Rabbi Eli Gewirtz - אידיש: הרב אלי געווירץ — #27:

Please welcome Mr. Eli Gewirtz Schlit. Um Brooklyn, Williamsburg specifically. Williamsburg. Yeah. Okay. Born in America? >> Yeah. Um And the the zaidy came from Radomsk. Poland. Poland. Okay. Yeah. And the other zaidy came from Lodz. Lodz. Um And the babas? >> The babas uh English. Uh from Tisulic. And that's where the baba was from. Okay. It's a mix of Polish and English. Yeah. And The way it used to be. Uh very very uh not chassidish, but not uh not litvish. Heimish. Okay. No. No. Is it I remember when the first You think when the first pizza shop opened? It was going to be a pizza shop. It was going to be on the line around in the block. Um hundreds of people. 25 cents. That's nice. Yeah. Wow. Mr. Goldstein. Yeah. Not Jerusalem, too. Not Jerusalem, too. No. Okay. Um In Williamsburg in in the Torah V'Daas. Yeah. Wilson Street, yeah. Okay. 206 Wilson Street. And I mean when 9 years old. I remember I think Yeah? >> Yeah. Yeah. The quality of your Yiddish life was the highest. Normal. Friendly. Everybody was everybody was equal. Yeah, there ain't no you know, there was there were no There were chassidim. It wasn't majority chassidim. Okay. Okay. Was okay with it? No. It's uh It's a Litvish blood. That's That was uh I'm going to name it every everything was good. Okay. What was the good tossed? In Yiddishkeit as it had not so. Uh It's I would have to say in the the kashrus. I would have to say in the mashgichim. What was it given? What was it tossed? The emphasis was given What was given? In the way it is. In the hearts. The pnimius? The pnimius. Yeah. Not not the chitzonius. Not not Halacha is given very very important. Like chashash shabbos not There wasn't a pressure. There wasn't a pressure that you have to fit into a certain box. Uh that's how it used to be. That's how it used to be. Pinkel chassidish. Normal. What can I say? With them together. With the shcheinim. Good morning. Good day. What are you doing? What are you doing all the time? Until now they say that the people in Williamsburg remember the olden days. Yeah, I have I took with me the class picture from Torah V'Daas the the from the first grade and the second grade. Well, I have to say getting a picture from from then. Mhm. Um I have a picture from from then. From then, yeah. And we used to go in when I was going to move but then I got out of it and went to Flatbush. Flatbush. Okay. From Flatbush? My old I didn't know the Flatbush. I mean they they had they had more than as the shkoyim came around to the to the neighborhood. But they didn't name that neighborhood. We were living on Hewes Street. Lynch Street is going to be a certain not shkoyim there. And it's it's going to be you know, not so safe. Um I mean it's the same type of thing with them. Uh the the neighbors were not safe. Not safe. >> Okay, Flatbush was better? Yeah. Yeah. I mean Flatbush is the same type of thing as it was here. We had We had the first sukkah on the block. First sukkah? First sukkah. 19th and and K. The first sukkah. What was What was the other thing? They weren't so friendly then. Uh-huh. A sukkah was something uh Uh you know, A similar as that there is a a Yid. >> Yeah. Okay, interesting. And we were going to learn in the other Torah V'Daas. Yeah. Yeah. I continued the Torah V'Daas in Williamsburg uh until until high school. High school I went to Torah V'Daas in Flatbush. Okay. And after that you must have gone to Israel. After that I went to Yeshiva Adelphia. Adelphia? Yeah. Okay. For 3 years. After that I went to Israel for 2 years. Where in Where in Israel? Uh Itri. Itri? Definitely Itri from I think the biggest next biggest for for Americans. It's going to be the 300 uh bochurim and young guys. But I had maybe maybe 100 Americans. And uh After them this After them there was a bit of machlokes. I don't know. In the Yeshiva? Uh in yeah. It's The the the all Americans have left. I I know that. I have gone to the I came to the the basement in the morning. And it's going to be a window. Yeah, came out the window. Window in the morning. Not Everyone ran away? Everyone ran away. What was the reason? I wasn't in the in the room. I wasn't I wasn't there. I heard it was something a Krieger I don't know. They were in the other Yeshiva. Let me have another quick break. But I want to thank the first sponsor of the episode Lelechos. Now there is a great war going on in the Middle East. Israel is involved. America is involved. Iran is involved. The United Arab Emirates is involved. But there are Yeshiva bochurim, seminary girls, couples who the man learns in kollel or the side who wants to dominate the Yeshiva in Israel and want to come back to come to America. A lot of people want to come to seek advice. There are a lot of people who want to push them out of Israel because of the war. Lelechos has charter flights available. 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To advertise on off 50 podcast call, text, or WhatsApp 718-395-3465. 718-395-3465. Okay, very funny. So um dating um on Rabbi at the camp my wife had my wife everything to get to get a wife about all American um Do you have a wife? You have a wife. uh the You have a wife. such young I have a girlfriend. And I I have my skin when I was learning with me. I think So bleiben dort, ne? Mhm. bis hast du ne Hast du ne mit dir? mit dir? Ja. And nach der ist es normal Ist noch der hast du mich hast du getauscht? Ja, ja. And the Sie ist gegangen Schwester hat in a nurse a nurse, yeah. in Shaare Zedek Hospital Sie ist Amerikaner? Sie ist Amerikaner They often gemacht Aliya. um 15 Jahre vor dem richtig gemacht. Sie ist aufgewachsen in Israel. Ja. That's right. And nach der hast du ne wir haben nicht gewohnt. uh Ich habe gemacht. Ja. Ja. uh erstens geblieben in Israel uh Ich gelernt in in in Mishkan Hatorah. um um Ich gewohnt Give it more time. Give it more time. Mhm. bleiben der Yeshiva Ja. Ich bin gegangen zu Shacharis weil mein Shabbos Ich bin gegangen am Shabbos. um nach dem um Ich habe gegangen zu By the way, wie soll ich machen das? Wieso kann man auf dem Shabbos? Also ich No. schreiben schreiben the Ich bin Araber, was ich geschrieben. Okay. um Was man nicht gekannt der darf ihn machen am Shabbos Wir können ihn Aber Wir haben nicht diskutiert weil weil es ist ein uh Es ist ein Refie Sache. Ja. Ich habe in der Job. Sie ist nicht in der Job gewesen. Ich verstehe. Ja. Aber Ich gewesen ein Driver. Ja. Was hat sie genommen zu Ja, ja. Ah, wow. uh Ja. Haben Sie da vorhin gelebt in der Ja, so sometimes sometimes Ich bin gegangen sometimes Ich bin gefahren mit Ich habe Ich habe gehabt a night shift Sie nicht gewohnt. Right. Ich habe gegangen in der Nacht. Verstehe. Okay, so back to us Ich habe mit uns gegangen in der Nacht. Ich bin ein Ich bin gegangen nach dem nach dem Ich habe uh uh gegangen zurück zu Amerika für Pesach nach der Pesach gegangen zu der Yeshiva wo wir haben gelernt in Philadelphia. Mhm. mit dem Ich bin gegangen für Purim. Okay. mit dem für Purim uh der Rosh Yeshiva hat mir gesagt Er hat mir gefragt Ich will dort kommen zu seiner am Lamed 10th grade Rabbi in die Yeshiva Ja. Okay. mit dem Tanzen mit dem Purim Ich muss da muss ich gehen schicken. um Ich habe nicht gehabt gerade. mit Ja. Ich gehe gekommen zurück zu Amerika mein mein mein That's it. You decided to go. Ja, ja, ja. Wie viel Jahre zurück ist gewesen? 1981 1981. Das ist 19 ja 2040 Jahre 1982 Ja, ich bin noch da. Ja. 40 Jahre zurück. Ja. Mama schon Mama schon hat das hat das Ich habe schon Purim. Ja. So it's really the anniversary. Exactly. Okay, so uh Wir sind gegangen zu Israel zu bringen dann die Sachen. Ja. Ja. um very quickly and I remember They wanted to split up a class. Es gewesen der 10th grade. Es war um zu teilen auf zwei auf zwei also Sie haben gesagt ein Rabbi no experience no the Also ich gefragt damals hat er gesagt ich will umziehen nach Amerika für gefragt also ich will bleiben in Israel. Ich habe damals gefragt also wir sind dort für für small time short period of time but but Ich habe nicht gefragt für acht Monate um That's it. Mein Koidel Mein Koidel Leben ist gewesen acht acht Monate. acht neun Monate Ja. Also ich habe gesagt dann habe ich ein bisschen länger. Ja. Aber Ich habe schon 40 Jahre Mhm. in Also ich gegangen ich gegangen wohnen in in Philadelphia. Ich gewohnt in Lakewood. Ich habe nicht gelernt in Lakewood. Es war in der Nacht ein bisschen Ich gelernt nicht geleiten BMG in in bis mich gewohnt ja. Aber gewohnt in Lakewood Ich bin gekommen mit Car jeden Tag zu zu Philadelphia. Wie lange ist gegangen mit Car? uh um 30 20 Minuten 25 Minuten Ja. Lakewood 45 Jahre zurück. Wie sieht das aus gewesen? Mhm. nicht das gleiche besser oder weniger different different um Wir können sagen was was ist besser es ist Es kann mehr Es sagt mir ein bisschen. mehr ein bisschen ja sicher sagt mir Wie viel Jahre gewohnt damals in Lakewood? I don't know numbers. Es ist ein klein ein klein klein klein aber nicht So different also der der Restaurant war sehr Sie haben ein Restaurant? Ja, Iron Horse Restaurant Iron Horse ist noch offen Es ist der Halster dort ne? on on Clifton? on Clifton, ja. Okay. uh Das gewesen der Gaps Team ist gewesen Halster ist jetzt Gaps Team hat Halster ist Ja, das ist der Bakery gewesen. Der Bakery aber ja Das war eigentlich gewesen der Gaps Team. So das gewesen. mehr ein bisschen mehr ein bisschen Okay. in welche Gegend Ich stand dort ich war in der Gegend von der Yeshiva. Ja. 7th and Madison 7th and Madison Das ist drei Blocks weg von der Yeshiva. Ja. 7th and Madison ist die Yeshiva. Ja. Okay. Ich muss jeden Tag kommen Philadelphia How was that? Wie ist gewesen der der Job? uh Ich habe nicht gedacht also ich war sein ein Rabbi. um ein Rabbi It's the wrong word. I'm a Lamed. Okay. um Aber der Rosh Yeshiva hat gesagt dass ich kann es tun. I gave it a try. um Es gewesen very very very good um Ich habe gesprochen mit den Bucherim. Ja. Ja. Ich sehe nicht die Bucherim hatten Sie haben Sie rufen mir Rabbi Really? Ja, ja, ja. Nice. Noch ein I had a lot of I had a lot of challenges. The reason the the the Siba war geteilt die Klasse Es gewesen ein bisschen mehr challenging etliche Bucherim kommen von von Deal von von andere Platz Es nicht gewesen perfect fit Wir haben gedacht zu teilen die Klasse. Sie ich habe gehabt Wir müssen der der ein bisschen schwache Kinder Die waren ein bisschen mehr difficult. Oh ja. Okay. Und ich habe gehabt mit der Sprache Ich habe gemacht der Sache mistakes. Hashem Ich gelernt der Sache. Sie Sie Ich gelernt von sehr Sache mehr. Aha. Ja. Was uh Wir suchen diese Sache. mit Talmud mit dem Koidel Was soll was kann man lernen von der Talmud Moshel? one lesson Was kann man lernen? What comes to mind is Liebschaft makes everything. Es um habe sie lieb kann alles über über kommen. alles Ja. uh It's an exaggeration but Ich gedenke wenn Ich habe es [laughter] I had no experience then. I'm learning. from my notebook and I wrote it on the blackboard with you know, the white I wrote it on the blackboard and I moved I became a spitball. of him pulling him. a spitball What's a spitball? What's a straw? Yeah. a straw a straw A straw is a straw. I'm sorry. It's my fault. Right? Okay. Let me get invited. I don't know if I'm saying it the right way. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. You ignored the whole thing. I ignored it. I ignored it. Yeah, I didn't notice it. And then a few days later I forgot the lesson well well In this the choir will This is the normal reaction. reaction This is a disgusting thing to do with you. I would say to the fact that Yeah. It's a beautiful story. Okay. Thank you. So These long mistakes I must have made in the yeshiva. This is not long. When this the end of the next year to the to term circle convention circle convention, okay. Yeah. I was very young. So you're 24 years old? Yeah. Wow. 24 I'm learning, yeah. I got some learning. And then by the time circle convention And After it was the sign a roof for the institute. for the institute Twin Rivers, New Jersey. Oh. The job I'm learning is an institute. Right? Oh. So then Perfect. Oh. You're the perfect person for the job. Okay. to Twin Rivers Just give him one It's going to be a cure for the Torah, a cure for day school. And and a shul, right? Um it's Twin Rivers. one man was a good friend I saw him learn from him, but when they became from they they moved out. Wow, this is schwer. Is it schwer? Okay. I Now I'm going to consider a little contradiction So I should go and come I should go and kill them then. I got two kids. I know it was Yeah, yeah. very close So But then what did you think? What wrong path? Yeah. Okay. I have to go >> [laughter] >> It is given at this Um no, I have to go back. I use my own judgment. Um Okay. I have to go back. I meant this is a lifetime. Right? Yeah, it's talking about it. >> [snorts] >> Um One day one day I'm going to have to move. But very special Listen to the fight. This is half a shul for Philadelphia. We found for Lakewood. We found for the last minute for Lakewood. Not far. Okay. I have to go to Philadelphia every morning. Except for Sunday. Yeah. I Um In in Twin Rivers it was Twin Shalom Terrace and going there. Wow. Yeah. I was young and dumb. Yeah. And you weren't dumb. This is a this is a conscious decision. They were there the right amount of time. Yeah. Um I became a call from Okay. And Okay. What was the job? So do they have a discovery program in Brooklyn? I said I can't from Twin Rivers to go and to move to Brooklyn. But Twin Rivers is a shiny place. It's shiny. pure and and and simple Okay. a normal life So do I have to go with him and give him free All right. I will I will When I Okay, yeah. I lost my train of thought, but I was I was not going to Brooklyn. Okay. I said This is Epis. Right? What's What's 15,000? The music is jobs. It changed it in the middle, but yeah. It was a younger Nachman in Jerusalem. Yeah. Yeah. Yes, but it's the same. 30 years old. Mm. 24. Yeah. 30 years old. That's right. I'm busy in the 30s like this year. Good night. Yeah. In the national day of but it is out in the city hall. We long for them. When did you leave Israel the first time? In in 1981. We long as you gave busy as you come off Nachman. 6 year. Hey, wait. It's the movie 6 year old No, no, no, no, no. No, no. First is Philadelphia. You live in Philadelphia? Yeah, yeah. Mr. You went to the hall in Philadelphia. You went to New Hempstead to Twin Rivers. So they have to have you later guys to Nachman in the city hall. Yeah. Okay. We will come to the most kind of um 3 or 4. 3 of mine. Yeah. Okay. So the guys in the Nachman in Jerusalem. Yeah. We in Haranof. Haranof. [snorts] Yeah. Okay. This is when it was the fourth world. The the um in case of an apartment in Okay. Um that uh we have to go to the city hall for over 45. Yeah, yeah. Number one thank you to the third sponsor of the episode Weber Tours. Second Pesach. As I mentioned we're not going to go home. So do I mention was lighter. Then they are planning to go and cancel the Nachman in the city hall. Personally, if someone is going to go to Pesach at this point we should come in does not look like Israel is going to be ready to take new people for Pesach. So as I mentioned if someone is going to go to Mexico or probably in Mexico. If you're looking for a place to go as Nachman place to go in for Pesach. Can come in Austria can extract to the beautiful Alps mountains. 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When the Nachman in the city hall bought the apartment or does No. I rented it out. I used to get it. I used to get it. Yeah. I used to get it. Yeah. But I took a year and then I was going to take too much of a headache. I have to get it. Okay. So what what you gave in the Nachman in the 3 year? If this is good or not good. I won't say it's going to be the best year in the city hall. It's going to be the best year. Yeah, no it's going to be good. It's going to be good. It happened with Nachman in the city hall. Come out the same too. The Shiva in the city hall. Yeah. Okay. Um I can list the Twin Rivers in the Nachman hall uh uh uh have a program. It's one wasn't called partners there. Got the Nachman program. Okay. You got to come in from Lakewood. Yeah, yeah and Tuesday night. You got to come from Lakewood to Twin Rivers. To Twin Rivers yeah yeah and Tuesday night. And some guy learned with the learned with with the with the locals. Yeah. And then he went to the Nachman hall. It's going to be It's going to be fine with two partners. And said Nachman as the free of the Karabi had had given services for the for the Nachman from from Lakewood. Um can you see the same thing Yeah. It's going to be two. It's going to be three. 10. 20. 20. 30. After two year. Uh Nachman came came came back. For a year Nachman Goldman said Rabbi uh why is this program only for for for men? It's crazy. What you gave Nachman in the and then what you gave Nachman for Nachman. For Nachman. Nachman. Yeah. No, then Nachman by by the year the the by the time of Nachman moved I swear 80 Nachman year year and week. Cars, vans year and year and week. Men have room the guys in the Nachman in the city hall in the Nachman in the city hall. Liberty. Okay. So as Nachman in the program in the city hall. No. Nachman in the Nachman hall. What What we we can bring to a higher level. Okay. Um Nachman manual for the for them as I got Nachman written. Over my job my job at the changed. In the city hall. It's Nachman in the city hall. It's Nachman in the Nachman hall. It's Nachman in the city hall. It's Nachman in the uh Dean. I don't know. Dean is like the head of the school. Yeah. Not not exactly assistant assistant to the to the person who's running to the Nachman hall of the Bais Medrash. Okay. Nachman in the Nachman hall. Assistant for the Nachman and yeah. And Nachman Nachman hall. A new opportunity. A new opportunity. What happened in the Nachman hall? Nachman came to make my my my mother uh nursing camp in us. Okay. For maybe 20 year. Okay. And then even though we moved there it's still the Nachman in the city hall came year and year and to camp in us. So um in summer Nachman in the city hall in the Nachman hall alone and then Nachman in the Nachman hall was the end of the summer. I have to go back to the city hall to America to stay and to say goodbye you know with family. To say goodbye to visit. Wrong word. To visit. To visit. Sorry. To visit with family. And and the Nachman in the city hall as um Rabbi Moshe Pasik Nachman said uh I heard it in the Bais Medrash in America. Still tell me say Rabbi Shaya Fishman Nachman uh will will Nachman Nachman hall. What? Okay. Nachman job to to to take the for day schools. Day schools have the Nachman day schools. It's a Nachman day school. But the elders are Nachman are Nachman. So the Nachman is Nachman. You have Nachman in the Nachman hall and the Nachman is Nachman. And the Nachman Nachman hall Nachman school. Yeah. Okay. This is very normal. Yes, the Nachman the Nachman in the city hall Nachman Nachman schools. Nachman a from the foundation to to make make program for the older Mhm. Okay. That's the job was to make programs for other programs budget for them and then given the I get what what can other programs and get held one end of the second was was was going in in the the programs is going races and I know from the local community in the in the day school with the older people in the school with mention from the community in other places and if from the places is going in market New Jersey and the principal had the program partners in Torah partners in Torah you know I think it's the name you know it's going to be a writing and it's going to be a article in the newspaper in Atlantic City newspaper about making partners in Torah and it's Weismann I want to steal the name I like it partners in Torah and so for sure and for them from the the yes so I moved so I moved back to America and we moved to Passaic Passaic and what you know I'm going to find a nice laugh in the living so Passaic was still living okay so so the while the while yeah it's kind of maybe there's a good opportunity coming this is not interesting for me well Zaytous Yaden actually but when there's coming a new opportunity I said yo it's good for me this might be something else the opportunity No this is not this might be something else the opportunity is not for them is given not good or or this is going to be something else or this might be something else push it given something else is given something else the whole other place I was as maybe something else is given something else I don't know what the other side is given given it sounds very firm about but it's weird given like maybe something else is given something else so this is given the opportunity to waxen for me to waxen okay makes sense in partners in Torah was something else something else is given something else I don't know what it will lead in me Torah and if the office of partners in Torah I'm willing to give to partners in Torah yes it's something else I don't know what it is given a phone number 800 study for two okay and something else yes Torah they will they want a little more if other basic little more about little bit more about something else something else is given something else push it something else is given something else kind of something else is given something else is given something else they will learn what the children learn in the day school so something else is given something else the children something else something else is given something else and they don't know something else is given something else what what the children what the children learn Mhm. 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It's a home amazing Essen. to South side So I'm got the best experience because you see makes amazing delicious unique creative smoky food. expanded seating look at the Pesach host to the backyard to the car South side has got you covered with all your pre Pesach takeout food needs. They have amazing amazing smoked food smoked meat. The best stuff. The phone number is 732-961-6126 I want southside.com 718-395-3465 Have you been involved in in therapy? Yeah. What kind of therapy? Um mostly uh marriage and family therapy. Okay. mostly Okay. And um Is on the side? On the side. Yeah. And um I hot a branch of schools counterforce Um This is um therapist in in in the yeshivas. They like in the therapist. Okay. And they they they uh encourage me to open up an office of private practice. It's love in our private practice in in Lakewood. Um So in the process it's I can say it is my courage is is is in is in marriage and in families. That's um Okay, so They what kind of mention came into the year for therapy? normal mention Doesn't mean anything to me. What is my normal what is my firm? Yeah. I What is my normal is is I have it not with with mention was had very severe personality disorders. I would just put it out there for now. Okay, so with him you normal mention was having was having to take a look at her problem. shown bias stick with anxiety um stress So We we live in difficult times. This is this is this is fair. And there's like it's those suck challenges in life. There's the more open-minded the therapy. Because you see they're more open-minded therapy. Yeah. Maybe the little fish in the ocean. suck me Really? I was not expecting that. This is not part-time. I would more than 50% of my own clients saying from the city show Kryzen. Yeah. That's why they come. Yeah. Okay. In in what like I would be a therapist can see in patterns and in themes and in in the worst suck mention was struggling with this suck mention. What is in the grossest issues you see? When you have me back and say say say none of the podcast Yeah. So okay, so you know what? Right. Let me explain it another way. What is in the bestest suck mention is in summer in in the marriages? What is in the I love the question. I love the question. The is it do a a commitment? It's with also having it. This is Well do come the problem. Mhm. I have suck your community. fire I have it for I have suck therapy was I? Yeah. Okay. The This is do apples can't compare it. So do a commitment. So do They will not They don't want to hurt the sweater People are suffering. But they're not Mhm. They they are stuck. Mhm. They are stuck. Other than the marriage That's all stuff. Mhm. Yiddish is great. So Okay. All right. Regular people. I don't know how to say this in English. I say it jokingly normal, but regular people. And But but it's right. The There's The is is gold. Even Even to do Most most times Even to do a problem Then they The the family unit is very strong. Okay. Very strong. Yes. Acceptance. Visit Look for acceptance in Yiddish. Acceptance. Most see opposite the other person. Writing is not the right word. Change. Yeah. Change. That part the husband and the wife. Yeah. Don't worry about it. Not so severe. Interesting. Bottom For sure the father has them. Communication is is a It's a big word. They have communication problems. What's my definition of problems? Have to break it down Acceptance. We Only men Mhm. Okay. Instead of Instead Yeah. Am I making sense? Yeah. So Not exactly. I I'm looking at the vibe. The vibe will the man and resistance a block Subconsciously, not consciously. She doesn't accept me. He doesn't accept me. Pretty. >> [snorts] >> You know. On time. Friendly, communicative. They're not natural. They're not natural communicators. So in the in the world it's called love languages. Okay. The five love languages. Amen. Um Okay. What is the love language from the from the second man? Right? The words of Words of affirmation. All right. Words of affirmation. Okay. As Leave him alone. Don't push him. Push him less. It's kept in his natural. accommodating but not ocean and dancing. Mhm. And he can learn what is the love language And Not yet. Physical touch. This is my love language. But It can say this is not the the actual. I don't understand. How do you how do you get there? Um Five to five weeks. Three weeks. in Florida. in person. Okay. I mean person in Passaic. Florida. Cleveland. I got a call from a neighbor from Florida. Um And Florida. For the first let me say in person. Okay. And In the in in the conversation is I see coming that that um the wife's love language love languages. Don't don't Don't think this is Okay, but but as my Russian for love languages. Um um Z I guess up the parallel is it was the home is is um um acts of service because there's a man for dealing but dealing What is my but dealing is but dealing we we have it but acts of service. What after what can I bring you can I gain we can I also help him what stuff do you what what can I like like like the don't worry I'll take care of the dishes. Right this is the acts of service massing from but dealing yeah. Okay. And Z at the suit as this was filled Z in in in Lebanon. And the man did not connect. When I look is a cheat and a cheat and Z is not the freedom. What is a cheat a cheat a sack and then the man left number 17 and then left number this is getting Shabbos I must have all this I clean the dishes I What what is for my life? Mhm. Mhm from the right and I will first time Z came is for now for now she was this is going this is looking I don't want to say too much never mind. >> [sighs] >> From from the from the um discussion I will first time as this is not received without What Z that mayor of the track way in five languages the most for her What is is physical touch. Hugging. Yeah hugging the nation. This is the most important thing to her. I was I was me at Z gift wrecked what's most important what is it going to do is the least important. I was a kid from from from a familiar with this is not as a broken steam. And she gave up. on hugging the nation Mhm. And for him It's your give it the world. Uh uh but for him it's going to be a person dish. Not not physical contact but such mayor And for Z touch had the mint such mayor and that means she would wasn't accepted as a birth He had him not going to him as a a person not for the physical mister That's This is not going to connect for Z. as She adapted to She adapted I don't know how to say adapt Z get touched. And the result was Z that the result is acts of service massing from but dealing. Uh-huh. It's it's not it's it's not the such listening. I think one of one of the things that I like to do I like to believe I believe as can T I will still be the good side is to listen it's a hidden how do you say listen also hidden. It's it's not the same side. I I I may head the sweater was was gay tone was What's really going on you go beneath the surface and you see oh okay. If you ask me first time you miss book of my Z came and What Z at the touch this is this is the other man I I can come out the other man I had Z uh wagon One is one is raw vulnerable What Z is and then adapted What is my adapted what is This is not the this is not the man this is what I can learn as we adapt the man for this the way how I have to be I have to behave I have to that was saying I saw you We adapt as to please that that's why the man Am I making sense? Mhm. um And I a man can gain come out the guns of Lebanon with the adapted self with while the raw natural vulnerable side is too scary. Yeah. as What Z I would [clears throat] and say any of the things that I would with mention is let's let's let's focus on being vulnerable let's let's see what what are we really feeling. No I believe not. Also mention something I I would say Mention something that What [clears throat] I feel they say I like it but What? Yeah. Ouch. Ouch. Yeah I mean I was an ouch man. The phone number is 605-477-1888 605-477-1888 body language the organ can say Yeah you're you're right. First I'm jumping in. The the answer is I can say what I think is to develop trust. Okay. Z that means trust I would say Z trust me not Right. And I say I I say I speak I have connect trust I can say something what what I trust. Mhm. Z say Ouch. And nothing to say again Z can connect. Not animal I would I would It's a sack man. Mhm. >> Yeah. And while the adapted personality is Z very very back when And you miss Z back when I connect back when And and Z track not Z Z wasting from the from the the raw uh Z from Z from them and then That was when midnight session We get to to vulnerable. Oh this is getting smoked. The the man was second result I said cheat acts of service for the wife. I would say my best result I would say result You don't feel good enough about yourself. I spend a lot of time to do such time not not such a time to do silence. I would not say not I can say from the bottom I can say I make with the lips. I can say You're not happy with yourself. Z feels not good enough. When I look silence not them them God the sack tennis for the wife I can say them I can say Z can connect. So we are so used to I can say now I feel I make acts of service for her. Not from better not not from what Z say what Z can say what Z can say in in in the in the in the chamber in the minute I can say I can say give me a good sniffer. >> [snorts] >> I can get smoked. Most of the time. So [laughter] Z say couples was coming around in Z and the man was again Z can have this is My biggest happiness. You graduated. I love I love I love I love telling them Z can make him in What? Yeah. Nobody has nobody has a perfect marriage. Can I say the the after marriage This is This is good. It had shown the tools we saw in the summer. Okay. Yeah this is I can say man I would say again therapy was a track now the therapist will not as much as I can hear the word. >> The therapist doesn't have my best interest in Every therapist Yeah, every therapist is vulnerable vulnerable for them. It's a bad therapist. Right. So do an incentive. Yeah. Okay. And an office. If if you let me mention They were getting the girls. Shaken. Mhm. We are so good with medicine. The the work They they took was This is like two more two more sessions and you're done. Interesting. This is the benchmark. That's the benchmark. You're not accomplishing and you feel the mission the great. A good applause. Now you have to work work that happens into you know, to separate and but the conscious is the flex. Is it is We are so so so so good with medicine. Be long we feel. Right. Right. It cost a lot of money. I charge the the rate they're going rate. Charge Okay. Right. Mhm. Come on. Very good conversation. I don't speak such good English but I'm trying. As we get as good. And then she took me back to people how much they charge. I'm going to say the price. Yeah. This is my this is my thing. I don't I don't think it's I don't think it's right for us. What? Making a price seem winding. Yeah, they will give a discount. Right. Right. No, I was just Let me ask you a question. Is that English? >> [laughter] >> If something is too too good price, means I have to have what's wrong with it. But but no. Okay. I think it's an old word. I'm continuing. Yeah. Um So do a song. Um Thought was was couples having a break. So then to integrate with them again. Mhm. We don't go into the break. It's not majority but this is Yeah. Okay. What is in five dry tips? The sign of this guy in this therapy. I would have a good best of the marriage. The team. You know, you have to prepare me for such questions. You can't ask me on the spot. Uh I think so is the the flag was just me afraid. What is good in their marriage? Mhm. Can I get them over the phone You know. Okay. What attracted you? The man and the Yeah. So any any say in the matter. So it's a nice over you know. Most of the time they say get to me this whatever. I said What is good nothing for you what is good with in the marriage? For what well I feel as focus is in the problem. This is I think what I see the best. But Yeah, I'm I'm shifting the the conversation a little bit maybe but to make it different to make it another point. Mention the action. This is our problem. Aha. They they wasting you know for for what they have problem. Mhm. So leave the team. It's the reason this is not the problem. It's doing another song. Well it's good that with with the shining get with the roof. She get with the dying. Yeah, dying is good. And the first time all this What can I do with them? I will do the same thing. But the wife said The wife said You lost the lotion. You can't you can't use lotion. You know why? Because this is not the problem. The problem is something else. And you open up the mind to think oh You have a good point. The problem is just the validation so they come to the doctor. Changes. It it takes the the the pressure away. I don't remember the question you asked me before now. I just asked you about tips for marriage. Tips, okay. So focusing focusing on on on on the good things. Um I don't know I don't know I don't private things. private things with with um with the wedding. Mhm. It's it's not a good thing. And Be very careful. So We don't say get trust. Yeah, they don't have have someone that they trust. It's It can be your a friend. But trust is What I'm going to tell you is is like the confidence is do a hundred percent. So it Mhm. Should I tell them is going to be my office? Don't you miss them? Don't you miss them? Right. Forget about them. This is not They're both They're both with trust. Not not We don't go into the therapy. Not every problem is a serious problem. Not not not every person can go into the therapy. But not every person can go into the therapy. Not every marriage not every problem is a serious problem. But some people mention they they blow it out of proportion and oh this oh but and they start telling the other people this is a problem. Mhm. This is a betrayal of trust. But the second partner the man and the woman knows as what they are talking about private things. with the husband or with the sister or whatever. Very destructive. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Big problem. Um I was telling as this is really cancer. You got to name them better. We name them for hours. How long did it take? Okay, good. 2012. 2000 Yeah. >> [snorts] >> Um I I go to the doctor pain. Um the doctor told me exactly this is not this is going to eat. I couldn't take it again and then to the same doctor I left and then I was I'm going to get the doctor a bit at this given the deal. The Russian business as all I skin. Um, I was also listening to them. Yeah. When I can give this is given very close. Uh-huh. >> get to to to Sloan Kettering. Um. And and um, yeah. This is my patient. Cancer. Um, this going away. Um. She had got got cancer for them. Pardon? Pardon. Okay. She get ended. All the treatments. Look then a hobby or you are getting finished. Look then Yeah. So it was my turn. Wow. Yeah. Wow. I couldn't go to the I minute. I was actually out. So I took it again again. I have my life. I've been I was out. I have my life. What's what's the main lesson you have given from the experience? Well, being put on the spot like that. >> [snorts] >> It's going to sound very cliche. I don't know. I must be something. You have the minute. It's worth it. Mhm. Um. You have the relationship is worth it. We spoke is gold. You have the minute. Yeah. >> [sighs and gasps] >> Physical. I have I have to do so much medicine, so much treatments. I have to go and say that I have to go and say that organizations when which doctor means to go. Um. Confidence. As as my heart I get the attitude. They can they can live. Don't don't be a victim. Like don't make the whole world you know, feel bad for you. Everyone wants everyone wants to talk to you. Everyone wants to wants to help. But but you be my husband other people. Really? I Yeah. If somebody says thank you if somebody says feel shy llama people don't know what to say. Yeah, what was that what happened to them? What's meant to get is better. No. So that is dimension. Don't ignore them. Mhm. Yeah. I said yes I have to go to the you know um I was in the garden ball. Right? And and people feel very people mention feeling like scared is is it was very scary. Right? The kind of McKenzie um I as my advice as mentioned wasting mention um It's not a word I want to say. As I wasting what to do. Help sales. Say thank you for caring. How's your day going? What's going on by you? Right? I don't It's dimension with I come they my husband given well well I when I was going through what I went through. But um I got to stop. Can you guys have alternative doctors? Makes I believe in alternative medicine. But not not T was the the the the normal the regular treatments are. T you want to do alternative? T is T is all good. But the answer can can I go cooking? The doctor the doctor with them but they they they didn't view them. But but they didn't they didn't uh I have to claim that they are going to get the slick on and the attitude that they is I'm going to I'm going to be going to get better. Wow. How's the weather today? Not easy. I have no I I have to do the research but my as I attitude that the such a thing with the review. Okay. And often often other mention. Yeah. I think I put you to take over came in a call I know from uh I must get out of YouTube subscribers. Then it's good good religious connected to the sky but as I can is going to diagnose with that I should have my hands on the world that this um I didn't see it to a rabbi. Get some guidance over grief and then I don't but I will be. And then I can get out of a series the survivor. I got to help we connected with you. I don't know if you remember but you didn't thank you. I was in the square. That's kind of water and then I can hear what I get to say for class. So thank you for your service. That's the second of the team that I was done living and we're excited to see what's next. It's very uh It's very good to be in the company of somebody who has such a harsh voice on people. What say to us we we you say to us to say to them from a friend of mine. From not my friend of mine but I see this man. The guy told him it's not >> It's not a secret. What? It's not a secret. I also say to them I also say to them. But but you have you have so much influence and impact. And the voice not the voice not the impact was was it what the voice not. Mention mention Yeah. Mention can I ask? 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