Ten Minutes of Meaning (Part 197): Honor All - Mesillas Yesharim

okay good morning everyone welcome back to 10 minutes of meeting mrsharam thank you for adjusting the speaker Hashem of to travel for a simcha so we're meeting Tuesday night Wednesday should illuminate the world Hashem for all of us I want to thank our generous Anonymous sponsor sponsoring 10 minutes we are on the 22nd chapter of the Silas Deshawn we've been learning about the mid of aniva's the quality of humility and how when one runs after covet if you pursue honor honor runs away from you if you run away from honor then honor pursues you a person has to be humble both in our personality our perspective our attitude our thoughts humble and our posture The Way We Walk The Way We Carry ourselves our expectations our sense of entitlement humble in the way that we speak and humble in the way that we treat others we last left off the idea of hating the rabbinet or not rabbis or the rabbinate but hating Authority even the one who needs to concede even one who needs to make the concession to serve in a position of authority a person has to be a chairman of a board a person has to be a president a person has to be a head of school or a rabbi one should embrace the opportunity to serve but to have disdain for the profile the uh honor that comes that comes with it honor is no more than the greatest of vanities honor is fleeting if you start to believe the hype if you believe what people are saying take what you do seriously don't take who you are don't take what they say too seriously if a person actually believes the hype if you accept the honor if you somehow of your ego inflated if you get some kind of a high from the honor the likes the follows the posts the tweets the comments then it's going to the distract you and it's going to entirely remove you from your world the world of an equilibrium the world of mental happiness and the world of what you're meant to be doing um and a person who really understands the vanity of Honor a person who understands how fleeting it is person who understands how depleting it is person who understands how distracting it is from what needs to get done will in fact be repulsed by Honor we'll never lean into it we'll never believe it we'll never pursue it we'll never want it and a person who has a high degree of self-awareness person is real and genuine with themselves will know we all know our faults we know our failure we know our warts and our pimples we know what we get wrong and when you hear someone else praise you you hear somebody else honor you then it should be a source of pain because you realize if they only knew they only knew my struggles that they only knew my failures that they only knew where I go wrong if they only knew what I'm imperfect of Aina elements in reality a person will feel shame a person will feel pain over the fact that not only do you have to contend with what you get wrong now you have to contend with the fact that the false praise that someone's seeping upon you so never believe never lean in never accept the hype take what you do seriously don't take your title or yourself too seriously we know our shortcomings and our failures we know our struggles and therefore it should be a source of Shame somebody heaps praise or honor upon you should push it away it's not true you don't know if you only knew none of us are worthy of what they say the fourth aspect to honor writes is how we respect other people honor and respect is how we should treat others not what we should feel entitled from others teachers who is somebody who's respected you want honor if you want to honor it's not by being an influencer if you want honor it's not by having Fame if you want honor it's not the praise that people say that you don't deserve that should be a source of Shame if you want honor it's by treating other people with honor it's by being honorable teachers if you are exposed to you know about somebody they're better than you and one thing somebody knows one more thing than you know someone dive into the sticker more kavana gives a little more stalker a little more a little more patient you should honor them who are you you think you're such a graceful person because you have the title you have the seed of authority you have a bigger name you have more Fame you're a goodness you're nothing people only knew your struggles and your challenges you should feel a sense of Shame and when you're exposed when you see someone it's a little bit better has a little bit more in any area than you give them covered who is the person who in fact deserves honors is the person who honors others treats everybody with respect I once read about a surgeon who had the most popular residency everyone tried to get into their residency post medical school and the surgeon had a particular test to graduate The Residency program at the end eventually the Quran but he'd asked one simple question wasn't about a medical technique it wasn't about medical knowledge medical know-how he would ask what's the name of the custodian who comes into the operating room to clean up after you when you're done surgery can be messy it's bloody gauze there's equipment there's instruments the floor can be dirty the room needs to be sterilized what's the name of the custodian the janitor the person who comes in to clean up after you that's the lesson that was the message to graduate his residency program and surgery all the NOAA all the technique obviously critically important but after all your time in residency somebody cleaned up after you you fancy surgeon you high profile surgeon you surgeon who think you're saving lives and saving the world do you even know the name of the person who comes in all the time to clean up after you is you know we have a lot of Scholars and restaurants we have great people who come what's impressive is not the shoe they give in front of a packed house what's impressive has you ever see the way they walk by and they treat others I'll never forget once everybody was visiting our community and it was before Junior and he walked by the custodian was setting up the room we were walking and he said one second he went backwards he went over and he said I'm visiting speaker thank you so much for all that you did to set up the room and clean up the room I really appreciate it my name is pesach what's your name and I remember watching there was no one else in the room there was no camera there was Dean he had no way of knowing I would ever see or notice or tell that story but you learn everything about someone when the lights are off the camera's off how do you treat the custodian who cleans up after you how do you treat the way that the help staff the flight attendant the housekeeper how do you treat the custodian and shul do you know their name the security guards it doesn't say Israel it doesn't say the honor and thank the yidden the Jew it says habrios every creation of Hashem every human being every human being those who need it the most because they feel the most invisible and inconsequential do you know their name do you stop and say thank you not just the hidden not just every Jews be first to say hello to every person tell the story I can't imagine he would want the story told as if it's exceptional if yaakov kalmanetsky when he would go for a walk in Muncie was near a Convent and he would stop and say hello and good morning to all of the nuns I think it appears in the book on reviakov over here that's a story that I say good morning that's a story have they mocked him it's a mishna it's not a story it's not Godless it's basic menshlerkite you say hello to everybody you walk by everyone you say good morning you say hello everyone who walk by you had a smile and a positive demeanor and a happy disposition he said good morning to everybody you saw myself say please say thank you hold the door these are basic basic height common sense not so common and not so basic today with everything else that we teach and we should limit on the highest levels how about the basics wasn't too great to say hello to the Golia bashook you go to Town Center Mall you're picking something up at the supermarket do you know the checkout person do you say thank you please are you on your phone you didn't even notice them you stuck your credit card in the machine you walked out you never made eye contact you never said thank you you never said good afternoon go even greater read the names use their name it's good enough for review good enough for the Yakov kamenetsky good enough for the hazal and perkiavos should be more than good enough for us that's a person that you honor you don't honor the person who packs the house or the biggest crowd who has the most Fame and Fortune is the biggest influencer you know your honor the person who says please and thank you holds the door who's kind and courteous the person is better today good morning you've almost tells us why why for the last first 33 days of the Omer I know some of the custom there is all the way through but why didn't we shave why don't we listen to music why don't we take a haircut because we were grieving 24 000 funerals 24 000 have spayed them 24 000 Chevy calls what caused that pandemic because they didn't have basic common courtesy not because they didn't receive honor they didn't give honor they didn't treat honorably other people around them and treat honorably the people around them so that is what anivis is all about you want to know who's humble it's not the person who tells you how humble they are that's not humility you want to know it's humble watch the way they behave when the lights in the camera and the internet connection are off who are they offline how do they behave who do they think do they have common courtesy do they treat other people with honor that's who is deserving of Honor 930 partial perspectives this morning double partial for the price of one tomorrow night behind the bhima have a good yantiff of lag Bomer 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