Ten Minutes of Meaning (Part 89): Is Your Word Your Bond? - Mesillas Yesharim

good morning everyone great to see you thank you for being with us again on this Wednesday morning for our ten minutes of meaning or we try to get together and work on ourselves to live the best version of ourselves to realize our greatest potential together using the formula of their own power of motion I'm Lutz Otto and the Mithila session which paves the path forward for us about how to be in control how to be disciplined and I live a life that we can be proud of that we can have our biggest impact that we can measure our greatest legacy I want to thank our dear friends Connie and Lenny Greenstein who sponsored the series of ten minutes of meaning for the year in memory of Connie's father around Ben Yitzhak mr. and tambour thank you so much for your generosity and for your friendship we are in the media of Nikias we began with Z heroes how to live a life of mindfulness and caution we spoke about it last night began a new six-part series I'm living our best selves and we examined the ROM Holland's the heroes again in the context of how we can not only be in survival mode throughout this pandemic but how we can get into growth mode how we can be using this time to be able to grow to be able to advance to be able to break out and to be able to advance ourselves and our lives in most meaningful ways so the iris was how to live a life of mindfulness how to be present and thoughtful and cautious and everything that we are doing and we then moved over to Zuri's aside a live with alacrity and enthusiasm and zeal and then we moved to Nikias one by one that I'm has been identifying different character traits different behaviors different patterns different temptations that if we are in control of if we're mindful of we can be proud of our actions and thoughts and our speech and if not we'll have a lot of repair work to do as a result well guarantee and profanity honesty you talked about eating habits and health and wellness we talked about faith all different kinds of concepts or up to allah masha lewis i hope you mean islamic culture in Amman I had yo toes this rosy now we move to the world of the wheels are we we mean what we say do we follow through they're talking about the world of shoeless the world of of oats the world of the promises that we make and do we and do we keep them birds to oats generally speaking he was not a layman is careful not to other name I have anything particularly involves an oath so the technical violation of the biblical prohibition of taking God's name in vain most people don't pronounce God's name and take it in vain they don't follow through the issue is I'm a fish a fish a Menachem unum USERRA Al Capone and Royal Amisha Rosalie I was Nucky leshawna and mayhem but then I'm Hawk continues and he says while we may not technically take God's name in vain we may not violate the prohibition of taking a false oath strictly speaking but anytime that we make a promise that we don't follow through on any time that our word is not our bond we say we'll meet you at a certain time and we show up late we say we'll follow up but we don't we say we call you back and we neglect to call you back we say we'll take care of something and we drop the ball we have violated our own word Leah held Varro the total use of the word lawyer he'll next week's patient Matos lo yaha means like Hulan our word is colors are sacred and when you don't follow through when we use our words flippantly and casually we don't mean what we say and we don't say what we mean then then they are held Varro we've turned our words into Hulan we've wasted them we've squandered them we violated them we've made a promise that we didn't keep didn't keep blue mushroom remember Lazar lava shuhada hain schewe Amitabha Buddha more Loblaw praise Him they were hanging trees in the okay number of a hint said ik che logic Hotel exciting shock had said like lava shock outside like they ain't shocked outside like an accurate liquid measure means that your nose should Lea no and your yes should be a yes mean what you say and say what you mean and if you say yes don't be duplicitous and don't be inconsistent and don't say what you think want us to be heard but be transparent and be truthful be honest with your words our words are holy our words are sacred and we use them in a holy way in a sacred way we transform and construct we build the world we lift and we elevate others and when we use our words flippantly or casually inaccurately then in fact no health water we've turned our words into our words into Hulan this is why I know none of us are thinking about Kol Nidre night right now but Kol Nidre night Yom Kippur the holiest day of the year the holiest day of the year begins with what really is a very bizarre process Kol Nidrei we annul our vows this is the holiest day of the year we should start with a comes its we should start with a Nigam we should start with a Torah teaching we should start with spirituality we're starting with a technical law called Indra yes we use the haunting melody in tune that we all associate with Yom Kippur and Kol Nidre night but we're starting the holiest day of the year with a law of a knowing vows we gather together we're wearing white we're beginning a process and a journey of 25 hours of fasting of transformation and we begin it but Kol Nidre annulling our vows or miss Olivia explained very beautifully why because we start the process of Kol Nidrei the 25 hours of repentance of self introspection self-reflection self-awareness by saying our words matter we're going to annul our vows because words matter words are sacred words create words build what is a nether what is ash Lua to that I'm how I was talking about another of Schlow amines I'm not allowed to eat possible olive I can't eat meat look together mashallah sorceress it's prohibited mixture I'm forbidden oh it's a biblical prohibition to eat meat milk not allowed to sell it I'm not a lot of benefit from it what if I take a chair what if I take this cup and I say hurray Ally this cup to me is like Boston McAuliffe this cup to me is prohibited like forbidden food then the cup is forbidden to me biblically it means to say that something that the Torah permits something that God saw as power of as neutral through my words through my through my pledge I can give it a status I can make it biblically prohibited words matter words transform words create status words create identity so you can Kippur the holiest night of the year begins by reminding ourselves that our words matter we made promises we took vows the previous Yom Kippur we said we were going to be better we were going to be different we were finally going to make those changes words matter words matter and so part of the process part of the character trait of kiyose part of this character trait of cleanliness is in looking at ourselves and asking is our word our bond do we mean what we say and say what we mean can people rely on us and depend on us and count on us if we say we're gonna follow through we say we're gonna call back we say we're going to do it we say we're gonna show up on time do we mean it do we mean it are we casual with our words are we willing to be flexible and bend our words or there are words matter do our words mean something do they mean something more Eva Robbie my Ribeira chef - Lita has not had sugar in his tea in over 50 probably 60 years why because over 50 years ago he was in Israel and he was in the home of somebody that he wasn't confident in their cash flows and they offered a cup of tea and he had the tea and they offered some sugar and because he didn't want to make an awkward situation and he didn't want to tell them I don't trust your conscious whatever the cost was concerns in Israel over sugar are he simply said I don't take sugar in my tea and for 50 years since then he's never had sugar in his tea even if he may prefer it because Lilia held Pharaoh how could he he told this innocent beautiful Jewish people that I don't take sugar in my tea in order to avoid their embarrassing that many of us would have said Michelle and Michelle and you're allowed to lie in order to keep the peace so you know you were doing it and preserve their dignity you were doing it so they wouldn't be insulted it's not so bad if today you take sugar in your tea I know your vow is so to say you did it for a noble reason it's okay but you see the greatness of someone like rich after 50 years ago said I don't take sugar in my tea and therefore to this day does not take sugar in his tea because Lilia held Varro what you have mean you say that you mean you cannot exaggerate your words you can't lie or distort your words you cannot not follow through and that's what Omaha continues being a virus checker Gama wholly raah you know there's an illness there's a plague widespread among people is the willingness to distort the truth exaggerate bend the truth lie a little bit especially mobile dambulla my drago's my Drago's eh beau it consists of so many levels right you know the entrance to Disney tell your kids everybody remember that you're under fifteen or tell them I'm not home or don't answer the door or whatever the lives of distortions that we do which we think are innocent we think they're benign but they are instilling within our children and they are habituating ourselves to allow us to utter that aren't true the signature of hashem is ms hashem signature his logo his emblem is truth and the more that we have fidelity to it the closer we are to him the more we're willing to be flexible and bend the truth and lie and exaggerate and compromise the truth the farther we are from from him yesh Bernardo you know some Amish with chakra knows if some people's whole business is based on and founded on on lies on lies I don't know what happened and one my camera went off some people's businesses are based on online so this is something an area that we need to work on we need to evaluate ourselves if we want to live our best selves and we want to achieve a level of of schlemm us of perfection then we need to improve the cleanliness of our sense of truth being careful with every word that we utter have a fantastic day we continue living with emunah 8:45 and tonight behind the beam at 9:00 p.m. if you're watching on youtube please subscribe to our Channel I have a great morning every