Summary: Shmiras Haloshon Dilemmas - Rabbi Yakov Zev Smith

i get it i talk straight okay today we learned a very a challenging subject and the concept of los angeles is something that has to be defined there's no hectic to talk lash nara to gain if someone gives you a thousand dollars you can't take lush in here and say last means if your point is not to hurt someone but to help someone if there's a right if and a near death if someone that's making trouble you allowed to save the near the from the right it's probably a inaccurate quotation harold taylor's it's really but it's not russian types you can't go lush entitled to yellows but it's basically the kim of the mitzvah that justifies talking negative to save someone else it's not hutra it's not huthra it's something that if all the preconditions are met it's okay if it's a mitzvah if it's missing any of the preconditions then it's taken the iss of russian basically the preconditions are reduced into one word ms the aleph stands for ms it's not just a rumor it's not just an opinion it's a fact and you're not exaggerating not eating an extra word the meme of ms is magic you can't cause the other person more damage than he deserves because then he's the nizik and then you're not the battery ellis so then there's no heter because it doesn't end up being diva tls and the last group of preconditions is the word tylus the soft of ms is tales first of all go straight to the person without going to someone else go straight to the person say you know you have to correct what you're doing this way you could avoid talking and the same day ellis if the person won't listen to you it's too late to change what he wants to do whether it's a shidduch or hiring says bye to notre ellis if you could tell them don't make the don't hide the work without saying information that's also avoiding russian her and there's no talents but the most challenging is you have to have cavanaugh taylors and as we explained every mitzvah there's a maison here there is no myself it's a maisaver the kavanaugh makes it into a mitzvah without kavanagh it remains regular lush and horror so basically deeper of magic issa until you know that it's kavana the shem shamayam with all the preconditions even the cabana is not a hete as we learned from miriam if somebody asks you information about a yeshiva about a camp about a about anything if you know the information give it it's very painful that people don't give necessary information people can make shidduchim or people make wrong because people don't give information learn their lockers and respond accordingly those that learn are the best source of information you should know about was a wonderful source of information rav segal the two people that were the muslims allah knew how to talk and went to talk and talked so learn it and do what you have to do suffolk tayalas is mutter because it's deeper the shem tialis what whatever is muta make sure you tell the person why you're asking and he shouldn't get shouldn't get back to the person what you said so this one makes it easier to to give over information if someone asks you what do you say about someone you have to ask him is it to ellis otherwise you know how to answer and when you ask information you have to say i am asking for a purpose if you see that a child a talmud or a friend has a bad influence not only have to say something but f should legal if need be you have to actually amplify the problem blow it out of proportion but make sure that that friendship will not continue if you have criticism about a newspaper article that has a badashkafa by all means you're allowed to say what's necessary to prevent any future hazard someone asks you what do you say about my bargain and it's not a bargain so kalanov or khasuda if it's no longer nageya there's no taylor say don't say anything you know how to say it because there is no t ellis if you have to give up information don't do it in front of a family or co-workers or anybody who is not nageya but them hearing it is not a talent a child a talmud or an at home that has an outbreak even though we are very careful not to give muslim album but this is an a exceptional situation that the damage was under album and the rebbe or the parent has to recapture the authority or the ashkafa that was destroyed and whatever is needed the parent or the rebbe has to react accordingly of course try to explain the talmudim and the talmud who did the wrong why this was done it's always better to explain because the children are not mature enough to understand what your head is so once you explain it it's being it's justified even if it's done by robin if you see someone is sliding try to try to speak them directly but if he's not listening go to the rebbe go to the rub go to his parents if need be it's not snitching it's helping a someone has badashkafas other people she should be told not to listen to him or read his swarm whatever it may be if it's still negayam stam past history is not a justification you have to make avalanches and therefore don't ask someone who has had a previous run-in don't ask a sign spouse an ex-boss an ex-worker especially if one himself is a victim he shouldn't be the one that's passing on the information and as we explained the kavanagh is what defines if it's a mitzvah or not like hanoi here it's kavanaugh that defines if it's a heter or an islam and as we said a human emotion even the terrorists cannot see beyond his own bias so when it's not surprising that we say if someone has his own interests he can't give information not because he's a bad person he's a person and that's human emotion and therefore ask the right person and basically as we said the ragleno has to be the tilter ani i don't talk lash in hara unless it's a mitzvah and if someone asks you anything that you shouldn't answer tell them we don't talk about people and that will hopefully bring us the ula for the opportunity