Thank You Hashem (Ep. 223)

hi this is D lowski and welcome to the rowski show whether you watching with our friends over rning time or whever you watch or listen to your podcast as always excited to have you along for the experience and we have a sponsor for this episode hi Reby miss you and your family I look forward to every episode and share you give Hashem should give you strength and Financial assistance Amen to continue your great work thank you for encouraging us to be a part of it your friend and talent forever mosha Grossman mosha we love you and my whole family loves you he was a Tet of ours and uh you know you you often graduate from being a t to being a friend and uh he's a dear friend and my kids love him and he used to come by and drive them crazy anyway but uh it's great to hear from you and you should just to all kinds of wonderful and good things thank you for this okay um I Heard a story many years ago and I don't know if it's true but as we've established many times in this podcast I'm not pesak grown I don't check out my stories I just talk and uh you know no new but I heard a story that when Ritz was giving uh musm in in the Mir Yeshiva now I I realize that every now and then I get an email for someone who says you know there are people who are listening to this show with either very little background or who might not be Jewish don't always get all of your references so um there was a Muslim movement that was started by R salanta uh and uh in the 1800s and part of it was that there would be uh part of the Yeshiva program there would be talks given on ethical behavior and development so muser which is this area of study of ethical and personal development um AO is yish for for talk in Hebrew they call it a the conversation so uh he give muss uh they were gathered together into a safer calledit and um their their gems every one of them is a gem but uh I heard this story and like I said I don't know if it's true but no reason I shouldn't say it over so apparently he gave a Sho and the next week he gave the same Schmo and the next week he gave the same Schmo so by that point even the slowest began to figure out that hey he's repeating himself so um uh so one of the boys said you know Reby you said this already he said in mus they have a concept called here means to hear it again hear it again uh a lot of muser is based on the fact not merely of saying over something that is novel Kish but of repeating the same thing I've told the story in the past somebody once says R Shapiro how did you become R Shapiro and he said I was in ponich and there was a blackout okay so we couldn't learn in the Bas magish we went outside I was with my friends and I heard somebody was still learning inside and I peeed through the window and it wasla and he's sitting there uh saying over a kazal quote from from the sages and he said it again and he said it again and he said it again after 20 times we started to wonder 30 times we started to giggle 40 times I started to get afraid and at 50 times I had tears coming down my face because in that moment I realized the power of a kazal if you take the time to look for it but it means you have to hear it you have to work on it the says I did not write this safer to teach rather that it's a tool to help you change your life and that's only going to come about through constant review interesting an interesting idea um the uh the the fact is that um there's an intellectual understanding but it takes a tremendous amount of work to make that an emotional reality that's what the PK means when it says know it today and place it on your heart cuz everybody knows things intellectually but to be able to make it an emotional reality takes a tremendous amount of effort to make it real I'll give you an example um my father smoked for maybe 50 years then he had a massive heart attack he stopped smoking two of my brothers smoked and after their heart attacks they stopped smoking so what happened they were stuck in the hospital with nothing to do so they decided to read the surgeons General's report and they were like oh my gosh you know turns out smoking is bad for you no they knew it they just didn't believe it it wasn't an emotional reality more than once I've heard from from people who say I I know there's a God I just don't believe it it happens to be a very profound statement intellectually I can show you that there's a God that there has to be a God but it's not a part of my life the way somebody said to me once goes I know there's a God Like I know there's a planet Pluto turns out to be ironic in retrospect because Pluto is no longer a planet it's been deplanetizer belt at the edge of the uh solar system more is the pity for you Pluto fans uh goofy still there but Pluto has been removed anyway so uh so people know something but to be able to make it a reality yeah and that's why people are inconsistent it's very easy for us to lose perspective let me tell you um 1986 I uh went to Los Angeles one of my I I had a ncsy chapter in LA and uh one of my uh my kids was getting married I decided to go out for the shabas sh bras it's it's an interesting experience because at the end you know Friday night and we were all hanging out we were talking so I said everyone has a way to get home they looked at me and they said Oro that's what they used to call me back then Oro I'm the youngest one here and I'm 23 we can get home by ourselves oh you never grow up you never grow up I was a somewhat successful speaker in uh in my 50s and uh I saw my mother went to visit her and she's like that's a nice outfit don't get it dirty you know I was I already had something of a career you know I was children you know what I saying you know I should be able to keep myself clean at that point without my mom tucking in a napkin you know but okay anyway um so uh while I was there for research purposes um I decided to go to um to uh Disneyland this was 1986 just to see what the experience was so I could use it for educational material now you might think that that's not true but you know that I I took a a few of my kids when I went in LA to water brother Studios and I actually filmed myself on the uh on the um bat cycle you know saving Gotham City and I used that on the podcast so that it was tax deductive [Laughter] this is all research yeah anyway so um uh so I was uh I I I went and they had just opened this attraction called The Haunted Mansion okay um it was okay it's sort of it's sort of like the Pirates of the Caribbean kind of a thing where you take a little ride through this building and you see different things and every now and then they have a they have a little drop in your little boat there or cars just a you know anyway at the end as you're leaving there are signs up that says don't pick up any hitchhiking ghosts okay I think that's good advice under normal circumstances but as we're going and we're we're leaving so the little car passes by this mirror and there's me and there's my wife and sitting in between us is a ghost waving and I turned down to look of course there's no ghost [Laughter] there I look back in the mirror and he Winks at me and I look a second time and he's still not there but the the illusions of this world are such that that they suck Us in and you don't even realize it and that's why it's only constant review says the missil shash that allows us to move beyond the limitations of this world to be able to see reality and that's what I think was trying to say in mus it's not just I gave you another clever idea and another clever idea it's a you have to hear it again until it becomes reality and even after it becomes reality you can forget and get sucked back into the illusion and people do all the time I'm sure I told this story at some point but uh every now and then I meet somebody who has listened to all of my podcasts and all of my Shi and they know I'm all B and they quote me backlines and things that I've said or sometimes sh they said yeah you said that already you said this already I heard this okay okay you know but most people I don't think are are you know so uh you know I can I can repeat a story here or there I know certain famous speakers who only have six stories and they say them over and over again so uh in any event this woman who was in N I don't know if I don't know if I want to say girl but woman who was in um uh writes me and says listen I was in N rine with a good friend of mine and we both became shabas and uh you know we decided this was true Etc and we decided to do it and then we come back to America and it's hard to keep going unless you've put yourself into a a different situation anyway she slipped back into her old lifestyle and she was clubbing and partying and uh doing all kinds of activities I'm sure you can use your imagination um actually I'm not sure because I have a lot of uh real yish Shay who listen to this podcast and probably have no idea what I'm talking about but um M she was probably missing anyway but whatever it is yeah and it's a it's a it's a challenge newless to say so her friend was trying to be M was trying to tell her listen you know you know what the truth is and listen what her friend says she says you're right I know what I'm doing is wrong but I'll give you I'll give you an example I'll explain it to you with a example as a guy who stays in prison so long until he loses his mind he doesn't know what real is anymore and he thinks that the rats that are running around in his cage are his friends and he has fun playing with the rats he's having a good time because he's lost his mind so the Jailer feels bad for him at this point it doesn't even pay to keep this guy in prison it's just a waste of time he says look clean out the latrines for a week and I'll let you go free and he says why latrines are dirty and they're smelly I like it here I like the rats the rats are my friends she saysi know what I'm doing is wrong and I know that it doesn't make any sense but I'm happy I'm happy the friend says what do I say to her I said the only thing you can say is that at some point the lights come back on and I only know one story like the story that she's describing and that was A Tale of Two Cities by Charles Dickens and in A Tale of Two cities uh Dr manette Who's in the bastile we don't know why until the end of the book but he's in the bastile and he stays here so long he loses his mind and he thinks he's a Shoemaker and he just sits there all day working at a make believe bench make believe shoes making shoes all day that's what he does eventually his daughter Lucy manages to rescue him and bring him across to England and he gets his mind back how do you think he feels about all the time that he spent um living this makeb believe life I mean he's got to look back at it say he's crazy at some point the light's going to come back on because you just can't party forever and you reach a certain point when you're in your 50s and your 60s and these exciting years as a teenager in your 20s they're way behind you and no one's interested in you anymore and while your friends might be enjoying their children and grandchildren you have nothing what happens when I'm 70 must come a time 70 when you're old and it's cold and who cares you live or you die that was Fagan from Oliver that was one of my best roles thank you very much in Camp I played [Laughter] Fagan ah classic but anyway but um uh you turn around and suddenly there's nothing there but you've lived this illusion and you think that it's real you've dedicated your whole life to this and you suddenly find out that you're wrong and you just Bor into the illusion and I'm sitting here looking at this ghost which I see in the mirror but I I know intellectually isn't there and that's what happens people allow themselves to be get sucked into Illusions and they live a life of demion of imagination of Make Believe come with me to a world of total imagination yeah everything's make believe and uh so therefore we have to work very hard to keep our focus on what is real so all of this is by way of introduction because I've said something must be 30 years now maybe maybe close to 30 years probably I said it many years ago and I have gotten such tremendous feedback over the years somebody when I used to write columns for the hamoda uh so I wrote this up once in a column and someone said it changed my life there was so many different people who said this so although I'm sure a lot of people have heard this from me um I think it Bears some repetition and that's the following in our series we talked about the fact that there's three different types of things you can do with a bakha and praising Hashem asking for things and thanking Hashem and I said you know a person who never thanks for anything never really enjoys anything cuz you never appreciated the fact that you had them you need the thank yous in order to realize that wow I got something and some of can't say thank you and just when I used to the children were little I used to travel a lot to America come back with suitcases filled with stuff and kids would get whatever it was clothes and gifts and you and the the pile was bigger than they were and the answer was uh anything else P cron tells the story about this woman goes to a fruit store and the man gives the little boy a banana the mother says what do you say and he says peel [Laughter] it you don't have any appreciation want to hear a terrible story sure you do I may have told this I don't know but it was uh it made a deep impression on me at the time and and every time I think about it I get annoyed all over again um this father had a daughter who married a boy who wanted to learn and he supported them in a TR yeah and uh paid their rent and gave them money for food and for expenses and and to go out and they fine and for years they were learning and at some point the boy decided he wanted to come back to America and he wanted to go to college he decided he wanted to go to law school and he said to his wife tell your father that he should pay for my for my college and for the law school now he didn't say it's one thing I was supporting you sitting and learning Torah but uh I should pay for your college education he said okay okay he says who want to go to NYU he says look I'm not going to pay for private university univers go to a state school you know and I and I'll pay for that and the son of Lord became so incensed that he broke off relations and they never talked to her parents again K to that's the level of appreciation yeah nothing I I I didn't get what I wanted so therefore I'm not talking to you yikes I'm sure they told everybody that he's abusive or whatever else they told him because that's what we say today you know when we when we have the M of C to as Rashi says that the first K other mishan says it's the woman the wife that you gave me he says a cuffy to yeah denying good to to have a sense of appreciation it's uh it just it just makes you it makes you less of a person makes you less of a human being if you can appreciate and a person who does appreciate they live in a different world they live in a world where their life is filled with good things so I started this maybe 30 years ago that three times a day when I Davin I do it right at the beginning because as we've established many times I have ADD and I wander my mind wanders from thing to thing and I forget what I'm saying and so to be able to maintain kavana for all of daving this is people pointed out this is probably more appropriate in modim and I don't disagree but I do it right at the beginning when I come to the words and he stest loving kindness I stop and I think like what I think of something good but K I call and it all comes from you three times a day um 21 times a week 365 time 3 a year for 30 years I sit down and I I try not to repeat now that doesn't mean that I won't repeat the same thing in a different context so if uh um I almost got into an accident and I thank k for that the next time I almost get into an accient I can't say well I've already done that one now I mention that one again you know I was on the express aisle it's only 10 items and somebody had a whole cartload of things and I said it's only 10 items it goes it is um I've got fruits and vegetables I've got canned goods I've got dried it doesn't work that way each thing is a separate item you can't just count categories you know so I'll repeat it again if I get on a plane and I have an empty seat next to me I'll thank a each time for that separately yeah even though it's happened more than once it has changed my entire approach to life because I live a truly blessed life most people don't realize it someone said to me why is a k do so many bad things to me I said he doesn't he does so many good things for you but you take credit for that when something good happens you figure it's because I'm so smart or I was this or I was that you know when something bad happens depend it on God and it doesn't work that way you're going to blame when things go wrong then you got to give him credit when things go right and that's what I do I really try to focus on the good in my life three times a day and I've given this exercise to people and like I say over the years I've gotten many people I mention this because I only recently got an email that I really wanted to share with everybody I asked permission if I could share it so I read you the email years ago when you were in gateways Rabbi olowski discussed what to do now we we just discussed that I said it over I say it over more than once every year I challenge my students to make a list of things that they appreciate that they have in their lives I then print out the list and I have them choose one item to thank Hashem by each mon amazing please note although I'm an eighth grade Reby and a fourth grade English teacher I do this with both grades and this list is from my fourth graders and is unedited except for spelling this year I divided my 29 students into five groups and this is the list that they came up with without realizing it you continue to inspire thousands of students worldwide of course I always share with them that I got the idea from you called to YY Muller 8th grade Reby fourth grade English teacher Yeshiva Spring Valley I have the list here we're going to put them up group a has 204 things Group B has 306 things Group C has things and Group D has 82 things and group E has things that's is fourth graders nobody probably I I didn't read through the whole list but nobody probably wrote down my IRA nobody probably wrote the nakas I get for my children and my grandchild um I just I just thought but running through this I'm reading team a over here at random neck body drains zoos ice IES yeah milk clouds Thunder police linen oil for cooking and oil for fuel dessert [Music] diamonds wood amazing thing rybread that's one people forget rain gdolim books honey apples friends sedim Pizza paika I'm pulling things out here at at at random here pickles by the way I I just have to share this with you um I used to go to OSHA ad and they used to have this big vat of pickled vegetables that I used to bring home and I really enjoyed them and I it was mostly cabbage which is of course very low cal and the um pickled vegetables are also good for your digestion and I used to buy them all the time and they stopped carrying them so uh I my good friend yti Shapiro lent me a couple of pickling jars and uh I made my own pickled vegetables and they were great it's so easy I can't I couldn't believe how easy it is and they came out really really good so I decided here in there show we do not have half sour pickles now they import uh from uh America you can get um pickles sour pickles but not half sour which makes sense because half sour pickles if you leave them too long they become sour so it hard to do so I made my own half sour pickles and H wellow I have to I have to throw that into my I didn't think about it and they came out people were shocked how good they came tastes like American hair salour pickles uh they're they're small ones they're not like the real Kirby's that you need to to make the real pickles but but okay it's good enough trust me and uh and now I have those I mentioned pickles I didn't even think of that one I have to mention that yeah memory I would I forget that one um Duff yomi refrigerator sleep blood trees Falafel poison I wonder what kid wrote that and why a mother a father I just had yite for my mother and father you know comes Y and there's nobody to call yeah satellites what a what a a deep cut I never stopped to think to thank for the fact that there are satellites up there even though it makes obviously all communication possible and all those wonderful things uh Rashi what a what a great one snow garbage trucks that's a good one yeah peaches pears pineapples watermelon the it goes on I encourage everybody to try this make a list of all the things that you want to thank a for just sit down and think now I have to tell you there is a certain artificialness to it when I started yeah so you see like in this list you go through body parts you go through you know wood wood that's nice glass glass is a good thing you know stained glass very pretty you know and then something hits you and you look at your life and you suddenly see something not something esoteric but something that happened in your life that's like wow thank you Hashem when you live your life that way you see a lot more and I don't know if it's because of my own Consciousness or because I'm conscious of it that a who does it for me uh more than perhaps for the average person I don't know but people who are with me often say wow that was unbelievable and I was like nah Hashem does stuff like that for me all the time and he does and a lot of things he does for other people but because they don't notice them so let's face it a person who's appreciative you want to do more for them that's just the nature of things and so the more that we appreciate a the more that you know K wants to wants to give us thanks I spoke to a young woman once who had a few children and she was very upset because she wanted to have more children and she couldn't and she was becoming very bitter and I said here's the rule people will say thank you you're more likely to give them more so if you keep complaining to how you don't have more children that's not a good way to get more children when you thank a for the children that you have then you're more likely to have more children this is a apparently a story because it has an ending she had more children but um you know us my children my stories a lfish stories they have no ending but this one actually has an ending so uh so take time to appreciate what you have because then you live a different life you have a life that is filled with braa and good things and you just end up saying thank you over and over again and that brings us to the question and answer portion of our program we haven't been able to do this in a while the question and answers and uh somebody asked me how you choose and the answer is obviously we can only do a few questions each time and we don't always uh get to do the question and answer and we have a sponsor for this week's uh question and answer sponsored by Anonymous thank you for continuing to inspire Us by Anonymous first question when the cola life s was instituted did the rabam have in mind that it's better for a baby to be taken care of by a babysitter than its mother so she can work to support his learning how is that in line with the Torah sources that a mother should nurse a child till Age Two I'm struggling to understand this looking for clarity thanks for this platform I don't know I don't understand it I I don't I don't think it's good for uh a child to be separated from their mother I'll give you an example um when at the beginning of B midbar mosu was counting all the Jews so he did it face to face but when it came to shavit Ley he had to count them from a month onwards I count babies and Rashi says MOS said K how am I supposed to go into a tent uh with as a mother with a baby that's not sinua I can't do that so hasm says you do your part I'll do my part you go to the tent and the Bas will come out and say how many babies there are in this tent so you don't have to go in when I saw that Rashi I thought to myself why doesn't the father just take the baby and bring him out the answer is because the place for a baby is in his mother's arms and that's why in Bal when moso says that I give birth to these children am I their nursaid that I have to carry them around in my arms like a baby answer is yes uh so that's the place where a baby belongs um are there other considerations of course there are other considerations but to set up a system I mean uh a young mother it took her a long time to have a baby the husband was learning and she was supporting him and she called me up and she was in tears and she says you know I have my you know my maturity leave and now I'm supposed to go back to work and leave my baby and she was in tears she goes you can't tell me to leave my baby that's not right I've waited so long for this child how can you tell me to leave my baby I don't know what to tell her I don't know how you tell somewh leave their baby so there are some mothers and there are some babies that everybody's very happy to [Laughter] leave um do I think it is a flawed system that demands that mothers uh not raise their own children and not nurse their babies if they want to obviously I'm not I'm not advocating that everybody has to nurse their children but a mother who wants to nurse a child and we tell her no go out work do I think there's something flawed with that system yes um I don't know I don't know my wife nursed all of our children and uh um and I encouraged it I said I said I would love to get up in the middle of the night and give the baby a bottle but I don't want to come between that bond between you and the baby and so I really encourage you to to nurse the baby until they're old enough to go to school by themselves and I'm not involved selfless because I'm selfless that's how I am but we were we were in a position to be able to do that some people are not in a position to able to do that so do I think it's a casha on the system yes it is and it's not the only Kasha on the system there's an old expression you know sometimes you you buy something it says one size fits all and I remember saying it said one size fits all fits nobody and when you have a situation where every guy has to sit in yiva and learn and every girl has to support a boy who's sitting and learning and there's no room really for uh variation and uh differences I I think you're going to end up with a Floyd system so uh do I think it's Floyd it is do I have a solution I don't the only thing I can say is you can try to find something that allows you to work from home so that you can be there with your children and uh you know have the The Best of Both Worlds um so uh so what does that involve so my travel agent uh her husband was learning for many years she was a very good travel agent she worked from home she stayed home with whoever the baby was and she stopped working at one when the kids came home from gun the younger children that was cuz to be with her children she felt was more important but luckily she was very good at it there's certain people like this where they have something they can do at home uh some women become a for that reason so they can stay with the children you know at the same time you know uh take care of whatever needs to be taken care of um you know uh people who uh you know arrange uh uh drug smuggling operations a lot of that you could do from home people AR just kidding it's a joke okay next question by Anonymous did mosha have shom bias absolutely Tara knew what she was getting in to you don't marry a Mosher raenu who uh I think it was the SCH Kadesh who says it was an act of n to see mosenu he was not a regular person don't marry a GLE if you don't want to be a gle's wife and give that a lot of thought know um you uh you know the old story you know and and that is that um very often they feel it was the wife who made them into a GLE as opposed to them having to work around uh the woman you know and you have to you have to have somebody who's getting in and knows what I'm doing here so when your husband comes home from the sheep and says honey uh there was this Burning Bush and God spoke to me um and he wants me to go to Egypt and to save the Jews and she's like yeah okay I I hear that you know they on the way down to Egypt and a giant snake swallows up her husband you know it's like okay you're dealing with somebody else yeah t is a bird because a bird is closer to Shay and that's why it had to be a who married a mosenu so um uh you you don't have shom bayas when you have two people who are not dedicated to the same thing so if people have different Visions as to what uh their life should be and what their home should be and what their children should be that's when you don't have Shalom bias but in the ideal case of shom bias it's not about me and it's not about you it's about us there's a powerful kazal that says the following Nissan and it focuses on elisheva elisheva who is aon's wife and she says this is the happiest day of her life she's seeing her husband become the K God she's seeing her children become kohanim she sees her brother nakon bringing the first carbin in theuk it's like wow she sees her brother-in-law becoming the Mel and then another but it's like El has to be somebody who can appreciate my husband's a going GLE my children of kohanim we're living a life of kadha it's a different type of a lifestyle and if you want to have a more relaxed lifestyle mared doen you know obviously when you're going to marry someone like dozen a life's going to have its ups and downs sorry there little korak humor okay by Anonymous I have ADHD and I often forget what I hear and Sh I love listen to sh and I feel very discouraged when I don't remember anything because I want to implement in my life what I have learned but I can't if I don't remember do you have any tips or advice for me so I don't have ADHD I have ADD and uh I have the same problem I definitely have the same problem so two things you have to remember the first one is as it says in P you get rewarded for the effort and that's why says what we say when we finish we work and they work we work and get reward they work and they don't get reward time of course they get reward they get paid they make money says they only get paid for results so you have somebody who's a shoe maker and you give him an order for very specialized pair of shoes and he spends a week on it and then he comes back and says I couldn't make the shoes here's my bill you're like what so I had to buy materials I spent a whole week on it I'm entitled to something says no you get paid for a product we pay for goods and services not for good intention but you spend a week trying to figure out and you never get it you get a week worth of you get a week worth of reward W for the effort not just for the results so you have to know that if you try that's the that's the key you know and uh i' I've said this more than once what I would like to write on my Mata is he tried not even that he succeeded just that he tried if I could if I could at the end of my life say he tried you know I think that's catchier than he's nowhere as bad as he could have been but it is the same basic concept so um so that's number one number two is um between my ADD and my dyslexia and all my other uh difficulties my focusing problem and things learning was impossible for me so I went around to a number of who I respect and I said what do I do and the amazing thing was they all gave me the same answer they said learn 100 D andaz it andaz it until you know it well this was very hard um because a doesn't help me here when I used to be in yes I'd have the Kusa read and then I come up with 25 sh in what they were reading but I have to now do the reading and I sit there and I look up every word and I piece it together line by line painfully until I more or less understand the mishna and then I started the gamar and I at one point I was writing out the the old gar what's the question what's the answer where does it come from and I reached the bottom of the page I forgot everything and I started again and I did it again and I kept doing it until I was able to uh say it over and then I did the next DED and I did the same thing and then I went back and iard the entire da and then I started the next da I did the same thing and every time I would forget I have to go back to the beginning start again start again start again by 40 do I saw a major change and by 60 do I more or less had it beat to the point that today I give a d which is mindboggling considering all the many limitations that I have and I still forget I forget all the time when I I'm middle of talking I forget what I'm saying I lose my place I don't remember I have to go over it and go over it anytime you hear me quote something you understand I had to say that to myself a hundred times just to remember it because I I forget it and with my dyslexia I turn it back into English and I can't remember it in Hebrew and I I I work very hard can it be done it could be done is it is it daunting yeah impossible nah it takes work takes a lot of work and a lot of confidence because if you don't have confidence you're going to give up and just say this too hard for me so just got to put one foot in front of the other Anonymous in a 13-month Hebrew year why is it OD that the month that gets doubled and not a second Tish or tavas I'm going to give you two answers one is pragmatic and the other one is uh um more philosophical the first one is that we have a set calendar they did not have a set calendar and therefore because the Luna year is 354 days more or less depending on the year and the uh solar year is 365 days more or less so you lose about 11 days every year which means that in three years you'll be a month behind now that's a problem because we call P it has to come out in the springtime and so we have to have a leap year where we add another month how would they determine that and one of the things they would determine is the Harvest and so you wait close to the Harvest you know pesak is when you harvest the um the barley and shu is when you harvest the wheat and they would have to go and see how uh the crops are doing how the seasons are doing and based upon that they would add an extra month so obviously since the Jewish year for our purposes starts in Nissan that's when it comes to figuring out the months Etc so it's the last month and the Torah is of course the 12th month that's the one that we're going to add we're going to add another month to be able to extend this year only at the end you don't do it by Tish I don't know what the year is going to look like and you wait till the end of the year before you're about to reach the Harvest Time and that's when you make it that's pragmatic um another reason is that you know ad is the best month A's a uh um the uh uh the masle of ad is such a good month it's such a wonderful thing and uh so obviously if you got a double a month you don't want to do of you take which is a good month there's another reason and that is that the 12 months correspond to the 12 as there's a lot of different ways of lining them up but one of the ways of lining them up is that ad becomes Y and Y turns into two and so therefore if there's a month that's going to turn into two months it's going to be from the of Y where it's going to turn into two months that correspond to it uh maybe since we're talking about this uh I'll throw in one other idea every month has a masle what we call masle call a zodiac sign and you know that other is Pisces maybe we'll talk about that another time per I don't know if we've ever spoken about it but we'll talk about ma do which is Pisces that's why in the you see the fish everywhere that's that's the reason for that mazzle of do but um uh what's the maszle of ad I saw calendar where they had the little masle and AD they have fish again nope thei says that when it came from and Mos says choose people he says people who are born in ad because in people born in ad sheni don't have a masle and since they're going to use black magic it doesn't work on anyone who is born in ad Shen so just throwing that out there and that's it for this week uh if you want to find out more about the show you can go to my website ry.com you can send an email you can sponsor an episode you can sign up for one of our online shurm and uh that's it 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