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[Music] we're back here in Sunny Isles I believe this is one before last sh in this location I think the last one is going to be on uh Sunday B if I got my calendar right yeah Sunday I think um stay tuned for new location uh address and all that stuff um so tonight we do a another stump the rabiu with uh you guys asking questions giving us answers but as we always start with we'll start with a uh a couple of uh interesting T that I thought about today and uh I think a uh will probably answer quite a few questions that we have sometimes a um trying to make sense of things uh today's uh sh will be for foran Leana s Orit bana Talia bat SAR Ben aaham David benri Doris Bora Esther Bora Joshua Ben um no Sak s and also for foram Marsha Sarah sha Ben faran oshri bis Gabi bis elad bis and all of especially the ones that uh are partners with to help is either with their money or with their time or with their skill set we keep getting more and more people to uh join team team to do all types of interesting things and uh it's amazing that uh there are so many talented people on the team team uh that uh each day we have you know new ideas new things uh where people are just you know seriously interested in using their talents uh to to help and really when I uh I spoke to R FR one time uh recently a uh where uh someone came up with a idea to um uh to do a uh a sweatshirt sweatshirt and uh asked him what did he think of it just generally speaking uh you know he and he said as far as modesty is concerned of course this is K for men not for women but uh the point being is what do you think and I run everything by him and he says this to me you know a the sentence that's priceless he says any gimmick that you can possibly use to get am closer to hem do it that's it anything you can do whether it's a USB or a CD or it's a movie or it's a uh uh blog or it's a newsletter or it's a whatever it is whatever you can possibly do that maybe this is going to be the one thing that's going to get this guy and not another guy uh now uh and that's really what we've been doing over the last six years uh trying to get am closer to Hashem with every tool that we have every idea that we could possibly uh you know of course uh utilize to get cloudly set closer to hasem because uh it's amazing how Hashem will send you ideas and um you never naturally I say why would this even work but when you remove yourself from the equation when you remove your own oh this was my idea that's what it worked when you simply realize Hashem gave you that idea because there's something to it maybe you should utilize to get people to do chuva and if it works it's hem if it doesn't work it's AEM what do you do you just press buttons to make it look realistic that's pretty much it and when a person simply does that so we have so many different ways that people have been doing chva you know there's one thing that's one of my uh you know it's like a uh interesting secret tool where uh not many people know about it but just about 3,000 just about 3,000 people know about it which is the uh TV channel that we have we have a channel on this system called Roku which is like online television you subscribe to it and so on we don't recommend TV for anybody but if you already have the system then at least you'll have some and uh so we already have this thing for a while I I never really looked at the numbers okay this is just another thing we pay for hopefully maybe somebody is going to watch on it and I noticed that we have uh there's a ton a ton of Christian channels ton of them and one Jewish Channel who us that's it there's a few others that pretend to be Jewish but they're you know either reform or Messianic and so on so I said okay maybe somebody's going to look up something Jewish and find us right now I got numbers recently he said over 3,000 Avid Watchers and I already have personal stories from some that said they did CH through it oh I found RAB on Ru I said well I didn't find me on Ru but you found another one is the uh podcast we have a podcast uh for uh anyone that uh is you know traveling in the car is in the car for a while or whatever you like podcast some people love podcasts so we have a podcast on Apple on Google on all these different uh media Outlets where uh you could listen to the um series every week we publicize one or two of the lectures which is plenty of information for anybody it's usually 3 hours a lecture and uh one of my students from New York says this is his thing he says you have to let people know about this podcast it's the best it helps me this that I said honestly for me thank you I said for me I don't know I don't even know how to use a podcast I never used the podcast in my life but it's another tool we used it we started it I don't know maybe uh six months ago I would say and there's quite a few people that are uh Avid Watchers or listeners to this podcast because that's their uh that's their choice that's what they uh want to that's how they want to drink their their so anyone that has that listens to podcast you have emit through the podcast you go to the uh type in uh or I think type in my name or both and you'll find us there uh and again this is a uh another convenient way now my personal favorite is the app and the reason why is uh especially now that we updated it after almost uh nine months of back and forth updating fixing this that we released recently another updated version of the uh of the app and it's truly uh amazing because it has a feature in it I don't think you're gonna find anywhere else um where aside from the fact that it's kosher and better than YouTube or Facebook or anything else because the app is just the app there's no commercials there's no distractions you put on the app you can watch the video or you could listen to it whichever one you prefer uh all of our sh both myself and uh so you have one central place for all of the sh uh you could also do some other things there uh like you know donate maybe if you want uh but uh aside from that the uh we have a new feature which is questions and answers so the few you know that we have I don't know I don't know how many subscribers we have but the uh few people that are uh using it love this feature and they're starting to send questions and I uh try to answer the questions usually once a week I answer all the questions at once and there usually a bunch and uh quite a few people already told me this is the greatest thing in the world because it's not just that they're able to ask questions but they're able to benefit out of other people's questions you know cuz sometimes you had the same question but you didn't have you know you didn't ask it sometimes you didn't even think about this question but you like this question and now you like you enjoy the answer so I like this feature a lot and my real My Hope Is That B will eventually Transit uh trans transition from uh the WhatsApp terminal that I have to this to the app because every day now we answer hundreds of questions on WhatsApp uh which is unbelievable but very very timec consuming uh but realistically it's it only benefits individual parties so if everybody could start asking their questions on the app you know you still have your anonymity no one knows who you are anyway you don't have to worry about that part but you could at least let other people benefit from uh what you learned so uh on the app we could answer the questions in uh text and also in audio I personally prefer audio because it's easier than typing but I sometimes I do this sometimes I do that so highly highly recommend people to uh use the app I could tell you that most likely if uh um uh people pay attention and and you know they want their questions answered most likely I would say it's going to become uh more and more likely that you'll get your answer faster from the app than you will get from uh WhatsApp just simply because there's a you know with with WhatsApp it's individual Kyo with the with the app I could answer your question but also help whoever else is is paying attention and listening uh and it's also stored and B will put it on the website too so another way to uh to help am cha uh a few people are jumping on the offer of the uh USBS they like it anyone that hasn't uh heard about it the USBs are on website uh 400 plus hours of um I think it's a uh enormous amount of tah where if you actually study it you're going to change as a person just one woman today um took the uh initiative even a step further uh her and a few other people where they're not only listening to uh the series of the but they're also doing it with the book that I recommend so they're following along what I'm reading and what I'm saying or at least part of it uh highly recommended and she's saying that this already she's only up to I think maybe lecture number 15 or 20 out of 180 and she already feels like it's changed our life dramatically so um now with that being said we see that a person has a unique ability to transform themsel unlike any other creature in the world Shalom said that if you look at it and you study the uh issue of which is perhaps the most difficult subject in Judaism which is Purity and impurity uh not very uh applicable to today because we don't have a bet mikdash we really don't have a way to purify all of the things that make us impure like for example all of us have a impurity by of the Dead you know either because you've touched somebody uh that uh died or you touched somebody else that touch somebody that died uh and pretty much everyone in the world has this uh and there's no way to purify it until we have the bet mikdash and theim will use the red heer as part of the process to uh to purify all of am uh but there are certain things like for example the tum of where a woman that goes to the mik every month she's married she purifies herself and the Z says that there's no tum stronger than the tum of the meaning the is even stronger has more power uh to affect people than the t of of dead people uh now this doesn't Shalom make a woman bad or or evil or anything like that Shalom it just means that this is just one of those places where a person needs to be very very careful with uh you know with his wife if he's married to make sure that they're only together uh and even touching uh hand to hand uh when she's pure which is approximately half the month and needless to say uh to uh limit any type of touching whatsoever uh before marriage simply because this creates a lot of uh problems in a person's life and many times uh the people that come to me with their major issues uh whether it's uh sickness financial problems uh marriage issues children issues all types of issues nine out of 10 times is because of immorality immorality either because they're married but they don't know how to uh be together with their spouse in a Kosher Way or because they're promiscuous or because they weigh seed or because a number of other issues that uh that people have where the uh the immorality in this generation is uh is running rampant so much so that there is a group of an enormous group and growing group unfortunately of uh homosexual people that are celebrating their public sins against theem by having parades about it and the public thinks it's normal now it's bad enough you know homosexuality has always existed even at the time of Noah which was actually one of the biggest reasons why hasm destroyed the world now there's always been there's always been homosexuality but only twice in history was it celebrated time of Noah and today other times people would generally speaking hide it last time destroyed the world this time we have a promise from Hashem that he's not going to destroy the world with aul but we don't have a promise he won't destroy the world now I don't think necessarily hm is going to destroy the world like he did with time of Noah but we see that man has enough power in his actions to not only change himself but change the creation and influence the Creator now when it comes to impurity everything in creation once it's impure it cannot become pure again so if let's say there's an animal that became impure there's no way to purify it there are bugs bugs are always impure to talks about it and also there's specific types of reptiles and things like that that are also impure there's no way to purify them everything impure stays that way except man except a human being where a human being a Jew can make themselves pure even if they were the most impure person on Earth even if they were as bad as Mas man was a evil Jewish King at some point that became a kadosh the symbol of chuva but it was a very difficult chuva it was a very painful CH but nonetheless he did CH the says but he made every sin Under the Sun you name it he did it murder stealing uh rape uh incest name it everything he murdered his own grandfather which was the prophet yesah the prophet Isaiah you you see the book of Isaiah in the the Torah that was his grandfather he cut him to pieces and he murdered a lot of people but in the end he did CH after gave him one last chance when he was caught by a bunch of uh cannibalistic go that uh were cooking decided to cook him it's in they put him in a big pot they started cooking him so in the beginning man started praying to his idols Idol a save me babus nothing Idol be nothing the sun nothing the moon nothing the Buddha nothing Yos nothing everything you want nothing nothing nothing nothing nothing tried everything everything failed finally he got to he said if you're real you save me right now and I'll do said look at this not only does he go against the sh kills a Bunch ofik not only does he make every possible sin Under the Sun but he praise to Idols before he prays to after all of that fails then he goes to and he has the nerve to get make demands like if you save me now then I'll do chva like I won't do chva now unless you save me but this also shows us how much loves his kids where he knows how stupid we are sometimes and how many mistakes we make and how we don't know right or left sometimes because we think that the sin is delicious we think that the sin is good and uh we make the sin we become become addicted to it but then finally we call on WE sayem I'll do Chua if you save me and Hashem knows our heart it's one of our 13 principles of faith is that hashm knows our thoughts meaning he knows what's in our heart he knows what's in our mind you don't have to say it Hashem already knows it and he knew that man was genuine and not only did he save him he saved him in a miraculous way that while he was being cooked in a huge pot he made the this pot the first UFO the first UFO the partt started flying in the air all arrived in that's says part flew up in the air and arrived all the way to Y and at that moment man obviously knew that is The One and Only God and he did and says that did but it's only mentioned at the end of the tanak because the chuv that he did was not completed during his lifetime because there were certain sins that he made that he couldn't fix while he was alive for example the idolatry that he did there was certain consequences of the idolatry so until all of the idolatry was was removed from the world that he brought into it his cha was not complete so this was many many years after he died but nonetheless his Chua was complete and he has a share of the world to come so here we see that a person can transform themselves from being impure as impure gets to being so that we mention him in a that we mention him in a tan that we mention him in the that we learned from him that's the power of a human being of how great they can get to but also how lowly they can be now there are times that we say stories from the mid or the that some people have a hard time believing for example the mid says how come which were numbered in the millions how come didn't just pick up and leave Egypt or you just go hey Mustafa I'm out of here what he going to do kill you okay so make our protest look what's happening in New York and Minnesota and everywhere 20 30 40 50,000 people protesting the cops pretty much gave up there I just ruin everything they don't want to deal with it they're destroying public property as if it's a uh a police don't want to do anything about it why what are you going to do 50,000 of them in order to do something about you have to start killing people it's hard so they gave up so why do the same thing why just say listen we're numbered in the millions in fact there is even more of Amy than there ra Egyptians a lot more so let's go we run towards the exit a few of us are going to die a few of us are going to live y sacrifice says few reasons one of the reasons is because AEM instilled fear into they were afraid of the G just like an elephant is afraid of its owner that holds on on a little leash you because in Circus you got this owner that's a size of like the half a leg of the elephant and he has a leash that belongs to a dog but he put it on the elephant but this guy is controlling this giant elephant somehow why the elephant scared of him am was scared of the Egyptians as part of the the the whole situation that was happening there hasem instilled fear into am to be scared of theim now one of the reasons why they were scared of the go is because any time somebody tried breaking out something terrible would happen what would it be the idols the idols of the Egyptians would come to life the hugee giant Idols in the borders and as soon as the Jews would come close to the to the exit the idols would come to life and start screaming and scaring them to death now until now until I mentioned this last part of the idol piece of stone coming to life very easy to understand the rest of the story once I go into this mystical teaching of a piece of stone coming to life and scaring people now that gets a little tricky for some people why they don't want to believe in stuff like that so I'm going to ask you a question I'm going to give you the answer of course how could it be that an idol comes back to life oh comes to life starts talking starts yelling starts beating up people how could it be no possessed by demons possessed by demons it's good one know who has another one was another one now that answer would be a good answer but then you're going have to explain to me another answer then Elisha Nai Elisha Nai he and it was this poor woman who was married for many many years never had a kid and uh she came to Alish she was hosting him she was hosting him taking care of was such a good host very tough to find good hosts this woman was hosting him with a husband but no kids he sees there's no kids she says b my daughter tell me I'm going to go pray to the to to the king I'm G to go talk to the king what do you want tell me what you want not because he doesn't know what she wants it's good for her to say it she says my dear prophet my dear Rabbi don't pray for me pray for am if you're already going to pray pray for am is she doesn't have a kid she's married 20 years no kid what does a woman want when she's married kids s says if I don't have a kids better off I just die all the OT all the matriarchs they were having problems having kids didn't have the ability to have kids made them have a problem because you wanted to hear him pray a woman naturally wants to have kids so when a woman doesn't have kids after 20 years of marriage you ask what do you want the prophet's going to go talk to and talks back to him in so many words you can ask for whatever you want this is your chance instead of saying listen do me a favor Rabbi tell to give me a kid just one two if he wants five also better but one instead she said no no go pray for go pray for all of is what a sadik so the prophet says Elish says in nine months from now you're going to have a kid nature is going to change for you why because you love am so now the kid is born N9 months later and then something happens the kid gets a high temperature dies baby dies she doesn't lose a beat she runs to the prophet yes you prayed for me to have a baby what's the point of praying for me have a baby it's just going to die a few months later what's the point Le says not to worry take this stick take the stick my staff and go touch the forehead of the baby with the staff they'll come back to life G made fun of this not in front of the prophet he went outside and uh he started talking to he was you think this stick brings life doesn't right you think this that this is G this is the uh Rabbi Rabbi big Rabbi heard all the lect sh all the lectures but he still made fun cuz he didn't believe what the stick a piece of wood is going to bring the Kit back to life doesn't make any sense so he started like playing around with it and he saw a dead dog in the street that dog so he touched the dog with the Stick Dog back to life goes gets to the kid touched the kid kid's still dead nothing happens why you already used it woman comes back to Alish says it's not working Alisha knew what happened with G made a mistake or what he did Elisha himself goes sees the kid and brings it back to life now back to Su if you're saying that the statues had a demon in them it's a nice answer that's why they were able to come back to life but we can't use that same answer for Alisha Nai well I mean this time there's an angel in there ah an angel in this one one's an angel one's a okay see something smart but what if I tell you it's not an angel and not a demon No Angel no demon what's the next answer Hashem is inside the stick thank you hasem make it happen that's an answer it's what you guys are saying to me no think think think what does it mean I have a stick touch use this piece of stick use this piece of bottle and uh go dip in the water what what happened somebody comes says Rabbi we want to have a baby we're married 5 10 years we want have a baby Rabbi says no one year from now you're going to have a baby a year later they have a baby no stick no water Rabbi said that a baby I saw this my own eyes how come no stick no but we can't have with Egypt it still has to be the same answer so the answer is half of what you said what does that mean unlike all creation a human being has the ability to change itself in so many words and so much so that they could go from being impure to pure and if a person understands their own power they could literally instill power into the domain they could instill power into something that's otherwise just a solid nothing lifeless so the Egyptians had many different types of Witchcraft that they used and they use utilized that witchcraft in order to instill life into the idols now many people could read different type of Witchcraft books try the same trick and it doesn't work on the other hand on the positive side was he instilled life into a piece of wood and the wood brought somebody back to life on the other hand somebody comes to radya somebody comes to R again somebody comes to many Rim that's document throughout all of history and things happen something Supernatural one of the famous stories about Salman mfi that I mentioned to you guys last night he was a very famous meal that uh made open Miracles people witnessed them people witnessed these Miracles thousands of people and every so often he would do it to give to people and he wases according to all opinions doesn't make a difference his son today is one of the now one time one of the famous stories that was witnessed by countless people is Shalom told many of his students we're going to go pray at at the grave s sites of theim in TAS we'll go pray there so bunch of people showed up and they all went when they got to toia one of the little kids ran across the street and a car ran over a truck ran over him crushed him sh is body's laying there on the floor everyone is in shock ambulance shows up there still a little life but the guys at the ambulance says sorry you don't see it but his insides are completely crushed there's no way he's going to survive he says to the says okay let's go to the K of of let's go climb go to this K pray over there and then we'll go to the hospital see the boy okay everyone's nervous everyone's crying and they go to they pray over there after they finish they go to the hospital goes in by himself he sees doctors tell we're sorry kid's not going to make it it's too much damage the little boy is not going to make it so why don't you just maybe you could say next to him maybe he could blur bab a word or two before he dies and that's it of he says it's not possible it's not possible as kid is going to die right no he's crushed finished the truck 18 whe ran over this kin it's finished it's nothing not possible it's not possible he's going to die why not so we prayed we just prayed we just went to we prayed over there we're doing it's not possible he's going to die I'm going to go inside okay no one knows what's going on here just like you she Boy comes back outside tell the doctor okay I'm going to take him out I'm going to take him with me if you unplug him from the wires he's going to die instantly St me don't worry in those days you could you could do stuff like that today you say something like they're going to arrest you don't try it at home unless you havei if you die you can still do it so he goes inside unplugs everything comes back the kid's walking nothing happened to him not a scratch see what everyone saw it nothing walks out hundreds of people watching this they have no idea what just happened the doctors how's two seconds ago we were inside we saw the kid crushed finished for love what happened so nothing happened I told how could it be we went to go do mitvah want to sanctify your name how could it be that one of your children is going to get hurt doing a Mitzvah how could it be and on top of it we prayed how could it be has said I agree everything's fixed now if this story wasn't witnessed and written in papers and things like that people would have a very hard time believing it but this is the answer the answer to the the question that we started the day with you see when a woman comes to a RAV and asks the r please give me a blessing and the r gives her a blessing that she'll have a kid or she'll find a z or whatever the blessing is or you'll be healthy and so on if the woman believes in the rav believes that the rav's blessing will come true believes that pays attention to the like believes it not 90% not not even 100% she herself instills power in his Blessing wheni was praying to to bring this boy back to life there was no doubt in his mind that this is going to happen that the kid's going to come back to life and that's why it happened when Elisha Nai saw the poor woman didn't have a boy he had no doubt in his mind that was going to have a boy and on top of when the boy died he took a stick and he believed 100% that giving this stick and giving it to his helper and having the stick it touch the boy is 100% going to work and put life into the kid his in A's unlimited power unlimited Glory instilled power into something that otherwise is lifeless when we believe in something we instill power in it now this has enormous enormous ramifications into our daytoday life now I don't believe any one of us is going to plan on becoming Rafi anytime soon because it requires you to study to 20 hours a day too also not just uh say the kid come back to life but the reality is many of us want our words to come true this is why it's critical to start working on our and our connection to but even more so to be extremely careful with the words we choose when we speak to other people because what happens is sometimes somebody makes you upset so what do you do something not so nice yell at them scream maybe even curse them out maybe insult them maybe remind them of something horrible they did a million years ago or last week whichever one tell them they're a loser tell them they're not a winner tell them all types of things what you're not realizing is that your words whether you mean them or not are actually causing something to happen sometimes I meet young people and they ask me simple questions they asked me Rabbi do you think I could one day be a rabbi sure why not but I don't understand what I'm reading okay so study harder you'll understand but you really really think that I'm going to be a rabbi one day I said yeah why why wouldn't you so I don't know nobody else thinks so Rabbi do you think I could be uh successful in business sure why not but I don't really know how to add subtract I don't really I'm not very good at anything so you can still be successful ra you really believe I could do all this yes 100% wow you're the only one that says that and I see the story over and over again people that do not believe in themselves and are surprised that I tell them they can do whatever they want how come there's so many people that have such a low self-esteem such a low evaluation of themsel how come because that's what they heard their whole life they wanted to do something but somebody told them usually somebody that's important in their life they can't do it I want to build this ABA what do you think no no son it's too big for you don't build it it's too much for you go do something smaller something more like no something small don't don't do big things why would you want why you want to fail you don't want to fail just do something small kid AB want to open a store no son you're not what you going to open a store for what you're not going to succeed you don't know what you're talking about stay come stay working with me don't do anything make a blue collor living we don't need I I want to marry this girl she's beautiful nah she's too much for you she's not even going to look at you no no no no no go go do this do that constantly ABA want to finish the whole sh son you don't even know how to speak Hebrew yeah but it's in English too yeah but you know you sh you're already too old you're already too young you're already this you're not even that religious no no don't do it constantly our life is full of naysayers of people telling us that we can't do anything and our problem is is that we believe them how do we know we believe them because it affects us if somebody ever said something to you that was negative and you were affected by it that means you believe it even if you say no no no but I don't really care you believe it part of you believes it and because you believe it it'll affect you it'll affect your psyche it'll affect your mentality it'll affect your ability and in essence you yourself are giving their words power and you're turning yourself into what they said you are even though you weren't before they said it they said you can't do it a part of you believes it by the way what happens you can't do it anymore before they said it you could do whatever you want after they said it you believed it that's it that ability garbage you wanted to complete the entire sh because you saw that is a big thing to do you started your reading you're page number seven out of 2,666 but you're as excited as can be your friend comes up she goes what are you doing um learning what do you want well why just I watch online if you're already gonna learn something no no I want I want to actually read the I want to finish the all sh got finish hey guys guys guys look at this guy he thinks he's kki look at this guy stop making fun of you you believe a word that they said you're affected by it in for one second you're giving them power you're giving them power that's why first first one somebody comes to make fun of you in your don't pay any attention to them at all why because you paying attention to them you agreeing with them you second guessing yourself for a second already is taking away your strength to do what you want to do if you know that what you want to do is good you have to Simply use these two fingers put them in your ear anytime somebody wants to say something to you and you have to be aggressive about it meaning some one of these people that's always comes to you and tells them tells you their opinion of you and their opinion of your limitations because they can't do it they assume you you can't do it either you have to be aggressive about it how so they start talking don't let them finish say do me a favor go tell that somebody else no no I'm telling you but it's not relevant to anybody else no it's not relevant to me either I know I'm going to do it you go tell somebody else go go I don't want to hear it don't let them talk don't let this Venom enter your why it's going to affect you you started putting on some's clothes all of a sudden you're wearing a dress that reaches the floor one of the girls says what are you wearing don't get if you know that she's asking the question in a derogatory way you have to answer in an aggressive way I'm wearing what my grandmother s menu was wearing you should do the same and leave don't give them the time of day to inject you with their poison why because the mid says that Adam was created after all of the other creatures after the lion after the bear after the the panda after the snake after the yatou even the uh mosquito question is why why after everybody on one hand thear says because if the person is not a he doesn't learn then is going to tell him look look at you I brought you to the world to learn Tor and you didn't even do that that mosquito is more important than you what how do I know look I created him before you so he was already better than you and the only way you can become better than him is if you fulfill your will my will by living studying you didn't do it you stayed something as insignificant as something that's below mosquito on the other hand the says that the reason why made mankind after all of the animals is because he took a piece of the strength of every single one of the creatures that he created before them and instilled it into man a little bit of the snake a little bit of the donkey a little bit of the bull a little bit of the lion sometimes you hear somebody roaring screaming at his wife that's a lion sometimes you see somebody he likes to say something that's really going to hurt you gets right under your skin it's a snake venom something you see somebody just making a mess for no reason that's a donkey sometimes you see somebody is so lazy he doesn't even want to get out of bed it's the elephant all of these things are animalistic behaviors that are in all of us question is whether you're going to use them or not now when somebody comes and attacks your idea to serve AEM at a higher level to do something good in life you want to make a very big donation to help a bunch of poor people you want to do something significant and you want to build some holy uh place that's going to be full of Kusa you want to do something that nobody else has done ever or maybe anytime recently the second somebody comes to you with their venom with their Cobra Venom to to and their mid amik to cool you off you have to use your animalistic liing and Roar them away Roar them away don't let them don't let them speak even as soon as you know they're going to try to cool you off if you know this is a good idea your says it's a good idea and anyone that wants to get in your way tell them do me a favor tell this to somebody else why I know it's not me that's achieving anything it's all hasem so everything that you're saying is about my limitations but I know I have limitations you don't have to remind me of my limitations but I also know I'm not the one that's doing it success is in the hand of the Creator only what I'm doing here is I'm telling Hashem that I want to be his vessel to do something good that's all I'm doing I'm not doing anything I'm not building any buildings I'm not teaching any books I'm not saying any T I'm not doing anything all I'm doing is I'm asking please please I beg you I beg you use me as the tool use me as the vessel to build this Shiva to to marry this beautiful woman and have beautiful kids that are allim to to uh to to be the father of all these tedim to be the mother of all of these sedim to do all of this good please use me as your tool I can't do it and he this guy over here this Venom over here this Cobra over a friend of mine this friend of me just wanted to come here and remind me that I can't do it but I told him I know I can't do it it's you please use me cuz all I have is I have the desire to do your will once a person understands their own limitations at the same time understands aem's unlimitedness and at the same time understands that their belief their amuna in something literally instills power in something they're going to know how to navigate in their life for good and for bad they know that if they reacted a certain way that was negative there will be negative consequences as a result sometimes right away sometimes a tsunami that arrives a week later needless to say something will happen same thing with positive if a person looks to do something positive they have to already think of things in a way that's appropriate eliminate any negativity from around them eliminate any of the naysayers eliminate anything that is telling them know you can't do it not because you think you can do it like the go say if you believe in yourself then you can do it that's not what we're saying no you agree you can't do it cuz you can't do anything you're just a piece of meat but Hashem can and all you want to do is convince hem to use you as the vessel to bring this thing to life whatever good thing that is which includes also success in business success in marriage success in parenting anything that you want know that it's all in hashem's sense to do anything and know that you have to eliminate anything that's going to confuse you which sometimes means your friends your family and whoever else you have to eliminate all of these types of things because as long as you are focused on what you need to do to constantly pray to Hashem to be used as that vessel you can literally succeed in things that are beyond your imagination beyond your imagination to such an extent that you're not going to believe that it's happening but you have to be very careful with the people you have around you quite frankly the more success you want the less people you want around you unless they have the same mindset as you which the bigger your mindset the less people will have it so this answers a lot of different questions not only how theim can literally say a prayer and make a promise that something good would happen and it happens to how the go could literally instill life into something that's solid lifeless to how you could implement it into your life for good and for bad with that being said hopefully this gave you some ideas and hopefully some questions who wants to start why are certain sins am amount of fast to atone for like there may be some that don't necessarily have the same type of rectification give me an example let's say uh I didn't see the rectification for that I saw rectification for not saying AB was 3 days right uh no there there are there are uh different things that require different types of t uh and there are certain things that uh you uh don't have a tun for it all like for example there's no tun for has no T you could fast a million times it won't help uh but you can fix with two things one is dying not a good idea don't try it or two is K sanctify A's name uh the Blazer he writes in the seph is how the sanc sanctification of hm's name has such a great reward that it's the only thing that could undo the great damage that was created by now when it comes to uh specific sins shim and then later on the codified a uh a code if you will a certain cure for certain sins in order to eliminate things to the extent as if they didn't exist now of course chuv for sins begins with stopping them stop the sin second is put a yourself in a situation where you're not going to repeat the same sin so if it's you sin because you were ignorant start learning if you sin because you didn't know about the consequence of the sin then learn about that topic if you sinned because you went to a certain place then make sure you don't go to that place if you sin because of certain people don't hang out with those people anymore and so and so forth this is called a fence a fence around the fence meaning you have to forbid certain things to yourself that led you to sin even if those things are allowed for other people they're allowed for other people cuz they didn't sin they're forbidden for you because you did Sin so that's step number two step number three say I'm sorry to which means that you have to get to a point where you realize that the sin is terrible and not just not allowed so you have to say I'm sorry to hasm this takes a little time to get to an understanding that your sin is actually something terrible you have to say sorry about because most people don't understand why should I say sorry for having some type of uh immoral uh crime I felt good why should I say sorry about it so that means you haven't got to that point where you realize it's bad so you your first two steps have not been completed yet if you've completed your first two steps appropriately where not only you stopped but you've put enough fences which means you enough knowledge and so on and so forth to make sure you don't sin again then you would have distanced yourself enough from that sin to the point where you realize that the bad smell the bad things that are happening are coming from it therefore it's bad if you still don't see your sin as bad that means you haven't completed step number one and two yet your completion of Step number one and two will allow you to get to a point that you realize it's bad and therefore complete St number three which is to say I'm sorry to Hashem after you said I'm sorry to Hashem Hashem is going to test you and if you pass the test that's completing a chuva but sometimes that chuva is not not enough where you need to undo it so you could undo it by getting other people to do Chua and you could undo it and in essence erase it all together by doing a tun a tun is used to be fast where for example if you uh wasted seed or you uh were with a woman that's n even if it's your own wife you'd have to fast over 80 times for each now if let's say for example your uh wife uh was a Nida or forget about your wife was a girlfriend girlfriend is automatically nid and on top of it you uh weren't doing it in order to procreate so you made two cents wasting seed and where so you know have to fast over 160 times you have to fast over 160 times now if you tell most people go around around around oh actually yeah no around around yeah around the other um the uh a person that was with an one time I'm not talking about a six-month relationship one time he has to fast now 100 over 160 times I believe it's 166 times just for that one sin and you tell somebody listen fast one time for he's already having heart failure Sunny can you move the thing so you can sit please you tell somebody to fast for Yip they already oh come on the whole day yeah oh is this is this obligation yes 17 of Tam coming up do I really have to do a rabbi yes five times a year you have to fast people are already scared to fast five times a year tell me you have to fast 160 times they said listen Rabbi I think I'm going to be I'm going to convert to Christianity why you believe in Yos no but I just can't fast 160 times for one time I sinned okay so the reality is fast are not realistic for most people so what do you do said that you have to replace the fast with something else that's a little painful which is money something that is a replacement in a way where you have to evaluate how much food how much it cost you to eat per day not your big steak and a top restaurant $300 we estimate it's probably somewhere in the ne to5 to7 a person can survive in in in the West Society probably in in other places in world it's even less so the way you look at it is say for example instead of fasting 84 times for wasting seed a person has to givea for that specific sin to publicize uh t for that specific issue for that specific cha 5 time 84 420 and uh if he lives in a certain part of the world where he knows that his meal is going to cost him $10 a day then he has to do more if it's a little less but needless to say he has to replace the eating cause for the entire day times the amount of fast so if somebody a uh and his uh just arrived at the age of 20 25 and he pretty much just realized that wasting seed is a forbidden or she just realized that she caused a 100 men to uh to sin with her and she realized that she did all these different things because of the way she looks because the way she uh she uh dresses and so on and so forth she has to do true for it now of course you can't fix all of your sins at one time unless you're a multi-millionaire so what do you do you fix them one at a time or a half at a time whatever you can if you could afford $400 you do $400 if you could afford 4,000 you 4,000 if you could afford 4 million if that's how many sins you made you could afford 4 million the point being is you do whatever you can Hashem is not going to punish you for what you can't do like if you have let it one guy told me listen Rabbi I don't know I was really addicted I I probably have like $4 million in sins I said okay so what do you want from me he said Rabbi I have $4 in my bank account I'm missing a little bit so okay well I can't lend you the rest I don't have it either but Hashem is not going to judge you based on what you can't do he knows what you can't do he's the one that made it happen that you can't do it so first focus on the other steps that I mentioned which is number one stop two put a fence around the fence three get to a point where you're sorry about the for try to get other people to do chuva which you could do it for free and then of as AEM accepts your chuva he's going to give you more you're going to make a little bit more money and once in a while you're going to be able to afford 50 bucks a 100 bucks a th000 bucks 5,000 bucks whatever it is and you give it as you can that's it that's how you're supposed to do it when a person looks at things that way then the big grand scheme of things the $4 million bill looks manageable why cuz he knows that hasm is is merciful he's not going to punish him on not being able to pay he's not the the IRS is not going to punish on what you can't do he's going to punish you on what you can do and you choose not to you have the money but you don't want to spend it you rather buy another watch you rather buy another house huh what if you encourage others to good you encourage others also very good M says someone that encourages other people to do gets even a bigger award than he himself doing it so you encourage other people to donate it's even greater than you giving yourself absolutely helps even more you have a rich uncle that has a few million dollars to uh to donate you help him donate to the right cause it's as if you donated all that money so the point being abai is that not to necessarily Focus so much on money but the point being is in regards to the t is we need to know that the T are very much real and people should take advantage of them if they can but don't get overly nervous about the the big bill that you have once you see the list of T and how many fast you have to make and so on and so forth you only have to be responsible for what you can do if you could afford uh $5 a year then that's what you do you could afford $5 a day that's what you do whatever you do you do you don't want to do it don't do it it's not it's not a uh uh we're not Nazi Germany we're not obligated to do anything the point being is that there is a way to clean up our past but back to your original question is why do some sins have a bigger fast or a bigger tun than others even though on a grand scheme of things it doesn't look like it's a uh the right cure uh part of the reason is because theim that figured out what exactly is the tun they knew that this specific code works for this safe and doesn't work for the other safe so you could have for example a certain code for your safe now every time you go to your safe you put in that code that's what works you put 32 and then twist it three times to the right and then you put 37 and two times to the left and you put 12 and it opens the lock now if you use that same code that same mechanism on a different safe it's not going to work why because that safe has a different code so the knew and understood what the code is for every single sin and sometimes this sin has less than something that's even Graver on the other hand sometimes the thing that look less are actually worse like for example today it's very very normal for people to go to a comedy show standup comedy and enjoy themselves it's a form of entertainment people love to go to standup Comics now when all of you arrive at Gan Eden I can make one promise to you you're not going to see a single I there not a single standup comedian there reason why unless they retired and did chuva which is almost impossible why because one of the key things that standup comedians do and do best is what make fun of the audience they make fun of people and embarrass them in public now to us it's funny if I'm not the guy that's being embarrassed and sometimes even if I it's funny he just called me this he just called me that hahhaa everybody's laughing and you know whatever you laugh it's fine right someone that causes other people shame public shame loses their so although to us it doesn't look like that bad it's funny it's he's doing it the guy's coming there knowing that he has a risk of being made fun of and all the different excuses that you could have in your head biss anyone that makes fun of other people in public has a very very serious problem even though to us it doesn't even look like a problem sometimes we think it's funny we think it's wow he's he's really talented this guy he could give you a joke about every single guy every single nationality height weight everything bad so also remember that the Divine Law and divine logic is not human logic so that's why sometimes the tun on one thing looks like it's less because you think it's a lesser sin but nonetheless it is a bigger sin other times it's because the code is different and other times just simply the uh the there is no tun available that's full rectification for that sin uh like there is for others so it depends depends on what what it is but nonetheless the are available for many many things some people utilize them effectively some people ignore them they think it's just a money scheme they think that it's just a way for rabbis to make money and they're privy to think whatever they want they can think it and not take advantage of it it's remember if the rabbi or whatever sadik you're you're your uh your is is your Masia if his primary focus is constantly to tell you to donate and he's like calling you in a during the afternoon at night in the morning constantly asking you for money it's probably probably not the right place to donate probably not the right place to donate but if it's primary focused to teaching T that's already a good indication you should donate why because that's a holy place but if the if the primary focus is constantly donation it's not a it's not a good place so if the people offering a tun are constantly telling you listen I can't answer your question unless you do T I can't do this for you unless you pay me and if they start selling the Torah then that's a place you should run away from but if they simply offer different things free information free this free that and you could pay for this also if you want they offer it you could take advantage of or not that's it it's not a it's obviously not a money-making scheme and many many times I tell people when I see that their main focus is uh is is money the first thing I tell them is not to donate I had one guy that uh is his introduction to me he said send me a message after I told him I can't talk on the phone um you know I told him I can't talk don't take offense to it I'm just really busy I can't talk on the phone just send me messages which is what I tell everybody and his introduction to me was that he makes $5 million a year that was his introduction to me like he thought it was important enough for me to know his annual income but he was surprised that my response to it was first thank you for letting me know but please do me a favor don't donate a dollar to me and the reason why is because I want to make sure that I could help you and if you think that I can help you only because you're paying me already is going to fail so as much as we need money to do a lot of good things that we can we need to help you first so don't donate anything he was very surprised because that was his that he thought that was his ticket in that if he donates therefore I could answer his his call on any time and do whatever he wants because that's what he's used to with other rabbis and other people he throws a few dollarss a day away and they jump didn't give me that in fact it's the opposite because I know that if that relationship would have started with money it would have never succeeded simply wouldn't but the problem is that sometimes people don't get it and they think no no no there's something wrong here what do you mean what do you mean though oh does that means you want more no no I'm telling you I don't want the money don't donate do me a favor don't donate okay I'm gonna find a different rabbi okay fine RAB what RAB you could buy that's what you want you want to go buy somebody go buy go buy of course donations are fantastic and donations help us do all these different things but if a person's primary focus is just because you know money it's already a bad thing especially if it's the the rabbi that's interested in money constantly so again theim are very very expensive they're not cheap there's no question about it I I have some people that I know that literally have paid tens of thousands of dollars for their tiim in different organizations and different places and so on and they're perfectly happy about it and I have some people that regret sending 400 bucks what's the difference one understood one didn't understand that's it that's the difference next question yes so you said that if someone dies go through forever good um but you also said that they go to until their soul gets completely destroyed and the only part that them is but that goes to the original Source um but doesn't that mean that according to this it's not for it's only until this happens what do you mean it's not forever only this happens until that soul is destroyed completely so it's not forever uh yes yes so so uh this is um I spoke to a uh famous speaker Rec Rec L who was asked a question uh the question was is it true that GOM is forever and he said no now otherwise I don't listen to this speaker uh but from what I heard otherwise he's a relatively wise person that knows some Torah so when someone brought this to my attention I was very very disappointed why was I disappointed because there are countless sources in a Tah including the including the Z including and so on that say that GOM is has a section that is permanent there's even a sources in the tah you look at the last uh verse in the book of Isaiah it says the Gom is forever you look at Rashi and this week's K talks about G uh and that's where kak is and being a very very long period of time so thear outright says that it's forever so I said you know what since this speaker otherwise is okay I'm not going to go against him publicly I'm not some Cowboy obviously I have to investigate this so I called him I called him and and and I asked them um why did you say this I mean you are aware of thear in this place in that place in this place in that place in this place and that place you are aware of the ramban in sh that he says gain almost forever for such people and such and goes yeah yeah I'm familiar with most of those places I said so how come you said that GOM is not forever he says because it's not so I said what do you mean he goes well eventually the soul gets destroyed I said oh oh so you are being oh this is much worse this is much much worse why what is he doing here to appease the public especially the English-speaking public forever sounds like AEM is vicious so what does he do to appease them he tell us not forever but he doesn't elaborate on what it's not forever means so the discussed this inar and a few other places especially the uh place to talk about Gom is that GOM is not supposed to be for everybody forever obviously only certain types of Sinners for example with unfortunately if he has a no merits whatsoever he has a very very serious problem a permanent problem that he's not going to be able to fix now that soul is going to be suffering all types of Agony and pain for a very very long time it could be literally millions of years in our time like there's no concept of time there but if you compare the timing it could literally be millions of years until that soul is literally completely destroyed and the only thing that's left is the the original piece that God instilled into breath it into and that goes back to the original Source but what comes back to the original source is not you it's not the person it's the part of God if you Willem doesn't have Parts but for softening this to our ear and make it understandable we have to say parts so the part of God goes back to God the part of that was in this world the girl the guy that was making or the girl that was making all of these horrible sins eventually gets destroyed but only after a really really long time it could be thousands of years millions of years whatever it is a really really really long time okay so this what I would like to say conmen is fooling people by saying no it's not forever which is technically correct it's not forever but when you understand that it's for thousands or millions of years or some type of infinite uh amount of time which in essence ends with complete destruction it might as well be forever that's why the gar and I and anyone that's at least trying to be a says forever not because it's literally for ever because at some point everything shuts down and at some point the uh the thing is destroyed and so on but because for lack of a better term for all intents and purposes it's forever that's it so that's the problem with englishspeaking rabbis sometimes or sometimes Hebrew speaking and simply people that want to appease the public and not appease a they word things in such a way that they make you feel good about yourself oh no no no this sin is not forever Rabbi Ruben no he said it's forever it's not it's not look Rabbi uh Joe Smith over here said that there's no such Rabbi Rabbi this guy said it's not forever see he's wrong so everything else Rabbi Ruben says is wrong because he said it's not therefore I can't listen to anything I can't he's he's kak this guy the reality is who's korak it's the liar he didn't lie technically but he lied by being dishonest and vague it might as well be a lie it might as well be a lie because let me ask you guys a question if until now every time I describe to you g i either did it like I usually do which is forever or could be forever CH being forever or I would have just given you all of this details that it's 1.7 million years of this chamber then another 2 million and that one and this one and that one and give you all the details but eventually it's over but that's just because you no longer exist which per which which one would you guys prefer just let's cut to the chase it's forever or give you the details of oh it's not it's really it's not really forever because it ends but the sinner ends also bottom line that's what we speak we speak clearly bottom line what is the bottom line allowed not allowed black or white that's what this generation requires they require simple yes or no but when people try to be very very particular with words they can manipulate them in such a way that they could look like they're doing the public a favor in reality they're doing the public a disj Justice why because now somebody that was scared to death from being a Shabbat scared to death from wasting seeds scared to death from being immoral scared to death from doing all of these types of sins that can get them a permanent gam now all of a sudden they heard oh it's not permanent okay so it's really not that bad after all okay fine okay we're going to go have a bar the Shabbat that's what happens you just cool them off just like amalik does and the people think that all sins are the same and the ramban writes in sh anyone that says or even gives the illustration that all sins are the same meaning they all have the same consequence is a heretic why a heretic by saying that all sins have the same consequence turns God into an evil God because if the murderer the rapist the pedophile get the same punishment as the guy that stole $10 that's a that's no there's no justice if the guy that cursed God and the guy that cursed his friend get the same punishment there's no justice there's no justice if the guy that violated Shabbat and the guy that forgot to say get the same punishment there's no justice if there's no justice then you're saying God is evil so hence the reason why we go into the details but we try to simplify it as much as possible without missing any of the details we try to be clear to let you know this danger don't go there as soon as you know what danger to stay away from it gives you more inclination that you'll do more good things but so long as you think that all of the danger is equivalent you might as well fight violate the entire so although what you said is right it's not permanent but it is permanent for all intents and purposes next question good question by the way and I still didn't expose that Rabbi because I still didn't get permission yet waiting for that next yes certain phrases that are connected toties okay he States in his commentary 21: 17 that whenever it is stated he has forfeited his life literally his blood is upon him ex St okay so with that in mind in regards to ex why doesn't the Torah just use this phrase what does it come to teach us by being very explicit in the be exed why doesn't the Torah teach us the phrase of what so why does the Torah just just use the phrase that Rashi says this refers to Stone oh why doesn't the Torah use the same phrase over and over again no why doesn't use that phrase why is it very explicit if Rashi already the case that oh okay so so you'll see from thear when uh there are different times that uses different phrases to say in essence the same overall message uh but to teach us an additional lesson so the says that when you're uh when it talks about bringing coote it says bring uh two uh two uh uh sheeps two sheeps but it mentions two twice she oh you know why do I need to know it twice just mention it once so the says that this is to teach us that it's not just to bring two but also two that are the same that overall the same size same this same that but then the elaborates even further and says no but there's another time that it actually mentions two but it's only one time so in this particular case it's actually referring to two being the same but the time that it says two two it's actually saying it could it's two but it's two that don't have to be the same meaning one can be big one can be small so when you study thear you see that every single word is there for a reason there's an enormous amount of lessons to be learned from it uh and therefore the hasem uses different terms sometimes to describe the same basic level meaning like what you're saying the same type of death penalty but apparently that particular verse if you look it up in thear and and see where it is look at the and so on you'll see that there is other lessons to be learned and why it's described this way this time and why it's described that way other times so that's across the board in the entire Tora I mean if I was I could probably tell you exactly what and who and what and when on every single verse but since I'm nothing I can't tell you that but I can tell you that the general teaching is that every single word it's used in the tah is there for a reason there is a lesson to be learned from it especially when it's the same message but different word in fact there are times that the same word is in two different places but it's spelled differently sometimes with a V sometimes without a v sometimes with a UD sometimes without a UD uh the same exact word same exact thing but it's spelled with one less letter because that letter could be uh the sound of that letter could be done by one of the umik so in in uh in Hebrew our vowel system them is those little dots and exclamation points and those little uh things so that's our uh vowel system so you can say the same make the same sound the same sound with more or less letters not like English where the sound has to be made by the letters like if you want to he have the sound of O you need to use a o in Hebrew you don't need an O you don't need just a VAV it could actually just be a DOT on top of the letter so sometimes you'll see the same exact word in the Torah that's spelled differently and that carries a certain message for example in the par where Abu is buying the he's buying the he's buying the the cave to bury s menu the first time that the name of the uh seller the Sellar of the is mentioned it's spelled longer with more letters one extra letter the letter VAV but later on it's spelled with less and the teaches us that's because before he sold it he was considered in essence righteous but since he was proven to be not righteous where he made many promises but did very little on him it is written say a lot and do little while say little and do a lot so his his name is mentioned in again but with less letters to in essence teaches this lesson and other lessons so there are countless uh lessons to be learned and how certain things are spelled needless to say how different words are used uh in uh in in different uh parts of the tah and that surely is one of them there's actually I haven't read it but there's actually a uh new uh uh addition of kashim by Art scroll uh that I I believe came out in you know probably the last year or two maybe even less that have a uh the kumash itself unlike the traditional kumash that's very famous the stone that they have it's English and Hebrew and then it has commentary by Rashi and a few other they now have aash that has all of the times that this uh uh verse is mentioned in so you could learn a lot of different things uh there apparently it looks very very interesting especially if you love to learn uh you could actually learn and and uh it's a uh I believe every one of the books every one of the books of of the five books of Moses is now the same size as what their old kumash was by itself so it's there's a lot of stuff but uh surely if you look at that verse it's mentioned several times in thear and I'm sure they're going to discuss that and many other points next question go ahead yeah now me yeah did I keep the phone according to despite the display of divine retribution in the K Rebellion the very next day A large group of people started to complain and were Furious over the deaths of the dignitaries so much so that they threatened to kill Aon and M however 38 years after the Rebellion it says right after Miriam's passing the people failed to shed tears for her so the well that was created on the second day of creation in her Merit refused to shed water for them okay why did the generation mourn the dignitaries of the uh Rebellion but their children children did not M while the previous generation was referred this is like an essay uh while uh hopefully question three questions so while the uh while the previous generation was referred to as a generation of knowledge and their children would have known Mam's Deeds did she not receive proper mourning period because they knew she was righteous and going to shim if so then why did They Mourn m and why did They Mourn why didn't they mourn okay so a lot of questions here okay so in so many words you're saying that the um why did They Mourn uh after K and all those people died and not mourn uh that's at least my understanding of of the first question uh so the Human Condition is that we take things for granted naturally when they come to us easily um many times if you give somebody something for free they'll look at it as if it's worthless but if you told them they have to pay for it they'll look at it as if it's Priceless even though the product itself didn't change if I told you you know here's a phone brand new phone take it as a gift you may like it you may enjoy it but you're not going to be as careful with it as you are if you would have paid for it why automatically in your mind the second you pay for something it has a higher value so Miram didn't have to kiss up to Miram and plead to Miram for her to have such great Merit to the extent that Hashem literally brought a well that followed am for 40 years that they were able to drink the water from there and it was always fresh they were able to drink it and it was like the man it would taste like whatever they wanted if they wanted to taste wine the water was like wine if they want coca colola it was Coca-Cola diet whatever whatever you wanted that's how the water was so didn't have to cry for this or or beg her or or or say thank you every week nothing what happened took it for granted took it for granted so when she died they didn't really realize what they lost because they forgot already that it's only to her Merit that they're able to drink only to her Merit and when we don't have respect for people that have brought us a lot of good we could easily get to the complete opposite extent of disrespecting them meaning you brought them a lot of good and instead of them saying at the very least thank you instead they go against you and this happens unfortunately many times one of the other reasons that this happens is because people don't know how to say thank you because they have a very big ego one of the used to have a a habit of every time somebody would come to him and ask him for guidance or ask him for help at the end of the meeting after you helped them he gave them a little candy give a piece of candy and one time after seen this for many years one of the students was brave enough to ask the r why do you give everybody a piece of candy like what's with the candy and R said something that when I heard this changed my life the r said this he says this person right now he came to me for help he likes me so I gave him advice one day he's going to pass this time of difficulty that he's dealing with and he's going to remember that I did him a favor I helped him pay the mortgage I helped them find a wife I helped them with XYZ whatever it is I helped him with something that he's going to realize that he can't pay me back cuz I don't need him to pay me my mortgage I don't need him to find me a wife he can't help me the same way I helped him and that is going to create a conflict inside him why his ego is going to be bothered with the fact that he got help from me and he can't even pay me back and that's going to create a hatred he's going to start hating me and he's probably if he's not going to learn enough to he's probably going to want to throw something at me so I'm hoping that when he finally gets that point he wants to throw something at me that candy still in his pocket and he just throws the candy at me and not a rock this is as real as it gets guys the that's what happens constantly the people you help the most sometimes become the worst things on earth and the love of has to make you continue doing it despite that knowledge many times people tell me listen I helped this girl I helped this guy and they did something against me I said yeah that's normal what do you mean she's so bad of course you're right she's bad you're right he's horrible yes you're right so why you saying it's normal I said because that's what people do most people eventually will go against you even though you help them in fact the more you help them the more likely to go against you eventually so who would want to do that I said you you should do that you should continue helping them why because that's what God wants God wants you to help people despite the fact that you know they're going to go against you one day that shows the love of God the reality is gives you a little taste of how God feels that's what we do to him constantly but the point being is that that's part of the reason so when Mir died we did not appreciate her enough while she was alive needless to say we did not appreciate her after she died and therefore hasem punished us and stopped the well and says that when a kosher person dies and the people do not mourn him it brings an evil decree on people to the extent where hasem could kill their kids that's how much Hashem dislikes when uh such a thing happens so anytime you hear that a very big tadik died and so on you should mourn you should mourn now when am did not mourn hasem punished them severely now when it came what about with korak they mourned him they were upset about him they weren't necessarily upset that korak died they were upset that K lost the war they saw how much power Moshe andon really have that in essence there is no uh going against them and they got such a fear into them that they thought that anyone that's going to make Moshe and upset is going to automatically die they thought that there was like a ma Mafia and that was obviously another mistake that was another mistake that made and made many many mistakes 10 specific ones hasem mentions that they made 10 10 times they tested me but if you actually count the test it's much more than 10 so I don't really know which one hasem counts as the 10 but I remember years ago I did ass sure about what I think are the 10 or at least 11 even though it mentions 10 uh the point being is that it's a uh the lack of appreciation of someone that's righteous of someone that did good for you could easily get you to a point where you're not only under appreciating it but you could actually turn into an enemy hence the reason why mosenu gave gratitude even to something that was lifeless when Hashem told him touch the water and turn to blood mosu said no no Hashem I owe gratitude to this water because the water didn't drown me when I was a little baby when I was a little baby my mom put me in a little basket to hide from the Egyptians the water didn't just drown me okay what about hit the ground turn all the ground all the sand into a lice no hasem this ground I ow it a gratitude why cuz when I buried the Egyptian after I killed him the ground didn't spit him back up and tell the Egyptians that I did it so I owe this something that's you know that that's lifeless I owe it a gratitude now let me ask you guys a question did the water tell M you welcome did the water like sendu an email now I know you're appreciative cuz you said Thank you to me cuz you didn't hear me do the water have any life no but what did mosu really do here mosu taught us a very valuable lesson anything that gives you good you have to be appreciative to it to no end to no end if you have a limitation on your appreciation of the good that someone's giving you you my friend could even get to a point where you can spit in the hand that feeds you because that's how it is so mhu showed us that you have to be so appreciative of good that even if that good is given to you by something that doesn't have a life water sand and so on you have to be appreciative of it have to put it into your into your uh character Trace to be extremely appreciative of any good that anybody has ever given to you even if that good sometimes is given to you by an enemy even if it's given to you by an enemy so point being is that it's a uh was under appreciative of mosu under appreciative of under appreciative of of all of theim until they died until they died because they realized what they lost uh whereas when it came to kak it was a different situation it was really more of a situation that uh they got scared I don't know how to turn this phone on to read the rest of the question but I think I answered most of it next question I'll answer the rest after somebody can tell me turn up on yes go ahead back did did who die Aon did Aon die where in Mount sa when was giving the Commandments I'm not following oh because of all is died did Aon also die at the same time uh to my knowledge yes to my knowledge everybody died except mosu it could be that Aon didn't die I can't uh I I don't remember of a mid or that I read that says otherwise because the only thing I remember is that is mosu is the only one that stayed alive but it is very possible that he stayed alive uh but uh the reason why is because mosu is the only one that was at that level that was able to hear hashem's voice and uh and not die whereas everybody else that heard aem's voice their simply ran out of their body uh but it is possible that there is opinion out there that didn't die because actually now I remember there's a I believe that says that only part of the nation died and another part of it flew 12 miles away from the glory of hashem's voice they you know like imagine like a wind or like somebody like stepping on something and it's like a the power that's uh comes out of it so in essence that happened and many of them uh flew very you know very very far away and they came back so now that I think of it there is a source that could tell you thaton and actually other people didn't die some died and some didn't so yeah next that's be working for master is to get a non woman why would a again repeat it again why is a Jewish slave going to be given non-jewish woman why is a Jewish slave going to be given a non-jewish woman ah okay so when somebody steals and they can't return the money Tor says they have to uh they don't there's no jail in Judaism there's no prison in Judaism what they would do is that the person that stole the money would have to sell themselves and become a slave now of course even though that person becomes a slave he uh still has needs still has physical needs and so on and so forth so they allow him to marry a non-jewish woman because that non-jewish woman is also a uh a slave of the of the owner and she's his property now the reason why is because if the person is not a thief they're not allowed to be owned by anybody meaning you're not allowed to own a Jew just because you're not allowed so the uh the Jew is not allowed to marry a uh a uh a uh a Jewish woman because he himself being a slave is not able to fulfill the entire Tor he's able to fulfill the Tor like a woman which is paral mitv and limitations so with that being said he's allowed to marry a uh non-jewish woman but that's because that non-jewish woman is owned by the same owner and when he leaves she stays with the owner and the kids stay with the owner and if after 7 years he finishes his sentence and he doesn't want to leave because he likes the woman then there's a process procedure that they do that they make a hole in his ear they make a hole in his ear that uh he he can now stay slave permanently but they punish him in essence for for making such a step for making such a step cuz he heard the words of uh of of Hashem in Mount saai and he still didn't listen so they remind him by making this big hole in his ear next question yes can The Offspring of this match when he was a slave could they become Jewish at some point they can become partial partial Jews they uh while they're slaves but if they're eventually freed it's a different story but uh no if they're born while they're there no they they're slaves for life there's really this is not really applicable to today there's no real slavery anymore but uh at least je world there's slavery in a non-jewish world but uh no whatever whatever children he has under the slavery is property of the owner property of the owner I know this is a foreign concept to people that a human being would be property of another human being but in a Torah world that does exist it does exist H the magic form part um I don't even know where I'm going Rebellion number three okay reference the co Rebellion ramb bbal 166 states that Moshe felt the spirit of Prophecy returned to him but this was only after the T left when Moshe was trying to dissuade kak and his supporters why wasn't Moshe able to receive prophecy in the presence of the at that moment so the says in Shabbat and a few other places that anytime somebody becomes angry they lose their they lose their wisdom and even if they have prophecy they lose their prophecy so the were specific unique that we learn about them before we even know their name now all of you have heard the famous story of mosenu when he first decided to become where he saw that there was a Egyptian beating up on a Jew right and he killed the Egyption and the next day he saw two Jews fighting and he yelled at them he called one of them rash because he had his hand in the in the uh in the air and the tells us from there we learned that to become a rash all you have to do is have your hand in the air threatening somebody to hit not even hitting them even if you have your hand like this even if you're joking not allowed and I know that Brothers do that to each other sometimes but it's not good so the point is that he went to those two people to those two B and he told them why you fighting why you fighting and uh they said oh what you think you're a buos they went and told par about them and Par tried killing M after that that's the basic of the story if you look at the midash over there you find out something very unique who are these people the first story starts with a woman named shulamit shulamit was a very very nice lady that was too friendly every person that you would see say hello hello hi I you know like sometimes women tell me yeah I have a lot of guy friends like that kind of person that person she likes has a lot of guy friends it's a very problem that's like me just guy friends not to have guy friends you barely let to have girlfriends neither say guy friends you have to have one man in your life that's your husband and if you have children that's your children that's it no guy friends there's no platonic relationships in Judaism but people like to have it because they think it they're being nice well they need to learn from this story where was very nice even though she was a slave she was very nice she said hi hi hi to everybody and one day the Egyptian saw her he said hi hi Egyptian hi Mustafa and Mustafa says she like me why she said hi which by the way it's very normal for guys very normal for guys you say hi to he thinks you like him yeah but she's married with six kids yeah but she doesn't want to be with this guy she wants me how do you know she said hi yes she was selling you ice cream you fool no no I saw she looked at me the eyes the eyes I see it I see in the eyes everybody's a prophet like the the Egyptian so the Egyptian thought she likes him so what did he do he came later on that night somewhere around 3 4:00 in the morning and he started yelling at her husband you go to work he said Mustafa I have at least another hour before I go to work no go now you have a special shift so you got him out of the house and he went back inside in those days there's no lights there's no electricity he went back into the house and he went into the bed with shulamit shulam didn't know it's not our husband didn't know so she was with him in essence she got raped without even realizing it and when they finished the act the husband came back and he saw the Egyptian and he knew what happened and that's why the Egyptian saw him and he was embarrassed was embarrassed that he caught him doing what he did with his wife so he tried killing him started hitting him started insulting him started doing all types of things mosu in his rues he saw saw when he saw this happening between this Jew and this Egyptian he saw everything not just what was happening but what the whole behind the scen story and not only did this Egyptian Rasha rape this guy's wife but on top of it he's torturing the Jew over it so that's the reason why he said he said aem's real name and he killed the Egyptian on the spot now what happened is is that the next day the uh the guy comes to his wife and he tells her listen the Egyptian touched you you can't be my wife y go go back to your father's house so she went sham went back to her father's house and her brother said what are you doing here but my husband threw me out cuz wom he threw you out oh the Egyptian this she told him the whole story so the the the brother comes to the husband and he says what are you doing why you kicking my sister out she got raped it's not our fault he was yeah but this but that so they started fighting M who saw said why you guys fighting white guy is fighting and they started yelling at him who are those two people the the one of them is was the husband of schulam one of them was the brother of shulamit so they both of them in essence are in the story one of them M saved his life the other one he shaved the sister's life but both of them were ungrateful so much so that they didn't leave with is when is left Egypt they stayed behind they wanted to keep their jobs with par and they encouraged par to go after is and after par went after is then drowned in the ocean with with the people and so on he's the only one that survived the realized they have nothing to to work for they have nothing so what do they do they went back into the ocean they went back into after is and hasem split the ocean for them alone the mid says where did their Merit come from that would split the ocean for them they protected is from the Egyptians they were the police and every time the Egyptians would want to beat them up they would take the beatings for them so they had some Merit but they were ungrateful so then when they went again they went against M and multiple counts one of them the last one being when they joined Kaku already got up as soon as he would see them he tried rebuking them he start telling them no no come on stop it already they didn't even want to talk to him and they said to him even if you take out our eyes we're not going to listen to you meaning go kill yourself M so automatically mhu said okay that's it finished so when he saw them he got angry and he lost his prophecy he lost his prophecy but for only that time as soon as they left he got his prophecy back so that little question just gave you 25 minute mid next question almost done yes is someone punish for saying a to someone's blessing is someone punished for saying Amen in some to somebody's blessing in vain meaning he made a blessing for no reason and you said amen no uh I mean it's a uh I mean unless you knew that his Blessing is in vain but if you just simply said amen to it uh no there is an interesting a uh mid in a um in it's mentioned byki in where uh he says that uh the third level of Gom is called Duma where a person is punished for not answering a in uh and uh for uh doing with constant interruptions because there's too much talking in the Sho so when it comes to uh going back to Sho at some point when the you know things settle down and so on you guys should be uh very careful to uh make sure not to talk during Sho uh not just during the prayer at all at all uh the reason why is because the sh is a place ofes it's a so when you talk anything you say anything mundane in a sh even when there's no prayer you're going to become like that was ungrateful to the uh River and to theim and so on you're going to think that this is like your house and you're going to become more comfortable to talk even during prayer Andi mentions the where he says that there's a special M for those people it's called Duma why because people that are talking during sh they have that place but also people that don't answer amen when there is a blessing but they're too busy talking they also go to that place and Gom so it doesn't mention not uh not a uh going to Gom for not saying amen but it uh for saying uh not saying amen uh uh because you're too busy talking is not a good thing now as far as saying amen you should always make sure that you heard the blessing and not just a uh Say Amen L like you just heard the last word this guy said and don't just say Amen like if you heard the whole blessing then you could say Amen then he say am in there's a uh a concept uh taught in the Z and I believe also in other places called am an orphaned amen an orphan amen requires a whole Shure about it but it's a relatively scary subject because it shows us how we could really get punished severely just for something as simple as amen something as simple as amen not saying it the right way or saying pronouncing it like man you know sometimes like people forget how to say Amen it's too hard for them to say Amen you know it has two syllables so that's too much for them they start sounding like sheep that's an orphaned amen that's called an orphaned amen it's uh and they they get punished for it they get punished for it so it's a important to say Amen appropriately and uh because in essence what are you saying with amen what does Amen really mean true true what's true amen is an acronym is an acronym for el el the god me the king NE trustworthy meaning God the king whatever he says is going to do he says he going to give you blessing he's going to give you blessing he say he going to give you punishment he going to be punishment if he wrote it in the Torah you could bet the bank times a million for sure it's going to happen and that's why the G also says anyone that called a v meaning hasem is just going to let this one go yeah but he said you're not allowed to be with a Goya yeah but you know hasem has such a big world what does he really care just one time Rabbi one time not all time not marrying her one time Hashem said no hasm said he's gonna punish you n no I me and hasem were like this don't worry I got this i got this she's Jewish she's Jewish in her heart say he's goingon to punish you and he will maybe not right away it could be 40 years later could be 40 years later but for sure you're going to get punished for it 100% same thing with the reward you could do something good nothing happens you gave somebody Stu you helped somebody you gave pay rent actually I got a story for you guys years ago maybe five years ago something like that five six years ago this uh tells me the story unbelievable he says he had a serious difficult time and uh he got evicted from his house got evicted from his house and wife kids so on nightmare so now he has to find a place now you're not getting evicted from your house because you have a lot of money usually it's the opposite so he went to this one guy he said listen I don't know what to do what happened uh we don't have a place to stay and what do you need I need a house I need a house I need I need a place to stay it's like okay I got you cuz what do you mean I got you it's a lot of money it's this it's that okay whatever you want I got it no it's going to cost I don't know 20 30,000 shekels or something like that with deposit and this and the guy took some of the furniture all types of balagan bottom line is was like something like 30,000 shekels or 35,000 a lot of money a guy that makes 1,500 or 2,000 shekels a month 30,000 shekels pretty much has to work three years for it not happening but he's got his wife and kids practically in the street here so this guy I don't know it touched his heart and he says listen I got the money I'm going to send it to you yeah but you don't have you're not rich whatever have this whatever you need I I happen to have it in the bank I'm going to send it to you doesn't even know him like barely know each other something touched his heart he decides told me this so he helps him pays for his whole move get some furniture everything he needs five years passed few months ago the uh something happened to the rich guy whatever the guy that had the 30 40,000 shekels and apparently he lost all of his money he had no money and what happened he has to have the same situation same situation he's getting evicted landlord is like one of these like uh amalik doesn't want to wait a day suing this that all types of wonderful things you know there a special special Merit to deal with those people and uh this guy poor guy him wife kids no place to go now he doesn't have the money so even if he wants to go to another place he doesn't have the money and so he doesn't know what to do out of nowhere he gets a phone call somebody knows hey how you doing nothing how you doing I'm stressed out a little bit what's no what's going on why you stressed out doesn't matter what do you need no I just want to check how you're doing uh I don't know I'm stressed out I need to go get a place because we're getting kicked out what do you need I need a lot of money to get a new place how much money do you need I don't know I need to rent month rent two months rent security this that okay what's your bank account what what's your bank account what do you mean what do you mean my bank account what do you need my bank account for I'm going to send it to you right now he sends him $26,000 without asking without verifying without nothing within 5 minutes of that conversation why said you did it for somebody else now when you did it initially I did I didn't get paid for it says no such thing no such thing the tables will be turned and you're going to need something you just you yourself just planted a seed for your own salvation for your own salvation you did it don't worry when you're going to need it you're not going to have to ask and that's how it is that's how it is in life all the time I witness the story it's unbelievable but you see the stories like this all the time in my life all the time it's just that it's a too many stories you have a whole shoe just about stories but it's a uh it's unbelievable how a person when they do good they're literally doing themselves a favor that's why it's never a good idea to tell other people about all the good you do like sometimes you know people for some reason feel the need to tell other people about the good they do oh you know how much good I do I pray at 5:00 in the morning I read one this I did that I went there I donated here why you telling people all the good stuff that you're doing for what were you trying to convince them who cares even if you told them what can they do for you anyway now that they know you're such a good person oh baby you're trying to remind AEM you try you think Hashem needs a reminder by you reminding other people of all the good that you do not doing anybody any good in fact it's doing bad because you're getting credit for it you're getting k for it and in essence you're getting some of the benefit for it it's better to stay quiet why unless you're publicizing it in order to encourage other people to do good because then it becomes another Mitzvah kvah but it's better to stay quiet why knows exactly what you did and don't worry God the king is reliable reliable to pay you exactly what you need and what you deserve when when you need it not when you want it when you need it so a person understands how amazing a is he never has to feel bad about the good he did he didn't get paid for it because you're going to need it at another time no no but I need it now rabbi I if you're not getting it now that means that already knows you're going to need it much more later on need much more later on but the beautiful thing is that every single time somebody does good you see it if you follow them long enough you're going to see how hasem pays them in such a beautiful way in such an unexpected way it's unbelievable I've I've I've merited to see this a few times in my life and it's every time it's like you connect the dots this is happening it's just too similar to that and you could easily connect the dots ah this is because of this could be that you're going to get much more but at the very least you see how Hashem runs the world and it's unbelievable unbelievable one thing I can tell you is that when it comes to uh Thea it's uh important to know the Torah says that when you give somebody taka somebody that lost all of his money it says you have to feed him and give him based on what he's used to not based on what he needs meaning if he's a rich man if he's a rich man he lost everything you giving him a little sandwich with cheese in it is not staka it's not staka why that's not what he's used to he's used to a steak he's used to some big potatoes the size of his head he's used to uh all types of dressings that's what he used to he used to be a millionaire so if you're giving this former millionaire a little piece of steak a little piece of cheese think you're doing staka it's not staka it's not staka at all why you're actually causing him suffering that's what it says you're causing him suffering why cuz now he didn't have anything he was suffering now you give him this little piece of cheese this $5 he's suffering even more he's like look what I got to I used to be a king I used to be this I used to eat $150 breakfast now this guy thinks he's doing me a favor with five dollar he causing him even more suffering so if you're gonna give somebody you have to make sure you know this why because knows it and you see how is unbelievable someone lost money all types of horrible things happened but when he gives he gives like he says to us to give nothing's missing used to a lot when I give you you're going to get a lot used to eat breakfast $10000 breakfast you're going to eat $100 breakfast used to having the Comfort comfortable house you're going to have a comtable house yeah but I don't have anything you don't have anything says I have everything when I want to give you I'm going to give you like I tell other people to give and it's unbelievable unbelievable so when a person gives is gracious with him when a person is cheap uh a person is doing himself a disj Justice Mas because they they're burying themselves in a place that they don't even want to they don't know how to get out of but uh when it comes to uh somebody actually asked me a question today or a few days ago about the issue of M we'll finish with this point where uh the is 10% but the says that 20% 20% is what you're supposed to give if you want to become rich in this life so the uh where's the source uh in in in uh says um yes a person must give based on what he sees that's needed uh but if he sees that there is a uh uh the need is even uh higher than what he can give he should give he should give at least 20% of his income now further the uh this is a letter that uh the G wrote to his wife when he made a trip to Israel he didn't know if he was going to be able to come back in those days it wasn't like planes and Automobiles if you made a trip uh that's a long trip very likely you didn't make it or at least make it back so the wrote a famous letter called to his wife and he gave her instructions in essence of what to do with the household what to do with the kids and so on and so forth and um he told her specifically that she should give she should give 20% of whatever income whatever income uh she has uh from all the things that they had over there because if she gives less than that she is committing several uh of the uh love sins which are the worst sins in the Torah by by giving less than 20% and then in the uh in the seph called in 123 uh writes in the name of the G that whoever gives uh is not going to uh lose his money but whoever gives will become rich this is in the in 123 so here we see that when it comes to giving there's two separate mitv the and is m m is based on your income staka is based on your assets what you already have male you give 10% of your gross income you make $1,000 a week you give $100 you make $500 a week you give $50 you so on and so forth now a lot of people say yeah but if I I have a lot of expenses if I give 10% of it I'm not going to be able to survive I'm not going to be able to pay my expenses that's where the imuna test comes from you know some people say yeah why you just give 10% of the uh of the net why don't you give 10% of the net if you give 10% of the net for most people it's going to end up being like $2 because you end up you know spending so much of your money you make a $500 a week by the time you uh pay your basic bills for that week maybe you have $10 left so your amount is going to be 10% of $10 a dollar you think that's real so obviously it has to be of the gross and that means it's auna test so says I believe says borrow money to fulfill my like Shabbat you have to spend extra money for those he says you borrow money to do my I'll pay it all you borrow on my name he says so when a person gives passes the test of giving the or the which is 20% based on their growth promises them that it's going to work out may not work out in the first check second check third check or even 10th check but ultimately for sure it's going to work out I've seen it with my own eyes now that's 10% anyone gives 10% the uh G says to promises us that that person will be protected meaning even if there's a Great Depression in the world financial collapse they'll be protected they're not going to go into the same situation as everybody else but if a person wants to be wealthy wealthy during his life he has to give 20% and 20% is much harder not just because the number is higher 10 * 2 is 20 not because of that because in in reality it's a large chunk of money especially as you start getting the blessing in a beginning when you're making 500 bucks a week and you end up giving a $100 fish you know that's 20% okay $100 I mean if you're relatively generous person 100 bucks is 100 bucks everybody could really you know reason with giving $100 what about a who starts blessing you you start making 30,000 a month that means that your now is6 000 check $6,000 that's a lot of money $66,000 you could pay rent car this that depends you can buy pretty much pay for your life for $6,000 so now you thinking wait I'm going to give the $6,000 to kiru all right crazy no no no I my sale is already enough 3,000 enough for them cuz the I'm technically giving more I used to give 20% $100 but I'm sure hasem is happy with me I'm giving 3,000 failed so the reality is when it comes to it's much harder because the numbers get much bigger you start making $100,000 a month $20,000 check you're going to write it's big check you already could start thinking about how many great things you could do with this check that you're about to give and starts getting much much harder even though you're getting blessing that's why says don't forget God what does you mean don't forget God after he gives you prosperity and reward don't forget him don't be one of these ungrateful people that you fulfilled some of his MIT hasem gives you a little bit of good in your life a little blessing in your life and that blessing causes you to forget hm so that's why is a very very big test but if you pass it Hashem guarantees that you'll become wealthy in this world materially and not a day before you die you obviously you get to enjoy it to a certain extent now um this is a test for some people most people do not even even give 10% don't even give 10% they think that it's enough if they give a couple times a year they give staka they buy on Aliah during the they see a campaign on the internet they give a uh they buy some uh they donate some money here and there but it's good to give something it's obviously better than zero but it's not the same it's not the same there's two and there the a person that wants to have Financial protection that wants to have a blessing in their P has to not only givea which has no limitations but also has to give the now because the even more than shows your real in a as life goes on because it's in essence every time you get money you give M it's not like you don't do yourself a disj ustice by uh you know saying no I'm going to give my at the end of the year when I realize what happened no no give my as soon as the money comes in you give M what as the number gets bigger gets the test gets bigger so but the point is is that people that uh do it they benefit but a lot of people don't do it because it's tough it's tough because they rationalize things and so on so it's highly highly recommended for people to do it but also like I said yesterday in the make sure that if you're giving you're giving to the right cause and not to some Hanukah party and ping party and save the whale party give it to something that's going to ify's name that's going to help it's going to publicize and so on if that happens to be organization good if you have another one tell me about it I'll donate to them too also if it's good it's good uh unfortunately it's a uh there's not that many good out there but if something is good then why not support it but if a uh if you already have something that's good that's where you invest all your money to hopefully this answered all of your questions that you have for the day we'll see each other again on Sunday back here and uh hopefully by then I'll also have the uh address of the next location [Music]