Ten Minutes of Meaning (Part 80): Profanity Makes You Profane - Mesillas Yesharim

you okay Tove good morning book itself being with us this morning as we continue to try to perfect ourselves improve ourselves better ourselves to be the very best version of ourselves with the help of the ROM now of motion I'm Lutz Sato the Mesilla see Sharaman which has given for the last several centuries the formula of prescription to the Jewish people and to all of humanity of how to step-by-step work on ourselves to conquer certain urges to improve ourselves in order to be able to go to sleep every night feeling proud that we had our best days we lived our best selves I want to thank our dear friends Connie and Lenny grunts ting for continuing to sponsor the series for the year of the ten minutes of meaning in memory of Connie's father mr. Aaron Tambor Aaron Bennett's whose neshama Sheila vinalia we are in the eleventh Parekh of Miss Alyssa cherem the room has taken us through the first two attributes not that we've perfected them but we continue to work on them number one Z heroes to live a life of caution vigilance mindfulness consciousness to really think about everything we say and do not just to do it comes impulsively or instinctively people who do that sabotage their own success they sabotage their own happiness we all know people like that maybe we are people like that who say whatever comes to our mind and only later do we have to clean up that mess of having hurt the people we care about who do whatever comes immediately into our kitchens to our gut and immediately we have to clean up whatever mess of whatever money we lost in the stock market whatever poor decision or poor judgment we showed instead if we could train ourselves and cultivate ourselves to live with a level of Z heroes to have a mindfulness to pause and think should I say this does it make sense how will it be received what difference will it make should I do this what are the ramifications what are the consequences intended and unintended about what I'm about to do says that I'm how if we begin to train ourselves to cultivate ourselves to mold ourselves not to simply react instinctively and intuitively but to be thoughtful and mindful and everything that we think say and do how we transform our lives our happiness our relationships our success every area and while we work on that we move to the second quality which is resist alacrity enthusiasm zeal you see if you're overly mindful is you know analysis paralysis if you think too much you'll never get anything done and so once you've identified what you want to do and who you want to be and what your goals you want to accomplish make a resolution chart a path and go pursue them with abandon go and make them happen be thoughtful be careful however don't analysis paralysis don't get stuck figure out what you want to do what books do you want to read what relationships do you want to improve how do you want to be spending your time how do you want to make your lifestyle your diet your exercise how do you want your Davenant to improve every area of life identify the golden resolution and then could pursue it and make it happen and that brings us up to our third quality which isn't the key is the kiyose is the ability to purge from ourselves to eliminate and remove those obstacles not just to confront them and overcome them but to be able to live at such a high level that in fact we've eliminated the things that bring us down and so we spent a long time on gazelle one of the things that affects almost everyone universally is that pull towards money because after all money is what sustains us it so it nourishes us many mistakenly think it's what gives us happiness it can buy a lot of things but not necessarily happiness there are a lot of people with a lot of money who are very unhappy and there are people with no money who found the ability for great happiness so they don't necessarily correlate money can do a lot of things but it can't buy happiness or meaning but a lot of people are pulled towards money to the point that it clouds our judgement and we make a mistake not to reach in someone's pocket and steal but to take to abuse their time to abuse their trust to misrepresent to over promise and under deliver to compete unfairly and so on we then moved over to the second area which is arias arises promiscuity arises sexuality Freud had it right there is a drive in universal man that also clouds our judgement and makes great people people of great accomplishment and esteem people of genius and charisma have thrown away their lives their relationships their happiness because of this drive and now we move over to a third area old Binion's newstapa vows and I know our deburr differ as no sauce Mila drama Ella and now that I'm her moves over to what he calls the promiscuity or adultery of the mouth what we would call profanity now I have to tell you I wrote article about it a few months ago that in our day and in our time profanity has exploded it's become more mainstream politicians elected leaders people who are supposed to be models of dignity and class are an unprecedented rates having no problem employing profanity from the highest office in the land down to those competing with him can I need to be more presidential people in positions of leadership and distinction in fact I saw a analysis in 2014 there were 83 instances of lawmakers using profane words online 2017 at Gerudo a whopping 1571 and in 2018 there were two thousand four hundred and nine and in 2019 I put all those numbers to shame it's as if there is no filter the filter has been removed people feel free to use any vocabulary any words the profanity of the manner I'm how it gets into what's the problem with that car it's a fruitcake rookie of the arm hrough a rabbis already screamed and they told us no year at poker Airbus Dover Air was de Bourgh when they said there shouldn't be found within us any air Vaughn nakedness promiscuity ever Vaz devar anything devar that word devar can also mean de Bourgh through our language through our speech through how we choose to communicate and articulate we say everything about us are we operating on a high level are we at selam aleykum are we godly are we disciplined and dignified we have integrity or are we base animals who lose ourselves to employ shock terminology profanity nivel pair everybody born nouveau pair what the rabbi's call never pair never pair the obscenities of speech nivel like a like a manova a lowlife you can be a low-life in your thought you can be a low-life in your actions and you can be a low-life in your speech you know just because you're wearing a custom-made suit and you're wearing an uber expensive tie and you drive the most expensive car and you're a hedge fund manager trading in billions of dollars if you employ profanity you're nouveau pet makes you a maneuver it makes you a lowlife whether we are considered to be dignified or a lowlife is very much reflected on the words that we use are we smart enough and patient enough and thoughtful enough can we right and can we put together our thoughts in a way that's persuasive and compelling without having to use the shock terminology of profanity or do we live in a world that we just want the shock value and in fact we give in to that animal instinct to use that profanity the Umrah Bhavan evil pet sorrows McArthur shabari summation is from Mason a rabbis taught us ignoring Shabbos that because of this mistake of never pair of lowering ourselves with the obscenity of the mouth tragedies occur around us so I'm luoda called Manabe pit mom me Camille Olga hanim a person who's been a veiled their pit we take that beautiful gift with differentiates us from the animal world which is the power of speech and we compromise it we forfeit it we lower it by using it for profane language and profane jokes and profane curses so that's such a person manikyam loga hanim they're going to see the depths of Jahannam vom road i'll call yo dem cow allah - McLoughlin axes look up ah look oh man I'm a pitiable my feelings are denture should Michel temer hope from Lola raha cuz I'll had an interesting insight they said everyone knows what happens on a wedding night we all know where the bride and groom go that night but a person who articulates it a person who spells it out a person who thinks it's funny a cynic a sarcastic individual who references where the bride and groom are going that night hope can lola raw sardine of 70 years of even a decree of 70 years is converted into a decree of misfortune that means to say sometimes we all see we all know but you don't have to put it in words you don't say everything you think you don't just say everything you know and even there the NIV or peda profanity is not employing a curse the profanity is referencing or alluding to or painting a portrait that's simply grossly inappropriate vom wrote I feel the secret comes from initially each time I given law the Mushaf side in we're accountable even for the simple casual conversations maybe you'll think it's just between me and my spouse it's confidential between me and a friend so big deal if I use a curse big deal if I describe something explicit we've lowered ourselves Union Ashley Rogers got mono a fashion show section mr Bloom Hashemi poem we are accountable not only as for speaking Neville pair for lowering ourselves to employ this type of language but we're accountable for receiving it for listening to it for accepting it as well because again it says everything about us who hang out with and what we tolerate and the kind of language that we allow and we listen to and we smile and we smirk and we enjoy and were entertained and we give feedback as if we're okay then we ourselves are accountable for it we can do so much better we can reach so much higher whether it's in our emails in our text messages whether it's the links that we're sharing in the pictures the means of the gifs whether it's the words that we're using no matter how many frustrated or angry or worried or competing or no matter how much we're trying to elicit a shock out of others we can do so much better we can be so much beautiful and it says so much about who we are so rights and I'm house you'll say Ben Mahara Adam Lamar shamash I'm never pet you know Alex de Lima Heart Academy Rivera Mischa dama Rousseff a drama murim Sumida bravo date IVA when were the rabbi's talking they have to be so careful with never pear for the person who's flying off the handle a person who's so angry in such a fit of rage they're cursing they're using profanity to feed their anger such a person can't curse why not because the cursing is wrong the profanity is wrong but because we need to be protected from the anger and from the jealousy and from the envy and so on and so forth so you might say but if I'm calm cool collect I stubbed my toe no one's around I want to curse what's the big deal it helps me release the pain or I'm frustrated and therefore I want to react by cursing or I'm even talking to someone and I'm using a pro-family your curse but I'm not flying off the handle I haven't lost my cool I'm not filled with envy or arrogance so I'm not feeling or giving in to some other other negative attribute Michelle Obama la da Silva in LA for sure love but if you're using profanity if you're using a curse for that's a joke it's a joke you're trying to get people to laugh so then what's the big deal system how avatar and warlord tell such a person I can deviate Sahara that it's your yetzer Hara that is trying to seduce you and persuade you to believe that if you're using profanity as a joke and it's not really feeding a negative quality it's okay kima chromoly Chevy used a kernel of ruffled Araya awesome Arcana before every it's my fashion miss you some mummies ensemble your fame culo honey from a rubber pedobear novella you know his carrot cousins a la mode is our vanilla right so she was dominant when the plastic when the verse explicitly says be careful with how you speak be trained with your language it's not talking about somebody who's going to violate one of the three cardinal sins it's not talking about somebody who's giving in to their anger or flying off their handle Renouf evolution aravind evil per coulomb interceptor buddy burrow whether it's false flattery or whether it's gossip or whether it's profanity these are all using and abusing the gift that was given that makes us unique and distinguished that elevates us over animals and when a person takes that gift of speech talk to a stroke victim someone on a ventilator talk to somebody with Alzheimer's or progressive dementia memory loss talk to somebody who's lost that power to articulate their thoughts to capture them talk to UT hurwitz with ALS who has to move his eyes in order to speak you know what the gift of the power of speeches you know what it is to be able to just say freely whatever comes to your mind to communicate and transmit it to another and we're gonna take that gift a gift that doesn't belong to the animal kingdom a gift that too many of our fellow man have been denied from illness and the like and we have that gift and you're gonna simply forfeit it you're gonna compromise it you're gonna corrupt it by using it for gossip and by using it for anger and by using it for profanity and by using it for false flattery you've absolutely corrupted this incredible gift and not only that you've thrown it in the face of the one who's gifted it to us because who gives us that gift the Almighty he gave it he could take it away god forbid we've seen people who wake up Bell's palsy stroke victim woke up god forbid Korona people who wake up and they went to bed the night before speaking freely and comfortably and now it's gone and we wake up and still have it be careful with it hold on to it it's a treasure use it carefully using judiciously because if we abuse it if we use it corruptly we're spitting in the face of the one who gave it to it emma sukadeva Robison is another offer she's never paid whatever social dibber Manish me shames nurse or nurse or a coach on your knees nurse puts me GU for Shore myself chef P shame I'm carry so missus based on a sermon mr. Oxman navona yours and gum king kong medina Essaouira she that's working you know there's a lot of the medici vanilla mama a rabbis caution us to be exceedingly exceedingly careful you know if we don't use our power of speech carefully we are the entire environment around us we are content contaminating the world by introducing this language and introducing this speech we're lowering ourselves it doesn't just reflect passion or feeling or emotion it's not a healthy way to release pain in fact it's the opposite there's scientific evidence we'll end today with this professor Benjamin Bergen shared the research behind Kherson he describes how stroke victims can still swear fluently even if their other language abilities are severely impaired advanced language comes to the more sophisticated parts of the brain swearing taps into much more primal neural hardware in the basal ganglia Tourette syndrome which involves dysfunction the base of the basal ganglia can cause an overwhelming urge to swear the animal part of us wants to curse when we hold back we're expressing our humanity so when you're choosing your words and choosing whether you're willing to give in to that profanity ask yourself are you an animal or are you a godly spirit kazama rabbis and Shabbos lament Gitmo were so opposed to this Nouveau pet when we expressed self-control and discipline were imitating God were exhibiting our soul our dignity in class and when we fail and given to the nature natural urge to curse or swear it's demeaning we have diminished ourselves it's not easy always to fight that urge but we can and we must because we elevate ourselves in that process I know we can reach higher part of becoming the best or better version of ourselves is being even more careful with what we speak and how we speak and tapping into that godliness within us have a great day living with I'm gonna starts in 15 minutes thank you