The 12-Step Program for the Jewish Soul

[Music] good evening everybody mayor we're good you see you hear outs good thank you hello my dearest friends thank you all for joining us thank you rev mayor and your family and friends for organizing all of these incredible weeks of learning in the loving memory and the Aylan ich muss rays 'l zu kerza final of raqqa a young mother 39 who passed away recently leaving the grieving husband and eight young children parents siblings many relatives close friends besides the immediate family I had the school serving the shear the first week of shiver and now I was invited once again and thank you for this tremendous privilege to be able to learn together in the memory of such an extraordinary human being such a passionate sensitive loving and joyous neshama so whose legacy lives on of course and they're a beautiful children and also in the many lives she touched inspired during her short journey on earth shortened ears but rich in content dedication commitment love celebration of every moment of life faith hope and resilience in the face of more than one challenge and some of these challenges quite profound - hey Mitch muscle suit up it's terrifying may she stop for the young father of her children solemn air those Angus hunt and all of the children to experience braja at slaughter I'd bleed I began a Subaru Phineas Beethoven innovar niggler and to be able to grow with the spirit the resilience the attitude that their mother is at Ranelagh Rocca professed even during the last stages of her life when physically her body was so ill and yet her internal spirits were still so elated and beak weaving this to so many people many all of you be blessed for call them at start our theme tonight is the 12-step program for the Jewish soul now many of you are familiar with the 12-step program some of you are even active members and 12-step program I'm using that name because I'm going to discuss the 12-step program and maybe with some similarities although from a different angle perhaps different perspective but a unique 12-step program for the Jewish soul that's going to be our thing tonight now since I want to go through all 12 and our time is limited I'm going to be dedicating to each one each step only a few minutes even though each one deserves not one lecture but many lectures many classes but a long journey always begins with one step or in this case twelve steps so we begin the journey and I hope it will inspire you to continue delving into it learning it applying and internalizing it and meditating it meditating on it I'm just opening up my notes there the background behind this 12-step program is known as the Maria Hazael which means the 12 verses of Tyra and statements of our sages in 1976 top salam evolved I was a young child at the time the Arab the lubavitcher rebbe suggested that all Jewish children the world over should learn and memorize 12 special sukham and statements my mahram of the hazael of our stages the Krenim LaRocca and they came to be known as you'd basic human americas are there ever suggested that children would grow tremendously by learning this internalizing it memorizing yet applying it and living with it and not just children but adults as well and these 12 became those of us who grew up in the in the four cubits of the Rebbe remember that every children's gathering and rally which happened pretty frequently in my days would always open up usually with Menaka and then twelve children would recite the twelve sukham in the presence of the Rebbe it was always a moving sight these little cute kinder Locke coming up to the mic some of them still very small they put them on a milk box or on a chair so we can all see them and with their hands stretched out they would go Tyrel it's evil oh no the rebel would always stand there listening attentively with tremendous love and tremendous concentration to each word coming out of these twelve children's mouths from the mouths of babes may pol and Bianca I was a child I remember I also did one of them I did number 11 I think once maybe in 1980 or so that that zip caught I was a young child and I was honored be called up and do one of the pursuit Kamura is not alluding me it's a couple of years ago rabbi JJ hacked by Yankel hack yak of you who the heft he would always conduct the children's rallies that took place in 770 ester Parkway Chanukah time and before Purim and pastes a column I'd pay sir and sometimes before SH Louis and at the end of the summer and sometimes the middle of the yom tov Tishrei a Serie C makeover before circus or middle of circus and different special dates during the year to be shot and put him cotton different milestones holidays festival special times when the children would gather and the rebel would come down and have a minister with us we would sing and dance children would say the twelfth sukham there ever would then communicate to the children he would speak one or two or three talks around my head would translate them in English for those who didn't understand Yiddish and I was again a young boy I was studying in the yeshiva Holly Terrier in the Crown Heights section of Brooklyn our principal rabbi sridhar schloss Nikita I remember he rewarded he promised a reward to every child who would sit and write down all the words of the Rebbe as he was talking to the children take notes according to our capacity and we were rewarded so I began doing that that was my first experience as a very young child of transcribing the rebus talks I can't say they were very eloquent transcripts or meticulous transcripts but I get at least I got my hands wet with an experience that would come later to shape much of my youth and much of my life to this very day when the children would finish the twelve sukima Bianca left would usually say in his well-known enthusiasm and loud and imposing powerful voice let's give the children a round of applause and we will all applaud the children for doing the twelve silken not always but once in a while there ever would also applaud I don't still don't know why we used to wonder what's the rule sometimes he does sometimes he doesn't perhaps I stole distill don't know an absolute has to do with you know what he children who said the circum how they said it what the children needed what they were experiencing in their thoughts and souls while they said it I really don't know but when they never would applaud he would applaud for a very long time and it was a very special moment Branca left used to call the Rebbe of the commander-in-chief of the army of the Jewish children that were located there when the commander-in-chief would applaud that ever would applaud for a very long time and there was a lot of electricity in the air because everybody obviously we're also important you know unemployed usually goes a few seconds but there mber would applaud very strongly and powerfully to show gratefulness and pay tribute to the children's and the children's passion and enthusiasm and commitment to memorize these pursue come even though some of them were very young something at five year old six year old seven year olds probably I still sometimes I think four year olds I'm not sure but they were very young and then there ever would begin his talk this began in 1976 and it continued and I believe till today wherever there's a rally of children that's associated with Chabad whether it's a lucky boy in my parade or a gathering of children anywhere for any occasion boys or girls it often begins it begins always begins with these twelve recitation z' these twelve meditations in the summer camps I was in summer camps for many years we started off every day we got up to revelry right you remember my dad they live 25 minutes to line up and chakras 25 minutes to line up and scientists were those who were already out of bed an hour before for the cocoa Club they had this cocoa Club if you got up early like 6 o'clock to learn mission I his ball pay you got cocoa and that was like winning the Nobel Prize to get a cup of cocoa in camp those years was a miracle and you got an extra cookie for a snack which was also very unique and rare today I think things have changed a little bit but you got an extra piece of caucus cake or some some-something with probably MSG or good food coloring that we fought over and we had to wake up 6 o'clock in the morning and then you came down to line up of course we had to do some exercise to be in shape and before we damaged Sakura store after conventioners there were always the recitation of the twelve sukham in the morning i think half in the morning half in the evening so for many of those us this became so to speak part of the fabric of our life our education and our youth and we always knew that the herbalist suggested strongly that every Jewish child should know these twelve silk'n and adults as well today I'm still young still a baby but I'm a little older than I was in 1980 in 1981 and 1930 1976 I reflect on these twelve and tonight I want to just share a little insight on each one of them which I think can be helpful as a program for each one of our lives let's go through the twelve swiftly I know some of you know them but it's always good to review they're very sacred and they're powerful and then a little commentary on each one number one is a positive is a Sbrocco tyrunt's evil on emotion we Russia Kahless Yaakov the terror was given to us by Misha as an inheritance to the whole community of the Jewish people number two parties vasana schmeyer all are similar can wash my coat number three is a mission in assess absorption I think off to Zion behold or even dark eye of autumn lyricist arts McKee lugar summits right in every generation you have to experience and imagine as though you have left mitts right the fourth one it's called a pasta kinya Shia I'm sorry a mission in Sanhedrin chapter 11 miss Esther sunedra quoting a pasta dish I call you saw your son radical Omaha Bush remember I might call him tsadikim OLM you are its nature my time I see at least part see I remember my 12 sokham Americas are all every Jew has a part a portion in the world to come the posix says your nation all of them are so they can they're righteous all of them will inherit the great land Nate simatai each one of them is a plant of God some says it's it's a branch that I have planted the work of my hands with which I am proud with the work that I boast of the next one number five is passing at the end of Terra moysha Rubino tells us in its of him he carve a leftover muroid but this love Colossus this thing Taylor is close to you very close to you exceedingly close in your mouth and in your heart to be able to perform it that's number five number six is from Tanya chapter 41 today they really made a beautiful song he met for these lyrics Vahine a hashem yes it's over love it's a nice melody vini a sham meets of a lover Molloy color it's quite the ma Battle of a voice and close believe him over thicker a tinier said Hashem person every drew needs to know a sham is standing over you right near you and the whole world is filled with his glory and he gazes at you and he examines and scrutinizes your kidneys in your heart of how you serve him the next one is voracious borrow the key message - are it's the first plastic of Toyota Genesis 1:1 or Shem in the beginning created heaven and earth then comes where are we holding one two three four five six seven number eight for chignon to live an ass over the bar to bumble cometh that's part of Shamar patches verse Hammond the second one was smile is wrong and this is number eight you should teach it to your children and talk about it when you're sitting in your home when you're walking on the street when you lay down and when you rise up number nine is a Gomorrah MSS the Megillah dive of your got evil a mad saucy autumn and well you got him on saucy autumn and you got to you mutts Aussie Tom if somebody tells you I worked hard but I was not successful I did not find what I wanted to find don't believe him if somebody tells you I didn't work hard but I found it don't believe him somebody says I toiled I worked hard and I found it I discovered it then believe number ten is a posture can condition and terrorists claim them on it Casals Madras on its behalf the react America Reebok Eva item is that cloud god Alberto you should love your fellow as you love yourself mokuba says this is a great fundamental principle in Yiddish kind number 11 is a quote from Tonya visi Carla Adam the tactless Bria sorry Aubry escola illumise Elena miss after name Leah slurries barýþ dear Bettina this is the purpose of human being this is the whole purpose of the human being and the purpose of his creation and the purpose of the creation of all the worlds the higher ones and the lower ones to create for Hashem a dwelling place in the lowest elements of reality number 12 another quote of Tanya chapter 33 yeast mark and also apostle the tangy quotes a pasta and then explains it yes mark Easter all by self let the Jew the Jew celebrate his maker Peter says the time what does this mean she called me she is very strong yesh Loyalists maya the similar Sasha I should suffice amazed me there are sympathetic Lena everyone who was a descendant a seed of the Jewish people ought to celebrate and be joyous with the joy of Hashem because our Shem is joyous and he celebrates the dwelling place the home the residence that we created for him in this world in the lowest reality a Shem celebrates it celebrate with him dance to life to the joy of life together with the Creator you smoky strong because these are the twelve silk'n the truth is I feel after I said them I don't even need a commentary each one speaks for itself each one is obviously a divine gem coming from our Toyota whether it's from Kamisha home chat area whether it's for Mathias whether it's from Gomorrah from Sparta magnetization from holy books like the same but they come they are the divine gift of trade and each one each verse captures a fundamental truth of yiddish kind and the truth is each one as I said has so much and the system and the order and the program and I know some people have done great work in unraveling its secrets and excavating its depths my friend rabbi Aaron and his Rebbetzin Stanley Ginsberg sent me a book I don't know if it was published at it's going to be published about about this 12-step program but here as I said I think I'm gonna dedicate to each one just a few minutes very brief minutes just to convey one message out of many messages I'm qualifying this because it's important to say that this is not an exhaustive analysis encompassing the full scope of this 12-step program but as I said it's of Genesis it's a beginning hopefully to shrit and stimulate more meditation more learning more conversation more internalization and most importantly more positive action in avoid this hashem and in transforming our world preparing the world towards Redemption by filling it with goodness and kindness and holiness and godliness number one tyrunt's evil inhalation Marussia Kahless Yaakov the opening the end of terror is not the beginning of Terry it's interesting you would think he started with start of bodacious bara that's the beginning of terror or at least my soil Shama like a master Mahad not the end of Toyota Paris Missouri Sam Rafa mom is the end we say in on some constant austere tired sevillana Maria miraculous shock the first thing every Jew must know all right a very vital important thing in the beginning of the program is that you have a blueprint that the reboiler shall are them through marina brain who gave us each a blueprint and this blueprint is here to give us the most exciting powerful successful steak repair an extraordinary life and it doesn't belong to certain people it's my Russia khlestakov it's a new Russia eights and a heritance you know what the halacha of inheritance is fascinating let's say somebody passes away and he's worth sixty five billion dollars and sadly he leaves an infant who's one week old one week old that infant how logically has now inherited 65 billion dollars he is one of the richest people living on this planet it may take years until he begins to appreciate what belongs to him it may take many years until he will mature and become responsible and get the right education to be able to handle this burden we need an upper troupis we need somebody to oversee it until that time comes but the ownership doesn't begin when he's 20 years old or 15 years older Bar Mitzvah or 35 years old the ownership is right then the entire the entire stack then the the lump of money belongs to him all the assets of his father are now his Titor at Steve illumination archiquette lusaka missed every single Jewish every single jewel has the hotel at belong Stan it's his it's hers it's the gift that I shall gave to every single person this doesn't belong to a few people exclusive few elite there's no elitism here we only teachers we need members but the traitor is everybody's gift and this is Hashem personal blueprint for every single Jew in order to maximize life so in other words you have to know you have a blueprint there's somewhere to go in order to get guidance now Toyota has to be applied and interpreted and personalized does the Gomorra says in the second finest but the blueprint is their smile or similar chemical Hashem is one and what are the powerful messages here is that there's only one less in the world the entire world is pervaded with Hashem's absolute unity and everything is part of that unity because if not Hashem is not one there's a lot of other things like the buzzing says annoyed Movado that begins with the person himself or herself Who am I I'm part of our heart who are you you're part of us I'm a cook we're all part of the oneness the whole world is part of at 1's hashem echad in very real way in practical terms means that our Shems oneness is the only real reality even if it's concealed but that's the only real reality it's also the only real reality of me me rabbi why why are you each of what each one of us is really a manifestation of ourselves oneness each one of us is a ray of light of divine infinity I am an ambassador of them in this world I am its manifestation you are a manifestation that is the truest and deepest reality of every scene and the thing in the world beginning with me and beginning with you because sometimes with myself it's the hardest you know it's easy to talk about other people not about myself or about yourself what does this how is this relevant to life if when if I internalize this it becomes a game changer because this should be the parameter of how I define life which means if I'm experiencing let's say an emotion I'm very very angry or I'm very very anxious I'm very very nervous I'm very afraid frightened or I'm insecure or am jealous or I'm greedy or I'm full of animosity or my temper is taking me over or depression melancholy sadness these are all natural human emotions they're part of our human condition it's so easy to fall into that pit now I'm depressed now I'm anxious now I'm overwhelmed with fear and it takes me over and this is graph to be able to take my sister or some other can wash on the hunt look at the emotion and ask one question it's this emotion telling me that I am infinity if the emotion is telling me I'm infinity go with it if the emotion is telling me I'm small I'm insignificant I'm gonna lose I'm a failure I'm unsuccessful I'm guilty I'm evil and I'm destructive I was destructive I won't be destructive I am anxiousness my life is a mess these are thoughts and emotions that are very normal but they're not a manifestation of your ultimate truth because your ultimate truth is what I am one with infinity so any thought that comes into your head any sensation that comes into your body don't get upset don't get upset don't repress it you don't have to you're bigger than it just ask one question are you telling me my dear thought my dear emotion that I am a manifestation of our Shems infinity in this world if that's what you're telling me we're going with you if you have other messages fine you're part of the challenges you're part of the system you're part of the concealment you're part of the messages that come from trauma that are not based in the ultimate reality and I want to align myself with Ashima hood with the ultimate reality number three it's still hard you know it's nice to say it in a lecture and a shear it's nice but come on you know when that anger comes into my brain with that fear come you know but cold order of Adar number three and every generation a person is obligated to be able to know that I can re-experience you seeis miss Ryan it's yes Messiah means that I'm in exile I'm oppressed mitzrayim means mate sorem confinement straps my neural pathways are often trapped and confined by toxicity by trauma by skeletons demons ghosts or by all types of thoughts that enslave me they make me feel insignificant they fill my my heart with dread with fear with senses of guilt and failure I'm in mitzrayim and ash M says in every generation you are empowered to go out of Egypt if you weren't in Egypt you wouldn't have to go out of Egypt this is something we do mention twice a day there's a mitzvah twice a day to mention you TSM it's Iranian by day and by night why how often do we have to remember the Exodus we have a whole Pesach Seder that's not enough twice a day because we're not remembering only an old story I have to remind myself constantly much more than twice a day that I have the to be able to live an emancipated life not because Egypt doesn't exist because I could make choices if I'm going to live in the space of Egypt where I'm going to live in a space of emancipation step number four call us toll kala kalah member shanem of ami Coulomb tsadikim LMU schwartz nate cemetery master daily spine every jew has a portion in alum haba and here i share with you one of my dear favorite stories it's a very very deep story about the bow Hetalia the alter rebbe story goes like this there was a Jew his name was Shimon from a place called Azam boot either Ukraine or Belarus you know that area that zip code as they say and that area he wasn't from Brooklyn or from Canada he wasn't from from the United States of America he came yes the Hasidim came to call Amanda - she's been the denier Suzanne this is an interesting fellow brilliant guy very enlightened who was from the group of mass Killam who really wanted to uproot the traditional he knows of the Jewish people and he was in Vilna and he was very good with big talk with linguistics Hebrew grammar and he infiltrated into those who were responsible for the curriculum and he was so skilled and professional and sly and shrewd and a real con artist they did not know the real ill good Jews real religious Jews in Vilna did not recognize who he really was and he managed to wreak havoc and influence quite many Jewishness in a negative way he decided he has to infiltrate into this Hasidic world and he knew about the influence of the outer ever the ballot Anya who lived in Leo Gina Leo Gina is a little town a little city in in Belarus close to Russia but Belarus that's where the altar ever was born that's where he grew up that's where he lived he married a girl from victims but he came back to Leo's and then he moved to Lee Adi not so far from there and then he escaped during 1812 Napoleonic Wars Ukraine and he passed away there in 1812 the end of 1812 Shimon a kafir came into the altar of his room it's a long story I'm telling you one point the rabbit says where you from I'm from remote I'm a Malamud advocate I teach children and I'm very very meticulous about dick book and I want to help people help children no real the real pure Hebrew language they should really master the language and communicate and write in the most impeccable and flawless way dr. Deborah says you teach children he said yeah I said so let me ask you a question listen to this says in Paris told us that Asaph came in with the food after Jakov took the blessings and they see it success who are you and he says I'm ace of a knife a superior but yet read its hook I rode the gorilla admire its hook began trembling he was overwhelmed with dread and fear and Rud how do you explain that posit so he says I say the literal interpretation you know Rashi brings he was overtaken with with terrible fear and anxiety so dr. rabbit says what about the other commentary in Russian he said that I don't say rap she says lover actor it's hook saw that the Jahannam walked in with a silky hand and walked in purgatory walked him with Asaph so he became overwhelmed with fright with with anxiety with with this negative energy from Gehenna that's what the Raschi says the second interpretation so Shimon tells my Italian I don't say this so the ball times is why not so he says first of all why should I scare children but this is Gehenna I'm walking in it's number one number two it's a supernatural thing Ganim walks in with somebody doesn't really make sense rationally so why confuse them and besides between you and me what the enemy walks in with him says rug you haven't tsukamaete asked of Jahannam is open under a soft what is that supposed to mean how does it get him walking with you so therefore why should I just teach them these types of teachings I try to teach them in a way that's that simple that straightforward that's rational that's normal the altered ever picked up a candle he had a candle on his desk on his table even during the daytime when the Sun was shining he picked up the candle and he looked into Simmonds eyes and he said this I forgot he mentioned one more thing how does Rashi know that they get him and walked in with Asaph he got it from the medic how does the medicine all get who told him with how big a happy no so why should I say it doesn't say in homage how do they know get in the book that made me didn't walk in with gay so melted embers answer - Shimon it's not just profound but it's a my eyes it's a life changer if you understand it then you internalize it after Deborah said as follows ace of sold his birthright to Yaakov this was a real thing when he said I am ace of your pie he lied and when somebody lies the Ganim is opened right below them because they are in Gehenna that's how it look that's how we know that it's all sorted and he said when somebody says he's coming from some wood is coming from Vilna when somebody says that he's a teacher of children and his whole agenda in life is to uproot children from my Jewish education and from a real toy education when such a person walks into the room the Ganim walks and together with them shinmin stood up he ran out Kassadin didn't know what's happening they didn't know what happened inside when somebody would come out of there but they would go I hit this Thompson so they danced with that you know they were celebrating with it the moment he can get away he ran as fast as possible he didn't want you know they should pursue him and and penalize him but a short time later his true colors emerged and even though he is weak quite a lot of havoc but a whole new generation was saved I wanted to think about these words when we say Cody you still get some helicoidal muhabba doesn't only mean in the next world it means in this world the gain Henan and Canadian of the next world there's only a mirror of what happens in this world every moment I can choose to either live in paradise or live in purgatory now saaremaa Morris writes that the average the atmosphere of Canadian organum pervades where a person sits and stands and all over the territory around you in other words I live in the halo in the light of GaN Eden or I live in another light what happens in the next world is just the curtains open up and it's just revealed where I live it's just a reflection of the reality right here when I lie I'm living in a reality of purgatory I'm living in a reality of falsehood I'm living in a reality of shame of guilt of dishonesty I'm living an impoverished life I'm living in hell it's a word in the dictionary when I'm a truthful person and I'm aligned with I'm living in a place of Allah Mohammed God continues Nate's at my toy you're the branch you're my plant sometimes in life we feel like we're being buried we're not being buried we're being planted Hashem says my say your daily expire this is the work of my hand I'm proud of it God loves you the way you are but he's proud in what you can be Ricardo Villa had never made the physical of of colossi sir what does that mean what that means is it's accessible to you we often have this feeling of incompetence I'm too messed up I can't you know what type of childhood I had you know my family you know my marriage you know my issues you know I have personality disorder you know I suffered from depression you know I may have mental issues you know the issues that I'm dealing with I'm not part of this key Carter they left over my official all of colossi sir don't say that it's closer to you than you imagined but you have to be able to profess the belief that your nature my toy my co daily aspire you're a divine branch even if you were buried you were really planted to bring out something that I shed is so proud of he is proud of you now and he wants to be even more proud of you tomorrow so with close to you love colossi sir but still so much easier said than done vahini effeminate civil of a molecular it's quite the mobile version joyfully tomorrow you have the creator of the world standing right near you 24 hours a day and just cheering for you it's like yeah go go go go you can do it you can do it you can do it what are they saying whether you believe you can or you believe you can't you're probably right vini are sensible of my scholars quiet in our purposes don't think he has nothing to do the whole earth is filled with his glory and yet reminder sunlight of them stands near you he gazes at you he gazes at me who I should call he knows everything that's happening inside he knows my struggles and my anxiety and my passion and my moods and my ups and my downs and the vicissitudes and fluctuations of my life and - Jay and his kid who the other it's really new we say in that he knows my XR he knows every single struggle and he sees it and he appreciates struggle any understand what I'm doing but if employers related maybe to karate but he stands there with attentiveness waiting to see if I make it to the end of the marathon empowering me cheering for me clapping his hands and celebrating my efforts and my success my triumph so don't think you're ever ever alone it's not just God commanded you to do things no he's Mama's standing there and at every turn every fork in the road every struggle every serious decision I have to make maybe not to look at something maybe not to look at a website maybe I see something in the street and I want to pursue it with my eyes and I turn away from it we call it Ramirez day night maybe to put a zipper on my mouth when I want to explode and scream and insult somebody maybe before I denigrated a child or a spouse or someone else I was simmering bursting with ire and anger and I tell myself that emotion is not part of God's unity so it's not committing me it's not my essence it's not my core there's something deeper Shem is there and he gives me a standing ovation meets eval of a boyfriend Claudius we live an every person's challenges are different just know that your biggest fan in the world is God he wants you to be successful he wants you to be happy he wants you to triumph he wants you to live an extraordinary life an amazing life he wants to see your awesome self emerged not just to be happy spiritually but also physically just in the next world but also in this world cuz he wants to take pride like a father and a mother who love their child and their greatest not as their greatest joy in life is to see that little sapling emerge and grow into a beautiful tree and they look at you and they don't be the selfish pride you know I was a success story just the pride of seeing somebody they cherished so much be so successful that's what he's looking at vini a sham it's of a love so you might say okay maybe it's true inside of me but a big world out there filled with obstacles voracious barter looking for such mindless auras this world has one creator he created the whole world he sustains it he animates that he creates it's on your side the world is not your enemy you know sometimes we feel we often retreat and we have to become cloistered and hide in a cocoon I'm afraid of people I'm afraid of reality I'm afraid of people the world is smiling at you variations brother myself if God is right now smiling at you cheering through then the whole world is smiling at you because God created it they tell a story that there was this little child who was lived two blocks away from this school so he would walk home every day was two blocks so one day when the school was over there he was dismissed it's a terrible downer rain pour and a storm a thunderstorm so mommy thought I don't want him to walk two blocks thunder lightning it looked at soaked wet it might be scary friend let me drive down and I'll give him a lift home even though it's two blocks so she goes to the school with her car goes to the parking lot goes out the teacher said oh I didn't know you're coming I sent him home already he walks home every day insisted to what countries like I give out so she starts driving back on the rally on the road on the on the route back from school to have the house slowly to see if she could find her little Matala and sure enough he's walking slowly pouring everybody's getting soaked people are running everywhere thundering lightning he is calm and she notices that every time there's our lightning he looks up and he smiles she catches up to him she rolls down her window Mottola coming to the car he says no I'm enjoying myself I want to walk home I'll see you soon and again there's a lightning and he smiles she's like why is smiling he says I'm walking home and God keeps on taking pictures of me so every picture he takes I look up and I smile for the picture the world is smiling at you so you'll say nobody why why which world you're living in no world is smiling at me the world is obnoxious to me the world is rude the world is a tough place the only place I can trust is the privacy of my room I cannot deal with people on this we saber Asia's Barra look at mr. Sherman bazaar it's the core of the world is smiling at you because it's God's world and God is your biggest fan he loves you the most the best so all the circumstances that are there in the world are ultimately here to challenge you and bring out your best flexing your muscles which is why we go to the next one machine on table when asked of Adebayor to Bamba shift over a set about whatever trouble number 8 teach it to your children speak about this wherever you are when you cultivate these seven levels of awareness this is something you want to teach to your children rashly says LaVon Nazca means your students teach it to anybody you can and these are things you should speak about when you sit down and when you get up when you're on the road and when you're home at night and in the morning when you lay down these are not meditations you know once in 10 years or once a week or even once a day these you say does these fundamentals Shania saw Shambhala cane or sham I thought that's trade in general or something machine on to move enough I want to share this with my children I want to share this with my friends with my students and I want to live with it constantly and it's interesting famous line of the Rebbe Rahab he said just like a person is obligated them every man is obligated to put on tefillin every day we're equally obligated to spend a half an hour to focus on how we can effectively teach and inspire and educate and discipline and communicate to our children a half an hour a day somebody once asked me what am I supposed to do a half an hour a day I said either you don't know your children or you don't know yourself because I say you need more than a half an hour a day because each child is a universe and fathers and mothers need to spend time sometimes time they unfortunately don't have but to really tune in and plan a game plan for each and every child only discipline this child how we communicate this child what we do for this child how we help this child blossom machine anthem live on echo the debarred to bomb but in order to influence my children I have to be saturated with it I can't tell my child do as I say and not as I do the greatest way we impact children and others is by being a living example there's nothing that you learn from your father and mother as much as the way they live remember children know you're self conscious not you're conscious they know who you are not who you say you are they know who you really are not who you think you are you want to know yourself hang out around your children listen to their comments about you you'll find that a lot of good things about you that even the therapist doesn't know so for me to really be able to impact my chart I have to change myself I can't change my child I can't change anybody there's only one person I can influence and that is me pave set over that no matter when I'm really alive when I'm living with one God when I'm living with Ashima sod when I'm living with my infinity I change when I change my environment automatically changes when I bring my full light into the world that light affects anyone that comes in contact with it number nine all sounds great but it requires effort and don't be afraid of it because effort doesn't mean not doing well effort means you're living up to the divine plan God made it a rule in life if I say I was successful without effort it was not real success if I say I put an effort in there was no success it was not the right effort now sometimes people put an effort without success but maybe it was the wrong effort maybe there was the wrong guidance there maybe the effort was expressing itself in ways that could have been and maybe the effort was misguided or more importantly maybe the effort is step one it's the preliminary and then there's step two and step three but don't be discouraged by the fact that living a liberated happy emancipated life it's not just easy it's not a free lunch and that should not make you miserable it's part of the fabric of creation God wants us to be partners he wants us to write our own biographies and that means I have to put an effort it's not going to be a gift from above your guide Taiyo my saucy common I have to put in the idea this is essential to the story of life never feel like I'm a failure why doesn't it come easy to me this is a wash time created in the world he could have given everything as a gift but he did not why not so we'd say because he doesn't want it to be bread of shame he wants we should appreciate what we get through our own efforts but he could have created us with the nature that we should appreciate a free lunch we should love getting everything for free and not earning anything why did he give us this nature that is so enslaving it makes us it makes us have to work the answer is because of us giving us everything and with the happy disposition that we would enjoy it then we would forever remain mccollum we would forever remain recipients but the deepest joy and pleasure in life is when you become one with the Creator who is the source of all pleasure and that means you are a creating yourself you're not just a victim he wants that you should create your life your destiny you should define the trajectory of your future you should be the author of your own biography and that means I need a work I need my resources my mind my courage my resilience my my fortitude my passion life is a powerful play but I have to contribute my verse and to contribute my unique verse there is Iggy entitlement salsa you worked hard and it was successful coming believe it for half dollar erikak America number ten Rabbi Akiva says the great principle of Tyra how do I know I am embodying the great principles of Toyota when my heart swells with love drew who lives in the space of freedom and divinity is filled with love and not just love to the people who are of my immediate circle although sometimes it's harder but love to every single one of our brothers and sisters for half till there Erica Martha and I love you like I love me you know why because I love the real me you see when I love the external me then I'll never love you like I love me because you're not me but that means I don't love myself I like my nose I like my watch I like my suit I like my house I like my glory I like my my SATs cos that I buy my distractions when I love myself my real self what's my real self my divine infinity I'm a manifestation of God's light I see you were one you're also manifestation of God's infinity that's called living in a space of love living in a space of light when I'm living in that space of Olam haba where guy hmmm doesn't walk with me but GaN Eden walks with me I am there for people I could connect the people I love people and before I open my mouth to any person I ask myself well this bring them I told us bring them more darkness whether it's my child it's my spouse it's my sibling it's my parent it's a relative it's a friend it's a neighbor it's a stranger an employer and employee or somebody I'm just passing by in the street or in Soul I'm never stingy with love with warmth because I know I am an ambassador of love and the more love you give the more love you get number 11 after everything said and done it's August markets don't Abbott trots them as they saying either despite all of this I'm still feeling you know my brain is just swerving with with toxic thoughts with different emotions this person says I've been in therapy for years I don't feel I've gotten anywhere I'm struggling with this and with that it's just too much and we surrender number eleven says remember the hope of all the worlds was leaders leaders to create a dwelling place for truth in the lowest reality we embody the factory and we live in a world where there's dysfunction there's pain there's anxiety there is excessive tea there was greedy there is selfishness there is divisive Nastase fragmentation and sometimes in my own psyche I have all this and a sham says I created everything all the worlds for you to be able to bring oneness and light in the darkness to create the welding place for the truth in the lowest place of reality so when you encounter within yourself or within your environment a struggling situation don't run don't be scared don't be afraid of any emotion that comes up in your brain we are so afraid of certain emotions of students and sages are like I can't deal with this either I run away or I surrender I become depressed or I get angry or I repress it I bury it I put it under the carpet wall-to-wall carpets of people to put everything under the carpet under the rug I would oppress it why do I have to press it because I can't deal with it I can't deal with the pain or I have to ask then numb it out to distract myself this is where people get into addictions this one is binging this one is drinking this one is that a kid is closed this one is gambling this one is busy with gaming addiction screen an addiction specialist aronia days all these what are they I'm running away from myself and running away from my core because there's too much pain if you know when you're experiencing any pain Urich's any anxiety this is the tax per annum this is called the lowest element of reality you know what you are the perfect candidate to fulfill the purpose of creation Hashem wanted a home better cleaner if I can introduce truth into that struggle if I could look at that anxiety and say this is the moment to make a derivative diner this is the moment to bring God's light and truth and love and compassion into this place into addiction into difficult challenges into anxiety interfere into any difficult situation I'm dealing with maybe with myself with my spouse with my children existential II physically financially emotionally spiritually psychologically it's this reality right here where I have the opportunity to serve Hashem and to make for him a place in number 12 here comes the great joy in life Tom nice no misery story Ashley listen Maya the simcha Sasha and Masha starts with cement with the recipes of Dana viewer Jew you should celebrate joy every single moment invite Hashem into your life and into your space hashem celebrates sophism a he's over mr. vole create this created the world is his deepest most intimate essential craving and yearning to have a relationship with you and to become a to fill and saturate our world beginning with your world with his oneness with his infinity with his love and with his life so the celebration of hashem every single moment that you bring him into a reality is incredible feel it and celebrate with him what does this mean practically it means every moment I have a choice can I bring infinite the into this place as it began I'm having fear and anxiety and dreading I'm overwhelmed and this child said this and this child said that and I'm worried about this and I'm worried about okay got it can you now bring infinity into this can you bring to God's love and light into this place God's compassion into this place this is called making the diría Batak diner and every situation in life before I do a mitzvah before I go to work before I cook before I clean the house it's a moment to bring her Shems light into this place to operate from that place of course it doesn't get better you're out of harmony a life of alignment in which you become a full conduit for the vine infinity and for divine joy this concludes a very brief presentation one small of an important insight on this 12-step program for every Jewish soul to be able to live life to the fullest to be able to achieve our purpose to be able to be emancipated to be free to be able to heal from all the forces that keep us confined and down and to be able to really maximize our potential in this world each one of us to appreciate the truth of who we are ambassadors of our Shem to change the world together ambassadors of love light hope healing wisdom truth authenticity integrity and redemption we can do it we have to change the vocabulary of our mouth we have to change the vocabulary of our mind Caravelle Akkad over might be fika oval oval car last ice change the vocabulary in your mind let your mind not say I can there's some miss it's a failure but your mind say no I am somebody who God is bragging about my CEO daily his spoiler he's bragging about me now already because he takes pride and what I could be to brag even more to boast even more vocabulary you have to have about yourself so the cattle they have to have about your children that's the vocabulary have to have about your grand source as the vocabulary you want about every person you come into contact with my job machine anthem with a mask over after lyrical Maya is to show every person I come in contact with who they really are how empowered they are to be able to suck the marrow out of life to be able to transform our world an apple into the place it was always that into the place of redemption I mean thank you very very much Mei wanted we should take some questions let's go to the questions and let's start with the chats right if anybody wants to ask anything okay I don't see any questions on chat but let me go to the yeshiva dotnet if anybody asked questions you know yeah yeah okay I guess everybody agrees and everybody is in so that's news so I wish everybody tremendous allaha a lot of success and made each of us be able program me included you included and to be able to become sources of inspiration and I should just conclude that I think Ray's 'el the final of Rafah was a true embodiment of somebody who lived in this state of consciousness lived in Omaha but even in this world when you thought you spoke on earth you felt atmosphere she was living in very no and zillions and she suited that continuously even during her last month months she was living here not far from me and it's something that is really incredible it's incredible to think about and an incredible source of inspiration and we know that a neshama never ever dies a neshama continues to live and grow so I hope that her soul will draw down blessings for all of her children physically and materially and emotionally and psychologically spiritually and to all of our families and friends somebody who are gathered here this evening welcome to all of you thank you for joining us but I won't no while come Razzles parents her siblings her nephews or nieces I don't know if her husband is on I know he was supposed to come on but I don't know if he's here but if you're here you're so embarrassed student of mine welcome welcome gem should give you the kayak and the hyssop that you need during this difficult time and give everybody all the KF and physic we need to be able to be here one for another financially and emotionally and socially and spiritually and go from strength to strength and this rich tradition of should be the last Rasheeda shovin Kalos the yard site of Erina kyon the half dollar ethic America erin was the paradigm of love I have solemn Rite of Shalom are you mr. Brean my commentaries it says in pre-k harvest this represents Aaron's life and as you're outside Ezra sky - of I once heard from the Reba the only yard site in the whole Tanakh that's mentioned is Aaron's the earth site you know that not Adam not my ass man of ROM not itself Jakob not sorry Rivka awful a and I even moisture a bein doesn't say in Flemish when he passed away Gomorrah says and McGill enough you'd gimble I think doesn't say accomplished anywhere not one yard site recorded in Tanaka you know that it says how old people were but not the yard site i've rome was 175 i don't know when the cars I'll give you art sized banana antenna only one exception Irina Cayenne purchased Marseille Erin passed away by Commission she better the credit restrain yourself and it doesn't even say in the parsha when he passed away in the story of his passing it doesn't say as the arts it doesn't say an impartial school cuz it says it umpires as master when it really doesn't belong because it's talking about the journeys of the Jewish people from its Ryan they passed her already died there it's not even relevant to discuss it there nevermind discusses yard site so they're ever answered and actually years later I saw that thus far sadness rights this but it's a beautiful beautiful answer the dear boy - a Loyola man he dictated Toyota - motion I bain't know he knew that Rasheeda shove is gonna be the beginning of the nine days and the destruction of the Mason matrix came because of divisive nests and animosity and parshas mercy is always read right during the nine days which clay dish of a right before which try - of like we read this passage Ava's so in parishes must say Hashem put in that she know the yard set of irons right there show because on the day of a yard site the energy of that soul is present in the world and it gives empowerment every person to glean inspiration from that soul to continue its legacy and continued its influence and life's on rich tradition of we have this special blessing and the special empowerment of Aaron according to Phil Klaus role with alva sister all an activity strong and I think this is very apropos and it was really the soul of raisin who followed in the steps of our inner cone in many ways even the name represents that Shoshanna that rose and the roses that give that beautiful fragrance that invites people and makes people feel comfortable and close to each other and I think in a very practical level it means that every moment of the day and the night every one of us you and I and all of us have a choice either I'm gonna be part of the problem I'm gonna be part of the solution I either either I'm gonna say things texting's whatsapp things call or do something that will promote more love and unity or god forbid the other way around or just sit on the fence so it's really a unique moment in our history when the world wants to become united the Jewish people are craving to become United and every one of us is literally an ambassador to bring about that unity before I open my mouth before I do something even before I allow certain thoughts I have to ask myself if I would present this plan to Aaron Hokkien would he say go rabbi go or he would say let's think about this let's go to therapy about this that's the choice you have to make before you talk about something or about somebody before you do something even before you engage certain thoughts is this something that Aaron would be proud of or it's something that you know we could delay it or we can put it in the dustbin and it does Ben for now so this is a special day for this type of obvious role and after's is strong and we know when the cause is gone on that effect is gone the cause of golus is gone so the effect is gone when we are really united filled with love and camaraderie it brings down the most powerful blessings the greatest energy and most importantly it brings down the ghoulish leymah maybe Ben harami I may know a man take her for me out mom thank you good night good night and good hi - yeah half who yamame Lu was soft sign or a student