Surviving The Jewish Life (MONTREAL)

[Music] GL to be back uh for last year we were here we uh had a nice sh today we'll do the same uh we're here in Montreal and the freezing weather that you guys have here you know in Florida I complain about the hellhole that they have over there with the heat it's I said Gom is borrowing some of the heat from them so hot over there all the time you're not all to go outside but then I come over here you not to go outside either I think is forcing us to be modest by staying home don't leave either cold to hunt so uh so I mean I think the um the we should start I mean there's a few things I could talk to you about but uh there's usually common questions people have where perhaps they they've had this one question on their mind and and I promise you if you had this question other people had those questions so what we do in Florida in my one of my weekly shim is we have Wednesday night questions and answers any question you come up with that affects you most likely it affects somebody else that's watching it online that's perhaps in the crowd also so if you have any specific questions whether it's uh in regards to the weekly par ORF whatever it is you ask a question will give me the answer I think the biggest question today that people usually ask in just different ways is how do you survive the as a Jew in today's world that's usually a very common question we'll talk a little bit about that after your questions uh because the comes in all forms of sizes he uh he comes you know in a way where there's immodesty he comes in a way of different types of uh Fashions he comes in the way of parasa he comes in a way of shid he comes in the way of marriage he comes in the way of the family the works full time I wish we could work as hard as the I wish you know that's that's what I admire about it doesn't stop working but uh the truth is is that he doesn't let us have a break even for a minute and the only way to really truly survive him in one sentence is by thinking about hasem all the time where if you think about hm 24 hours a day you're going to survive the if you don't think about hem you're already you're already losing the battle you know now how do you think about Hashem all the time you think about him by doing his by learning his T that's how you think about hm all the time so that's why had many many mitv that he gave us in order to help us think about him at all times and the sages even added more mitv for us to think about hem like for example everybody that wakes up in the morning washes their hands their face usually if they live in a house usually that's what they do now and they some people also take showers in the morning some people now you can do it whether you're religious or you're not religious the difference is if you're not religious you just do it like the you do it you take a shower you wash your face means nothing in reality all you're really doing it for is for hygienic reasons maybe so people don't make fun of you that's that's really what you're doing it for if you're religious though you could actually get a another piece of for that why when you wake up you say tell hm thank you then you wash your hands and you do of then you go into the shower and you wash your right arm and then your left arm your right leg and then your left leg and each one of those is a Mitzvah each one of those Mitzvah meaning you can go to the shower just like the secular guy did but you could leave with a billion dollars saved for you Ina or you could leave with nothing meaning that gave us a million and a half different ways that we connect him through minor things of our day-to-day life whether it's eating a sandwich like this or eating a sandwich like that whether it's eating a cake like this or eating a cake like that whether it's taking a shower or it's putting on your shoes whether it's reading this book or that book and so on and so forth the the point is is that gave us many many opportunities to think about him notom because he's needy but because we need it in order to survive the so with that being said if you have specific questions please ask if not I'll just continue with some other things you have any specific problem yeah yeah so I'm always faced with a dilemma of what I what do I do when people constantly want to come for and I know a few the laws people come to your house for say during pray okay so a the Torah says that when someone comes to you and asks for something you should always give them something but there are also Rules to This meaning says that if a snake starts crawling on your leg in the middle of amid you're not allowed to move not allowed to move but if a scorpion does you have to move why it's a life risk snake is not always life risk meaning that you can't just stop yourid just because someone is collecting so it depends when it's during your prayer when it's during your prayer the second thing is is also you have to look atat says that even the letters in Judaism are drawn in a certain way to teach us MIT so for example the letter gim the third letter of the Hebrew alphabet if you look at it it actually looks like a human being walking that's what it look looks like the letter d looks like someone looking and really is the back of the D is looking at the G meaning it's the gim is looking at its back so the why is the why is the letter this way why is the letter that way and why is it in that order says because the stands for someone that chases he looks for opportunity to give the stands for for someone that's D someone that's poor and someone that's poor is very very embarrassed of the fact that he's poor so who does he go to he goes for the people that are looking to give so that's why if you see someone that's in need you should go to them and give it to them so what I do I could tell you myself whatever I do I can't teach you stuff I don't do I try to do some things and I teach my kids this I take envelopes white envelopes I put some money in them I close them I put them in next to my front door anytime somebody comes to my house I don't even want to hear what they say I don't want them to waste any more time with me because they're getting the money anyway why waste my time go hopefully they get some more money with somebody else I give them an envelope here you go you be a big success that's it they like trust me that's what they want they have an envelope they don't have to spend a half hour with you convince you for what for your $5 for your $50 for your $100 whatever you want to give give put in an envelope thank you very much goodbye and that way your is is not only a something that is going to help you give but also you know that you already have a preset amount that you want to give no one's going to convince you otherwise but you're also saving these people time because if they came because they see your house is a certain size house and they think that because your house is this much you should give a certain amount and they want to stay in your house for five hours now the reality is that if you have the ability you should give but you shouldn't necessarily give to just anyone you know when it's small money you should give you know to anyone pretty much when it starts getting to the point where it's hundreds of dollars or thousands of dollars everything is relevant to the person uh relative to the person then you should really do an investigation and the reason why is because you want to make sure that you have results that are coming out of this money and it's not just being given to to people that are not uh straight now so you should have a set amount when you have a set envelope and a certain amount you're already eliminating a lot of these issues because if let's say for example you give the guy an envelope and you have X amount of money in it and the guy says says yeah he already knows because the last guy told him that you only put uh $10 in the envelopes and he wants to push if you want to you feel like it you give us two envelopes but that's it you don't go over above and beyond and start uh going into your bank account start logging in what's your wire account you don't have to do that just you have something already preset and you you try to end this encounter as much as possible if it's uncomfortable to you if perhaps you are the uh of the neighborhood you're the guy that pretty much the community relies on you have a lot of money blessed you with a lot of money then you have to give people more than the average person but that also means that you have to designate a certain time to give people so they don't waste too much of your time and you also have to designate a place of where you want them to come meet you and you also have to designate a certain amount and you have to do an investigation of who you're going to give to so really the the of giving is there is no one siiz fits all if you're an average Joe that makes $500 $1,000 a week how much can you possibly give anyway you're barely surviving yourself if you're rich you got a few million dollars in a bank you're obligated to give why why do you think give you the money what so you could buy a third house publicize T that's the point you cannot take the third and the fourth and the fifth house to but the that you made that you could take to the that you gave you have get to but again if you're going to give you have to do some calculations of where should I give should I give it to some stranger that just showed up for the first time ever today or should I give it to an organization that I know is successful in helping am in helping am learn like someone that has a track record of course any person that does some thinking we'll do we'll say okay I'm going to give it to someone I know now what happens if you give it to someone that's a criminal he looks like a sadik she he acts like a sadik he looks religious everything is good but reality he's a thief like this one time someone that I know a relative of mine said that he used to have a poker room poke room not a kosher business but in those days before he did Chua he used to have a poke room people guys would play cards and he says I got really disgusted from the religion because I used to see a lot of religious guys come to my poker room and one guy came to the poker room one time and after he lost his money he took out some envelopes of people's donations that they were giving and he started he said cash me in on this one he started buying chips with other people's donations and I said ah I've had if that's Juda as I'm I don't want to be a Jew I told him that's not Judaism that's a criminal criminals comes in all walks and sizes sometimes they have a jacket on sometimes they don't have a jacket on sometimes they're religious sometimes they're not religious so why does a let such criminals succeed because many times when you have for example people come into your house they're they themselves are good people but the people that brought them sometimes are criminals because they take 40 50 60% of the money meaning they they'll tell the guy the guy's coming from Israel he's trying to collect money for some cause his mom is sick his father's sick the kids are homeless all types of different issues that now he doesn't know where in Canada rich people live he doesn't know in Florida where rich people live he just came here so he needs somebody to drive him the guy that's driving many times is a criminal according to the toraat because why he says listen I'll take you I'll be your Uber for the week but 50% of everything that you collect goes to my pocket according to the Tor that's a 100% giz it's crime but they still do it anyway the guys that collect the money still do it anyway why they don't have a choice they don't know their way around until you build a relationship with people and so on which could take very many years so they're left with an issue so what do you do if you really find somebody comes to your house and you like him and you want to help him give him a little bit of money $5 $10 whatever you want to give him now but if you really like him after you do some research like take his information do some research and then send him directly while he's home don't give it to them on the spot over there why because if you give it to them on the spot over there the driver is going to take half many times sometimes it's even more also there are many uh many scam that have to do with the internet people have these campaigns today it's very popular for people to have campaigns toh to raise money for different causes unfortunately you cannot trust something just because they say that some Rabbi says it's good because sometimes that Rabbi doesn't even know who these people are but they said his name like every day you're gonna see some R kki Saka campaign you really think that Kanki is involved in all of these like there's actually anybody actually think that he's involved in every day there's a new campaign in his name you have to understand that sometimes people just throw a big rabbi's name into it you have if you're going to give small money give don't worry about it runs the world he's G but if you're GNA give bigger money it's gonna affect you that means it's an investment don't be a blind fool I can tell you a real example happened not too long ago a girl got sick little girl got sick the doctor says they need over two million dollar to heal this kid if you know the names and this rings a bell for you don't say the name if I want to go public with it I'll say the name don't worry you don't have to help me I'm not saying the name for a reason I'm still hoping the rabbis do chuva $2 million oh we're not going to get the medicine for this girl that's what the why insurance is not covering it little girl they went up to they went to the world they made videos they started crying on on the screen please help us or our daughter is going to die everybody and their mother donated over 20,000 people donated in 24 hours they raised over $2 million which is enormous you're amazing am said right what's the bad part why am I telling you the story shortly later the insurance company decided we're going to pay for the claim we're going to pay the $2 million now did the rabbis behind it that raised the money did they give the money back to all the donors someone that donated money donated the money for what to help this little girl but now that you don't need the money because the insurance compan is paying for it you don't need the money so you don't have to ask me anything just give me my money back that's what the AL is what did they do it's hard to give back $2 million it's very hard to give back you try it so what they do they sent everybody an email or they said they said that everybody an email some people got it some people didn't get it they said listen the insurance company is going to pay but this is so much money we can help somebody else with the money so if you want the money contact us if you want the money contact us we we'll worry about it well one person contacted them and didn't get the money they contacted them again they didn't get the money third time fourth time fifth time I think by the fourth time maybe they got part of the money all the money back which was a few hundred doar meaning even if you contacted them if you even got this email you maybe got the money back which means that already you see that the campaigns are not what they always seem to be now I'm not trying to tell you this so you don't donate I'm trying to tell you these things so if you're going to donate more than a small amount of money more than a more than something that's insignificant then you have to double check you have to double check if you are going to buy a house you're going to double check the neighborhood well every time you give a certain amount of that's like buying a house on check the neighborhood but how come allows these criminals to do what they do because if every guy that was looking fora was a kosher person and we would not give to every single person we would get punished on the spot so who says I'm going to make some people criminals I'm going to make some peopleim why because in case you don't give the can come saying oh look he didn't give to a sadik he could say listen it could be he didn't give could be he didn't give because he didn't really believe this guy's a tadik he didn't believe this guy is straight that's why he didn't give so when it comes to takaka again step number one have some type of a system for yourself step number two investigate a little further before you give larger amounts step number three just in general generally speaking be careful be careful because you have to look at your as a investment I'll try to make the next answer shorter us aular basis how should the internet be used on a regular basis it's a good question um when they first came out with cars cars first came out with cars the uh the public the public was against it and the reason why was was because in those days the streets were mainly used for people walking people were walking in the streets so when they came out with cars people were not used to so they said what do you have these machines these big steel machines are going to kill people this is dangerous have a different roads for these machines it's not here eventually they made it illegal for people to walk in the streets because they needed to make room for the cars and they made it they made a rule called jaywalking which was in essence an insult on people that uh were walking in the middle of the street but nonetheless they knew that there is a benefit to these cars there is a benefit in having them and of course people today cannot manage their life without having a car uh either one that they own or lease or borrow or rent or whatever it is public transportation is is is something that people rely on on a day-to-day basis our Metro is faster than the subway I mean our buses are faster than sometimes yes now the uh the the key is to understand is that everything you have can be used for good or bad when cars first came out they killed a few people they killed a few people didn't want to leave move to the sidewalk they killed a few people today they kill a lot more than a few people tens of thousands of people does that mean that cars are bad no it means that if you use them inappropriately they'll be bad if you use them appropriately supposed to be good same thing with the internet the internet is no different than electricity in today's world it's no different than than anything else it's a utility that you need in order to function in the world today if you're in business you cannot function in Business Without internet you cannot function even if you're in the business of horses if you want to get customers you need the internet if you want to have banking you need the internet if you want to have employees payroll you need the Internet meaning the internet is needed for this particular business or any other business whether it's for sh to publicize to the world or it's to publicize things that are against AEM so that means that that it's not a matter of whether internet should be or should not be used anyone that says that is silly it's a ridiculous thing it's like saying should you or should you not use electricity should you or should you not use water you need them to survive in the world if electricity would be shut off for a single day you would have an economic collapse that may last for a year and a half to two years to fix one day of no electricity in the world may take a year and a half to fix why because the world relies on electricity internet is not very you know much less so it's not a matter of whether you should or shouldn't use it it's a matter of what do I know for sure I need to do in on the internet and what do I know for sure that I need to avoid because that's really what it comes down to which roads I forbid myself completely I'm not allowed to go there because I know I'll get in trouble and which roads I'm allowed to go on and which roads have as an exception that only when I need to I go there and that's in essence what you do so for example when you talk about for you know social media social media is responsible for hurting more homes than probably any other tool out there but at the same token social media has helped people do Chua as well social media has helped a lot of people do Chua because a lot of people were looking for bad things on the internet but at the same time sent the T into the social media world and many rabbis became much much bigger and much more more popular due to the internet than they would have ever gotten if it wasn't for the internet and the reality is is that they've helped a lot more people change their lives for the better due to the internet now of course that person was doing bad things on the internet and may continue doing bad things for the internet but it wasn't because of the rabbi it was because of himself meaning that created bad created good you could use internet for good you could use internet for bad you go to social media if you're going to go to social media there's only two things you should really do aside from obviously do business if you do business on the internet then that's obviously we already spoke about if you're going to use social media it's either to learn tah or to publicize tah that's it don't look for your friends don't make friends don't start chatting on chat rooms that's a complete waste of time that's a complete waste of time if you uh I think it's a the word comments if you spell it out in Hebrew letters is a uh same same numerical value same gatria as you know so somebody showed me some some drawing that showed it the point is that all the comments all of the message boards all of these groups whatever it's all a complete waste of time people going to uh battles and and debates on the internet for no reason whatsoever because no one wins in the end no one wins it's a complete waste of time if you're going to use the internet you're going to use social media in general it's either to publicize T which hem wants or to learn to you're watching AA right now live other than that you have no business on social media no there's nothing for you to do there oh no but have friends there get friends in real life exactly you don't like you don't like friends in real life get a dog then I don't what to tell you reality is your friends should not be on the internet get real friends get real friends why you need to socialize with real people once in a while you know it's it's it's very important for people to know that the people on the internet are not your friends they're just little boxes with a name next to them you have to understand you want friends go meet friends in real life internet is there to learn to make business and to teach in order to publicize thought that's it there's really not much else that you could do everything else is going to lead you to trouble everything else is going to lead you to trouble so a person needs to be very careful even if a person is teaching Torah before they teach on the internet they should have somebody that they know that knows what they know to tell them whether they're ready to do it many times people go on the internet to teach Torah and in reality they teach heresy they teach things that are against the Torah so a person needs to uh also have somebody that's his Rabbi that's double-checking who he is and what he is and what he's saying if he's sticking to the book If he's not sticking to the book Unfortunately today everybody can go on the internet and say whatever they want and there's no uh police force for the internet anyone can say whatever they want so that means that if you're if you're going to be the viewer you have to be in essence your own police force you have to double check everything that everybody's saying don't just consume everything that's said on the internet and assume it's real double check what people are saying also you know use books books they still exist I know people don't like to use them and they're heavy but double check with books it's very important for people to treat the internet as a utility as a tool because to say that you shouldn't use the internet is ridiculous it's just completely ridiculous I know that some big rabis said oh the internet destroyed the generation that's because they have no concept of what the internet does for them too many of these rabbis the world wouldn't even know they existed if it wasn't for the internet you know internet is a tool electricity is a tool cars are a tool Refrigeration is a tool gas is a tool these are all tools that allows us to have in order to function in the world and we need to function in an appropriate way it's up to us to monitor ourselves and say what's good and what's bad how do we know what's good and bad what's bad you learn from a is going to tell you if it's a good quality it's going to tell you what's bad and what's good and then you compare it to your life and you say Where am I good and where am I bad and you do some self accounting and fix whatever you have to fix but to Simply assume that a person should not go to a certain place is simply simply a mistake because again your is not the same as his his is not the same as her so you can't just issue a blanket statement and say anyone that has a smartphone is uh going to gain home that's completely ridiculous and the best part is that people say it in big rabbis names why because those big rabbis they don't check uh the Facebook they don't check what people say in their names they're not there to defend themselves 99% of the stuff that you see that has big rabbis names in it is fake how do you know it's real if it's in a book not if it's on the internet if it's written in a book then it's real if the rabbi wrote it in his book then it's real but even sometimes you'll find something in a book and it's wrong meaning somebody else wrote it in his book in the name of the rabbi but it's wrong why because you double check the rabbi's book himself and he actually wrote the opposite I found one mistake for example somebody wrote In The Name Of about the issue of whether you are you're allowed to in France they didn't have any with there at some point where they're allowed to have a key inside the belt one said yes another book said no the point being is two different books had two different opinions the one that's the name of was the correct one the one that was about R was incorrect meaning you don't learn ala from bios you don't learn from bios you learn Al from Thea books the point being aai is that you have to double check everything because the onus is on you to know the truth Hashem wants you to toil for Torah don't complain about oh how could I know there's so many bad people there and there's so many mistakes there and there's so much confusion there that's on purpose Hashem wants it to be a confused World Hashem wants it to be difficult that's on purpose he's intentionally making it confused why to make you toil to make you fight for theit why does he want you to fight for theit if I spoon feed you all of the emit little by little one bite at a time like a little baby and guess what it's never going to be your truth it'll be truth you were fed the second somebody else gives you a different truth you'll fall like nothing but if you toiled for it if you fought for that truth you checked one book and another book and you called one RV another RV and eventually you got okay this is it this is the truth now it's your truth now it's engraved in your Nish and that's it no one can move you that's toiling that's the difference between being spoonfed the truth and toiling for the truth Hashem is intentionally making this a confused world one of the reasons he has infinite reasons but one of them is in order for us to make the truth our own by toiling for it another reason is also to give us a little bit more time to do Chua because the Satan can't say they know for sure and they're still going against youm that's another reason it's a mercy from h doesn't bug not to bug you yeah not well oh you want to to go on vacation right stud there is a uh as far as avoiding the there's no like that there's no reality where you could be alive and you would not have a unless you which destroyed his yet but unless you've become a which I don't believe really exists or at least not in great numbers in this generation um you have to have now the that each person has is different some people have the morality immorality in in essence some people have the for money they're Addicted to Money some people have a for for other things for different kinds different people have different some people have a that likes to go shopping a little bit of everything everybody has a different to say that you're not going to have or even get to a level of having is not a reality there's no system that would eliminate the but there is a system like he was saying that could help you fight it meaning give you a defense system says that I created a I created a t that's the potion to beat him meaning that the more a person learns tah and applies that t to his life the more he suited the more equipped he becomes in order to deal with this yet now Tora has different parts there is the Torah that's the Kash knowing where you came from if you're a Jew you need to know where you came from whether you are a convert or natural born Jews irrelevant once you became a Jew whether it's the day of your birth or the day of your conversion you have a Jewish n was a you need to know what's going on why do we believe this Torah why do we believe this Torah is it a fairy tale or is it real so you have to learn the a couple times every week the weekly why you can never be you can never be a you can never be anything in the world of Judaism that's of of strength and value spiritually if you don't learn the basic K you have to learn the K you have to that's doesn't matter if you're a big Rabbi or a small rabbii that finishes the entire and many many other things he also reads the set like everybody else every Jew has to do it so that's one learn part of Li second part of Li is L A few things a few new rules every day so you know how to be a Jew on a day-to-day life learn that that pertain to your dayto life if you're a woman learn the learn learn of the of the holidays these are the that apply to your life if you're a guy learn of shabat holiday same thing as the woman plus and other things that are relevant to you and not necessarily to her but also learn why if you don't understand the learns of the you're not going to know what's allowed what's not allowed while you're learning and you're going to treat learning to the same way that you treated learning in a university shom and that's a problem so a person needs to learn some third you have to beat the by learning mus why because m is going to teach you that you actually have a lot more time than you think you have a lot more strength than you think you have a lot more ability than you think your is going to tell you that you don't have time you don't have strength and you don't have the ability m is going to remind you that you do and one of the ways that m is going to do it is by telling you the consequences if you don't that's what mus is supposed to teach you supposed to teach you the consequences of what happens if you don't learn and this is very important because human nature functions best when it's scared that's how he functions in humans when you drive on a highway every time there's a sign you look naturally you look why you don't want to miss what don't you want to miss what could it be it could be a life Cher If I'm driving 60 70 80 9 90 miles per hour but the highway sign just said maximum speed is 30 that's a life changer why that's a difference between me killing somebody or not killing somebody me losing my license or not losing my license me getting a fine or not getting a fine now if I get a letter usually you get a letter immediately you open it you're not going to throw it at somewhere you're going to open it why you want to know who sent you a letter if the letter is from some marketing company trying to sell you a new phone then you throw it in the garbage but you verify it's from them but if it's from your phone company it says listen we haven't gotten payment your uh your credit card is not going through unless we get payment within the next 24 hours we're canceling your line you're losing your phone number that's a message I don't want to lose that's a message I need to know if the message is from the internal revenue Source or the FBI or the CIA or some type of form of government that telling you show up to this court on this date at this time you need to know that that's a scary message the point being is that humans functions best on based on fear knows that and that's why fear of of the almighty fear of hem is aah from the Torah that you're obligated to do it's not a suggestion and as a matter of fact I was reading before the sh has a lot to say about this in the third gate the third gate of sh in section 11 he says now we will discuss the punishments due to neglecting of a positive commandment as our sages said in page 886a if the exhorts a person to fulfill a mitvah of or the B tells the guy you have to stop with the excuses you have to have a this year stop with the excuses I can't afford it I can't afford it enough get a love get yourself a sukar ready the bedin tells him meaning he didn't listen to the rabbi he didn't listen to his wife he didn't listen to anybody but the bed himself shows up at his guy's house and says you have to build a Suka and he refuses to comply what's the he doesn't want to do it no Rabbi go fly a kite is the admin at the time of theit of the they administer lashes until he dies this is one of the worst forms of death for what for not building a Suka now what does that mean to you there you know right now no one's goingon to get lashed it's not even sukot and I think you guys are from sukot of here this freezing cold who knows uh uh but the reality is is that what does that really mean to us what did we learn from from 800 plus years ago about this why did he even mention this to us this shows us how critical a few things are number one how important the mitvah ofka is because doesn't tell us to kill people for no reason we're not murderers we're not Nazis he doesn't give a death penalty for nothing so that already shows that if we're allowed to death penalty for not building a su not having a already this is on the up and up this is like Shabbat this is like this is like this is a big deal second of all it also tells us how horrible it is to ignore the rabbis to ignore people that are that are trying to teach people the truth because in essence they're doing your job by ignoring them in essence you're ignoring Hashem Hashem sent you a Lifeboat hasem sent you a helicopter hasem sent you all types of things to save you and you're ignoring them he says you're giving up your life life so here this is a small little tiny paragraph of M that teaches us the value of listening to the rabbis the value of a mitvah that we didn't really think was so important many people don't build a Suka because they don't think it's such a big deal I'll be at my friend Suka I'll be my friend Suka I'll be my I'll use my I'll borrow my friends L love like people make all types of excuses of why they're not able to to do fulfill the MIT because they don't know the consequences of them so m is one of the places that a person needs to learn the consequence of simply ignoring the message from Heaven the other thing is is that musar is going to teach a person why they need to improve themselves not even necessarily because of the punishment but rather because of the benefits that it will have for his relationship with his wife with a husband with the kids with a with the world in general no one likes an angry person no one likes an arrogant person so much so thear says an arrogant person even his own family hates him right now the reality is when a person when a person sees that says I hate arrogant people says anyone that's arrogant I hate him he's disgusting to me automatically The Arrogant person is going to be touched by this why I don't want to be disgusting to God I don't want to be hated by God meaning automatically even though I don't know how to change that yet because it'll take me some listen some learning some teaching some a lot of stuff to to change arrogance because it's already instilled in a person but automatically now I have now that I know there's a consequence for it I now have a desire to change that's in essence what musar is supposed to to to give us give us the desire to change so you need to learn the where you came from why you here where's the source for everything you need to learn you need to learn the M but also at some point you have to start learning for men why do you have to learn you have to learn how to think like a Jew thinking like a Jew is not like thinking like a non-jew they're two different things when a nju looks at something he's looking for a solution when a Jew thinks of something he thinks about all the problems that's how we think why if I'm looking for a solution that narrows my focus to just how do I solve this problem there's a hole in the wall there's water coming out how do I shut it off when you're thinking like a Jew you're thinking about all the problems meaning there's a hole in the wall there's water coming out I not only have to fix the issue that there's a hole in the wall but I also have to uncover how to make sure this doesn't happen how do I make sure that the actual seal that I put doesn't break itself how do I make sure that no one gets hurt yeah you think about things in five different angles to make sure that you're not only creating a solution but you're also creating some type of uh environment for other people not to repeat the same mistake you're learning how to think that's how Jew supposed to think the gar teaches you how to think it's not going to teach you generally speaking it's not going to teach you ala you don't get ala from thear you get it from the you get it from from different that tell you bottom line what's what what's yes what's no but thear teaches you how did they get to that how do they arrive at that final law and that you need to learn especially when you are developing yourself into something that's beyond just basic level you just started you want to start getting more advanced you want to develop your brain you want to be really special you have to learn but again this too comes in time it's not day one usually for most people because most people day one they're not even sure why they believe in God so you first have to establish a good foundation that you understand for sure that there is no reality without God that's rule number one two that Judaism for sure is divine once you've established these Basics then you start working on some of the other things but again as far as the there is no way to eliminate it there's just a way to have proper tools to defend yourself anything else yes I have a question for how would you deal Rel person do you accept them do you fight try to pers what's the position the so let I'm assuming the example is let's say for example there's a parent andu their son or daughter brings them a non-jewish girlfriend or boyfriend or something that they say I love this person that's what you're asking me how does the parent deal with this person that's in essence what the question is so this is a very difficult issue and usually this issue did not start with this relationship and the reason why is because this issue started already when the kid was growing up when the kid was growing up that kid was in essence taught or led to believe that there's not much of a difference between them and the go whether they learned that from their parents or they learned that in school or they learned it from both the reality is they learned it or else they would have never gotten themselves in this situation at least on the vast majority of cases it doesn't usually usually the only time a Jew entertains a relationship with a non-jew is because they don't really see much of a difference between each other they didn't arrive at this idea by themselves they learned that somewhere so that means that automatically the parent needs to know you have no right to be critical to the extent of of judging this person as if he's the worst person in the world on day one it's partly your fault it's partly your fault that he's this way so don't be so judgmental on him and not judgmental on yourself he made that decision to bring a non-u to the house because you put him in a certain school so help him and don't criticize him don't criticize him tell those things those those uh uh statements of if you do it we're gonna ban you we're not going to talk to you anymore that's not going to help anybody he'll do a dka to make you upset even if he doesn't like her anymore so the threats don't usually work on the other hand you have to uncover the problem what's the root of the problem it's not just a relationship it's the core belief of the person you have to find out what does this son or daughter believe do they believe in God or not is this God Jewish or he's not is is is there anything else that what's the confusion what's what's the foundation of it and then you have to give it to the appropriate Rabbi to deal with because not every Rabbi has the same tools but in essence the main thing is to know that you can never be accepting of it you can't say oh no you know what bring her over for Shabbat we'll make her Jewish that you can never do that's de helps that doesn't help it making it seem as if everything is okay is also wrong but to say listen as long as you have her don't ever talk to us again that's that's not going to help you you're going to end up losing a son or a daughter so you have to let people know this is wrong this is wrong but I know you're not going to leave her anyway I know you're not going to leave him I know you're not going to leave him but let's find out why it's wrong let's find out where it's wrong and you try to find out why this person where's the real real real problem where's the real problem where's the source of the problem is it is in his belief because if he's like I used to be people told me listen it's not right for uh for you to uh to marry a non-jew I said why not find me a Jewish girl that's as good to her to me as as her go find me one you're not going to find one so what what do you say how come you say you should know no don't you want Jewish kids I said listen I'm not religious I'm not keeping anything so you think why would I care if somebody else keeps it I'm not religious meaning the problem wasn't with the girl the problem was with me I can't tell somebody to keep something I'm not keeping don't try to make me religious after I I I made a non-religious step meaning the problem already existed from before once I've discovered the truth myself I knew that I couldn't continue with my reality my current situation so I had to do something about it it wasn't because people told me oh you shouldn't marry a a non-jew no it had to do with the fact that now I know that Judaism is real the Torah is real and the Torah forbids Jews and non-jews to marry each other okay so I have to figure out a solution to this even though it hurts emotionally it hurts this it hurts that way it doesn't make a difference once you know something is true once you know there's consequences for violating that truth then you you have to address the issue so the key is to not be judgmental but at the same token not be accepting to the point where this nonu feels like your family because that's in essence enabling them to continue so what do you do you try to have whoever whether it's a son or a daughter continue coming over but without this friend without this person don't uh try to uh make them part of the family don't try to convert them themselves try to have a professional help them try to have a professional knows what they're doing knows how to deal with these people to uncover what's the root of the problem first with your own son or daughter and second after that to see if this non-jew is really not Jewish to the extent where they're the opposite of us they're anti or they're simply ignorant just like you're son was which really means that they have a lot more in common than you can imagine if if the uh the non-jew is ignorant and the Jew is ignorant there's not much difference between them they're both cows there's not much difference B there's not really not much difference they eat he eats it's the same thing they they believe in whatever they want he believes in whatever they want it's the same thing that you you cannot say that they're actually different they're the same and according to the to they're really not different why a Jew that violates Shabbat according to the t is considered an idol worshipper so in essence technically the non-jew is actually in a better condition than the Jew that violate Shabbat so you have to find out what does the nonu believe if the non jeu believes like one of these girls that that came to one of our shim from actually from from Canada one time and she told me that she is with a non-jewish person for many years and uh but she realized that this is not the greatest relationship in the world because it's not going to end well because of the two different of of religions and so on now the reality is is that until she started looking at the consequences it was never even part of her mind to end this relationship we generally don't change unless we calculate the consequences so we have to find out where this other person stands she understood that this person not only is he not Jewish but he is a very very strong believer in Muhammad which means that there is a 0.0.0 z zero chance of you ever converting this person in fact he hates the fact that she's Jewish he hates it meaning there's a 0% chance of the kids being Jewish in any way shape or form once she understood that this is bad getting to worse it became easier to run away doesn't mean that it wasn't hard for her emotionally doesn't mean it wasn't hard for her in general but nonetheless it became easier why because she start started calculating the outcome of her actions what if she would have found out something different like this person is simply ignorant about everything he doesn't care he believes in God and that's it then that means he's like putty you can make whatever you want to make out of him this guy doesn't believes in God with nothing else okay bring him on let's try to teach him some Judaism let's see if he adapts it let's see if he likes it if he likes it we have 36 we have 36 places in says I love converts but that also means you have to be knowledgeable yourself how to deal with these people if you don't know you have to send it to a professional but again it's usually not a problem that started with that relationship it's usually something that started well well before and that's I'm only mentioning it a few times because that automatically removes the judgmental part of our elves from looking at people that are inter married as criminals they have crimes we have crimes everybody's a criminal in some form or another the key is to try to help each other become more righteous and and not necessarily judge each other for our crimes but try to find a way that I could help other people even when you're trying to rebuke people rebuke them for the sense of helping them not rebuking them for the sense of telling them I told you so I told you so doesn't help anybody rebuke him to help him you will you will they'll be more accepting of it when you when you help him that way next is it ever too late to startat or is it ever too late to start keeping Shabbat or be religious yes once person dies once person dies for sure it's too late before that he still okay how do I know was one of the people that was unique in his generation and every other generation before or after him it was a special human being that would constantly do accounting of himself what he's good what he's bad what he failed at what he succeeded that one time he saw he noticed that despite the fact that he checked forits when he was supposed to after PES started he noticed that he forgot to check for inside a box that he usually keeps Sal in and he and he made a m he didn't check this tiny little box he did CH up for 15 years for that mistake that none of us even think is a mistake that's how precise he was about protecting his own so one time it was night and he was walking in the market on the way to his house and he sees there's a light on why is it light everybody else left the Market's empty but there's a light on so he goes into inside and he sees it's the watchmaker he says no Mr watchmaker I mean enough's enough you don't have to be be a slave to your job enough everybody else left and the watchmaker says rebi as long as the candle still on there's more work to be done took what this watch maker said to heart and he started crying and he started repeating the to himself over and over again for the rest of his life he ran to the BET mid people were learning T repeating it says Reb what are you talking about he says I learned Big M today as long as the light is still on there's still work to do as long as your is still alive there's still work to do there's a reason why you're still alive in this world because a is telling you you still have more CH to do you still have more Tora to learn learn you still have more correcting to do you still have more good to do that's why you're alive the second there's no more good that you can produce in the world you're not going to be in the world so if a person is alive that is a clear message from you still have more work to do don't look for retirement when asked theh when am I going to have easy times gave him what punishment his favorite son was taken from him for over 20 years yov what do you want heaven in this world and the next world he said to him don't look for retirement a person came to this world to toil to work you're alive do CH fix yourself keep Shabbat keep keep this keep this learn learn more things the more you learn the more you learn about things you're not doing yet or you're not doing correctly and the reality is a average person that hasn't uh gone over Shabbat at least three times for sure is violating Shabbat even if it's aah that he thinks he's perfect in he says Rabbi I don't violate anything I sleep all day okay you may not be violating but it's not exactly like you're actually keeping shab like you're supposed to not supposed to be sleeping all day supposed to be learning all day maybe not sleeping all day you know so the point is that there's so much that we need to do that gave us an endless Torah endless amount of lessons of how we could perfect ourselves and in essence also a constant message that we have more to do by simply keeping us alive so as long as the person's alive he can start keeping now I actually met a anomaly in this generation in the old generation used to exist but many times people ask me about the concept of which is a captured baby in the uh Torah language where in the old days the go used to used to steal or kidnap Jewish babies and raise them as their own so this kid this Jewish kid would think that he's Christian not know that he's a Jew so the ask in the is this Jew that thinks he's a Christian judged the same way and they debate back and forth no yes no no and so on so a few like the K thebi said maybe the secular people today are also like these captured babies and the vast majority overwhelming majority of the Pim disagree with him says no no someone that knows that he's a Jew and knows that there's holidays and know that there's Shabbat and chooses otherwise he's not he's not a captured baby not a captured baby so I talk about this issue constantly because I say even if you want to say they captured baby once you know that they don't know tell them so they stop being captured meaning if you saw a baby that's captured it's in a cage that some has him in a cage and you have an opportunity to free this baby take the baby why are you keeping them captured say haha you're captured what's the matter with you take the key open the thing take him home with you save the kid so even if he is whether he's captured or not is IR relevant save him now I speak about this often because this is an excuse that some organizations use in order to keep the generation ignorant on purpose this is a tool from the himself to keep Jewish people ignorant and the reason why is because if you are ignorant and you don't know the rules of Shabbat you don't know the rules of you don't need know the rules of G you don't know the rules of K you don't know the rules of pretty much anything now if you want to connection to God you do realize because you have a brain you have to do something for that so what are these criminals that look religious tell you they tell you listen all you got to do is give give charity and that's your connection to God as long as you give charity God loves you why because we're going to use your charity to build yot and to make people religious we're g to do good things they never ever tell you that you need to be religious also by the way they say no you give this staka and we're going to use this money to build a house House of God we are starting a campaign there's a campaign that started in is a new scam we're starting a campaign what to build the third bet mikdash there's there's at least three campaigns right now to build a third bet mikdash show me one in the T that says we're supposed to raise money to build a third bet mikdash this is complete Scandal but people are so ignorant they donate in the millions they donate in the Millions for this wow mikdash I'm going to bring mashia with my own money who doesn't want to do it so these criminals will keep people ignorant on purpose and keep them captured babies on purpose because so long as you don't know what you're talking about that means that they can continue convincing you to give money easily why they're your connection to God you don't have any other way you don't learn Torah they learn to for you you don't do MIT they do MIT for you you don't keep Shabbat they keep for in essence they became your representative for God which is by the way a form of idolatry so now they do this because this is a business even though they look more religious than me the criminals look more religious than me but I promise you if a religious person that's trying to help you only focuses on money you have to already have a warning sign in your mind I'm not saying he's a automatically criminal but there's already a warning sign why because the responsibility of every Jew especially these religious is to make other Jewish people religious all Jews are responsible for each other if I know that you are violating the Tora I am responsible to help you at least know that what you're doing is not good but sometimes people simply don't know and they really are captured babies and I ended up meeting one recently she was 79 years old she still is 79 years old she only found out she's Jewish 4 months ago 3 months ago now how could such a thing be maybe she's not Jewish no is that she was so ignorant of the law she didn't know it applied to her why she grew up in a house that was completely reformed her mom and dad didn't practice anything nothing to the extent that she didn't know anything much of about it but 20 years ago her mom told her yeah you know by the way you know that I come from Juda I'm a Jew oh she goes oh okay so you're a Jew fine like she didn't know that because her mom is a Jew she's a Jew she didn't make the she didn't connect the dot she figured she was a Jew maybe she was younger because she practiced it but then she stopped practicing so therefore she stopped being a Jew and therefore I'm not a Jew she says that's the calculation that that the person made she didn't know that Jew Judaism is is something that you inherit from your parents you know your mama specifically or you convert into and so on no no she figured that if you don't practice like Christianity you don't practice you don't play so now for 20 years she heard that her mom was Jewish but she had no idea this applies to her how did she find this out she was one time watching a Shure and she heard Rabbi toia singer say that Judaism is something that you could convert into or it's something if your mom is a Jew You Are by default a Jew this was the shock of her life why she's 79 years old she's not 17 years old she has to rewire her entire brain because until now she believed in God she just didn't think he wanted anything from her other than to be a nice person now she calls me crying hysterical the poor woman she goes what do I do what does God want for me I said pray she goes how do you pray I said read she goes what do you read what do I do I read the same books that I've been like what what do I read what do I pray she doesn't know anything that's a real but how many of those really exist in the world very few most Jews know that they're Jews sometimes they're non-jews that think they're Jews and they find out otherwise point being most people know where they stand it's very rare for a person not to know at all not even have a clue most people at the very least have some type of doubt maybe yes maybe know people are not walking 50 67 years blind generally speaking but that also shows how kind Hashem is Hashem is never going to let a person live an entire life not knowing the truth and arrive at the Gates of Heaven clueless of what he was or he wasn't he'll give you the opportunity to know time and time again so by the time you arrive at the bed of sh you've already made the choice of which side you want to be in so if he made this 79y old woman realize that she's a Jew at 79 years old needless to say he did the same thing for us many times and each time it's a strike against us if we don't listen to it each time it's a strike against us if we ignore it so the next message becomes stronger but B he keeps giving us the message so we don't go off too far so the key is to know that a person that is brought into a situation where conversion is a interest even of theirs there's even a reason for that there's something happening in heaven that Hashem is specifically choosing this person to know that Judaism is an option meaning they've done something or their grandparents did something at some point that they deserve to find out that Judaism is another option and it's not just their religions because there are two billion Christians in the world not all of them get the opportunity to learn about Judaism many of them stay robots for their whole life same thing with the Muslims so if someone was introduced to Judaism for one reason or another don't just you know ignore it there's a reason for it also but needless to say it's important for us to know that Hashem wants us to do chah hem wants us to uh to get closer to him but that also means that we have to start stop fooling ourselves and thinking that it's too late it's too hard it's too this it's too that you're alive you can do it next question yes in the back sure is the neighbor Jewish or he's not Jewish very Jewish uh externally yes uh and he's doing things that are hurting the public or just talking about his own uh issues that he has like is this something that is in essence publicizing other people's problems or only his own problems like is he damaging other people or is he only damaging himself by acting this way other people okay so generally speaking okay so generally speaking ah so people like that according to the Torah are completely Wicked um as far as the rules of the Torah is really such a person needs to be brought to a bed de uh and uh where they could at least warn him if he continues behaving this way he will be put on where he would been forbidden for him to attend the local lectures the local synagogues uh forbidden to do business with him forbidden for for anyone to ass with him as if he's completely banned that's in essence what the bed de would do by trying to talk to him if he rejects the bed's invitation then by default he loses that's generally what it would a strong Community would do is this going to actually happen in reality very small chance and the reason why is because like you said most people don't want problems don't want to be bothered they themselves are vulnerable they themselves are weak and no no one wants to be the front line person that's going to actually go to the bedine and say I want to bring such and such to the bedine no one wants to be that person because everybody wants their own convenient life so if you do you should go to the bed say I want to bring I want to invite this person to the bedine he is doing XYZ crimes publicizing all of these different things you could list a bunch of different examples and U of of different damages that is either caused you or other people and you bring this to the bed and you ask him I want to bring this person to the bed to uh to be forced to stop it or put on even to compensate the people that he's that he's hurt and at least try to make your own effort to uh you know Force the bedin to do something about it where even if they don't necessarily invite him to the bedine surely they're going to send someone to speak them and to tell them to quiet down a little bit people are complaining so a person needs to do something like that will it happen will they do it it all depends on a bedine it all depends on who's running it sometimes you have bedin that are full of really good people that are looking to help the community are looking to publicize toah are looking to help uh you know the uh the community stay strict according to the Torah but sometimes you have a bed that the head of the bed is like the guy that uh they have in London that was very interested in people's wives so he was caught with one of them this was the head of the bedine in London I report this stuff to people because the reality is you have to know just because a certain person has a certain appearance doesn't mean anything doesn't mean anything you have to do your role double check everything because these types of people that are criminals in the name of God are not in the name of God they're in the name of themselves but they're the ones that cause people to run away from Judaism when you hear that a big from London that was the keynote speaker for some major event for saai DEA or I I saw you at Mount saai some big event yearly event he was the keynote speaker two years ago head cover was uh with one of the wives of one of the heads of the Kila I mean how could such a thing happened it wasn't a one-time thing it was over a period of Time how could this be how could it be a how could this how could that the point is you have to understand something rotten happened a long time ago and people ignored it and ignored more and ignored more and ignored more this guy eventually got to the point where he felt like he's the king could do whatever he wants why because no one was bringing anything real to him so in essence this is also this Freedom that he gave himself was also the doings of the K itself cu no one was questioning anything anything no one was pushing anything so it's our job to not necessarily give problems for theom but it's our job to make sure that everything is where it's supposed to be if we make sure that we are where it's supposed to be we're supportive both spiritually financially socially of the community of the of theid of the we don't go to theim and start complaining to them because they yell at our kids we go to rim and say thank you for yelling at my kid why if I would have yelled at him enough you wouldn't have to yell at him parents go to rabbis and yell at the rabbis oh how come you told my son about G well the reality is if you would taught them if you as a parent would have taught the kid about G the rabbi wouldn't have to teach him since you didn't the rabbi has to do it oh how come you yelled at my kid if you were to yell your kid and you gave him good the rabbi wouldn't have to do it but what happens people go to rabbis they complain to the rabbis they threaten to go to the board and fire the rabis so the rabbis have become little cats they're all scared to of their own shadow they're scared to teach the kids any so all of the rabbis are little you know little things right now and they tell the kids oh you get a lollipop for what I don't know for coming to school they they started uh giving participation award why do I get this trophy I don't know you participated yeah but that was last place yeah but you participated that's enough of an reward this is a loser mentality that's being instilled into the society but it's our fault why we're not involved enough we're not supportive enough and worse we fight it we fight it anytime somebody tries to make a change just look at how many problems I deal with instead of every single Rabbi in the world praising our name like they should in reality what do they do many of them fight us why oh you're scaring people away scar people away you know how many B cha do we make in one week the amount of people that you make cha in your 20 years I do in a week not because I'm something special you could do the same thing you choose not to okay you don't want to say the truth to people okay don't get in the way though so the point is is that when we're not supportive socially financially uh mentally spiritually then in essence we are creating an environment where we're not even able to use the rules of the T so now when you have a bed you're supposed to go use that bed more than just a get you're supposed to also use it for a time when there's an issue between two people in business two people as neighbors go to the bedine tell them I have a problem with such and such neighbor he's creating she's creating major issues please bring us a Torah solution bring us a Torah solution help us bring the Torah to life when we do that we're in essence giving the Diane more significance that actually they could do something with with their role and not just sit there you know collecting uh fees monthly from different k for being oversight you know so it's again it's our responsibility though we can't just rely only on the rabbis we have to be supportive of all this this is how all of uh all of our business and uh and uh the world works so so it's very important to go to the rabbis try to ask them and you'll see that the rabbis will do certain things sometimes the rabbis fail sometimes the rabbis fail because they're like this guy from London they're not really interested in helping people they're interested in helping themselves but you cannot fail meaning don't give up go to a different go to a different bed go to a different Rabbi go go and get to the bottom of the issue don't just give up because you didn't get the ideal solution right away try to just like you would try you know searching more and more for for a treasure search more and more for the truth search more and more for Torah to be you know instituted into the world and the more you do it I believe the more you'll succeed because hem loves those that fear Him meaning those that follow the Torah those that believe in Torah is very much real and relevant today as it was 3,000 years ago hasem will make it real in their life but that means will require effort anything yes way to make Unity yeah there is there is we spoke about it last night there are a couple of ways to make Unity uh one way is for all of us to do chuva and understand the truth and therefore we're all going to read from the same tah which means that it doesn't matter whether your custom is to eat Gila fish and my custom is to eat or your custom is to eat a you know spicy food and my custom is to eat food that you may not consider edible that's not going to matter to me whether you eat milk and uh and fish together and I don't that's not going to matter to me what's going to matter to me is who is living the Torah who's following the Torah that's solution number one if all of us do Chua then we will unite just like am United at the time of Mount sa that is the best solution we all do chuva we're all chasing the truth together other option Holocaust number two that's the options right those are the two options that are available if does not do says another Holocaust is coming but much worse than the first one much worse than anything we've ever seen and the reality is is that we're seeing a lot of things happen today because of the fundamental flow within our system I'll give you a few examples today you have a systematic failure in the liud both in the religious and the non-religious it's not just the religious it's not just the non-religious if you go to the non-religious world they tell you that you came from a monkey but if you're dying pray to God you came from a monkey but if you're dying pray to God you already have a confusion here why shouldn't I pr maybe I should pray to uh my grandpa the monkey like why God why where do God come along people don't understand why and who and what are very very confused but yet parents that know this because they went to public school still insist on sending their kids to public school knowing that the education is flawed knowing that the education is full of lies they still send their kids to public school why they don't want to pay for Yeshiva they don't want to pay for Yesa it's too expensive it's too this it's too that listen do you understand that your kid is going to grow up thinking he came from a monkey like is that not bad enough do you realize that there is there's a very high chance that the school he goes to may get shot up because in America one School per week is getting shot up like do you understand the risks associated with sending your kid just for the sake of s saving a few hundred dollars or I can't afford it well plenty of other people can afford it ask them for help why because your kids's life is on the line so people don't understand the consequence of sending their kids to inappropriate schools so sometimes they say no no I'm not sending him to completely public school I'm gonna send him to a Jewish school what's a Jewish school it's Jewish kids that attend public school that's really what it is because one or two of the classes teach them a little bit about Judaism what does that actually create Heretics generally speaking no tadim come out of schools like this very rarely do they actually come out of tadim they may become sikim later on in their life but they don't graduate sadik why all you did is confuse them for eight years straight wait am I allowed to be with a girl not allowed to be with a girl without marriage wait am I allowed to eat this not allow they're not even sure what's allowed what's not why because in essence on one end you're saying nothing's allowed another end you're allowing everything in front of them so in essence all you're doing is you're confusing the kid you're saying no but you're doing yes the kid comes out he's 15 16 17 years old he has no idea what's real Judaism because to him it used to be not allowed but now it's allowed it used to be not good time of mosu you weren't allowed to drive on Shabbat but why they didn't have cars that's his logic of a 15year old says it used to be not allowed but now it's allowed why because no one said anything when I did it so they sent him to these fake Jewish schools and create atheists create confusion Jewish people next you have the Yeshiva system unfortunately not all yeshivas are built the same but nonetheless many of them and mo every one of them that I know of has a common element they do not teach people the basic fundamentals of Judaism which means the 13 the 13 principles of Faith predominantly reward and Punishment many come to me telling me they've never heard consequences of their actions even though they've gone to ISU 15 20 years never heard that there is punishment they heard it exists but don't really know the details no thinks it don't think it's relevant to them further there are certain sins in the Tor like the says this is the biggest sin in the Tor the says this is the of the generation of the generation before mashia and my wife my wife she my wife says that's why Corona came the Corona virus she says that's waking why because we have 200,000 CDs in uh in in China right now waiting to come out because these CDs about git how to fix the breit corona is the medical term for the breit that's my wife she point being is to aside from making you Smiles also to teach you that this is a big deal not knowing about something that's considered the biggest sin in the Torah it's a big deal why you're 18 19 20 25 years old you thought you're religious you wake up I'm making the biggest sin to every single day the guy's praying to hhm Hashem rejects his prayer he doesn't know why because he never learned this so now you have yourself a situation where even if you send your kid to Yeshiva you cannot guarantee unless you check yourself what is in the curriculum you cannot guarantee your kid is going to graduate with adequate knowledge of a Jew worst yet many schools do not check who the teachers are carefully enough because when it comes to secular studies they simply allow anyone that knows the material and is willing to work for the lowest amount of income that's how it works so you could teach history how much you're going to charge us 50,000 a year ah expensive how much you're going to charge phas three 40,000 ah good hired hired the fact whether he knows he doesn't know is irrelevant 40,000 will hire him 30,000 will hire what hiring based on salary what's the problem what if he's a missionary what if he's a Muslim missionary what if he's a Christian Missionary now once he becomes a missionary it doesn't matter how much he charges it doesn't matter even if he pays you you're not allowed to stand next to him let alone not hire him unfortunately almost every single school that I know of that's Jewish has either Christians or Muslims missionaries working at some point in the staff many times teachers many times teachers there well I asked the teachers how come you let the principal how come you hire this guy no no he's only teaching history he's only teaching science he's only the gym teacher he's only the this he's not really Christian he was just born Christian but really is atheist I said atheism is a religion atheism is a religion and in fact they're a very very zealous religion atheists do not stay atheist by themselves they love company because they're miserable they want to make everybody else atheists I wish we were as zealous as the atheists if the Jews were as zealous as the atheist the whole world will be will be Jewish because there's no atheist that stays by himself he has to have a bunch of atheist friends and he has to let everybody know why they're stupid for believing in God he has to he makes videos about it he has websites about it he makes fun of people that talk about God an atheist cannot stay quiet for his life atheism is a religion 100% if your teacher in your Jewish school is an atheist you are hiring a missionary if he is a Christian he's a missionary why it's part of their religion in Christianity is to missionized if you're not a missionary then you're not a religious Christian but you still can't hire why it's only a matter of time before he does chuva in his own religion Muslim if you don't do dawa which is their form of missionizing you're almost considered a Kel a heretic in the Muslim world meaning it's part of it's ingrained into them that you have to bring more people you have to bring more people that's why they're investing hundreds and hundreds of millions of dollars into the Jewish world to make Jewish people go to their religion so if you as a parent you as a member of the community you as a part of a board you as a part of Simply is want to help you have to make sure that the community knows that they're not allowed to hire non-jewish teachers simply not allowed why because at some way or another they're going to get to the kids and I can tell you countless stories that I dealt with personally not hearsay not invented stor stories I didn't even read them in a book stories I deal with on a daily basis because of these teachers of kids going to Christianity kids going to atheism kids going to all types of things inside from yes just this morning a a mother started crying to me from Florida saying to me everything you said was right four months ago I wish I wouldn't listen to you I said why he said I sent my little kid my seven eight-year-old kid to Yeshiva we we we borrow money just to pay for for the school he comes home to me yesterday IMA I learned about Yos in Yesa I learned about Yos he said where did you learn about where did you learn about him how do you know his name oh no my my history teacher told us that's what's the difference between him and me he said I like his Yos he says now go take that out of the seven-year old's mind good luck with that one good luck with that one you know how much teachings you have to undo that one moment that one moment is going to impact this kid maybe for the rest of his life now whose fault is that needless to say the teachers over there needless to say the principles over there but also needed to say the community who didn't act as supportive Watchdog and at the same time caring enough about who our teachers are because the system is failing so we have the secular schools are teaching us that we came from monkeys we have the so-called Jewish schools are creating atheists and then we have many of the religious schools that are not teaching us enough or better yet they're teaching us the opposite because they're not careful with their teachers so we have a systemic failure altogether how can we fix it what's the solution the solution starts with wh we see in the mirror first when you look in mirror you fix that person start with that person start fixing yourself start working on yourself start becoming more religious yourself the more religious you become the more merits you will have in order to impact the world around you because now if you come as a person who doesn't keep much and you go to the Yesa and you start yelling at them they're going to tell you listen go you know you're the last one to yell at anybody you're not even keeping anything but if you start impacting yourself you start changing yourself and you start supporting ing financially socially and so on you'll have more to say you'll have more to influence you'll send your kids to this school you'll become more involved you do it you get your friend to do it your friend gets his friend to do it and her friend to do it before you know it you have a nice group everybody comes to the school together says listen we do not want a Christian teacher in a school okay ma'am thank you very much for not wanting Christian people in a school but this is what we have no no your princip we have a solution each one of us is going to come up with $5,000 $3,000 $2,000 to hire a Jewish teacher meaning we're not asking you to do something that you can't do that you're saying you can't afford no problem we're going to pay for it we're going to pay for the teacher once you tell people that you're putting your money where your mouth is tell them listen we want a Jewish teacher we're going to pay for it guess what they're going to say no problem why don't you come sooner why don't you come but the problem is that many times people come with screaming y yelling and criticizing and no solution it's like you fix the problem you do you do you you or what are you going to do I'm just going to complain here nobody likes a complainer you have to you have to help you have to help do something and that's the key it's it's this is very very important if if a community gets more involved with a common interest to help is get closer to hem then we will indeed create Unity real Unity or there's a second option that I always have to remind myself of which is the Holocaust that's the only other Unity we know that's that that that exists that's it that's what yobu says to his sons in the uh Tor at the end of the book of Genesis Yu tells his sons let me come and tell you what is a uh in chapter 49 of Genesis verse number one and two yobu tells his sons calls for his sons and says assemble yourselves and I will tell you what will befall you in the end of days gather your yourselves and listen oh sons of yov and listen to isra your father so here we see that yov was planning on telling his sons the 12 tribes what's going to happen before mashia comes but then Rashi says he forgot meaning Hashem took away he didn't want to give the details of what's going to happen the exact time of when it's going to be because that's going to mess with our free choice if we know exactly when mashia is going to come it could alter our free choice if you will but he did leave us a very very big hint first says assemble then he says gather why is the first time he says assemble and then he says Gather in essence in English there's really not much of a difference they're synonyms really it's the same word just spelled differently but in Hebrew there's a world of difference in Hebrew when it says as is get here into one room get here sit here everybody's got their own seat put yourself in a situation where there is no other place in the world better than this there is no other choice out there you are together whether you like it or not you're stuck together you're stuck together he says this is what's going to happen at the end of days a who is going to want you guys to get together really really close but you are only going to assemble meaning get together but you know we're only going to get together for the holidays we're only going to get together for for for the parties for the BV for the uh uh you know the weddings and so on says no no no my friends you my children have to eat you have to get together one way or another you're going to get to a place where you're not going to know there's anything else in the world but you have only two options it's either going to be through the Torah or it's going to be through hoc why in the time of the Holocaust after the Holocaust happened during the Holocaust no one cared if you religious or not once the Hitler decided you're a Jew that's it you were a Jew religious not religious is irrelevant once he decided you're a Jew even if you're not really Jewish he decided you're a Jew that's sit you you're on the list you may make it you may not make it that was the that was the reality of that day you put a star on you you're finished after the Holocaust after six million of our brothers and sisters were murdered in Cold Blood the rest of them tried to go back home why they were looking for Jews they were looking for Jews how how do I know if somebody's Jewish one common denominator they only weigh about 5060 pounds that's how you know he was Jewish so they went back to Poland they went back to coosno they went back to all places all over Europe they went back to their houses but the go were took over their houses as soon as they open the door he like ah Hitler didn't finish you so imagine you've just suffered several years of a holocaust you come back to your house and they tell you oh you're alive still some people didn't get get back their houses and some people even after they got back their houses they left anyway why there wasn't enough Jews that survived in the community and they just couldn't tolerate being around guim so they left their town they left their house they left the little bit that they had left in the world just to go find more Jews because at some point aadh says you're gonna have to realize you are different from everybody else you're different from everybody else you have to unite with with the rest of am is and you should Unite with them through good through the Torah if you do that you will succeed we'll finish up with a couple of uh stories that I think will give you a little bit of at times like this because again the questions could never end but the reality is every one of us needs to have enough enough strength to overcome some of the daytoday battles that we deal with within our communities within our schools within our synagogues and so on now when it comes to prayer most of us pray for to help us with money help us with with with with with things that are of material value now the page 16a says that there was a person named otel he says who's was yavitz what does it meel has a couple names yavitz why is why his name is yavitz it says because in the book of Chronicles at the end of the T Chronicles 1 verse number uh chapter 4 verse number 10 it says that yavitz called out to God saying if you bless me and expand my borders and your hand is with me and you keep me from harm that I'm not saddened then God granted them everything that he requested so the Tora says what is this really saying how why did hasm answer prayers right away it says because yavitz was asking for Spiritual help from hem he says Hashem if you help me learn Torah and you help me get that have that are actually going to learn from me and you help me remember the Tora that I know that I'm learning and on top of it you give me good friends meaning friends that are not only going to come over to my house to ask me for a loan or to ask me for favors but also have friends they're going to tell me if I'm doing something wrong because they're trying to help me and if you also help me defeat the then good but if not AEM I'm just gonna die from sadness and on the spot Hashem answered his prayer so kazal says this is the secret to prayer when a person prays for Hashem to help him spiritually Hashem immediately answers his prayer but the problem is that most of the time we pray for physical stuff we pray for money we pray for houses we pray for a lot of physical stuff which again there's nothing necessarily wrong with praying for stuff even if it's material but don't make all of your prayers that don't make all of your prayers just about money just about a house just about a z you should add a little bit of spiritual growth and the reason why is because that's really what's going to give you the Merit to to get the other stuff that you really want now at times of problems whether it be a virus or Holocaust or confusion in general a person that didn't pray for Spiritual help is not going to know what to do now after the Holocaust many people were lost they didn't know where to go but many people continued suffering because despite the Holocaust being over the persecution of Jews was not over so galinski Shalom was living in communist Russia and he had number one mission in his life teach Tor no matter what the cost is the Russians also had one mission in life destroy the Tor destroy all religion so when they found out that R galinski was teaching t they arrested him and they sent him to Siberia now in Siberia if you knew you were getting you have a ticket to Siberia in essence you're not coming back no one's coming back from Siberia the enslavement the cold the sickness the abuse and so on you're not coming back galinski came back how did he come back what was his secret there was a few people that were also also watching their mouth also watching their mind also keeping Torah also Al learning to and so on and he was in this group with them and they had a rule every day each person will say to give everybody else some some fire to continue two minutes every day everybody was two minutes the entire day you're working you're a slave but two minutes out of the day you give everybody else a k your own so galinski they say to him one day I'll your turn soinski says the page 13 says that a person when he says the should make sure that he elongates extends the letter of when he says he should say it and extend the so says why why extend the D it why even why aemm need something from us he says in order for a person to really be in a good terms with a first and foremost they have to believe in hem but the proper belief is not just believing that Hashem is there for you when you're making money and you have a nice warm blanket and you have your wife or your husband and your kids and everything is cozy the belief in hem is to know that aosh is also here with you in Siberia where you haven't eaten in two days you haven't bathed and God only knows how many months every two seconds you're on a border of of possibly being killed for absolutely no reason and God is with you here and you're supposed to learn that from sh is he says how so he says wants you to say to remember that there's only one God the sages his sergeants his generals the generals the representatives of hasem say not only say this verse but make sure to extend the why because the also has a numerical value of four okay what is four also in Judaism the four different corners of the world that sent meaning that is one but he's also in the four corners of the world with you wherever you are in your troubles in your difficulties in your good in your bad in your ugly in your beautiful he's everywhere with you don't ever think for a second that he left you for a second you're suffering he's suffering you're crying he's crying that is going to give you at least one more purpose to live why because is with you so why is he doing it to me if he's suffering also because he determined that out of all all of the possible choices that were available to you based on your actions this was the best choice wait how come he can't give me just a house in Tahiti and just for me to relax for the next 30 years he can it's just not available to you why because every time you take certain actions that's like putting on the code into a safety box no you put a special code and it has let's say 10 digits every time you do something you keep you pressed one number you don't keep Shabbat you press a different number you learn toat you press one number you don't learn to you take a different number so each number represent a certain destination after you've completed the code whenever the S the total comes up who says okay after we've put a total of all of your actions over the past week the past month the past year the past whatever time you have now opened yourself through your actions the following choices and out of the following choices living in Tahiti for 20 years with no one to worry about is not one of those options Siberia is one of the options for galinski that was his option that was his option even though he was a sadik but something happened along the way with the generation in general that Siberia even became option for for for why because when it's a heavy decree from sh theik and UNT they get judged the same there a decree on everyone so the point is but who did he end up saving he ended up saving theim so the point is is to know that what we've had until now for the last 70 or so years is a period of time of comfort like no other really you could only compare the comfort that we've had as a people for the last seven years years uh to the times of maybe but that time is slowly but surely getting to an end you're seeing that there is a war heating up you're seeing there's an economic failure and collapse in the works you're seeing there are diseases and problems in the world that we have no solutions to and all of it is sending us signs clear signs that he is now getting to the final number to open that door that door that's going to give us the available choices before mashia comes those choices are not a thousand choices there's two choices he says this door has a sign on it called Unity called how am I going to achieve before mashia comes if you follow follow the pattern you could open the door of by everyone doing Chua together publicizing aem's name and you'll open the door where we'll all become united through the Torah on the other hand if we continue pressing the bad number the wrong number the number that's constantly constantly going against the T constantly going against hem then in essence we're opening the door that only gives us the option of a Holocaust the Corona virus that's happening right now is another warning the earthquakes happening all over the world is a warning what's happening in Venezuela is a warning what's happening in South Africa is a warning what's happening in the UK is a warning what's happening in Israel there are warning signs everywhere for anyone that's paying attention now what should all of this do this should give us hope and scare us at the same time that's in essence the message it should give us hope that no matter what is with us in the four corners of the world but it should scare us in order for us to do more than what we're doing it doesn't matter how much you've been doing till today today you came to is because wanted you to hear message that you need to do more you're watching the sh hasem wants you to learn you need to do more what about everybody else everybody else is not your problem your problem is the person you see in the mirr whatever you're doing you need to do more whatever it is whether it's being more religious being more studious being more generous being more supportive whatever it is you know yourself better than anybody else but the key is to know is that in order to improve our chances to have the good door to avoid the Holocaust Shalom to avoid it we have to start with the person that we seen in the mirror first we have to start by doing cha ourselves improving ourselves and now starting to improve our community where I come or comes to give a little boost to the community should be happening on a monthly basis if any Community is smart enough to do it why every time we leave there's a line of that follow any smart Rabbi any smart Community would literally Beg For Change just to get us to come why you're getting results much better than the local Rabbi could ever do you're doing a rabbi job that he was supposed to do for 20 years in one day but instead what do they do they ask the rabbi Rabbi should we bring him no no no he says this he says that Hey listen Rabbi he gets results he gets results so instead of waiting for the rabbis to say yes or no you have to take the initiative just like RAB just like some of the other that arrang this whole event and take the initiative we're gonna get a place one way or the other we're going to get the people one way or the other we're going to get chwat done one way or the other we're going to bring bring hasm to Montreal one way or the other amen that's it that's what everybody has take the initiative just make it happen now wait for the whole world to agree disagree and in the meetings and forget about all that stuff you're not going to get everybody to agree today you got to get as many people that are like-minded to agree as soon as possible then you add more people but the reality is is that it starts with you we're already doing as much as we can everyone knows they send me a question at 3 o'clock in the morning or 3 o'clock in the afternoon they're getting an answer there is no schedule there is no schedule I see my kids on Shabbat that's what I see my kids even though I live in the same house them and always will they're in my house I see them on Shabbat why there's simply no time either there or there's people that need help so the public needs to be more supportive there are many many CDs and videos and things that we do and we can do if we simply had more support but again it starts with you it starts with the people that are watching and if everybody else starts taking the initiative themselves and starts doing things themselves you're going to see a major change in your life you're going to see a major in your life in your community and at the end of it you're going to make the door that's good available to you and your loved ones to you and your community because again doesn't mean that just because a bunch of people are choosing the wrong door that's going to come to you also they're choosing the wrong choice they'll have whatever whatever they're making themselves they're writing their own check you have to do whatever you can to help yourself in your community you start helping your community that Community as a whole will start having a domino effect on other communities as people move as people change as people communicate with others but the whole chuva movement can go to the next level simply by the decision that you decide today it doesn't have to start with a huge community of 500,000 Jews no quite frankly most likely it won't there's almost a million Jews that live in Florida you know how many of them come to my maybe 50 to 100 you know why because the rest of them are busy with the that's the reality that's a reality every sh you come to 50 to 100 people in every which is plenty by the way it's not necessarily A Bad Thing but how many should come a million why because they to learn the truth so the key is for us to understand is that the big communities the big rabbis the big everything is not where we're supposed to wait for the change to come from the change is supposed to come from us says in a place there's no leader you be the leader who's you you the the one that you see in the mirror you that doesn't know as much as you should know you the one that thinks that you know more than you know you the one that's just religious for a few months you're the one that's religious for your whole life you're the one with a beard you're the one without the beard you're the one with the hat you're the one that wants a hat you you be the leader you do something how does it be a leader be a leader by bringing that's 100% foolproof 100% verifiable 100% Amit and most importantly 100% impacts people to do something I mean we should all be tired of the teachings that are simply so boring you can't wait for it to be over we should all be just tired of the teachings that you're there the whole time and you're there for an hour and a half but you have no idea what you just learned you just listen to the guy and you're listening and you're not show what he's is he teaching Christianity is he teaching Judaism is it about Suk is it about what I don't know so he start talking to your friend because you can't wait for the whole thing to be over but you're only here because your friend brought you the reality is the whole point of is is to get you to a point of action take action do something I'm hoping that I achieved it if I did I'm sorry I failed you but the key is for each and every single one of us to take some type of action to do something about you know of a school in your community that's employing non-jews go do something about it you know a bunch of people in your community that are not keeping Shabbat go do something about it you know a bunch of people that are torturing the community with all types of things that are illegal go do something about it do something go make sure you have make sure you have a rabbi that's addressing you Rab in the back he's more than happy to help anyone that wants help all you got to do is ask him he's not going to go ask people you want to help you up he's not begging for change reality is you want to help you call him he's going to help you the reality is you have people that want to help you you need to want to help yourself also this gives us the to take some actions to make this community become a domino effect of good a domino effect of Kusa not just on Montreal not just on Toronto which we'll go visit very soon but also on the rest of is because told the prophet before I bring mhia the same things that happen in Egypt are going to happen in the days of mashiach but not like they were in Egypt but to a much higher magnitude much higher magnitude just like there were three days of darkness in Egypt there will be 15 days of darkness in the days of mashiach but even more Soh who says I'm not going to be remembered as the god of Israel that took them out of Egypt but rather the god of Israel that took them out of the land of the North and the rest of the world what's the land of the north there's only one place in the world that has North as part of its name North America North America has the largest amount of Jews outside of Israel it's Canada and it's the United States if it was just any other place like something people say no maybe it's Russia how many Jews are in Russia Today who is he taking out out of Russia Today who is he taking out out of Russia maybe if you said a long time ago yeah but today how many people are in really Russia there's not many where are the vast majority of the Jews in the world outside of Israel it's in North America we have to help bring a good bring a good decree on us how do we do it we start ourselves we do this we succeed we help our father in Heaven bring us blessings and nothing else amen amen [Music]