft it's compassion
that's what my dreamer connotates so you
have the bear and then you have the
volume but in the same pasok
you'd think it would be a possible
after everything cool down and after my
children now why why in the same
position
two things that are Justice that are
hard
and then in the same pasok it says
soft compassionate
says someone should find something from
this we see
that the person is teaching us a
tremendous lesson in the method
of rebuking your children or rebuking
your fellow man or rebuking your spouse
if you should be doing that if you
should be rebuking let's just say
there's a time that you should be here
let's just say you have to give a little
bit of Musser okay let's just say how do
you give the Musser
how do you do it what's the skill
says ramesha this is this public is
telling us the skill sometimes you need
to use harsh words 100 there are times
in life after obviously there's a lot of
love and the person trusts you because
if you just go for somebody start
screaming like you know in shul
I wasn't sure once I wasn't sure a lot
of times but one time I wasn't sure and
somebody was talking literally he said
like one word Emerald Avenue and like
there's a big massive guy turns around
you ready for this you ready he's like
foreign
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you never saw somebody shush like this
in your life
that guy didn't even speak he sneezed
the guy thought he talked
and I was like oh I was standing right
there like yeah I was like no umbrella
right I was soaked
emotionally physically everything right
and I was thinking like wow that is that
is one way to rebuke somebody talking
during that anymore there are there are
ways to do that he was like it was like
a wind-up like trying to dive it knows
when I see somebody like on a Runway
like about to take off no I'm not
kidding it was like
hey like he like you know he went out
there like it was and the guy said you
know
like now he's gonna stop talking no for
sure after he busts up your car he'll
definitely he'll never talk again no for
sure or or maybe not how do you rebuke
somebody in shul do you shush them and
if you need to shush them is there a way
to shush you know when you beep
there are different ways to hunt your
horn
right when you know if you knew that
there was a certain individual in the in
the car in front of you
a large individual who who may or may
not have a weapon in this car there is
no way you're gonna be like a second I
think it's been green yet
it's like silver but you know it's about
to turn green so you know some streets
the walkway it first goes walk for a few
seconds and you start beeping and then
he's like what like it didn't turn green
yeah yeah chill out it didn't turn green
yet but anyways if you knew he was
saying that you would never hunt your
horn the way you do right you'd be like
indeed excuse me are you going to look
on your phone maybe it's time to go
please be afraid
because that's a beep that's a wake-up
sign like you're messed up on your phone
so she's like you don't have to do it 48
times and hold it down for 10 minutes
and and you know say things that
shouldn't be said from anybody's mouth
ever
and yet sometimes we do that that's not
a way to rebuke somebody that's not a
way to honk your horn now there are
times when a car swerves into you that
you need to do a little bit
if you could hit me you wanted me no
problem but maybe you shouldn't no so
there you you push harder but but you
should not be ferociously pushing in you
know
because it's not a way to rebuke
somebody that's not a way to do it it's
just a muscle with the car thing but
how do you shift someone in school I'm
saying how do you ensure like you don't
have to wind up to shush
you could just be like
whatever and then look when I do it
which I do sometimes I don't even look I
go I close my eyes no
imagine like winding up with a snap like
yeah crack your finger on the way but
there's a way to do it there's a way to
do it and obviously the shushing is just
an example as well just an example
how do you rebuke your children
do you first say something harsh because
he touched a knife touched the fire went
into the street maybe even give a patch
if you need to I'm not passing oh email
oh how dare you say you Patrick I'm not
saying about I'm just saying if that's
your
so what do you do right after that do
you throw him into his room or her room
and close the door and angry for the
next four and a half years
or in the same sentence
you explain how you love them
and how it's
so you first do the fire dauber then you
do the videoming and this is not only
with children sometimes when we talk to
our spouse
sometimes it's like you get all crazy
like whoa that's not a way to now
sometimes things have to be said
but in the same sentence you could
always you know don't read it from cards
like how dare you but I love you no no
don't like my rep is said to say that
you no that's not the point the point is
get the idea
of how you're supposed to be doing it
how would you want it to be done to you
there's a message that has to come
across over here you clearly don't
understand the dangers of Internet let's
just say okay great example oh classic
he's going back to the internet and
um and I want to let you know how
dangerous this is and how it's going to
literally Sever and rip up your soul
sounds harsh no yeah that's the point
but you could do this and you have the
power and you're an ambassador of God
and you have the potential to become a
great person look at your eyes look how
precious look how expensive they are how
could you just let them wander on such
material
there's a way to do it there's a way to
do it but sometimes you have to be harsh
you have to explain what's going on so
that's the number but in the same pasok
that means in the same sentence you have
to also say bye
I don't know how these things work
either I'm just sharing with your
admission feinstances over here when you
rebuke somebody because it's necessary
and because you know they're gonna
listen or because it's a family member
or because it's whatever it has to be
done for the benefit of that person not
for you for them
so just do it in a way where they get
the message
in a way where they understand you're
doing it for them
this is not about you it's about them
so make sure they feel like it's about
them
okay great
