The 7 Ingredients to a Succesful Bein Hazmanim {For Bochrim}

okay good morning everyone it's the moment you've all been waiting for so now Yeshiva is over and you know don't think this is just for B Because if Yesa is over for B and the B have vacation the parents have vacation you know cuz now especially if they go to Camp you don't have to wake them up in the morning you don't have to Less Car PS so now the summer starts and it's B so we're going to learn the seven ingredients for Bak to have a successful because the love okay these are seven very important ingredients you need to listen carefully you need to write it down you need to remember it and think about it the whole summer number one the first important ingredient is you have to stay alive okay you need to survive that's very important Staying Alive which means don't do anything dangerous if you're not sure if you're too close to the fire then you're too close to the fire step back if you're not sure if you you should get into the car with the 17-year-old guy who the only thing he knows how to drive is a bumper car don't get in the car with him if you're not sure if the guy who is about to drive maybe he had a little bit too much I don't know what last night tonight he's he looks a little tipsy he looks a little tury say Aros Amigo have a good day stay away from him so make sure whoever's driving the car knows how to drive make sure you put on your seat belt there's a terrible story in Lakewood of a guy sitting in the second row of the car he went right through the dashboard and so the F the most important thing you need to do B is you need to stay safe it's not a small thing it's a very important Mitzvah every time you put on your seat belah part of staying safe is if you're at a Friday night o and the guy next to you he looks like he's about to fill up the cup too much don't say it it's just a little bit extra no you could permanently damage your liver Don't Go Near it stay away from the guy just because this guy is out of his mind and he wants to risk his life to show everybody else how cool he is it's good for him he wants to take his own life then the guy next to you he wants to experiment with a cigarette don't even don't just walk away the guy next to you he wants to experiment with a vape he's stupid he's stupid stay away from him don't do any don't bring don't put any uh harmful substances into your lungs or into your body Dr F you agree with this we have an end M by the leading doctor here in the neighborhood he also agrees it's very important to stay away from uh harmful Behavior okay that's the first thing yeah you askk him okay askk him number two number two So it's b you want to have a good you want to have a good upcoming man you want your El man to be strong don't be lazy in the summer first of all you need to exercise don't say no who needs it you need to exercise you'll learn better in the upcoming you'll think better you'll be more in your learning it'll open up your mind you'll have you'll oxygenate your blood it'll get all the cells going and the other okay so that's you want to make sure a you're alive B that you're healthy so it's very important and not only for Bak for everybody you want to dve in good you want to learn good you have to be healthy number three this is important for B some B think that they they don't need to go to sleep they don't need to go to sleep sleep was only given for adults but here's the thing if you're going to cut back and sleep you're going to sleep 5 hours a night then you're going to lower your IM immunity you're going to come back you're going to have a raspy voice you're going to lose your voice and that's just what you see on the outside you lower your immunity and you're not going to be able to learn well don't so this guy over sudden at 12:00 at night he decides he's going to start philosophizing about his hash the guy's out of his mind why why you listening to him you have in Yesa tell the guy pal stop talking I'm going to go to sleep now you don't want to don't even try one time going to sleep at 2: a.m. you're going to ruin the rest of the week it could adversely affect your health and it could affect your man so it's B it's B it's you're ruining your health it's self-destructive Behavior that's all right you're mask him yeah of course okay so now that those are theas number one you want to stay alive number two let's call number two you need to sleep because you don't sleep you're not going to be function functioning in the summer and the upcoming man and number three you need EX exercise a little exercise okay number four number four is like this if you look in or you look in these are these talk about some of the most complex topics and and yet begins explaining the order of the 15 in the mishna that that's how we start the M this you know hyper technical subject about the order of the mishna so say from here we see that before you could learn the L you have to be organized you have to be organized first get the order after you're organized then you could get into lumus so during the rest of the year sometimes yes they don't have time to be organized so let's say their stuff is strewn about on top of their bed under their bed all over the room they leave one shoe in one place one shoe in another place they don't screw on the toothpaste cuz they don't have time they mamish are learning every spare minute but in the summer you have which is going to be the hakam of the upcoming man first you have to establish say there so something to think about and something to work on in the summer is when you're in Camp make sure all your shirts are piled neatly and then make sure all your pants are piled neatly and then make sure your shoes are organized in order make sure all your personal items are in order you say what what's why should I make sure everything's in order the answer is before you could learn you got to be organized we learned this from we learned this from n you know another place where we learn this before Hashem gives us the he gives us another y he gives us the Y of P what do we do the night of the say there what is it called what is pesak night called say there say there and what do we do we have a whole list a very organized list of what we're going to do this night so the first yum of the year is say there after you have say there then you could go on to cabal so the same thing the has it first we have the summer and in the summer you could work on your s you could make you could write down on a piece of paper what your schedule is going to be in the upcoming man what time you're going to wake up what your various sad are going to be first you have say there and then you could prepare yourself for the upcoming man you want to hear more right okay I thought so now during the there's no time for friends the B they just learn 24 hours a day they're so immersed in their learning they don't have any friends but during the summer they have to think about making sure they have good friends so how do you choose a good friend well you want to associate with people who are going to bring you up not people are going to bring you down so what does it mean people who bring you up bring you up mean you want to associate with people who are going to push you to learn more to push you to D in better to push you to be more conscientious about and you want to associate with people who are less interested in than you are so this way you could focus your attention on Ras so in the summer it's a good opportunity to think about who am I friendly with are these people good friends for me are they bringing me up are they are they putting my attention in the right place or in other words you want to associate with people who they exert pressure on you to focus more on Ras and less on gmas people who are more interested in learning sometimes better associated with people who are more into learning than you are that will inspire you to learn more to DAV better and people who are less interested in gmas than you this way it will allow you to focus your attention in the right places you want to hear more okay I have two more okay now in the during this man the B they're so busy learning sometimes they don't have time to focus on the Mitzvah of so make sure in the summer that you write your parents letters every single day they say what's a letter what's a letter now I'm J joking no they're no letters they don't they don't do letters anymore when I was in Camp we wrote letters almost daily but you want to make sure at least like once the in the summer once the summer remember that there are people who you know they produced you they gave birth to you pick up a telephone and call them and say tell them about your summer tell them how things are going but no more than once a summer you have some extra time on your hands to be M the mitzvah of once came to when he was 13 years old and he asked what Mitzvah should I focus on now that I'm a bar mitvah Bo and said the Mitzvah of in fact one time gave a in in a class and a asked the the hardest question that K ever was asked he said and the rebbi didn't know know what to do with himself the Kish was firing questions at the boy and one boy said o I have a question I have a question so R said you could ask you'll ask the after the so the boy raises his hand after he says K how did you become the K it's a good question Kish thought he said in the key of so during this man as I mentioned the they learn 24 hours a day they don't even sometimes they don't even come up to breathe they like every other inhaling they they they skip a few but during B they could focus on being and here's the last one and after you see without the without the earlier ones you don't really have a good foundation so number one you want to stay alive don't do anything crazy don't anything dangerous if you're not sure if you should do it that's a good time to call your parents and say should I do this and the answer will usually be if you're not sure then okay number two you want to sleep number three you want to get exercise you want to get some sunlight number four you want to make sure you're organized number five you want to make sure you have good friends number six you want to work on your K and number seven now this is one of the most important ones so so the last one and that is you see during this man did I mention the B they learn 24 hours a day they don't even come up to breathe so they're always learning so they they always have to learn but when it comes to B there's a lot of free time and when there's free time then you could learn not because you have to learn you could learn because you want want to learn and it's very important to do a little learning that you don't have to do the stier says it's like a carbona the styple asks why is there something called a carbona if this carbon is needed for your then the T should say you have to bring it and if it's not needed then you what do you need it for what's the idea of a carbona so Styler writes there are things in yite that you don't have to do but gives you the opportunity to do it even though you don't have to do it cuz when you do something you don't have to do it engenders and and when a person learns when they don't have to learn so they start to feel you know I love this I enjoy this and I'm doing it because of my my real desire to come close to so a little bit of learning that you don't have to do in a certain way can elevate a person much more than learning that you have to do so during this man when you're learning every single second and you feel like you have to learn so it's it's wonderful it gives a person tremendous alyah but there's a certain element of alyah that a person has when they learn out of their own volition so if you have a you know you have a few hours in the night a few hours in the afternoon and you have even an extra five minute say there that five minutes say there and this is not only for B it's for anybody anybody who does something above and beyond what they're absolutely required it inspires aasem a person feels you know I don't have to do this so obviously I'm doing this person becomes more in touch with the you see AAS hasem is already in a person's heart it's already programmed in the heart says you just have to access it you have to bring it out so when you do something extra it brings that out so friends these are seven ingredients to a successful summer so I wish everybody who's going to camp hasem you should have a safe summer you should have an enjoyable summer and you should come back energized and recharged and uh you should have both in the summer and the upcoming and uh also besides your parents if you want to call your Rabbi you want to call your R that's also a nice idea he'll be very happy to receive phone calls also letters if you want to write letters to your r that also very nice now also if your Rabbi is your father also he'll also be very happy if you call him so um have a wonderful summer everyone say