Ten Minutes of Meaning (Part 206): All Comes from the Head - Mesillas Yesharim

okay good morning welcome back to 10 minutes of meeting please help yourself to coffee and donuts with gratitude to our Anonymous series sponsor Al schlomo Ben Pinas this morning a second Anonymous sponsor who was sponsored in heartfelt gratitude to BRS for the classes opportunity to learn to grow and so on and we are grateful for that sponsorship we're on the last paragraph of perov giml it's taken us a long time conquering humility growing in humility being humble and modest takes a long time so we're up to the last paragraph and here the ra says the following here the ra the summary of the Mida of humility a character trait we spoke about last night when we analyzed the anger the rambam and the ramban both say that while we walk the golden mean while we look to walk the zahav when it comes to character traits there are two character traits which we have to have absolutely no part of whatsoever they shouldn't be part of our repertoire our re whatsoever the mid the measure should be non-existent and those are anger person must be exceedingly calm to always be Cal the second is humble both describe the humility we need to leave with live with so the writes anyone with eyes in his head before we get to what he says what does it mean an so he saw a beautiful Insight by Theos the holy who just passed away a couple weeks ago he sayso it's particularly poignant to reach this paragraph As we are on the cusp of rashash an means your eye should be on the RO on rashash everything follows the start everything follows the beginning everything follows how we initiate so getting started with enthusiasm and energy and positivity getting started with a goal and a mission and a resolution getting started with good decision making ano usual translation an eye in your head just means be thoughtful and mindful but thees an your eye what you're looking at what you're thinking about what we're mindful of an RO everything follows the RO everything follows the beginning and therefore says the r we have to all exercise more caution and scrutiny when it comes to the friend that we're looking for or the advisor you know it's very popular today it's always been should be to be thoughtful and mindful and careful and Vigilant with what we put into our body what we eat carbs no carb fats saturated fats sugar salt uh Pro processed food there's always new discussions about what we eat what we drink what we put into our body and its impact on us and the says you know what has more of an influence and effect on who you are and how you live not only the food that you eat and what we put into our body but eating the wrong thing drinking the wrong thing can compromise and contaminate the body but when it comes to choosing the wrong friends having the wrong being in the wrong circumstances when it comes to choosing the wrong people to hang out with that doesn't just potentially corrupt and compromise your body but a person can forfeit their soul person could lose everything that they worked on person can lose eternity person can lose their Destiny person can lose who they're meant to be so as much care and concern as many articles as we read in podcasts we listen to eat don't eat drink don't drink how to exercise stand sit this coffee is good for you coffee is bad for you wine is good for you wine is bad for you every other day there's a new opinion about what you should e what you should drink the diet that's right for you the diet's going to kill you oh that's wonderful it's important we should focus on it we should work on it enjoy the donuts enjoy the coffee all of that's wonderful however the ram says it pales in comparison to spiritually who we associate with with whom we identify how the impact on us of the pure pressure says he walks in the path of Innocence will serve me says in my house there should be not one who's dwelling deceitfully be thoughtful be mindful be judicious be vigilant be careful don't just end up in that don't just end up sitting in that section of sh don't just end up sitting in that MOS don't just end up at that water cooler literal or metaphorical don't just end up in that WhatsApp group filled with snark and cynicism and sarcasm filled with criticism and filled with filled with of slander a person has to find friends realize that we're blind most of us are blind to our own shortcomings we're blind we have a blind spot to the things that we need to work on so we need to find the people who will inspire and motivate and incentivize the people will uplift and Empower and enrich our lives the people who will not be afraid to tell us what we need to hear because we know they're saying it with love and we know they're saying it in our best interest the reha would pay someone to give him mus he knew and he was afraid that no one would have the guts to give him honest feedback about what he needs to work on so he paid someone the re he hired someone to give him honest honest feedback in his life surround yourself with the type of people when you walk away you say I want to be better I'm motivated I'm inspired I feel a positive peer pressure to join the cola Boker to join the afternoon col to be at the nightsat to go to the Tish to hear the I want to be part of that movement I want to be part of that world I want to be part of that Community I want to be part of that conversation surround yourself with the people who will help you live healthier spiritually physically mentally emotionally not Kal of the opposite all too often we wake up in life and who are surrounded what our influences what we watch what we listen to We didn't actively decide or determine for ourselves we just found ourselves where there that's what the r ends this peric ends this entire section one of the last mid in this formula of anas of humility is that person Ro rashash the beginning of the year the beginning of any new community the beginning of a venture the beginning of an activity an always look at the beginning and Choose Wisely where you gonna sit what minion you going to attend what she are you going to be part of what Kus are you going to have what are you gonna listen to or read or expose yourself to Ain a Baro because surrounding ourselves with the right people there was a doctor in Harvard Nicholas christakis he proved for his research that just like yawning is contagious some of you are demonstrating it right now just like yawning is contagious if a person yawns you ever notice one person in the room yawns and it sets off a chain reaction and people yawning yawning is contagious but he proved you know what else is contagious smiling when one Smiles other people subconsciously smile it's contagious anger he also showed his contagious rage outrage a culture of anger can be contagious but so can a culture of kindness so what culture what community where we find ourselves with whom we find ourselves there's a contagion Factor these ideas and these ideals these lives and Lifestyles they spread so the says Choose Wisely be wise in how we choose and he ends the peric by saying upon this it says salvation come through much counsel surround ourselves with the people who will give us positive feedback constructive criticism with love that we can be confident they're looking out for our best interest because that will determine so much of our Lives including our ability to live with humility living with amuna in 15 minutes 8:45 tonight we go behind the beima David fishof who is an incredible music producer sports agent sh shabas Orthodox Jew learns Torah every week he has unb aable stories hear them tonight at 900m also at the show I mentioned earlier come join us for tki until next time stay happy stay healthy and stay healthy