Ten Minutes of Meaning (Part 191): Humility in Action - Mesillas Yesharim

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you'll have to hear about it over the coming days and weeks we're on the 2 22nd chapter of missiles to show them how has been talking about the middle of another towards the end of the safer which is in itself very telling that humility practicing humility having a humble mentality and the Maison in action in act dictating the way we behave and interact with the world and the fact that he's waited till the end or near the end of the safer tells us just how daunting how difficult it is to indeed live with a genuine humility not a fake humility not a humble brag but in fact always have the mindfulness the Consciousness and the awareness of how limited we are how fleeting life is how more me how mere mortal we are and how much we will be future warm food is you don't have to be a Super Genius you don't have to have major analysis you don't have to delve deeply in order to find our limitations in order to find how fallible we are maybe the posture we put out to the world the carefully curated image we put online or Offline that we show the world as if everything's great and we've got it together and all is Flowing smoothly but the reality is we know how imperfect we are we know what we struggle with we know our failures the smartest the greatest genius the most knowledgeable Among Us is an absolute garnish to nothing compared to earlier Generations an awms and that's what we have to know and know in truth and that's what we have to be aware of and aware of all the time as much as we accomplish and Achieve as much as we break through as much as we have to be proud of to also stay focused how limited how finite how feeble we are but you think you're so smart you think we know everything any given topic there are people who are so confident in their View and overconfidence comes from hubris it comes from arrogance the great Nobel Prize winner Daniel kahnemann who was a cousin of the great panavita roshashiva he said in one word his greatest fear the one thing he would change in the world today is overconfidence people are overconfident they're arrogant they think they have all the answers and we know everything and we're overconfident in our approach to everything but really said I don't understand the ways of the almighty the reborn create and conduct the world the way he does why do bad things happen to good people and why do things happen the way they do and I demand to know I want to understand and he told the young man what's shot in toastless tell me what what's Tesla's asking what's he answering young man caught off guard somewhat startled looked at the toesos and he couldn't figure it out he couldn't make sense of it looked at him and he said you don't understand and you think you're entitled to understand the master of the universe you can't figure out what toastless is saying but you feel entitled to understand the way God runs his world we're very limited we're very limited as smart as we are as accomplished as we are as quickly as you solve Wordle or quartile or whatever games that you play you think you're the smartest it took so few tries what we know is a sliver of a nothing of a nothing how fallible is our memory our comprehension our capacity is not telling us this to knock us down to make us feel inadequate to make us feel bad he's giving us a very sobering look in the mirror we should be proud and we should be driven and we should celebrate our accomplishments but we should also be realists and we should understand the boundaries and the limitations that we live in so why would we ever get arrogant why would we ever grow arrogant we should know we should know how finite life is this quality of humility in the world of makshava and thought how we think of ourselves our self perception our self-awareness our self-identity and the identity that we put to the world but now we're going to talk about humility in practice humility and practice is going to divide it into four parts number one to carry ourselves the shiftless in a lowly manner we don't walk into a room and suck all the air out of the room we don't demand honor we don't demand respect we don't demand Fame and followers the sivlola El Bonos number two is bearing disparagement how are we able to absorb the blows that life is going to give us someone was rude someone was discourteous someone was disrespectful so do you say do you know who I am how dare you or do you say okay that's a problem in him not in me God bless and move on what's our capacity to absorb people's disparagement disrespect person is filled with arrogance and ego is unable to they'll escalate a confrontation it'll get ugly because their ego gets in the way and if you're able to control and supplement your ego you walk away who cares so that person lost their cool so that person said that thing so the person reacted the person texted that person emailed that person called okay that's a problem in them not in me walk away number three is the ability to be averse to positions of authority doesn't mean hate rabbis some of you are Makai in that behinder but it doesn't mean to hate rabbis it means to hate Authority it means that you tolerate when you're asked to be honored or you're asked to be the chair of the committee or you're asked to take a leadership role you're asked to serve as a president you don't run to it because your name is going to appear in lights you say no three times before you acquiesce you do it hesitantly because you don't want any honor that comes with it but you feel you have to be of service the last is to run away from honor when you run away from honor honor pursues you when you chase after honor honor runs away from you so these are the four areas let's get started number one was so we said we've talked about it in self-awareness self-perception makshava and now we move over to these four Realms of mice conducting oneself in a humble manner yeah that first one can itself be divided into three parts how do we speak how do we communicate number two how do we walk and number three with our place within the community and all of our movements so how do we conduct ourselves how do we carry ourselves if the sound were off and someone was just watching watching the video of the way that we walk into a room the way that we engage colleagues peers employees family members does our body language does IT project arrogance and ego so we have a Swagger in the way we walk into a room or do we not need to be the center of attention the center of the room the smartest the loudest in the room let's start with speech is I just lost camera sorry sorry I have no idea what just happened Leola just happened sorry Leola yeah we speak gently and courteously person show is ramban writes this in his letter to his son Cass anger is the worst quality that can be and the way to avoid anger is if you speak is reflexive transform yourself into the type of person who always speaks gently and kindly to all don't yell don't scream don't lose your cool don't act with rage always speak kindly to all um you're smart if you're smart you want to be heard if you're smart you want to be persuasive no one ever convinced someone else by yelling at them by screaming at them but persuade with words with your body language with your demeanor so actually developed a different covered bloody Zion don't embarrass don't a shame don't disparage don't denigrate don't knock someone down Elevate people with your words and persuade them make a persuasive arguments so number one is number one is the way that we speak speak gently and softly and sweetly and people will listen and hear you a person who yells and screams arrogantly needs to fill the whole room everyone needs to listen and turn to them that comes from arrogance it comes from ego a person who's willing to speak softly speak softly it's humble it's humble and then people listen more attentively so listen to me when I tell you take out your phone right now if you're watching if 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