Ten Minutes of Meaning (Part 180): Don't Worry, Be Happy - Mesillas Yesharim

good morning and book your TOEFL please help yourself with some coffee and some donuts welcome back to 10 minutes of meeting 10 minutes to a better version of ourselves super grateful to our generous sponsor who anonymously is sponsors if you've not yet signed up for the WhatsApp group to be informed on the sheer schedule for some bonus Mrs ashara material and more you can go to rebecc.org Whatsapp we are on the 21st chapter of missile has been helping us chart a course towards a better version of ourselves how to live with mindfulness and Consciousness how to be present in the moment how to practice alacrity enthusiasm Zeal and all these under one of other wonderful qualifications defined to be Pious is not about what we wear or how we speak it's about how we feel it's about our attitude our perspective it's about our ambition and striving not just for good but for great great in our relationship with Hashem great in our relationship with others and great in our relationship with ourselves last left off he talked about the importance of contemplation his Buddhists we never actually interrupt and disrupt our lives that we don't stop and think and focus and reflect and introspect how could we ever grow if momentum is just carrying us forward if we're just running on that hamster wheel that rat race of life if we never stop and think about who are we and who do we want to be where are we and where are we going and certainly we'll never get there so to carve space to carve time to carve bandwidth to be able to stop and to think and to evaluate and to plan is critically important he also spoke about the importance of exposing ourselves to biographies to the lessons of others to expose ourselves to the struggles of others and to the personal growth of others and to be able to be inspired and to learn from it and now he moves over what are the challenges or obstacles what stands in the way what is trying to derail us from achieving this dream hey matrados and says the message the answer is what stands in the way is worry and fear and anxiousness now you read that and you say to yourself okay do we not have a lot of things to worry and be anxious about we're living in a crazy world in a crazy time we never know what we'll wake up to find our community is still dominating hard for a young man young men who are injured in a terrible car accident others who never imagined they'd get a diagnosis or have to overcome an illness and other challenges that arise all the time how can a person not navigate this world with a certain level of anxiousness with tear dose and Digos with worries and with concerns so it's that simple is saying yeah you got to eliminate it you got to get rid of it because if you want to be a khasid if you want to be present and mindful if you want to strive for great not only good if you want to give Hashem your all if we want to fulfill our mission and purpose for why we're here then you cannot be distracted by or overwhelmed by you cannot be parallels by a debilitated by overwhelming sense of anxiousness or fear so what you just eliminate it when a person's mind is preoccupied and distracted and overwhelmed by fear and worry and distress how could you be assessing where are you and where you're going how could you plan how could you practice how could you achieve how could we have drive an ambition how can we set goals and pursue them if I can't even get out of my own way if I'm simply overwhelmed by my own anxiousness fear and concern um you cannot be accosted if you don't practice as bonus you're always running running running busy busy busy anxious anxious anxious you can't be a hasid you cannot be a khasid the prerequisite genuine real authentic hasidos is a certain sense of there's a certain calm it's a certain cam I have the privilege I've had the privilege to have a relationship with several godola Israel with truly great people and one thing I noticed a common denominator of the malls when you're sitting across from them when you're talking to them when you're in their presence there is a calm they're present in whatever they're doing at that moment there's a there's a certain sense of calm they're carrying the weight on their shoulders they're answering questions life and death and of enormous consequence and yet they're not rushing and fragmented and I'm busy and I can't and I have to and I said come it's a calm if you want to be present if you want to really be connected if you want to really be experiencing then you have to have a certain calm so in order to experience hasidus to practice to be a khasid you have to have his bonus contemplativeness and in order to have the bandwidth to have contemplativeness you cannot be overwhelmed by anxiousness by a sense of tearda and a sense of daiga Traders and without contemplation and even if you've already attained it you've already achieved what it means to be a khasid preoccupation with other things that noise and those distractions and that competition for our attention for our energy confuses and it prevents us from strengthening ourselves if we're not present in the moment how do we know what triggers us how do we know what inspires us how do we know it depletes our energy how do we know what adds energy you have to be able to be thinking and thoughtful how do you practice yira and Ava and Vegas if you're never present with sense of with the sense of nephesh with a sense of come's commentary points out he says you know the very fact that says we have to eliminate the worry the fear the anxiety the anxiousness it means it's possible now we're not talking about clinical anxiety Out of the Shadows we did a whole podcast our new mental health podcast on the topic of anxiety if it rises to the level of a clinical diagnosis of course it needs support and treatment no one is to blame there's work that can be done interestingly among the work that can be done we had on a doctors the founder of the center for anxiety Torah observant Doctor Who's a professor at Harvard who spoke about one of the critically important components of managing anxiety is working on emuna the more that a person feels I'm not entirely in control there's uncertainty built into the universe and I submit and surrender to a higher power to the ribonac Shalom to the almighty to the mouth knowing all he does is for the best whatever happens is for a reason and nothing is random but it's done by Design and when a person can be more focused more meditative on that that actually helps anxiety one of the strategies he spoke about the founder for the center of anxiety Harvard Professor is that we sit around our dinner table Shoppers table we tell stories of practice and we talk about Hashem we involve him in our lives in our day-to-day Behavior so Rodan Sego says says the very fact that can identify this is an obstacle to the life we want to live and we have some control we can express our autonomy in working on it he writes can eliminate illness you can't eliminate accidents all accidents we could all be much more careful and you can't eliminate natural events and natural disasters and you cannot eliminate what's going on in the world that creates this rise of anxiousness we can't eliminate these variables but what we can do a better job of controlling and being mindful of is how we react how we respond how it makes us feel the fact that the message tells us take control stop simply surrendering your feeling and blaming everyone and everything else take control of how you react how you respond how you feel how you process again we're not talking about when it rises to a clinical level that needs greater intervention and support okay number is if you want to feel a divine presence if you want to be in conversation all day with Hashem if you want his guiding hand on your shoulder if you want to feel that he's in the room then he does not dwell on their sadness or laziness or frivolousness or waste of time elemi talked about mitzvah Hashem looks and he says those people happy that's generally a happy disposition positive optimistic faithful focused there's a minute great rabbits and great bottom and great Russia Yeshiva and great Sadiq and great Sid kanios they hear people's problems all day they have as much a reason as anyone else to feel down to be anxious they carry the weight of the world on their shoulders but the yushami says all week long that we get on Shabbos by unplugging and disconnecting the righteous live with even during the week they're disconnected and unplugged even during the week whatever they are on their shoulders whatever they are bearing and carrying the process there's a Hashem there's a reason a Davin poured out our heart and daviding but everything is for a reason and a purpose everything is good everything is right and righteous and therefore there's a minute and therefore Hashem can be present the smile recently I was an artistically interviewed robito he has a permanent smile on his face he's happy and positive and approaches the world through a positive demeanor disposition and Outlook and Outlook tonight Robert and I interviewed David sacks an Emmy award-winning Golden Globe award-winning writer in Hollywood became about chuva made enormous sacrifice incredibly inspiring individual teaches Torah classes he's got a smile on his face positive positive energy positive out look who doesn't want to hang none of us want to hang out with sad depressed phobicity and miserable complaining negative pessimistic people we don't want to hang out with them why would Hashem want to hang out with them so we have to be those people putting out that positive energy that calm energy that ability to process everything that's happening and to choose how we respond how it makes us feel to not let it derail us from our drive and ambition ultimately to practice the life of hasidos to not be satisfied with good but to strive for great have a great day stay happy stay healthy and stay healthy