Tanya By Rabbi Yitzchok Minkowicz Chapter 32 Joy from your Soul will create real Love

we are studying chapter 32 and Tania Perry glamour days now any time you mentioned someone para Klamath Basin Tonya the 30 second chapter Tonya they get excited because we know that paraglide bays is two letters la mid bass which spells 32 which lammeter's 30 bases to which is 32 but la mid bass together also makes a word and the word that llama base makes is lame heart so we call this the heart of the Tonya so today we're going to be learning the heart of the Tonya what is the heart of the Tanya what does dr. speak out in this chapter he speaks about the mitzva of the hafta lorae acha acha mocha which means that there's a biblical commandment and the biblical commandment is to love your fellow like yourself and here the altar puts down a fascinating simple tool how you can have a phenomenal great relationships in other words one of the most important things in life is having good relationships a matter of fact relationships are more important than food because a person has good friends and good relationships you feel great you think great you speak great you act great etc when somebody doesn't have good relationships and doesn't get along people they don't feel good so everything that you eat don't even process properly within you however when you do feel great and you getting along people guess what you can eat a lot and it just you know goes right through you because you're not busy holding on to the stuff so relationships is very very important so relation is important for two reasons number one is it's a biblical commandment which has be a half-dollar Erica mocha that we have a biblical commandment it's not as suggested by the we know although the right to do the 613 commandments are not suggestions their Commandments God is commanding us to love your fellow just like you love yourself so we're dealing with a biblical commandment so that's in itself a reason why you should love another person and more importantly I mean just as important as we discussed before and when a person has true loving relationships you're in a good place your friend is in a good place and um and life is great life is wonderful so this chapter is about loving relationships now we all want lovely relationships and we're all going to achieve rubbing relationships and the question is how do we achieve these loving relationships so this chapter actually the author of aces a simple technique how you can have relevant relationships based on our conversation has been going on already since chapter 26 so in starting in chapter 26 the algebra starts or director starts discussing about the importance hi welcome welcome about the importance of being happy a Jew has to be happy everyone's to be happy but you have to be happy if you want to have a relationship with God you got to be happy and if you're happy life will be great if God forbid you're not happy you're gonna have a lot a lot of issues a lot a lot of problems so he starts that off in chapter 26 and he goes into it in depth in 27 and 28 all the different levels of simcha hi welcome perfect time you don't have a seat the different we're having the tiny class and afters we go to jail I thank you thank you so all the importance about having some car the obstacles with some car 26 27 28 29 and 30 he deals with why I was on a person basically is not in a great mood and things aren't working so doctor explains there that you have to address the enemy as we discussed you go back and listen to the classes on trap 29 30 now you have to address the enemy the enemies of keeping them which is really boils down to your body your animal soul now after the author gives rekha good like you know a beating or bc puts down so to speak the animal soul and and the end the body that we have so in chapter 31 he has to wake us up again has to revive us and he says in chapter 31 even though you know the body and the animal soul it is a challenging problematic but a person has to remember that you after all said and done a person I'm chapter 31 he finishes off and saying that a person has to be happy nevertheless why because the reality each having a shaman we each have a soul and a joy has to come from on a summer from our soul this chapter the alterik begins in continuation 2074 about it even though that we obviously don't have to put the no we should not put our animal soul in our body in a high level because obvious that's the cause for our melancholy and all our sadness but in this chat but we been this chapter comes along and says that when a person will have joy joy as discussed in chapter 31 what kind of joy joy that is rooted we're in your godly soul in your neshama when a person has joy that's coming not from physical things but coming from spiritual things then you'll be able to have great loving relationships that is the premise that the algebra puts down the beginning of the chapter i'm going to go in to explain so again the key the message the opera's giving you in this chapter is that if your joy is rooted in your godly soul you'll have great love and relationships so to work backwards if you want to have great loving relationships what do you need to do make sure that you have some huh what kind of similar not similar that's coming from something external or something materialistic come welcome have a seat on the is there okay this is seriously way there when she comes um what your gums um traveling okay that's fine oh she's on the way alright so the the when a person so it knows when a person basically the person wants loving relationships make sure that you're happy from your joyful from weird from a godly and spirituals perspective god forbid from a animalistic perspective and the outer explained as follows what is the reason he says like this because if you have a joy again what the goal is what's the goal to have loving relationships that's the goal the after the race come over to have loving relationships now the way to get there what the optimist say how do you get there by being happy but happy from a soul perspective why so how to explain as follows because if a person is happy from physical things for materialistic things from animalistic things so that joy changes notice for example today you like this and tomorrow you don't like it's a physical thing today it's there tomorrow it's not there also so a it's changes and be its external so therefore the joy is not consistent and it's not persistent and if the joy is not going to be there you're not gonna have to get along with other people because today you like to share the person's wearing and tomorrow you don't like it today you like what's written on there it's all you don't like what's written on there things change things change what happens if the love is based on joy it kind from the soul so then if the joy is coming from the neshamah from the soul there's the soul change no no the shoulders and change not only doesn't change with the souls internal so if the soul doesn't change and the souls internal so then what happens then the joy can be infinite now the realities doctor says when a person loves oneself do you love yourself based on the way you behave that day Oh based on the color shirt you're wearing or the letters on the shirt no you love yourself just because it's called intrinsic love for yourself for no reason exactly now therefore so high so because you love yourself not for a physical reason not for a real that's fleeting so that love is infinite now because that love is infinite dear for is it so the joy the joys come from spear and therefore the love is going to be a deep deep powerful love so comes along the utter total in the Torah says we have the rare car you should love your foot your fellow just like yourselves just let yourselves the commandment is love somebody else like yourself what does that mean love somebody else for yourselves so just like you love yourself why for no reason for no reason that's the same way you should love somebody else so the author who says how's that possible I'm me and you're you and therefore how can I love myself like you love yourself and the author is very simple again why what differentiates me and you what the french rates one person from the other is one simple thing our physical bodies we know God made everybody but he made everyone with a unique body side everyone has a unique stamp not only body we took in the physical Corp but also the things that you have and the things that you do physical things materialistic things where you are where you're not and so on and so forth you're not a friend that you grew up with them and then they move away so even though you really love the person but you don't you don't really do things the same things together so the love naturally stays away because it's not active I mean obviously it's still friends but it's not an act of friendship so the optimum says if the relationship is based on physical thing what happens sometimes y'all high sometimes you have lows so you're not so therefore you if it now but what happens if the somewhat physical things materials things are important the relationships aren't going to be strong in order for relationships to be strong what has to happen is the souls have to have to connect and means that you have to love the person and you have why because of the person's soul because of the person's neshama now if you love the person because of their soul your soul is spiritual connected to God the infinite God the other person's soul is ritual connected the infinite God and therefore you always connected you always connected whether you person is the year not the air and the person says what you want to hear it doesn't say what you want to hear there's a soul connection is that because the soul connection is nothing that can add or take away from the relationship right it's rich one now so if you're what would you value is spiritual things now you can have a real relationship if what you value as physical things ain't gonna be deep and you knock you up and really fulfill that commandment but now the Ottawa says okay let's say fine i'm not going to focus on our physical materialistic connection because that's external that changes but i'm going to focus on my golly no- summer my soul the Alturas says one second a person can say once you know what true I have a godly soul you have a godly soul but my godly soul is better than your Valley soul right I'm a higher level than summer than you right I have a higher level trouble oh very good you got it in other words in the soul world I can say that my soul I mean present company excluded we give you an example one can say my soul is better in your soul my soul's on a higher level in your solo I'm going to lower lever soul therefore now ready you're not seeing I time if you're the same level we see I toy but if I'm higher then I'll your lower or I'm lowering your higher guess what with there's not going to have true love there how's that going to work so the author explains three different levels why that's false and he explains his followers and the optimist says the premise is that all souls are 13 levels number one he says as follows the fact is i'm going to start from the lowest to the highest now again we talk about spirituality we all know lower and higher doesn't mean physically lower and physically higher we're talking about spiritually lower and spiritually higher spiritual 0 means less godliness and spiritually higher means more values so you start off like this the reality is that God is infinite God's infinite the infinite God put in each and every one of us you can relate to to you know chip and a computer and a phone right that's the blankie Manning in the phone it's like big thing what makes it work this little chip right and it's amazing you can call the whole world from there right that's very powerful we each have a little chip within us what is that a godly spark we all have it we all have a godly soul and that's our life force Gotham in that leaves that's already you know time for burial that's when the soul ease that's when life is over now so we all have a godly soul within us now this godly saw that we have within us that gives us our life force where's that come from it comes from God now that soul that I have you have he has she has it's all part from God now there's three ways you can look and the author explains the three ways you can look at that you know and the connection of each hole one way you can look at it that God went ahead it's like almost and I hate to use an example but I have to use an example so you can relate their I'm saying you guys we have like you see making challah for shabbos a lot of you ladies are you doing colorful shabbos so we take the flour and the water right and the eggs and whatever the result whatever you put a yeast and you mix it up right you make this huge big door it rises you have this big doll now the reality is you can take the whole big dough and put it into the oven I see a lot of laser laughing because you may make column before right you paid money you can have one big color you need to have many columns of strawberries Friday nights or shabbos finish on the shoulders right you need to cut you need many colors so what do you do you take over piece of though we having to take over peace in your burning that's the myth so holla but you take a piece and you put into this kala pani putting this collar pan and this compound and all something from a big ball of dough or bike to a big ball of dough you can walk out with the depending on big the sides the pans are let's see you walk out from Team six and eight houses you walk out one second Shh you have six or eight collars six or eight collars now the reality is you go and you bake the hollows you make the collars and it comes up to you and you egg it afterwards it's beautiful colors right so now you have a call us now the reality is is this really a collar or it's one big color it's one big hollow very good you guys very smart you're paying attention it's one big collar that was subdivided into eight but it's considered really legally eight colors because for left four lakh Commissioner to in order to make a blessing you need to if it was one so how I got say hey this is the one right but their house once you separate it it's technically two up to the point you can actually make the blessing and the next day it's like the next day of a half or part of the big bowl it's legally considered to where you can make the blessing the next morning and you eat your solve sure this whatever you eat the holiday or if you need some love monkey you need a hole cut whatever you need a collar you have a holics in a row now the reality is it's technically eight different colors but in the source was it 801 here's one big one you went and divided it and bake that now you have eight so again I don't hate use this example I want you to comprehend what I'm saying the same thing also we each have godly so like was one big godly soul and God put a little piece I was like the challah into a pan he put a little piece of dough into each and every one of us he put a little rubber and each other all of us now the reality is that let's go back to the answer you the color right so you made eight Carlos now some people make and which is actually a custom according to Allah Haq is it by but you need different sizes for at night and my de-emphasis also this there's different sizes that you need you did the you need to decide the any different size of color right now so the reality is you have different sizes of color so you see this is a big collar and this is a small color right now in reality if you took a tape measure and you measured it right this is a little two more inches too much less inches there's a little bigger a little smaller but the reality if I ask you yes just like technically it's to house you can make a blessing la commissioner and technically it's an inch longer and it's shorter you can say this big in a smaller but the reality is could you say that one kyle is really bigger than the other one spiritually no cuz you need a collar but you need a collar two cars to make luck on this one thing you need to cause they are there you go the case the same they taste is very good at counting that's a woman talking our life it they taste that's all the time they taste the same they taste the same and you can use a falafel motion etc now what happens is could you say that one caller is more important than the other one no why because you need a whole collar if you had a huge collar but a big piece was broken off and even when it was broken off we're still bigger than the other ones could that count of luck on the snow unless you didn't have any other but legally no you need a complete color so the point is the fact that a challah is bigger doesn't make it better than the other collar the quantitative bigger doesn't make it better than the one that's quantitatively smaller they all come from the same place it take like you said it tastes the same it smells the same it feels the same the size doesn't make it any taste any better look any better or any holier it doesn't so in other words so the altima says and this is the word he used up healthy on hebron i'll translate me your they are who knows which one is greater than the other so you're coming along you're saying you know what I value the soul relationship but I have a feeling I have a higher level than you really we come from the same piece of dough my dear friends cover the same visa though saying these are though so how do you come along and and maybe you're right maybe you do certain mitzvos more right but guess what we come from the same piece of though well I had the same soul as you may be for you like we discussed before in different chapter and tanya it's easier for me it's harder and maybe because I have to work hard or actually my soul's maybe bigger I you didn't think of that so you start want to stop measuring there's a whole different way to measure so therefore the doctor was saying is nobody at the outer of a sentence I mean we can argue it out there we starting his Tanya we can start our your Delta River I mean this is based on Kabbalah could we could we come along and say I know that my soul's bigger than your soul better than your soul doctors no you cannot say that me idea who knows how do you know you're coming over for the same place how do you know which ones bigger than the other so that from the lowest perspective where persons guess what I did more mitzvos today okay but who's who says who says that that that but that you put in more effort than me to do my one Mitzvah because we're dealing with spirituality just because let's see somebody did ten meters today and one person did one Mitzvah maybe for that one person that one Mitzvah was actually harder for him to do then you're ten mitzman so maybe he's in a higher level you know the author is saying is in physicality you could say yeah this is 2 inches more 2 inches less right but in spirituality how are you measuring you don't need more components throughout to measure effort ability environment upbringing natural tendency and so on and so forth challenges tests I mean if so many components are going to do a mitzvah and to stop you from doing a mitzvah so the first thing that says don't try to say your beta and someone else that's love a number one love of them to the altar says the truth is cool on Masey Mase it's all equal it's all equal the fact that your seat why it's all equal because the realities were all coming from the same go if we're all coming from the same God it's all equal it's nobody has a bigger a smaller soul which all equal so if since it's all equal roll one on a higher level doubt if it comes along and says not only that we don't know which one is higher or we're actually they're all equal doctors very simple I've echoed Tlakula know we all have one father so you're coming on saying oh I'm a higher level than you who's your father who's my father same father how we better how are you how you how you better it's all one it's all one so in other words so based on this doctor says if a person really focuses on the golly soul not understand down on those animals on his body so what happens now is will equal role one once we're all one what happens we can get along who can we get along with we can get along with everybody we can there's no reason in the world you cannot get along with anybody is there a logical reason why no attempt if I feel I'm better or I'm worse than somebody else we're not seeing eye to eye so it's hard to get along I can feel like I'm inferior I can feel like I'm superior but here again the outdoors has a premise we're not dealing with people that make the body more important materialism and physical things if then then you're right you're not going to get along but anytime a person says you know what materialism physicality staff is not important to me you know it's important to me my godly soul once you say that then automatically you can get along with everybody everyone is the same father on the highest level I Louis lava okay we're equal maybe you know we split up different different loaves of bread right the different Souls and different bodies but equal and even if you think that you're better who how you to judge how do you know it's better maybe it's actually worse you don't know so since you don't know let's assume that it's equal why assume that's that's that's not the same level now in other words so once a person gets this now the mindset has to be is everyone's equal once the mindset that everyone is equal you're welcome to see once the mindset say equal so now the question is you know why is it that certain people feel that other there's more superior than other people so it's interesting is that you know we said it says that the you know it says low Hamid Russia Iker ela mysa you know the metros not the most important important thing is the action that's a simple translation we know that there's another translation that not the medicine unimportant l Hamas of the story stories are very important for stories drive things home so the story told that someone once came to the previous robot maturity and accepted each round robin has a question for you commuter guy someone that you know felt like he had a high soul level and he was observing the lubavitcher rebbe and he noticed a unique and him it was a strange phenomena that the previous Robbie would be extremely nice to everybody and I say everybody I mean everybody it means to holy people he was nice to assemble people and even sinners people that were sinning people that there was nothing desecrating the Shabbat or not the keeping family purity or kosher whatever maybe we are they like this too it is there's been many many the this 365 negative commandment so they were selling but the the previous Robbie was nice to everybody she said Rebbe how can you be nice to all these people are sinners and he even he was a town tomm music scholar just but even they called the Jewish law there is some laws that people that you know rebelled against God and you know you got supposed to reach out to them so much so the preview chardon told him like this that you know in according to Jewish law there's four sections to record the Jewish law first section which is pretty big the second the third the fourth and this law that you're saying where the code of Jewish law speaks are people that are sinning whether you should be friendly me shouldn't befriend them it's complicated laws but this legal issue Hologic issue at to the end of the fourth value Oh tail end say except let me ask you a question looks like this this hotness Jewish law is bothering you a lot but how come all the laws up until this one doesn't bother you so much there's plenty of other laws that you can you can you can work on right the one that's bothering is all the way at the end I you what was opposed to previous started trying to tell him what's really bothering you is it bothering you that the relationship with God is bothering you or by relationship by God is not so great or is it bothering that someone's being helped because if it's bothering the relationship with god there's so many other how the whole that you can deal with it that how much before that or like the Atomics addict who's the third club on Robbie so he brought he there's a mystical teachings if one famous book of his called derrickman sauce echo and and he goes through several mitzvahs and explains it k ballistically and he has in the one of the mitzvot that's called loss of roh you shouldn't burn fire now we know fire the physical fire fire you shouldn't write this physical fire but then we know that there that we know that this five spiritual fire what's four and it says low survive earn fire obviously on Shabbat right so but this spiritual I what spiritual fire who knows what's fire that applies to each every one of us passion is passion that fire huh anger Oh angers fire when first gets angry all right so he speaks over there about someone someone but anger and how the mead of of anger of Cass is a terrible terrible attribute and that's matter of fact that it's brought them out into autumn and tongue even explain so when someone gets angry it's just like you worshipping idols pretty heavy so he writes there that what happens if somebody is very very angry why is he angry because that person is sinning so the question is the author the terminal exercise is this / anger coming from a good place or a bad place and the art and the synthetic says I mean he's a great round but you're saying then he's okay powerful you were being spiritually said I can guarantee you it's not coming from a holy place why very simple because if he's so angry why'd he angry is he angry because again back to the same concept because about the relationship with God is it bothering him that God is not felt God's presence not being felt that missiles aren't being done and or if that's the case how come the only thing that's bothering him is the other guy since there's so many myths vote that you can be so angry that you're not doing and what we all doing every single moment we're fulfilling every one of its always studying or praying and we're doing obvious troll and we're helping people and and they didn't stop even charity to so much you can do believe in you can fit building from the morning tonight without a minute to rest in doing miss phones and praying and studying etc but what do you bit what are you angry about that person says first oh it's not yours or someone else's sins and the crap you really bothers you about if it bothers you about God's why isn't everything else bother you and this is the only thing that's bothering you obviously it's not coming from holy place so in other words you see clearly that when someone else sins bother you you have to really ask yourself is that the other person sins is the sins against God that's bothering you or it's your own anger that you're you're you're choosing to let out in this person in other words because the optimist has very very clearly in this chapter and tanya's follows that there is only time you can really be upset up someone that is not serving God number one is there's a lot of conditions number one is the person has to be a friend of yours now what means a friend of yours a friend of yours in torah and mitzvot so when you study Torah with someone that you do my throat with someone and you're on your par with you and you sat down and you had a chat with him out of love and after you had a chat with him out of love he's still transgressing so then you could be upsetting him but the reality is first finger hard it is the guy has to be in your level someone thats you know really compassionate about something tal rendering its wrote and said write some of the same levels you and you sat down had a chat with him a heart to heart and he's still not eastover is still transgressing the realities we all know there's a rule a Kabbalistic rule kamayan happen email Ponemah that the face that you show in the water that's the face you get back so we all know somebody a friend of yours is not behaving not doing the right thing if you came from sincerely and open your heart a listen you know what's going on he would cheer with you what's going on and guess what he would stop doing what he's doing so the reality is he still doing it the question you really really rebuke them out of love that you really have a conversation with him so it's very rear for a person to have a legal right to be upset about someone that's not doing that's not that's not doing the right thing in other words like this the the author goes even deeper nice as follows someone that is a someone that considers himself hey he's upset with someone who's not starting torrenting exponent so obviously what you're really saying is I'm this holy jus right now if you are this holy jus so the rule is that if you really consider yourself a wholly human being and a godly human being so your unintentional sins because you're such a holy person are considered as their intentional someone that is considered a high level your unintentional listen to this your unintentional sins are can say get upgraded in it right for responsibility purposes if you did an intentional center so since your own intentions get upgrades an intentional you got to be careful that make sure that you're really not even doing something unintentional because you're your judge in a higher bar anyone else that's not so to speak at a high level their intentional sins that means they intentionally let's say desecrate the Shabbat or 89 culture and again sign of the son of reason to God fer do this but a person intentionally did because they never had an education they just never had an education they never knew that you're you're now under for example do certain things in Shabbat they never knew this was for example isn't kosher so they intentionally ate that a desecrated but they didn't they really didn't know we consider it as we upgrade their in a positive way that we consider as an unintentional sin so therefore therefore when if you see another person not a bit doing something wrong so the optimum says it's very simple what you're you need to do is you need to love the person even in a case we said where it's a friend then you rebuked him and even over there were you a lot of be upset of him only upset not at him at the sin that he's doing but you still have to love him as a human being another one on the country as a human being as in total you personally have to have full of for the person you know as the optimist is like this very simple our goal in life what's our goal in life we all have a vision and a mission what's a Jew's goal in life the jewels go a Jew's goal in life is that God should be felt in this world God's presence should be drawn down to this world God we felt in this world and obviously to do Torah mitzvahs and elevate the for the world so we want to draw God's lock down into the materialistic world and we want to elevate the physical world which is technically doing the same thing but coming from two different angles so if we hit it by drawing down right we study Torah we do mix for withdrawing God's light into the world we pray and certainly throw that we do we elevate God we relevant we elevate the materialistic physical world right now in order in order to do so what are we trying to were trying to make God felt in this world now the realities we know that in the temple when you want to bring a sacrifice those rules God made rules about the sacrifices one of the rules of God made about the sacrifices that you cannot bring a sacrifice that what that has a blemish why because holiness needs a proper a complete cabeza the vessel has to be wholly the sacrifice has to be complete god it's God he created the world you gonna go bring him a something that's broken something as blemish there has to be complete now so the altima says we have to if you want to draw a gone down to this world how can we draw a garden to this world the world has to be complete what makes the world complete you ready for this what we say before what we say before we all come from one dough right putting the different color pants correct but your reality even though it's technically in different pans everyone has in their body but really we're all one really well one we all go back to the original double we all go back to our original source what happens if you make you were you're not friendly with somebody you don't get along with somebody you know what happens now you're not allowing the dough to click in its source when you get along so even in the physical world this is here this is here but in the spiritual world as long as you get along what happens everything is connected but let's say you don't like this person or you hate this person or whether you feel like you're in a higher or lower level irrelevant so that those aren't connecting so therefore could God come and dwell in a world that's not complete no so in other we don't we don't have real unity we don't have real unity what happens God can't rest here and that's why which says if someone doesn't have a videsh well it's a it's a he's missing the main part of Torah why because what's the whole essence of the Torah if you think about what you had to sum up the essence the essence of the whole Torah and the essence of oldham its vote and the essence of all the prayer what's the goal what's the vision true that's true huh sim flat feel oneness with everyone the purpose you ready for this again it's cracked what you're saying but I want to get to one main main point and whatever you're saying you'll see will connect there the main point of studying Torah praying and doing this vote it's do one thing what is that to elevate the soul over the body think about it we are a divided people by default with physical people I'm here you're there I want this you want that now in a divided nation is God rest no you need unity how are you going to create unity so the way we create unity is by making the soul more important in the body once you make the soul more important than the body what happens now we become a united people everyone gets united so in other words so basically since the purpose of the whole Torah and the whole Mitzvah is what unity to elevate the soul over the body so the person doesn't have obviously soil a person doesn't love another young being he is stopping the vision and the mission of God telev ate the world because there's no way you can elevate it when you're isolated are you trying to isolate someone else so in other words the optimist is very very simple how does one go about doing that practically and here is the key thing and you walk away from the class this one key point this will literally hopefully change your life and change all your relationships the optimist says the reality is if God is really really one right remember the analogy you want baldo if God is one so why do we make a call us if you need colorful Chavez right while you just take the big bowl right the mixing bowl stick it into the oven right and you come out a nice big hole i'm not that internally baked it's maybe two very good tapley birth in some of the other raw but why we take the whole bowl into the oven right whatever it takes to save another time table ladies don't figure out how to bake it and you take it out and you put down the big bowl Friday night everyone eats as much cause they want it's the shabbos you everyone takes some collar they want if you eat solid sure this I'm not my love market what are you four divided up for the house look yet a unified bowl are you gonna find more and you went in you split it up into all these scholars why do you do that and on the same idea with God was one godly infinite soul and he takes a piece into me and a piece into you Winterhaven her why do you do that is doing it's like hello you want this to be unified see we should have kept this unified we were unified you break us up stick us into all these different bodies and he tells be unified hello you're the one that messed it all up it's God's fault right now we have some of the blame right we have some of the blame it's gospel you wanted unit eats while you split us up you split us up so why why not you want unity and you can't make up your mind right what it's like what do you want right so this is a good question yes you want an answer to yeah I know Emily always wants the answer so the autumn says very very simple very simple net and then as follows because when we were in one big bowl what we see one ball one ball but the reality is because God is infinite do you think there's one caller there there's so many special collars in that bowl but if we keep you in the same Bowl there's nothing you're not going to see anything special gives you on McCulloh people grab a piece at night but they nothing special but when you take the bowl holla you make different colors so now everyone is unique this one is the taller and this one's shorter you know college commodity on the same right one is taller one shorter one is wider 11 is a little more shinier every caller has every caller has its unique feature every caller take next thing you get collars do a meditation and start looking at each caller you tell me if you're gonna find and there's no way to the same it's impossible everyone is unique right so doing after you bake the collets you give me an explanation of the holiday giving right after it comes out of the oven you have the a college there you can do friday under maybe and take them out and start looking at each one and you will I guarantee if you look and you look the goal of the meditation is to find the uniqueness in each caller and you'll see oh this one is longer this one's a little taller this one is a wider this one actually thought more fluffy or write it sometimes but the egg is more shinier this one I sesame seeds poppy seeds raises her but the point is every hollis unique every Collins unique now so if one color columns talk by the way so one caller says I'm better than everybody I'm better than everybody no that's not going to work the others haven't been in before the other fighting and they'll break the house apart right so the way the way it's supposed to work is it supposed to find the uniqueness in each shower now when you when you find in a unique least in each caller what you're really saying is the truth is we really want the reason why I separated you because I wanted you to have your unique feature and you're going to stand out because you're taller you're shorter you're whiter etc and that's the same one got it God took there's one big Ollie soul and put in every person a piece of God why'd he do that he did that because there's something unique in every soul so in other words it's very very deep simple but very important every single human being has something unique that only you have the person the other person that's not read what you have and the other person has something which he has and you don't have so in other words we were divided not because we're supposed to be divided we divide to bring up uniqueness so if you go ahead and you say oh I see this person what's unique about this person and you identify it whether you say it do you think it's irrelevant and you really now what happens now you appreciate this human being because God put this unique human being and actually you got along with the person the person the person looks you goes woo you put in the world because you have this unique feature now how do you look at this person wow there's something special right every every every person has a unique shine and a unique mission in this world now so the author is the way you supposed to look at a Jew is how to find and identify the unique mission now if you were going around the whole day and trying to show that you're better than everyone else so first of all you're never going to see the beautiful unique things that God created in the world and you're not going to get along with everybody and besides the fact that it's not obvious job but you're missing up him you're missing out on the biggest gift that God gave you which is to identify the soul over the body and what's unique in that soul so the altar it says if you want to have true offices well you want to really have obvious all this together this is the heart of the class look in every individual for their unique feature that that person has and again remember because it's God and God is infinite and the godly souls infinite every single day every single hour and every single minute that unique feature expresses itself in unique way it's not like oh I know the person unique feature but was then when was last time you thought about him that was yesterday guess what the change today so as you constantly and consistently think about unique feature of every individual you will be able to have real alpha this role so in other words what the author is saying in this chapter is you want to have great relationships you want to have amazing relationships you want to get along with everybody you want God to feel comfortable God's presence should be felt in this world have real joy joy that's stemming from the soul by identifying the unique quality every every single individual has that is constantly changing in a unique way and as long as you're looking for it guess what you'll see it you'll be surprised and you'll be able to have beautiful and enduring great relationships