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so I I have a have a friend who's um
he's long through a very hard time right
now and I don't know if I'm the only one
who feels this but during the day I
packed this accounting tax and forensic
accountant at night I deal with some
other things and I just I noticed that
it just seems like now I don't know
maybe it's like the winter it's
something like over the last few weeks
the amount of like heartbreaking things
that I've been hearing personally people
who I know is is it it's it's
heartbreaking really like it's
heartbreaking I had somebody in my
office yesterday was it was crying at
how much money he owes people I get was
like falling like he was falling apart
he's like I can't sleep I can't eat I
can't I can't even breathe they have
another friend who has a daughter who's
very very ill and they thought that she
was gonna get better and unfortunately
now she's not really doing so great it's
on the way here before I left I sent
them a text you know just thinking about
you hope you're doing well and then I
realized that all too often people find
it easy to just send the text because
it's easy to just be like yeah you know
okay what's up but to actually pick up
the phone and call and whatever is like
a little bit harder so you know him call
him and see how he's doing so I gave him
a call
and that's how you're doing so he says I
don't have you heard but I moved from
Brooklyn to the city I said really moved
to Manhattan like crazy like what's
going on you know I have a family like
10 kids he says yeah we moved right into
sloan-kettering I was like are you
killing me right now
what do you say she says yeah we're you
back and we're going through some stuff
and it's it's very hard it's not easy so
I want to share with you what he told me
on the drive here I'll never be able to
articulate it the way he did but it is
such a powerful idea that I think I
can relate to and the way he put it down
was so clear and amazing there is an
idea brought from the ROM bond that
Durham bond says that every difficulty
in your life it helps bring you min have
kayaks L hop I'll which means from your
potential to your actualization if
anybody here smokes are small you know
what I'm talking about like you you
convince yourself and your family right
all the time that you can stop yeah I
could actually shorten apart this in a
minute so I could stop anytime sure I
could do this any time so why don't you
not get that I'm just don't think I
could do it any time I quit fifty times
ready I'm really good at this you know
somebody told me job that joke he's like
the guy I'm good at quitting I'm good at
quitting right the guy who's you know
not good at marriage like he does it the
most you know it doesn't more than
anybody it's like yeah it's like I'm
really good if I could always do this um
my likes to some of my jokes go over
people's heads which is fine those
you've got it great all right those you
who didn't you'll find out soon with the
jobless um so there is this idea that
when you're when you're in a pressurized
situation it gets you to stop thinking
about what you could what you could what
you could and it sort of makes your like
really real like no you're not gonna
like think twice about this so this
friend said to me on a personal level
just between him and me he's like I just
have to tell you something he's like
I've never felt Hashem more than sitting
in sloan-kettering Cancer Center never
we all he's like why was I put here this
guy's like at Sonic I mean he's atomic
he says I'm just as she McGee from
Brooklyn like you know - Maggie from
Brooklyn New York a goggle from Brooklyn
it's amazing he's like how many times
did I say to myself over the course of
my life I wish I could dive in harder I
wish I could dive in stronger I could
what do you have come on oh yeah sure I
had come on ik I tuned in for 9 seconds
during the 45 minutes office I had a lot
of time on it today he's like you know
how many times I told that to myself
a thousand times a million times every
day I say that to myself three times a
day yeah I had tons of come under the
Millhouse great ID so much carvanha he's
like what I was sitting he
in sloan-kettering Cancer Center do you
understand this minute esterday I'm
vomiting he's like there's nothing in
life that can make a Sherman s ray like
that
nothing he's like and to say that I'm
grateful for cancer would sound like I'm
a sadistic person to my own daughter
he's like but I am grateful that Hashem
has brought out from me something that
is so deep inside of me that I would
never be able to access ever in normal
circumstances I don't think you can
understand how much glue or how much
strength it takes to say those words
well I'm saying I am now currently
living in sloan-kettering Cancer Center
her meant to say that I feel closer
touch them than I ever felt in my entire
life and I therefore am grateful for
that opportunity
is it's unbelievable you men have chaos
l ha pile I think I could I think I
could he said to me you understand that
my relationship with money completely
changed before this I want to make my
money or money or the monument karma
this oh I got a dad's got a scratch
son are you kidding me are you kidding
me right now that's your complaint
he's like my whole perspective on life
changed if I would work for 100 years I
would never get that outlook on life
that I'm getting here in a matter of
weeks and months never
he's like isn't that the greatest gift
that God could give me clarity
understanding my purpose in life
why am I put into this world what am I
here for he said he went to visit
reviews of Berkowitz who's my revenues
now the Russian Shiva of Asia Torah the
Jerusalem call and our burglar told him
he said when you are sitting in the
hospital he says you don't realize it
but your body is changing without doing
anything you're looking at the IV
dripping you're just sitting there
looking at your daughter he says you
don't realize that you're undergoing a
metamorphosis
offices your whole body is changing your
emotions are changing your brain is
changing your stuff up in the world is
changing your outlook everything is
changing you don't even realize it
happening he says you are becoming from
good to great during these moments see
you've just experienced another Torah
class brought to you like Torah anytime
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